+1 for toastmasters, it's where "I turned my _talent for talking_ into the skill of speaking", as skill comes with practice. The only thing I could add is do some club hopping as you want to be in a club that you feel nurtured in. Funnily enough one of my speeches was about my (then) newly discovered ADHD diagnosis (circa 2011).
Yes. Finding the right match is key. I think it's the same with finding the right coach or support group. Our Patron support group is amazing. The bonds that have formed between patrons is astounding. So much humor, kindness, compassion, and honesty.
Ah, I remember watching the laser demonstration at the Ontario Science Centre as a kid in the 80s, it's part of why I'd love to be able to go back in time and tell child me that I now have several lasers in my home.
Back when i was there a small Helium-Neon laser cost several hundred dollars. (Perhaps close to $1,000 in today's money.) A couple of years ago I bought a semiconductor laser, a toy really, less than two inches long, for 25 cents! From a bubble gum machine! And it produced laser light!
Great video Rick! My problem is the memory of being able to talk from memory or even point-form. I've never had the patience to rehearse a speech over and over, as my brain hates being bored from not absorbing the information to be able to repeat it back. I hate standing up in front of people, but as long as I don't have to make a speech, I can do it. Even when I tried to make a speech, the one we had to do every bloody year for English class in high school, for something I actually liked doing, hockey. Even then, I just couldn't rehearse enough to make it sound good without reading straight from my paper. That was JUST in front of the teacher, no other classmates. I'm always in awe of people like you, whom sure have their own anxieties about the experience each time, just make it seem effortless. More importantly though, that you had to get up there MANY, MANY, MANY times before then to get to this point. I honestly just don't have it in me to care to want to do this, at all. Even when was I forced to in school, I just wouldn't and fail out the speech section, every time. Having to do summer school, where they don't force you to do a speech and I passed =P Traditional school was(is?) not good for people like me at all, even when they 'tried', by putting me in a separate classroom, usually by myself with another teacher.
I lucked out and took my college COMM 101 class online in the early 2000s, and didn't have to give a speech on front of anyone. I only had to write speeches, presentations, etc. I left school, then went back a few years later, and ended up having to give speeches in English classes, and a presentation in an engineering class. Then, I got a job at which I occasionally had to present as a trainer, first to my work team, and then I had to fill in for my manager and introduce Office 365 to a bunch of employees at the university I worked at then. (My boss forgot he was going to be at a conference when he booked it.)
@@rickgreen4131 only when I managed to get over my self-consciousness. I've found two reliable ways for me to get past that feeling: either I'm very passionate about the topic, or I feel strongly the the information I'm presenting might really help someone in the audience. In short, when either novelty or empathy is my motivator. Speaking of novelty, I just discovered The Red Green Channel on my Roku TV! (Now I know what I've been missing!)
These tips are great! But honestly, the first one, that was my problem always, I was afraid to disappoint them, never really was afraid that people would laugh (that was often my intention anyways :D ), but the thought of disappointing them was paralyzing. What was helping for me (and is later in the video) - imagining it going well AND also imagining a plan what to do if I make a mistake (that way I usually didn't need to use it), and practice, practice, practice (at home for your family, friends, then for a smaller group, basically go on stage every week to get used to that feeling). Recording might help too, but the feeling being in front of a camera is somehow different than being on stage (but it can help to see where I am most nervous, where I need to work with my voice more etc.).
I understand that paralysis. I have it now when I'm making videos that are serious for people who are struggling. I think watching yourself on TV may actually make you more nervous because we all tend to be judgemental. We did a Patron webinar a few months ago with Dr. Roberto Olivardia about Body Dysmorophic Disorder, in which people think they, or a part of their face, is hideous, when it's not. Some end up getting plastic surgery, which is very successful, but they remain convinced they are ugly. Einstein wasn't a good looking guy but what he had to say was important. A separate thought: If you're doing comedy, having an unusual face, or an odd voice can become a trademark. I think of Kevin Hart, Sam Kinison, Michael Richards, Rodney Dangerfield, Phyllis Dilller...
Rick - i think your work in mental b health is astounding! I was diagnosed at 47, I didn't feel stimulants were right for me as I have big family health issues, plus I shared those, so coffee was my answer. Soon afterwards menopause, so many prentations & more often. I wanted ou to know how helpful you've been to my mental health improving drastically. A huge thank you as I've learned to channel my ADD/ADHD in more productive ways so it enhances my creativity. Thank you so much - you helped me as you have so many other
GREAT video! Excellent point here. I have noticed the nerves calm after the first few seconds of talking (or playing guitar) in front of folks, but I never thought it all out this thoroughly.
Thanks! In my videos I'm always trying to approach the topic from the point of view: "What would I have wanted to know about this? What would have saved me time, sweat, and tears, and shortened my learning curve?"
Ah, that's the question: Fear of failure. Fear of looking like a fool. (Not so much of a deterrent since I am a comedian) Unsure of their topic. Self-conscious about their appearance, voice, education, or lack of it. Bad experiences in elementary school Perfectionism Dyslexia Memory issues Social anxiety...
There is also a self preservation issue as a social animal - there are still places in the world where speaking freely and openly about certain things will have dire consequences.
I've noted that some celebrities: Rebel Wilson and Douglas Adams carried a piece of paper with them when they really need to remember something they want to say.
@@lcirocco That's so good. Because the interviewers always have a clipboard with all the questions they want to ask, why not have key points you want to bring up. After all, the interviewers and audience want to hear your best thoughts.
Hello Rick, did you once upload a video called "Do I have ADHD?" or similar that was very fast-paced with lot's of ADHD symptoms one could give themselves points for. It was hilarious and so relatable. It was my favorite video... I can't find it anymore, was it even from you? If yes and you would still like to share it, I would be so greatful! :)
It was under Rick's channel named "Totally ADD". I'm not sure if this is the same channel under a different name, or a new channel. (I think that the video you mentioned has been made private. I remember it fondly, it was funny and informative.)
Reframing from anxiety and fear to a rush and a thrill, I think this will be very helpful.
You can apply it to work and dating as well! Just a thought. (Lemme know how the dating goes. I'm married and so my wife says no dating for me.)
Mr. Green, even when you're being serious, I can't help but laugh.
Hmm. Was my fly open?
@@RickHasADHD, I didn't see.
@@RickHasADHD, any idea how I can find the Bill bobblehead?
+1 for toastmasters, it's where "I turned my _talent for talking_ into the skill of speaking", as skill comes with practice.
The only thing I could add is do some club hopping as you want to be in a club that you feel nurtured in.
Funnily enough one of my speeches was about my (then) newly discovered ADHD diagnosis (circa 2011).
Yes. Finding the right match is key. I think it's the same with finding the right coach or support group.
Our Patron support group is amazing. The bonds that have formed between patrons is astounding. So much humor, kindness, compassion, and honesty.
@@rickgreen4131 ok having a look now ... so many channels, so little time ...
Ah, I remember watching the laser demonstration at the Ontario Science Centre as a kid in the 80s, it's part of why I'd love to be able to go back in time and tell child me that I now have several lasers in my home.
Back when i was there a small Helium-Neon laser cost several hundred dollars. (Perhaps close to $1,000 in today's money.) A couple of years ago I bought a semiconductor laser, a toy really, less than two inches long, for 25 cents! From a bubble gum machine! And it produced laser light!
Great video Rick! My problem is the memory of being able to talk from memory or even point-form. I've never had the patience to rehearse a speech over and over, as my brain hates being bored from not absorbing the information to be able to repeat it back. I hate standing up in front of people, but as long as I don't have to make a speech, I can do it. Even when I tried to make a speech, the one we had to do every bloody year for English class in high school, for something I actually liked doing, hockey. Even then, I just couldn't rehearse enough to make it sound good without reading straight from my paper. That was JUST in front of the teacher, no other classmates.
I'm always in awe of people like you, whom sure have their own anxieties about the experience each time, just make it seem effortless. More importantly though, that you had to get up there MANY, MANY, MANY times before then to get to this point. I honestly just don't have it in me to care to want to do this, at all. Even when was I forced to in school, I just wouldn't and fail out the speech section, every time. Having to do summer school, where they don't force you to do a speech and I passed =P Traditional school was(is?) not good for people like me at all, even when they 'tried', by putting me in a separate classroom, usually by myself with another teacher.
If you don't have to do it, then don't! If it makes you anxious, avoid it.
I lucked out and took my college COMM 101 class online in the early 2000s, and didn't have to give a speech on front of anyone. I only had to write speeches, presentations, etc.
I left school, then went back a few years later, and ended up having to give speeches in English classes, and a presentation in an engineering class. Then, I got a job at which I occasionally had to present as a trainer, first to my work team, and then I had to fill in for my manager and introduce Office 365 to a bunch of employees at the university I worked at then. (My boss forgot he was going to be at a conference when he booked it.)
Did you enjoy presenting training to groups once you started doing it?
@@rickgreen4131 only when I managed to get over my self-consciousness. I've found two reliable ways for me to get past that feeling: either I'm very passionate about the topic, or I feel strongly the the information I'm presenting might really help someone in the audience. In short, when either novelty or empathy is my motivator.
Speaking of novelty, I just discovered The Red Green Channel on my Roku TV! (Now I know what I've been missing!)
These tips are great! But honestly, the first one, that was my problem always, I was afraid to disappoint them, never really was afraid that people would laugh (that was often my intention anyways :D ), but the thought of disappointing them was paralyzing. What was helping for me (and is later in the video) - imagining it going well AND also imagining a plan what to do if I make a mistake (that way I usually didn't need to use it), and practice, practice, practice (at home for your family, friends, then for a smaller group, basically go on stage every week to get used to that feeling). Recording might help too, but the feeling being in front of a camera is somehow different than being on stage (but it can help to see where I am most nervous, where I need to work with my voice more etc.).
I understand that paralysis. I have it now when I'm making videos that are serious for people who are struggling.
I think watching yourself on TV may actually make you more nervous because we all tend to be judgemental. We did a Patron webinar a few months ago with Dr. Roberto Olivardia about Body Dysmorophic Disorder, in which people think they, or a part of their face, is hideous, when it's not. Some end up getting plastic surgery, which is very successful, but they remain convinced they are ugly. Einstein wasn't a good looking guy but what he had to say was important.
A separate thought: If you're doing comedy, having an unusual face, or an odd voice can become a trademark. I think of Kevin Hart, Sam Kinison, Michael Richards, Rodney Dangerfield, Phyllis Dilller...
Rick - i think your work in mental b health is astounding! I was diagnosed at 47, I didn't feel stimulants were right for me as I have big family health issues, plus I shared those, so coffee was my answer. Soon afterwards menopause, so many prentations & more often. I wanted ou to know how helpful you've been to my mental health improving drastically. A huge thank you as I've learned to channel my ADD/ADHD in more productive ways so it enhances my creativity.
Thank you so much - you helped me as you have so many other
GREAT video! Excellent point here. I have noticed the nerves calm after the first few seconds of talking (or playing guitar) in front of folks, but I never thought it all out this thoroughly.
I like your voice! And your facial expressions! You're so zany.
I am? I had no idea! No wonder people have been laughing at me.
Really good info! So helpful!
Thanks! In my videos I'm always trying to approach the topic from the point of view: "What would I have wanted to know about this? What would have saved me time, sweat, and tears, and shortened my learning curve?"
Remains the question, why do so many people have this fear, anxiety?
Ah, that's the question:
Fear of failure.
Fear of looking like a fool. (Not so much of a deterrent since I am a comedian)
Unsure of their topic.
Self-conscious about their appearance, voice, education, or lack of it.
Bad experiences in elementary school
Perfectionism
Dyslexia
Memory issues
Social anxiety...
There is also a self preservation issue as a social animal - there are still places in the world where speaking freely and openly about certain things will have dire consequences.
@@lcirocco That's so true, Lui.
Heck, speaking openly at a family gathering or work can backfire as well.
GREAT!
GLAD!
Really useful tips and helpful examples. And always entertaining 😆
You're the best thanks Rick ❤
Great video Rick!!!!
I always found it stressful. Scatterbrain, horribly forgetful and mood sensitive
Hopefully you don't have to speak in public. And if you do, I hope some of these are helpful.
I've noted that some celebrities: Rebel Wilson and Douglas Adams carried a piece of paper with them when they really need to remember something they want to say.
@@lcirocco That's so good. Because the interviewers always have a clipboard with all the questions they want to ask, why not have key points you want to bring up. After all, the interviewers and audience want to hear your best thoughts.
Hello Rick, did you once upload a video called "Do I have ADHD?" or similar that was very fast-paced with lot's of ADHD symptoms one could give themselves points for. It was hilarious and so relatable. It was my favorite video... I can't find it anymore, was it even from you? If yes and you would still like to share it, I would be so greatful! :)
It was under Rick's channel named "Totally ADD". I'm not sure if this is the same channel under a different name, or a new channel. (I think that the video you mentioned has been made private. I remember it fondly, it was funny and informative.)
It is not up at the moment. But it will return eventually.
@@RickHasADHD please make it public again, it was truly a masterpiece!