You Need To Stop Waking Up Tilted
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2024
- Today's discussion revolves around strategies to prevent waking up on the wrong side of the bed. Starting the day feeling off can significantly impact your daily rhythm. We'll delve into effective techniques aimed at improving your behavior and sleep patterns to shake off that morning funk.
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Join us as we explore practical tips to reset your morning routine, fostering a better start to your day. We'll focus on behavioral adjustments and sleep-related strategies to alleviate and release that lingering sense of unease upon waking.
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00:08 - Waking up tilted sucks
01:27 - Starting with emotions
02:52 - When we experience negative emotion
04:35 - Why are we waking up tilted now?
07:40 - Sleeping and Dreaming
11:14 - We do not dream enough
13:50 - How we stop waking up tilted
15:46 - Process emotions before bed
17:03 - Technology will suppress your emotions
18:00 - Dream more
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I did a minor in 'brain and behavior' and I had to write an essay about 'the art of doing nothing'. Turns out that as long as you keep your brain busy with cognitive things like watching a movie, ruminating, doing a math exam indeed nothing gets processed because your brains capacity is full. As soon as you start to do nothing or at least something that doesn't take much brainspace (daydreaming, walking, crochet, drawing, cooking) your 'archiving brain' can do it's thing. It's gonna process the memories and experiences of the day, put them in the right drawers and filing cabinets or discard them if they're useless. So impressive things like getting an A might stick, but some kid sneezing in class can be forgotten. As long as you keep your brain busy (TikTok, CZcams, Netflix), it can't start archiving. As soon as you stop engaging your brain it can start to work itself out and decompress.
So even when people are in public transport thinking they're relaxing on their phone and getting home from work, they're actually filling up their already tired brain with even more crap. It's better just to stare out the window for 20 minutes and let your brain process the day, even though it feels like it's not doing anything, because it definitely is!
1 - Sleep more
2 - unwind your emotions: Do reverse analysis of emotions before sleep
3 - Do something for 15 minutes before picking technology
4 - Dream more: Pay more attention to something that makes you dream more
Thank you, maybe I can unmask again...
Drinking alcohol makes me dream more 😂
@@pirminkunz3577 that’s interesting. Does it make you sleep more than usual? When I smoked weed ppl said it helped them sleep but it made my sleep way worse
chad
@@DreamDear hey man. Hmm anecdotally I'd say i sleep less long. I usually sleep ~10 hours of trash sleep daily 😅 but after a drink or two i sometimes wake up unusually early and pretty rested. I know people and science say, the sleep should be worse after drinking, but it relaxes me and i fwel better rested than sober.
Man, i am a psychologist and i wish i had been taught stuff like this in college. It's ridiculous how unprepared we leave college and we are supposed to handle all kinds of patients. Thanks, dr. K.
Brazilian right? I feel you bro. Same here.
I really appreciate your transparency.
Please renounce your license then
To the guy directly above,
This research hasn't been fully understood very long. Some of the best research done in this area was performed by Dr. Hobson of Harvard Med and some of his papers didn't get published until like, the early 2000s.
So if this gentleman got his license before that or relatively soon after to where it was presented in the curriculum, then he gets a pass.
At least he his still willing to learn and adapt- something I'm willing to bet you don't do a lot of yourself.
@@kryogenic4457very well said, the last part is so accurate. So many people are willing to talk down peoples past because they don't change themselves
9:07 "The emotions we feel when we dream are real"
This quote makes me remember once of the roughest dreams I had, I got shot in the head in it. I woke up immediately sweating and streaming tears, and had to take a short moment to realize I was still alive. While the experience in the dream was mostly negative, it had a overwhelming positive impact on my psyche. I used to think life wasn't worth living, I still struggle to find meaning in it, but when my body was faced with the fear of death for just that short moment it made me realize just how much I don't want to die. Changed my whole perspective.
Damn. What a Chad dream experience.
That's so scary, I've fitnessed something similar and jerked awake. I'm glad it was a literal wake up call for you though :D take care
I had a similar experience. I dreamed I was in a plane crash, and my last thought was "no..." I woke up and felt so grateful it wasn't real, and I get to keep going.
I was already in a vastly improved mental state when I had this dream, but whenever I start to feel hopeless, I use that dream to remind myself that I want to live.
shii, guess thats why i never remember my dreams
Seems like you've been reborn! How poetic!
My issue is when I wake up I just want to lay in bed for like 2 hours. I just don't want to get started. Just bury my head in the pillows and do nothing.
Get a sleep mask and some ear plugs. Way better than burying your head in pillows! 😅
Stop it
Having a job that you don't hate goes such a long way to happiness. Getting enough sleep is so helpful too.
True
Very true. I thought I was just lazy and hated work until I went into business for myself power washing. So much more fulfilling as someone struggling with persistent depression. It's hard but worth it.
Did you listen to the video at all? 😂
Can we all take a minute to fucking admire this dude like look at this man, how many dudes have been inspired by this guy to start therapy, meditation or other good mental health habits, etc? I mean look at the positive impact that this guy has made in the world. Let's also admire the Internet that allows for this sh*t, I know it also has downsides but look at this.
thank you bojack
Thank you bojack.
Seems that I've got brand-new attitude!
@@faithless1337the is so amazing, my boyfriend showed me his videos and this channel is really a breath of fresh air. Now I watch him even more than my bf does😂
Truth!!!!! The internet is an incredible resource for learning and growth, and Dr K is one awesome facet of that incredibleness.
One thing I can recommend anyone is to get yourself a musical instrument, preferably something like a guitar or piano that requires finger dexterity. It will help you not only with emotional processing, but also you'll connect with your favourite music, and let me tell you, music is very strong emotional release. It can also help you express the emotions you probably can't get out through words, and I've found that it really helps a lot.
I used to be a high school teacher - the job stressed me out so much that most days, I would wake up at 5:30am and immediately have to try and fight back a panic attack. It got to the point where I so dreaded waking up and going into the school that I forced myself to drink coffee/red bull late at night in order to chemically prevent myself from going to sleep (and obviously, that just made the next day worse).
I didn't realize how big of a role sleep played in worsening that whole experience until after I quit and finally had the space to reflect on it. Don't neglect your rest, everybody.
I'm proud of you for prioritizing your well being! I graduated with a degree in education but ended up not going into the field. My student teaching experience was the most stressful time of my life. I was placed in a high school art classroom and my elderly mentor teacher was unbelievably cruel to our students - there wasn't much I could do about it. I would also wake up early in the morning feeling incredibly anxious and depressed. When it was finally over, it felt like a storm in my brain dissipated and I felt normal again for the first time in months.
I second what you said, everybody please don't neglect your needs and listen to your body!
Omg I'm also a hs teacher and have exactly the same experience, waking up early and the panic attack. I still tell my self that is not my job but I know it is
As a high school student I'm sorry you had that experience
Those lil rascals keep giving you trouble right? There is no respect to teachers anymore. We have leveled everything down like nihilists
Waking up in a rush sucks. I love to have time to do something before I take care of responsibilities like school or work
yea i need at least 4 hours before i leave to go somewhere because i have adhd and struggle to do things in a timely fashion so it takes me 2x as slong as anyone else to do something basic
Picking the clothes down to the underwear and shoes the day before, helps a lot with morning brain. I think I save like 10 or 15 minutes of zombie walk in front of my closet 😅
@@animeloveer97Luckily I don't need as much time but people always look at me weirdly when I tell them I want to set an alarm about 60-90 minutes before I leave home (and usually I eat breakfast on the way or at work despite it).
However I've also found that there is literally no amount of time in the morning that would ever make it feel like enough for me.
I don’t need to do anything but I always need a few hours to at least sit there alone for a while and take inventory of my biological needs then address them
I feel so seen right now, I'm surprised none of the therapists I've seen throughout my life have ever brought this up, because it's been a consistent issue for me for years.
The only time where it's been brought up is like, last month when I went to a cardiologist for my new stress-induced chest pains and he was like "ok we're gonna study your sleep, organise yourself for a 2 days stay". This cardiologist also happens to be specialised in ADHD and Autism amomg other things, which was a very good surprise for me since i'm Autistic with severe social anxiety and depression as comorbidities. It feels like my body has been on High Alert mode for so long, I don't even know how it feels to be well-rested and peaceful.
Edit: it's interesting because whenever I feel overwhelmed, I start going on what I call a "cleaning rampage" to have a spotless and orderly home. It's always been treated as slacking off and avoiding my responsibilities, so I thought it was me being demand avoidant (especially since I don't do well with expectations, I just want people to leave me be), but now that you're saying that, it does seem like a way for me to process my emotions through a physical activity. When I am with my family's dog, I also tend to take him on walks whenever I need to think at my own pace, because the action of walkong itself helps me (so I might as well use the dog as an excuse, he gets a supplementary walk out of it)
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 😴 Waking up tilted (angry or negative) affects productivity, mental health, and overall well-being.
02:11 😔 Clinical depression can cause early morning Awakening, where individuals wake up with negative emotions.
04:44 📱 Modern technology, like smartphones, suppresses emotions by distracting us, leading to an accumulation of negative emotions.
07:50 💤 Lack of sufficient sleep, especially REM sleep, hinders emotional processing and leads to waking up tilted.
13:52 🌙 Sleeping more, avoiding substances that interfere with REM sleep, and processing emotions before bed can help reduce waking up tilted.
16:24 🚶 Engaging in rote activities for 15 minutes before using technology can help process emotions rather than suppressing them.
18:45 💭 Paying attention to factors that promote dreaming, such as better sleep quality and reducing stress, can lead to less waking up tilted.
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With magnum PI
Thank you 🙏
@@tuukka1827 ?
Thank you ! would go directly into my note
This explains why I get better sleep when I journal before bed. Writing down the processing of my emotions is heavy, but helps with reviewing the stressors of the day/week and getting them out of my head.
The thing about needlework being used to process emotions resonate with me. Any time in my life where I've felt really devastated or sad I would play really grindy video games. The balance of something being engaging but the action not being demanding leaves you with headspace and flow to think and separate yourself from the situation you are in, so you can look at it in a constructive way. It's dissociative but in a helpful way.
I just had a much easier nap in a recap episode of initial d with loud music lol than if id lied down to nap specifically
ah that explains howi spend 700hrs shiny hunting in like one year in 2018
It works differently for everyone. Rehabilitation and not retribution against genuinely good but broken people stops the regression.
To the mean.
what do you mean by grindy? Does dota works like that? I bet no. Because it overanalysing games
Only gamers will understand
I want to have realistic nightmares so I wake up feeling grateful it was just a dream
The healthiest period in my life ever was during the pandemic; no drinking, no smoking, no sleeping in (woke up at 8am every day) and yoga & meditation every morning. No videogames/phone usage before I finished all my tasks (including studying) and had finished my workout, this all usually took me about 4-6 hours, unless I had to work. Seems to correlate well with having a morning activity, lots of physical activities to process and enough time without technology. When I finished at 2pm I had so much spare time left and felt 1000x better than I do now. Ah, I actually miss that period already, so serene and quiet.
How does this keep happening LMAOOOO Everytime there's a problem I've been kiving with/thinking about, a fitting video gets posted. I've been waking up feeling absolutely exhausted (no matter if I'd slept for 3, 8 or 12 hours) for months now. Hopefully this is actually fixable without going to a doctor again...
Because these are common problems
He is unraveling the conditions of the modern condition one step at a time in the order of the obstacles it presents, from surface level to fundamental. He is learning alongside the community where and how people fail and how to improve their lives, and well, people are not as unique as they think they are on a larger scale within a shared culture, so it makes sense to me that every time a problem is solved, another less considered problem can arise and become the common focus as the community moves on from the last problem in unison. I think many people share the same shitty situations and the steps to happiness and health is similar, as is the ordered path there. That's why it speaks to you, is my theory anyway. But I do agree, the timing has been uncanny.
I think DR K is actually predicting the zeitgeist... that or it's a synchronicity (as in, we noticed this, because it was relevant), OR the recommendation system on CZcams has enough parameters to understand your mental state intimately. Maybe all 3?
Sorry for saying this, esp. if you tried it already, but for me, what helped was actually sleeping in sleep cycles. I either sleep 7h 30m or 9h, if I can afford the latter. Makes a ton of a difference for me, even with my ADHD and never waking up refreshed like people apparently do :')
For the past few years I've been having these horrible dreams that actually affect my mental state for the entire rest of the afternoon. I don't know why it had such a profound impact on my waking emotions
Actually happened to me this morning for the first time in a long time. Woke up unreasonably mad at someone for something they didn't even do in the waking world. 😂
THIS. AND NO ONE TO TALK ABOUT THEM WITH
When I was in high school I had so many dreams where I was killed by monsters. I am so proud that I have conquered the dream.
I can now use my dreams to have the ultimate waifu experience.
My dreams almost always involve me being chased down or murdered 😐
Are you stressed by any chance? When I used to be stressed out with EVERYTHING I had the worst dreams.
When you've been traumatized as a kid and surrounded by negative and violent people, waking up tilted is a norm for me.
Thank you for all the likes and support. Wow 😢
cuz you gotta fight, i feel you g
My mom had borderline personality disorder and used to wake me up by screaming at me for something. It to a psychiatrist to point out why I always wake up incredibly stressed.
Had to make a morning routine that taught my body and mind to relax. It’s worked well so far.
dude, you're making a great effort to help yourself by just watching this video. i genuinely believe you can get better
Hugs
I'm sorry Arthur 😢❤
I woke up extra tilted today. Been having a really bad job hunt. Probably gonna have to go back to a minimum wage job even though I have a degree and decade of experience moving up at a previous minimum wage job. Deep resentment is building up in me.
Also dr k is right about dreams. Stopping weed (even during the day) brought back my dreams. Makes a big difference
I don’t have any advice but just wanted to say you’re not alone. I went back to school and got my computer science degree last September and have had one interview since. I was feeling great leading up to graduation because I was excited about the prospect of no longer having to work in retail, but I’m having to accept that I might be heading back there for the time being.
Yeah, sounds like reality all right, man. No escape. Waste of all our goddamn time
@@nothanks9174How difficult where the studies? Im planning to go into them or something related to network technology
i t hink the weed thing varies, when i was still smoking weed i had super vivid dreams but i also have adhd so weed slghtly affects me diffrent than normal folks
@@nothanks9174sorry but current market is to graduate yesterday and have 10 years experience, business don't wanna train people and then complain that they don't have people in roles
Ive been waking up tilted and/or depressed for the majority of my life. Looking forward to watching this one.
Edit: Both happy and worried to see so many people relating to this one...
I've been waking up like that due to a digestive problem, in treatment atm
@@tavoroda7916 good luck man, hope it gets better for you
SAME.
@@jty1999 for u too bro, hope it all gets better o/
you need to stop it!
No way you upload this now, I have been working tirelessly to fix this crippling problem for WEEKS, perfect timing.
I wake up almost every morning like this, so anxious that I'm nauseous - I never knew how many other folks experienced it and how it could be explained. Everyone I ever spoke with about it always seemed completely lost on what to tell me. Great vid and thank you! :)
bro same and also id get like the shits too because it would be so abd... it was like i was dying, im not so bad with anxiety now but sometimes the stress just randomly comes back and the anxiety skyrockest because yes? lol it sucks but i think the more we work on these things the easier and less frequent they come back so heres to hoping for a better future and alot less nausea...
The nausea amps it up.
I've always loved to feel the patterns in music, each instrument's patterns and how they sync. Not only you do that wonderfully while having the clearest 'bit-styled sounds' i've ever heard, but the visual aspect added a whole new layer of satistaction to me
Since I started crocheting, my mental health /emotional processing ability is improving constantly. It's nice to have a healthy way to cope and being productive at the same time.
Crochet is fun.
My coping meditation thing is journaling on my computer. Typing and organizing my thoughts is very therapeutic and helps me come up with solutions better
The dream stuff is one of my favorite unintended consequences of learning how to draw with pen and practicing daily. My dreams are just so much more vivid and I can remember more details and I am actually sleeping more restfully.
That's so interesting. Makes me want to learn to draw even more.
Brilliant, thank you for the idea.
I find when I'm really into a game and playing it a lot (more than probably what is healthy lol) I dream more, and dream about the game lol.
wow I didn't even correlate how much more intense my dreams were after my nightly drawing practice...
This was really helpful- my sleep quality & willful sleep deprivation has been contributing to my mental/social health taking a whopping nose dive, and have felt that I am less productive with a worse attitude. When I am well rested, and do some sort of work/body movement, I have a great day
The first 40 seconds of this almost made me cry because it described with such insane precision how I've felt nearly every morning for years now...
Very good timing with this one. I've been struggling to wake up well for a while now.
bro i really love your content. The value you give us for free is just immeasurable.
really hope Dr K sees this, exactly my thoughts lol
I third it. I only found the good dr. a couple of weeks ago, and have been bingeing since the miracle of YT suggested him to me. I hang on every word, and enjoy his presentation. I'm an oldster here (75), but have been interested in psychology since my teens. He gives me so much to chew on, and updates things I thought I'd learned through the years.
GETTING THESE VIDEOS AT THE RIGHT TIME IN MY LIFE IS A GIFT.
THANK YOU.
7:00 Wow I didn’t realize that distracting myself like this suppresses those negative emotions. I ended up conditioning myself to bury those emotions instead of feeling and processing them properly. It makes sense why I’ve been so stressed out dreaming and waking up, compared to when I first let everything out.
Just curious, when did you start doing it
@@spectrum910 is it the burying emotions part? because tbh i bottle up my emotions a lot in varying situations so i can't really pinpoint a time. it tends to be bad when i feel like i can't express my emotions comfortably out of fear or because i think i can handle it alone.
Yeah, burying the emotions part.
Personally i think i started doing it as a child and now I'm facing the consequences of numbness and multitude of issues.
@@spectrum910 ah i see. yeah stuff we go through as a child impacts us a lot as we grow older, but it can still be helped. for me, a lot of the consequences (i.e. insecure attachment style) show up in my romantic relationships and sometimes my close platonic relationships. if i feel unsure on how to express my feelings i either journal it out or confide in someone i trust like a really close friend or my therapist. it sucks because i'm either doing fine or poorly but healing isn't linear.
Being at a multiple a little less than 2 of Dr. K's age, I grew up in the country in a family that was making the transition from 19th-century style farming to modern mechanized farming. When we had to do hard physical work most of the day every day, nobody was depressed. When we moved off the farm to become lawyers and doctors and engineers and writers, all of us had serious issues with depression.
I used to have tremendous morning anxiety & if I dreamed I didn’t remember them.
It’s taken a few years of personal trauma work, mindfulness, meditation and learning to be aware, sit with (rather than fight, shame or distract) my emotions.
The difference is incredible & I wouldn’t have believed it if anyone had told me it was possible.
And ps: I removed myself from toxic relationships & with all the above worked on my own maladaptive traits.
It’s totally possible y’all 💪🤩💓🙏
I think you just made me realize what was issue for one of my biggest problem that literally ruining my life, I was addicted to weed , witch actually cost my job , many things I’am really happy that I found you’re CZcams channel
Wow!!! This literally explains the last 8 years of my sleep life. Thank you so much for this information!
As a knitter that is cleaning his past traumas I can attest to this. Knitting helps to discern patterns from just a thread. Is meditation like tracing patterns for a garment. Blessings
Knitting is underrated
Gonna get my WIP now.
Good advice. It's hard to see the problems we create for ourselves when they're apart of a "normal" daily routine
*a part of
This isn't actually a common issue for me anymore, but boy oh boy was the timing of you releasing this video spot on for me! I woke up today soooo pissed off. I was up two hours earlier than normal because of it.
Part of that is straight up my ADHD and PMDD symptoms, which I only have so much control over, but watching this video was helpful because it allowed me to analyze deeper some unhealthy habits I've already been noticing getting worse lately, like daily cannabis use and nightly melatonin...on top of my anxiety medication...so probably all that can be dialed back and in combination with sitting more in my (often very overwhelming) emotions I'll likely start feeling better instead of worse.
Thank you for this @HealthyGamerGG!
Yes 1000% this is it. Emotions Focused Therapy is helping me a lot! As well, my dreams are always me processing my emotions from earlier in the day.
6:02 OMG I was just thinking about how the most stress relieving thing I can do is sew! Right before you said it, that is my natural response for if I have to do some heavy thinking! It just makes everything feel so much lighter especially if you make something like a little cute toy, or embroidery that’s something you can get artistic with it and spice something up, it brings me comfort, joy, a warmth every time I look at it after because I remember how relieving it was :D
I’m so glad you said this! 🎉
Luckily, ChatGPT is good at explaining what "waking up tilted" actually means. I never heared that phrase before i read this video's title.
"Waking up tilted" is a colloquial expression that typically means waking up feeling disoriented, off-balance, or in a negative emotional state. It's often used to describe a situation where someone begins their day feeling a bit off-kilter or unsettled, whether due to a bad mood, confusion, or a sense that things aren't quite right.
There's also "Waking up on the wrong side of bed"
Maybe this will help explain further. Tilted is a term used in poker where someone gets entirely invested in the game, lose a hand/ton of money and are reacting emotionally by chasing the money with further hands, even if they may not be best. Basically, upset you've lost.
Also suppose if one got angry at a pinball machine and cheated by tilting the machine that could fit too. 😂
@@minupakumarasinghe3446Yep, that's a phrase i know.
I came from spotify and I was wasing our dishes from dinner when this came on.
After i finished wasing our dishes and this episode
I downloaded 2 mood trackers and set up alarms to help me regulate my feelings and emotions.
Thank you Dr. K for making me aware and belated HAPPY 2024 🎉
Absolutely love this ... last few years I have been researching and trying to figure out my brain and emotions and this is the best summary of 3 years of info in 20 min! Thank you so much
A few years ago my friends told me about lucid dreaming, and I was like "oh cool you can fly?? I wanna try too".
At that point in my life I rarely remembered my dreams, and even when I did it would be bits and pieces of them.
I started telling them every morning what dreams I remembered, and doing all those reality checks, and slowly I started remembering my dreams.
That's when I realised my dreams are REALLY disturbing.
Most of my dreams included me getting physically hurt, or other people around me getting hurt, or me hurting others. In a lot of them I felt fear, and guilt, and shame, and anger. Which I guess explains why I alway woke up angry. Remembering my dreams really bothered me in my day-to-day life. I was still in middle school back then, and it's really hard going about your day when you're a kid and you just dreamt you died a horrible death and then saw your own decaying corpse.
There was a day on a weekend I remembered 11 different dreams. I started telling my friends like every morning and then I remembered another one, and another, and another. And I reached my breaking point. I didn't even manage to actually lucid dream yet, but I decided that I can't keep remembering my dreams like that because of how distracting they were.
So since then I'm making a conscious effort to not remember my dreams, in a sense that even when I do remember something I don't tell anyone, don't write it, don't think about it. Which pretty much works - I don't remember my dreams, I only know I have nightmares because I remember waking up from them. I also try to avoid as much as I can triggering content with a lot of violence and blood and stuff.
I'm trying to find a therapist rn because I still can't sleep well, and I know I can't just ignore my dreams forever. I never considered making myself dream MORE might help. Although I started remembering my dreams again this past week and I've been way more tired than normal, so I don't know.
Just came here to let you know I read your whole comment, and I'm glad you avoid triggering with violence. I do the same when I noticed a correlation of the two and it definitely helps me.
Even reading the news can be triggering for me so that means I'm not up to date with world news but I've made my peace with it and try not to care much about what others think about it
This couldn't have come at a better time. I've been waking up pissed for some time now. It's 22:45 and I'm chugging a Monster. when Dr. K mentioned texting in the middle of the night I understood, because I was awake at 4 am having lots of thoughts running through my mind, texting people. Everything he's been talking about fits so well into my current situation. I need change my sleeping routine and sleep more.
Yeah why would you drink a monster so late 😅
Every single video I watch from you teaches me so much. I cannot believe that no one else makes these connections. It makes so much sense!
This was stellar. I have no clue how much I'll retain and integrate, but thank heavens
This is a very interesting study on sleep. I usually find myself feeling tilted or rather dissapointed for sleeping too much (waking up after 9am). I usually wake up early in the morning (5am) and pick up my usual schedule throughout the day. I find interesting because I (almost) never dream - or if I do, I clearly do not remember those dreams. I have a very specific schedule throughout the day (gym, physical exercises, reading, work) and sometimes I reflect to what I have been doing in the past couple of days. Whenever emotions bundle up I think about them for a short period of time but in general I do not really care on the long term about them because there is nothing I can do but improve myself for the better (usually processing negative emotions by saying 'whatever', 'it's not worth explaining to anyone', 'this is how some people are' etc.). There is one thing I have observed in the past months: during the days in which I'm phisically exhausted I do not have time to process emotions and usually negative emotions just dissapear or are less relevant than in the days in which I'm spending a good amount of time sitting at a desk. I realise that most of the time I'm putting a lot of pressure on my mind and body and this could affect my sleep but this is a vicious cycle from which I don't think I can get out of (frankly, I do not think I want to get out of).
Overall a very good piece of information on sleep. Thanks Dr. K!
I relate to you... I too don't spend much time or attention in processing negative emotions or feelings
One great way to capitalize on negative energy in the morning is to work out right after getting out of bed. I know this sounds simpler than it is, but really, being in a bad mood in the morning is so much easier to deal with when you have a physical valve
Nothing would make me want to go on a killing spree more, than doing my workout first thing. However... murder can also be a physical valve, so... lol.
@@theshadylady1982 Well ideally you release all of that murderous energy while pumping those irons 🙂
I absolutely love this video! I am in a transitional period in my life and my sleep quality has definitely taken a turn. I’m excited to try some of things recommended and see if it helps, as well as share with friends and family. We all could benefit from better rest
I always learn something new with your videos, and feel better after watching! Thanks for this one 😊
Y'know, this video made me realize I used to be very angry, but I got a lateral promotion into dog grooming and now that busy hand work actually has given me a lot more time to process emotion and I've been sleeping better too
I've always preferred physical labour jobs and that's probably part of why. I sleep so much better when I'm working hard using my body. Unfortunately as a 5'3 white woman I tend to get type-cast for "girly" jobs like reception or cashier work and get frowned at a lot in interviews for things like factory, construction, or warehouse positions so I don't even get a chance to try to prove myself.
@@tira2993 If you enjoy being a construction worker etc., then chase your dreams! Don't let some weird social construct keep you away from being happy. But remember to keep in mind that your body is your temple and don't ruin it
Gardening has helped me process too. When I'm busy with the routine parts like watering my plants or pruning herbs, my mind can just wander through any unfinished business in there and lead to much deeper thoughts than if I was just sitting on my couch. there is a lot of evidence to suggest that doing stuff with your hands is a reliable way to enter flow states.
I never had a problem until the pandamic. I'm a hairdresser, sole- proprietor thirty five years, and we weren't allowed to work. Not only was it my livelihood and only source of income but I needed the handwork in a creative way.
I'm also in a different stage in life.Being that I turned fifty-five this year , So, i don't have near the responsibilities / obligations i've had in the past. So mainly now it's become discipline issue, Sure, I could get up and make a pot of coffee and watch CZcams.And maybe even make a huge breakfast at 2 AM.But I know it's not healthy. . . Sometimes I still do it on a workday because I want to and I can. . . . 😂
When I have a lot of negative emotions I know for a fact I do a lot of cleaning in my flat, and it helps me really well to process the emotions I get + I get some dopamine with the result of a clean room. Often it's just the small things like doing the dishes(we live 2 in the flat) or dusting off shelves. I've never thought about it in historical terms like Dr. K explains it.
This was one of the most fascinating videos in terms of learning new information and making sense of things. Thank you so much!
I just love this channel. It feels like I've got a very wise friend in the room with me. This adhd medication is strong.
Interestingly, some of this fits pretty well with my experiences, and some kind of doesn't. I sleep probably enough hours, but usually not in one big chunk (I often sleep in about 3 or so sessions a day, but it's not very consistent), and dream quite often; but also the biggest correlation with me waking up tilted is having a negative dream (which also happens pretty regularly, but by no means exclusively, I do have a lot of good dreams too). So it doesn't really feel like dreaming a lot is all that helpful in processing and getting over my emotional issues (unless it IS being helpful and without it I would just be way more of a mess than I thought).
I don't usually have nightmares or anxiety dreams, but I have TONS of dreams that are just filled with annoyances, frustrations, disappointments, and everything just going inconveniently wrong no matter how hard I try to deal with it (things like dreams where I want to eat something or play a game or go somewhere and little interruptions and contrivances just keep getting in the way and I never achieve anything I aim for). And these types of dreams pretty much inevitably lead to me waking up in a horrible mood and already irritated with life.
It's probably also worth noting that my depression tends to manifest in a similar way, I get unreasonably annoyed with minor things and extremely fatalistic about anything good really ever happening in life, regardless of what I do about it (actually there's a sketch from the show 'A bit of Fry and Laurie' called 'The futility of making a salad' that is a real good example of how my depressive episodes and frustration dreams tend to go. On a related note, I can't recommend that show enough, it's one of the best sketch shows of all time imo, even if that particular sketch sometimes hits a little too close to home to feel all that funny to me).
I used to be devastated waking up every morning. Getting out of bed and getting dressed during that period was one of the hardest things i ever had to do. But I was getting lack of sleep because I'd procrastinate falling asleep - as soon as i went to sleep, in a blink it would be that next horrible morning.
I just know that this video will be helpful. This is clear and simple, well put, you really blend well many approaches. Thank you 🙂
Thankyou for this video, everything makes so much sense now
Had severe sleep apnoea. Went 10 years without dreaming because I was incapable of having REM sleep for more than a few seconds at a time.
What did you do against it?
Cymbalta robbed me of REM sleep. It was awful.
@@csn-audio Tried CPAP, then had my face reconstructed with a bimaxillary osteotomy.
I have sleep apnea as well, I cannot recall any of my dreams for the past 5 years or more, and I'm doubting if I even dream. This helps, what problem did you have that caused your apnea? I have a septum deviation and recently a friend who is a nurse told me it could also be due to tonsils which I still have at 30.
@@johndoe8091 Overweight. :-/ CPAP makes all the difference for me. Without adequate sleep, I can’t deal with exercise. Starting to make progress now.
welp... I came in for the wrong video. I keep waking up at weird angles. Go to bed with normal posture, wake up halfway on the wall...
The man lives on the moon
I had the same problem. Actually bought a maternity pillow that goes on both sides. That fixed the problem. Back and neck no longer hurt.
Hopefully over time my body will get used to this and I won’t need the pillow.
This is exactly what i tell people often.
I am amazed that you say the exact same thing!!
Maybe i already watched so many videos of yours :3 ❤
Like 15 minutes of doing something but not watching on the phone or news to not make yourself a slave to what is entering your unconscious easily right after sleep.
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I love you so much dr. K. Thanks for existing and caring for us!!!
I wake up tilted 98% of the time.
It’s like my kind and body don’t want to get out of bed because there’s nothing in my day worth getting out of bed for. I’d rather live in my dreams than live in reality.
What’s hilarious is my life, relative to most people, is pretty great. I have a job that pays well, starting a business doing something I’m good at and enjoy doing, and my roommate (who should really sign up to be a coach for Healthy Gamer) is fantastic.
The only things I don’t have are close friends (that are local that I can hang out with irl), a girlfriend (I’m just not trying for that right now), and I’m out of shape/slightly overweight (by about 20-25 lbs which I’m already working on taking off).
I have a great life relative to most people, but I hate waking up every day. I know my sleep quality isn’t the best, and it’s not consistent times every night/morning. I have to set 5-10 alarms just to get out of bed in time to be late for work (and thankfully I do a good enough job where they don’t care for the most part). I know I’m not unique in the whole waking up feeling like garbage category, but I don’t know the root causes of that feeling at the moment and experimenting to find out is difficult.
Oh well. I’ll keep working at it and see what I can figure out.
Thanks Dr. K for the video on this.
Edit: I wonder in my ADHD medication has something to do with my poor sleep quality. I know it does when I take it late, but I wonder if it changes my “sleep architecture” enough.
absolutley try not to take adhd meds late because they are simulants. they ARE keeping you awake
interestingly, two of my biggest hobbies since adolescence have been knitting and cross-stiching! I abandoned them temporarily during a really stressful period in my life, but then slowly reintroduced then into my schedule, and it really worked wonders for my stress levels. (I guess another reason why is that when you knit/do cross-stiching, you really can't use your phone much lol)
I can confirm what you are saying about marihuana and dreams. I was depressed for years, waking up tilted and feeling very bad. Was smoking daily with some breaks for couple weeks. And I wasn't dreaming at all! Every time when I woke up and was dreaming I felt better, like something happened, my mind was focused on dream after opening my eyes, not on this tilted and depressed state. I limited my frequency of smoking this year, I'm not dreaming a lot, but it's getting better
One of the best videos I've ever seen fr. Thanks. Thanks a lot
"Nah, this can't be me, this is how I've woken up for the past year." *beat* "Oh, right."
Sometimes im scared of how this channel can be so relatable
Thank you so much for this video! I've been struggling with having a really hard time waking up early in the morning my whole life. It's gotten to then point that I feel incapable of holding a fulltime job as an adult because I keep calling out when I feel bad right after waking up. I'm going to do all of these things now. Thank you so much.
Super helpful!!!!
Thanks a ton.😊😊
"People wil clinical depression have what is called early morning awakening"
Me, who has been up since 4:45: hmmm yes Dr. K go on.
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another timely video
I am so happy & grateful now & forevermore, for everyone is on the most optimal timeline!
I had a very stressful day yesterday, couldn't sleep last night. This video was posted at the perfect time.
I never heard of people waking up angry or sad, unless they had a dream that made them feel that way.
I used to dream about my brother not helping me out and woke up frustrated and angry, but only because I held that dream's emotions. Maybe people aren't that good at remembering dreams?
When I get angry at someone or really frustrated with something, I just go take a quick nap, which might just be the opposite lmao.
When my mother suddenly passed away after a tragic accident, something that gave me peace of mind was ironing and folding clothes, and my father picked up a gardening hobby, I'm sure that gave him some relief too.
Can you explain what "processing" emotions actually means and how it works?
ive been understanding that it literally means feeling your feelings. cuz when you feel your emotions they get processed and eventually lessen. emotions need to be felt, thats their purpose
Feeling and then letting them go.
@@SlaymakerthePlaymaker what does it mean when you say letting them go? what does it feel like, do you think about something, how to actually do this?
@@zodsiare you on the spectrum? It's us usually that have trouble realising and conveying our emotions. Even the time of perceiving them is often off.
Thank you 😊 you are amazing. I can’t get enough of your videos.
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This is really really good. Thanks.
I've been stuck in a bad mindset for almost 3 years now constant panick attacks to the point I can't do most daily functions and health issues that I think I may be bringing onto myself with stress and anxiety but the doctors can't figure out what is wrong with me
try pushing past the smaller anxieties and the bigger ones will be easier too, its literally facing your fears until you realize they wont hurt you. :) easier said than done but what have you got to lose?
@animeloveer97 I just don't know what the feers are I will be fine having fun playing a game or enjoying a nice fishing trip then all of a sudden it happens
High fat carnivore diet with variety of grassfed meats
Love it, Dr. K! However, it seems like no matter how early I go to bed (usually sometime between 8pm-1am), I wake up frequently during the night. How can I help that? I had a TBI in 2007, so maybe that affects it.
Just wow, my favorite vod you've made ❤
THIS NEEDS MORE VIEWS glad i watched i literally love this youtuber he is so good at speaking in a way i can follow and usually people drag it on or make it boring but here i can get all the answers and visuals
That's my secret: I'm always tilted.
Can't I just level my bed?
Perfect 😂
Sugar packets bro.
OMG this make so much sense ! Thanks !!!!
Wow, this is incredibly valuable information. Thank you so much, Dr. K!
Just realized depression is what fixed my sleep schedule.
Fixing your depression you mean? How?
@@Teinve i want to say the capitalist definition of depression is what OP might be referring to. Meaning, depression involves sleeping more. I've heard someone, maybe Dr K, refer to depression as a type of burnout and anger turned towards the self. Ergo, OP's burnout depression lead to them prioritizing their body and sleeping as much as they needed to.
Ive always felt like people waste a lot of time picking what symbols mean for dreams. I think only the dreamer can understand the meaning of their own symbols anyway so thats something that cant be measured super scientifically
True, but there may also be a common underlying theme that's still interesting to study, given how common some themes are, like dreams of falling, being chased or losing teeth. Often those line up with their symbolic meaning
I appreciate and thank you for the fact you added the piano music to let it be known this is the end of the video. The abrupt endings before were discomforting and left a person wanting to no if that was it...or should I be prepared for more of your message.
Interesting to see this, don't think I've hardly ever experienced this problem in my life
the early morning awakening is fascinating to me because I actually wake up *happy* at sunrise - it's probably relevant that I have adhd - and I immediately text hello to like a dozen of friends who are still asleep 😅
and I get less happy and more tired if I go back to sleep after that, so 🤔
lol i used to be like that,, i miss it soo much! also adhd here
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Felt in my soul
This is the best channel I’ve come across in my life. I wish I could just download everything in his mind
You are fabulous! Always so helpful.
What do you mean by "tilted?" Why is there no explanation for what this word means?
Bit late, but... It's a gamer term. Basically it's angry, frustrated, general negative emotions. It's from pinball machines originally I think which would show "tilt" if you would jostle them too hard (which is a way to keep the ball in play) or even literally tilt them up to prevent the ball rolling down. I know it for instance from playing overwatch, like you get frustrated from this one opponent that keeps killing you or your healer that according to you is not doing their job or just losing a game... Once you're tilted, it means you've gone past a certain threshold and it's better to just take a break because once you're tilted all your games are going to suck because you're going into them with a bad mindset.
@@finraziel Thanks, I was still wondering.
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The smoking pot ruining your ability dream is spot on. I smoked for 25 years non stop and never felt like i had a dream. I quit 6 months ago and have been having the most vivid dreams imaginable. Seems like im dreaming in excess to deal with all the years I couldnt. If i would have know that dreaming is such a neccesssity and the healing that takes place during dreaming I would have never picked up pot. My mental health has never been better and the dreams are a big part of that.
"The emotions we feel when we dream are real" damn fucking right it is. After losing my ferret in a fucked accident, I started having nightmares. One of them included watching a pet store employee take a hairless rat and start snipping off all her toes as the rat screamed and bled out onto the floor. I sobbed in the dream, woke up and continued sobbing for maybe an hour. One of the hardest times I ever cried. You mentioning that the dream subject doesn't matter but the feelings do matter really helped me understand my diagnosis of PTSD because I felt that since most of the nightmares weren't about her (my ferret), though some were, that maybe I was lying or they got me wrong or something. Thank you
I think it is really interesting what you are sharing. I find my cat is really loving and does not hold grudges. I never thought of pet owners feeling PTSD when happenings with their pets go awry.