Therapy Theory: How To Work Through Transference & Countertransference - Inner Work Library 106/500
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- čas přidán 28. 06. 2024
- What Is Transference & Countertransference & How To Work With Transference & Countertransference? This video is an introduction to Transference and Countertransference in Therapy and Psychology which explores the role of Shadow Projection and how to work with transference as both therapist and client.
This episode of Inner Work Library Q&A emphasises the importance of healing unresolved trauma and withdrawing unconscious projections to help dissolve unwanted shadow projections or negative transference in therapeutic space, as well as the benefits of positive countertransference
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00:00 How To Work With Projections
01:36 Transference & Countertransference
03:20 How To Identify Your Projections
06:06 Uneducated Therapist = Bad Transference
08:10 Brain Science & Attachment Theory
09:54 Unconscious Mind & Implicit Memories
12:00 Carl Jung & Shadow Psychology
16:04 Advanced Transference Psychology
21:15 Is Everything Always Projection?
23:26 How To Be A Great Therapist
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Topics explored: inner work; jungian shadow; unconscious mind; unconscious jung; what is consciousness; transference and countertransference; countertransference in therapy; transference in therapy; transference in psychology; psychology of transference; what is transference; what is countertransference; how to deal with transference; transference example; projection psychology; what is projection; psychology of projection; shadow projection; shadow work; shadow psychology; therapy; therapist;
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Jordan good valid key points of being in a circumspection awareness among other human interactions! ☺️
It's such a valuable skillset, thanks for taking the time to comment.
Thank you for this Jordan. I've always felt that transference is referenced to in a sense that it is some isolated concept that only arises in a therapeutic context. I feel the truth of the matter, which is that we project onto all sorts of people in all different aspects of our lives, is not often spoken about enough. Unless we are fully emotionally resolved (and who is?), I don't see how we are to avoid this. So what you mention about clinical intuition and conscious communication as a basis to be conscious of this, but not be afraid to be human, resonates a lot with me. I also really resonate with what you mention about physical touch/comfort in therapy. I do feel this is somewhat moving in mechanical direction, fueled partly by fear as you mention, which I find quite sad... But that's a separate topic.
I currently work in a highly boundaried workplace and hope to be stepping into a therapeutic capacity next year. I've had fear/conflict around how to be human as a therapist at work while still maintaining my boundaries, so this video has helped me with current issues troubling me. Thank you again 🙏🌟
Great to learn more about you here, and I appreciate your thoughtful reflections, Isabella 🌲
A few years ago I said that my life felt like I was constantly “feeling my way through a labryinth of mirrors”. I was hyper-attuned to the push/pull of somatic and logical projection dynamics and it was starting to drive me a bit nutty. This video sums that experience up quite well.
18:35 You can only trust others to the degree in which you trust your Self and 3rd party risk mitigation ensures we never have to truly bear the full weight of our choices. Changing the underlying factors on how we enter into agreements with practitioners can fundamentally change the landscape of healing. Insurance + associations have replaced professional discernment, which has also removed the humanity from therapeutic spaces. There is an exciting paradigm shift coming and a reckoning that can no longer be avoided.
Thank you for brilliantly sharing your take on this topic Jordan.
I feel like I'll have to watch this video multiple times and go through the books you mentioned to properly digest and integrated what you shared. Thank you for going all the way into this, I truly appreciate it.
It wouldn’t have happened without you, Linda. Thanks for getting involved and always going deep!
Thanks for the informative video
Thank you - good luck with your work in this space.
😮 My God! Too much to process.. 🤯
Thank you so much, Jordan! Such an important topic..
This video points on the importance of getting trained for coaches and teachers in today's world..
Yes, absolutely. It’s one of those many layered topics hahaha
always on point! I keep watching your videos bc you make so much sense thank you for doing this. Im on the waitlist for a Therapist and your helping so much. 😳
Truly happy to be helpful, wishing you well 🌲
Transference gets a bad rap. It can also can be beneficial. I forget where I read this but I was always under the impression that you're to choose a female therapist if you have mommy issues and a male therapist for daddy issues because you're putting your own transferences and projections to work in a therapeutic way.
For sure - positive transference is often overlooked and is essential for supportive work!
Yes I love this, such a good point.
Love your videos Jordan, thank you for everything always 💜🌸🦋
You’re always welcome!
Thank you, Jordan.
Always welcome, thank you!
On pg. 324 (German edition) of Rememberances, Dreams and Thoughts Jung states that by becoming conscious of a transference and by "recalling" it, objectivity can be achieved which could lead to individuation. It involves freeing onself from evaluations which cause feeling-based binding to desire. The info in this video seems to be more complicated than his insight.
With respect, I do believe it's more complicated than this single quote presents. Jung is excellent, but we're likewise served by seeing what other therapists think about this issue as 1-1 therapy developed throughout the 21st century. Humanistic psychology in particular, hope this helps.
Well is has sure worked well with me and in my experience. Simpicity, you know. @@jordanthornton