How To Grieve Like A Nigerian

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  • čas přidán 3. 07. 2024
  • On this episode of the podcast, Fk and Jollz catch up on their weekends, talk about grief and how we perceive it in others and they help you solve some interesting dilemmas. They play a fun card game at the end of the episode, you'll want to hear it. If you know, you're in the know and if you don't know, then, listen to the episode!
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Komentáře • 52

  • @DamolaKayode
    @DamolaKayode Před 10 měsíci +68

    Nobody:
    Jola and Fk: I don't even like talking to you
    *does 5 seasons of a podcast together*
    Okayyy😂❤

  • @Springrolllll
    @Springrolllll Před 10 měsíci +22

    I resonated with the “not close enough” grief thing. When my cousin passed, just a few hours after I learned, I was told not to overdo my grief cos “if you’re acting this way, how do you expect the siblings to react”. I was also expected to take care of others who were more related.
    No one considered that she was the closest person I had to a sibling. That was like losing my only sibling. The one person who had my back like a sibling would. I think I cried everyday for a year, in isolation of course. The actual siblings moved on faster than I did.

  • @Ayomi444
    @Ayomi444 Před 10 měsíci +14

    I’m loving this unsafe space segment 😂😂

  • @nisolaolakanmi6182
    @nisolaolakanmi6182 Před 10 měsíci +4

    “Moses you have reached your goshen” 😂😂😂 Jola please

  • @LolaErogs
    @LolaErogs Před 10 měsíci +3

    “Leather is ponmo” I fell off my bed

  • @fideliamarcel
    @fideliamarcel Před 10 měsíci +6

    The grief thing is just… poof!!!!
    I lost a good friend back in 2022. She died in a fire accident and I didn’t know that I’d grieve that way. The fact that we never met but the 7 years relationship was held strong via social media and it still drove me mad!!!! Was just unexplainable.
    And really after like 3 days of crying so hard I started hearing cmon it’s fine. Move on. She has died there’s nothing you can do. Mhen she died in a fire accident and got burnt. I can’t just move on!

  • @amakachukwudebe2930
    @amakachukwudebe2930 Před 10 měsíci +1

    It's the " moses has finally reached his Goshen"😂😂😂

  • @OprahCoco
    @OprahCoco Před 9 měsíci +1

    Jola is pained o, in the know apostles ooo 😂😂😂😂

  • @karimotisiaka6328
    @karimotisiaka6328 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Jola's hatred for 'in the know ' is shinning through 🤣🤣🤣

  • @SittaLuvz
    @SittaLuvz Před 10 měsíci +15

    That girl is being financially abused. I pray she sees this and frees herself from this foolishness. Your brother is NOT your responsibility. Don’t allow your family to destroy your future.

  • @lasgidibabe78
    @lasgidibabe78 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Jolaoluwa- what is Moses you have reached your Goshen!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @abbyaroy7436
    @abbyaroy7436 Před 9 měsíci +1

    It's crazy. My dad died at 43 and i remember so well how there was so many people in our house and we were serving them food. It makes me angry thinking about it now. We didnt even have time to properly just grieve without people telling you it's okay

  • @DamolaKayode
    @DamolaKayode Před 10 měsíci +6

    As someone in the know, I would advise y'all to listen to the full podcast episode🤭
    I enjoyed this so much ❤
    And for the sister, send him, his allowance next month. Next time, he will know not to use it in 2 days and on vans no less😩 no really... I can't imagine finishing my allowance (before the month ends) and going back to meet my dad, Lol. Don't worry, he figured he didn't need it for the next 28 days, so let him be😊

  • @ADAdvocate
    @ADAdvocate Před 10 měsíci +6

    Bottom line is Nigerians do not know how to handle grief!!!
    Even if its a friend, people should be allowed to go through their emotions. My older brother passed earlier this year and now I understand this😢

  • @UchennaUgochukwu
    @UchennaUgochukwu Před 9 měsíci

    "leather is kpomo" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @DamolaKayode
    @DamolaKayode Před 10 měsíci +3

    I'm crying, the unsafe spaces this week ehn😭😂😂

  • @adebayofemi-aborowa8458
    @adebayofemi-aborowa8458 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Jola said Leather is Ponmo 😂🤣

  • @glee4327
    @glee4327 Před 10 měsíci +4

    It’s how you guys can switch from talking about grief to talking about amebo 😂
    Love it

  • @_y.e.t.u.n.d.e_
    @_y.e.t.u.n.d.e_ Před 10 měsíci +3

    Have been waiting for this video like my life depend on it

  • @chisomo8088
    @chisomo8088 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Just finished another episode and I said let me check the comments on the video only to see this upload. It’s definitely a good day😚

  • @fanreviewnaija8894
    @fanreviewnaija8894 Před 10 měsíci

    Really enjoying this episode. So thoughtful

  • @heriethalexander5145
    @heriethalexander5145 Před 10 měsíci

    You guys deserve more viewsss

  • @estherbest
    @estherbest Před 10 měsíci +2

    I’m sorry but did I just hear leather is pomo 😂😭😭😭

  • @Ninuolaa
    @Ninuolaa Před 10 měsíci +1

    jollz please share details of the jumpsuit... i love it.

  • @anitaike9031
    @anitaike9031 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I get the part of grieving.
    A dear friend of my mine died in Oct 2021 while playing football. It's been a bit of a struggle after almost 2 years...
    Crazy though

  • @TimiOkoya
    @TimiOkoya Před 10 měsíci +1

    Awon style icons! 🙌🏾

  • @bmas001
    @bmas001 Před 10 měsíci

    Just more than half way through 'Someday Maybe'. Deep!

  • @abziknm7330
    @abziknm7330 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Jola please give us a Happy Noisemaker podcast❤

  • @ItsMaegansLife
    @ItsMaegansLife Před 10 měsíci

    That unsafe space but had me laughing so hard haha

  • @ejeteb
    @ejeteb Před 10 měsíci +1

    "the-in-the-know" 😂😂

  • @ajibolaalimi
    @ajibolaalimi Před 10 měsíci +1

    F.K just couldn't drink that coffee 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @susandanielkareem
    @susandanielkareem Před 10 měsíci

    "Finally, my peoppleeeee" Jola, you need help 😂😂😂

  • @rysachisom9250
    @rysachisom9250 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Jola is a menace 😂

  • @christieokposin9889
    @christieokposin9889 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Jola is so damn funny😩😩😩

  • @southernbelleng987
    @southernbelleng987 Před 10 měsíci +1

    This episode really hit home for me. I lost my mom at a very tender age and every time I feel or exhibit some sort of grief towards her passing, I have people make all sorts of insensitive comments most of which are centred around me not knowing her and having no reason to mourn her.

    • @bolanleadisa
      @bolanleadisa Před 10 měsíci +1

      Someone literally told me, “it’s been 8 years, you should get over it.” Right after I shared how upset I was about my dad’s death. On a date! Safe to say, I ended it and went home.

    • @vickieogb1262
      @vickieogb1262 Před 10 měsíci

      @@bolanleadisapeople really have audacity ohhh 🙄🙄. I just lost my only brother (younger), to an armed robbery attack in Lagos Nigeria (it’s funny how I’m typing this now, mhhhhhh it’s well) ; and even if I’m directly not with my immediate family, I’ve made it clear to anyone who want Ms to give me/us yeye condolence, that NO ONE WILL OR SHOULD tell us how to mourn , especially my Mum. LET US MOURN, PERIOD! We’ll definitely find out balance! Mtcheeeeww.

  • @lydiamoyosore
    @lydiamoyosore Před 10 měsíci +1

    This episode really made me think of the years of grief i have experienced. I lost my best friend in 2011, and i was broken to the point that people around me said i was doing too much, so i dealt with it quietly, then i lost my mum in 2013(she was 38) and was a single parent of 3kids, i couldn't cope with the loss so i developed insomnia and slipped into depression (which am still dealing with), thought i was getting better then my older sister died in 2018 and my older brother also died in 2020, and now i don't think i have to strength to fight to live anymore, so i will say i am too familiar with death and loss and doubt if i will ever recover from all that has happened to me. People really don't understand the meaning of letting people deal with grief.

    • @amyherself
      @amyherself Před 10 měsíci +7

      God is your strength ❤️ Please still find reason to live,you're so strong!🥺❤️

    • @lydiamoyosore
      @lydiamoyosore Před 10 měsíci

      @@amyherself thank you

    • @favormarilynuyok4868
      @favormarilynuyok4868 Před 10 měsíci +4

      I am so sorry.... sending you lots of hugsss and kissess❤❤

    • @olayinkajolaosho5129
      @olayinkajolaosho5129 Před 10 měsíci

      🫂🫂🫂

  • @ifeoluwaolakunle
    @ifeoluwaolakunle Před 10 měsíci

    Ghosen bawo 😂😂😂😂

  • @ATvee
    @ATvee Před 10 měsíci +2

    A woman lost her husband and months after that her husband's relatives fought her because they were not well fed during the mourning period they stayed with her. This man was not 'old' per se o.

  • @Mentwoman
    @Mentwoman Před 10 měsíci

    What the heck is "Moses you've reached your Goshen"?😂😂😂😂

  • @mustaphamuiz4299
    @mustaphamuiz4299 Před 10 měsíci

    😊

  • @EmiDaghe
    @EmiDaghe Před 10 měsíci

    ❤❤❤😂😂🎉🎉

  • @ogeeziashi
    @ogeeziashi Před 10 měsíci +2

    😂😂😂😂😂
    Jola is a dedicated hater

  • @giftpatricks3944
    @giftpatricks3944 Před 10 měsíci

    🤍🫶🏾💕🤍🫶🏾💕🤍🫶🏾💕🤍

  • @waripamoezekiel1376
    @waripamoezekiel1376 Před 10 měsíci

    😂😂😂something is wrong with Jola

  • @yvonnen.5642
    @yvonnen.5642 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I listened the whole episode and I’m just here to comment 🤭
    I loved the segment on grief, we don’t talk about it enough. I also loved when you guys got a big vulnerable. It was lovely to listen to you guys and relate 🫶🏾
    Also, Jola I’m the same; when I find a guy very attractive looking him in the eye is a struggle 🫣