I NEED TO APOLOGISE... | Suzie Bonaldi
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- I NEED TO APOLOGISE... a life update. ✨
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I think we all enjoy the visual videos better than the podcast. so don’t worry!
I can totally relate to this. A contradicting feeling of zoning out and burning out at the same time. I’m coming to learn that when I’m making mistakes, forgetting stuff and scrolling too much, I’m very much stuck in stress mode (constant state of high alert!). My mind and body are usually screaming at me to slow down, switch off, self care and put some better boundaries in place 🙏🏼 Our brains really weren’t built for the amount we try to take on and then we end up being our biggest critic. You’re human and not alone in that. Be kind to yourself. Take care ❤
I know how you feel. I too am planning a wedding, while working really hard at my job. It is overwhelming. I really recommend journalling and being consistent about it. I schedule time in my day first thing in the morning and again in the evening and it has been super helpful with organizing my thoughts.
Aw I’m sorry you’ve been feeling so down on yourself 😢 i often feel the same way when I’m overwhelmed and my therapist always tells me to remind myself of all the things you’re doing well even if it might seem small. For example, from this vlog I can tell that you made plans for Mother’s Day and made sure that your mom felt loved by sending her flowers and spending time with her! You also went on a walk for yourself even though you didn’t feel like it but you got out there and did that for your mental health! You showed up for your subscribers and team by vlogging even though you weren’t having a good week. You did your skincare which is a form of self care! You also went and got a facial which helped you feel good mentally and physically which is important! You packaged up the clothes to send off. Even though the podcast didn’t end up going up correctly you still recorded and did everything else to get it done. You didn’t fail it was just an unfortunate mistake that prevented it from going up 🤍 and remember to treat yourself with grace and know that if you do need to take a step back from things that it’s okay too you have a lot going on right now 🤍
Literally feeling exactly the same 😢 life just feels chaotic and as if everything is just a rush! I've been trying to tackle tasks one at a time, and to not feel the pressure I put on myself with each task, just do what you can, and in the capacity you can as well. It will get done but as long as you not overly stressing about every single task, itl help your overall stress / cortisol levels, which just ends up compounding and affecting one physically and mentally 😢 Also never let anyone make your stress / amount of work seem futile. You're not alone! Xx
31:44 same! I had a month off work last year with my depression. I do feel it most in March and at the end of the year. As long as you recognise a pattern, you can start to manage it but also, don’t let it control your emotions. Let it out and keep doing your best. You got this! x
Oh Suz I totally can sympathise with how you feel!! I’m the same as you and I think it’s fair to say we’re sensitive souls 🤍 defo drop the pod if it’s too much - I would say I do adore the topics you discuss so maybe you could bring some of the discussions/ collabs with Ryan/ chats with the girls onto CZcams? I’d absolutely love that xx
Time to relax when Suzie’s vlogs come on. I love them 💗
Aw it was so sad seeing you like this ❤ I hope you take it easy on yourself! You can only do what you can do but the most important thing is looking after yourself first
I can relate on how you feel- I just got married 2 weeks ago and felt the exact same way with wedding vendors, family constantly asking the same questions, and work! I had so many melt downs- so normal!
How I tried to handle it- I made a FAQ info chart for people who needed to know and just kept sending it whenever they asked the questions again (because why can’t they look back at texts?!?? 🙄)
I ignored all questions that were not wedding related (“summer vacation plans?!”) and told them I would get back to them after the wedding.
Work/wedding todo list helped a lot! Made them weekly included things like emails and payments etc. work paperwork blah blah.
Don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t all get done in a day! You got this- it gets better ❤
Hi lovely I think focus on CZcams and your wedding right now that’s what important. Also nothing is wrong with you, you are doing too much. Planning a wedding is stressful as it is. Regarding the podcast maybe put it on hold for now. And you can always come back to it when life isn’t as hectic as it is. As women we are always trying to do too much, then burn ourselves out. Also hormones play a huge part in our life too with our emotions. Have you tried the SAD therapy lamps you might want to give it ago. Don’t be hard on yourself ❤
Loved the Boots shopping with mum, she's so lovely, we need to see more of you two together 🥰❤️🤩
I love your podcast! Been listening since you started it again
Love your content/vlogs Suzie. I’d recommend delegating tasks that you can to people that can help, wedding planner to take what she can for the wedding and getting an admin/PA person if you don’t already have one, absolute life saver when you’re juggling a million and one things. Love from Melbourne!
Hi beautiful. I’m a 47 year old professor, life coach, mother of 3 (American, so annoyingly optimistic).
I’d advise you to sit down and make a priority list. Just write everything in your life out, then put it in priority order with details. Like, nutrition and exercise. Then top 3 relationships and what is required. Then work that pays and makes you happy. Then maybe wedding. After that, alternate a 4th priority. For me, I choose a friend a week to have a quality interaction with, like uninterrupted call.
Really ask yourself what YOU and Ryan want vs what other people expect of you.
Simplify, breathe. What is going to matter in a year? 5 years?
You’re doing great. ❤️
Well said
So I think I needed to hear that too. Thank you and very well said!
Priority order is vital!! When you can visually see what has risen to the top, you really tend to get a better perspective on the things that you can ditch or delay. And you feel less stress about it. I do it daily, rank everything a 1 (must do, time sensitive), 2 (really should get done but there’s no deadline), 3 (not a necessity but would be nice to do). Monday through Friday I prioritize the 1s and 2s, Friday night through Sunday night are all 3s, so I truly get a relaxed weekend and I can feel satisfied knowing so many high ranking “musts” are done and dusted. Been a life changer for me and way fewer tear filled days of overwhelm.
You're doing great! Sending you positive energy for working through this moment. On another note, loved this chill vlog. Seeing you and your mom together was really sweet. What brand are the boots you wore to your hydra facial appointment? They looked great! Hope you have a great week ahead!
Hi Suzie, I've been following you for almost 5 years now and this may be the first time I'm leaving a comment. I really empathise with the feelings of constant overwhelm and it feeling like you're not showing up well for anyone. I myself really struggled with that when I was running my business. I guess you were asking for some advice on how to better manage your time maybe or organise things - honestly, I don't have that figured out myself. But I did want to share what helped me when I felt this chronic level of overwhelm (for me boarding with a burnout), and that was a cold plunge. I know there is quite some talk about it right now and it may feel like just another thing to add into your already impossible days. I tried it for the first time 2 years ago and it was the only practice I ever did that brought actual calmness and mental clarity into my life. It felt like I could finally take a proper breath and get a break from all the thoughts, anxiety and overwhelm. Before that, I thought this is just how I am and I will always be drowning in those feelings, trying to juggle it and find a quick fix. Cold plunging brought me a relief and it kickstarted the journey of me making some very much needed adjustments in my life. I'd be happy to share some of my tips in case you find this interesting and if not, I wish you the best of luck with everything that you have coming up, all very very exciting for sure :)
Looking forward to your next podcast episodes I love them!❤
Girl! This is your job so do what makes you happy and what brings in the most money! Stop stressing and enjoy planning your wedding. Your subbies will be there. 😊
I used to get SAD in February and March and then I started taking Vit D and it helps so much. I used to take it during the winter but I take it all year round now (I live in the north of England where sunshine is lacking 😂).
My preference in scents has changed as well I have always been a fruity/floral girl now I have been gravitating towards more musky amber scents
Do NOT remove anything based on anyone else's opinion. Keep the things YOU enjoy doing the most. It will show in the quality of your content. There are so many places to put out content these days, noone says you have to be on them all ❤
thanks for this looong video 😍
Hi Suzie-I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. It’s a natural consequence of the world in which we live and the pace we expect ourselves to maintain. You’re at a place in life with a huge, new variable (new to you, new to your life): your wedding! Expecting yourself to carry on normally with everything else while undertaking this immense task is unfair to you! Your viewers can sense in your content when you’re churning out videos or podcasts under duress and that’s not what we want from you or FOR you! Understand this specific overwhelm is a temporary phase and you need to prioritize differently for a little bit. We’ll be here! I think talking to a therapist is probably the most helpful thing you can do during this time, to help you understand your anxiety and what you can do to manage it through this period. Sending you lots of love ❤
We can all manage without your podcasts and/or your weekly vlogs. It may feel to you like you’re letting us down but we all have a life, it doesnt end if you stop uploading. Of course this is your income so you can’t stop completely but really, no need to explain or apologise, it really doesnt matter in the big picture.
you are my favorite youtuber/inspo❤
You with your mom is exactly like me & my daughter. I’m a powder foundation & blush mom. My daughter knows everything about makeup up! By the way, your mom is gorgeous!
When I feel overwhelmed at work I find it helpful to make lists of tasks I need to do and prioritizing what needs to be done first and what I can leave for later. That way I don’t forget and it helps my stress 😄
I have felt the same with my corporate job, being a mother, taking care of a house and even though I work from home I sometimes feel like I have less time for everything. I prioritized all my things and ended up getting a housekeeper to help deep clean every two weeks! That helped me a ton! Hang in there! ❤
Love your blog !!!
Time blocking! When you have multiple tasks at once, do one at a time so you can focus on it and then move onto the next thing but block out specific time for each task. First workout how long you need for each thing and then plan out your day, make sure you schedule breaks, lunch and anything else like hot girl walks or gym etc
Honestly time blocking will save you! Xx
your mom is so cute!
Where did you get the facial ? I didnt get that! Thanks*
I can relate to feeling overwhelmed! As far as advice goes, I block time in my calendar for precise tasks. Maybe you could work on the podcast one day a week? And do CZcams, meetings etc on the other days? I would be sad to see the podcast go, but at the end of the day, you get to decide what you enjoy doing most and what is realistic. And really take the take to do your skincare, go on your walks and eat delicious food. Regarding your social life, I focus on having quality time with friends and/ or family in the evenings on the weekend.
I don't normally comment, but having been in a similar headspace before to what you've mentioned, it felt like this is the right video to do so.
From my personal experience, there's two things that really helped me to feel better:
1. Exercise - I'm a runner, but any kind of movement, whether it's a 30 min walk or yoga, just helps a lot. I often found myself thinking about work while doing the exercise but ending it with so much clearer picture on what to do. And as a fellow UK based person, the weather has not been the best to be outside and exercise, but there's also something really therapeutic about a good old walk/run in the rain
2. Make a list of 3-5 things that are your none-negotiable to do that day. Anything else you accomplish will be a bonus. If you only focus on a small number of tasks to do that day, it makes you feel better once you accomplish them but also gives you a boost to think 'ok, I've done those. Anything else I do is a bonus and I'm doing really well"
One last thing to add though, as much as I love both the CZcams and the pod, please don't wear yourself out to deliver those. I'd much rather get less content from you but have you feeling better. x
Hi Susie. I’ve thought for a while that I recognized in you a fellow traveler with ADHD. We tend to get really overwhelmed when we have to focus on multiple things. Our preference is to really dig deep and focus on one, maybe two, things and really kill it with those. But once the overwhelm sets in, we’re paralyzed. The more we start to fall short the worse we feel about ourselves. In terms of advice, I’ve only ever found simplification of my obligations to be the answer. I try not to take on too much. In lieu of that, we have to have lists and reminders. The phone is a godsend. It should be constantly reminding you to do things to stay on track. The thing is, we’re not good with lists or organization but it really does help if we can be disciplined about it.
I have used those hair Gummies as I have hair similar to yours . The best things by a mile is taking selenium its a lot cheaper but the results are amazing my hair is so much thicker !! This wedding you have greatly invested in because you want it perfect and it's stressing you out , do you know what if something goes wrong no one will even notice .!! We give ourselves all these expectations , turn the camera off and go out and have fun instead for a bit !
You will look amazing on your wedding day no matter if ur hair is up down or in a bag as your stunning so looking forward to it all the excitement you will experience with your husband to be 🎉
Suze…Babes…You are on the verge of a burn out. You have taken on too much. Have a chill evening…and take care of yourself. Turn it all off. Relax. Reset. The next morning sit down with your tea and sort it out. Prioritize what has to be done and what fills your cup. Drop all the rest. You can only do what you can do…and that is enough.
Maybe look at how you plan your week and tweak it a bit. I had a really overwhelming week at work last week so I’ve taken all weekend off and going to reset for next week. Hope you have a better week lovely xx
Hi Suz, I like watching your vids to unwind from my hectic work schedule. I don’t normally comment on things like this. But maybe this will help you?
Hour blocks, it’s the immediate time management strategy I use and teach to my team to kick goals and tick and flick.
Sometimes the block might extend to two blocks but in a sense each block of an hour you’re working towards a certain point.
If you have 4 tasks or 5 that you want to achieve in a day aim for a target of completion by a specific/ certain time for all of them.
Day starts at say 9am.
You want task 1,2,3 completed before you take lunch.
Then use your hour blocks to slot what tasks you can have done by and when.
- “ I should be able to get tasks 1,2,3 done by 12 “
have a 10 min chat, a couple of phone calls in between. Allowing yourself a realistic period with achievable results.
Then maybe have a lunch break at 12:30 or 12:40 for half hour to an hour and pump out task 4 and 5 in the last blocks.
Noting there may be 5/10 min menial tasks you can get rid of during the day also and quickly.
Do those first then when you come back from lunch or get in the groove first up and use your hourly blocks to concentrate on bigger items and key focus time.
Also remember to breathe. Procrastinating is time wasting and time is money and life is enjoyment. Work to live.
In the end the result will be the job will get done, you will sort this and do not need to not panic in the meantime it’s just delaying your focus and dragging out your days making you tired and overwhelmed.
Xo love watching your vids. You’re doing a fantastic job keep working hard and keep enjoying what you do.
Podcasts seem to have seasons so if you are ready to end this one and start another season when you are ready that seems very normal. I had an eight month old and worked when we started wedding planning so my mom did a lot of it but it was still very stressful and demanding following up with things, making decisions, etc. Focus on the immediate what is important and the long term will work out later.
Hi Suzie 🙂 thank you for sharing your feelings. I feel constantly overwhelmed and like I’m letting everyone down every day for the past few months; and I’m just trying to do my best to be a good mom for two under two and sometimes I feel like this goal is not achievable and I can only do as much. I started doing yoga for 20 minutes every day and it helps me to get calm and collected. But you do you. If you think that podcast needs to go then so be it. Maybe you will get back to it after the wedding when you will have less on your plate. Anyway sending you lots of love and hugs 🥰
Beautiful you have to do what's best for you and don't stress you have so much on your plate take time to breathe if your feeling overwhelmed and take time to have self care and look after you you are the most important person don't forget that sending you lots of love and hugs ❤️ Holly in Melbourne Australia
Planning a wedding is so much work and it doesn’t matter how organised you are it’s a lot to take on with day to day life. I totally get the overwhelming feeling. I think some thing/ things have to go. The podcast makes sense to drop as it’s the newest addition right now and personally I think your videos/vlogs are better than podcast episodes. The podcast sometimes feels like it’s the audio to a video and the visuals are missing. Keep your plate light. It also might be seasonal change making things worse but you defo have loads on which would break anyone ❤
Omg I was like did i miss mother’s day?! haha its not until May in the US 😂😓
Wedding is a lot…ditch everything that’s too hard. You’re doing great! ❤
hey suz, are you still on spiro for your skin?
Hi Suzie, first of all I'm sending you a big warm hug.. I understand how you're feeling. Second, it's ok to cry it's a way of releasing everything that's overwhelming you. So cry as much as you need and tell yourself it's ok. Third, a lot of people go hard at the beginning of a new year and get burn out by march so that might be happening to you too? Also you have a lot on your plate right now. It's more than usual because of the wedding and even though it's fun it is also a lot. I don't know what a day looks like for you but the advise I would give you is: Make sure you sleep wel!!! that's when you recover from your day. So do anything you need to do to get a good night's sleep. Meditate after waking up, it's not easy for everybody (for me with my ADHD it's not) but it helps. Also after a good cry meditating helps. Also, hydrate!!!!! Make sure you drink enough. Look at your daily planning/time management, maybe change it a bit? What is important to you right now? If that's not your podcast put it on hold for now and decide at a later moment what you want to do with that. That's totally fine. Maybe pick it up after the wedding, I'm sure that after the wedding you will have a lot of things to talk about and a lot of advise to give people regarding that. So enough podcast time to fill( if you would decide that you want to go back to the podcast after the wedding). It's good that you keep going on walks if you can't go to the gym. That helps you physically and mentally, but another thing I love is just putting on some music and dance my ass off. My last piece of advise is: give yourself a break, don't be hard on yourself and appreciate everything you're getting done. ♥♥♥
You should not be so hard on yourself. You are doing a lot and choose your mental health because we will be always support you!!!
Hi Suzie! You are doing your best and everything is going to work out in good time. Try not to have a long to-do list everyday. Keep it simple, three priorities a day and make them visible to you, not only keep them on your agenda or planner. This seems very simple but it really works and helps a lot. And remember to ask for help, find someone you trust who can help you, this is so important.
Best of all, try to rest, breathe and enjoy yourself a little bit more. In hard days, we do need to be extra careful and loving with ourselves. Best of luck and blessings to you! You are doing great 💐
Please stop stressing and concentrate on what you need to do ❤️❤️ I think people who watch you understand that you have anxiety and love to be organised.. I’m like this and I just sit outside and breathe.. no need to do better, just do what you can!!!
Aww I think this is a season where you lean on your team. Delegate and do what you can on set days. We’re not asking for everything, just for you to show up as you are, whatever that looks like! Big love ❤
Suzie, sweetheart you are so hard on yourself. Watching you get upset because you feel as though you are failing is so heartbreaking to watch. I wanted to cry with you, but at the same time i could not ignore the fact that your words are MAGIC, how you speak of yourself really does matter. Saying “I have a lot of things wrong with me” is enabling those parts of you even more. It’s okay to acknowledge where you’re struggling, but it’s also not okay to speak to yourself in a negative tone. Speak to yourself how you would speak to your best friends, because at the end of the day your should be your own best friend. I always find you speak to yourself so harshly and you put yourself down, you’re a queen baby girl, treat yourself like you are. ❤
I was so sorry to see you struggling that much. I wonder how march would be the time were the high of the new year resolutions would fade for you and leaving you worn down ? There are all the obvious advises like organise better or prioritize, etc. I do think that in your case, what you need to hear the most is that you are not letting anybody down. Your community loves you and a few missed uploads is not going to change that. Just cut you some slack, you're great 💜
You haven’t let anyone down and are certainly not useless!! It’s just too much at this particular moment and that’s ok 😊 It doesn’t mean you can’t circle back to things down the line, you need to keep enjoying the wedding process and CZcams - your happy place! Please don’t beat yourself up, let go of what you can just for now and then you might feel more 100% on those things you love. You sound really over stretched!Sometimes you have to say no to things/people also, it will start feeling easier then? I hope so for you ❤ Lots of love! I think you’re ace and love watching your vlogs so just wanted to comment, never as easy to do I know but hope you can be easier on yourself xx
I’d recommend the book we should all be millionaires by Rachel Rogers. It breaks down entrepreneurship and spreading yourself too thin and how to outsource accordingly (and what to outsource) If you don’t already have an assistant, get one! Laundry service. Anything you can to remove mundane tasks someone else will gladly complete for you do it!
Definitely focus on CZcams for now lovely! You can shelve the podcasts until after your wedding and I’m sure no one will mind! You can keep all of your fab ideas for when you start back up again. You will burn out completely if you carry on the way you are. I remember planning my wedding my migraines got really bad because as much as it’s a joyous time also it’s quite stressful at the same time. Something definitely has to give lovely, be kind to yourself! ❤😘xxx
Girl, be kind to yourself. We love you. We support you. And we’re here for you.
I’m in the middle of a really serious situation and I was advised by a nurse to do one thing an hour. Just one thing. Then breathe then do another thing. You are only one person. Say sorry not today, can we do this next week or tomorrow etc.
if you are so overwhelmed you have hit a brick wall then you should have taken a day off everything last week, so do it right now. Put on your oxygen mask first. ❤
Oh Suzie 😢 you are doing so much! I would also say drop the podcast (I do love it but I think realistically it’s the easiest to step back from) or maybe try and like meal prep it haha like have one day recording a few episodes then release one a month or something? Just at least to take the pressure off, then it won’t become an expectation of you and rather a nice bonus when it does pop up 🥰 but don’t feel like you have to apologise, we all get to consume your great content for free so anyone who feels entitled to more than you’re able to give should check themselves. Love you! ❤
Thinking Of You Suzie. Xx 😊😘
Hi!☺️ where are your straight leg jeans from?
You need to do what is best for you! Everyone will understand and if the podcast has to be put on hold then do what you need to ❤
The key things to remember is: a) you cannot do everything perfectly all the time, and no one is managing this, things always slip when there is alot on your plate.
B) you have to prioritise, and agree which bits you will allow to slip, or cancel them or delegate them. If the house work is slipping, then accept that it will be lower than your usual standard, or hire a cleaner. If you can delegate any more elements to your team, or if the podcast needs to go on hold until there is less on your plate
C) take time everyday to list the key items needed for the following day, and when you achieve those key items it is a good day.
hi lovely, hopping in here to reassure you that you're doing great. as someone who has a million things on her plate herself, my best advice to you is to make a priority list and look at your calendar (i use google calendar!) and allocate hours in the day to those priority items. after all that, then see what you can delegate to others.
for me, that would look like:
1. health/wellness (going to the gym, stretching, walking, for 30 mins to an hour whatever i can fit into my day)
2. day job allocating hours to that (youtube, other content for you), creative career dedicating hours to that (could be setting boundaries on wedding related items to after your dedicated time for your work items or any time around it)
3. relationships (i have a s/o i live with, my family, and friends -- i alternate weeks when i dedicate intentional time with folks and communicate how busy i am, plan ahead for them so we have something to look forward to and don't feel neglected)
i hope this helps in some way
Dear Suzie, you absolutely have a real job, and you seems to work your ass off! So, if anyone tells your not, just f.. them off! We all feel like this from time to time, and I relate to the winter depression (I live in Norway..) Have you check your levels on D-vitamin? Scandinavians and also Britts need D-vitamin during winter, and now you're probably the lowest before the sun gets out and give us the vitamins.. And one more thing don't be so hard on your self, I know it's not the easiest, but treat you self as your best friend. You would never tell your best friend is letting everybody down, and are letting everybody down. You're a bad ass, hard working, beautiful woman, never forget
YSL libre perfume smells amazing. Maybe you are trying to do much, this can leave you feeling overwhelming, try making a list and see if that helps 🌸
Suzie, it's perfectly normal to be so all over the place with so many things going on. When I try to approach it for myself or with my clients, I take into consideration that stress, overwhelm, high cortisol levels or adrenal fatigue are sth we have normalised and we unconsciously keep on seeking. This is usually the root of the problem and not "what should I drop?". Take a step back and play with the idea, ponder on the idea "Oh, maybe something in me is seeking that feeling/that discomfort of overwhelm." And it's not about beating yourself up for that but becoming an objective observer of your own mechanisms and how those mechanisms are sometimes forcing us to make difficult decisions that we otherwise wouldn't make. All best wishes to you!
Hi Suzie, there's nothing wrong with you, we've all been there. What it truly works is going for walks in nature, meeting friends and family who are supportive, meditating and writing down your thoughts and emotions. I hope you feel better soon 😊.
how long have you been off the pill? my scent preference changed once I stopped taking it 😅
We are here for you. Dont get upset please. Ditch the pocast Suze.❤❤❤
Oh suz i hope youre feeling better now. Youve got too many plates that youre spinning at the min! You shouldnt put yourself down, nobody can spin that many plates without breaking some. Its impossible. Something has to give unfortunately and that should not be your mental health. You do amazing, i love all your content. As someone who loves your podcast (as a thirty something drama queen myself) i totally get that its not doable juggled with everything else. Its a particularly gloomy time and seasonal effective disorder is much mote common than people realise. Ive studied it at uni and some people actually have to have a certain tint in their lenses to emulate sunnier times. Heres to spring being on its way. Love you suze. We all do xxxxxx
Oh no, don't be frustrated and upset! Prioritise and remember you come first!. Make a list and put the bottom one/two on the 'hold' list. Have the wedding and honeymoon and then reevaluate. You got this. Xx
I want to give you a hug. No advice. Sometimes its just too much ❤
Oh Suz, I’m sorry to hear about your overwhelm. I love the podcast so much, but I think you should focus on what makes you happy and gives you passion. Maybe that is less CZcams to add in the podcast or dropping it entirely. Whatever you think will make you happy and bring you joy in this stressful time! I will be here for your content regardless. ❤
Silent watcher here but my humble advice is to manage your expectations because there is only so much you can juggle before something falls through the cracks. Be practical with your time and know that is ok if you can’t do everything. Be realistic and purposeful with your time. Give yourself some grace because we are all human and want to be able to do everything but it’s not always the case. You have a wedding and regular day to day life and work and commitments…. So don’t feel the need to overwork yourself. ❤
Don’t give up anything. Just for a while, hire someone to help you , even if it’s for a short time or part time a few days a week, until you feel you have things under control. Write down the things you could delegate maybe like editing, or errands, or small wedding tasks. Focus on urgent and important 1st, then go down from there, important but not urgent, etc.
Hi Susie, try taking lions mane for your brain, helps with concentration and focus! x
❤your vlogs
I just want to give you a hug🤗Don’t be so hard on your self, things happen, when you have a lot on your mind, and you can’t change that💖Take care🤗Love from Norway💖
Show up for YOU!! ❤
No helpful advice 🤦🏼♀️🙊 but sending loads of love and hoping you feel better soon. I have loved your content for years and whatever you can manage is always enough; just try not to put too much pressure on yourself! Easier said than done I know! ❤ xxx
Rest!!!!
Were you in Danny’s?? Love the food there.
I also feel overwhelmed so I feel your pain. Working full time, have two kids and a partner who works long varied shifts so all organising/life admin is on me! Our house is part way through renovations after an extension and feels an utter mess. Can’t get people in to finish the work due to husbands shift patterns and don’t have time to do it ourselves so just living in it and it’s so stressful and upsetting. I just can’t find the time for everything. It’s tough and I’m exhausted. Definitely stick to CZcams and stop the podcast for now xx
do the main things that give you joy and if you have time to do other things and you want to do them, then go for it but there's nothing wrong with you, you just have so much on your plate like you normally do and it gets overwhelming really quick. i know you can also just do one video a week for a bit if you need more time to get other things done as well and just take care of yourself and just prioritize the most important things in your day-to-day life first. no matter what we love you and you are my personal spirit animal
Suzie…..from a super successful business owner I feel like I am an amazing ear and voice of reasoning. I could also tell you all of the things I wish I was doing better. Free kindness right here😊
feel you on the late seasonal depression... we just gotta get through March!! sending love
Suzie, please never forget that you are not the problem. You are only human, you have a lot going on. As a fellow 2024 bride this is totally normal. I’ve had a lot of personal stuff going on with my family (big sister being really unwell) and with planning a wedding and trying to work full time. I can only imagine how it must be putting your life on the internet for everyone one to see. Please remember it’s okay to take some time out. If you don’t want to stop doing the podcast maybe wait until after your wedding to start it again?
Just remember you’re allowed to feel the way you’re feeling, you’re not letting anyone down and everything will work out in the end ♥️ thinking of you ♥️
Loving the podcast, and happy to hear you have ideas for it :D
Definitely drop the podcast and try taking Vitamin D over the winter x
I may be considered a bit of a control freak by some but I know it will get done the way I want it done if I do it myself! Clearly the recipe for exhaustion and being overwhelmed and dropping the ball when completely frazzled.
If any of this sounds remotely familiar, delegate! Delegate whatever isn’t absolutely essential for you and you alone to do. It’s hard for a lot of us to let go and trust another to do things, so we just add it to our own to-do list. Communicate your wishes and desires thoroughly and let someone else help get things done! If you have a team, let them team! If you have an assistant, let them assist.
So number one, delegate! Number two, get organized and share that organization with your team for work and with Ryan / and the wedding planner for the wedding, so they can swoop in at any moment to lend a helping hand or if necessary, take over! There is no shame in having a safety net and people to help. You may even find it more enjoyable having people to share your workload. Asking for help is essential!
Number three, cut yourself some slack! If doing two videos for CZcams each week is a full time job, then maybe don’t add a podcast every week. Who made the rules everything has to be measured in weeks? Perhaps do a podcast every 10 days... upload on the 10th, the 20th and the 30th. That’s 36 podcasts per year versus 52! That should free up some time.
Or perhaps on weeks when Sunday has an even numbered date, do two CZcams videos, on weeks where Sunday has an odd date, just do one video that week! That reduces your video uploads from 104/year to 78/year. And then perhaps after the crazy whirlwind of planning a wedding extravaganza is over you can go back to two videos every week. 🤷🏻♀️(And I might be a bit selfish and want to enjoy as much of your CZcams content as is manageable! 😉☺️😊)
Lastly and most importantly, number four... if you don’t already have a cleaner for your home, stop what you are doing and immediately find someone to take that chore off your list! Unless you derive extreme pleasure in scrubbing toilets and mopping floors, let someone else take that pressure away! And even if cleaning is your favorite thing in the world, maybe until after the wedding, bite the bullet and suffer enough to let someone else scrub your shower! (However, if you are like me, your cleaner will be the best present you ever gave yourself! I am not one who likes to clean but gets a bit fanatical when cleaning and goes after the air vents with Q-tips, so it takes me absolutely forever to clean my entire house!)
Helpful hint: have your cleaner(s) clean your house from top to bottom every week. But each week, pick one room/space to deep clean. Depending on how many rooms/spaces you have, after every 2-3+ months, your entire house has had a deep “Spring clean”. I love my cleaner and she is practically family now, so I let her determine whatever area she wants to deep clean, depending on her schedule. Keep a calendar and check it off so no space gets forgotten. Some spaces are small and easy, others may be much more complicated and take more than one visit! But I like knowing the inside of kitchen cabinets are wiped down every now and again, baseboards and crown molding are spotless, the walls are wiped down, the curtains cleaned, the chandeliers and inside light fixtures are sparkling, underneath the refrigerator cleaned, inside the oven, windows shining, underneath the bed spotless, etc., etc., etc.
When you try to do everything, and then life piles more of everything on your already big pile of everything, everything starts to suffer. Delegate, get organized and slow down where you can until life lets up a bit and you can happily manage more. But mainly be kind to yourself! Don’t beat yourself up because you’re not superwoman and can’t produce a video in a single bound! Work/personal life balance is near impossible for a huge majority of us, but I think not expecting yourself to make miracles happen so everything imaginable gets accomplished is a huge step in the right direction. Give yourself some grace and find alternative ways to get things done with help from others! Best of luck to you! Letting go of things can be difficult but soooo worth your sanity... and for looking your most beautiful and well rested for your wedding day! (What a great incentive!) 😉🥰🙏🏻🤞🏻💗
Hallelujah! The mini novel is almost over, but clearly I relate to being overwhelmed a time or two in my life! It may be a thing self-employed people just have to come to terms with so they don’t implode! Just because we are where the buck stops doesn’t mean we have to do everything ourselves along the way! Rely on getting help from others! 😉🥴🙃 You can do this! 🥰🥰🥰
Advise yourself as if a friend asked you for advice. You are very hard on yourself, chillax everything will fall into place. Pick 5vthings do them today then divide the rest into achievable chunks.😊 29:59
Hey there, give yourself a break my darling, you are doing and organising a lot of things, give yourself some credit, slow down and take breath ❤️❤️😘
Hi suzie✨ I’m in the same career as you and 1. It is a real job, people need to stop saying its not because it’s like having multiple jobs tbh, besides the point: I’ve also been married for almost a year and my tip would be.
💍🎀You will never be in your wedding era ever again, be a sponge and soak in every bit of it… dont let the pressure of your career steal this season of your life….After your wedding you’ll get a burst of energy that is being a wife(you’ll see) - I let myself produce and post half of the content I usually do close to my wedding, and I just tried to be more graceful to myself. L
Dont be so hard on yourself, and take care of yourself💗
Please please, the level of stress you are feeling is not good for your health. Season depression is real, I get really sad and depressed when spring comes around. The memory loss is a sympthom of stress and it can make you really ill if you don’t slow down. There is nothing wrong with you but you have to slow down to not crash. Fokus on youtube and your wedding and don’t be so hard on yourself, you are amazing and you deserve to feel good❤
Hi Suzie. So sorry that you're feeling overwhelmed and down. Please remember that you're entertaining us for free and you don't 'owe' your audience a particular type or frequency of content - do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled and the people you want in your community will support you. That could be not posting on one of your platforms for a while, posting shorter vlogs or episodes, booking in more time off etc. The important thing is to respect yourself for the choices you make for your wellbeing rather than ending up in a spiral of guilt which further exacerbates your stress levels. Take care. ❤
My advice is: you can’t do everything! Accept it and move on! You need to prioritize the wedding or something! Also therapy usually helps and/or meds, I stopped sleeping in ‘22 and am now on ansiety meds and feelling much better now !
Suzie your absolutely normal, maybe just focus on the wedding and CZcams and revisit the podcast when events calm down a bit. Either way no need for apologies we can clearly see all you have going on ❤
oh baaaaabe!!! here is a very tight hug!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! Nowadays our heads need to be in so many places at once that we tend to forget some things, and of course we miss IMPORTANT things... because maybe there is some non conscious FEAR TO SUCCESS... And WINTER THERE!!! very long grey winter, maybe you are suffering some level of SEASONAL DEPRESSION??? I dont konw... I feel identified. You are not alone. SH*T HAPPENS, you dont dissapoint anyone more than yourself, so dont blame your self. hug yourself, you are doing EVERYTHING YOU CAN. People will understand, If they dont, they are free to go. We love you as you are, JUST LAUGH ABOUT IT! YOU APLOAD THEM LATER. Nobody died. KEEP GOING!