It's interesting how niceness was an appreciated quality back then. He doesn't say "You're the prettiest, sexiest, hottest girl I've ever met, Mary", he says she's the nicest. I wish being nice were still admired.
Michelle Everett it is! I've got such strong feelings for a girl. She gives me the butterflies every time I see her. Not because she's the prettiest thing around (too me, she's flawless - but I can see how other guys wouldn't think so), but because she's one of the very few women who've treated me with a little bit of decenty. She doesn't seem to look down her nose at me. Now, I don't see her often - due to being a freight driver. That everytime she's on my route, I think of asking her out for a coffee... But then, as soon as I see her - I get them funny feelings, and totally chicken out. Sweet gal to talk with, but I hate myself for not having the guts to ask her out. I was born like 60 years too late, haha - somedays it'd be nice to have love like our grandparents did.
"Parking at the point," like they mention here, was sometimes just sitting together in their cars, visiting and talking. It was pretty common to sit in each others' cars and visit. If they had a drive-in restaurant, they'd visit there instead.
@@amandamguyre8528 That’s called being humble, attempting to comfort the other in case one or the other feels to blame at your own credibilities expense.
Run with it! Most of my home is filled with my grandparents and great grandparents things..it amazes me that a 98 year hand mixer still works beautifully! Or that a dresser that was hand made in a barn 120 years ago still looks new! Most of our society is made to be disposable! It seems even common decency and relationships are the same!
Yeah but she didn't do anything, also her mom advised her about sex which is super rare (imo). I agree most moms would just jump to conclusions or get angry.
@@samara4367 here i am a new mom of a daughter worrying how will i make it possible for my daughter to trust me enough to tell me stuff so i can better advise her. I'm so worried 😔
@@janeknox3036 thanks for support dear, i had a neglecting mom myself why i worry, beside saying bad things to me she never spoke as a mom to a daughter. It will be all new for me 😔
I could never talk to my mother the way Mary did, so I'm glad she did it for me lol. I'm jealous of everyone who has a good relationship with their parents.
The important thing to take away from this story is that the girl trusted and respected her mother enough to tell her what happened. Effective communication is severely lacking in today's world.
The important thing to take away from this story is that the mother was understanding and caring instead of belittling her daughter saying SHE would never behave so nasty as if she herself was perfect at that age.
I love how they portrayed that all. It was a lesson without being a lecture. They didn't shame the girl, they simply told the truth. I am impressed that this existed in 1957.
Yeah but when the daughter said, "He said it was his fault." The mom said, "Was it REALLY his fault"... like the woman always leads the man on or it's always the woman's fault for what a man does to them sexually
Amethyst Rose I’m talking about romantic love, and there’s nothing wrong with having sex before being in love with the person. It’s not about taking advantage it’s just mutual horniness for one another.
Magnifique. There’s no shaming the girl or boy for having those lustful feelings, and there’s a complete understanding that it’s sometimes hard to deal with those feelings. Very educational and relatable, which I was not expecting for a film from the ‘50’s
@@sariaht.5478 true. I was wondering if there were actual mothers back then who took a conversation like that as well as the mother depicted on this film, or if this was only scripted as educational ideology.
I love how Jeff stuck to his guns when Stew was being pushy because he knew Mary was uncomfortable and wanted to keep things more propper. This is a great depiction of healthy boundaries and how to maintain them.
I had a mother that has always been very cold towards me, our relationship has always been horrible. I really hope you manage to be a good, understanding and fair mother - and teach your children good virtues :)
You can do it Melissa! I was raised as an only child in a family where it was absolutely taboo to talk about anything personal (sex, periods, bras, relationship intimacy, etc) like I remember the speech from my grandmother (my dad's mom) about how if you needed to pass gas you needed to excuse yourself to the restroom to do so. And she lived by this. Even with being married it was taboo to pass gas in front of the husband. So you can imagine how much you weren't allowed to talk about periods or sex!!!! 😳 I knew growing up I would always be open with my children. Now as a mother of all daughters we have an open discussion policy. I mean we do talk privately away from the younger kids but there is NO QUESTION they can't ask! We will answer any question honestly! Sometimes to the horror of our oldest teenager 😂 ohhhh well... She asks so she gets the truth 😄... Anyhow, I wanted them to be able to talk to us about anything. They still don't always tell you everything. I think that's just the nature of teenagers no matter how hard you try 🙄🤦♀️ and I hope my daughter's turn out to be even better parents than us, but you can be as good of a parent as you strive to be! None of us are ever perfect. We will inevitably mess up somewhere. But just know that you can totally be the parent you want to be no matter how you were raised! 🥰
My courtship was like this and I got married in 2005. We dated 2 years no sex until marriage. He’s my one and only. We have a really happy life together and we’re raising our kids with these values.
I like how for once the guy in a film doesn't pressure the girl into sex. He seems to regret going so far and apologizes for doing so. And he's very sweet. In most films like this (Grease for example) the guy pressures the girl, and she usually gives in because that's apparently how love works. I like Jeff. Good for him.
The point of the video was about making good judgments on sex and not letting your emotions and hormones dictate your decisions, and also the consequences of making the wrong decisions. It's about better sorting out one's feelings to make better choices, I'm pretty sure guys have feelings too.
Not many have the courage to actually admit that,even thought you don't have that with your mom you can always start today or look for someone who is wise invest yourself so that you can have that kind of a perspective from someone you can consider a mam and wisdom wise also.
I love how her mother doesnt call the feelings love, but strong feelings that can lead to a love that will last. Lust and love are not the same but today we equate the two way to often
Im 17 and looking at this makes me wish that i could've grown up in this time, or atleast have the same values today. This is real love, and thinking about how I've partook in modern dating culture makes me feel as if ive been doing it all wrong this whole time
I’m 65 and wish the same! The pill had been on the scene for a while and the sexual revolution underway by the time I was 17. The idea of sex without consequences changed everything. Society has been on a downhill roll ever since.
Hi. Have you tried to talk them? Maybe your mom is shy? If she is too afraid to talk then talk to your school conselor. Thats why they are there. ❤ Take care.
Not to promote my religion/faith but there are Christian men and women who promote these types of values/ lifestyle 😊, who live it out daily (i included). I use to be wordly, and i ended up feeling gross and angry/cynical about people and relationships. And then I repented and now am in a healthy relationship with a man who shares my same values. I know you can find that too. Regardless if your Christian or not :)😊 Your so young wish i would have known what you knew at your age. God bless!
+Priscila Sandoval Wow same! I don't know if you'd be interested but there's this amazing documentary called 56 up. It looks at a group of 56 year olds and shows their lives at 7, 14, 21, 28, 35... you get the picture. It's really interesting though. It's currently on CZcams.
If you're in a healthy relationship it is exactly like that, both parties are responsible and communicating. Although it seems a healthy relationship is hard to find nowadays, though was it easier in the 50s? I don't know, I wasn't around back then
haha . same here. I didn't date at all in high school. I thought there was something wrong with me. fast forward 20 years.. I am told the reason 'it was because you were too nice. We didn't think you had a 'bad girl' inside of you" I am like huh??? oook. because now they like me!
I think we have all fallen in love with Jeff. What an amazing guy! Also, her mother was really supportive and nonjudgemental. This clip was a lot more likable than I thought it would be. It does seem like the couple who had a baby had completely ruined their lives and in reality it doesn’t have to end like that. But otherwise I think it was a nice clip.
In reality NOW it doesn't have to end like that- after massive struggles by the boomers to change everything - through the sexual revolution and civil rights movement. Many of us were the first women allowed at our colleges - before that, they were for men ONLY.
I think the portrayal of the young couple with the baby was accurate for the time. Based on the conversations I’ve had with my older relatives, getting pregnant in school really made you a social pariah. It’s honestly surprising they kept the baby. It was apparently common for the teenage girl to be “sent away” for pregnancy, so everyone could pretend it didn’t happen, and then someone else takes the baby. Though I’m sure that varied from place to place.
What a mature, understanding mother. She did not shame her daughter, but gave her sound advice. I know it was explained in a diplomatic way in the 1950s, but it got a very good point across. I hope parents still take the time to explain things to their children and teach responsibility and integrity today. Also, I like how the teens had to talk face-to-face about issues and learn how to articulate while listening to the other person as well. It made it more personal rather than simply sending a text.
Him complimenting her before he gave his ring was the absolute sweetest thing ever! I wish our society promoted this type of relationship more instead of emphasizing hookup culture- especially in college.
Not possible in a hypersexualised culture of today. Also, sex and all was taboo back then. That's not healthy. Porn wasn't there. Women were supposed to guard their sexuality. I don't think it was a good societal back then, especially for women
I know they probably dead now but I love how he accepted her feelings about it and doesn't succum to his "friends'" peer pressure to do it. Wholesome short film
I have to say, I was surprised by the willingness of the mother to have what was then a pretty open conversation about sex. I mean nowadays we would emphasize more about things like protection, but so many of the people I've talked to that grew up in this time talk about how nieve they were about anything involving sex. It seems it was pretty common for mothers at that time to not bring up sex at all, just wasn't a proper subject. Some of this might be because of being raised in the south. Not sure, either way, I just liked that they displayed that relationship where the daughter felt comfortable talking about her ",urges" and the mother letting her know they were normal. This was a pretty big step in the right direction to openness and honesty.
Yeah, I was surprised how well the the first scene in particular, actually works, particularly for one of these low budget PSA type things. It treats the subject with a surprising amount of nuance and sensitivity, particularly for the time, as well. It's not perfect, by any means, but it's certainly better than a lot of other media would have treated a similar topic, had it even been brought up at all.
My maternal grandma was fairly open with her daughters regarding sex. My mom was born in 1944. Also my paternal grandma was a nurse and her sex education was very thorough.
After 9 th grade graduation in 1969 I was invited to lunch with my best friend and her mother. My friend barely talked and looked very upset. She said she was fine. We made plans to go to our swim club the next day, but when I stopped to pick her up her mother told me she went to Kentucky to stay with her cousins. She didn’t come back until October. Her mom said she got mono. Which delayed her trip home . I didn’t realise she was taken away to have a baby and give it up until I was in my 50’s. She was never the same after that summer.
@@heavysummer me too. I wish she could have told me. In my 50’s I met up with a mutual friend I hadn’t seen since that summer. He said he knew, he just figured it out. Wow. I had no idea.
Can you imagine going out with a guy and having him willingly and happily dancing and enjoying time with you like that? Amazing. He is respectful, kind, and truly cares deeply about her and her well being. It’s love.
Yeah, I think it all started with Disney's main characters not having any good parental figures... and then young adult novels have a parentless young adult do crazy ass shit.
You may be missing a point: these were part of "educational" films of the 1950 - shown in HS & college psych studies as a way to "teach" morality to a post-war generation. They were not any part of what we consider Entertainment today, and much of the "rebellious youth" movement of late '60s was a reaction AGAINST this heavy handed propaganda.
Maybe it’s because people ignored the abusive things their parents did back then, and had the mindset of “oh they’re my parents, it’s okay if they mistreat me”.
Jeff does NOT seem like the friend zone type. He seems attractive in character. He holds himself responsible, he's not a push over, and I think he'd be a good man. I know it's just a video, but if this were real life, I think he'd do great. He seems like he would be a good leader for his household.
Omg this woman's initial advice on the feelings you get are the most loving, accepting and non critical explanation I've ever heard in my ENTIRE life! Hope to capture this for the children I may one day have 🧡
A lot of those McGraw/Hill and Young America social guidance films end in cliffhanger style. I think the idea is to generate classroom discussion and emphasize the point that, ultimately, we've all got to decide for ourselves how we'll deal with a situation. This is one of the better films, with fairly realistic dialogue. Times and sexual mores have changed, but teens face the same struggles with overwhelming emotions. And the conditions surrounding unplanned pregnancy aren't any better.
Also mothers today have to dispense the same advice…marry before you carry…and we need to get back to shaming woman who aren’t fit feminine and agreeable and men who don’t work hard and buy into rap culture..
Fr real tho, fine yourself a Jeff. What a man. He cute, kind, and understanding of Mary's boundaries and concerns... When Mary says it went too far he admits his fault and apologizes, trying to make it up to her. He stands up to Stu and doesn't let him pressure him into doing something he and Mary don't want to do. Also, "would you wear my school ring" is the CUTEST fricking thing and is actually literally goals
@@ampa4989 I think casual sex needs to go away. Sex is for bonding between long term (hopefully married) couples, not for a random chick you met on tinder
BROTHER TN you know people actually love each other in real life lmao I’m sorry that someone hurt you or that you just can’t find something that special :)
What a sweet young couple, both "good kids", trying to do the right thing. They both have consciences, and really care how they treat each other. I was especially glad to see that sweet quality in Jeff. The modern media focus on macho types, and don't portray kind thoughtful guys very much, so I fear that the real ones sometimes feel invisible. [If you're a good guy reading this, you're very very appreciated!]
It flabbergasts me how the boy appears genuinely bothered by what happened, and addresses the issue right away with her the next day. Havent met very many of that kind of person in this life…..in fact far more the opposite. It’s scary.
This hits so close to home right now. I’m 18 and just finished my first year of college. I find that the hardest challenge was not really in my coursework but learning how to manage relationships and emotions. There’s so much risk associated with acting on just emotion and using your right judgement is honestly a very hard thing. I had complicated questions about dating and friendship and I’m constantly trying to make sure that I make the right choices and hang around the right people. I’ve pretty much just had to accept that at my age, these struggles are to be expected but it’s so hard sometimes. I wish there were more things like this but for teens now! It feels so lonely trying to figure out all these things just to find out that everyone struggles with this at some point. I called my mom one day at school and I told her “ I hate being so young right now” and I wished that I could just skip this stage of not knowing. She laughed and said that it’s just part of life figuring out these things. I’m so grateful for this video right now because it addresses this kind of uncertainty very well!
Eh, I really bumbled my way through heartbreak and friendlessness until like 21-22, but after that I figured out how to handle myself correctly and now I have an easy time making friends and asking people out. My biggest tips are to ask more self-confident than you are and always watching your alcohol intake. Having a drink with friends or a date can be fun, but nobody ever woke up thinkint "wow, I wish I had a few more drinks last night." My rule of thumb is every drink increases the chance of making a fool of yourself by 10%.
Great story and moral. Great kids that you can still find in many places in the world today ! They contain themselves through their education, marry, enter their career, then start a family. A very sensible plan !
I know this is an inaccurate and idealized representation of the 50's in general but respectful relationships, guys in suits, and sweet dance moves seem pretty nice
I remember going to Saturday dances and sock hops during lunchtime at school in the 60's. Boys were a lot more polite and respectful, girls were not slutty.
@@MBAinternetmktg unfortunately the parents of my generation refused to raise their children other than keep them fed and tell them to be quiet, and do their chores for them if they put up too much fuss about it. It has resulted in children (now adults) who feel utterly lost and have had to develop manners by themselves. Tbh i still prefer people now to people who lived in the 1950’s, 50’s people will scold me about my tattoos even if they don’t know me and sigh disapprovingly when they find out I’m a female in engineering. Poodle skirts are not better than being respected for my choices and career, I’d just like to have poodle skirts AND equal pay. Tldr: your generation fucked up the world for my generation so I don’t wanna hear it.
@@JohnPorsbjerg It is a sin to have a tattoo and/or do tattoo. Anyone that does it and/or have it will go to Hell Fire and be tortured there FOREVER. Mind you, Hell Fire is a lake of fire (you know what comes out from a volcano? Lava!) with people inside being tortured FOREVER.
It’s encouraging to read all the comments by people who appreciate and admire the morals and standards of the 1950s. It would be lovely to go back to a society where chastity, marriage and the sanctity of life were revered and upheld as the ideal. Society would be a much better place.
For sure! we must’ve forget though that no society is perfect - even though the 50s got this bit nailed if we think about the racism, sexism, mental health problems and those sorts of issues they are being much better addressed and talked about it todays society. It’s definitely amazing to be able admire something the 50s got right and try and implement it into our own society tho!
I wish most children confided in talking to their parents as open as Mary did, and I wish most parents were that open minded in handling, explaining, or giving advice to their children as nicely and realistically as Mary's mom did. Subject's like this shouldn't be taboo.
It is easier than people think to keep open lines with your kids! I am forever grateful my girls can ask me anything and tell me when they got in a messy situation..ie..drank too much or quit a job..I don't punish..I explain and offer solutions to them..they have learned excellent money management, how to say no when something feels wrong and how to step back and list all the pros and cons of a major decision before deciding! Their likely to handle when things dont work out and learn from it♡ thank you for listening 😊
What a wise, loving and caring mother to help her daughter through all this. If all young girls had a mother like this who is so understanding and supportive there would have been a lot less unwanted pregnancies and a lot better marriages. The mother gets an A plus!!
I agree, AND I think it's also about far more than unwanted pregnancy etc - so much here is about the emotional impact, it seems they understood that back then yet so many today do not.
I think it is positive to wait @nd go slowly. As a queer person, I always wait weeks or months before physical intimacy. Getting to know each other is fun, too.
This film is actually way ahead of its time . She handled the situation amazingly. All mother’s should strive to have that kind of open relationship with their daughters. It’s a shame being a good mother , wife , and home maker is frowned upon these days.
This is way deeper than I expected. Sometimes I watch old stuff bc the camp is amusing. This was just REAL. Love how the mother handles listening too. Also I want to start saying "quite a LARK"
Being open with our kids like this would really help young girls reflect on how they act/are when it comes to liking someone and how to slow down. I want that mother and daughter relationship with my own ❤️
I’ve watched this video many times. I admire the way Mary and her mother handled their talk with each other. It was very nice. The couple did not shun Eileen for having to drop out of school and marry. The party was handled nicely. The music wasn’t blaring. Where people couldn’t talk. Everything was done very respectfully in this video. If the neighbors were inside they wouldn’t know anything was going on. This video gets a five star plus rating from me. We need to get back to the manners and respect that we’re demonstrated in this video.
@@td3993 The movie portrays what the adults making the movie thought that teenagers should be like. In reality, most of them were rocking out to the Rhythm and Blues. Pretty much, the only kids who would have been as prudish and proper as Mary and Jeff would have been religious. And those people would have been twisted up and conflicted about their sexuality- hardly as "mature" and psychologically balanced as the two portrayed here. I was a teenager about ten years after this, in the sixties, but I observed the period portrayed in this movie as a child. And the sexual mores in the movie were still very much a pressure in my young years. From our point of view now, Mary's mother should have said, "Oh honey, don't you dare f**k Jeff until we get you set up with some birth control!" LOL. However, I do have to say that the suppression of one's urges in those days, and the demand for greater commitment, led to a greater degree of emotional intensity in sexual relationships than what might be common now. There was a lot in this movie that touched me with a sort of tender nostalgia, and a longing for things past. But I'm an old man now, and I'll never know those soft beautiful lips again. The desire never goes away, but it doesn't torment my soul like it did when I was young.
As someone who is actually dating a Mary, I approve and this checks out! Both of them have wonderful accountability and respect each other that they cherish each others time and agree that they want to keep going at the steady pace. This video is dated but it still holds up. I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months and were still going strong!
I certainly do, and I still live in a more normal time because I refuse to join in with nowadays' bed hopping, running around with clothes that show one's private parts and look atrocious, and with nowadays' lack of respect and compassion. The price I am paying is heavy though - I get treated as if I were some weirdo, I get stared at because I dress elegantly, and I get attacked by women with "you are delusional" and by men with "do you think you are someone special, other women drop their underwear for me so why not you". Keeping my dignity and self respect however means more to me than getting admired or accepted by a bunch of whores, whether male or female.
@@yvonce7309 Ah same generation as me, I was born in the mid 70's. We still remember more normal times! Nowadays is just insane - some days I can only walk around and shake my head in disbelief at how folks behave now!
@@LittleKitty22 I have no idea where you seem to live, but you really must be exaggerating. I go to a perfectly normal community college and most girls dress modestly because we're all adults who prefer to be comfortable in our day to day tasks. I know plenty of girls who also like to wear long skirts and sweaters because it makes them feel pretty, and rarely do I hear people getting shamed for being a virgin. But from the way your comment is written and your willingness to call other people whores, thereby matching them to YOUR standards, I should say you think of yourself as a pure and special snowflake, hm?
@@sebastianmaker6798 Interesting how you know more than I do about what I am experiencing! Since you know more about my life than I do, despite evidently not living in the real world but in some fantasy bubble full of unicorns and rainbows, maybe you would like to exchange places? I would love to live in a fantasy bubble full of unicorns, ponies and rainbows, and you could do with a hefty dose of reality and some life experience!
This is my fantasy world. Excusing all of the horrific societal issues, (Ex. Racism, women in the workplace, etc.) I would love to be in a world where everybody just respected each other and didn’t treat anybody like trash and apologized when in the wrong.
@@mitzilechat4206 I don't thik so, based on her character she would have called it a mistake and hoped for the best. At that point the baby would already have been conceived, she does not look like a murderer.
People like to criticize these videos from the 50’s by pointing out the domestic abuse problems but what I think people fail to understand is the difference between how it should be vs how it happens. The fact that women weren’t seen by society as they are today doesn’t change the fact that these videos still give good lessons for men and women on how to conduct ourselves. We have an opportunity to live up to these messages, but as I look around today all I see are generations morally wasting themselves.
It's interesting how niceness was an appreciated quality back then. He doesn't say "You're the prettiest, sexiest, hottest girl I've ever met, Mary", he says she's the nicest. I wish being nice were still admired.
Michelle Everett it is!
I've got such strong feelings for a girl. She gives me the butterflies every time I see her. Not because she's the prettiest thing around (too me, she's flawless - but I can see how other guys wouldn't think so), but because she's one of the very few women who've treated me with a little bit of decenty. She doesn't seem to look down her nose at me.
Now, I don't see her often - due to being a freight driver. That everytime she's on my route, I think of asking her out for a coffee... But then, as soon as I see her - I get them funny feelings, and totally chicken out.
Sweet gal to talk with, but I hate myself for not having the guts to ask her out.
I was born like 60 years too late, haha - somedays it'd be nice to have love like our grandparents did.
Timothy Potts man you're so right , it'd be so nice to have like they did
Dammit....just ask her out. You have nothing to lose.
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"Parking at the point," like they mention here, was sometimes just sitting together in their cars, visiting and talking. It was pretty common to sit in each others' cars and visit. If they had a drive-in restaurant, they'd visit there instead.
Timothy Potts what do you mean you could see why other guys don't think she's flawless x
All those kids look so neat and well groomed. They must follow a regimen of regular little habits...oops, wrong video.
Me I love this comment!
hahahaha! i love it.
I see we're all hooked on the same videos. 😁
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Yes😂
"If you just slowdown A LITTLE BIT, then judgment has a BETTER CHANCE to take over" - such wise, realistic, practical advice from the mom.
This used to be common sense 😭
@@NossaSenhoraDasGracas1127Just imagine 😭 😭 😭 😭
I feel like I was born in the wrong generation 😭
Immediately she replied, “it was my fault too” I was blown into the stratosphere with that accountability
Right?? Nowadays you’d never see that type of communication and accountability.
It takes 2 to tango. Nowadays, parents of the girl blame the boy for knocking her up.
It was no one’s fault tho lmao
@@cwayzumsno girls get slut shamed
@@amandamguyre8528 That’s called being humble, attempting to comfort the other in case one or the other feels to blame at your own credibilities expense.
Why am I getting more social education from these 50’s shorts than anywhere else in the modern day?
So true haha ... many things about society today are so messy
We earned a lot, but we also lost good things (nice people being cool for example).
I’m watching it to hopefully get advice!
Run with it! Most of my home is filled with my grandparents and great grandparents things..it amazes me that a 98 year hand mixer still works beautifully! Or that a dresser that was hand made in a barn 120 years ago still looks new! Most of our society is made to be disposable! It seems even common decency and relationships are the same!
@Kiwi Balls Preach!!!
Most understanding mother ever.
Zehn Waters I wish I could have talked with my mother like that, but she blamed me and got angry, instead of realizing I WANTED her advice.
Yeah but she didn't do anything, also her mom advised her about sex which is super rare (imo). I agree most moms would just jump to conclusions or get angry.
@@samara4367 here i am a new mom of a daughter worrying how will i make it possible for my daughter to trust me enough to tell me stuff so i can better advise her. I'm so worried 😔
Kiki don’t worry about it. you’ll do fine 😊
@@janeknox3036 thanks for support dear, i had a neglecting mom myself why i worry, beside saying bad things to me she never spoke as a mom to a daughter. It will be all new for me 😔
I actually think this film is well done...it shows parents as allies rather than enemies, and it acknowledges the feelings that "nice girls" have.
I would have liked, but the count is 404. Very iconic. I wouldn't ruin it.
edit: Which one of you did this?
I could never talk to my mother the way Mary did, so I'm glad she did it for me lol. I'm jealous of everyone who has a good relationship with their parents.
@@AdelineCowgirl I'm so sorry you don't have that sort of relationship with your parents.
Dudes back then looked way hotter than today I think
@@FransceneJK98 it's not about looking hot pay attention.
The important thing to take away from this story is that the girl trusted and respected her mother enough to tell her what happened. Effective communication is severely lacking in today's world.
The important thing to take away from this story is that the mother was understanding and caring instead of belittling her daughter saying SHE would never behave so nasty as if she herself was perfect at that age.
It was even more lacking back then
@@mimi5769Sadly, you are correct.
Despite the unsurprising sexist undertones, this film was actually brilliantly emotionally literate for its time.
@@mimi5769 How do you know though?
@@DrAlexisM Sexist? Where?
That group of kids only went into the classroom to have that conversation about the girl that got pregnant and then left. Shortest meeting ever.
That was very short meet up with friends i think😂
It was about the school yearbook
The girl with the short hair who started talking about Aileen looks like a female version Justin Bieber if you look close enough..
Hahaha! Classy.
lol it's like the scene beside the well in Faust
Then: “you’re the nicest person I know”
Now: “ gurl you thiccer than a snicker”
What about, “She hella fine”? I feel like that’ll sound classier to future generations looking back at us.
😂😂 all that & a bag of chips
Is because the average girl now weights more than the average men they thicker too.
LMFAO it do be kinda true tho-
“Girl, you’re thiccer than a bowl of oatmeal.”
I really felt for the girl who had the baby. Those scene shifts where her actual life appears, despite what she is saying, are powerful.
Did they get Madonna to play her?
I love how they portrayed that all. It was a lesson without being a lecture. They didn't shame the girl, they simply told the truth. I am impressed that this existed in 1957.
bruh the father Fred smoking next to the baby 💀💀. I'm so young idk if that was just normalized at the time or it was supposed to be messed up
@@MrClean-ep7uc No, in those days, guys didn't go through a pack a day, they went through a lighter a day.
Single moms are stunning and brave.
The advice the mom gave in the beginning was spot on, even today. Learn to make your emotions work for you, not against you
How can we apply that to our lives
Can you enlighten me
@@amshooketh for example if someone makes you angry, don't use that anger to hurt them back, but try to understand them and be wiser than them
@@bea8928 thank you !
I also like how the mom made her daughter accountable. Don’t see that much anymore
@@amshookethNo matter what you feel, always put yourself first until the other person has proven they're worth your time
At least they acknowledge the girl having "those kind of feelings."
"Urges." 😁
She makes it sound so cute.
yes, some of these old videos are quite good
😍🔥sometimes❗❗🤣
And acknowledged those feelings as natural, not "dirty"
Yeah but when the daughter said, "He said it was his fault." The mom said, "Was it REALLY his fault"... like the woman always leads the man on or it's always the woman's fault for what a man does to them sexually
Lust is NOT love- good little film. Ageless wisdom here
Shelie Martin but lust is definitely part of love
@@naznimation while sometimes they are in tandem, they are indeed two distinct things.
Silly Rabbit agreed.
Susan Moran sorry but that’s just a really weird analogy. You can have a lot of lust for the person you love that’s fine.
Amethyst Rose I’m talking about romantic love, and there’s nothing wrong with having sex before being in love with the person. It’s not about taking advantage it’s just mutual horniness for one another.
Magnifique. There’s no shaming the girl or boy for having those lustful feelings, and there’s a complete understanding that it’s sometimes hard to deal with those feelings. Very educational and relatable, which I was not expecting for a film from the ‘50’s
They seemed more genuine then lust...
The 50s is a misunderstood era.
You'd be surprised, you probably got your version of events from liberal doctrine.
@@TaxingIsThieving Or maybe we know people from the 50s that aren’t as understanding😭 not everything is political
@@sariaht.5478 true. I was wondering if there were actual mothers back then who took a conversation like that as well as the mother depicted on this film, or if this was only scripted as educational ideology.
I love how Jeff stuck to his guns when Stew was being pushy because he knew Mary was uncomfortable and wanted to keep things more propper. This is a great depiction of healthy boundaries and how to maintain them.
Yeah, I liked that part, when he says, "Clear out, eh?" Firmly but gently.. You described it well: a good model of self-assertion.
“Will you wear my school ring?”
if that isn’t goals idk what is
sunshinethekatt 😂😂😂👍🏻
I said to my husband, I think he just asked her to marry him?! Arent they 16? He said nah it's just for school. Lol
I'm only 38 but back when I was in middle/high school, wearing your bfs letter jacket was the equivalent of wearing his class ring.
meanwhile kids today: *wait why lololololololol lets just go by the house and smoke a bowl*
Sounds like a good way to lose your ring to me.
Mary’s mother is the type of mother I aspire to be. She’s so understanding and so kind to her daughter.
I had a mother that has always been very cold towards me, our relationship has always been horrible.
I really hope you manage to be a good, understanding and fair mother - and teach your children good virtues :)
You can do it Melissa! I was raised as an only child in a family where it was absolutely taboo to talk about anything personal (sex, periods, bras, relationship intimacy, etc) like I remember the speech from my grandmother (my dad's mom) about how if you needed to pass gas you needed to excuse yourself to the restroom to do so. And she lived by this. Even with being married it was taboo to pass gas in front of the husband. So you can imagine how much you weren't allowed to talk about periods or sex!!!! 😳 I knew growing up I would always be open with my children. Now as a mother of all daughters we have an open discussion policy. I mean we do talk privately away from the younger kids but there is NO QUESTION they can't ask! We will answer any question honestly! Sometimes to the horror of our oldest teenager 😂 ohhhh well... She asks so she gets the truth 😄... Anyhow, I wanted them to be able to talk to us about anything. They still don't always tell you everything. I think that's just the nature of teenagers no matter how hard you try 🙄🤦♀️ and I hope my daughter's turn out to be even better parents than us, but you can be as good of a parent as you strive to be! None of us are ever perfect. We will inevitably mess up somewhere. But just know that you can totally be the parent you want to be no matter how you were raised! 🥰
Same
Oh, I suspect her mother swung from a few.
Make sure you don't copy her frightful drawn eyebrows.
My courtship was like this and I got married in 2005. We dated 2 years no sex until marriage. He’s my one and only. We have a really happy life together and we’re raising our kids with these values.
Good for ypu.
Sounds torturous
So beautiful! ❤
Tbh that he was the only person you dated is kinda sus. I know some religions marry off their young men and women at 18 but it’s just dumb.
I am happy for you Antonia
They didn't actually say sex is bad. They just advocated not acting like an idiot. Nice 👍
Having a low body count is a good thing. Having a no-body count before marriage is even better.
@@davidparker9676 Or, let people do whatever they want with their own bodies and mind your own business.
@@logand450 I didn't say people can't, I said they shouldn't.
Otherwise they will end up miserable like you.
I like how for once the guy in a film doesn't pressure the girl into sex. He seems to regret going so far and apologizes for doing so. And he's very sweet. In most films like this (Grease for example) the guy pressures the girl, and she usually gives in because that's apparently how love works. I like Jeff. Good for him.
You're mistaken both Mary and Jeff got caught up in a physical passion. Don't think that it's just the man's fault. Woman have urges too.
@@ericastier1646 Yeah I think that's what the og commenter was saying that it was mutually consensual unlike how it usually is shown.
I was a teenager back then and it wasn't THAT frustrating - the nice girls we dated were technically 'virgins' but did just about everything else.
mary is so sweet too
The point of the video was about making good judgments on sex and not letting your emotions and hormones dictate your decisions, and also the consequences of making the wrong decisions. It's about better sorting out one's feelings to make better choices, I'm pretty sure guys have feelings too.
Ugh. Imagine being able to have a relationship with your mother like that. Not ashamed to say I crave it.
I'm a mom and grandmother and I'm happy to say my kids and I have that relationship. I never had that with my parents though
Not many have the courage to actually admit that,even thought you don't have that with your mom you can always start today or look for someone who is wise invest yourself so that you can have that kind of a perspective from someone you can consider a mam and wisdom wise also.
She's acting though
@@ddeyoung73 Thanks captain obvious
@@dunprince_ke Good gosh spell check is your friend.
I love how her mother doesnt call the feelings love, but strong feelings that can lead to a love that will last. Lust and love are not the same but today we equate the two way to often
Im 17 and looking at this makes me wish that i could've grown up in this time, or atleast have the same values today. This is real love, and thinking about how I've partook in modern dating culture makes me feel as if ive been doing it all wrong this whole time
You’ve got your whole life ahead of you, and your choices are your own. You sound very mature. The world is blessed to have you here.
I’m 65 and wish the same! The pill had been on the scene for a while and the sexual revolution underway by the time I was 17. The idea of sex without consequences changed everything. Society has been on a downhill roll ever since.
Hi. Have you tried to talk them? Maybe your mom is shy? If she is too afraid to talk then talk to your school conselor. Thats why they are there. ❤ Take care.
Not to promote my religion/faith but there are Christian men and women who promote these types of values/ lifestyle 😊, who live it out daily (i included). I use to be wordly, and i ended up feeling gross and angry/cynical about people and relationships. And then I repented and now am in a healthy relationship with a man who shares my same values. I know you can find that too. Regardless if your Christian or not :)😊 Your so young wish i would have known what you knew at your age. God bless!
@@robbailey464 It's not the "sex without consequences" that's the problem; it's the belligerent expectations of sex that are the problem.
i like these oldtvtime movies...
not to judge, agree or disagree, but just to see how things were in a different time period
Same
Same
+Priscila Sandoval Wow same! I don't know if you'd be interested but there's this amazing documentary called 56 up. It looks at a group of 56 year olds and shows their lives at 7, 14, 21, 28, 35... you get the picture. It's really interesting though. It's currently on CZcams.
odeerg my father is 83 and he would disagree with you. he said it was really nice in America up til about 1965 or so. then sexual sickness took over
Ah, 1950s America, the greatest country that never existed!
I wish it was like this. Both parties take responsibility for their actions and think about them.
If it’s any consolation, the rate of teen pregnancies this decade (2010s) are far lower than they were in the 1950s.
@@BlackCover95 that's because of birthcontrol...
@DeadLittlePunkDoll when did i say there was anything wrong with it? 🤔🤔
@@fridasophia5356 eh be a bit more mature would you? No need for crude language.
If you're in a healthy relationship it is exactly like that, both parties are responsible and communicating. Although it seems a healthy relationship is hard to find nowadays, though was it easier in the 50s? I don't know, I wasn't around back then
The way he stopped and took her home when she said so and ran after her saying he was sorry 😭 what a man
Okay but the way he kisses her....so gentle and affectionately...Ive never seen anything like it in modern movies
Jeff was so genuine with Mary and I really appreciate that. He’s so honest with her, that’s an admirable quality. She’s got a good guy.
@The Jubilant News what?
You do realize these are actors following a script?!
@@michellemartinmartin2449 I think Lillian was talking about the characters, not the actors.
Everyone named Jeff is great I guess
Right! I love that too. 🙂
Where the heck were these people when I was in school? I would've liked those sophisticated parties and the nice dancing. :'(
twerkong while raeding this
They were probably the parents or grandparents of the people who you were in school with, depending on how old you are.
haha . same here. I didn't date at all in high school. I thought there was something wrong with me. fast forward 20 years.. I am told the reason 'it was because you were too nice. We didn't think you had a 'bad girl' inside of you" I am like huh??? oook. because now they like me!
You could host parties like this, you've got nothing to lose
In a fictional universe where ideals were portrayed.
In those days, there was no shame in waiting. Nobody trying to convince you that if you didn’t have sex, you weren’t cool.
Stew 😂😂
That’s because when it comes to sex and hookup culture the morals went downhill
Being a virgin is not an insult
I think we have all fallen in love with Jeff. What an amazing guy! Also, her mother was really supportive and nonjudgemental. This clip was a lot more likable than I thought it would be. It does seem like the couple who had a baby had completely ruined their lives and in reality it doesn’t have to end like that. But otherwise I think it was a nice clip.
In reality NOW it doesn't have to end like that- after massive struggles by the boomers to change everything - through the sexual revolution and civil rights movement. Many of us were the first women allowed at our colleges - before that, they were for men ONLY.
I totally agree! I was pleasantly surprised with the sensitivity, honesty, and the pretty progressive openness of the Mother!
The couple who had the baby didn't ruin their lives as they chose life over murdering their baby & risking hell for aeternity.
I think the portrayal of the young couple with the baby was accurate for the time. Based on the conversations I’ve had with my older relatives, getting pregnant in school really made you a social pariah.
It’s honestly surprising they kept the baby. It was apparently common for the teenage girl to be “sent away” for pregnancy, so everyone could pretend it didn’t happen, and then someone else takes the baby. Though I’m sure that varied from place to place.
@@Thomas-lg6jxshut up cringe pro lifer
Stu has no boundaries. He wants to have sex in someone else's car while Jeff and Mary are still in the car.
Best comment 😂
Yeah really!! Why isn't anyone else commenting on this?!
and the girl looked very uncomfortable
Not to mention he seemed to expect Jeff & Mary to want to have sex in the car, too. That's just weird...
@@BlueMHart Stu's up for a group hoop! What a horndog.😏
"Your the nicest girl iv ever met"
Underrated line now a days.
Yeah, sadly
I am surprised that they did not stack the records on the machine for continuous music.
Does anyone say that to their girl nowadays?
I'd still like to hear it from a guy instead of F*boys saying "I love everyone"
It might have been the truth. Sometimes being honest doesnt require a line.
OMG HOW ROMANTIC WAS THE RING AND KISS SCENE- I WOULD HAVE FAINTED!!!!!!!
Yes, but it's less romantic when you take into account that Mary is 37 and still in high school. Then it's kind of sad.
What a mature, understanding mother. She did not shame her daughter, but gave her sound advice. I know it was explained in a diplomatic way in the 1950s, but it got a very good point across. I hope parents still take the time to explain things to their children and teach responsibility and integrity today. Also, I like how the teens had to talk face-to-face about issues and learn how to articulate while listening to the other person as well. It made it more personal rather than simply sending a text.
Imagine him sending a text to her at 12am the same night: “hey sorry babe plz”
Him complimenting her before he gave his ring was the absolute sweetest thing ever! I wish our society promoted this type of relationship more instead of emphasizing hookup culture- especially in college.
Haha a simp back in the day
I love being in a healthy relationship ❤
Not possible in a hypersexualised culture of today.
Also, sex and all was taboo back then. That's not healthy.
Porn wasn't there.
Women were supposed to guard their sexuality.
I don't think it was a good societal back then, especially for women
@@kjbennie9245 Only considered in 2021 now
@@jorgenvonstrangle000 true
I really need to study but I've been watching these old shows for an hour now.
Shut uppp omg.... u making me feel guilty while I'm procrastinating
These are educational films, don't worry about it
Its nine PM and I have math homework but I'm really procrastinating
Cinnie Cinnie Quick watch the movie on responsibility stat
Same
I know they probably dead now but I love how he accepted her feelings about it and doesn't succum to his "friends'" peer pressure to do it. Wholesome short film
They are not in their late sixties, try middle to late eighties
That's a guy with a spine
Jeff is a gentleman and the mother is supportive. Truly amazing short 😊
1957: "Youre the nicest girl I know."
2019: "Damn, girl! You fine as hell."
Touche.
LOL, true story!
Honestly, yes
ExploringLA FAN 😂😂
Lmao
I have to say, I was surprised by the willingness of the mother to have what was then a pretty open conversation about sex. I mean nowadays we would emphasize more about things like protection, but so many of the people I've talked to that grew up in this time talk about how nieve they were about anything involving sex. It seems it was pretty common for mothers at that time to not bring up sex at all, just wasn't a proper subject. Some of this might be because of being raised in the south. Not sure, either way, I just liked that they displayed that relationship where the daughter felt comfortable talking about her ",urges" and the mother letting her know they were normal. This was a pretty big step in the right direction to openness and honesty.
I think it was pretty rare, thus this instructional film.
Yeah, I was surprised how well the the first scene in particular, actually works, particularly for one of these low budget PSA type things. It treats the subject with a surprising amount of nuance and sensitivity, particularly for the time, as well. It's not perfect, by any means, but it's certainly better than a lot of other media would have treated a similar topic, had it even been brought up at all.
The film is making the mother talk cause mothers didn't do it
You can thank Golden Girls for the opposite, they put everything out in the open!
My maternal grandma was fairly open with her daughters regarding sex. My mom was born in 1944. Also my paternal grandma was a nurse and her sex education was very thorough.
Excellent! Wish I had this kind of guidance as a teenager in the 70’s. Our society now values feelings over judgment and the results are catastrophic.
Our society is just in the toilet
@@johnbenedetto3096demographics
After 9 th grade graduation in 1969 I was invited to lunch with my best friend and her mother. My friend barely talked and looked very upset. She said she was fine.
We made plans to go to our swim club the next day, but when I stopped to pick her up her mother told me she went to Kentucky to stay with her cousins.
She didn’t come back until October. Her mom said she got mono. Which delayed her trip home .
I didn’t realise she was taken away to have a baby and give it up until I was in my 50’s.
She was never the same after that summer.
This makes me sad.
@@heavysummer me too. I wish she could have told me. In my 50’s I met up with a mutual friend I hadn’t seen since that summer. He said he knew, he just figured it out. Wow. I had no idea.
That is sad.
12 years later, in 81, a very similar thing would happen to my mother and me but they ended up keeping me.
I love how hey talk about their classmates that got pregnant like they’re dead
Rachel Carr ikr it was hilarious 😂😂
Their life certainly was over.
Was this video made before the invention of condoms?
Zeek Banistor enter Spring Awakening
I love the euphemisms they had for a pregnant schoolgirl. "She had to visit her aunt flo" or something. 😁
If that mom blinks just a wee bit more, she can actually take flight.
😂😂😂
rachelle e. I know right?
That eyebrow game....
LMAOO
HAHA
I like how Jeff opened the door for Mary even though it was her house. A gentleman
I like how men should open the door for women and women don't need to reciprocate these actions at all. Doesn't seem one sided at all.
Nothing can replace the peaceful feeling when listening to these songs on a rainy afternoon. 🌧
This is so sweet, and so mature. I love that they actually show messing around with your feelings as unwise. It really is risky.
They didn't film when Jeff and Mary went off to that swinger club in bad part of town.
Something Very Special About The 1950s That Other Countries Still Emulate.
@@jimbailey5681 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Feelings can put your eye out.
it is confusing if you do not know what you want. nothing about it being unwise.
They sound more educated than people today.
Aysiah Examines it’s because they are 🙀🙀🙀
BROTHER TN It’s because they were*
Charlotte Morgan see... that just proves how dumb I am 😹😹😹
It's the trans-atlantic accent as well that makes them sound more refined.
I mean she got a nice mother
Our culture has shifted so far from this level headed understanding of emotions, relationships, and parenthood and it truly is sobering to see.
These are the best moral series I have ever seen in my life. I am 42 years old. I have a real respect for these short US series from 1940s and 1950s.
I can't believe that's that was a USA made series
I think I'm in love with Jeff
:) hahaha silly
Me too
If more guys now a days acted like Jeff, then there would be more attractive men. It's mostly attitude that makes a man attractive.
@@heidithomas5455 truee
@@heidithomas5455 Nah, he's just tall and handsome, that's all
It's sad how Eileen is doing her best to assure them that everything is wonderful when in reality it's less than ideal.
Like when they ‘both enjoy having a quiet evening together at home.’ 11:10.
Yes. My heart truly broke for her.
Truth is, we ALL do that. Orrr have done it in the past
That broke my heart. It represents the reality people have with conversations with others about what their life is really like.
Can you imagine going out with a guy and having him willingly and happily dancing and enjoying time with you like that? Amazing. He is respectful, kind, and truly cares deeply about her and her well being. It’s love.
Can you imagine woman being fit feminine and agreeable and submissive to a man today like back then?
Well I can 🤭 why not haha ;3
I'm from Russia but I really like this old tv shows. It feels like home. It feels like love.
It feels like warm blanket.
This was before tv started portraying parents as the enemy or as idiotic goofballs.
That’s when it all went downhill.
You mean back when they treated parents like parental figures?
Yeah, I think it all started with Disney's main characters not having any good parental figures... and then young adult novels have a parentless young adult do crazy ass shit.
You may be missing a point: these were part of "educational" films of the 1950 - shown in HS & college psych studies as a way to "teach" morality to a post-war generation. They were not any part of what we consider Entertainment today, and much of the "rebellious youth" movement of late '60s was a reaction AGAINST this heavy handed propaganda.
Maybe it’s because people ignored the abusive things their parents did back then, and had the mindset of “oh they’re my parents, it’s okay if they mistreat me”.
Jeff does NOT seem like the friend zone type. He seems attractive in character. He holds himself responsible, he's not a push over, and I think he'd be a good man. I know it's just a video, but if this were real life, I think he'd do great. He seems like he would be a good leader for his household.
jackiechan4AAR lol wut
Fucking neckbeard lmao
Definitely. He is an example of an attractive behavior.
Maryjane D. Admiring someone’s qualities makes you a neckbeard?
Caught Lackinn Don’t talk to the hole, she’s gone sour
Omg this woman's initial advice on the feelings you get are the most loving, accepting and non critical explanation I've ever heard in my ENTIRE life! Hope to capture this for the children I may one day have 🧡
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
This is timeless. A wisdom not taught anymore. I wasn’t taught this and this video is only 20 yrs older than me.
WHY DID IT END LIKE THAT I GOT WAY TOO INVESTED IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP SSKSNKAJAJHAKJS
yo fr i was like " this is the best psa ever "
Their story is continued in the 1961 film, "Splendor in the Grass"
A lot of those McGraw/Hill and Young America social guidance films end in cliffhanger style. I think the idea is to generate classroom discussion and emphasize the point that, ultimately, we've all got to decide for ourselves how we'll deal with a situation. This is one of the better films, with fairly realistic dialogue. Times and sexual mores have changed, but teens face the same struggles with overwhelming emotions. And the conditions surrounding unplanned pregnancy aren't any better.
Omg sameee
SAME
What a wise mother. So gentle and understanding.
It is acting, LOL
Perfect for an educational film.
It's an actress.
@@bluesclues1527 *Figment.
But the mother portrayed was very open and measued with her daughter. She didn't come down like fire and brimstone.
props to the mother for being gentle and accepting with her daughter. we need more parents like this today
Hello 👋...
Also mothers today have to dispense the same advice…marry before you carry…and we need to get back to shaming woman who aren’t fit feminine and agreeable and men who don’t work hard and buy into rap culture..
So beautiful how back in the day people had morals and respected each other
Fr real tho, fine yourself a Jeff. What a man. He cute, kind, and understanding of Mary's boundaries and concerns... When Mary says it went too far he admits his fault and apologizes, trying to make it up to her. He stands up to Stu and doesn't let him pressure him into doing something he and Mary don't want to do. Also, "would you wear my school ring" is the CUTEST fricking thing and is actually literally goals
I agree but it’s so uncomfortable to read that because my dad’s name is Jeff.
It all starts with abstaining from casual sex. But all the sex positive feminism has just about ruined everything.
@@ampa4989 I think casual sex needs to go away. Sex is for bonding between long term (hopefully married) couples, not for a random chick you met on tinder
are you anywhere near Mary?
I have me a Jeff🙏🏽♥️
the way he looks at her
Victoria Whitlock yes, just like in movies today... it’s all fictional! This movie was never real life!
@@brothertn708 ugh you are so boring
Never knows best you’re a delusional idiot!
@@brothertn708 you're a dummy
BROTHER TN you know people actually love each other in real life lmao I’m sorry that someone hurt you or that you just can’t find something that special :)
What a sweet young couple, both "good kids", trying to do the right thing. They both have consciences, and really care how they treat each other. I was especially glad to see that sweet quality in Jeff. The modern media focus on macho types, and don't portray kind thoughtful guys very much, so I fear that the real ones sometimes feel invisible. [If you're a good guy reading this, you're very very appreciated!]
It flabbergasts me how the boy appears genuinely bothered by what happened, and addresses the issue right away with her the next day. Havent met very many of that kind of person in this life…..in fact far more the opposite. It’s scary.
Her mother is like a therapist! Really calming advice...
This woman got a phd low key
Maybe she was.
Kinda like that 80s show, growing pains. the dad was a psychiatrist.
I think it's called being a parent. People forgot how to be parents these days.
@@cherylangel1714 just what I was thinking
"Eileen was a real good friend of mine ....." heck it sounds like she died!
She might as well be. She's a mom.
That's how girls who got pregnant were treated. Their lives were basically over.
Vydio out of wedock pregnancies were so scandalous back I the day. Girls left school and we're outcasts
Socialy on that time she died, anybody will want to talk or been near to her, so that is why they talk of her like she is dead
Karen Chastain sad that nothing happened to the fathers too
This hits so close to home right now. I’m 18 and just finished my first year of college. I find that the hardest challenge was not really in my coursework but learning how to manage relationships and emotions. There’s so much risk associated with acting on just emotion and using your right judgement is honestly a very hard thing. I had complicated questions about dating and friendship and I’m constantly trying to make sure that I make the right choices and hang around the right people. I’ve pretty much just had to accept that at my age, these struggles are to be expected but it’s so hard sometimes. I wish there were more things like this but for teens now! It feels so lonely trying to figure out all these things just to find out that everyone struggles with this at some point. I called my mom one day at school and I told her “ I hate being so young right now” and I wished that I could just skip this stage of not knowing. She laughed and said that it’s just part of life figuring out these things. I’m so grateful for this video right now because it addresses this kind of uncertainty very well!
Congratulations for being on the list of the top 1.018.160 luckiest people.
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.
@@samtrujillojr I hope I do! I heard that your 20s can be a crazy time so hopefully I make the right choices then too😅
@@catabakies69 Do I get a full tuition scholarship now? I could really use one 😂
Eh, I really bumbled my way through heartbreak and friendlessness until like 21-22, but after that I figured out how to handle myself correctly and now I have an easy time making friends and asking people out. My biggest tips are to ask more self-confident than you are and always watching your alcohol intake. Having a drink with friends or a date can be fun, but nobody ever woke up thinkint "wow, I wish I had a few more drinks last night." My rule of thumb is every drink increases the chance of making a fool of yourself by 10%.
Great story and moral. Great kids that you can still find in many places in the world today ! They contain themselves through their education, marry, enter their career, then start a family. A very sensible plan !
Also applies right now to some cultural groups here in the US. "In the world but not of the world."
I know this is an inaccurate and idealized representation of the 50's in general but respectful relationships, guys in suits, and sweet dance moves seem pretty nice
I remember going to Saturday dances and sock hops during lunchtime at school in the 60's. Boys were a lot more polite and respectful, girls were not slutty.
@@MBAinternetmktg unfortunately the parents of my generation refused to raise their children other than keep them fed and tell them to be quiet, and do their chores for them if they put up too much fuss about it. It has resulted in children (now adults) who feel utterly lost and have had to develop manners by themselves. Tbh i still prefer people now to people who lived in the 1950’s, 50’s people will scold me about my tattoos even if they don’t know me and sigh disapprovingly when they find out I’m a female in engineering. Poodle skirts are not better than being respected for my choices and career, I’d just like to have poodle skirts AND equal pay.
Tldr: your generation fucked up the world for my generation so I don’t wanna hear it.
I know, I think we can learn a lot from these eras :)
@@JohnPorsbjerg It is a sin to have a tattoo and/or do tattoo.
Anyone that does it and/or have it will go to Hell Fire and be tortured there FOREVER.
Mind you, Hell Fire is a lake of fire (you know what comes out from a volcano? Lava!) with people inside being tortured FOREVER.
@@TedEhioghae you proved my point so well! Old people are rude!
Jeff is a babe.
Agreed
Yassss
Hot!!
He really is. Would love to know the actor’s name.
@@papadop Same here, he's so handsome!
WE DESPERATELY NEED THESE TYPES OF SHORT FILMS IN THE TWENTY FIRST CENTURY MORE THAN EVER!
It’s encouraging to read all the comments by people who appreciate and admire the morals and standards of the 1950s.
It would be lovely to go back to a society where chastity, marriage and the sanctity of life were revered and upheld as the ideal. Society would be a much better place.
If you actually wanted that then you would move to the middle east. You clearly don’t want that if you haven’t
For sure! we must’ve forget though that no society is perfect - even though the 50s got this bit nailed if we think about the racism, sexism, mental health problems and those sorts of issues they are being much better addressed and talked about it todays society. It’s definitely amazing to be able admire something the 50s got right and try and implement it into our own society tho!
Poor Mary, it must be very confusing having these feelings when you're 38.
They all look that age don't they and they're supposed to be High school students LOL.
Haaahaaa 😂
😂
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Lmao 😂
I wish most children confided in talking to their parents as open as Mary did, and I wish most parents were that open minded in handling, explaining, or giving advice to their children as nicely and realistically as Mary's mom did. Subject's like this shouldn't be taboo.
It is easier than people think to keep open lines with your kids! I am forever grateful my girls can ask me anything and tell me when they got in a messy situation..ie..drank too much or quit a job..I don't punish..I explain and offer solutions to them..they have learned excellent money management, how to say no when something feels wrong and how to step back and list all the pros and cons of a major decision before deciding! Their likely to handle when things dont work out and learn from it♡ thank you for listening 😊
Mine was that good at explaining everything.
Single moms are incapable of raising children in a logical manner too emotional….
What a wise, loving and caring mother to help her daughter through all this. If all young girls had a mother like this who is so understanding and supportive there would have been a lot less unwanted pregnancies and a lot better marriages. The mother gets an A plus!!
I agree, AND I think it's also about far more than unwanted pregnancy etc - so much here is about the emotional impact, it seems they understood that back then yet so many today do not.
This will get you brokenhearted in today's era
We should be, our values are degrading
I like this vid. It's sweet. I want my life to end up like this. Slow and steady. Courting in my opinion is the best way to go. It would be fun!
I think it is positive to wait @nd go slowly. As a queer person, I always wait weeks or months before physical intimacy. Getting to know each other is fun, too.
Courting costs money.
It's better for me to shun relationships altogether.
@studying season Okay, have you not heard of Tinder and hookup culture? Courting is dead.
@studying season The Sexual Revolution, ironically, took all the anticipation and "oomph" outta sex. Just another syrupy dopamine hit...
@@EmmieTuesday was stating your sexual orientation necessary? I'm sure that no one thinks that lgbt people fall in love or date differently. So extra.
This film is actually way ahead of its time . She handled the situation amazingly. All mother’s should strive to have that kind of open relationship with their daughters. It’s a shame being a good mother , wife , and home maker is frowned upon these days.
Most homemakers ignore the naysayers.
Being a "Mr. Mom" seems more frowned upon; such men are referred to as "simps."
I'd love to be a housewife but I can't afford it
Not frowned upon at all, simply unrealistic unless you can have a single income household with enough space for a kid or kids.
I think our parents generation just sucked and their’s didn’t
The leads’ acting was great. But shit got dark fast for Aileen. Real dark.
This is way deeper than I expected. Sometimes I watch old stuff bc the camp is amusing. This was just REAL. Love how the mother handles listening too. Also I want to start saying "quite a LARK"
“Will you wear my school ring” why am I crying in the clubbbb 😍😭😭😭
How did you even hear this in the club? 😂
Ben M haha crying in the club is an expression. I wasn’t actually at the club lol 😂
Ohhh, I was confused too. What does it mean?? 😀
Wat is a school ring?
🤣🤣🤣🤣 get it together lorerley !we are strong women we cry in our pillows like regular folks 🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😢
I love the mom's reaction when she said "it was so close".
Closes her eyes like, "ahhhh boy here we go"
Tee hee hee
Just the tip
Close but no cigar!
marquezroxio she was like ah shit
I love the conversation between mother and daughter, it was much better than ANY conversation I had about the subject as a teenager.
Being open with our kids like this would really help young girls reflect on how they act/are when it comes to liking someone and how to slow down. I want that mother and daughter relationship with my own ❤️
We need to have these discussions with *boys*, too.
It’s because the mom is fit feminine and agreeable and being led be a 1950’s traditional man that allows the mom to focus on family not her career
Their romance is so cute!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’ve watched this video many times. I admire the way Mary and her mother handled their talk with each other. It was very nice. The couple did not shun Eileen for having to drop out of school and marry. The party was handled nicely. The music wasn’t blaring. Where people couldn’t talk. Everything was done very respectfully in this video. If the neighbors were inside they wouldn’t know anything was going on. This video gets a five star plus rating from me. We need to get back to the manners and respect that we’re demonstrated in this video.
Many youth weren't even listening to that music anymore at that time. Some of the music even had an early 40s feel to it.
@@td3993 The movie portrays what the adults making the movie thought that teenagers should be like. In reality, most of them were rocking out to the Rhythm and Blues. Pretty much, the only kids who would have been as prudish and proper as Mary and Jeff would have been religious. And those people would have been twisted up and conflicted about their sexuality- hardly as "mature" and psychologically balanced as the two portrayed here.
I was a teenager about ten years after this, in the sixties, but I observed the period portrayed in this movie as a child. And the sexual mores in the movie were still very much a pressure in my young years. From our point of view now, Mary's mother should have said, "Oh honey, don't you dare f**k Jeff until we get you set up with some birth control!" LOL.
However, I do have to say that the suppression of one's urges in those days, and the demand for greater commitment, led to a greater degree of emotional intensity in sexual relationships than what might be common now. There was a lot in this movie that touched me with a sort of tender nostalgia, and a longing for things past. But I'm an old man now, and I'll never know those soft beautiful lips again. The desire never goes away, but it doesn't torment my soul like it did when I was young.
@@donnievance1942 wow, well articulated, thank you
As someone who is actually dating a Mary, I approve and this checks out! Both of them have wonderful accountability and respect each other that they cherish each others time and agree that they want to keep going at the steady pace. This video is dated but it still holds up.
I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months and were still going strong!
Timeless, wise and prudent advice.
10:22 this scene is so saddening. Early scenes of a broken home.
@Willie Trombone Are you ok? That relationship sounds abusive.
I was wondering if I was the only one who picked up on that.
@Willie Trombone Honestly same tf
@Willie Trombone And women aren't? You got cam girls making money off simps, selling their "bathwater."
Edward Gaines at least they working for it 😌😌
Does anyone else use these films to escape the modern world and fantasize that the world is still like this?
I certainly do, and I still live in a more normal time because I refuse to join in with nowadays' bed hopping, running around with clothes that show one's private parts and look atrocious, and with nowadays' lack of respect and compassion. The price I am paying is heavy though - I get treated as if I were some weirdo, I get stared at because I dress elegantly, and I get attacked by women with "you are delusional" and by men with "do you think you are someone special, other women drop their underwear for me so why not you".
Keeping my dignity and self respect however means more to me than getting admired or accepted by a bunch of whores, whether male or female.
Little Kitty
I’m the same way too. I was born in the late 60’s.🌺
@@yvonce7309 Ah same generation as me, I was born in the mid 70's. We still remember more normal times! Nowadays is just insane - some days I can only walk around and shake my head in disbelief at how folks behave now!
@@LittleKitty22 I have no idea where you seem to live, but you really must be exaggerating. I go to a perfectly normal community college and most girls dress modestly because we're all adults who prefer to be comfortable in our day to day tasks. I know plenty of girls who also like to wear long skirts and sweaters because it makes them feel pretty, and rarely do I hear people getting shamed for being a virgin. But from the way your comment is written and your willingness to call other people whores, thereby matching them to YOUR standards, I should say you think of yourself as a pure and special snowflake, hm?
@@sebastianmaker6798 Interesting how you know more than I do about what I am experiencing!
Since you know more about my life than I do, despite evidently not living in the real world but in some fantasy bubble full of unicorns and rainbows, maybe you would like to exchange places? I would love to live in a fantasy bubble full of unicorns, ponies and rainbows, and you could do with a hefty dose of reality and some life experience!
This is my fantasy world. Excusing all of the horrific societal issues, (Ex. Racism, women in the workplace, etc.) I would love to be in a world where everybody just respected each other and didn’t treat anybody like trash and apologized when in the wrong.
I think they did an extremely balanced reality of the passions and the realities of having a baby put of wedlock.
The mom's relief after she knew Mary didn't sleep with Jeff!! Everything was smooth sailing after that!!
Yeah, her brow looked like it was knitting a sweater. 👀
I wonder how they would have reacted if she was intimate with him. Especially with a kind mother like her , how would she react I wonder 🤔🤔
@@callmeso3714 she would have made an appointment with the GYN the next day and would make him put her on gasp birth control!!!!!!
@@mitzilechat4206 I don't thik so, based on her character she would have called it a mistake and hoped for the best. At that point the baby would already have been conceived, she does not look like a murderer.
Everyone’s name was Mary back then.
A lot of Susans, Helens, and Judys too.
Because of Jane
Well, Mary is kind of a generic name. That said, I think Mary was a popular girl's name in the forties and fifties.
And every guy is either Henry or George
And then there's me, having only met one Mary in my generation.
People like to criticize these videos from the 50’s by pointing out the domestic abuse problems but what I think people fail to understand is the difference between how it should be vs how it happens. The fact that women weren’t seen by society as they are today doesn’t change the fact that these videos still give good lessons for men and women on how to conduct ourselves. We have an opportunity to live up to these messages, but as I look around today all I see are generations morally wasting themselves.
And honestly if you really think domestic abuse is less prevalent now, you are just ignorant. It was less hidden in the 50s.
Bro the way their closing their eyes while dancing slowly, feeling the moment? Wow, this films are really raising my standards.