This was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever watched because it’s so realistic. I’ve seen movies and tv shows with sexual abuse, but nothing comes to close to the raw honesty from this episode. Especially how he said he wished he’d left, stormed out and never came back, but he stayed for 2 more days. My heart just broke for Richard Gadd after this episode.
bryce was spot on in the outro discussion honestly. as a survivor myself, for *years* i would question myself, whether i wanted it, whether i brought it on, why i didn't handle it better, why i didn't try harder to stop it, questioned my sexuality, etc. and it got to me for so long, so yeah it's very common for victims to feel that way about their abuse unfortunately. anyways, i'm proud of you guys for getting through this episode, definitely the hardest one🫂
I think y’all may have missed that this is all five years earlier. Darrien did introduce him to hard drugs. I’m also afraid you missed the trigger warning at the start. When it hits that Richard Gadd was reenacting his own experience, it hurts on a deeper level. That man is brave as hell.
Devil's advocate: if Gadd never had such a traumatic life, he would never have had acquired the success he now has. He would have remained as plain and average as everyone in this comment section.
@@laze4534and the conclusion that brings you to is what? That trauma needs to happen for success? I certainly hope not because that would be a really obtuse conclusion considering lots of people in the comments have experienced trauma and did not reach *the "celebrity" level of success just as much as there are people who never experienced trauma and reached great levels of success.
@@that.ll_do_pig It can, if you use it the way Gaad did. But not everyone has the intellect he has to translate trauma into a book or a show etc. The more philosophical point is that the scale in which a person can know love and happiness is limited by the scale of pain and suffering they've been exposed to. People who are raised in absolute utopia where nothing bad ever happens to them, will never ever be able to be as fulfilled and as happy as those who have overcome great strife and pain.
This made me definitely understand why Donny was entertaining Martha because yes nice people can offer her a drink and move on or set the boundaries right away but people pleasers or egotistical people have this sense of what if i keep doing this? And maybe it’ll be fine. He’s so self aware about it but he’s STILL a victim and sometimes those things lead to very reckless decisions. I can’t be mad at him, I never will be
one of the things i love about this channel is how empathetic you guys are, you can tell you’re genuinely good people (zuff included! although he’s not in this reaction)
@@anais6654He has the emotional maturity level of a middle school boy. I much prefer when it's just Rob and Bryce. They're way more insightful and less annoying.
@@schuylermorgan9627 politely disagreeing with that one, zuff has several times been the first to pick up on implicit emotional aspects of a show and he’s just as empathetic and thoughtful as the other two. i think that especially comes across in romance reactions because he seems to connect with the story a lot. as for the laughing i think it’s often out of nervousness or excitement and it doesn’t always have to be seen as immaturity just because it’s laughter. i find him to be just as integral a part of the channel as the others :)
@@summermetcalfe1628 He also joked about beating a child who was autistic in a movie or show. I'm autistic and don't have to like him or the dumb shit he says. Sorry you don't like that I don't like Zuff, but it is what it is.
I don't watch this series with certain reactors, or at least not this episode. But I know you guys will treat this episode with the thought and respect it deserves.
when I first watched this, I don't think I've watched something so saddening, raw, and real. Again, the creator had so much courage showing us this. I hope every time I think about this show that he is okay. This show may have help so many others out there who are or were suffering in silence. It's not your fault
This and I May Destroy You have been two of the most triggering but healing shows I've watched that deal with this subject matter. Both Richard Gadd and Michaela Coel (who also based her show around her own experiences) were both so raw and vulnerable with their depictions. They're both incredibly brave to put this out for audiences to view and judge even. I couldn't praise them or even be able to express the kind of gratitude I felt for being able to watch them both and feel less shame or blame towards my own experiences. It's so real and relatable in so many ways. I'll only ever watch both of those shows once but the impact will last forever, I still remember all of it.
This was a really difficult watch honestly iv never seen such a honest portrayal of sexual abuse like that knowing he went through that breaks my heart I hope he has found some healing since will never be watching that again
My favorite episode from the series. I also think it was the most important, of the series. It shows that men don’t need to be ashamed. And maybe we don’t know why people have seemingly “given up”
I could relate so much to his response to Martha groping him in a previous episode and his freeze response because that is how I’ve reacted in the past as a woman to being groped inappropriately.
I watched this interview with this stalker woman on Piers Morgan where she just disproves the victims whole story and I realized it was the same story as the Netflix show. The real stalker is crazier is real life
Teri definitely did not come to hate on Donny last episode. She was just showing up and being able to see him without it being her just going to see him. It’s more of an olive branch, why she would immediately talk to him after. She brought her friends for advice likely.
This is the extent the sexual assault can affect a person , so many queer people who didn't even realised that they were queer all their life for various reasons when encounter such harsh conditions might think that such incident is the reason why they feel what they feel now but the truth is they could've find out in a much healthier way ,but these kind of assault take that power away from them .They remain questioning if the incident is their fault if the incident changed them , also it is a fact that despite all of the progress ,the world is still queer-phobic they still face discrimination (direct indirect consciously subconsciously ) which is why some people struggle to realise who they are and in these difficult situation when such thing happens to u the internal queer-phobia takes over their mind. And even when they ve felt that way all their life and they suppressed that, internal homophobia(caused by the world ) forces them to think that the assault is the reason why they are now queer when the reality is they've allways been .
And on the other side, there are people that were assaulted while they were heterosexual and the experience of their assault led them to same sex behaviors that they otherwise never would have engaged in or been attracted to. It's the same thing that happens with female victims of assault that may then engage in assault or inc€st role play as an extension of their trauma.
@@that.ll_do_pig it's wrong conclusion you are drawing from it , people can not "become" gay because of the life experiences, positive or negative, traumatising or inspiring , they are always who they are it's just the world is so bigoted towards queer sexualities and there is SO much invisibility(it's changing slowly now) that even if they are on the spectrum of bi or pansexuality they kinda ingonre it suppress it and sometimes good or bad experiences make them realise who they actually are. By your conclusion corrective gRape might work in conversion therapy for homosexuals but it doesn't.
Please consider watching When They See Us aswell at some point. It's a mini serie. Only has 4 episode. And it's based up on real story of Central Park 5.
i jst want everyone to know, in such an extreme situation all the thoughts tht cross ur mind, the reasonings and all, ur mind is in a survival mode so for anyone whos gone thru something like this it was all valid, it didnt need to make sense , u r not at fault, u dont have to be a pretty pic of perfect victim to be accepted and understood and for other people we mst remember to allow them grace and acceptance.
Cops didn’t take stalking seriously back then and probably still don’t. The laws were great. And her attacking a trans woman probably wouldn’t be taken seriously either.
This episode makes me glad I have lived a very sheltered and naive life for the most part. People have taken advantage of me because of my innocent nature and I have learned many listens because of it. Trust No One. We never know what someone is really thinking. Take care guys and be careful out there. I still miss Zuff.
Richard Gadd hasn't said who he really is. I'm hoping his reasoning is because the guy is dead and coming forward about it now wouldn't make a difference. Because if he is indeed still out there, how many other lives has/will he ruin?
This episode with Richard's monologue, really difficult to watch but sets the context and meaning to the entire show so I appreciate you for watching it. I cried the whole time.
This episode absolutely ruined me when I first saw it. It was so realistic, honest, and vulnerable. The fact that Gadd re-enacted his own sexual abuse floored me. Even the way he handles it after the fact is so raw and realistic if you have ever experienced a similar kind of abuse and misuse of trust.
This episode, out of all shows or movies that I’ve seen, is the one thing that I truly did not and do not look forward to seeing a “reaction” to. It was nice to hear Bryce’s insights at the end though
This is such a hard episode to watch. Especially as someone who has experienced SA. It's hard to believe Richard could get through it, but I think telling his story in this way is part of the healing process. He's very courageous to put himself in that headspace again to make this show. I couldn't do it. What happened to me happened over thirty years ago, but when it comes up in my mind, it could have been yesterday. I'm not sure it's something you ever get completely over, you just have to have ways of coping with it.
Also I never saw him, but apparently in real life Richard Gadd was actually a good comedian and nothing like what he does in this show. Though he was maybe not everyone's cup of tea. He won the Edinburgh comedy award, a comedian's comedian award, and for his one man play won an Olivier. Plus a bunch of smaller awards. I see his comedy described as "daring and raw" a lot.
@@duggs4456 And his career is still obviously on the upswing. Would not be suprised if this show gets nominated for something on July 17th AND he just signed a deal with HBO for his next show. That's pretty freakin big. Congrats, 'Donny'!🎉
I've seen Richard perform a number of times maybe around 10 years ago. And he is a great comedian. I think he portrays himself as less so in the show. Incidentally you can find a few clips on CZcams where you'll recognise some of the jokes
@@AndyMcH Oh my days, why didn't I think of that! I will. Thank you for the suggestion. I am so impressed with him. It'd be fascinating to see him in his humble beginnings.
@@packedentertainment2866 Wym I’m On About The Series Not The Episode Why Do I Have To abs Chilzy Fors This Is An Great Reaction And LookIn Forward To More Of Baby Reindeers On This GloryIous Channel
this episode gave me a huge panic attack and I cried for a good while after it. Amazing storytelling and Prodcution but my god was it hard to watch. I felt sick and it's honestly insane that the actor relived his trauma for this series. I hope he is okay.
Wow! I wrote out my story of being SA'd and "R" worded to give people an idea of how your demeanor and decision making is affected by this and CZcams deleted my comment! I am so more than a bit pissed! This Platform is so completely contradictory and biased!
This episode was tough and way too close to home. I’ve been in the meth world for 3 yrs. Like Donny I’ve passed out on G. My “friend” let a stranger come in basically rape me while I was uncocious. I’ve been drugged dumped on a rural train station in the middle of the night by an ex bikie. That was the first time I thought I was gonna die. I literally had to call the police to rescue me because a guy wouldn’t let me leave his room cos I didn’t want sex. It was all during second lockdown 21 here in Sydney. I basically could write a book about my entire life during lockdown. I ended up hating men as well. Oh there also was the time I got chased out of a dudes apt with him flailing a knife cos I dare have sex with his bf during our 3way. Though I got red flags from this guy early in the evening when he convince me not to leave. And most of these guys weren’t even on meth. But us crack heads are the crazy 1s 😂 Basically I stopped hooking up with men. My life became boring. But drama free. I just puff alone.
the drug visuals are crazy scary especially when he finally realized he was trying to control his way of thinking. terrifying. by the end of this episode specifically, i missed martha 🥲 /j
My favorite episode from the series. I also think it was the most important, of the series. It shows that men don’t need to be ashamed. And maybe we don’t know why people have seemingly “given up”
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The fact Richard Gadd had the strength to act out and relive all his trauma is so admirable.
Some people say that he made it all up to gain fame, but I just don't believe that.
@Pspsps22 Yeah he definitely didn't make it up.
@@HereKittyKitty44That’s just ridiculous. Male r4pe doesn’t equal fame. Absolutely disgusting. Not you, the people spreading this bs.
@@SmilingSammiehow can we be sure?
@@Myaccount923 the documentation/proof is out there to find
For anyone who needs to know, it wasn't your fault. Nothing that happened was your fault
This was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever watched because it’s so realistic. I’ve seen movies and tv shows with sexual abuse, but nothing comes to close to the raw honesty from this episode. Especially how he said he wished he’d left, stormed out and never came back, but he stayed for 2 more days. My heart just broke for Richard Gadd after this episode.
I think the fact that it was based on his life makes it so raw and real :(
bryce was spot on in the outro discussion honestly. as a survivor myself, for *years* i would question myself, whether i wanted it, whether i brought it on, why i didn't handle it better, why i didn't try harder to stop it, questioned my sexuality, etc. and it got to me for so long, so yeah it's very common for victims to feel that way about their abuse unfortunately. anyways, i'm proud of you guys for getting through this episode, definitely the hardest one🫂
glad you're doing better :)
@@starinthem thank you, definitely still a work in progress, but better than i was before. that's so kind of you :)
@@tialily4439 yes, that is what matters, the progression. you're welcome
I think y’all may have missed that this is all five years earlier. Darrien did introduce him to hard drugs. I’m also afraid you missed the trigger warning at the start. When it hits that Richard Gadd was reenacting his own experience, it hurts on a deeper level. That man is brave as hell.
23:05
They didn’t miss anything
A great portrayal of adult grooming and the self sabotage and shame that can follow. Absolutely heartbreaking.
Devil's advocate: if Gadd never had such a traumatic life, he would never have had acquired the success he now has. He would have remained as plain and average as everyone in this comment section.
@@laze4534and the conclusion that brings you to is what? That trauma needs to happen for success? I certainly hope not because that would be a really obtuse conclusion considering lots of people in the comments have experienced trauma and did not reach *the "celebrity" level of success just as much as there are people who never experienced trauma and reached great levels of success.
@@that.ll_do_pig It can, if you use it the way Gaad did. But not everyone has the intellect he has to translate trauma into a book or a show etc. The more philosophical point is that the scale in which a person can know love and happiness is limited by the scale of pain and suffering they've been exposed to.
People who are raised in absolute utopia where nothing bad ever happens to them, will never ever be able to be as fulfilled and as happy as those who have overcome great strife and pain.
@@laze4534subjective thought spoken as if it is fact.
This made me definitely understand why Donny was entertaining Martha because yes nice people can offer her a drink and move on or set the boundaries right away but people pleasers or egotistical people have this sense of what if i keep doing this? And maybe it’ll be fine. He’s so self aware about it but he’s STILL a victim and sometimes those things lead to very reckless decisions. I can’t be mad at him, I never will be
one of the things i love about this channel is how empathetic you guys are, you can tell you’re genuinely good people (zuff included! although he’s not in this reaction)
I know, the boys are the best. The reason why they're my favorite reaction channel
Thank god zuff is not here he laugh way too much for nothing
@@anais6654He has the emotional maturity level of a middle school boy. I much prefer when it's just Rob and Bryce. They're way more insightful and less annoying.
@@schuylermorgan9627 politely disagreeing with that one, zuff has several times been the first to pick up on implicit emotional aspects of a show and he’s just as empathetic and thoughtful as the other two. i think that especially comes across in romance reactions because he seems to connect with the story a lot. as for the laughing i think it’s often out of nervousness or excitement and it doesn’t always have to be seen as immaturity just because it’s laughter. i find him to be just as integral a part of the channel as the others :)
@@summermetcalfe1628 He also joked about beating a child who was autistic in a movie or show. I'm autistic and don't have to like him or the dumb shit he says. Sorry you don't like that I don't like Zuff, but it is what it is.
I don't watch this series with certain reactors, or at least not this episode. But I know you guys will treat this episode with the thought and respect it deserves.
Love how you guys understood him and his mindset afterwards…
when I first watched this, I don't think I've watched something so saddening, raw, and real. Again, the creator had so much courage showing us this. I hope every time I think about this show that he is okay. This show may have help so many others out there who are or were suffering in silence. It's not your fault
All of this stuff with the creeper predates Martha. Creeper is the "person who hurt him" that Martha kept asking about.😊
This and I May Destroy You have been two of the most triggering but healing shows I've watched that deal with this subject matter. Both Richard Gadd and Michaela Coel (who also based her show around her own experiences) were both so raw and vulnerable with their depictions. They're both incredibly brave to put this out for audiences to view and judge even. I couldn't praise them or even be able to express the kind of gratitude I felt for being able to watch them both and feel less shame or blame towards my own experiences. It's so real and relatable in so many ways. I'll only ever watch both of those shows once but the impact will last forever, I still remember all of it.
This was a really difficult watch honestly iv never seen such a honest portrayal of sexual abuse like that knowing he went through that breaks my heart I hope he has found some healing since will never be watching that again
My favorite episode from the series. I also think it was the most important, of the series. It shows that men don’t need to be ashamed. And maybe we don’t know why people have seemingly “given up”
Cried when I watched this episode for the first time.
this episode was so anxiety inducing and so sad. It was incredibly hard to watch. Hope you guys are okay
I could relate so much to his response to Martha groping him in a previous episode and his freeze response because that is how I’ve reacted in the past as a woman to being groped inappropriately.
I watched this interview with this stalker woman on Piers Morgan where she just disproves the victims whole story and I realized it was the same story as the Netflix show. The real stalker is crazier is real life
Teri definitely did not come to hate on Donny last episode. She was just showing up and being able to see him without it being her just going to see him. It’s more of an olive branch, why she would immediately talk to him after. She brought her friends for advice likely.
I can’t wait until you guys can watch a sweet, wholesome movie to cleanse yourselves of this show 💜
Well done for sitting through it guys. I always think it must so difficult for guys to be faced with something like baby reindeer
I had to watch some American Dad after watching each ep of Baby Reindeer to shift my mood back.
Rob is trying his best to smile through the pain lmfao
I had to take a break three times while watching the episode. As someone who has experienced SA I can’t imagine how it felt filming it.
This is the extent the sexual assault can affect a person , so many queer people who didn't even realised that they were queer all their life for various reasons when encounter such harsh conditions might think that such incident is the reason why they feel what they feel now but the truth is they could've find out in a much healthier way ,but these kind of assault take that power away from them .They remain questioning if the incident is their fault if the incident changed them , also it is a fact that despite all of the progress ,the world is still queer-phobic they still face discrimination (direct indirect consciously subconsciously ) which is why some people struggle to realise who they are and in these difficult situation when such thing happens to u the internal queer-phobia takes over their mind. And even when they ve felt that way all their life and they suppressed that, internal homophobia(caused by the world ) forces them to think that the assault is the reason why they are now queer when the reality is they've allways been .
And on the other side, there are people that were assaulted while they were heterosexual and the experience of their assault led them to same sex behaviors that they otherwise never would have engaged in or been attracted to. It's the same thing that happens with female victims of assault that may then engage in assault or inc€st role play as an extension of their trauma.
@@that.ll_do_pig it's wrong conclusion you are drawing from it , people can not "become" gay because of the life experiences, positive or negative, traumatising or inspiring , they are always who they are it's just the world is so bigoted towards queer sexualities and there is SO much invisibility(it's changing slowly now) that even if they are on the spectrum of bi or pansexuality they kinda ingonre it suppress it and sometimes good or bad experiences make them realise who they actually are. By your conclusion corrective gRape might work in conversion therapy for homosexuals but it doesn't.
I couldn’t watch this episode when the show dropped, it’s much easier to stomach through reactions
Please consider watching When They See Us aswell at some point. It's a mini serie. Only has 4 episode. And it's based up on real story of Central Park 5.
i jst want everyone to know, in such an extreme situation all the thoughts tht cross ur mind, the reasonings and all, ur mind is in a survival mode so for anyone whos gone thru something like this it was all valid, it didnt need to make sense , u r not at fault, u dont have to be a pretty pic of perfect victim to be accepted and understood and for other people we mst remember to allow them grace and acceptance.
i love the way y’all are uploading this series it’s the first thing i watch when i wake up 😋
Cops didn’t take stalking seriously back then and probably still don’t. The laws were great. And her attacking a trans woman probably wouldn’t be taken seriously either.
This episode makes me glad I have lived a very sheltered and naive life for the most part. People have taken advantage of me because of my innocent nature and I have learned many listens because of it. Trust No One. We never know what someone is really thinking. Take care guys and be careful out there. I still miss Zuff.
i love this show i was hookeddd
This episode made made me soooo physically uncomfortable from the beginning, I had a feeling where it was going sadly.
Well done guys
I had to have a mental health day after this episode
Richard Gadd hasn't said who he really is. I'm hoping his reasoning is because the guy is dead and coming forward about it now wouldn't make a difference. Because if he is indeed still out there, how many other lives has/will he ruin?
This episode with Richard's monologue, really difficult to watch but sets the context and meaning to the entire show so I appreciate you for watching it. I cried the whole time.
Rob representing the 3 lions yes mate!!👏👏🏴🏴
you guys need to watch “it’s a sin” very good short series
10:10 that was after Darrien
This episode absolutely ruined me when I first saw it. It was so realistic, honest, and vulnerable. The fact that Gadd re-enacted his own sexual abuse floored me. Even the way he handles it after the fact is so raw and realistic if you have ever experienced a similar kind of abuse and misuse of trust.
Thanks, Bryce! Thanks, Rob! 🦌
This episode, out of all shows or movies that I’ve seen, is the one thing that I truly did not and do not look forward to seeing a “reaction” to. It was nice to hear Bryce’s insights at the end though
This is such a hard episode to watch. Especially as someone who has experienced SA. It's hard to believe Richard could get through it, but I think telling his story in this way is part of the healing process. He's very courageous to put himself in that headspace again to make this show. I couldn't do it. What happened to me happened over thirty years ago, but when it comes up in my mind, it could have been yesterday. I'm not sure it's something you ever get completely over, you just have to have ways of coping with it.
Geez, can this get any more messed up? But you can't stop watching.
i think here in the uk physical comedy was more popular in the 70s, 80s, and 90s, not so much anymore. i don’t like it either way lol
Also I never saw him, but apparently in real life Richard Gadd was actually a good comedian and nothing like what he does in this show. Though he was maybe not everyone's cup of tea. He won the Edinburgh comedy award, a comedian's comedian award, and for his one man play won an Olivier. Plus a bunch of smaller awards. I see his comedy described as "daring and raw" a lot.
@@duggs4456 And his career is still obviously on the upswing. Would not be suprised if this show gets nominated for something on July 17th AND he just signed a deal with HBO for his next show. That's pretty freakin big. Congrats, 'Donny'!🎉
@@duggs4456 His comedy was actually quite similar to what is shown in the show but not nearly as bad.
I've seen Richard perform a number of times maybe around 10 years ago. And he is a great comedian. I think he portrays himself as less so in the show.
Incidentally you can find a few clips on CZcams where you'll recognise some of the jokes
@@AndyMcH Oh my days, why didn't I think of that! I will. Thank you for the suggestion. I am so impressed with him. It'd be fascinating to see him in his humble beginnings.
Watch I May Destroy You please!
You Guys Dropy This In My Time Of Need Let’s Go
Was Literally ReFreshIn Just To See More Of This 🙀
Was Literally ReFreshIn Just To See More Of This🙀
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@@packedentertainment2866 Wym I’m On About The Series Not The Episode Why Do I Have To abs Chilzy Fors This Is An Great Reaction And LookIn Forward To More Of Baby Reindeers On This GloryIous Channel
8:02 yea for sure, plus cringe humour as well haha
this episode gave me a huge panic attack and I cried for a good while after it. Amazing storytelling and Prodcution but my god was it hard to watch. I felt sick and it's honestly insane that the actor relived his trauma for this series. I hope he is okay.
yeah it's devastating, purely horrific
As soon as the evil 😈 man walked in, i felt uneasy, mabe womens instincts
Physical comedy is actually more American. But pure cringe... long awkward silence...that's us.
This episode was so hard to watch :(
Yeah physical comedy is larger in the Uk but not to that extent he is just kinda cringe
This episode is rough
😢❤
I’m honestly really impressed with you guys for covering such a heavy show
Wow! I wrote out my story of being SA'd and "R" worded to give people an idea of how your demeanor and decision making is affected by this and CZcams deleted my comment! I am so more than a bit pissed!
This Platform is so completely contradictory and biased!
This episode was tough and way too close to home. I’ve been in the meth world for 3 yrs. Like Donny I’ve passed out on G. My “friend” let a stranger come in basically rape me while I was uncocious. I’ve been drugged dumped on a rural train station in the middle of the night by an ex bikie. That was the first time I thought I was gonna die. I literally had to call the police to rescue me because a guy wouldn’t let me leave his room cos I didn’t want sex.
It was all during second lockdown 21 here in Sydney. I basically could write a book about my entire life during lockdown. I ended up hating men as well. Oh there also was the time I got chased out of a dudes apt with him flailing a knife cos I dare have sex with his bf during our 3way. Though I got red flags from this guy early in the evening when he convince me not to leave.
And most of these guys weren’t even on meth. But us crack heads are the crazy 1s 😂
Basically I stopped hooking up with men. My life became boring. But drama free. I just puff alone.
i’m so sorry this happened to you, but u should really try your best to stop doing drugs.❤ ik it can be hard but trust me it’s so worth it
This episode is hard to watch even via a reaction so so triggering I had to keep skipping
the drug visuals are crazy scary especially when he finally realized he was trying to control his way of thinking. terrifying. by the end of this episode specifically, i missed martha 🥲 /j
My favorite episode from the series. I also think it was the most important, of the series. It shows that men don’t need to be ashamed. And maybe we don’t know why people have seemingly “given up”