Gender Dysphoria VS Body Dysmorphia
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- čas přidán 8. 06. 2024
- Hello my lovely peeps! As a non binary person I get asked this question a lot, "how do you know if you’re feeling gender dysphoria or body dysmorphia?". So in todays video I’m going to be talking about gender dysphoria vs body dysmorphia. I’m gonna go into what each one means, signs you might have them, and what the two do and don’t have in common.
I also just want to clarify something I said in this video. I talk about not needing a medical diagnosis to tell people you have gender dysphoria and I feel like people might take this out of content so I just want to say if you feel comfortable and want to go to a doctor to get seen for any please do so! I just wanted to let everyone know there is gatekeeping in the medical community around trans health care.
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In my case, I've had trouble recognising and accepting myself for as long as I can remember. And this only changed when I started exploring my gender a couple of years ago. When I started doing what felt right, I could recognise and accept myself and felt joy for the first time.
Awwww I absolutely love that for you☺️
Dont let the media brainwash you into thinking it glamorous or the fad thing to do cause its tricking people into thinking theyre trans, the goverment and corrupt gov controlled media is brainwashing insecure, lonely ,single o r over weight people into thinking that trans is the thing to do. Just learn to LOVE YOU the way God originaly and genetical made you. Your either: Straight, Gay, Lesbian or Bi, any other sexuality is made up by democrats and the Media and our corrupt goverment. Did you notice there are MIllions more that there was years ago, Thats the ones the gov has goteen, dont be the next. Its a insecurity mental disorder, Just love you the way you are, YOU dont have to change a thing. Your perfect the day you were born and still ARE!
It's helpful to acknowledge there is a spectrum of dsymorphia/disphoria. Being on the lower end I often discredited my feelings because they weren't as strong as what other people were experiencing. I didn't feel I had a right to the vocabulary and that part of me became bottled. What you feel is valid, no matter how small, give it a name. It will help you to be kinder to yourself, your skin will fit better, you'll be able to let go of things you didn't even realize you were holding.
I have been wondering about this. My period and floppy chest cushions. As body dysmorphia I want more muscle. A lot more muscle.
I’m happy people have been wondering about it! I know it was hard for me when I was younger to tell the difference so I’m more than happy to put the info out there to help others ☺️
I feel you on the period thing
I don’t know much about either, but I always knew I disliked a lot of my secondary sex characteristics for a long time before discovering that I’m trans. When I did bring it up my mom usually excused it as “girls normally hate their chests” or “men being creepy stuff” and that it was common for all girls (which is fair for most of the time). I didn’t think it could be a trans thing at the time.
It was different for me though because I didn’t want breast at all for most of it. It was never that I wanted them smaller, I wanted them to not exist at all or be more male like. That’s just one of the dysphoric things that hinted at my trans identity.
It’s so weird to me when cis people say that stuff like I get cis woman can hate their chest but it’s for a different reason trans people do
Yep. It’s annoying. For my particular family they’re never mean about anything I do. It’s just really awkward for myself internally most the time.
A lot of what I say to them, they blame it on things like the internet, but SOME of my main insecurities actually come from them specifically. Misgendering and not feeling like they understand me in general are my main “issues” about them but other than that they’re good people who mean well and I wish I could love them better.
Honestly it’s not as terrible now. I still have dysphoria but it’s less frequent and less intense. I think this started to happened after I talked to another transgender person who helped me feel more confident in my identity.
Also most of the people I hang out generally see past my exterior and see me as a transgender person. Which makes sense. The people who are most likely to understand you are usually under the trans umbrella.
I know that most of the points in the How to Know You’re trans video were relatable to me, especially the “You feel inherently different” part. (I already knew that I was trans I just like to watch those types of videos anyways)
When I was 13, I hated my body hair. It happened overnight. Then, I got called out for it in gymn class “Dude, you’re a man.” I wanted to die. Same thing when we played shorts vs skins in 5th grade basketball practice. I also suffer from dysmorphia. This video was so important to making sure my dysphoria was not whitewashed.
Whitewashed??
Thank you for making this video. I'm now in my early 30s and this is a good reminder of not only what both of these afflictions are, but that I'm not and have never been 'faking it' and that I'm not alone.
This was very helpful to me, I myself, a young trans male, am trying to understand these feelings I am getting and trying to explain them to my parents, this definitely helped me understand more about my gender dysphoria and helped me see the difference between that and body dysmorphia.
I’m happy it helped! It can definitely be confusing
I just realised that for me body dismorphia (is it dismorphia though, when I was genuinly overweight? do I just think my weight made me look way fatter than it actually did? who knows 🤷 ) has long been masking my gender dysphoria in regards to my body. My depression and anxiety have long been masking dysphoria in regards to social aspects, cause when you are terrified whenever anyone speaks to you, it's kind of hard to tell if they are misgendering you, because it feels wrong either way.
Thank you for helping me distinguish this :)
Currently I am tackling a lot of personal problems and it feels like I'm peeling back an onion of issues, every one removed reveals another one. Some would call that disheartening, I call it progress towards a good onion soup :)
Awwww I’m really happy to have made the distinction clearer for you. It really can be hard to tell which is why I made this video because it’s something I had a problem with for a long time and I wanted to help other people not have to struggle the way I did
You have helped me so much! I am also nonbinary and you have helped me a lot! Keep making amazing vids!
Awwwww I’m so happy to have helped☺️ and I’m definitely planning on making more trans/non-binary videos
I really wanted to know more about this topic, so I’m excited for this one.
Ayyyyy I’m glad you’re excited about it☺️ I’ve had a couple people ask for this video and I think it’s genuinely something that needs to be talked about more
I've just stumbled upon your channel. This video is incredibly helpful! I think, for me, one of this most isolating things has been not having the language to discuss what I am experiencing, even with the safe people in my life who may be able to offer support in one form or another. None of it is new. I'm just finally in a place in my life where I can begin to acknowledge and process everything. So, thank you.
I was really excited when I saw the notification for this video and am so glad I finally got around to watching it. You always explain things so well. I have both. It can be particularly exhausting on the days when my physical dysphoria is really bad.
Wow! When you described gender dysphoria as a feeling of separation that made me realize that I felt disconnected to myself and the world in general all through high school. Thank you for this realization!
this was a really interesting, helpful video-thank you lynn! along with some other videos of yours, you've really helped me learn more about myself. i'm so grateful to have discovered your channel ❤️
So I identify as gender non conforming / non binary. I have also had EDs for about 12 years of my life. It has been hard to separate my body dysmorphia/ED symptoms, from any gender dysphoria I may feel. I convinced myself I was transmasculine at one point when I was going thru a lot in high school. As I get older I understand myself more and accept my expression whether it is more masculine or feminine, I can distinguish between general insecurities and dysphoria. Thanks for making the video.
I heavily relate to this. I don’t think I ever had an ED but definitely never had a healthy relationship with food and I’m still working on it. It kinda blew my mind last year when I turned 24 I’d actively been hating my body for 10 years and that’s when I started trying to get a better relationship with exercise, food, and my body. And I’m so happy I’m able to tell the difference now between gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia and I think at some point I’m gonna do a video on why so many trans/non-binary folks have Ed’s cause it doesn’t get talked about enough
I definitely have dysphoria regarding my face (because I frequently shave it), my voice (because I hate how deep I sound) & my body (because it currently reminds me of how not feminine I look).
You’ve been a big part of my questioning Journey and after about my whole life of questioning I think I’m finally ready to come out as trans, thank you :)
Great video! That was really helpful for understanding the differences!
Awwww thank you!
Thanks. It’s comforting to hear another who has both as well. 🙌To hear spoken what I think in my head by someone else. Is like hearing someone from my tribe. Thanks 👍.
I'd say I suffer from both. About every aspect of my body that is "male" I dislike and wish was more feminine. The irony is the one part of my body that is highly feminine is my chest, thanks to a rather messed up puberty I went through. Because of this I actively try to hide my chest and have since I was around 12. I wear multiple shirts with the top layer being larger and baggy. It's not that it bothers me (because it doesn't). It's more I don't want the rejection from society.
I really got a great understanding of body dysphoria and I never realized that I had it I always knew I had body dysmorhia to a point but I see and feel the gender dysphoria.
Thanks Lynn! I have been looking forward to this video for ages.
I'm s sorry to hear about your dysmorphia
I’m so happy you liked it! I was kinda waiting for your comment since you’re one of the people who inspired me to make this video ☺️
@@lynnsaga1397 Thank you so much! Your videos have been a great help as I have been questioning my gender
I loved this video it lifted such a weight off me your awesome Lynn
Very interesting and very helpful! Thanks so much for posting!
Having english as a second language, I find it very confusing that english use the term “gender dysphoria” instead of “sex dysphoria”. You are not assigned a gender at birth, you are are assigned a sex at birth: either male or female. “Gender” is what what kind of cultural ideas, norms and traits we attach to words and ideas of what is is like to act and behave “masculine” and “feminine.
What I don’t grasp is how a feeling of being “too feminine” or “too masculine” fits into the “non-binary identity”? I thought “non-binary” was feeling neither-nor? This explanation makes it sound as non-binary is either-or (which is a binary!).
Thanks for this helpful video! The cat meowing in the background made me go check on my cat to make sure he's OK. Not complaining though, I love checking on my cat!
I have dysphoria around my absif they aren't flat, period , and uterus, and whatever they call the glandular tissue in breasts. Like anything that would be used to grow/feed a baby or is a reminder I am presumably fertile makes me feel deeply unsafe in my own body. In retrospect I'm not sure how I made it into my thirties before I noticed I'm non binary even if I am fairly fem pressenting maybe it was the autism and multiple anxiety disorders. I don't think cis people have dreams where they're them but with the opposite parts for half of it and it changes nothing either. Looking back it's like how did not know. Currently I'm thinking about if a prounoun change is worth the effort . If I'm respected as me I don't care if people think I'm a woman a man or a duck but I've never tried so I don't know how it would feel.
Hmm, now I understand why I am unsure if I have both... Like, I have the usual gender dysphoria stuff but I don't know if worrying about chest size, butt size, genitals, etc. counts as gender dysphoria or body dysmorphia (especially if certain body parts are gendered or not or if any body part counts as long as it’s related to gender)... I mean, I virtually hate my entire body, I don't know if I'd say I focus on any part per se but sometimes those things randomly pop up in my head. Is looking in a mirror required for body dysmorphia? Cuz I hate seeing my reflection... While walking passed a mirror, I have legitimately scared myself seeing my reflection cuz apparently my brain thought it was a different person 😵💫 (I have exaggerated startle response so that makes it worse). Also, as a short person, I used to be skinny and then I gained weight... there was a time where I wish I was 100 lbs and now I have to lose weight, so weird and I hate that switch and change! 😭
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i wanna pay this person as my theripist, so awesome and helped me understand alot about gender dysphoria, still debating weather i should see someone about it tho dealing with it alone since i was 7 and I'm now 25 😅
What about being short for your age? Im 27 but I look like im 16. Most of the time being short doesn't bother me but there times when I wish I can be normal size. I also dislike my hair. It's realy curly and thick. It heard for me to brush it and montain it. It gets frezzy and annoying. I've been thinking of shaving it off but I'm afraid of what I would look like after. I also hate shaving. I usually procrastinate before I shave my legs or armpit (armpit I do more often). I also feel wierd and ichy when I do shave. Lastly I hate, no dispise getting my period. I start to get sick a week before I get it. Also I feel like its a big waste for me to have my period. I never want kids, so why I'm I force to go through pain every month. I wish you can have choice to have you peroid or not. Are any of those body dysmorpia or gender dysphoria? I should mention that I consider myself as either Demi girl or agender with she/they (mosty she) pronouns .
is it possible for a person to still feel like a girl sometimes even though the person is a trans boy? (biggest reason why I don't know if I really am trans or if I just WANT to be a boy)
I don't thing I have either but I am a Femboy & I get dysmorphic about certain masculine characteristics that I have, I know that I would never want to be Trans because I like being a man But I don't like being too manly. I like to look a bit more feminine. I get really insecure about two bumps on my forehead resemblant of horns & I wish my hairline was lower down to cover my horns. whenever the strong wind blows my hair off my face & exposes my horns i feel dysmorphic Af like I look waaay to manly to be cute the way I imagine myself & It makes me so sad.
I have both, so here’s how I would describe it. I should preface this with the fact that I am afab and trans-masculine. For me, gender dysphoria is an internal struggle. No external sources are making me feel inadequate for having a feminine body; it simply feels wrong to me. Body dysmorphia is an external struggle. I feel inadequate because of what people define as beautiful. I feel the need to have big boobs, a flat stomach, and an overall more “attractive” body. I nitpick at my body because I fear people judging me for how I look.
On December there’s 28th going into 2024 lost the tooth. Out of desperation, I made a wish to be a young and beautiful female for an ever and have mortal. That wish got answered followed by a few seconds later I had a major Kundalini awaking. I heard a silent voice, or saw an image that said you are now an anime girl.
The Kundalini instantly killed the mundane, boring, depressing woman I used to think I was, and replaced her or canceled her immediately with an Anime Magical Teen Girl Goddess.
I been dealing with Animekin feelings deep down inside. I been forced against my will painfully to identify as a Anime Magical Teen Girl Goddess. I am not enjoying anything about being a Animekin. In fact, it is living hell. I never asked to feel this way inside and have try to fight it like crazy after I had major awaking.
I have tried to fight it, repress it, run from it, hide from it and go in deep denial and all it does is Tigger server chronic stress that turns into physical pain so intense that it eats up my stomach lining.
If I agree with it, then the double edge sword is that It makes me suffer with server mental pain by giving me intense anime girl body dysphoria. The drive to be a anime girl and live in anime girl multiverse is so bad that it drives me crazy and then I want to go back to oppressing the feelings. Then the chronic stress and physical pain starts up again.
I can't seem to get a break a lot of times. I am getting sick and tired of this that some days I want to just kill myself and end it up or hope that I die from the never-ending hell I Live in. I am to scared to tell my family because I am so ashamed of what I Feel I am inside I am inside. I deal with a lot of self-loathing over the entire anime thing.
I never asked for any of this. It is not my dam fault that Anime has chased me around as long as I can recall since young adult hood. I was not looking for or had any intense in anime. I had more of interest in finding a Good Paying Job, Money, Nice Car and a dream home.
Over time Anime reviled itself to me and told me what it was. It slammed me into the wall to make sure I know what anime girls and magical girls was. Then over time the more I had to watch it off and on, I would start having fantasies and desires to be anime girl living in anime girl worlds. for many years I was able to push it away and think it was nothing more than that.
Then on dec 28th going in to 2024 when I lost a tooth, out of fair I Made a wish to be a beautiful female forever and have immortality. Then right away the kundalini awakening open up at full attack and my authentic self said now you have the soul of anime girl, and you are now a real anime girl inside. Ever since then I been in living hell or dream state I unable to waken from.
Even my mind set, and body has gone into age regression process to look more like a anime girl. That is what I see when I look in Mirro anyway. I see a cute anime girl looking back at me and I am like what the bloody hell. Is this Relly happening to me and is this freaken real. What the hell happened to my reality.
I don't like anything about the Magical Girl Part becuse she from Puella Mgi Madoka Magica multiverse. I seem to be unintended victim of forced contact from Kyubey to be a Magical Girl. I am sick of all this suffering on top of suffering on top of suffering. I don't want to be a Magical girl knowing the suffering they must put up with. Magical Girls are made to suffer.
Please help me, because I don't know what to do any more. This is driving me in to complete madness and I don't want to end up in no dam Phy ward again. I had bad traumatic experience. I was put in there over a deviated septum last year in Feb of 2023 for 2 and half weeks.
What they did to me was just inhuman. I was having issues breathing and one day the head nurse and its helper came in the dark and ejected me with to syringes at the same time on both sides of my ribs. It felt like an alien abduction to me.
Can anyone explain to me what type of shifts am dealing with. I feel so scared, confused, broken and damaged goods. I hate dealing with the Anime Girl Body Dysphoria the most. I hate that fact that I can't go back and yet it keeps pushing me forward.
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Girl... You need to get your mind checked out... For your own safety and others...
I can’t help how I fell inside and what is the crime of being authentic self is telling me that I’m a multidimensional being. Trust me, my personality is harmless and only means nothing but good intense and wants to spread love.
I’m ftm transgender - I was thinking that the term “gender dysphoria” is a misnomer because what we have dysphoria about is not our gender (our sense of self with regard to our sexuality and whether or not it is congruent with our anatomical (natal sex) bodies - I think the correct term should be anatomical sex dysphoria or natal sex dysphoria because the cause of our dysphoria is the sex of our bodies, not our gender identity.
Gender Dysphoria is an umbrella term that describes the experience of feeling gender incongruence. Each individual is different and will experience gender dysphoria in different ways, so while your experience of it may be centred around physical dysphoria related to your body, that is not necessarily true for every person that experiences gender dysphoria. There are many forms of gender dysphoria and not all of them involve a discomfort or disconnect to a person's sexual characteristics.
so if I freak out because I don't feel like the kind of woman I should be, that is gender dysphoria and I should stop thinking "i'm not like other girls" with "uh yeah I'm legit trans in being 99.9% womanish. I know I'm female, with the parts and the chromosomes (if they know I have NF they would tell me if I was xxxx or xxxy or anything) or I have a depersonalization problems?
this is how it works?
Thank you!
I really need to stop watching videos that almost make me cry. Still will though. Great video
Pls don’t cry! But that’s for liking it😅
what is it called when you are and want to be a woman, but feel dysphoric bec I do not have a lot of womanly traits and habits. i do not align myself with a lot of feminine gendered roles, and feel like I am a dude trapped in a female's body with a feminine soul.
I am bigender they/them pronouns. I have gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia after seeing your video which is really not fun. I am finally not feeling social gender dysphoria because people in my life are finally using my pronouns and I can finally wear what I want from having a job in retail, but my body dysmorphia has been something I have been dealing with for a long time which I thought was gone but resurfaced because of a situation that happened in my life.
I have a dysphoria and dysmorphia
Well I guess I have neither but I do have a phobia of becoming trans lol
I did too but I was lying to myself. Not saying that’s happening with you tho
I’ve learned gender can be fluid. So shouldn’t it be “ok” to express or feel in ways more female or male? Obviously you know what you are feeling & teaching us, and I don’t mean I can talk you out of how you feel. But does this make sense, if it were a more perfect world? I’m really trying to understand. Whatever the case, I’m willing to accept people as they are. Kindness first.
I'm nonbinary too and I wanted to answer your question, could you reword it ?
I’m thinking of where Lynn said they are upset at more feminine traits. I sympathize. I’m straight woman, 70 yo. I’ve had my body issues. But if gender is fluid rather than rigid binary, wouldn’t we ideally embrace both our male & female aspects. All along the continuum, the far extremes of what we label masculine or feminine.
@@fuchsialady I think the simple answer to your question (if I understand it correctly) is that it varies for each person. Some experience gender as fluid and for some it's constant and unchanging (whether binary or not). Some people just want to be masc, some just want to be fem, or somewhere inbetween, or something else entirely, or to move between multiple genders and expressions. You should be able to feel and express who you are without having other's ideas of what you "should" be projected onto you.
Anyone have body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria that contradict eachother? Maybe it's cuz in gender fluid
It seems to me that physical gender dysphoria is just another form of body dysmorphia. While gender dysphoria can be about gender ie the social roles it also is used to talk about a completely separate thing where you are just insecure about your body.
What is it when u sometimes with u was the opposite gender not all the time but most during s.x pretend im the woman
They sound very similar, tbh.
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sometimes I wonder if the differnce is very narrow, that differnce and body intregerty disorder. and why not throw in species dysphora into the mix. I don't think I can feel so sad for someone who types out how they freak out , get anxiety and then cry because when they look in the mirror they don't see a lion , the lion they feel like they are inside. (I think I have a screen capture of this, from someone who thi...knows they were/are Scar from The Lion King,.(lucky someone suggested they see a therapist, considering this person said they scream, cry, have a panic attack and hit the mirror and feel bad for a long time when that "this is not my body, get me out, I should not look like this! this is not the real me" happens.
I’m so angry, just in the middle of this video, I got a really transphobic ad. 🤦♂️
I have bdd so hard lol
First world problems
the thing people say "every (gender) comes in many body shape, some (gender) has this kind of body! a sort of "some women look like Paul Bunyan! and that is valid just as some women are fat and some women are tall, both are kinds of women"
the woman who looks like cis Paul Bunyan who thinks she looks ugly, is not the same thing as the woman who thinks she is ugly?
", some men have a penis, some have a vagina, both are men, as men are always men, some men are short some men skinny"
also is it gender dysphoria in how I want to date a younger than me man? or is it just shame for being a pervert?
No difference
There is no difference. Be happy with how you're born. No need to cut or chemically castrate yourself out of a selfish dislike for the flesh you exist as
Thank you!
I happy you liked it☺️