Enough with the “no judgement”, “I’m ok, you are ok” rubbish. IVF is morally evil and wrong. Pray. Pray to St. Gerard. Trust in God. Every stage of parenthood has its own trauma, whether it’s natural childbirth and/or adoption. Choose your hard. Life is hard.
As an adoptive family, thank you thank you for your comments on adoption ethics. You were 100% correct. Adoption and infertility do not, and should not, necessarily go hand in hand. Sending love and prayers to you guys, you are amazingly strong!
@@stefaniaops8465but it has to be in your heart to want to adopt. To only adopt bc you can not have your own is not in the best interests of the child. It becomes about you, not the child.
I've heard of negatives coming out positive days later. Thank you for always being willing to answer questions, even when they are hard and make you feel stressed. Your willingness to share helps others to learn to be more sensitive to the topics of infertility and other personal reproductive subjects. I know whatever happens, you both will find your way, step by step and you will have a joyful blessed life. I'm so sorry for the disappointment this brings. Working sooo extremely hard and so much you both put into it. I'm interested to hear what your clinic says and the Dr's advice to you. ❤❤
My husband and I are going through our own infertility journey. Watching you two has made me feel much less alone in this long and quite lonely process. Thank you so much for your openness. Sending my love.
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I was adopted. My brother was adopted. My mom and dad got pregnant with my baby brother. They were in their 30’s when he was born and my mom had congestive heart failure. Everything still worked out and all of us were grown when her heart disease took her. Families are built brick by brick. Whatever you decide will be right for YOUR family. Trust your gut feelings. My husband was also adopted into a family where all 4 kiddos were adopted. I don’t know my birth parents but I consider my adopted mom and dad my parents. I hope you are successful in your ivf journey. You both will make great parents! I wasn’t supposed to be able to have children and I gave birth to 6 beautiful and amazing kiddos. I had a lot of miscarriages, but I also got a beautiful bonus daughter when I married my husband. We now have a 7 month old grandchild. I wish you all the best wishes and luck.
I was adopted at 5 weeks old. My parents didn't think there was anything to understand or prepare for, they didn't think they needed to learn about anything. Not parenting, not the impact adoption has on the child being adopted, or the existing siblings. That left me with a lot of wounds that I had to work very hard for many years to heal. I'm 43 and still working on healing many of them. Hearing you say those things about adoption felt like a big hug inside my heart. I wish that concept was more widely understood, every part of what you said about adoption. You're so spot on. Thank you. I'm sending hug right back to your heart. 🤗
My wife and I tried IVF 5 times with no success. We were extremely fortunate to have health insurance cover some of the cost but it was still very expensive. I know exactly what the two of you are going through. I applaud you for talking about it publicly to help others understand.
Everyone gives everyone advice all the time. When people give advice online on big public forums, they’re doing it more so as a public service message. It’s important for society to be able to have a vocal and public opinion to make a healthy society, we just hope the societal opinion is the healthy and correct one. Edited: I meant to say, when many people give advice online. Certainly some people have ill intent, but many are doing as I said.
I wish you guys luck and hope you can find peace with this outcome. I am certain you two are determined enough to become parents , that in one form or another, it will happen
I'm so sorry that it didn't work for you two. I am 76, from Nashville, and my wife died almost 8 years ago. She had overian cancer shortly after we married and had to have a total hysterectomy, so no children for us. She was afraid that I would leave her after her surgery but I loved her so much, that I stayed. You have a good man for a husband. ❤
I find it absolutely insane that some people say that infertility is God punishing you and you somehow deserve it. Both of you are clearly kind and loving people and a simple fact is that bad things happen to good people. Sending lots of love and prayers ❤
@@maggie2sticks717 One of my good friends suffered infertility and then a series of heartbreaking miscarriages and another friend of ours told her that God might be punishing her
@@CAMarg-zs1xqthat's one thing I see a lot in fundamental believers: they almost always "know" or "think" what God might "want" or not.... instead of accepting that one of the best things in faith is that it is the great mystery and that it's beyond human knowledge or thoughts.
The mindset about adoption is so mature and wise. Yall could raise awareness and advocacy for foster kids/orphans by that message of “adoption should always be about the kid”… that makes me emotional in a good way🥹.
There is a difference between God's Positive Will and God's Permissive Will. God permits sin and evil- but He does not Positively Will it. Doing something contrary to God's Positive Will is "going against His Will"- just like Adam and Eve's first sin. Doing something against His Positive Will, even though it is "permitted", always brings about some evil and not the good that God desired to have happen. God has permitted scientists to do many things that He does not positively Will that they do. IVF is one of them. It goes against God's Design for how new lives are created and is man seeking to play God with the creation of life. Instead of accepting God's Will, it is man seeking to make his own will happen- but then saying something like, "Well, God has allowed this possibility" when it was not God, but the devil, that inspired such technologies and ideas. The Church has always taught that IVF is a mortal sin- not God's Positive Will. Unfortunately, many people have not been taught... or disregard... that IVF is a mortal sin and do not recognize it as an error of naturalism. The creation of a human involves the supernatural- as God endows a new person a soul at their natural conception. This is not the case with IVF- as God is not bound by man to give a soul to a child conceived in a petri dish. Mary has given messages about this, warning us about "soulless" "test tube babies". Naturalism is an error spread by Freemasonry in which man believes it is ok to take God's intelligently designed and Willed creation, break it down to its smallest parts, and then re-arrange or reconstruct it according to the person doing it's will.... not God's. The thing is that God created things in such ways as to reveal supernatural mysteries about the Truth of Himself. When man and wife, in a Covenant Sacramental Marriage, make a total gift of self to one another, giving and receiving Love, that Love multiplies- begetting new life. Likewise, Jesus makes a total gift of self to a person who receives Him in the Eucharist, offering to Love Him with their whole heart, mind, body, soul, spirit, and strength. That exchange of Love multiplies- begetting a supernatural Life (Sanctifying Grace) that overcomes sin and increases God's family for all eternity. These mysteries of Truth are lost when life is reduced to lab science. The dignity of a person is frustrated when their life willed by a person who paid for it and had a scientist create it for them rather than was a free gift that God bestowed according to His Own design and Will. I pray that this helps you and others understand. IVF is not something that should be celebrated and promoted; it is something people have to repent of. Mortal sin removes you from Sanctifying Grace and you become deadened to the life of God in your soul. Anyone who did not realize this and created a child via IVF should go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation to have Sanctifying Grace restored to their soul and beg God to Mercifully grant their child a soul, promising to Baptize them and consecrate them to Him. Of course, that is a prayer that He wants to answer, covering for the error of our ways out of His Love and Mercy for us, rather than "punishing" it as some told Jessi. But, His Love and Mercy for us also includes helping us to realize our errors and the ways we have divorced ourselves from Him and from the Supernatural Life of the soul- Sanctifying Grace - so that we can be restored. "Repent and go and sin no more." You have to be in a State of Sanctifying Grace when you die... when your soul separates from your body... in order to go to Heaven. If you never repent of a mortal sin... but instead feel rewarded in it, you will choose Hell for all eternity, not Heaven. Many IVF couples are also invalidly and not Sacramentally married- which is also a mortal sin. That they already ignored God's Positive Will for marriage is why they likely fell into errors regarding God's Will for conceiving children. Just as IVF has to repented of, invalid marriages have to be repented of and made valid and Sacramental, according to God's Positive Will.
@@fiat_heart I am raised as a Catholic. We did IVF. It’s not a sin to want to want to raise a child in a loving home and in the house of God. Why is IVF a mortal sin? Because a bunch of men said so? We’re not playing God. We are not designing life we are creating it. I look at my son and there’s no way you can say he is a mortal sin because of the way he came into the world. How dare you judge people and the ways in which they want to express their love by having children by any means necessary.
From one infertile couple to another: We're so sorry you're a part of this crappy club. Sending you the biggest hugs and prayers for wisdom for the journey.
It takes so much courage to share something so personal and painful. You are helping all those other couples who are suffering through the same struggles to realize that they aren't alone.
😢 I got pregnant 1 year ago. But it was ectopic. I lost my fallopian tube. And now every time I pray for these two lines in the test. I feel you so much. I pray for me and for you! 🙏
I struggled for 13 years. This video made me cry. It took me back to all those years. Infertility is still very much on the surface on my heart…it always will be. I am now the proud Mom of two IVF boys. Allow yourself to cry and feel all the emotions. Grieve your loss. It’s so much hope, love, effort, physical aches of meds, all the appointments, labs, dreams. I wish you the very best of luck. This journey will change you, parenthood is such a miracle. When you hold your baby in your arms, you will marvel at the miracle you created.
The look on Jessi’s face when y’all flipped the test over, my heart just broke for you both. I am so sorry for the awful dark valley y’all are going through, but I hope you can draw strength from each other and know that you will get through this. Please know how much you are loved and supported. ❤️🩹 Edited to add: It’s fine if neither of y’all know what to say. Nothing needs to be said.
Its so hard not to feel like our body is broken, as a woman, when you can't conceive. We tried for 7 years, couldn't afford infertility treatment. 4 months after I turned 30 i found out i was pregnant. My little munchkin was born at 26 weeks weighing 1 lb 10 ounces. She is 18 now and just started her first semester of college 2 weeks ago !!! God Bless you, keep the faith❤
We tried for kids throughout our 20s, after 2 miscarriages and years of mental exhaustion we decided to try IVF and in the UK it's free for 3 cycles, So we had 3 cycles with no success, after much much heartache, pain, guilt, anger and sadness we came to the conclusion we were still madly in love, very happy in our life together and we had given enough of our lives to the heartbreak of trying and failing and we needed to move on and be happy so that's what we did, don't get me wrong it wasn't instant happiness and moving on it took time to get used to that huge thing in our life that was sucking the life out of us was now gone and we could concentrate on us again. We have been married 26 years now and we are in our mid 40s and we have never regretted stopping trying we got on with our wonderful life together and enjoy our families and friends we have 6 nieces and 4 nephews whom we adore, we volunteer for the local food bank and run a community garden with 30 local volunteers and so much more. Sorry this is rambling but what I want to say is there is life without kids if you want it and it is wonderful
I am sorry to hear it did not work this time. Don't give up, I read an article, that most couples give up too early. IVF sometimes needs 5 - 6 transfers to be successful. I am sending you lots of positive energy for your IVF journey!!! You will have a successful transfer at some point ❤
I love that you addressed adoption. Adoption is not “plan b for having a kid.” Adoption needs to be plan A if it’s going to be successful! Now, if your circumstances and hearts change, it could become plan A someday. But it’s not a solution to suddenly become parents. It’s something that requires so much thought and care and preparation. I love where your hearts are and hope that your choices and plans feel clear as you continue on this journey.
Agree with you. Adoption should be a well thought affair and, only being a plan A. Adoption in USA is a kids' disaster with frequently parents "putting" back the kids to second adoption as kids is not perfection.
I think adoption is such a personal journey and i think those who feel called to do so should do. Not make people who are having struggles conceiving feel guilty for not jumping to that option. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤
Some of the cruelest words ever spoken are after “It’s God’s will…” That’s not the God I believe in. That God’s name is LOVE! You have so much love between you and that will carry you through no matter what is down the road.
Yes, and god couldnt have made a decision about IVF since its a technology that never existed before. How someone defines god should be left to that person.
@@dodge10P1NIf God knows all, and He already has a plan for us before we are born, how can you say that God didn't know about IVF? That makes no sense. He made mankind. There is zero doubt that he can create the earth/universe and all within it, but He had no idea about what IVF is because it did not exist. Give me a break. He can make humans and fertility but IVF is outside His understanding. LOL 😂
@@SanitizeR_OW Well i personally dont believe in any of it. But theres no way one person could ever know and create everything. And know the exact path that 8.2 billion current humans have and every human, animal, creature, living thing that has ever lived. But hey, you do you.
As an adopted person, I can’t even begin to thank you for what you said. I was a foreign adoption and I was a lot. So, I appreciate all the thought that you have put into all the different ways to have a child.
As a Christian it hurts my heart when people say that IVF and surrogacy are against God's will. You did a great job of explaining that to your followers.
It's certainly a delicate balance between communicating something you feel strongly for/against for the sake of your brother/sister in Christ, and also being gentle and loving.
Maybe those seeking abortions are doing so with God's guidance. I guess you just can't have your cake and eat it too. Supporting others no matter the circumstances should be everyone's goal!
During one of my treatments in hospital this poem was on the wall of the IVF ward and I copied it and now 31 years later I am sharing it. Now some are saying it’s all kind of wrong, be it morals or ethics, we don’t go along, if God came down & saw what was done, of restraints & complaints, we’re sure there’d be none. God makes little babies not me or you, not even the team with test tube or two, they can assist with what’s already there, with a lab full of luck and a heart full of care.
You're absolutely right about adoption! It must be child-centric, and not selfishly centered on the parents. I really am so grateful that you addressed the comment karens who are not going to your appointments, making the trips, surgeries, etc. I love the genuine way you address everyone. God gave man the brains to help people have babies. I love your attitude... and YOU KNOW WHAT GOD IS TELLING YOU. You're a beautiful couple. I'm offering prayers. And encouragement. ❤️ This is a difficult process, and you have the best people in your corner. And those who aren't in your corner shouldn't be in your circle.
We have been here. I know and feel your pain. I made the call earlier this year to finally end our journey (8 IVF cycles, extra surgeries, failed transfers and a Stage 4 Endometriosis dx like you) after losing our last embryo in March 2024. Shed all the tears and take the time for yourself. You and your body have worked so so hard. I am glad you have such a supportive spouse during this journey. You two are truly being tested, but you will both come out stronger whatever the outcome ❤
i was adopted at birth and so thankful my birth mother did such a selfless act so i could have a better life. i was lucky that my parents had already adopted my older sister from the same birth mother so i was able to grow up with my bio-1/2 sister(2 different dads). i thank God my parents were open to adoption because i have always felt that i was the luckiest girl in the world to have such great parents. after i was adopted my mom and dad---who were having trouble getting pregnant for years---got pregnant and completed our family. everyone's journey to complete their family is different and should be celebrated.
Maybe he is just not right guy for her.... We had no kids for 15 years with my husband because of endometriosis, and i got pregnant in 6 months with my new partner. It just happens, and I have also friend with the same story. Sometimes when people push it too hard they end up with not very healthy kids. Just because on physical level people don't match.
It's not biblical to say Jessi is being punished, like you said. Sometimes these things just don't work out, but God can turn a bad and painful situation into something good. "28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" Romans 8:28.
who said that in their lives? or is this another hypothetical to bash Christians? a random anonymous commenter shouldn't bug them since people intentionally go out of their way to try to hurt strangers. so, who do they know in their lives that said this? probably no one.
So sorry guys, we were unsuccessful many times in our IVF journey as well. We ended up 'adopting' embryos privately from a couple who were done having children and had leftover embryos. There are several Facebook groups that offer matching for this, as well as many clinics offer this as well. Just another option if you weren't aware and your eggs are not an option. Sending you so much love ❤️
It's also possible in Poland and it's free. You pay only for transfer (or the government can pay for it). It's a great option. We thought about it with my husband, but we started with na egg donor and It worked for us (but it was really expensive).
I feel you, I've been through that journey. I still remember how I get excited when my period get late 3, 4 days. Then when I had my period how much I cried secretly. Nobody knows. Even my husband, I didn't showed him how much I crumbled inside. I have stage 4 endometriosis and tried to get pregnant almost 10 years. I hand many laparoscopic surgeries and the last one was done in 2021. The my gynaecologist said this might be my last chance to get pregnant and it's better in first 6 months after surgery. So we've tried IUI because I couldn't afford to ivf. It didn't succeed. I lost all my hope and I cried and mourn. Then I thought let it be may be this is what it means to be.... I will help children as much as I can. Then the next month I was pregnant. Now I have beautiful 2 year boy. So don't lose your hope, you never know ❤
I love that "It's like breaking your ankle and saying God doesn't want me to have legs anymore." God's will is for you to know Him, love Him and be with Him forever. He isn't pointing out people and saying HAH! ZAP!! As you say, we use our circumstances to help other people in their circumstances. Best of luck!
I can SEE the video of you two telling us you are pregnant! I see it so clearly. Hoping you two do the same. The timing is clearly up to God and "one day you will see why God made you wait". I have a vision board and that is one of the quotes I have on my board. Love you two so much - from a stranger who cannot wait until the day comes when we see you pregnant with your first little one.
I was adopted oh so many moons ago when I was 8 year old. I’m 42 now but Thank god my parents didn’t adopt me as their plan b! Thank you for addressing that for all us adopted folks out there!
@@a0ch People can change their minds. I think what they are trying to say is that the heart needs to be in the right place for adoption and their heart isnt in that place right now. Their heart is in IVF right now. They may wake up one day in the future and feel that tug to adopt though. As someone who went through infertility for years, when they talk about who should adopt, it can come off wrong easily. I felt similar. Adoption isn't the bandaid for infertility. Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family and should be motivated by the desire to adopt rather than the desire to address infertility. When people do IVF, they not only want to have a child, they also want to know why it has been hard for them. They want to get their individual diagnoses. Infertility is the symptom, not the cause. It's a symptom of underlying health problems that often impact more than infertility.
You should set up a gofundme account for this reason. There are many of your subscribers and supporters who would help you. I don't think it would even take a month for you to get the money. Good luck!
If everyone who is subscribed donated 5 dollars you would get what you need. Please let us help you both. I went through this way back before all the new methods. It was incredibly expensive and it wouldn’t have happened without a bunch of family and friends helping us with our journey. ❤
I’m so sorry for you guys but you have been super helpful to me during my journey so thank you. I’ve have PCOs+Endo and had 6 IUIs, one IVF, found cancer after and ectopic pregnancy and 3 transfers. I feel like so many people try to give advice that have never been through it but for me the most comforting thing is to know you’re not feeling these emotions alone and you guys aren’t alone ❤
Jessi's face breaks my heart!!! I know the feeling and can only send you positive energy and I haven't wish for people to have kids like I wish for you two. No matter what people say, it might not make you feel better but know you should not blame yourselves.❤
having gone thru 8 IVF I feel you pain, the highs the lows and everything in between. you guys are a very strong loving couple, wishing all the best and success on this heartbreaking journey. Nobody can know how you really feel until they walk in your shoes..🙏
I think I've written this before. My daughter and her husband have been trying for 3 years. They are using a donor egg because she is 41 and the infertility clinic said she has less than a 1% chance of having a child with her eggs. Their first IVF transfer failed. She only had one embryo that had fertilized. Today her husband is giving his sample to the clinic to attempt to fertilize the donor eggs using a different donor. This whole process is beyond heartbreaking. I am sending you both huge hugs and love. I know you are trying to remain positive, but it's so, so hard.
I got pregnant at 43 with my own egg. The doctors had me believing I had less than a snowball's chance in hell of getting and staying pregnant spontaneously, but they were wrong. The only "intervention" I used was prenatal acupuncture. Wishing you and your family well =)
American clinics are the worst. My mother had 6 kids from age 39 to 45 WITH HER OWN EGGS. Two of her pregnancies were twin pregnancies. That was in the late 90s and early 2000s. No fertility clinic can ascertain what a woman´s eggs can do . None of us kids came out with any abnormalities.
Please ask your daughter to find a different clinic. If all other labs are normal, they will allow women to use their own eggs up to 44, at my former clinic. Lower quality clinics are concerned about their outcome numbers, and so will reject older women without really trying. Also, please ask your daughter to look into acupuncture and supplements.
@@messengeroftruth17 Thank you so much. What I didn't mention is that she has had one miscarriage and two "chemical pregnancies." Two clinics told her that her chances were extremely low. She has also gone through 3 IUI cycles. Thanks again for your suggestions and concerns.
I'm now pregnant by using an egg from a donor and it was the best decision ever. I'm younger but because of some medical issuses that was our only way. I already love my baby and feel that she is ours. Good luck for your daughter!
I think you are completely correct in your assessment of God’s will. He wants what is best for His children. The two of you are His precious children, He stands beside you, and He loves you. So do thousands of people whose lives you have touched with love, laughter, and hope. We will continue to follow you with so much love.
My mind is so blown that anyone can be negative with y'all. Praying for you on your journey!! Thank you for sharing your journey with us, for keeping your hope, and for showing us how your faith impacts your lives.
The wanting it so bad that you convince yourself it happened and then the denial when the test is negative...those are BRUTAL experiences. Give yourself so much grace while you grieve this. And don't apologize to anyone for the way you process any of this.
I was so fortunate to conceive my daughter on our second IVF. She’s 32 now (a doctor) but I remember how hard it was. I hold you in my heart and I know you will find a way to become parents. Wishing you strength on the continuing journey. Your arms will be filled with a child one day b
You are both so strong for sharing your IVF struggles with the world. You both deserve your dreams of a family to come true, in whatever form that is to be. Sending hope and peace to you guys.
Jessi & Alessio, I finally had the time to watch this entire video. I’m so heartbroken for you two, I was really hoping for that miracle for you. I can’t imagine your disappointment and sadness going through this entire process. Jessi, your body has been through a lot and you’ve handled everything with grace, determination and grit! You are one strong woman! Alessio, you are the perfect husband to Jessi and it’s a joy to watch your beautiful love for each other. The loving support and comfort you give each other is beautiful to bear witness to. You’re two very special souls and you’ve brought so much joy to my life with your joyful, funny videos. The beautiful energy and love that you put out into the world will come back to you. I’m sorry that some people say very insensitive, personal comments and opinions about God. Your journey is your journey and nobody else’s. You owe nobody any explanation as to what you plan to do in the future. People don’t understand that when you’re going through something as serious as this medically, you take one day at a time, one step at a time. You should not have to do more than that and nobody should expect you to. Take whatever time you need to mourn this loss because that’s what it is. You lost another embryo which held the promise of new life. Take the time you need to heal and process that. I’m so very sorry for this loss. For both of you. I know one thing from watching you both, you’re very strong people and I have faith that you’ll work through this together. You both have a lot of fans who love you both and who would love to support you in some small way. Would you consider putting up a GOFUNDME for baby Passini? Medical and travel expenses are a lot and after Jessi has her tumor removed if she’s eligible to try another round of IVF then you could use some help. If you get a lot of money then maybe it would help other families who are struggling to conceive through IVF. This should be FULLY COVERED under health insurance but we know it’s not so please let your fans, family and friends support you in this way. We can spread some of your love and kindness back to you. Ok, I’m done sticking my nose in your business now like everyone else! 😂 We mean well, and besides, im Alessio’s moms age and I’m half Italian so think of me as one of your Italian Aunties! 😂 I really wish you both healing and peace during this difficult time. My heart and thoughts are with you both. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Grazie mille per il tuo messaggio bellissimo , le tue parole sono molto di conforto, Io e Jessi anche se la strada è molto difficile e tortuosa riusciamo sempre a darci forza l'uno con l'atro ma i commenti come questi ti danno ancora più forza e quindi ti dico GRAZIE per GOFUNDME non è una nostra opzione ma ringrazio il pensiero se un giorno faremo un GOFUNDME sarà una raccolta fondi per tutte le coppie che hanno bisogno trattamenti IVF, noi non ci sentiamo più speciali degli altri quindi non potremmo mai accettare. ma grazie ❤️
This is a great idea and if they set up the GoFundMe to help not only themselves but other couples struggling with the costs of IVF I could see it doing extremely well. There are so many people that want to see others happy and successful in their journey of having a baby. I wish that it was covered around the world, even if it was like someone else said that in their country the first 3 are covered, so that everyone had the chance but unfortunately that's not the case so if a GoFundMe could help people that would be amazing.
@@ThePasinis Alessio , you should be proud of me I retyped your message into a translator! thank you so much for your beautiful message, your words are very comforting to me and jessi, even if the road is difficult and tortuous, we always manage to give ourselves strength and to each other but comments like these give you even more strength and so I say thank you for gofundme it is not our option but I appreciate the thought if one day we make a gofundme it will be a fundraiser for all the copies who need IVF treatments we don't feel more special than the others so we would never accept but thank you.
@@ThePasinis Alessio & Jessi, please consider the GOFUNDME for yourselves! It’s so heartwarming when communities of people can come together to lift others up in their time of need. Each of us individually cannot change your situation but collectively we can help take some of the financial pressures off of your shoulders. I understand if this doesn’t work for you but please 🙏consider. Do you have a mailing PO Box we can send you cards? I watch all your videos and I have enjoyed you both so much. You are such lovely, beautiful, caring, joyful and kind people. I’m sending you both love, light and positive energy. Buona Fortuna! ♥️😘
The french fries is supposed to be after an egg retrieval thing to help sodium levels to prevent OHSS, but it also transferred into transfers as a good luck tradition! Sending you guys all the hugs and support. 💛
💔❣️ I don't even know what to say. My heart is just breaking for you. Just know how many people you don't even know love you and care about you and are wishing the very best for you. Sending the hugest hugs.
I've tried 14 IVFs and intralipid drip that helps to reduce my immunity helped me to finally get past implantation stage and get pregnant thrice, but I lost 2 previously and now I'm 18th weeks pregnant. Hope this information helps. :) I'm from Singapore cheering for you. You are not alone in this tough journey. 💪💪 Intralipid was with IVF. Another last option my friend shared was a nutritionist controlled diet for husband and wife.
I just adore the two of you! You are so wonderful sharing this journey! It is clearly difficult but the two of you are the perfect guides for this difficult, emotional process.
Hi Jessi and Alessio! Our thoughts and prays are with you, be hopeful! Me and my wife, we are passing trough the same IVF process, we had 2 embryos, one 5th day blastocyst, and one 6 day blastocyst. Altough one day older, our 6th day "looked" better and since we were doing an frozen embryo transfer, they advised us to use the 6th day, instead of the 5th day, and on July 8th we did our first ever transfer (curious it was the same day as you both did the first transfer) and now we are on our 10 week pregnancy! Both of you were such an inspiration for us! Don't give up! I hope our story gives you strength and hope, as much as you gave to us all!
I’m so sorry! I know this pain and seeing any kind of light at the end of the tunnel is so hard. I went through 2 IVF transfers, one was a chemical and the other didn’t work at all. We had limited funds and we decided to go the foster to adopt route. Our second class in, I discovered I was pregnant. We had my son in 2021. A few years later, we tried for a second and after a few months we decided to go the IVF route again since the company I work for covers most of the cost. I found out I had a fibroid, and had to have both tubes removed. I also had low AMH, so we decided to adopt 2 donor embryos. I am almost 15 weeks pregnant. I am praying for you both.
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Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
As a fellow IVF warrior.. I truly understand how hard this journey is.. Take all the time you need to heal and to mourn.. will keep you guys in my prayers.
Today I got to be at the park with a family whose two babies were conceived through IVF. Holding that little three week old girl, I have zero doubt God wanted her to be on this earth with her big brother. ❤ Praying for you both!
I’m sorry for you guys- Jessi, I’ve followed your story since you first were posting about your Endo… preparing to go to Italy (?!?). As a fellow IVFer, a 10+ year journey, 3 transfers of 5 embryos- laying here with my IVF miracle on my chest- and I’m much older than you all…. I can honestly say I understand how difficult, sad, and frustrating this journey is… I myself was a travel patient through CNY who have multiple branches and are the most reasonably priced clinic in the US… They will let you try all kinds of things to see what works- immune protocols, HCG wash, PRP… Sometimes it really does take throwing all the s*** at the wall and seeing what sticks. Thinking of you both during this difficult time… 💜
God gives us free will. Nobody has anybody else's answers. Part of our journey is about finding our own answers. You are doing a beautiful job of living your lives & finding your own answers. Thank you for sharing so courageously with us.
Guys you are definitely on the right path! I admire your persistence and you will get there. I'm currently going through tough times in my fertility journey and watching you helps a lot! Sending you my best wish!
I’m sending you all my love and prayers. Be gentle with yourselves, take all the time you need and don’t listen to anyone’s advice except what’s in your hearts. I’m going through IVF and have had three loses myself and I am endometriosis warrior too. You are a brave and strong woman for what you have been through and for sharing your story. I pray that you find peace during this time ❤❤❤
So sorry. Thank you for sharing the real emotions of an infertility journey and helping others like me to feel less alone in such an extremely isolating situation 💕
You're both so brave to share all of this! I remember those feelings. Take time to care for yourselves before worrying about the next step. I'm praying 🙏 for you both.
My husband and I have been through the IVF process twice and have had 6 unsuccessful embryo transfers - this is the most difficult journey and completely understand what you are going through. It is brave of both of you to share your journey - prayers for you both 💜
Alessio and Jessi- sending you both the biggest hug from Florida. For those who love you and are not judging, we are here sending you positive vibes, praying and best wishes. May God give you both clarity and open doors for you both so that you may have a little prince or princess or both! ❤
It breaks my heart to see Jessi sad. Much love and hugs dearest. Keep strong both of you. Whatever is the next step I will be keeping you both in my prayers ❤️❤️
SO much support and love for you two, from one momma of a baby in heaven struggling with infertility to another. You are so strong and so right, God is not punishing you, we live in a broken world with disease. It's not his will that we suffer. I have been and will continue to pray for you both, especially right now that you would feel the love and peace of Jesus
Thank you for the clarification on the surrogacy issue. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do. Hugs to you both!
You are following your hearts and we are here to pray for you and support you. We always grow closer to God through our struggles. Just know you are loved and supported in whatever is the right way forward. ❤️
Both my sister and best friend went through it, bothe just had their 2nd baby after years of IVF. They both chose the path of not sharing and I respected it. Another newer friend of mine just had her first after years of IVF and I know many around me who are going through it. You guys are helping me try to "be" with what they went through. Here, in Israel, we have a wonderful organization called PUAH institute who help and escort couples on their journy, both physically, mentally, religiously and emotionally, sometimes financially and even with the extended family. I really feel for you and send you my prayers and support. Hug yourself and your feelings, even let yourself be there when it's impossible to look forward to the future, allow yourself that. I can't know what you feel, but I do know tht feelings need to be acknowledged and dealt with and this is not easy. Thank you for letting us a glimpse of you way.
God is LOVE and LIGHT. The both of you are amazing! You are spreading His Love to so many people. God would never cause bad things for either of you. You are a wonderful example of tenacity, patience, God's Love, and love for all. I will continue to pray for both of you along this journey. Your profound statements are so helpful and enlightening. Blessings Abundant
I am so sorry for you -Jessi and Allesio! You are one of the most beautiful couples on CZcams. I watch every video. My heart breaks every time you take a test. I am praying for you. Please don't give up. I was infertile for 11 years and then I began to have children- I lost one baby and delivered 3 healthy babies and they are now 32, 26 and 23. God will show you what to do. I would love to see a little Jessi and a little Alessio. I wish I could give you a baby but I am 64yo!
Lord, I ask of you to heal this couple in their time of pain. The blessing of children is a gift that only you, Lord, can give. For 15 years, I prayed for you to bless me and my husband with at least 1 child. I never gave up hope , but I always trusted you, Lord. Your answer was not no, but not yet. I didn't understand at the time because I lost myself in pain after seeing negative tests after negative tests for years. I watch Alessio and Jessie share their journey. They are a lot stronger and wiser than we were. How wonderful are you, Lord, that you blessed us with 2 beautiful girls. Lord, I pray you place your healing hands on their hearts and Jessie's womb.Only you, Lord, can give them what their heart desires. In Jesus' mighty name, I pray, 🙏.
It is so hard to not get the results you want. Infertility and working to overcome it is hard, too. I’m sorry you’re walking such a difficult path. Thanks for sharing the hard reality of what you’re going through.
My sister tried for a long time and the doctors told her she would not be able to conceive. She finally decided to adopt and when her adopted baby turned 6 months old she got pregnant and now she has two beautiful boys. 😀
That happened to 2 of my aunts! They tried for years and years and never got pregnant, they each decided to adopt, and then 1 found out she was pregnant while she on maternity leave after adopting her son, and my other aunt got pregnant just a few years after adopting her daughter.
You story is beautiful but idk if at this point, it is cruel to Jess and Alessio to continue telling these stories. This cannot be their beautiful ending. Jess can not ever fall pregnant naturally.
Doctors say that happens quite often. When I was a teen I had a girlfriend who was adopted because her parents could not conceive. But shortly after they got her, the mom got pregnant and had a son. Doctors say it happens because after the couple "gives up" and resigns themselves that adoption is the only way, it removes the stress and tension and when they become relaxed, they can conceive.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's really hard to be in this situation. Only people who experienced infertility understand this kind of pain and loss. My heart goes out to you both. Sending you so much love ❤
After my fourth miscarriage I was deep in the grieving process; Everyone in my life kept saying things like, "well i feel confident itll happen for you" or "at least you know you can adopt." They meant well, but it hurt. It was really painful to hear people bringing far reaching solutions or toxic positivity/placations when i just needed to grieve. Whatever you are feeling is valid. You deserve space to move through this journey however it feels right to you. Sending so many positive vibes your way and praying for your peace and comfort ❤️
You’re so right - toxic positivity. It’s ok to feel sad, to grieve, to feel frustrated and angry and feel that way without the pressure of “having hope for better things” and it maybe working out one day. Sitting in feelings is 100% valid and non toxic, I don’t care who thinks otherwise.
When my daughter was young, I tell her It takes all kind of people to run this world and some of them are stupid! Don't listen to the rude & discouraging comments by some people. You are such wonderful, loving couple!
My daughter and son in law did the shots and fertility stuff but not IVF so they just decided not to worry, and then a miracle happened. My granddaughter named "Hope" turned 5 in June. I will pray for you both. Always have hope. Sending hugs and love. ❤
❤❤❤ someone mentioned a gofundme in a comment, to help with whatever you decide for your next steps if it will be pursuing having children. You have hundreds of thousands of followers and if even a third donated 1 dollar you'd be in great shape. I have no clue how they work but I bet there are followers who would contribute. You are a wonderful loving couple with very loyal fans.❤❤❤❤❤❤ big hug.
I got tears in my eyes, beings me back so much to my own journey with infertility... I had the same "advice" as well, all these things people say when they never been through it. I actually published my 2 journeys and it helps people to understand which emotions we are going through while being "infertile". I got one child in the end. Feeling so much what you guys are going through. Lots of love and support. You are beautiful and have each other. Your love for one another speaks volumes. Fingers crossed for you both. Love from Belgium.
I cried with you. I felt your pain. Please don’t give up. Never ever give up. While god gives you the strength use it. ❤ blessings to you both from Worcestershire England x
Enough with the “no judgement”, “I’m ok, you are ok” rubbish. IVF is morally evil and wrong. Pray. Pray to St. Gerard. Trust in God. Every stage of parenthood has its own trauma, whether it’s natural childbirth and/or adoption. Choose your hard. Life is hard.
ohhh TROLL OFF. nobody asked you
Every life no matter how it comes into the world is a blessing and a gift from God . 🙏🏻
I’ve had four miscarriages. Is that morally evil and wrong too?
@@piaauman9020 then why an open forum? No one asked you either.
@@Surreal452 false equivalencies
As an adoptive family, thank you thank you for your comments on adoption ethics. You were 100% correct. Adoption and infertility do not, and should not, necessarily go hand in hand. Sending love and prayers to you guys, you are amazingly strong!
I just pray you are healthy and have a healthy child. ❤
Mine did. After 3 IVF’s with twins x 3 and loosing all of them I knew. We now have a 23 year old beautiful son.
Yahh but children are alone in this World Abd we Can make the difference
@@stefaniaops8465but it has to be in your heart to want to adopt.
To only adopt bc you can not have your own is not in the best interests of the child. It becomes about you, not the child.
I've heard of negatives coming out positive days later. Thank you for always being willing to answer questions, even when they are hard and make you feel stressed. Your willingness to share helps others to learn to be more sensitive to the topics of infertility and other personal reproductive subjects. I know whatever happens, you both will find your way, step by step and you will have a joyful blessed life. I'm so sorry for the disappointment this brings. Working sooo extremely hard and so much you both put into it. I'm interested to hear what your clinic says and the Dr's advice to you. ❤❤
It’s okay to cry, to be angry, to mourn. Those who have been through infertility understand 100% sending you all kinds of love and support!
My husband and I are going through our own infertility journey. Watching you two has made me feel much less alone in this long and quite lonely process. Thank you so much for your openness. Sending my love.
Mi dispiace tantissimo che state attraversando questo momento anche voi! spero con tutto il cuore che la vostra storia abbia un lieto fine! noi siamo qui per tutte le coppie che stanno affrontando questo viaggio durissimo e incoraggiarsi l'uno con l'atra ❤️
Same here. Thank you so much for sharing. We had 4 Transfers. In total 3 years of trying. It's exhausting. Good luck to you and everyone reading this.
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Amore e Ragazzi ❤🎉 Just Love You Sooooo Much and I Got an Evening perfect thanks to Your Beautiful Video with all Good ethics about adoption and Also Trust in God, and I hope You the best days In Italy before the trip back. Love you guys from Sweden Your No 1 Fan from Sweden ❤🇸🇪🩵❤️🩹💝🙏🏼❤️
Same!! I feel less alone watching your videos. Thank you and God bless!!
I was adopted. My brother was adopted. My mom and dad got pregnant with my baby brother. They were in their 30’s when he was born and my mom had congestive heart failure. Everything still worked out and all of us were grown when her heart disease took her. Families are built brick by brick. Whatever you decide will be right for YOUR family. Trust your gut feelings. My husband was also adopted into a family where all 4 kiddos were adopted. I don’t know my birth parents but I consider my adopted mom and dad my parents. I hope you are successful in your ivf journey. You both will make great parents! I wasn’t supposed to be able to have children and I gave birth to 6 beautiful and amazing kiddos. I had a lot of miscarriages, but I also got a beautiful bonus daughter when I married my husband. We now have a 7 month old grandchild. I wish you all the best wishes and luck.
I was adopted at 5 weeks old. My parents didn't think there was anything to understand or prepare for, they didn't think they needed to learn about anything. Not parenting, not the impact adoption has on the child being adopted, or the existing siblings. That left me with a lot of wounds that I had to work very hard for many years to heal. I'm 43 and still working on healing many of them.
Hearing you say those things about adoption felt like a big hug inside my heart. I wish that concept was more widely understood, every part of what you said about adoption. You're so spot on. Thank you. I'm sending hug right back to your heart. 🤗
My wife and I tried IVF 5 times with no success. We were extremely fortunate to have health insurance cover some of the cost but it was still very expensive. I know exactly what the two of you are going through. I applaud you for talking about it publicly to help others understand.
People should really stop giving you two advise! Just send love and positive energy❤
So right, let them decide, we can only support them
Everyone gives everyone advice all the time. When people give advice online on big public forums, they’re doing it more so as a public service message. It’s important for society to be able to have a vocal and public opinion to make a healthy society, we just hope the societal opinion is the healthy and correct one.
Edited: I meant to say, when many people give advice online. Certainly some people have ill intent, but many are doing as I said.
I'm sorry I did try to give advice. 😢 not my place to judge this couple
I wish you guys luck and hope you can find peace with this outcome. I am certain you two are determined enough to become parents , that in one form or another, it will happen
I'm so sorry that it didn't work for you two. I am 76, from Nashville, and my wife died almost 8 years ago. She had overian cancer shortly after we married and had to have a total hysterectomy, so no children for us. She was afraid that I would leave her after her surgery but I loved her so much, that I stayed. You have a good man for a husband. ❤
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You are a beautiful human!
Love to you, William. Very kind of you to share your story.
You too are a good man.
Oh this one got me. 😢 I am sorry to hear about your wife. So heartwarming to hear your deep love for her.
Still believing in a miracle for you both. Sending you strength and comfort.
Grazie mille❤️
I find it absolutely insane that some people say that infertility is God punishing you and you somehow deserve it. Both of you are clearly kind and loving people and a simple fact is that bad things happen to good people. Sending lots of love and prayers ❤
Who would say that?
@@maggie2sticks717 One of my good friends suffered infertility and then a series of heartbreaking miscarriages and another friend of ours told her that God might be punishing her
@@CAMarg-zs1xq People are simply ignorant and cruel.
@@CAMarg-zs1xqthat's one thing I see a lot in fundamental believers: they almost always "know" or "think" what God might "want" or not.... instead of accepting that one of the best things in faith is that it is the great mystery and that it's beyond human knowledge or thoughts.
especially when there are so many stories of God favoring infertile women in the Bible.
The mindset about adoption is so mature and wise. Yall could raise awareness and advocacy for foster kids/orphans by that message of “adoption should always be about the kid”… that makes me emotional in a good way🥹.
I hate when people say you’re going against God’s will. God gave us the skills, scientists and resources to be able to make this possible.
Absolutely!!
There is a difference between God's Positive Will and God's Permissive Will. God permits sin and evil- but He does not Positively Will it. Doing something contrary to God's Positive Will is "going against His Will"- just like Adam and Eve's first sin. Doing something against His Positive Will, even though it is "permitted", always brings about some evil and not the good that God desired to have happen. God has permitted scientists to do many things that He does not positively Will that they do. IVF is one of them. It goes against God's Design for how new lives are created and is man seeking to play God with the creation of life. Instead of accepting God's Will, it is man seeking to make his own will happen- but then saying something like, "Well, God has allowed this possibility" when it was not God, but the devil, that inspired such technologies and ideas. The Church has always taught that IVF is a mortal sin- not God's Positive Will. Unfortunately, many people have not been taught... or disregard... that IVF is a mortal sin and do not recognize it as an error of naturalism. The creation of a human involves the supernatural- as God endows a new person a soul at their natural conception. This is not the case with IVF- as God is not bound by man to give a soul to a child conceived in a petri dish. Mary has given messages about this, warning us about "soulless" "test tube babies". Naturalism is an error spread by Freemasonry in which man believes it is ok to take God's intelligently designed and Willed creation, break it down to its smallest parts, and then re-arrange or reconstruct it according to the person doing it's will.... not God's. The thing is that God created things in such ways as to reveal supernatural mysteries about the Truth of Himself. When man and wife, in a Covenant Sacramental Marriage, make a total gift of self to one another, giving and receiving Love, that Love multiplies- begetting new life. Likewise, Jesus makes a total gift of self to a person who receives Him in the Eucharist, offering to Love Him with their whole heart, mind, body, soul, spirit, and strength. That exchange of Love multiplies- begetting a supernatural Life (Sanctifying Grace) that overcomes sin and increases God's family for all eternity. These mysteries of Truth are lost when life is reduced to lab science. The dignity of a person is frustrated when their life willed by a person who paid for it and had a scientist create it for them rather than was a free gift that God bestowed according to His Own design and Will. I pray that this helps you and others understand. IVF is not something that should be celebrated and promoted; it is something people have to repent of. Mortal sin removes you from Sanctifying Grace and you become deadened to the life of God in your soul. Anyone who did not realize this and created a child via IVF should go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation to have Sanctifying Grace restored to their soul and beg God to Mercifully grant their child a soul, promising to Baptize them and consecrate them to Him. Of course, that is a prayer that He wants to answer, covering for the error of our ways out of His Love and Mercy for us, rather than "punishing" it as some told Jessi. But, His Love and Mercy for us also includes helping us to realize our errors and the ways we have divorced ourselves from Him and from the Supernatural Life of the soul- Sanctifying Grace - so that we can be restored. "Repent and go and sin no more." You have to be in a State of Sanctifying Grace when you die... when your soul separates from your body... in order to go to Heaven. If you never repent of a mortal sin... but instead feel rewarded in it, you will choose Hell for all eternity, not Heaven. Many IVF couples are also invalidly and not Sacramentally married- which is also a mortal sin. That they already ignored God's Positive Will for marriage is why they likely fell into errors regarding God's Will for conceiving children. Just as IVF has to repented of, invalid marriages have to be repented of and made valid and Sacramental, according to God's Positive Will.
And still like you see God says a big NO
@@fiat_heart I am raised as a Catholic. We did IVF. It’s not a sin to want to want to raise a child in a loving home and in the house of God. Why is IVF a mortal sin? Because a bunch of men said so? We’re not playing God. We are not designing life we are creating it. I look at my son and there’s no way you can say he is a mortal sin because of the way he came into the world. How dare you judge people and the ways in which they want to express their love by having children by any means necessary.
@@ninamanolova2458 I don’t understand what you’re trying to say
From one infertile couple to another: We're so sorry you're a part of this crappy club. Sending you the biggest hugs and prayers for wisdom for the journey.
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It’s a club none of us want to join. But it sure helps to have the support
It takes so much courage to share something so personal and painful. You are helping all those other couples who are suffering through the same struggles to realize that they aren't alone.
😢 I got pregnant 1 year ago. But it was ectopic. I lost my fallopian tube. And now every time I pray for these two lines in the test. I feel you so much. I pray for me and for you! 🙏
I struggled for 13 years. This video made me cry. It took me back to all those years.
Infertility is still very much on the surface on my heart…it always will be.
I am now the proud Mom of two IVF boys.
Allow yourself to cry and feel all the emotions. Grieve your loss. It’s so much hope, love, effort, physical aches of meds, all the appointments, labs, dreams.
I wish you the very best of luck. This journey will change you, parenthood is such a miracle. When you hold your baby in your arms, you will marvel at the miracle you created.
The look on Jessi’s face when y’all flipped the test over, my heart just broke for you both. I am so sorry for the awful dark valley y’all are going through, but I hope you can draw strength from each other and know that you will get through this. Please know how much you are loved and supported. ❤️🩹
Edited to add: It’s fine if neither of y’all know what to say. Nothing needs to be said.
Its so hard not to feel like our body is broken, as a woman, when you can't conceive. We tried for 7 years, couldn't afford infertility treatment. 4 months after I turned 30 i found out i was pregnant. My little munchkin was born at 26 weeks weighing 1 lb 10 ounces. She is 18 now and just started her first semester of college 2 weeks ago !!! God Bless you, keep the faith❤
Jessi had to remove her ovaries so there is no chance of random conceiving 😢
We will continue to pray. So many of us love you both. Please know you’re loved. ❤
@@carinarose8600it's a fallopian tube
@@carinarose8600she had her tubes removed, not ovaries (I’m in the same boat), but you’re right, no chance of conceiving naturally…. And it sucks.
We tried for kids throughout our 20s, after 2 miscarriages and years of mental exhaustion we decided to try IVF and in the UK it's free for 3 cycles, So we had 3 cycles with no success, after much much heartache, pain, guilt, anger and sadness we came to the conclusion we were still madly in love, very happy in our life together and we had given enough of our lives to the heartbreak of trying and failing and we needed to move on and be happy so that's what we did, don't get me wrong it wasn't instant happiness and moving on it took time to get used to that huge thing in our life that was sucking the life out of us was now gone and we could concentrate on us again.
We have been married 26 years now and we are in our mid 40s and we have never regretted stopping trying we got on with our wonderful life together and enjoy our families and friends we have 6 nieces and 4 nephews whom we adore, we volunteer for the local food bank and run a community garden with 30 local volunteers and so much more. Sorry this is rambling but what I want to say is there is life without kids if you want it and it is wonderful
I have the same story with my husband after 5 miscarriages. It is possible to thrive - not just survive - after unsuccessful infertility.
I am sorry to hear it did not work this time. Don't give up, I read an article, that most couples give up too early. IVF sometimes needs 5 - 6 transfers to be successful. I am sending you lots of positive energy for your IVF journey!!! You will have a successful transfer at some point ❤
I love that you addressed adoption. Adoption is not “plan b for having a kid.” Adoption needs to be plan A if it’s going to be successful! Now, if your circumstances and hearts change, it could become plan A someday. But it’s not a solution to suddenly become parents. It’s something that requires so much thought and care and preparation. I love where your hearts are and hope that your choices and plans feel clear as you continue on this journey.
Thank you for saying the things you did about your journey and adoption issues.
@@brendawheelen637 I haven’t adopted. Just have strong feelings about it and think it could be for me someday!
God commands you to eat ff after transfers. ( I’m joking)
Agree with you. Adoption should be a well thought affair and, only being a plan A.
Adoption in USA is a kids' disaster with frequently parents "putting" back the kids to second adoption as kids is not perfection.
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I think adoption is such a personal journey and i think those who feel called to do so should do. Not make people who are having struggles conceiving feel guilty for not jumping to that option. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤
No words, just support. You both deserve the best.
You're glowing when you're together, you'll figure it out,life is in front of you, enjoy it
The way Alessio knows Jessi and loves her inside and out
And defends her is just beautiful
Love you guys ❤
Some of the cruelest words ever spoken are after “It’s God’s will…” That’s not the God I believe in. That God’s name is LOVE! You have so much love between you and that will carry you through no matter what is down the road.
Yes, and god couldnt have made a decision about IVF since its a technology that never existed before. How someone defines god should be left to that person.
@@dodge10P1NIf God knows all, and He already has a plan for us before we are born, how can you say that God didn't know about IVF? That makes no sense. He made mankind. There is zero doubt that he can create the earth/universe and all within it, but He had no idea about what IVF is because it did not exist. Give me a break. He can make humans and fertility but IVF is outside His understanding. LOL 😂
@@SanitizeR_OW Well i personally dont believe in any of it. But theres no way one person could ever know and create everything. And know the exact path that 8.2 billion current humans have and every human, animal, creature, living thing that has ever lived. But hey, you do you.
@@dodge10P1Nlol you should read a bit. God isn't a person. the creator is not human.
he briefly came in human form. Jesus wasn't any person, either.
@@y2ksurvivor Lol, mmmk.
As an adopted person, I can’t even begin to thank you for what you said. I was a foreign adoption and I was a lot. So, I appreciate all the thought that you have put into all the different ways to have a child.
As a Christian it hurts my heart when people say that IVF and surrogacy are against God's will. You did a great job of explaining that to your followers.
It's certainly a delicate balance between communicating something you feel strongly for/against for the sake of your brother/sister in Christ, and also being gentle and loving.
Maybe those seeking abortions are doing so with God's guidance. I guess you just can't have your cake and eat it too. Supporting others no matter the circumstances should be everyone's goal!
Surrogacy isn't against god, it is against morals, ethics and human rights
During one of my treatments in hospital this poem was on the wall of the IVF ward and I copied it and now 31 years later I am sharing it. Now some are saying it’s all kind of wrong, be it morals or ethics, we don’t go along, if God came down & saw what was done, of restraints & complaints, we’re sure there’d be none. God makes little babies not me or you, not even the team with test tube or two, they can assist with what’s already there, with a lab full of luck and a heart full of care.
@@annegiarratana7744 I'm going through my own journey of infertility right now, andthat is a stunning poem, thank you for sharing ❤️
You're absolutely right about adoption! It must be child-centric, and not selfishly centered on the parents. I really am so grateful that you addressed the comment karens who are not going to your appointments, making the trips, surgeries, etc. I love the genuine way you address everyone. God gave man the brains to help people have babies. I love your attitude... and YOU KNOW WHAT GOD IS TELLING YOU. You're a beautiful couple. I'm offering prayers. And encouragement. ❤️ This is a difficult process, and you have the best people in your corner. And those who aren't in your corner shouldn't be in your circle.
We have been here. I know and feel your pain. I made the call earlier this year to finally end our journey (8 IVF cycles, extra surgeries, failed transfers and a Stage 4 Endometriosis dx like you) after losing our last embryo in March 2024. Shed all the tears and take the time for yourself. You and your body have worked so so hard. I am glad you have such a supportive spouse during this journey. You two are truly being tested, but you will both come out stronger whatever the outcome ❤
Sending you lots of love.
i was adopted at birth and so thankful my birth mother did such a selfless act so i could have a better life. i was lucky that my parents had already adopted my older sister from the same birth mother so i was able to grow up with my bio-1/2 sister(2 different dads). i thank God my parents were open to adoption because i have always felt that i was the luckiest girl in the world to have such great parents. after i was adopted my mom and dad---who were having trouble getting pregnant for years---got pregnant and completed our family. everyone's journey to complete their family is different and should be celebrated.
That happens sometimes, it's such a irony that what the body needed (in those cases) to get pregnant was to be already a mother.
Thats a beautiful story :) God bless
No one should ever say to someone that God is punishing them. That is not ok. Jessi is a gift and Alessio is very blessed to have married her!!
Maybe he is just not right guy for her.... We had no kids for 15 years with my husband because of endometriosis, and i got pregnant in 6 months with my new partner. It just happens, and I have also friend with the same story. Sometimes when people push it too hard they end up with not very healthy kids. Just because on physical level people don't match.
It's not biblical to say Jessi is being punished, like you said. Sometimes these things just don't work out, but God can turn a bad and painful situation into something good. "28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" Romans 8:28.
who said that in their lives? or is this another hypothetical to bash Christians? a random anonymous commenter shouldn't bug them since people intentionally go out of their way to try to hurt strangers. so, who do they know in their lives that said this? probably no one.
What??? Did you know that most of the matriarchs in the Bible had fertility issues.
@@jeanettejeanette1199I agree and phrase it “God gave us the brain with the expectation that we use it”
So sorry guys, we were unsuccessful many times in our IVF journey as well. We ended up 'adopting' embryos privately from a couple who were done having children and had leftover embryos. There are several Facebook groups that offer matching for this, as well as many clinics offer this as well. Just another option if you weren't aware and your eggs are not an option. Sending you so much love ❤️
Cool 😮
It's also possible in Poland and it's free. You pay only for transfer (or the government can pay for it). It's a great option. We thought about it with my husband, but we started with na egg donor and It worked for us (but it was really expensive).
I feel you, I've been through that journey.
I still remember how I get excited when my period get late 3, 4 days. Then when I had my period how much I cried secretly. Nobody knows. Even my husband, I didn't showed him how much I crumbled inside.
I have stage 4 endometriosis and tried to get pregnant almost 10 years.
I hand many laparoscopic surgeries and the last one was done in 2021. The my gynaecologist said this might be my last chance to get pregnant and it's better in first 6 months after surgery.
So we've tried IUI because I couldn't afford to ivf.
It didn't succeed.
I lost all my hope and I cried and mourn.
Then I thought let it be may be this is what it means to be.... I will help children as much as I can.
Then the next month I was pregnant.
Now I have beautiful 2 year boy.
So don't lose your hope, you never know ❤
Congratulations and God bless you and your baby! 🙏❤
Such a beautiful story. God bless you for sharing
omg, this is one of the best stories I've ever read. Would you mind to tell how old you where when you got your boy ?
No Way!! Are you serious!? That's incredible! 🎉🎉🎉
@@lydiapicano8806
Thank you so much ❤️
I love that "It's like breaking your ankle and saying God doesn't want me to have legs anymore." God's will is for you to know Him, love Him and be with Him forever. He isn't pointing out people and saying HAH! ZAP!! As you say, we use our circumstances to help other people in their circumstances. Best of luck!
I can SEE the video of you two telling us you are pregnant! I see it so clearly. Hoping you two do the same. The timing is clearly up to God and "one day you will see why God made you wait". I have a vision board and that is one of the quotes I have on my board. Love you two so much - from a stranger who cannot wait until the day comes when we see you pregnant with your first little one.
Ah another religious dumbo with a crystal ball
I was adopted oh so many moons ago when I was 8 year old. I’m 42 now but Thank god my parents didn’t adopt me as their plan b! Thank you for addressing that for all us adopted folks out there!
How did they make sure you know you were not their plan b? :)
@@a0ch People can change their minds. I think what they are trying to say is that the heart needs to be in the right place for adoption and their heart isnt in that place right now. Their heart is in IVF right now. They may wake up one day in the future and feel that tug to adopt though. As someone who went through infertility for years, when they talk about who should adopt, it can come off wrong easily. I felt similar. Adoption isn't the bandaid for infertility. Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family and should be motivated by the desire to adopt rather than the desire to address infertility. When people do IVF, they not only want to have a child, they also want to know why it has been hard for them. They want to get their individual diagnoses. Infertility is the symptom, not the cause. It's a symptom of underlying health problems that often impact more than infertility.
You should set up a gofundme account for this reason. There are many of your subscribers and supporters who would help you. I don't think it would even take a month for you to get the money. Good luck!
Agreed I would donate what I could to help out!
Me too! Have ridden the infertility roller coaster. Buona Fortuna 🥰
If everyone who is subscribed donated 5 dollars you would get what you need. Please let us help you both. I went through this way back before all the new methods. It was incredibly expensive and it wouldn’t have happened without a bunch of family and friends helping us with our journey. ❤
Wow, how much does it cost?
@@sylvia106 here in the USA 14 to 20 thousand dollars for one cycle. This is today prices. If you need an egg donation or surrogate way more.
I’m so sorry for you guys but you have been super helpful to me during my journey so thank you. I’ve have PCOs+Endo and had 6 IUIs, one IVF, found cancer after and ectopic pregnancy and 3 transfers. I feel like so many people try to give advice that have never been through it but for me the most comforting thing is to know you’re not feeling these emotions alone and you guys aren’t alone ❤
Jessi's face breaks my heart!!! I know the feeling and can only send you positive energy and I haven't wish for people to have kids like I wish for you two. No matter what people say, it might not make you feel better but know you should not blame yourselves.❤
Your embryos will always be with you. They are of you and you made them. They are with God and are helping you get through this.
having gone thru 8 IVF I feel you pain, the highs the lows and everything in between. you guys are a very strong loving couple, wishing all the best and success on this heartbreaking journey. Nobody can know how you really feel until they walk in your shoes..🙏
I think I've written this before. My daughter and her husband have been trying for 3 years. They are using a donor egg because she is 41 and the infertility clinic said she has less than a 1% chance of having a child with her eggs. Their first IVF transfer failed. She only had one embryo that had fertilized. Today her husband is giving his sample to the clinic to attempt to fertilize the donor eggs using a different donor. This whole process is beyond heartbreaking. I am sending you both huge hugs and love. I know you are trying to remain positive, but it's so, so hard.
I got pregnant at 43 with my own egg. The doctors had me believing I had less than a snowball's chance in hell of getting and staying pregnant spontaneously, but they were wrong. The only "intervention" I used was prenatal acupuncture. Wishing you and your family well =)
American clinics are the worst. My mother had 6 kids from age 39 to 45 WITH HER OWN EGGS. Two of her pregnancies were twin pregnancies. That was in the late 90s and early 2000s. No fertility clinic can ascertain what a woman´s eggs can do . None of us kids came out with any abnormalities.
Please ask your daughter to find a different clinic. If all other labs are normal, they will allow women to use their own eggs up to 44, at my former clinic. Lower quality clinics are concerned about their outcome numbers, and so will reject older women without really trying. Also, please ask your daughter to look into acupuncture and supplements.
@@messengeroftruth17 Thank you so much. What I didn't mention is that she has had one miscarriage and two "chemical pregnancies." Two clinics told her that her chances were extremely low. She has also gone through 3 IUI cycles. Thanks again for your suggestions and concerns.
I'm now pregnant by using an egg from a donor and it was the best decision ever. I'm younger but because of some medical issuses that was our only way. I already love my baby and feel that she is ours. Good luck for your daughter!
I think you are completely correct in your assessment of God’s will. He wants what is best for His children. The two of you are His precious children, He stands beside you, and He loves you. So do thousands of people whose lives you have touched with love, laughter, and hope. We will continue to follow you with so much love.
My mind is so blown that anyone can be negative with y'all. Praying for you on your journey!! Thank you for sharing your journey with us, for keeping your hope, and for showing us how your faith impacts your lives.
The wanting it so bad that you convince yourself it happened and then the denial when the test is negative...those are BRUTAL experiences. Give yourself so much grace while you grieve this. And don't apologize to anyone for the way you process any of this.
I was so fortunate to conceive my daughter on our second IVF. She’s 32 now (a doctor) but I remember how hard it was. I hold you in my heart and I know you will find a way to become parents. Wishing you strength on the continuing journey. Your arms will be filled with a child one day b
I'm sorry for your loss of the first child. Congratulations on your daughter that lived.
You are both so strong for sharing your IVF struggles with the world. You both deserve your dreams of a family to come true, in whatever form that is to be. Sending hope and peace to you guys.
Jessi & Alessio,
I finally had the time to watch this entire video. I’m so heartbroken for you two, I was really hoping for that miracle for you. I can’t imagine your disappointment and sadness going through this entire process. Jessi, your body has been through a lot and you’ve handled everything with grace, determination and grit! You are one strong woman! Alessio, you are the perfect husband to Jessi and it’s a joy to watch your beautiful love for each other. The loving support and comfort you give each other is beautiful to bear witness to. You’re two very special souls and you’ve brought so much joy to my life with your joyful, funny videos. The beautiful energy and love that you put out into the world will come back to you. I’m sorry that some people say very insensitive, personal comments and opinions about God. Your journey is your journey and nobody else’s. You owe nobody any explanation as to what you plan to do in the future. People don’t understand that when you’re going through something as serious as this medically, you take one day at a time, one step at a time. You should not have to do more than that and nobody should expect you to. Take whatever time you need to mourn this loss because that’s what it is. You lost another embryo which held the promise of new life. Take the time you need to heal and process that. I’m so very sorry for this loss. For both of you. I know one thing from watching you both, you’re very strong people and I have faith that you’ll work through this together. You both have a lot of fans who love you both and who would love to support you in some small way. Would you consider putting up a GOFUNDME for baby Passini? Medical and travel expenses are a lot and after Jessi has her tumor removed if she’s eligible to try another round of IVF then you could use some help. If you get a lot of money then maybe it would help other families who are struggling to conceive through IVF. This should be FULLY COVERED under health insurance but we know it’s not so please let your fans, family and friends support you in this way. We can spread some of your love and kindness back to you. Ok, I’m done sticking my nose in your business now like everyone else! 😂 We mean well, and besides, im Alessio’s moms age and I’m half Italian so think of me as one of your Italian Aunties! 😂 I really wish you both healing and peace during this difficult time. My heart and thoughts are with you both. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Grazie mille per il tuo messaggio bellissimo , le tue parole sono molto di conforto, Io e Jessi anche se la strada è molto difficile e tortuosa riusciamo sempre a darci forza l'uno con l'atro ma i commenti come questi ti danno ancora più forza e quindi ti dico GRAZIE per GOFUNDME non è una nostra opzione ma ringrazio il pensiero se un giorno faremo un GOFUNDME sarà una raccolta fondi per tutte le coppie che hanno bisogno trattamenti IVF, noi non ci sentiamo più speciali degli altri quindi non potremmo mai accettare. ma grazie ❤️
This is a great idea and if they set up the GoFundMe to help not only themselves but other couples struggling with the costs of IVF I could see it doing extremely well. There are so many people that want to see others happy and successful in their journey of having a baby. I wish that it was covered around the world, even if it was like someone else said that in their country the first 3 are covered, so that everyone had the chance but unfortunately that's not the case so if a GoFundMe could help people that would be amazing.
@@ThePasinis I can’t read Italian.
@@ThePasinis Alessio , you should be proud of me I retyped your message into a translator!
thank you so much for your beautiful message, your words are very comforting to me and jessi, even if the road is difficult and tortuous, we always manage to give ourselves strength and to each other but comments like these give you even more strength and so I say thank you for gofundme it is not our option but I appreciate the thought if one day we make a gofundme it will be a fundraiser for all the copies who need IVF treatments we don't feel more special than the others so we would never accept but thank you.
@@ThePasinis Alessio & Jessi, please consider the GOFUNDME for yourselves! It’s so heartwarming when communities of people can come together to lift others up in their time of need. Each of us individually cannot change your situation but collectively we can help take some of the financial pressures off of your shoulders. I understand if this doesn’t work for you but please 🙏consider. Do you have a mailing PO Box we can send you cards?
I watch all your videos and I have enjoyed you both so much. You are such lovely, beautiful, caring, joyful and kind people. I’m sending you both love, light and positive energy. Buona Fortuna! ♥️😘
The french fries is supposed to be after an egg retrieval thing to help sodium levels to prevent OHSS, but it also transferred into transfers as a good luck tradition! Sending you guys all the hugs and support. 💛
💔❣️ I don't even know what to say. My heart is just breaking for you. Just know how many people you don't even know love you and care about you and are wishing the very best for you. Sending the hugest hugs.
Dear Jessie & Alessio - I'm in tears, but still so very hopeful for you. Sending you love, positivity & heartfelt prayers. 💕
I've tried 14 IVFs and intralipid drip that helps to reduce my immunity helped me to finally get past implantation stage and get pregnant thrice, but I lost 2 previously and now I'm 18th weeks pregnant. Hope this information helps. :)
I'm from Singapore cheering for you. You are not alone in this tough journey. 💪💪
Intralipid was with IVF. Another last option my friend shared was a nutritionist controlled diet for husband and wife.
I just adore the two of you! You are so wonderful sharing this journey! It is clearly difficult but the two of you are the perfect guides for this difficult, emotional process.
Dear i am Russian and my husband is Italian, we did two rounds of IVF and we are now parents of a beautiful baby girl , dont loose hope and pray ❤🙏
Hi Jessi and Alessio! Our thoughts and prays are with you, be hopeful! Me and my wife, we are passing trough the same IVF process, we had 2 embryos, one 5th day blastocyst, and one 6 day blastocyst. Altough one day older, our 6th day "looked" better and since we were doing an frozen embryo transfer, they advised us to use the 6th day, instead of the 5th day, and on July 8th we did our first ever transfer (curious it was the same day as you both did the first transfer) and now we are on our 10 week pregnancy! Both of you were such an inspiration for us! Don't give up! I hope our story gives you strength and hope, as much as you gave to us all!
I’m so sorry! I know this pain and seeing any kind of light at the end of the tunnel is so hard. I went through 2 IVF transfers, one was a chemical and the other didn’t work at all. We had limited funds and we decided to go the foster to adopt route. Our second class in, I discovered I was pregnant. We had my son in 2021. A few years later, we tried for a second and after a few months we decided to go the IVF route again since the company I work for covers most of the cost. I found out I had a fibroid, and had to have both tubes removed. I also had low AMH, so we decided to adopt 2 donor embryos. I am almost 15 weeks pregnant. I am praying for you both.
I also agree. no judgment, no advice on a very personal journey. Sending prayers and hugs from California.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss
As a fellow IVF warrior.. I truly understand how hard this journey is.. Take all the time you need to heal and to mourn.. will keep you guys in my prayers.
Today I got to be at the park with a family whose two babies were conceived through IVF. Holding that little three week old girl, I have zero doubt God wanted her to be on this earth with her big brother. ❤ Praying for you both!
I’m sorry for you guys- Jessi, I’ve followed your story since you first were posting about your Endo… preparing to go to Italy (?!?). As a fellow IVFer, a 10+ year journey, 3 transfers of 5 embryos- laying here with my IVF miracle on my chest- and I’m much older than you all…. I can honestly say I understand how difficult, sad, and frustrating this journey is… I myself was a travel patient through CNY who have multiple branches and are the most reasonably priced clinic in the US… They will let you try all kinds of things to see what works- immune protocols, HCG wash, PRP… Sometimes it really does take throwing all the s*** at the wall and seeing what sticks. Thinking of you both during this difficult time… 💜
God gives us free will. Nobody has anybody else's answers. Part of our journey is about finding our own answers. You are doing a beautiful job of living your lives & finding your own answers. Thank you for sharing so courageously with us.
Guys you are definitely on the right path! I admire your persistence and you will get there. I'm currently going through tough times in my fertility journey and watching you helps a lot! Sending you my best wish!
I’m sending you all my love and prayers. Be gentle with yourselves, take all the time you need and don’t listen to anyone’s advice except what’s in your hearts. I’m going through IVF and have had three loses myself and I am endometriosis warrior too. You are a brave and strong woman for what you have been through and for sharing your story. I pray that you find peace during this time ❤❤❤
My heart hurts for you both. Whatever you decide to do is ok. There are no wrong decisions. Sending much love and positive wishes and blessings.
So sorry. Thank you for sharing the real emotions of an infertility journey and helping others like me to feel less alone in such an extremely isolating situation 💕
You're both so brave to share all of this! I remember those feelings. Take time to care for yourselves before worrying about the next step. I'm praying 🙏 for you both.
My husband and I have been through the IVF process twice and have had 6 unsuccessful embryo transfers - this is the most difficult journey and completely understand what you are going through. It is brave of both of you to share your journey - prayers for you both 💜
Alessio and Jessi- sending you both the biggest hug from Florida. For those who love you and are not judging, we are here sending you positive vibes, praying and best wishes. May God give you both clarity and open doors for you both so that you may have a little prince or princess or both! ❤
It breaks my heart to see Jessi sad. Much love and hugs dearest. Keep strong both of you. Whatever is the next step I will be keeping you both in my prayers ❤️❤️
SO much support and love for you two, from one momma of a baby in heaven struggling with infertility to another. You are so strong and so right, God is not punishing you, we live in a broken world with disease. It's not his will that we suffer. I have been and will continue to pray for you both, especially right now that you would feel the love and peace of Jesus
Thank you for the clarification on the surrogacy issue. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do. Hugs to you both!
I love the Joy and Love you guys have for each other. ❤ Prayers for your health and future.
So sorry! 😢 Prayers for you for both of you
You are following your hearts and we are here to pray for you and support you. We always grow closer to God through our struggles. Just know you are loved and supported in whatever is the right way forward. ❤️
your positivity is really inspiring, makes you appreciate being alive despite all things good or bad, sending hugs
Both my sister and best friend went through it, bothe just had their 2nd baby after years of IVF.
They both chose the path of not sharing and I respected it. Another newer friend of mine just had her first after years of IVF and I know many around me who are going through it.
You guys are helping me try to "be" with what they went through.
Here, in Israel, we have a wonderful organization called PUAH institute who help and escort couples on their journy, both physically, mentally, religiously and emotionally, sometimes financially and even with the extended family.
I really feel for you and send you my prayers and support. Hug yourself and your feelings, even let yourself be there when it's impossible to look forward to the future, allow yourself that. I can't know what you feel, but I do know tht feelings need to be acknowledged and dealt with and this is not easy. Thank you for letting us a glimpse of you way.
To you and everyone going through similar struggles: Sending only love and hugs. ❤❤❤❤
God is LOVE and LIGHT. The both of you are amazing! You are spreading His Love to so many people. God would never cause bad things for either of you. You are a wonderful example of tenacity, patience, God's Love, and love for all. I will continue to pray for both of you along this journey. Your profound statements are so helpful and enlightening. Blessings Abundant
I am so sorry for you -Jessi and Allesio! You are one of the most beautiful couples on CZcams. I watch every video. My heart breaks every time you take a test. I am praying for you. Please don't give up. I was infertile for 11 years and then I began to have children- I lost one baby and delivered 3 healthy babies and they are now 32, 26 and 23. God will show you what to do. I would love to see a little Jessi and a little Alessio. I wish I could give you a baby but I am 64yo!
You are a GREAT couple. This is not the end of the chapter just the middle of the story.
Lord, I ask of you to heal this couple in their time of pain. The blessing of children is a gift that only you, Lord, can give. For 15 years, I prayed for you to bless me and my husband with at least 1 child. I never gave up hope , but I always trusted you, Lord. Your answer was not no, but not yet. I didn't understand at the time because I lost myself in pain after seeing negative tests after negative tests for years. I watch Alessio and Jessie share their journey. They are a lot stronger and wiser than we were. How wonderful are you, Lord, that you blessed us with 2 beautiful girls. Lord, I pray you place your healing hands on their hearts and Jessie's womb.Only you, Lord, can give them what their heart desires. In Jesus' mighty name, I pray, 🙏.
In 10 years all of this will make sense. Sending you lots of love. I pray God hold you and guides you.
It is so hard to not get the results you want. Infertility and working to overcome it is hard, too. I’m sorry you’re walking such a difficult path. Thanks for sharing the hard reality of what you’re going through.
My sister tried for a long time and the doctors told her she would not be able to conceive. She finally decided to adopt and when her adopted baby turned 6 months old she got pregnant and now she has two beautiful boys. 😀
That should be a movie. 💜
That happened to 2 of my aunts! They tried for years and years and never got pregnant, they each decided to adopt, and then 1 found out she was pregnant while she on maternity leave after adopting her son, and my other aunt got pregnant just a few years after adopting her daughter.
Unfortunately this won’t happen for Jessi, because Jessi does not have any fallopian tubes. 😢
You story is beautiful but idk if at this point, it is cruel to Jess and Alessio to continue telling these stories. This cannot be their beautiful ending. Jess can not ever fall pregnant naturally.
Doctors say that happens quite often. When I was a teen I had a girlfriend who was adopted because her parents could not conceive. But shortly after they got her, the mom got pregnant and had a son. Doctors say it happens because after the couple "gives up" and resigns themselves that adoption is the only way, it removes the stress and tension and when they become relaxed, they can conceive.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's really hard to be in this situation. Only people who experienced infertility understand this kind of pain and loss. My heart goes out to you both. Sending you so much love ❤
Your sharing this journey is beyond generous! We wish you love.
Your future kid is lucky to have you guys as parents. You guys are such good souls. Sending you love and warm hugs.
You both make so much sense. One thing at a time. Focusing on the now makes so much sense
As a God believing woman, Jesse, you are right. You gave a perfect explanation.
You two are so sweet.
Good Luck in you continued journey! I hope everything works out for you.
After my fourth miscarriage I was deep in the grieving process; Everyone in my life kept saying things like, "well i feel confident itll happen for you" or "at least you know you can adopt." They meant well, but it hurt. It was really painful to hear people bringing far reaching solutions or toxic positivity/placations when i just needed to grieve. Whatever you are feeling is valid. You deserve space to move through this journey however it feels right to you. Sending so many positive vibes your way and praying for your peace and comfort ❤️
You’re so right - toxic positivity. It’s ok to feel sad, to grieve, to feel frustrated and angry and feel that way without the pressure of “having hope for better things” and it maybe working out one day. Sitting in feelings is 100% valid and non toxic, I don’t care who thinks otherwise.
Ivf centers and doctors in Turkey - Istanbul are seriously the best. Don’t give up, you’re still young.
When my daughter was young, I tell her It takes all kind of people to run this world and some of them are stupid! Don't listen to the rude & discouraging comments by some people. You are such wonderful, loving couple!
My daughter and son in law did the shots and fertility stuff but not IVF so they just decided not to worry, and then a miracle happened. My granddaughter named "Hope" turned 5 in June. I will pray for you both. Always have hope. Sending hugs and love. ❤
❤❤❤ someone mentioned a gofundme in a comment, to help with whatever you decide for your next steps if it will be pursuing having children. You have hundreds of thousands of followers and if even a third donated 1 dollar you'd be in great shape. I have no clue how they work but I bet there are followers who would contribute. You are a wonderful loving couple with very loyal fans.❤❤❤❤❤❤ big hug.
I would donate as well
I got tears in my eyes, beings me back so much to my own journey with infertility...
I had the same "advice" as well, all these things people say when they never been through it.
I actually published my 2 journeys and it helps people to understand which emotions we are going through while being "infertile".
I got one child in the end.
Feeling so much what you guys are going through. Lots of love and support. You are beautiful and have each other. Your love for one another speaks volumes.
Fingers crossed for you both. Love from Belgium.
I cried with you. I felt your pain. Please don’t give up. Never ever give up. While god gives you the strength use it. ❤ blessings to you both from Worcestershire England x