English Culture: Manners & How to be polite
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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
- In this video, you'll learn about English manners. I'll tell you what we in England consider polite and impolite, and then go into detail about how we eat at the table, make and cancel plans, visit friends, and so much more. Some of these cultural aspects of living in England are different even from other English-speaking countries like the USA! Knowing these rules can help you make friends, get jobs, and even get into a romantic relationship. This video is especially important if you're living or travelling in England -- you could offend someone without even knowing it! Watch the video and leave your shoes ON!
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Hi, everyone. In this lesson we're going to look at manners in England. Here are the things that are considered polite, and the things that are not considered polite. So this is a talk about the culture, things that people do here in England, and the things that traditionally have been the most acceptable behaviour.
Let's start with the things that are very important. So, I'm sure you already know this one: English people and queuing. "Queuing" is when you stand in a line when you don't... When you want something. You don't just, like, run up there to the front or push. You queue in a line. So, we queue up at the bank, for example, or we queue up when we want to get on a bus and there's some other people already there. Now, of course, in London because there are so many people and also not everyone is English so they have their manners from where they came from, you won't always see people queuing to get on the bus or on the tube, but you do generally still see people queuing up in a shop when they need to buy something.
Next we have: It's very important to bring a bottle, and that means when you go to somebody's dinner party you take a bottle of wine when you go to the meal there. If you don't want to bring a bottle of wine, you can bring dessert or you can bring some flowers or some chocolates, but the general phrase and the general idea of it is bringing a bottle, as in a bottle of wine.
Next we have RSVP. This is a term that comes from French: "R�pondez s'il vous plait", and this is a much more formal invitation that you get. If you're going to something, a special event like somebody's wedding... Because weddings are really expensive and they have to be organized so long in advance, people having the wedding really want to know if you're coming. So when you RSVP to the invitation it means you're definitely going, you will be there. So once you've RSVP'd, it's very, very impolite not to go. You must go if you RSVP.
Next, I think that in England it's very important to be on time. We do tend to be punctual people, attend... Attend meetings at the right time, turn up to our jobs at the right time, or meet friends at the right time, most of us. Of course, there are those people who are always late for everything, but most people in general do things on time or even, like me, I always end up being 10 minutes early. I just can't help that. So I waste a lot of time being too early.
Now let's look at table manners. Some of the things in the table manners' section are changing as people become more relaxed about eating and eating out. But these were all... These are all manners that people follow in more formal situations. Perhaps at home or with your very close friends it would be different. Now, I don't mean it's different for this first one. I'm not saying it's ever acceptable anywhere to slurp, burp-I can't do a burp noise. Anyway, you know what a burp is-and fart. Fart is noise from the other end. These things are never acceptable at the dinner table. Mm-mm, mm-mm. So, no eating noises or doing that when you eat. It's not acceptable.
Elbows on the table, in a formal situation you're not going to do that, but relaxed with friends a lot of people do put their elbows on the table these days, not such a big deal.
Drinking before... Just drinking your drink before somebody said: "Cheers" is considered impolite, but it's also a sign of being familiar with people. If you're familiar with them you don't have to go: "Oh, cheers for this drink and opportunity to drink with you." So it depends who it is.
Using a mobile in the restaurant or when you're eating socially with people is considered rude, so to be like: "Oh, hold on. Let me just take this call. I'm so important, I've got to, you know, talk business", or something is considered rude, or to be like all the time texting on your phone. Of course it happens, and young people and teenagers are definitely going to do it more than older people, but on the whole it's considered impolite.
"Farts are the noise from the other end"
The most British thing that I heard in a while
I've lived here in the US most of my life. When I became an adult, I realized that my parents, who were poor and very dysfunctional, had the decency to instill good manners and respect for others. I am so grateful for that. BUT now... It must be a sign of the times because good manners and etiquette are something of the past, here and everywhere it seems.
As a British person, I'd go along with these and also emphasise that when you learn a language it's important to learn the culture too. With regards to being late, (I'm one of those people who is often late) I'd add that if you're going to be more than 5 minutes late, apologise and let people know (text, SMS, Whatsapp, Messenger etc) and apologise again when you actually arrive!
I don't know why I'm watching this 😂 I am English, have always lives in England and have never left the country 😂😂
Same
On all these youtube videos about country X its the X'ians who watch to hear nice things about themselves.
Me too but I only watch cos Jade is cuuuuuuute!!
I guess you get used to such stuff, but for those who are visiting or studying as international students, these are of great importance.
Even some English and British monarchs have never left England !
About the "french leave" it's quite funny as in Polannd we call it an "english leave"!
The same we say in Russian)
Właśnie chciałem to napisać : p
Same in Hungary. Lolz?
Justyna Skorecka In french too
the same in Russian, it is sound like to 'leave in English'
What I find weird is that when I encounter English tourists outside the UK, like in my travels to Vegas and LA, most of the time they're rude and unfriendly, but then when I'm in the UK, the people are friendly and helpful
evancortez2 its an odd phenomenon that I've heard about quite a few times now, the general idea behind it is that the tourists who stand out are impolite by nature and that's precisely why they stand out, the population of tourists who reflect the polite nature of the country as a whole tend to go unnoticed as we are quite quiet and reserved especially when abroad
those are the kind of people that go to Las Vegas and LA though
Can we just take a moment and appreciate this lady's dressing sense as well ? Minimalist, yet nothing short of a classy look. Needless to say, the way in which she explains matters is quite good as well.
The advice about shoes was important for me, because in Bulgaria, where i live, it is impolite if you dont take off your shoes , when you come in the house.
In most of the cultures/languages (French, Italian, Russian, Ukrainian, Polish, Czech, Hungarian, Romanian), it's called the 'English Leave'. While, in English, Spanish and Portuguese it's called the 'French Leave'.
It's interesting the point of not eating smelly food in public transport when actually London is the only place in the world where I noticed this habit as extremely frequent -- people leave traces of fried chicken wings everywhere.
She's pointing out "British rules".. and, as you may know, London is not precisely very British... :-P
That it is because London is where live foreigners and they have not manners, the original British people live in the countryside or other cities.
Sadly, there aren't that many English people in London these days. I would interpret these rules as applying to the middle classes in the suburbs or Home counties.
It’s a weird one. It is considered ‘impolite’ but people will do it. Just watch the rest of the passengers faces around that person however, I’m sure the you’ll notice their disapproval.
Layla Summers Ppl are nasty on the big cities but not where I live. Most ppl who live in the city are just rude with no manners or respect.
"don't touch my floor with your feet. please touch them with your shoes that have been touching the ground outside"
british people are a mystery
It is interesting that in Russian the French leave is actually an 'English leave'! We say 'Уходить по-английски' - 'Leave in an English manner', without saying 'Goodbye'!
I live in South London and things in my area are not so "British". I just wish people here were less rude and more able to respect the British values. But, I suppose I am the one who should realise that living in a multicultural city requires tolerance towards other people's manners. Thank you for the video! I've learned so much about British language, culture etc from your videos. I very much appreciate your work.
I very much enjoyed your lecture about the English culture. I think it is absolutely identical with the traditional rules of my home country, Poland. Even the shoes-on/shoes off problem looks similar here, it depends on the type of the floor and the weather outside: if you have dirty, wet shoes because the old dirty snow is just melting, you are rather invited to take them off. Sometimes, for formal occasions, people may bring lighter shoes to put them on inside the host appartment.
The only difference is the issue of showing up unattended. We have an old proverb that says "A guest in a house is God in a house". Even if it is not comfortable for you, you are expected to dedicate some time to the unexpected guest, offer them something to eat or - at least - a cup of tea/coffee. On the other hand, the unexpected guest knows they should not stay longer than, say, 30 minutes. Unfortunately, this old, beatiful habit is disappearing due to mobile phones: you are expected to call and ask first.
In general, culture is just one half of a good society. Culture defines how to not disturb the others. However, it does not define, how to make the others happy. The other half is called love.
I had never seen a video like this before in my life! I loved it how you touched topics described as taboo ones. Thanks so much. hope people who lack some of them basic skills, will start working upon them.
It's quite funny because, here, in France, we've got a similar expression about people who just leave without saying goodbye and it's "filer à l'anglaise" - which literally means "go away like an Englishman". Funny coincidence.
It's weird I was raised with these types of mannerisms and have been stared at strangely many times giving up my seat for the elderly and disabled . pregnant , it's called respect - people don't raise up their children with proper manners any more, Please, Thank you, welcome and may I !
I don't actually get the shoes part. Provided that people wash their feet, the shoes are actually more dirty than my feet. I put my shoes on at home, leave the house, come to my friend's house and take them off = my feet came into contact with two floors and my shoes, while keeping the shoes on makes the floor come into contact with everything that I stepped on during my walk - spit, dirty water or even a spot when someone's dog pissed yesterday. All those germs get on your floor/ carpet.
Hi, I'm Syrian living in Canada and I love to see your videos day by day to improve my English
thank you so much for your lessons
really my English gets better and especially because i have to take an IELTS exam on October
The best guidance on knowing English culture and manners I've ever had on YTB! Million thanks Jade for making this video!!
Jade, you are my best teacher. Love you so much and I wish you much happiness.
I lived 5months in England and is so funny how many rules they have, a lot of protocol and stuff like, but when they go abroad they don't respect the local culture, they speak loudly on the train, on the bus or where ever trying to show like "here I am, I speak English and I'm not able to speak your language, sorry but English is English"... that attitude bother me a lot... ( I don't want generalize but most of the people do)
I don’t do that... I also don’t believe that ‘most’ of us do ether. Perhaps you are only noticing the self righteous ones, that even we don’t like? I’m sure that every country has them. Just because they were born on the same patch of land as me I wouldn’t necessarily like to consider them as my representative. Which I am sure you can agree, neither would you if someone from your country acted badly?
Pau most people don't that's Rubbish. I find many Europeans to be loud and brash in the UK, but would never say all,polish are like that.
Pau it's because English is the general business language
Pau This is a common phenomenon here in the USA, where many visitors, especially northern Europeans (and yes, a few Brits), assume all Americans have no manners so it's a free-for-all when they arrive here.
Pau, when "THEY" go abroad, you are referring to the badly behaved Brits that the rest of us try to avoid.
We're not all like that, I assure you.
And when I lived abroad as a foreigner, I made sure I intergrated with the locals and spoke their language.
Here in continental Europe this silent leave is called English leave. It happens with englishmen mostly (or even only). ;-)
That can be acceptable if you do it with knife and fork and dont make a mess.
Not in Spain, we also refer to French people :)
This teacher has a very subtle sense of humor. In some parts of this video, I couldn't stop laughing out loud.
Thank you for a great mood and a very useful video!
Fart is the noise from the other end.That was helpful.
First rule : When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
feed Christians to the lions? Bit excessive don't you think?
Wish the Romans would do the same when abroad... instead or trying to emulate life at home... like manyEnglish do abroad
I'm American & these are just normal manners we're taught. However in southern states were taught to say Sir & Ma'am. It's considered very rude not to address someone older without saying Mr., Mrs. or Miss first.
Your comment about littering in Dubbai, and I think you said well: it is a sin against nature and it is terrible! You’re great!
oh how things have changed over the years....I wish more people followed this ....
What about keeping feet on seats (trains, seats in communal areas) especially young people? And put fingers into the mouth to remove food stick to teeth?
These behaviour rules are common in most of Western countries I think. Anyway, the recommendations are good, but I would appreciate if you omit the places where your bad experiences happen. I mean that anyone would think that everybody in Turkey does baby changing on the table of a restaurant or that in Dubai people are very filthy. I've seen British guys in Spain having piss in the middle of a street after bozing litres of beer and I would not say "don't do as the English do". Except for allusions, the video we'll be more informative for people with culture and backgrounds from far east countries. For example, in Japan is a sympton of good education slurping the soup whereas in UK it is not acceptable. .
It is funny, but I noticed that most of English people are speaking really loudly, on phone as well, in trains as well, in bus they put their legs on the seats, they are drinking so much and puking on the ground and eat cheap fast food after all and in the end they throw a garbage on the ground. I am talking about young generation. I really hope that I will meet manners in the future in England.
Here in Germany we have basically the same social graces, but we haven't definitely no expression for french leave. Doing that here is impolite either of course, but there is just no word for it, nope... 🤷♀️
I've never heard of French Leave. I doubt many Brits have.
Elbows on the tables! My mother always told me off for that as a child! It was just so comfortable!
Definitely I should have born in England. I am Argentinian from Buenos Aires and I really agree with all those tips... but here people don’t care about polite and impolite behaviour in the street, be aware of their own!... and I realise about those bahaviors but people seem they live in their own worlds, inside a bubble!!!... really helpful your video!! Thank you very much.
I’m reading comments about people talking with ungry and irony complaining about customs in England, so, why? This video is about polite and impolite things you can do or you can’t do in England. You can act respecting or not, other cultures being in the country that you are at that moment. So, it’s your choice!!! I agree with the video. It’s perfect!
Pretty much same as in The Czech Republic except the shoes :) we usually take off shoes on visit.
Ondřej Kozák likewise in nepal.
Likewise in Estonia. But taking off the shoes is a taboo in America. I feel like I offend people when I ask them to take their shoes off when they come to visit me in my house. I remember the first time I saw shoes lined up next to a bed in the bedroom...um, what now?!
if you dont you can stay outside or stay later and help clean carpet :)
Depends on the house, if they have nice carpets and are in socks or slippers then you take your shoes off. Some people in the UK do not give a shit about their carpets, but I do! So always expect shoes off and if not I ask if they don't mind
I'm not European but I don't understand the concept of If I'm a friend or a family member its allowing to me to take off the shoes, but If i'm not a friend I have to keep it on ! I'm Egyptian and in my culture its better to take off the shoes if you come to some one's house whether I'm a friend, family member, or not a friend, we see it healthy to take off the shoes for every one because we already have came from the street !, and we prefer to wear a socks we taking off our shoes !
We do the same here in Sweden as in Egypt.
Moussa 13 I live in the US. Personally I prefer close friends who are visiting to slip their shoes off when they are in my house, mainly because the hardwood floors get scuffed up and I don't want dirt tracked into the house.
The occasional visitor I don't feel like I know them well enough to request they remove any of their clothing such as their shoes so I just ignore it.
The workman I have hired is expected to have brought little cloth booties to cover his shoes in the house, and the reputable ones usually do.
A fellow Echelon!
it's not something to "understand", it's simply a cultural difference to remember
I am a Romanian, never go inside the house in Romania in your shoes, this is very ofensative kind.. Like farting at diner table, never understand how u can walk in shoes what u run in park in your bedroom or chichen.. 🤔
What I liked the most about this video is your sense of humour.
In France we have the same manners and ways to be polite. Just one diference, what you call the "french leave" we call it "filer à l'anglaise" that we can translate "the English leave". How ever thank you Jade for your videos.
Thank you, JADE! PARENTS, LISTEN UP. Children become adults. These things SHOULD BE TAUGHT AT HOME, EARLY ON. It's not just for today; it's passed to the next generation and the next... Brats will invariably become parents, nasty bosses, terrible partners. Manners reflect our character.
in Romania , silent leave is called English 'disappearance' ; literally : 'to wipe it in english way' ...
I've seen the pooey nappy changing in a England restaurant, on the table. It was very close to our table and it took my appetite away. I think they were Pakistani. I love the multi-culturality you've got in England.
I am a dutchman living in france and in shops or other public places i try to avoid speaking dutch with my fellow dutchmen as the french may perhaps feel strangers in their own country. in any case i try to avoid speaking a foreign language very loudly. how about that in britain?
I would add saying please and thank you. These are words that are not used in all cultures.
mamascarlatti Please is more of a Midlands thing but thank you is definitely a lynchpin of our culture
The Hypest please is used everywhere? We use it down south probably way too much
yeah ikr it goes the same with "Good morning/afternoon/evening" in Vietnam. We rarely say those phrases when greeting. A friendly smile and a slight head nod would be more appreciated.
they are in all cultures u must see in Japanese culture respect so important there
If one is middle class one always says please and thank you.
These must be how people behaved in the UK 50 years ago, or how they behave in the south of England, because I've been in the North for over 2 years and I was shocked how loud people were, and how they burped all the time. When they are drunk, which happens to be almost 24 hours, forget about all those manners.
Just tell me who in England (specifically London) are NOT drunk almost 24 hours.
She obviously forgot to mention how adorably polite those soccer supporters in London can be. Cutie...
She was raised with traditional English values. Also relatively common in the colonies.
Just because they're not loud about it, doesn't mean plenty of people don't still hold these views.
Yes there is a real difference between the North and South. Think of it like Game of thrones, the northerners being the wildlings and the southerners the good people of the Kingdom.
Firstly different classes won't view politeness in the same way. People from up North, Wales, Scotland, East London are largely from working class background and tend to be louder and see politeness in a less strict sense. Secondly when British people are drunk politeness generally goes out the window whatever class, background or region they are from.
Elsewhere on YT, the comments below a video with a lovely presenter are peppered with shall we say openly admiring, even somewhat frank, compliments about her appearance. Here, everyone being infected with Jade's fantastic politeness and courtesy, it appears few think it's appropriate and those who do are so indirect and restrained that it's cute and amusing. So I'll just say I'm glad Jade's not on the radio. Quite glad.
Thanks a lot for sharing this important etiquettes in England English people.
I'm currently living in London for more than 10 years . What you said about London is pretty much true and very ridiculous life style in public transport in rush morning and evening .
I think I must leave from London to see where the typical English people live.
This good manners and etiquette must be preserved for future generations.
Thank a lot for sharing this wonderful video
More than just about English manners, this video is about the foundations of Western civilization, if it still exists, of course.
These manners are not only applied in the UK but also in the rest of the Western Hemisphere. This is the job of parents: To teach their children good manners.
I was brought up in an English home where shoes were not allowed to be worn in the house. I just can’t imagine how anyone could allow shoes to be worn in the house - all that dirt, including dog’s mess, on the floor outside, do you really want that brought into your home?
Another thing I was taught was bad manners was sniffing in public. I live in Japan now and struggle with the disgusting sounds Japanese people continually make, sniffing and snorting in restaurants and on public transport. On the plus side, though, Japanese people understand the importance of taking shoes off upon entering someone’s home.
Ahahah In Italy there is not even a word for the "french leave"!It does not exist. It is really , really impolite. You must to say good bey at least to your close friends also in a very big party.
That confirms that England is definitely my tailor-made Country! 😍 😍 😍 😍
Under Table Manners you've omitted "wearing a hat at the table"
It's a wider rule. No hats are allowed under roofed spaces. If you enter any building, the good manner thing is to take it off, at least in my country.
jade you're awesome with your new look I obviously appreciate the way you illustrate things in decent order in particular your pronunciation is glorious you're an impeccable mentor with your indispensable efforts which can never be forgotten I wish I Could talk to you online specifically my students are crazy about your live video call thanks jade just keep it up god bless you
Jade, when you spoke about cleaning up after doing pooey business, I was immediately reminded of my own family. Everyone in my house has stomach problems, so poop is a common occurrence. I always take a minute to clean the toilet. My father could care less about what he leaves behind. I am constantly shouting at him to clean the toilet, but he never listens. I am going to show him this video.
Haha, what you call "french leave", we actually call "english leave" in Poland :D
There might be someone who call it polish leave somewhere.....
I'm from Turkey and living in China, Chinese doing everything that you wrote on whiteboard and I was preparing to write I miss my country because I bored to saw spitting, pissing to streets, baby changing, slurp, burp etc... until you say 'when I was living in Turkey......' :)) I guess you saw these scenes just at middle or low class area in Turkey and I guess you can saw these manners at all middle or low class areas because we hate all of these impolite things as well.
Muammer Şahin Yeah, that's true. It's common to see Chinese doing such stuff esp. those mentioned in the table manners. TBH, as a Chinese, I found that very rude and impolite, too but of course I don't do that personally.
Qin Nevaeh Actually I didn't want to be rude/impolite, this is the truth, so what can we do? As you can see, I mentioned about my country as well and I wrote that you can find these manners everywhere. I'm sorry if I hurt you. Maybe we can do something to change that, right? As a foreigner, if i try to change these manners it's perceiving negative.
Muammer Şahin Nah it didn't hurt me at all. Don't worry. I mean, they are just facts, right? And it didn't claim that all Chinese do that. I personally wanna change how some Chinese people behave like talking loudly and eating smelly food on the public transport(so annoying!), but sometimes it's not so easy. People might think it's none of my business to teach them how to be polite. As for the table manners, I know tons of Chinese who slurp, burp and using their mobiles at the table and I don't like it personally. But in Asian countries, it considered normal to make some noises when you are eating. It's a sign that you like the food but again personally I don't like to make or hear noise when I am eating.
Muammer Şahin i
Semih Gökçeoğlu you listen carefully first, when talking about baby changing she mentioning about baby changing on restaurant table at Turkey
These are all true in the US. About breastfeeding, it's considered impolite to publicly comment on it. I've always seen women drape a little blanket or something and keep on talking or whatever. Also, I don't recall hearing the term "French leave." Still considered rude, though. You don't need to say goodbye to all two-hundred at the party, but you do need to say goodbye to your host.
all these manners are related to the persons not the country bcz it depends on how the individual is raised and how respectful he/she is to him/Herself and to others
Although I'm not British, I was taught all of those manners you mentioned. Obviously even in my country, not all of the people follow these rules, but oh my, I was so surprised to find out that there are whole countries where people have no concept of manners whatsoever lol
Thank you for the splendid video. I'm glad I followed all that during my stay in the U.K
To talk about politeness we will must be polited. I think that a lot of people can be offended when your countries are mentioned in examples it could happens in any place of the World.
Excelent England is England polite!!!!!!I I greatly admire England is a culture is different from others!!!!!Thank you,
3:27 she's trying to burp to explain us what a burp is.. So cute 🥰
Thank you 😊 very much😊 Jade for creating us this tremendous video that I believe is one of the best I have seen so far. I think it is very useful and I got full mark on quiz. In my opinion, we need to learn more about English culture, manners and how to polite so that we can make a better world for us local and international citizens. I would really to see more of those videos such as part 2 , 3 etc. many thanks and as usual Teacher Jade you are awesome 👏🏻
The french leave is typical French, I lived in France and believe me that the first time it happened to me I was shocked and then I have got used to French people leaving without saying good bye.
So great to see you again with your English video's. You are the OG of all the English teachers on YT nowadays! You look good and hope that you life has settled in your beautiful UK!
Different countries have different cultures. I believe we have to be polite wherever we are, but sometimes there are many people that break the rule or considered as impolite. I haven't been in England, but if I go there I must be really cautious with my action I think. Coz in my country Indonesia, we're more flexible. I agree in term of queueing/be on time/ those table manners/ and etc everything that you said in video, but you can find the opposite in my country. Sometimes we 'why you do that?' But we just let it go. It's just there are too many 'flexible' people here. Btw, in Indonesia you have to open your shoes/sandals if you go to other people's house, except if you go to rich people's house and the owner just ask you to put your shoes on, but majority we have to take off our shoes. And sometimes it's common as Indonesian to eat using our bare hands 😂. Anyway thanks for sharing. I want to visit London someday.
French leave - in Poland we say "English leave", same ich French, Czech, Hungarian & Russian. I'm not sure but I think Italians also blame it on the English. And it is not really considered impolite here when you leave a gathering without making a fuss about it and unnoticed.
I would add Romanian, too. ( a sters-o englezeste)
In America, I too adhere to these standards. It is very irritating how many people don't follow these basic rules of etiquette. I found that more people out west break many of these rules than those in the northeast (i.e., Michigan State vs. Arizona State; etc.).
These rules are applicable and desirable in any part of the world...
Thanks Jade,
I'm glad you're back
I've suggested your channel to my friend who wants to learn British English
Thank you Jade! Very insightful video... I would like to ask you a question! Apart from some very different culture (i.e. Chinese), the social manners mentioned in your video are common to most Europeans. However I noticed that in the UK, people from any social class are remarkably polite and show an extraordinary high level of social awareness and respect. I have been living in many different countries (in Europe and outside Europe) but I find this aspect about British people unique and admirable! Could you help me understand why British people (even those people from very low social classes) are so polite compared to other nationalities?
I am an English person and this is a great video. 'thanks Jade' .
You know what I find infuriating about English culture ' whinging'.to persistently complain in an irritating or peavish way. Because of people doing this I purchased an mp3 player and it really works.
Recently in the UK even telling the truth is considered as impolite, especially when You are a reporter.
Jade, you are a fantastic teacher. Thank you so much!
These rules aren't bad, these are natural. I support it, may be people call me narrow minded or whatever.... I nevermind
Minhyuk is MX's Key you’re not narrow minded - you are polite and considerate. The world would be a nicer place if we all were more polite and considerate with each other.
Big kudos to this channel for sneaking some savoir vivre through teaching English. Just in case, to shed some light on some people who need be made aware of it: this is not a set of rules that applies to the UK only. This is a general set of savoir vivre rules that you should have acquired at home and school, combined. You don't burp, you don't make elderly people stand, you don't talk loud, etc. also in France, Romania, Sweden, Poland, Argentina, Canada, etc. Be embarrassed if you need to memorize these rules when you are over 20. Based on my observations made at workplaces, apparently kids need now dedicated tutorials to also be aware to: always clean up the countertop in a shared kitchen, always use toilet sink brush in a toilet (just leave it as if you've never been there), never put empty milk/juice/whetever carton box back into the fridge, never leave your cup of coffee at any random place, always put the utensils and lunch boxes into the dishwasher. Just grow up and think of others for a moment.
Once one of my colleagues was moving heavy things all by herself. I felt bad, so I politely asked, “Do you need a hand?” That’s one way to ask if she needs help. She looked up angrily and barked at me, “A hand? I have two hands!” I gave a nervous smile, mumbled, “Of course, sorry”, turned away, and kept my mouth shut. Since then I stopped using that expression “need a hand”.
We have a Japanese colleague. If anybody asks, “How are you, Dr. Takagi?”, he becomes very uncomfortable with suspicion, and asks back, “Why?” So we have dropped general polite greetings with him. I had some non-English-speaking colleagues, things got more weird/ridiculous with them. They ask me, “How are you?”, I respond, “I am fine. Thank you. How about yourself?” They get very offended. One of them thought, “How about yourself” means “not your damn business”. Another guy thought, it means “What is that to you?”. A woman thought, it means “Go F- yourself”. Politeness is highly overrated.
Jade I had a big laughs with this lessons. U r so naturally funny 😂 Thank you for that! 👍 Always learning with you.
America always lived by these rules of etiquette. Though even in my time I've seen to many who have decided manners are no longer needed. Sad business
Burping is a must on a dinner table in many places in the world, if the food is good
I have to say that it is very useful for people who are learning English. Maybe they're generally used in many European countries, it doesn't matter at all!!! What matters is that we now know what they mean exactly! Generally speaking, your videos inspire me a lot and i'm so grateful for that. Hope you get better as i happen to know that you might go through some health problems. After all, all the sufferings would finally be defeated!!!
I was travelling in Peru and I met many people from Europe, and they don't have this good manners. I think it is not about the culture of a place, but everyone and in every country have to have good manners.
Hi Jade: glad to see you back. P.S - don't say you were "dead". I unexpectedly lost my little sister in Jan. 2017- a few months ago- coroner stated cause "undetermined" and I know the feeling. I actually feel "dead" myself. It upsets me and pains me to see vibrant people upset. Good karma from me to you. P.S. I appreciate this video because no one really knows proper manners in this day and age.
I agree with you in " showing up unann" , it's happened to me one time i have to leave my guest and asleep because it was too late and i have to work early in the morning
I just want to comment about 2 things:
1. Stinky perfume.
Each (human) body has its own odour even if it is clean. It depends on the type of food person consumes and on the level of internal hygiene. For example, vegetarians can smell rotten corpse from people who do consume a meat (I do not joke here). The purpose of perfume is to alternate natural smell of clean body. The amount of perfume should be such that no one can smell it, except those who approaching to the intimate distance. For example for a kiss or a hug.
2. Talking over (somebody).
a)Talking over could be when one person talking non-stop and there is no way for another person to say something.
b)Also, it could be when one person wants to say something then the second person starts to talk over something faster and louder. If the first person remains silent then the second person becomes ostentatiously silent too. However, if only the first person attempts to open the mouth again, then the second person begins to talk over again with the purpose to interrupt the first person. In some countries, it is called `eye laceration`.
I had such experience when in the UK I was trying to submit the complaint about poor taxi service. I called the taxi company owner and he did not listen to me. All that he did was `eye laceration'. Now I never use this taxi service again.
It's so funny to know that English people, call it French leave, when they leave a party without saying bye to anyone. Because, in Uzbekistan, Russia and all other post USSR counties, we call it English leave уходить по-английски (ukhodit po anglisky)
In Brazil, we also call it French leave.
Eliane Cerqueira como ? Saída francesa ?
As Jade explains in the video (21:34) the English don't call it that, in fact we don't have a name for it.
Also in Poland we leave the English way (wychodzić po angielsku). For the same reasons: if you don't want to bother 100 people and you just urgently need to go.
Ravshan Echelon we don't call it French leave. Maybe that is what Londoners say?
Wonderful upload,ma`am! An elderly/infirm person will always have my seat.
hello jade te saludo desde PERU y te agradezco que hagas estos videos, a pesar que soy de sudamerica yo me inclino más por el ingles britanico. muy pronto estaré en inglaterra - manchester para poder estudiar ingles. seguiré viendo tus videos
please, follow Jade advices: do no slurp, burp or fart in public when you're in Uk, unless you are among friends. Elsewhere, no problem. Oh..in case you don't know, "farting" is "to make noise from the other end". Now, this is a really cool way of calling that place: "the other end" .loved it! :)
Hello Ms. Jade, I am Sharon from Vietnam, I have been following your channel for 4 years. My passion for British accent drives me here. Your accent is super nice, and amazing videos with so many helpful and interesting to learn. I am planning for England this December/ 2019, I want to experience life, culture, engage myself more with local people, not only travel for sight seeing. I hope u can make a video advise us on that, of some activities, program that visitors can join to understand about British culture; I heard of couch surfing too, can u share your knowledge on that. Thank you so much
Problem is English Culture is a rare commodity nowadays!
I'm Canadian so saying sorry is what we do lol. Sorry, oh sorry, sorry excuse me, lol. I find I say sorry even if it isnt my fault.
Thanks! Me and my family are going to visit England this summer and this will be very helpful and useful! Well we'll visit London. But thank you anyway!
I'm from Peru, sorry for that experience. I hope you've enjoyed my country.
you speaks loudly when you explain "talk loudly" on a train, so funny~ I like your explaination very much!!
In France it is rude to bring a bottle of wine or something to eat but poorly educated people do it anyway. By doing this you are telling the host of the diner that he/she is not able to choose/provide the guests with the appropriate quality or quantity of food or drinks.
Bringing flowers or a little gift is a little bit "better" or less bad. If you want to do things exactly by the book, you bring nothing and on the next day you send flowers with a thank-you card.
The first time I watched your video I didn't understand you anything haha, now I can understand everything you say, I'm so glad for that, you're so cute, keep in way and Thanks a lot for the english lessons.