Your "bonus" tip was like your videos in general ?...UTTERLY irrelevant !. If anyone doesn't know about "personal growth", & looking after themselves of their own volition, & need's telling how to do it from a monotonous CZcams channel, which just keeps endlessly recycling the same "advice" under a different title, then they are a complete moron !. ALL these things that you waffle on about constantly, should be SO obvious & self-evident to anyone with even a fraction of intelligence & instinct ?. If anyone has to watch a video, & be told how to approach women, & what to say, & how to behave & act, then they have already failed in life biologically, & may as well just quit trying !.
Putting in the work all day everyday. Laziness kills relationships. I work hard on myself so You don't have to. I'm good with myself, if You need something, tell me, I will continue being me and being happy if You say nothing, I do try to pay attention to Your needs but if I missed something just let me know. Much Love and Peace.💗
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It's simple guys. She has to believe you genuinely don't give a crap whether she likes you or not; don't give a crap whether she's there in the room with you or not; don't give a crap whether she walks away from you and never comes back. That may sound harsh, but it's true. Keep her guessing as to whether she's attractive to you or not; never divulge too many personal details about yourself. Keep yourself somewhat mysterious. She must be convinced your life won't skip a beat whether she's with you or not, and last but not least, absolutely NEVER change for her. If , and when, you change, you change for yourself, to become a better man, more confident, more successful, and more focused on finding your own life's meaning. Desperation = codependency and codependency is a sickness. You must learn to be happy with yourself, and by yourself, or you will never have a genuine and prosperous relationship with another human being. BAM, there it is!
That sounds great if you’re young, and a player, and you don’t want a truly intimate long-term relationship that might culminate into marriage. Yes, you should take your time with a new relationship, open the door gradually and continue to cultivate it with fun respect caring and responsibility; but once you establish trust and a deep connection you will never have her as a soulmate unless you share yourself with her because you trust her, and vice-versa.
@@docbob1182there are millions & millions of suckers who ‘opened up’, ‘shared themselves’, ‘trusted her’ & end up dumped & broken hearted. She is wired by, slave to, yes a victim of a million years of evolution for hypergamy to be attracted to strength, marry up, trade up… Showing feelings for her is weakness in her eyes, means she can do better. She needs to believe you have higher value than she does.
Don't put women on a pedestal. If you treat her like a celebrity she'll treat you like a fan. Have boundaries, and don't be afraid to be honest, even if it will piss her off.
Don't do: 1. Too many gifts 2. Be a "Yes" man 3. Change yourself completely 4. Be constantly available 5. Try to fix her problems 6. Flatter excessively Do: Personal Growth 1. Learning 2. Challenges
I used to have a gf. One time she told me some problems she was having. When I gave her some possible solutions, she told me that she didn't tell me her problems, because she wanted me to fix them. She told me them, because she wanted me to listen to her, and tell her that what she was feeling, was justified. So I learned. A few weeks later when we went to a pumpkin patch, she snuggled up to me, and told me she was cold. I was going to offer her my jacket, but then I remembered our talk. I told her that I fully heard her, and that she was fully justified in being cold, as it was a cold October night, and she brought a thin shirt.
Right on! As our hearts our broken as young men. Women are now having broken hearts living with no commitment in sight at 30+. Her purpose is his or stay single! Respect won't come later if not present now!
Excellent advice but it only applies to emotionally healthy, well adjusted, independent women. On the other hand, narcissistic women do want gifts, the bigger the better. Never ever say "no". Change to be like her. Be there at her beck and call. Fix and sooth any troubles emotional, financial, technological, or mechanical. Flatter constantly. So, if you're doing these "wrong" things and it's working, then run!! You're with a narcissist, you will become exhausted, and you will never be enough.
Oh my GOD! NEVER change yourself to what she wants you to be. I did this ONCE as a high schooler. It backfired big time. Lesson learned and i have not and never will change for another woman. Like me for me, or push on.
Each Person should give room for both. There’s no reason the man should be the only one considering the other person. A good woman should be able to work with a “fixer”.
This woman knows a WHOLE lot about simps. Here's my approach: rarely compliment, rarely give gifts (maybe on Christmas), don't text them more than twice a day, don't see them more than 2-3 times per week, no sleepovers, don't fall for their shit tests, always call their bluff when they give ultimatums. My favorite: going out of town without telling them.
Ya that’s constructive. Everyone I know with a successful relationship does THAT 🙄. You and everyone else need to get off fuckin CZcams. Pure delusions from every commenter and every video takes the perspective too far into the weeds of narcissism. Thank God I can think for myself.
Sounds like you should put a video out on this subject as well. As a young guy, I got friendzoned quite a bit, and was a simp before that was even a thing. If I had done what you said in your comment, and what she said in the video, I would have been in charge of myself and my situation.
@97stratocaster21 if you had sensed the friend zone in yhe first place you should have started calling her sister and ask her on advise of how you could please a new gal you mate at the restaurant. Chics hate that more so when they are trying to put out their ego over you
1) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that you buy their attention. 2) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that always she gets what she wants. 3) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that the man change who he is to meet her requirements. 4) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that the world revolves around them, and that the man should drop everything to do what she wants. 5) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that men read their minds and never communicate what they *really* want. 6) Tell this to all the modern women who insist on receiving attention from everyone while assuming that any man who doesn't compliment her are not worth their own attention. Your points are valid for healthy women; unfortunately, these women are unavailable in the current dating market.
I wonder where you find these "modern women". I only see a very little % of them on social medias, where they use these opinions to please their customers..
Really good one, any relationship is probably crucial JUST to be real normal human, being empathetic when needed and doing special little things when needed and Randomly AS WELL.
And knowing that half of her content must be disregarded or modified. The more you show you care the less she'll respect you and she will not lay a dude (not a man) who she doesn't respect, unless it's transactional, ie she's doing out of duty or a trade.
Back in the day, before I married my wife, I always led with my money. That's what got women's attention for me. It didn't really seem like anyone was interested in me as a person if it wasn't for my money. In the end, I would be happy, and they would too, and that's really all that matters at the end of the day, I guess. I'm just happy that I found my wife and I didn't have to use my money to get her, which is why we're married today.
My personality is rated ( sigma ) plus I have asperger's syndrome. The only time I have a problem is when I meet a demon. Some women actually doesn't give a shit how they act. I learn to leave a demon alone without challenging her ( fixing ) her because she will mess you up if you challenge what's inside her.
There is also things women never seem to be able to understand, I have be confronted with different women not capable of understanding why I am most of the time available.Yes I can babysit, bring your daughter to her ballet, or go on shopping with you, have a walk to the park because you don't feel it to be alone... 2 possible reactions: why are you always saying yes and/or you never do anything. Well my main occupation is "thinking", I'm passionate with philosophy, psychology, sciences...the only thing I need is my head, and I don't need my head to be on a specific place. I tried more then once to explain...they don't get it.Oh yes, also, I had, and expected no romantic relation.
What I find interesting about this video is, most of the things she says not to do, are the very things women try to get men to do. It's almost like the things that women want & respond to are usually not cohesive. Basically they are perpetually trying to sabatog the relationship.
And yet its funny. All these old people you see on tv who've been happily married for "hundreds of years", love each other to bits and have always worked as a team and loved and respected each other and still do. None of them have done any of this shit: jumping through hoops, needing to worry about being too nice, buying too many gifts, paying too many compliments or being honest about how they feel about everything and each other and no mention of co-dependency and all that shit. Too many games nowadays, too many wanting to be treated like princesses, too many selfish people. Suspicious because someones paying too many compliments or being too nice all the time or is too easy going. Rather be on my own than play all these daft games...its all just a control thing. Now we're getting accused of not being like the traditional man and not opening doors and taking them for dinners and pampered them. If you want something to jump through hoops go buy a dog. If you want to play games go to your nearest casino or join a netball team. Thank god ive found someone who isnt into all this shit and we both appreciate what weve got. Unfortunatey, weve spend centuries building women up to think theyre the prize and we're just there to compete for them. Good luck! Oh btw to the guy below who says, it comes across as disingenous or unbelievable (i paraphrase) if youre buying to many gifts or paying too many compliments. It is possible to buy gifts, pay compliments AND be honest and genuine. Says more about the woman when they cant suss out whether youre the genuine article who is just very sincere, generous and appreciates them. Basically if they find it suspicious its probably the reason most of them end up with cheating arseholes because they didnt like the "nice" guys and went for the one who played it cool and actually ended up being married to the one who wasnt just playing it cool but ends up being indifferent to her when theyre married 😂
I like how I can tell a girl I like gaming and Photoshop as far as interests are concerned, and "she looses respect for me", but if I was to ask her what her hobbies are she would probably be playing games on her phone or on social media. Under those circumstances, it's kind of hypocritical.
Hello Joyanima i have been watching your videos for a while i have tried everything to turn my luck around but i must be undatebale i am the most genuine person out there and down to earth guy i wont lie i have let myself go as nobody wanted me at my best
You shouldnt be a Yes man if it goes against something you believe in or you dont want to do. BUT then there are easy going guys like me that for other things, doesn't really matter. Sometimes we guys just don't have a preference. Why be difficult if there is no reason for it.
Thank You Joy Those are workable solutions, good to know. Just curious are you from London. I'm from Califirnia yet I went to London in the 60s and stayed in a flat near Hyde Park I enjoyed seeing some Turner Sea Scapes.
Big Picture: All sound advice. Little Picture: Some men are in relationships with bossy women such that if you don’t do what they expect they will leave. And they do. Having a strong ego and a healthy feeling of pride and self esteem is the best way to avoid this. She may indeed break up with you but don’t want that kind of woman. You’ll just be miserable. Some women are absent because they are far away or have commitments. Being always available may be the only way you can see her. And yes she may still think you’re needy because she’s comfortable being this independent. She may expect you too feel just as happy as she is being far apart and rarely seeing each other. If you really miss her that much you may want to look for someone else. You really may have the solution to your partner’s problem. You may have listened to her rant endlessly about it on many occasions. Someone may be chronically broken such that ANYTHING you can offer will not work. Why? She may not want to follow up with your solution. So all you’ve done is piss her off. Decide if you can be with someone who constantly rants about her chronic issues.
oYes, I must save these magic words to fend off the next woman! Experience counts, more than rules of thumb. Even with a sister, I had no experience of girlfriends, and at almost 30, when one came along, I had no way of knowing which was more important, being a perfect match or the several negative factors. Now, after 50 years of marriage, I am back where I was before, married but alone. Our 3 daughters almost make it all worthwhile.
Thank You for these tips. Good to know Especially re havinh your own life snd interests and not being too available and being too agreeable. Of course there will be disagreement you sre two different people with two unique life experiences. Trying to please even tho you disagee with a given idea of hers can backfire down the road We are two different people eavh of us has a unique mission in this life and when we meet someone than first of all there needs to be appreciation of each others unique talents then learning needs to take place on both sides it cant be on sided it cant be just physical. There needs to be a balance of physical and mental and higher Self. The Spiritual. Transcendental Level of Unbounded Awareness.
guys.. if you're able to be genuine, understanding and yourself.. you will be surprised the amazing caliber of women that will relentlessly try to connect with you.. just do the work towards healing and growth and suddenly the flowers will just grow towards you as if you are the sun.. I mean we are men.. aren't we? men's hormones are on a solar pattern while women's hormones are on a lunar pattern.. hence they will orbit and all you have to do is shine your light for them to glow. 🤗 and Joy you are wonderful.
Good video and insights. I'm going to have to comb through your videos to see if I can find help on a situation I've just recently found myself in with a woman.
I thought this video would give a general lesson. It was only on dating non-sense. You should do a video on dealing with them regarding workplace, arguing, etc.....
Well it looks as though I am safe. I have a wife and two daughters and the only problem I had being a guy is wanting to fix their problems. It took me some time to realize they just want me to listen to their problems, not fix them. Most guys learn to fix things that are broken, but that doesn't carry over to relationships with women involved.
1.) Agreed 2.) Agreed 3.) Super agreed, never do this, you could lose touch with yourself after long enough. 4.) I don't really agree with this one. Some people have more free time, and women shouldn't feel like a guy that wants to spend their free time with them is anything but a good thing. This is more of an 'emotions women need to stop validating and acting on'. Trying to be around them everyday or multiple times a day is clingy, yes. But I've seen women say that asking every week or 2 is too much. That's a them problem. 5.) This one I also disagree with, but again it depends. This is a good way to filter out shitty women that have an ego problem. Men are supposed to lead and guide their women, that's how it works. If she has any problems like insecurities, past damage, emotional / mental issues, then you damn sure better be trying to help. The things people don't want to think about, are almost always the things they NEED to think about to make any progress on the issue. It's a whole host of red flags to be with a damaged woman that's addicted to running away from her problems and making them worse over time. Tip.) Great tip.
The yes man is true not only for relationships. Not having an opinion or saying yes because you dont really care either way can get you in trouble for the moments you actually do. Growing up I always learned censens bla bla..."if something is more important to others than to you than let them have it...they will do the same" yeah turns out thats bullshit. Always saw it as "Hey asshole! I let you have it the last few times so dont be a jerk now" and they saw it as "the uprising of the peasant". In 1 vs 1 scenarios it usually worked and the other person would get used to it and compromise. But in groups its way harder as most always support the "King" no matter what. I was kinda an under the foot figure. Needed a fucking long time not only to understand it but to act accordingly. Now I just pretend to care and make it a fight from time to time so that people "fear" me enough that I have to fight less in the end. So yeah this Jack Sparrow guy is a great actor and those who say otherwise can get some 👊
Joyanima YOU know exactly what is happening for sure!!! And you are definitely one of London's England UK best exports most definitely all the way!!! Trust me I'm a Capricorn and I just know you are the best of the very best and continued success always you 💯are awesome indeed!!!❤
One of My ex GF's didn't want me to work out of town, my job took me out of town,. She also didn't want to meet my Mother , when we visited her family and my mom was less that 50 mi. away. Oh Well! Next lady please!
Okay, got it. We should all start by refusing to go to Sunday Brunch, and telling her to get over the whole toilet seat thing, this is just a starting point and to set a precedence, ha ha...
Everything she said may make more attractive to a woman, but none of it will keep that woman with you in the long run because in a relationship women change, and that's a hard fact. Most if not all of those 5 things will be reversed as the relationship matures, and that little bonus will be seen as selfishness and inattention toward her needs. The only reason divorce numbers aren't higher is many couples just except things as they are.
Sorry but I disagree with several of the things she says not to do. Her advice is basically to play the game and this will lead to the wrong woman. If you give her a lot of gifts and she doesn't appreciate them then she is not the right woman for you. If you always let her get her way and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. If you change yourself for her and these are changes you know are improvements and that you know will make you a better person and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. You should want to be a better man for a good woman. If you are always available to her and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. If you compliment her all the time and you really mean it and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. The one she did got absolutely right is never try to fix things unless the woman asked for your help. Shut up and listen and then offer your help if she seems open to it but never tell her what you think she needs to do unless she asks. A lot of the advice she gives in this video is good and I'm sure she has good intentions but the "never do these things" part is way off. Doing these things will not cause a good woman to lose respect for you. A good woman will respect you more because you do these things. If she doesn't then she is not a good woman and you should move on. The only reason to never do these things is if the woman doesn't show you appreciation for doing them. A good woman will. The wrong woman won't. Doing these things doesn't make you a simp. Doing them for a woman that doesn't appreciate them does. You don't need to set boundaries because a good woman will never push you to do things you really don't want to do. A king should worship his queen and a queen should worship her king. Show her as much love as you can and if she doesn't do the same for you then she is not worthy and you should move on. Don't play the game, unless of course you're just young and horny. :)
I find with the always being a yes man, or being very agreeable. Even if you do agree on a lot of things I like to throw in a twist or a change now and then. For example if she wants to go to a movie, just say can we do this tomorrow night instead? how about tonight we go get dinner. I was also going to like and subscribe but I don't want to appear too agreeable lol (ok I did). I'd like to add one thing about being too complimentary. I was telling a guy at work about giving too many compliments. So I gave him this analogy. I said imagine if I went up to you and said you're a great friend and coworker. You might appreciate it. But what if I said it continuously? wouldn't you find it annoying? and he agreed. I would say to a girl you're attractive at first. But then make her earn the compliments after that.
Diffine too many gifts. I work amazing girl and she is a good friend of mine. I only give her a gift on: Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, her birthday and Christmas. Do think that's too many or you are talking about monthly, weekly thing?
Valentine, birthday and Christmas it is.. She is not your mother, so it would be way too incestuous to show up with a gift for her on mothers day.. But also do not forget your wedding and/or engagement day. If you give her more than that - you treat her like a whore..
Idk how about we don’t play stupid games & constantly testing us. How picking the right guy you can trust, get on his program & submit to. That would be fun.
What are your thoughts about today's bonus tip. Is this something that you take care of? Let me know your thoughts below 😀
Watching your videos and filling in any knowledge gaps could be considered personal growth. Keep up the great work!
Is there a parakeet mimicking my comment in this thread? 😂😂😂
Your "bonus" tip was like your videos in general ?...UTTERLY irrelevant !. If anyone doesn't know about "personal growth", & looking after themselves of their own volition, & need's telling how to do it from a monotonous CZcams channel, which just keeps endlessly recycling the same "advice" under a different title, then they are a complete moron !. ALL these things that you waffle on about constantly, should be SO obvious & self-evident to anyone with even a fraction of intelligence & instinct ?. If anyone has to watch a video, & be told how to approach women, & what to say, & how to behave & act, then they have already failed in life biologically, & may as well just quit trying !.
Putting in the work all day everyday. Laziness kills relationships. I work hard on myself so You don't have to. I'm good with myself, if You need something, tell me, I will continue being me and being happy if You say nothing, I do try to pay attention to Your needs but if I missed something just let me know. Much Love and Peace.💗
❤MY THOUGHTS ON YOUR VIDEOS ARE.....
MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET SOME PROFESSIONAL THERAPY ABOUT DATING...THEN YOU CAN GIVE HEALTHY ADVICE...❤❤❤ THANKS FOR THE VIDEOS TOO 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈
It's simple guys. She has to believe you genuinely don't give a crap whether she likes you or not; don't give a crap whether she's there in the room with you or not; don't give a crap whether she walks away from you and never comes back. That may sound harsh, but it's true. Keep her guessing as to whether she's attractive to you or not; never divulge too many personal details about yourself. Keep yourself somewhat mysterious. She must be convinced your life won't skip a beat whether she's with you or not, and last but not least, absolutely NEVER change for her. If , and when, you change, you change for yourself, to become a better man, more confident, more successful, and more focused on finding your own life's meaning. Desperation = codependency and codependency is a sickness. You must learn to be happy with yourself, and by yourself, or you will never have a genuine and prosperous relationship with another human being. BAM, there it is!
That sounds great if you’re young, and a player, and you don’t want a truly intimate long-term relationship that might culminate into marriage.
Yes, you should take your time with a new relationship, open the door gradually and continue to cultivate it with fun respect caring and responsibility; but once you establish trust and a deep connection you will never have her as a soulmate unless you share yourself with her because you trust her, and vice-versa.
@@docbob1182there are millions & millions of suckers who ‘opened up’, ‘shared themselves’, ‘trusted her’ & end up dumped & broken hearted. She is wired by, slave to, yes a victim of a million years of evolution for hypergamy to be attracted to strength, marry up, trade up…
Showing feelings for her is weakness in her eyes, means she can do better. She needs to believe you have higher value than she does.
There it is , but I don't think it's that easy .
@@docbob1182 said the beta male...
In other and more simple words "grow some balls" even if you have a big Dic it's useless if you got no balls and get hard
Don't put women on a pedestal. If you treat her like a celebrity she'll treat you like a fan. Have boundaries, and don't be afraid to be honest, even if it will piss her off.
Right on! No respect comes from being a simp!
I tried being a doormat but single is working much better.
Most women are the stars in their own movie that they are hoping will win them Academy Award for best actress
Don't do:
1. Too many gifts
2. Be a "Yes" man
3. Change yourself completely
4. Be constantly available
5. Try to fix her problems
6. Flatter excessively
Do:
Personal Growth
1. Learning
2. Challenges
@@josephrochefort9989 what😂
I knew I should have kept that part in the script
@@josephrochefort9989 LOL!
Yes i don't care
Be myself and keep my time and money. I like it! Apathy is bliss.
I used to have a gf. One time she told me some problems she was having. When I gave her some possible solutions, she told me that she didn't tell me her problems, because she wanted me to fix them. She told me them, because she wanted me to listen to her, and tell her that what she was feeling, was justified. So I learned.
A few weeks later when we went to a pumpkin patch, she snuggled up to me, and told me she was cold. I was going to offer her my jacket, but then I remembered our talk.
I told her that I fully heard her, and that she was fully justified in being cold, as it was a cold October night, and she brought a thin shirt.
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I noticed you began your story with, "I used to have a girlfriend".
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@@jackreisewitz6632 So ?
Brilliant! So funny - well done! 😂
No relationship is worth losing yourself!!!
Right on! As our hearts our broken as young men. Women are now having broken hearts living with no commitment in sight at 30+. Her purpose is his or stay single! Respect won't come later if not present now!
Excellent advice but it only applies to emotionally healthy, well adjusted, independent women. On the other hand, narcissistic women do want gifts, the bigger the better. Never ever say "no". Change to be like her. Be there at her beck and call. Fix and sooth any troubles emotional, financial, technological, or mechanical. Flatter constantly. So, if you're doing these "wrong" things and it's working, then run!! You're with a narcissist, you will become exhausted, and you will never be enough.
Oh my GOD! NEVER change yourself to what she wants you to be. I did this ONCE as a high schooler. It backfired big time. Lesson learned and i have not and never will change for another woman. Like me for me, or push on.
I learned these points the hard way. Men typically try to fix things, but women want often to just be heard as they think out loud.
Each Person should give room for both. There’s no reason the man should be the only one considering the other person. A good woman should be able to work with a “fixer”.
I've always conducted myself just as you say.
But when the money got low, there they go .
This woman knows a WHOLE lot about simps.
Here's my approach: rarely compliment, rarely give gifts (maybe on Christmas), don't text them more than twice a day, don't see them more than 2-3 times per week, no sleepovers, don't fall for their shit tests, always call their bluff when they give ultimatums.
My favorite: going out of town without telling them.
Ya that’s constructive. Everyone I know with a successful relationship does THAT 🙄. You and everyone else need to get off fuckin CZcams. Pure delusions from every commenter and every video takes the perspective too far into the weeds of narcissism. Thank God I can think for myself.
Sounds like you should put a video out on this subject as well. As a young guy, I got friendzoned quite a bit, and was a simp before that was even a thing. If I had done what you said in your comment, and what she said in the video, I would have been in charge of myself and my situation.
@97stratocaster21 if you had sensed the friend zone in yhe first place you should have started calling her sister and ask her on advise of how you could please a new gal you mate at the restaurant. Chics hate that more so when they are trying to put out their ego over you
Going out of town without telling them... with no cell phone service, let's them know they just might be replaceable.
Thanks Anna, for not adding distracting background music to your video! This was clear and easy to understand. :)
It seems more feasible to avoid contact altogether. I did, and it‘s a peaceful life.
1) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that you buy their attention.
2) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that always she gets what she wants.
3) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that the man change who he is to meet her requirements.
4) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that the world revolves around them, and that the man should drop everything to do what she wants.
5) Tell this to all the modern women who insist that men read their minds and never communicate what they *really* want.
6) Tell this to all the modern women who insist on receiving attention from everyone while assuming that any man who doesn't compliment her are not worth their own attention.
Your points are valid for healthy women; unfortunately, these women are unavailable in the current dating market.
I wonder where you find these "modern women". I only see a very little % of them on social medias, where they use these opinions to please their customers..
Really good one, any relationship is probably crucial JUST to be real normal human, being empathetic when needed and doing special little things when needed and Randomly AS WELL.
The bonus tip of self-care and personal growth includes watching Anna and this channel each time the notification arrives. 😉💕
Yay! Thank you!
And knowing that half of her content must be disregarded or modified. The more you show you care the less she'll respect you and she will not lay a dude (not a man) who she doesn't respect, unless it's transactional, ie she's doing out of duty or a trade.
NEVER give her food UNLESS you two are eating TOGETHER.
And NEVER feed her after midnight... Wait, that's Gremlins. Meh.
It's more common for men to overestimate signals of sexual interest than to underestimate them.
Back in the day, before I married my wife, I always led with my money. That's what got women's attention for me. It didn't really seem like anyone was interested in me as a person if it wasn't for my money. In the end, I would be happy, and they would too, and that's really all that matters at the end of the day, I guess. I'm just happy that I found my wife and I didn't have to use my money to get her, which is why we're married today.
My personality is rated ( sigma ) plus I have asperger's syndrome.
The only time I have a problem is when I meet a demon. Some women actually doesn't give a shit how they act. I learn to leave a demon alone without challenging her ( fixing ) her because she will mess you up if you challenge what's inside her.
I am guilty of the first 2 things thank you for showing me where I went wrong great video Anna🙏❣️
you're welcome!
A lot of women will want your number...knowing that you're a generous gift giver. What are some of the gifts that you gave women?
@@francisdashwood1760Bed Linens and Crockery
There is also things women never seem to be able to understand, I have be confronted with different women not capable of understanding why I am most of the time available.Yes I can babysit, bring your daughter to her ballet, or go on shopping with you, have a walk to the park because you don't feel it to be alone... 2 possible reactions: why are you always saying yes and/or you never do anything. Well my main occupation is "thinking", I'm passionate with philosophy, psychology, sciences...the only thing I need is my head, and I don't need my head to be on a specific place. I tried more then once to explain...they don't get it.Oh yes, also, I had, and expected no romantic relation.
What I find interesting about this video is, most of the things she says not to do, are the very things women try to get men to do. It's almost like the things that women want & respond to are usually not cohesive. Basically they are perpetually trying to sabatog the relationship.
It's called congruency tests. They need to know that you're who they think you are.
@@TheAustrianPainter87 it's convenient that men have to accept women for who they are, but men have to live up to who they think we are. BS
Listening is always better than talking too much!
This seems to be a “give and take” dependent upon the unique dynamics of the individual relationship.
I realize it may be your job ....but Anna you give the subject credibility and a sincereness I find enjoyable.
I always told my children to be yourself, it will be very hard to keep acting if you marry the person.
And yet its funny. All these old people you see on tv who've been happily married for "hundreds of years", love each other to bits and have always worked as a team and loved and respected each other and still do. None of them have done any of this shit: jumping through hoops, needing to worry about being too nice, buying too many gifts, paying too many compliments or being honest about how they feel about everything and each other and no mention of co-dependency and all that shit. Too many games nowadays, too many wanting to be treated like princesses, too many selfish people. Suspicious because someones paying too many compliments or being too nice all the time or is too easy going. Rather be on my own than play all these daft games...its all just a control thing. Now we're getting accused of not being like the traditional man and not opening doors and taking them for dinners and pampered them.
If you want something to jump through hoops go buy a dog. If you want to play games go to your nearest casino or join a netball team. Thank god ive found someone who isnt into all this shit and we both appreciate what weve got. Unfortunatey, weve spend centuries building women up to think theyre the prize and we're just there to compete for them. Good luck!
Oh btw to the guy below who says, it comes across as disingenous or unbelievable (i paraphrase) if youre buying to many gifts or paying too many compliments. It is possible to buy gifts, pay compliments AND be honest and genuine. Says more about the woman when they cant suss out whether youre the genuine article who is just very sincere, generous and appreciates them. Basically if they find it suspicious its probably the reason most of them end up with cheating arseholes because they didnt like the "nice" guys and went for the one who played it cool and actually ended up being married to the one who wasnt just playing it cool but ends up being indifferent to her when theyre married 😂
I like how I can tell a girl I like gaming and Photoshop as far as interests are concerned, and "she looses respect for me", but if I was to ask her what her hobbies are she would probably be playing games on her phone or on social media. Under those circumstances, it's kind of hypocritical.
Hello Joyanima i have been watching your videos for a while i have tried everything to turn my luck around but i must be undatebale i am the most genuine person out there and down to earth guy i wont lie i have let myself go as nobody wanted me at my best
You shouldnt be a Yes man if it goes against something you believe in or you dont want to do. BUT then there are easy going guys like me that for other things, doesn't really matter. Sometimes we guys just don't have a preference. Why be difficult if there is no reason for it.
If you do not care - you do not matter.. To anyone.
@@andersnielsen6044Exactly what I was going to say. If you don't care keep to yourself but with the girl, pretend you have a preference
It’s interesting seeing how other people interact with each other.
It seems that if you convince her that you could easily live a happy and prosperous life alone, she falls in love and pursues you with all her heart.
She pursues your wallet alone. You being there is the negative downside for her.
I don't like drama and toxic situations...
I have to go or change my mind...
I am a yes man, yes honey you are right.
Sharp points. Sadly ..sometimes I fall into some of those points.. 😢
Great tips. Being in a healthy relationship means mutual respect and understanding.
Your presentation will make Ophra Winfrey looks like an apprentice, that's why you deserve my subscription!
#1 rule of getting a girl . Never get hung up on 1 chick , if she doesn't like you , there are many more
I agree with you. Practice detachment.
Thank You Joy
Those are workable solutions, good to know. Just curious are you from London.
I'm from Califirnia yet I went to London in the 60s and stayed in a flat near Hyde Park I enjoyed seeing some Turner Sea Scapes.
Big Picture:
All sound advice.
Little Picture:
Some men are in relationships with bossy women such that if you don’t do what they expect they will leave. And they do. Having a strong ego and a healthy feeling of pride and self esteem is the best way to avoid this. She may indeed break up with you but don’t want that kind of woman. You’ll just be miserable.
Some women are absent because they are far away or have commitments. Being always available may be the only way you can see her. And yes she may still think you’re needy because she’s comfortable being this independent. She may expect you too feel just as happy as she is being far apart and rarely seeing each other. If you really miss her that much you may want to look for someone else.
You really may have the solution to your partner’s problem. You may have listened to her rant endlessly about it on many occasions. Someone may be chronically broken such that ANYTHING you can offer will not work. Why? She may not want to follow up with your solution. So all you’ve done is piss her off. Decide if you can be with someone who constantly rants about her chronic issues.
In my experience, not being constantly available or not willing to try and fix her problems meant she'd go find a guy who would.
oYes, I must save these magic words to fend off the next woman! Experience counts, more than rules of thumb. Even with a sister, I had no experience of girlfriends, and at almost 30, when one came along, I had no way of knowing which was more important, being a perfect match or the several negative factors. Now, after 50 years of marriage, I am back where I was before, married but alone. Our 3 daughters almost make it all worthwhile.
Thank You for these tips.
Good to know
Especially re havinh your own life snd interests and not being too available and being too agreeable. Of course there will be disagreement you sre two different people with two unique life experiences.
Trying to please even tho you disagee with a given idea of hers can backfire down the road
We are two different people eavh of us has a unique mission in this life and when we meet someone than first of all there needs to be appreciation of each others unique talents then learning needs to take place on both sides it cant be on sided it cant be just physical.
There needs to be a balance of physical and mental and higher Self. The Spiritual. Transcendental
Level of Unbounded Awareness.
guys.. if you're able to be genuine, understanding and yourself.. you will be surprised the amazing caliber of women that will relentlessly try to connect with you.. just do the work towards healing and growth and suddenly the flowers will just grow towards you as if you are the sun.. I mean we are men.. aren't we? men's hormones are on a solar pattern while women's hormones are on a lunar pattern.. hence they will orbit and all you have to do is shine your light for them to glow. 🤗 and Joy you are wonderful.
Never be fake , be the original you
Good video and insights. I'm going to have to comb through your videos to see if I can find help on a situation I've just recently found myself in with a woman.
Fell in love at first sight with this beautiful host
I thought this video would give a general lesson. It was only on dating non-sense. You should do a video on dealing with them regarding workplace, arguing, etc.....
Thank you, Annie. And Merry Christmas for you and Yours.
Red, Gold, and Green.🍎🌟🦚
You do a great job…Are you a psychologist? Life coach? Al R from Albuquerque, New Mexico USA thinks you’re the best at your job!!!!!
Well it looks as though I am safe. I have a wife and two daughters and the only problem I had being a guy is wanting to fix their problems. It took me some time to realize they just want me to listen to their problems, not fix them. Most guys learn to fix things that are broken, but that doesn't carry over to relationships with women involved.
1.) Agreed
2.) Agreed
3.) Super agreed, never do this, you could lose touch with yourself after long enough.
4.) I don't really agree with this one. Some people have more free time, and women shouldn't feel like a guy that wants to spend their free time with them is anything but a good thing. This is more of an 'emotions women need to stop validating and acting on'. Trying to be around them everyday or multiple times a day is clingy, yes. But I've seen women say that asking every week or 2 is too much. That's a them problem.
5.) This one I also disagree with, but again it depends. This is a good way to filter out shitty women that have an ego problem. Men are supposed to lead and guide their women, that's how it works. If she has any problems like insecurities, past damage, emotional / mental issues, then you damn sure better be trying to help. The things people don't want to think about, are almost always the things they NEED to think about to make any progress on the issue. It's a whole host of red flags to be with a damaged woman that's addicted to running away from her problems and making them worse over time.
Tip.) Great tip.
excellent tips Anna!
Glad you think so!
Thanks Anna for these helpful reminders!.........Sal : )
You are so welcome!
I like you madam and impressed with your maturity. Keep it up.
Great vidéo ❤
That’s very true
The yes man is true not only for relationships. Not having an opinion or saying yes because you dont really care either way can get you in trouble for the moments you actually do. Growing up I always learned censens bla bla..."if something is more important to others than to you than let them have it...they will do the same"
yeah turns out thats bullshit. Always saw it as "Hey asshole! I let you have it the last few times so dont be a jerk now" and they saw it as "the uprising of the peasant".
In 1 vs 1 scenarios it usually worked and the other person would get used to it and compromise. But in groups its way harder as most always support the "King" no matter what. I was kinda an under the foot figure.
Needed a fucking long time not only to understand it but to act accordingly. Now I just pretend to care and make it a fight from time to time so that people "fear" me enough that I have to fight less in the end. So yeah this Jack Sparrow guy is a great actor and those who say otherwise can get some 👊
Having your own life
What about if its a Birthday or holiday like Christmas or valentine's day
If you want to get and keep a woman, treat her like she doesn't matter. Trust me
Thats me subscribed to always be there for your videos even if I'm working or doing anything important
Joyanima YOU know exactly what is happening for sure!!! And you are definitely one of London's England UK best exports most definitely all the way!!! Trust me I'm a Capricorn and I just know you are the best of the very best and continued success always you 💯are awesome indeed!!!❤
Wow, thank you
@@Joyanima American women are different
Slow down on the compliments dude! Weren’t you listening to her advice?
.... Very, very good video Ana! VERY good!
Thank you so much 😀
❤I really enjoy your videos and I love you!
True .
I'm glad i played this on 1.5 speed lol is this for teenagers? I can't believe how many YT channels say the SOS
You were awesome in Game of Thrones!
One of My ex GF's didn't want me to work out of town, my job took me out of town,. She also didn't want to meet my Mother , when we visited her family and my mom was less that 50 mi. away. Oh Well! Next lady please!
Sounds like you dodged a bullet
Excellent video 💯 agree
Thank you for sharing you knowledge.
Brilliant. With love
great video. nice change from the simp videos. Sometimes you tell guys to almost worship a girl. That is bad advice
Thank you.
Those are great tips Joyanima. Keep it up
thank you!
You're most welcome
she just excluded 95% of all Women in the developed countries with just the first thing 😂 😂 😂
Okay, got it. We should all start by refusing to go to Sunday Brunch, and telling her to get over the whole toilet seat thing, this is just a starting point and to set a precedence, ha ha...
Thanks so much
Everything she said may make more attractive to a woman, but none of it will keep that woman with you in the long run because in a relationship women change, and that's a hard fact. Most if not all of those 5 things will be reversed as the relationship matures, and that little bonus will be seen as selfishness and inattention toward her needs. The only reason divorce numbers aren't higher is many couples just except things as they are.
Sorry but I disagree with several of the things she says not to do. Her advice is basically to play the game and this will lead to the wrong woman. If you give her a lot of gifts and she doesn't appreciate them then she is not the right woman for you. If you always let her get her way and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. If you change yourself for her and these are changes you know are improvements and that you know will make you a better person and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. You should want to be a better man for a good woman. If you are always available to her and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. If you compliment her all the time and you really mean it and she doesn't appreciate it then she is not the right woman for you. The one she did got absolutely right is never try to fix things unless the woman asked for your help. Shut up and listen and then offer your help if she seems open to it but never tell her what you think she needs to do unless she asks.
A lot of the advice she gives in this video is good and I'm sure she has good intentions but the "never do these things" part is way off. Doing these things will not cause a good woman to lose respect for you. A good woman will respect you more because you do these things. If she doesn't then she is not a good woman and you should move on. The only reason to never do these things is if the woman doesn't show you appreciation for doing them. A good woman will. The wrong woman won't. Doing these things doesn't make you a simp. Doing them for a woman that doesn't appreciate them does. You don't need to set boundaries because a good woman will never push you to do things you really don't want to do. A king should worship his queen and a queen should worship her king. Show her as much love as you can and if she doesn't do the same for you then she is not worthy and you should move on. Don't play the game, unless of course you're just young and horny. :)
This is definitely advice a woman would give to men. It’s all about not worshipping her too much, only worship her the right amount.
I appreciate this.
A great woman is worth committing as she will want to have an genuine relationship with you not having demanding expectations
Spot on!
Thanks for your tips ! New subscriber here 😊
I find with the always being a yes man, or being very agreeable. Even if you do agree on a lot of things I like to throw in a twist or a change now and then. For example if she wants to go to a movie, just say can we do this tomorrow night instead? how about tonight we go get dinner. I was also going to like and subscribe but I don't want to appear too agreeable lol (ok I did). I'd like to add one thing about being too complimentary. I was telling a guy at work about giving too many compliments. So I gave him this analogy. I said imagine if I went up to you and said you're a great friend and coworker. You might appreciate it. But what if I said it continuously? wouldn't you find it annoying? and he agreed. I would say to a girl you're attractive at first. But then make her earn the compliments after that.
I disagree with the gifts. They really can't get enough 😹
All of your videos are great ,based on common sense and mutual respect. Good mature advice.
Try to provide value 😁
Diffine too many gifts. I work amazing girl and she is a good friend of mine. I only give her a gift on: Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, her birthday and Christmas. Do think that's too many or you are talking about monthly, weekly thing?
If you're not getting anything in return then you risk being seen as a SIMP
Valentine, birthday and Christmas it is.. She is not your mother, so it would be way too incestuous to show up with a gift for her on mothers day.. But also do not forget your wedding and/or engagement day. If you give her more than that - you treat her like a whore..
For all those gifts she better be putting out like one@@andersnielsen6044
Thank u for the invaluable tips.
Happy to help!
Idk how about we don’t play stupid games & constantly testing us. How picking the right guy you can trust, get on his program & submit to. That would be fun.
Oww nooooo I make all these Mistakes 😱 😆
oh no! Time to make some changes 😊
@@Joyanima Naaaah, not gonna do that. I Am gonna stay my authentic self 😆
Can you give some advice for guys who are disabled? Specifically those who are blind?
True
Good to know what I already figured logical tactics to grow deeper understanding in the female psyche.
And taking care of ourselves> physically. Mentally anf spiritually as in mefitation snd sincere prayers that you create
Simply.
That was at the Tate Gallery
Thanks, enjoy your content