Relationship Advice and Q&A with My Husband! | Susan Yara

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  • čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
  • My husband Arun and I have been married for ten years now (where does the time go?!), so I thought it would be fun to film a little relationship advice and q&a video for you all. Do you have any questions for us? Comment below!
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    00:00 Intro
    00:46 Any advice for newly engaged couples?
    02:17 I'm 30 and still single, give me hope?
    03:34 How do you recommend handling money?
    05:35 Did you feel butterflies when you were first dating?
    05:56 How did you convince your husband to start a skincare regimen?
    06:40 How long does it take to get over someone?
    07:30 One thing you miss about that before kids life?
    08:49 What was something that bothered you when you moved in together?
    10:19 Should I just go for it and ask him out?
    11:48 How do you manage each others quirks that drive you mad?
    13:37 How's the dynamic for a very non-Instagram husband?
    16:03 Dating advice you wish you knew when looking for the one?
    17:39 Outro
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Komentáře • 144

  • @lolnahbih2870
    @lolnahbih2870 Před 2 lety +293

    Lmaooo he looks so uncomfortable and Susan is like in her element 😂😂😂

  • @dianamccarthy2377
    @dianamccarthy2377 Před 2 lety +42

    The happiest time is most definitely not where you’re engaged!!! I’ve been married over a decade now, and there have been so many different seasons of our relationship and marriage, the being engaged period was just a blip on the radar. Things only got better as the relationship progressed over time in so many different ways.

  • @justprettymakeup1281
    @justprettymakeup1281 Před 2 lety +183

    Susan, I think you are wrong about one thing. I disagree that the happiest time you ever have is when you are engaged. I am 43, have two kids out of the house, & one more in high school. We can finally take a breath. Right now, is the happiest time yet for us! 😊

    • @sandie1214
      @sandie1214 Před 2 lety +7

      I agree. My youngest is 20 and now my husband and I go out and don’t rush back home ❣️

    • @aubbityaub7787
      @aubbityaub7787 Před 2 lety +10

      Good point, they just have not gotten to that point. The kids are still so little. Mine are 3 and 7 and it's even good now because I don't need to be around them all the time. That's a nice breath of fresh air.

    • @mominetti
      @mominetti Před 2 lety +13

      @Justprettymakeup Yeah, but she’s not there yet. She’s talking from her perspective.

    • @calltothesky2880
      @calltothesky2880 Před 2 lety +3

      @@mominetti exactly

    • @mariakristina7440
      @mariakristina7440 Před 2 lety

      yeaaah Susan is taking it from her perspective

  • @97indianuk
    @97indianuk Před 2 lety +17

    I like what Susan said about your “fun secrets” you don’t need to tell your partner everything.

  • @xxdeanochkaxx
    @xxdeanochkaxx Před 2 lety +53

    Susan, love you, but you must rewatch to see your husbands reactions to your answers 🤣 he disagreed a lot but kept it low . True husband 😁😎

  • @tedmiller3437
    @tedmiller3437 Před 2 lety +24

    The mhm meter is truly hilarious. But hey, silver lining, I’m happy your partner can agree with you so much.

  • @ellelewis3926
    @ellelewis3926 Před 2 lety +1

    This is great! More Arun! Love his dry sense of humor, esp the look he gave after the, “…he really cares about his appearance.” statement. You two have an awesome dynamic!! Xoxo

  • @andrearivera8107
    @andrearivera8107 Před 2 lety +18

    your husband is so chill and cool!

  • @thomasmurphy83
    @thomasmurphy83 Před 2 lety +30

    My husband and I are 9 months into married life and this was so helpful (and made us giggle too). 💗

  • @lorenapena5518
    @lorenapena5518 Před 2 lety +17

    This is a good one! Aww, your hubby is uncomfortably funny! How cute! 😆

  • @saralik3871
    @saralik3871 Před 2 lety +1

    Love the vid, and happy birthday!

  • @alexisvillegasasmr
    @alexisvillegasasmr Před 2 lety +9

    Omg I asked the “thirty and single” question in the thumbnail!!! 💕💕💕 yayy thank you for this Susan

  • @ashs3783
    @ashs3783 Před 2 lety +1

    Y’all keep it 💯 from dating to having kids, love that!

  • @twoeenoi
    @twoeenoi Před 2 lety +10

    Together (almost) 7 years, married (almost) 2 : We never go to bed angry at each other. We'll talk until we reach some kind of understanding, hug it out and then go to bed.

  • @KarinaRain
    @KarinaRain Před 2 lety +5

    You guys are awesome cause we can see how much love there is but how you’re also being honest about things- cause relationships take work and aren’t always picture perfect- far from it, really. Such a great looking mixed family as well! Wooo!! Cheers to love and family!

  • @adrivv311
    @adrivv311 Před 2 lety +19

    This was a great video and so reassuring as a 28 year old woman who isn’t yet married but feels a lot of societal pressure to be

  • @msmintygreen
    @msmintygreen Před 2 lety +2

    Great video! Love when Arun makes an appearance. xx

  • @grant8009
    @grant8009 Před 2 lety +6

    Your husband is literally the cutest. I’d like to see more videos with him! ❤️

  • @dextersonntag5674
    @dextersonntag5674 Před 2 lety +2

    This video is pure magic. I love you guys :) thanks for sharing!

  • @Lunalove42
    @Lunalove42 Před 2 lety +9

    Yay!! Another Arun video!!! He'll be a total youtuber at the end of the year hahaha

  • @radhapriyaitwaru
    @radhapriyaitwaru Před 2 lety +6

    I just love Susan’s relationship!!! Goals 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @hannahlee9733
    @hannahlee9733 Před 2 lety +3

    I love this. thank you both for being open and honest! especially the finances part (i agree with you two wholeheartedly) and my husband can watch espn 24/7 too. it annoyed me the first few years, but a decade later, I''ve learned to just embrace it. he will go watch his sports, ill go take a hot bath by myself or read a book (me time!).

  • @CuteNP
    @CuteNP Před 2 lety +10

    Such a great video Susan! Really enjoyed watching this and Arun does have very nice skin. Just getting my husband to wear sunscreen daily has been rough!

    • @rizannadyussembina1780
      @rizannadyussembina1780 Před 2 lety +2

      😂😂😂 I can totally relate!!! And washing off the sunscreen at the end of the end is another struggle...

  • @patrihuedel6042
    @patrihuedel6042 Před 2 lety +3

    I just love when Arun is here!

  • @meenalaregina7770
    @meenalaregina7770 Před 2 lety +1

    You two are such a sweet duo!

  • @shyannealexis1600
    @shyannealexis1600 Před 2 lety +4

    As soon as a I realized I don't have to have kids & I really don't want them
    Life got better for me bc I can really take my time I don't have to worry about my "clock" running out

  • @storieswithc
    @storieswithc Před rokem

    Love your answer about how to share money! That's exactly what my husband and I do and I feel like everyone treats us like we're weird, but it works so well for us!

  • @fejjabspa-skincare.massage

    You guy's skin is amazing. Wow! 10 years cheers to many more

  • @robindagenais6686
    @robindagenais6686 Před 2 lety

    You two are goals!!

  • @khanyangabase691
    @khanyangabase691 Před 2 lety +16

    I think having something for him to do, focusing on answering questions honestly and thoughtfully, made Arun seem more relaxed on camera, at least to me. As opposed to just giving him the floor to just talk about himself and him (much like I would) not knowing where to start or how to really interact with the camera.
    I really enjoyed the video and **completely** agree with the overall sentiment that focusing on being the best you really is what matters, bc then you can go into relationships knowing your worth and who you are and what you need/want from a romantic relationship.

  • @karlaeio
    @karlaeio Před 2 lety +2

    Your husband skin is so nice !! U guys are really sweet !!

  • @jo-annejackson4255
    @jo-annejackson4255 Před 2 lety +2

    I love Arun & Susan videos!!!! Congratulations on 10years ❤️🥰😍

  • @lucky0n3
    @lucky0n3 Před 2 lety +13

    Ok... I laughed SO hard during this video, ESPECIALLY during the outro with Arun's extra-awkward fist 👊 pump. @Susan, how much convincing does it take to get the hubs to agree to do these with you?! 🤣

  • @esthelaguzman8268
    @esthelaguzman8268 Před 2 lety +10

    You both are so adorable!! It cracks me up how your hubby just stares at the camera 😁. God bless you both

  • @knowledgehunter_
    @knowledgehunter_ Před 2 lety +1

    Naturium has improved his skin! Specially B3 and retinol ( may be considering his age). Periodt

  • @nnnnance
    @nnnnance Před 2 lety +3

    Ok, I live for this Arun content.

  • @nikkidiniz4692
    @nikkidiniz4692 Před 2 lety +1

    I took a sip of coffee for every “mhm” that Arun made hahaha
    Love how engaging and more he relaxed he was this time around, also I think both of you gave and pointed out some really good advices and personal experiences!
    You guys should do this more often hehehe
    ♥️

  • @karinaestrada6802
    @karinaestrada6802 Před 2 lety +2

    lol he’s such a dude! Love this & your small “banter”. ♥️

  • @misspamzy
    @misspamzy Před 2 lety

    Loved the video and I think it was great advise!! The only thing I don’t really agree with was that you need to feel butterflies. I dated my now husband after being friends for a while and didn’t have butterflies, it just felt right. At the time he was a fling to me and slowly turned into the one. My husband and I have been together 8 years, married 5 with a little one and we are both so happy.

  • @gpizano6691
    @gpizano6691 Před 2 lety

    Love you guys !!!

  • @nickyroime
    @nickyroime Před rokem +1

    Arun just like my husband. I am the talkative one. He is reserved one

  • @shyannealexis1600
    @shyannealexis1600 Před 2 lety +2

    Also something that my sister shared with me is dating gets easier when u learn what u value

  • @Thefun-cousins523
    @Thefun-cousins523 Před 2 lety +1

    I enjoyed that. Your husband seems so laid back & quiet. 😄 My husband & I have been married for 38-years & he still won’t do any facial routine at all.

  • @cleftheart
    @cleftheart Před 2 lety +2

    What a good looking couple!

  • @Wakeupgrandowl
    @Wakeupgrandowl Před 2 lety +1

    I have been with my partner since I were 19 and he 23. We lived with with each other almost immediately. He asked for my hand LONG AGO. We’ve been engaged more or less 10 years 😂 lots of reasons why the marriage has been delayed, it’s not that important anyway. But we welcomed our first child a few months ago at 32 and 36 respectively. The early days of our relationship were fun, we had a lot of adventure and everything was new… but THIS is hands down the happiest time of our relationship. Even though new parenthood is hard, we are happy, and closer than ever to our families. We love our son. We had a really long time ‘free’ and unattached and go places, party ect. and we did. The baby is new but I really don’t miss it so much, yet. At the moment I am more excited about doing things with our kid. Maybe naïveté! We will see!

  • @annwilson4576
    @annwilson4576 Před 2 lety

    Honest, delightful and. funny.

  • @2009cmor
    @2009cmor Před 2 lety +1

    Love Arun. Keeping it real.

  • @qytj1182
    @qytj1182 Před 2 lety +1

    What a cute and attractive couplee aww this was nice to see

  • @JizzyJeg28
    @JizzyJeg28 Před 2 lety +4

    Arun better drop that skin care routine cuz that skin is poppin’!!

  • @ritalee5706
    @ritalee5706 Před 2 lety +1

    I’ve dated my husband for 11 years and married for 2 years, lol, no more newly engaged couple or those romantic moments lol, we know we give each other lots of space and this keep our marriage very healthy! Space is we need!

  • @rebecca2653
    @rebecca2653 Před 2 lety +1

    You guys make such a cute couple.

  • @ruthysotomayor6480
    @ruthysotomayor6480 Před 2 lety +3

    A shot for every “mhm” 😂💀

  • @scoldilox
    @scoldilox Před 2 lety +4

    It’s important to have fun while dating for sure, but I think it’s also important to date with intention, if you’re looking for something committed and serious. It’s different now in the dating culture with all the online stuff and social media. I just turned 34 and newly single and my therapist told me to date with my own goals in mind, but obviously everything takes time, so it’s a balancing act. And yeah guys can wait til they’re in their 40s to have kids, women not so much. So it just depends on what you want for you own life I guess even tho we don’t always get what we want lol. But we try, try again! Good luck beautiful ppl 💞

  • @way108
    @way108 Před 2 lety +8

    When Arun says “You lost me at the end there” 😂 😂 😂

  • @shainaannx17
    @shainaannx17 Před 2 lety +1

    I've only been married for a little over 2 years. I'm so glad you guys mentioned the separate accounts. I have it that way too. But one of my older bosses thinks that "you're not all in" otherwise. I'm like nope sorry disagree lol.
    I feel better knowing you guys didn't go right into kids. I get so sick of people telling me I should have them and I don't want them. Im 30 and people think you're ancient if you don't pop kids out right after you marry. People think life will be boring without kids and I highly disagree lol.
    Congrats on your 10 years. He did so great 🤗. My husband responds with grunts and mhm all the time so he cracked me up.

  • @QueenieEileenie
    @QueenieEileenie Před 2 lety +2

    That was cute. That’s what I want only flipped cuz I’m the introverted one.

  • @97indianuk
    @97indianuk Před 2 lety +6

    Can you please do a video about having mixed race children and teaching your children both cultures and what your husband teaches both your children?

  • @cyndieteng7002
    @cyndieteng7002 Před 2 lety +1

    Arun yay!! 😄

  • @JH5542
    @JH5542 Před 2 lety +2

    Your husband learned the biggest lesson; « to always agree with the wife » 😂 smart guy

  • @SusanSlattery
    @SusanSlattery Před 2 lety

    Arun is so cool. Totally unperturbed. And a perfect straight man. After every question, Susan is dissolving in laughter at his straight face.

  • @magusand5060
    @magusand5060 Před 2 lety +1

    Totally agreed with your husband about cleaning dishes I’m the one who does it and it’s really frustrating that you think you’re done and like ten minutes later there’s more sitting in the sink and no one cleans them.🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • @_panuisthatyu
    @_panuisthatyu Před 2 lety +6

    I'm here for the 'Mhm' counts 😂😂😂

  • @erikmendez639
    @erikmendez639 Před 2 lety +1

    he has the Most Amazing Skin ive seen Wow :D

  • @Pinkhair332
    @Pinkhair332 Před rokem

    The husband… latch on for emotion to susan lol so funny

  • @shumailatajmuhammadmaqsood1405

    I love his expression at the start 🤭 , hey susan please do the skincare video for breastfeeding moms to get rid of patches malasma and acne scars which developed during pregnancy

  • @JCH726
    @JCH726 Před 2 lety +4

    You guys are so cute! His expression at the beginning was hilarious 😂. He was a good sport!

  • @mahams8954
    @mahams8954 Před 2 lety +1

    Susan, your husband is a good looking man and his eyes are really attractive. You both make a good couple 🤗.

  • @glam.nidhi.sharma
    @glam.nidhi.sharma Před 2 lety +27

    Woah even Americans worry about being unmarried at 30. I'm Indian

    • @chericoffman6321
      @chericoffman6321 Před 2 lety

      More so if you’ve never been married.

    • @Hari-bz1mh
      @Hari-bz1mh Před 2 lety +1

      This fact doesn't ever change in between countries. It starts a bit earlier in India but no one is immune to it

  • @edwinahardy3511
    @edwinahardy3511 Před 2 lety

    Susan…you are fantastic and your hubby is super cute 💜 please listen to your video and count how many times you have said ‘like’ when it wasn’t necessary…

  • @brook117
    @brook117 Před 2 lety +7

    This mans face be lookin perfect and groomed
    👁👄👁

  • @captinzoom
    @captinzoom Před 2 lety +1

    Daddy is in the house

  • @wondergold100
    @wondergold100 Před 2 lety +1

    He is so funny! Handsome too!

  • @dantilion7915
    @dantilion7915 Před 2 lety +1

    I ain't never seen two pretty married people-wait a second there's two here!

  • @sarchstar
    @sarchstar Před 2 lety

    Your husband is hilarious!!

  • @Vidhya2804
    @Vidhya2804 Před 2 lety +1

    1st comment… like your thoughtful videos

  • @Singinbluebird
    @Singinbluebird Před 2 lety +3

    Hes completely tuned out and emotionally not present. I'm so sorry but I don't see this couple working out long term 😔😭😥...but Susan is so beautiful and kind hearted and talkative. And Arun is laid back and cool level headed but there's an emotional disconnect between you both. Why not let Arun talk more and follow his lead ? I love you Susan. Please follow Adrienne everheart ...your marriage will blossom and just be beautiful 💕💕💕 Love you.

  • @karlagomez958
    @karlagomez958 Před 2 lety +4

    🤣🤣🤣🤣He has the same expressions all the time Lol mmmmhuh !! Lmao , I can tell your the fun and funny one in the relationship Susan 🤣

  • @chericoffman6321
    @chericoffman6321 Před 2 lety +2

    At 52, I quit dating. I’m not looking to have kids. Already had them and they’re grown. Dating at my age is an exercise in futility. Seems like you relax after being married because both people feel like each other has one foot out the door before the wedding.

  • @Lanarenee__
    @Lanarenee__ Před 2 lety +2

    The mhm counter 🤣🤣

  • @lucy32180
    @lucy32180 Před 2 lety +8

    Bahahaha "most people have babies because they don't know what to do with themselves" LOL

  • @julieemerine8435
    @julieemerine8435 Před 2 lety +4

    So funny his face does not crack!! Poker face ♥️ ♦️ ♣️ ♠️

  • @unbiasly
    @unbiasly Před 2 lety +8

    it’s so hard to not be goal oriented with dating in the early 20s because the biological clock is ticking!! men don’t have to deal with that for the most part! I would like to have kids before my parents get too old and can’t spend many years with them, which probably might be a problem that’ll happen w future generations since many couples are having their kids later in life. and then my parents expect me to go to med school, do a residency for little money, and somehow make it out alive and have time for dating, marriage, kids?? Being a woman is so much pressure sometimes

    • @xxdeanochkaxx
      @xxdeanochkaxx Před 2 lety

      @lisa no need to worry with biological clock!
      We all have different paths and different timings and every baby arrive when it is supposed to.
      I seen woman spend decades fit into biological clock from 19-33 and couldn’t get pregnant and when they completely forgot or married new person, baby arrived in 2 minutes and in some cases 2 in a row or 4 naturally, after 40! Enjoy your study and build your carrer ✨marriage and kids will come when they are suppose to 😍🙏🏼🌈✨

    • @unbiasly
      @unbiasly Před 2 lety

      @@xxdeanochkaxx I have health conditions that affect my biological clock unfortunately, i know modern medicine can do a lot and adoption is an option but expectations are there. i just wish it was easier to throw away the pressure if you're raised in a traditional household :( i'm especially worried about my kids not having enough time to know their grandparents if i'm having them at 40! i'm in my 20s, i'm the last kid, and my parents are 65 and 70.

    • @juliem5162
      @juliem5162 Před 2 lety

      @@unbiasly what is important to you first? Marriage and children? Then date with intention and date people who are like minded. A lot of women waste precious time and have regrets becuase they heard people say "it will come when it come". While some women have difficulty having children, and yes dating is hard and yes you do want to be a doctor. Keep the door open always and out yourself out there. Also, be ok with rejections. Every guy to date will not be the one, but there will be that one eventually. Eventually, won't come if you hiding. You can be married and still in be medicine school. Challenging yes, but doable.

    • @xxdeanochkaxx
      @xxdeanochkaxx Před 2 lety

      @@unbiasly 🙏🏼🙏🏼 stay strong ✨🌈 impossible is possible

  • @blueless1805
    @blueless1805 Před 2 lety +1

    The mhm counter 😂

  • @christinabrami8453
    @christinabrami8453 Před 2 lety

    Please share your lip color!

  • @anjalijain2192
    @anjalijain2192 Před 2 lety +3

    Okay but why is his skin better than mine though....

  • @nikkihayes9236
    @nikkihayes9236 Před 2 lety

    Had to pause @8:05 in to say, ARUN'S "MHM" COUNT!!😂😂😂

  • @Hlmaldonado383
    @Hlmaldonado383 Před 2 lety +1

    Lol!! He is funny, I love the face 😑

  • @varshapatibandla485
    @varshapatibandla485 Před 2 lety +1

    Random question, is Arun Tamilian or from Chennai??

  • @PrincessAnisha09
    @PrincessAnisha09 Před 2 lety

    Hi Susan, were you ever intimidated by him? Sometimes when I date professionals who have a good poker face (kind of like your husband), I get intimidated!

  • @aarontheabc
    @aarontheabc Před 2 lety +1

    😂❤️👏

  • @tatianaragland4007
    @tatianaragland4007 Před 2 lety +2

    He does NOT want to be here at all in the slightest 🤣🤣🤣

  • @cicilyly6027
    @cicilyly6027 Před 2 lety

    Your hubby is so handsome. He looks Thai

  • @donikatod460
    @donikatod460 Před rokem

    Guys know whether you will be their wife within the first several times of meeting you. Absolutely all men know by the 6th month of dating you whether they want to marry you. For most though it's by the first month of getting to know you. Which is why the woman is inclined to think about this part so much. A man should progress things steadily. Women often get anxious when they don't sense that progression happening.

  • @snezray2324
    @snezray2324 Před 2 lety +1

    so nonchalant Arun lol!!!

  • @mayfar4961
    @mayfar4961 Před 2 lety +1

    Hi Susan . If I am not mistaken your husband lost a lot of weights and looks like more healthy.

  • @sabahfirdous1742
    @sabahfirdous1742 Před 2 lety +4

    Can you clone your husband and post him to me please? I mean how chill and cool can someone be.

  • @mauritaedwards9707
    @mauritaedwards9707 Před 2 lety

    HUSBAND BOX PHOBIA 📦 lol 😆

  • @sassgirl8494
    @sassgirl8494 Před 2 lety +2

    Let him talk ya 🙄

  • @sarakoob6667
    @sarakoob6667 Před 2 lety +3

    So why even get married if you’re not going to be happy in the long run lol

  • @penelopematshamba454
    @penelopematshamba454 Před 2 lety

    Final Destination 10: Marriage