Would Korean parents approve their kids marrying foreigner? | Korea street interview
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@@iamfromkoreaHere is the thing in the living word a man supposed to leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. A man set culture traditions should not be first since a lot of these culture traditions are set by man and not God. Confucian was a satanic freemason. So for them to think they have to preserve a culture that a man set is crazy to me. Only God should come first. 🙏
LOL@@wintersky813
i understand wanting to preserve culture, but also marrying a foreigner doesn’t mean those things will be lost, sometimes a foreigner will be more interested in passing that culture on than someone who has grown up with it. it’s hard to change your mindset, i get that. what i don’t understand is being willing to lose your relationship with your child because they love someone you don’t approve of.
Rigth! I am from Caribbean and my ex boyfriend is from Chad, Africa. I took so many ways from the family. Cooking, dancing, dressing and more.. It's very good going out of our culture, it's clever!
@@georgie9722 there really is nothing quite like learning to know and love another culture, for me at least. even more so if that culture is connecting you to a person you love, what's more beautiful than that?
@@sgtmian completely agree with you. For me it's only love that connects people first and the rest comes after.
As an INDIGENOUS NATIVE AMERICAN…who are you trying to convince yourself?
I’m an American and I have studied all things Korean for about 7 years. I have mixed feelings about Koreans marrying foreigners. S.Korea is not a very large country so, I can understand wanting to keep the pure blood line and culture, but on the other hand love is love and people should not feel forced to marry only from their race. Time will tell. Also any parent who would disown their own child for marrying a foreigner is not much of a parent to start with, so it would be your loss.
I was in a relationship with a Korean man years ago. We eventually broke up a couple of weeks before our planned wedding date because his parents stopped talking to him and basically disowned him. I did everything I could - I learned Korean, even though I didn't need it (it was in Australia), I learned how to cook Korean dishes, I even took on a full study on Korean history and culture just to please them. I was always walking on egg shells around them, overly polite and submissive. But I was just "that trash" or that "bleached bi**h". Insults became even worse when I finally started to become more assertive.
His sister is married to a Finnish man and they hate him too but allowed it because "it is just a daughter, a woman" but "our son needs a Korean woman to pass the genes and preserve our blood line and culture". Which is kind of funny because they all moved to Australia, but what do I know.
Long story short, It's been four years and I've never dated again🥲
Wow, racist AND sexist. I am so sorry that happened to you. I understand the cultural impact that had on the guy, but I kind of wish he stuck with his heart. These kinds of things are so upsetting to hear.
@@kriztincruz6012 Thank you! I never understood this kind of prejudice. But hey, at least I got out of it with one more foreign language and can cook amazing dishes for myself now :)
They're trash people. I'm sorry you went through that.
His parents are just trash. I know this sucked but you dodged a huge bullet for yourself. There is no pleasing people like them. Even if he married a Korean girl, they'll have something else to say about her.
At least you missed a bullet, they would have been the inlaws from hell if you married him and your children might not even be spared from their prejudice. Some people just have this mentality of being "superior" to other races and in Asian households family is super important. Strong family bonds is part of the culture. Sad to hear about this though, I hope you moved on find a better person soon. You deserve better. ❤
I’m a white Australian woman and married to a Korean man living in Australia with one daughter. I have a wonderful relationship with my mother in law. She doesn’t speak much English and I only speak a bit of Korean. We speak by KakaoTalk and I send her pictures of our family and send her updates on our lives. This was her last message to me.
Kobi I'm always happy that you're my daughter-in-law Even though you're so far away, I always miss you deep in my heart I brag about your polite, pretty and kind heart to the people around me. Thank you because you're my daughter-in-law
oh so beautiful 😭
Oh…. So sweet!!!
Instant tears! You are so fortunate.
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@@LOLA_LOVELESSI’m not crying😢 you’re crying!! 😂❤ that was beautiful. I teared up too.
That couple is very open minded, the husband even said he "doesn't care what race they are because we're all humans" and the fact that I heard that coming from a Korean where I hear all these horrible things about how they treat other races makes my heart warm. It goes to show that it's best to judge places and people based on your experience and not from influencers and travel vloggers.
Anything online you have to watch w a lots grain of salt due to click baiting and sensationalizing to make story. No different than msm in America
Korea is not more racist than any place to be honest. I traveled so many places and you can never completely get rid of stupid racists, but it’s honestly not as bad as people paint it, it just takes different forms and it may seem worse at times or better at times. There are always racists, but there are always racists everywhere else as well.
@@presidenthwasa5505this is true but it can vary.
Koreans are generally friendly. I'm a black man who's lived here for over 4 years
at least, non of Koreans hurt or bully you physically because of your skin colour or race
racism in Korea is all about prejudice by the western media and ignorance about other cultures
but racism in other countries like Europe, America and Oceania are about ethnic hatred, violence and bullying, and even more serious things, related to your life
I love the awareness of the first lady, who openly admitted that she is having a conflict with her old way of thinking. Her husband's response was also very good. A lot of these narrow-minded people probably are a bit "scared" of what's unfamiliar. These people are at least demonstrating their own awareness. However, I think the woman who said she will disown her son for loving the "wrong" woman is quite intolerant.
Old Koreans will soon get used to more foreigners marrying Korean citizens in their country in the next few years. Their birthrate is among the lowest in the world. Many industries will be in need of foreign workers. An example right now is their shipbuilding industry. I read somewhere 3000 foreign workers will soon be hired. There is also a suggestion that Korea may accept foreign domestic workers like in SG and HK so women can have a career, possibly have more babies and not be worried on who will take care of their kids at home. Facilities for the aged have increased while many pediatric clinics have closed. Therefore foreign caregivers may also be needed in the future. So interracial marriages with Koreans will be a big possibility.
She isn't intolerant, she is racist. Let's learn to say things as they are.
@@hanabiss She even said to maintain the blood line 😂
But the husband and wife were not narrow minded, the husband especially.
@marissaancheta4080 All great points. Another is the fact that South Korea is practically an island and imports a LOT of things that aren't viable to produce in-house. They NEED foreign support. Therefore, it is my opinion that they should learn to be a little more tolerant of foreigners. Otherwise it looks like: foreign money is acceptable, but not foreign people 😕
Growing up biracial, I experienced this kind of rejection from both sides of my family because they "wanted to keep the bloodline pure". They were racist against each other and towards me. I grew up being called mixed breed and mutt. I was accused of favoring one race over the other and bullied for not completely fitting in with one or the other. I was excluded from family trips; one side of my family took all of the cousins on a trip to Disneyland and did not include me or my sister because we were mixed. People who reject interracial relationships think they’re preserving their culture, but all they're doing is causing pain. I didn't deserve that treatment, and it was always painfully obvious growing up that I wasn't accepted. It wasn't just my family. It was classmates, teachers, random people in public, etc. I still get made fun of for being mixed to this day, and it sucks. Please try to be kind and open-minded.
I’m sorry for you to have gone through these experiences but one thing I can tell you is that you’re perfect just the way you are and there is nothing wrong with you if anything it is absolutely their loss 😊
it's crazy to me that there are still countries in which people are prejudiced against interracial marriages/mixed children as if genetic diversity wasn't literally awesome. i'm so sorry you had to go through all that. just know that there's nothing inherently wrong about being mixed and in some other countries people wouldn't even think about discriminating against you for that.
i’m really sorry they made you feel like that. i hope you’ve learned to see the beauty in being of two cultures despite their treatment, it’s hard to see the value in yourself sometimes when you’re made to feel less than as a child.
I'm so sad and sorry that you went through this. You are beautiful please stay strong and dont think otherwise 🤗
Omg this is traumatic
Even been rejected by families 😢😢
My dear,it’s not your fault that you’re mix
Don’t let anyone make you look down on yourself,
You’re the true definition and evidence of LOVE ❤️
Love has no colour..
I can never imagine disowning my own child all because of who they marry. That is insane to me
Right? That lady is insane... And then saying that the interviewer "mislead her".. wtf?!
@@aventpianohaha agree with you both. It is sad you could disown own kid that had in your belly for 9 monthsp plua 18 years of watching them grow to be adults. Life is too short to hate especially your own flesh and blood. You can get rid of the spouse but your child is part of you. It is why never tatoo of lovers name on you.
disowning them is crazy😂
i mean if the person was a criminal or something like that it would be understandable but yeah lol
It sounds like a manipulation tactic, so many of those sorts of "parents" do that after brainwashing their child their whole life about how important they are. So then when they reject the child they will break up the relationship out of guilt and the parents win.
The happiness of the child means nothing to them. Even a korean bride will not be treated great either, that's not how those kinds of parents are.
As a Korean, I can totally relate. Yes, some Korean parents do insult and disown their children and their partners because they are going out with a foreigner. Some think it ruins the culture or bloodline. Others think that it’s careless of them to marry someone far from where they lived. However they would do anything for their children to study abroad. It is quite ironic to see parts of Korea be so inflexible and open-minded at the same time.
I would never marry a Korean woman because what you didn't mention was that you also need to get involved with the entire family not only that the mother would always speak behind my back with her daughter against me and no matter what I'm wrong and I'm going to be the victim in my opinion the Korean culture is one of the worst cultures in the world
I think that Korean only respect white and look down on others, hence they want to study abroad. But at home the sort of "white" who come isn't always as premium as the one in white countries. All Asian countries are highly xenophobic though when compared to Western (white) ones.
I'm in the unfortunate reality of having future in-laws who hate the idea of their son marrying me. His mother told me to my face that we should break up. And both his parents have threatened to end their relationship with him. It's really sad and painful to go through rejection just because I'm not Korean. I really admire the older man who is so open to international marriage -- I got teary imagining how nice it would be if my fiance's parents reacted that way :')
that’s very painful, i hope for both your sakes they can change their mind 💗 changing takes time, so don’t lose hope.
Don't give up, hearts and minds do change👍🏾👍🏾
I am so sorry, sending you strength ❤
I pray to God sincerely that everything goes best for u both from now & u both live happily always😊😊
please, for you and your partners long term health just break up with him. You are going to be miserable for the rest of your married life and it will be a constant fight your whole life. It is not worth it. I understand that you may really love him but eventually he might give in as well or start resenting you for destroying his relationship with his parents. What happens when u get pregnant and have no support for you? The grandparents are going to use your kid against you and try to turn them on u.
I am a foreigner to Korea from Australia and my two sons married a French girl and a Chilean born Canadian rared. We are now enjoying a mixed family with grandchildren who are bilingual. It’s whatever that makes your child happy. Not wrong but different
What do you mean mixed? Your grand children are white both genetically and culturally. French and chileans are white..
@@veezhang4678could be of french nationality and of different ethnicity 🤷🏾♀️
But this is korea not France or Australia 😅
@@chemophile14 Barbara is just sharing her story come on now guys 🥹
@@catchupwithpheright, just let Barbara live😭
"It's just the old way of thinking" the new excuse for being prejudiced
She didn't need to apologize. Like it or love it, It's her views on dating.
Seeing the couple with the older man who is 100% open to it and the older woman who isn't completely about it but is open to it if they're truly in love is amazing. They're miles ahead of the general and usual opinion which is often displayed even outside of this video
They’re actually representative of many Korean parents these days.
@@jiminswriter4209yeah it’s just that the older generation still have those ideas in mind because of the hardships since back then. Life was pretty hard and Korea only recently started thriving and back then there were very strong ideas of connection and family which is representative through the language. But things should start changing
My husband is Korean and let me tell you I am sooooo lucky and blessed that his parents and entire family, including his grandmother accepted me with open arms. His mother calls me her daughter lol. But it does seem my in laws are definitely more open minded than most older generations here. I'm lucky to have a warm and accepting family.
Yes same here! 🥰
You’re white huh?
You are a very lucky person, I hope the best for your relationship in the future ❤
@@PremierCCGuyMMXVI aw thank you so much ♡ very kind of you
I bet your sons/daughters will be so handsome and pretty gosh I want Korean skin so pretty huhuhuhu and smooth to look
My husband is Korean, I’ve lived in Korea for 7 years and can speak Korean fluently. When my husband first told his family about me his mum said ‘why can’t you just live a normal life’ 😅 thankfully once they met me and realised that since I can speak Korean and have lived here for so long and thus know the culture they accepted me with open arms. But my opinion is that if I couldn’t speak Korean and hadn’t assimilated into Korean culture then they most likely would have been against our relationship. It’s unfortunate but true 😕
You and your children will never be considered Korean by Koreans
How did you get to live there 😢? Guide plz ❤
Mixed families is fantastic, getting to know everyone's different culture is amazing! Love everyone and enjoy the fun times.
@@europeforeuropeans14you are
@@europeforeuropeans14you’re the only one that’s crying 😂
Nah
Nope!
the marriage grandparents were so cute, their kids are lucky to have them
I think they know how hard the marriage is.
Marriage requires alot of work.
Living with a person from same culture without language barrier is hard enough.
Not to mention marring a foreigner brings another level of difficulties to marriage.
As a parent, who wants to see her own kid facing all that??
What the old people are not aware is the ppl from western culture can't accept how much their spouse' parents get involved in marriage when they get married.
I don't know anybody in the states calling her mother in law out of obligation. But that is pretty common in korea... without understanding each other's culture marriage will be definitely tough.
As a foreigner and my husband is Chinese, some of these answers make me very sad. I know what it's like to experience rejection from his parents just because I'm a different race. They rejected me before they even met me, they spent almost 2 years trying to convince him that we wouldn't last, and giving him reasons why he should brake up with me. For 2 years he was too afraid to even tell his father that he had a girlfriend. While on the other hand my parents accepted him with open arms and treated him as their own child even before we got married. The only reason I feel we were able to win his parents over is when I received a very high academic award. He used this to convince his parents that I could have gone anywhere but still chose to stay with him and that I was good enough for a daughter-in-law. They treat me very nicely now, like I am their child, but.... for me... I will never forget those two years.
@@CoolNumber1 😂 do you honestly think that it's easier for foreigners? I literally can't even defend myself agains the slander when they say that western girls have loose morals, are unfaithful, and will never understand Chinese culture. Even though I have done my very best to try to understand Chinese culture and to adopt their thinking, and though my Mandarin is not fluent, I'm improving every day. Though I am from a central EU country my husband never once tried to learn about my culture or language, but I try with his every day. Because my parents already love him, he doesn't have to try, but for his parents I'm always an outsider. During those two years, I wasn't even a person to them, as if I was not someone else's child. Just a grose obstacle for their child to overcome. They honestly thought I was brainwashing/seducing him, even though I waited for marriage with their son and never once was with another guy before then (more than most Chinese girls would do, I believe). But when they say disgusting things about me, I can only smile and nod because I can't logically defend myself. And you honestly think that them expecting you to have money is somehow worse? I had to win a national scholarship and decline to go to Stanford AND MIT before I was good enough for them. I understand having high standards for your child's partner, but you can't convince me that foreigners have it easier than native Chinese.
@@CoolNumber1 I never once said I hate my in-laws or that they are evil. No matter how they act towards me before, they are nice enough to me right now. However, I don't see how 'strictness' in a culture translates to : "it's okay to be racist if I feel like it...". That's some mental gymnastics.
@@CoolNumber1 ???????do you not see that those two things are dangerously close to the same thing? Some of the worst atrocities in history were performed under the guise of "pure bloodlines". Preserving bloodlines implies that the outsider would somehow 'dirty' their bloodline... though the same blood flows through all of us. If they can't see that... then I can't but see it for what it is.
@coolnumber1 preserving bloodline? Since when did a bunch of royal families start popping up? The line of thinking can easily be used to encourage other forms of segregation. Also Asian cultures has a lot of victim blaming, misogyny (including internalized misogyny) , sexism and bashing feminism which is one of the big factors for why the birth rates are tanking in the population. Crimes of r8pe, harassment and ass8ults are less likely to be reported or treated with seriousness in general but even more of this occurs in countries that are more patriarchal and conservative particularly among the older generations. I’ll never forget about the foreign woman who was being dragged to a love hotel in Japan by a strange man and people ignored her screaming and trying to get away. A cop came over, believed the lie the man told and ignored the victim because in some Asian people’s minds a foreigner is more “open minded”. That’s one of the big red flag phrases when traveling because it’s likely the person isn’t interested in the foreigner beyond a fetish indulgence or “testing a fantasy out without suppose consequences before choosing a woman of their county/race”.
@@itazuranakisu That's asian culture, build by both asian men and asian women. So don't act like it's the men fault. If you truly want the men to change, why dont every asian mothers raised their son to be the men they want them to be? Most asian mothers are so strict and controlling, tiger mom, thus their sons learn from their behavior. Just a bunch excuses. Asian sons behavior are mostly learn from their mothers because asian father are mostly working hard to provide the family and have no time to stay at home. Heck, even asian mothers prefer to have a son over a daugther, so shouldn't be asian women to be blame too? What a hypocrite. I remember my mom and her friends also prefer to have a son over a daughther. Lame, even you women back stabbed each other yet all you do is blame the men. Hypocrite. As for fetish, a lot of girl have fetish for korean guys too, but once again, your gonna blame korean men again. Hypocrite. Everything is men's fault, very cool. Not happy? Raised your son to be the man u want him to be then. If every mothers do that, you would solve the issue one generation. Instead of doing that, Asian mothers are strict and controlling, abuse their sons daily. Trust me, my asian mother would beat like no tommorow, while my dad was more chill, yet I never blame women despite my mom's behavior. Go raised your son to be the man you want him to be, and stop complainning. If you are a tiger mom, good luck, your son gonna mistreat women when he grow up and it will be you women fault.
My son is Australian and married a Korean woman 7 yrs ago. They now have a daughter and she is so precious. As her grandmother I have been learning Korean for about 2 yrs now and hope to be able to converse to my grand daughter in Korean as well as English. They live in Australia but often go back to visit family in Korea.
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You are the best halmoni to study Korean! I wish my grandma did that. My American grandmother treated my mom like trash for 40 years until her passing. My mother did not go to her funeral. And I do not blame her. I’m glad you are not racist like my grandmother was. My grandmother never mistreated me, and my mother never spoke ill of her. But I could tell growing up and when I became an adult I confronted my grandmother on her mistreatment of my mom. My American grandfather accepted my mom with open arms. So I’m glad at least she got to have a real father in law who treated her like a daughter
A mixed person will face negativity in both countries.
I liked that the interviewees were willing to give an honest opinion, even if it was an unpopular view. It's all good learning. Appreciate the insightful video. 감사합니다 🙏
My partner comes from a very strict traditional Chinese family who were definitely not open minded. The first year his dad didn't accept me and thought i was just a phase, but something bad happen to my partner in our 2nd year together. When his dad saw i stuck with his son through his hardship he accepted me and took our relationship seriously. When i met his mom for the first time she welcomed me with open arms and was very accepting and to this day her and myself get along well even with a language barrier. His other family members have also accepted me.
So happy for u!
Yea at this point there should be no language barrier between you. For god sake learn Chinese! I will never understand why Americans(judging by your lack of learning a different language) do this. It’s insanity
Im soo happy it worked out in the end for you ❤
So happy for you 💕
I would marry a Chinese and not a Korean.
I am an American and my Boyfriend is Korean, I just visited this past June after 6 years long distance (my first time in korea)! It was such a beautiful time but I was so nervous leading up to meeting his parents. Meeting parents is always a big deal but I was so unsure of how they would react to me as a foreigner. However, they were so sweet and excited to meet! They took my boyfriend and I out to eat and made me feel so comfortable although we had a language barrier. My boyfriend was a trooper and translated most of our conversations for us (I'm studying more korean to speak better with them!). At the end my boyfriends mother said I am welcome in their home anytime and that I should come back soon (in winter time)! I am so grateful for the experience they gave me in korea! And am looking forward to visiting again. I am very grateful they accepted me as I fully understand the older generation in korea are not accustomed to foreigners especiallg having their child dating a foreigner.
Side note, there is a little cat cafe behind where this interview happened (above the Salad place). My boyfriend and I went there and it's a cute little place + the owner is so sweet! ❤🐈
You're also white lol, that helps. If you aren't then sorry for assuming but the only foreigners Koreans seem to universally accept are white folks
6 years long distance.. wow, you guys are stronger than most
Good luck with it
I have been with my Korean partner for 19 years. I was lucky that her family have been very welcoming. we have 2 kids now and are happily married. it can work well. I think showing interest in the culture, in particular some of the wonderful food, helps a lot. All the best.
@_CL Thank you! At times it was definitely not easy
One of the (many) things that bother me about these arguments against intermarriage is the idea that "bloodlines" or culture are fixed things that have existed since time immemorial. Like, the gentleman who said his ancestors would be opposed to it. Do you think every ancestor you've ever had has been ethnically Korean? It's the fact that populations have mingled over time that led to an ethnically Korean group, or ethnically Arab, Welsh, or whatever other current group you can think of. They didn't just spring up out of the ground... That's the beauty of our world. Yeah, it's sad when some things are lost, but our constant comingling is what makes us a collective humanity, and we produce some truly beautiful new things!
bs. It's not beauty, it's the seed of conflict.
@@tomaip Nothing is a "seed of conflict" unless people choose to make it one. Good day, sir.
@@noemiea.2652diversity causes conflict. Europe is finally waking up to that with all the muslim grooming gangs and terrorist attacks going on.
@@tomaipEh, that's outdated. It's conflict for those that want to make it conflict. I subscribe to a different thinking, let people follow their attraction for those they really love and those that make us happy.
I've been told I'm a racist in my NY town I grew up in, simply because I don't feel any attraction to black girls, however I do like light skinned black girls and mixed Black/white girls. I like Asian and Hispanic, I like Latina as well. I don't really have a type when it comes to body, but I do feel more attracted to fit and curvy women.
They answered honestly….loving this.
I can see wanting to preserve your culture, your language and your traditions. I understand families who want someone they can communicate or relate with, someone not too different from them.
What I don't understand is the lady who says she wants to continue her bloodline but says she would completely cut her unique son from her life simply for choosing a foreigner. She would throw away her son in a heart beat. That I will never understand. The only way I could potentially see myself cut or denigrate my son this way would be if he turned out to be a serial child molester, a serial killer or something extremely serious.
this is me, like that is your child. if your love for your child isn’t unconditional why did you even have them?
Toxic parenting style where when your child doesn’t follow orders and you can’t control them you threaten abandonment. Fairly common unfortunately.
This is the type of parents that deserve to be abandoned.
so if your son wasn't a "serial" something, a one time offense would be okay for you?
@@_CL i dont think you understand the weight of being someones parent. Cutting contact with your child is the hardest decision a parent can make. Thats your blood, you raised that child, your life is about taking care of them. Its not easy even if they make a one time offense. Of course its disappointing but its just not that easy idk the bond a mother has with her child is just unbreakable (if its healthy of course)
the gaslighting levels when the lady told you it was your fault for not manipulating the interview lmfao 😭 the fact that she has only one son and is still willing to cut ties with him or hurt him deeply because of her *opinion* on "preserving the bloodline" a.k.a just racist mentality against south east asians is craaaaazy. and before someone mentions her age, i do not care. you don't get a free pass to never improving and treating other humans badly for being old.
shoutout to the old man in sunglasses though, coolest person i've seen today
As soon as she said that her son is working in Southeast asia, I already knew... I bet it would have been different if her son's gf is white/European/american.
Period
@@noyu5171 just bc you personally don't know a functional diverse society doesn't mean they don't exist. stop disguising prejudice as facts, especially when you're not quoting actual peer-reviewed research papers. it's the 21st century, sociology and biology are actual field of studies, you need to rely on scientific method for objectivity, especially when your personal experience is monolith. and naming Japan as an example is exceptionally tactless considering their role in WW2.
and if the lady's opinion was formed by prejudice, it is backed by her prejudiced reasoning, not your unsupported facts.
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Its to be expected its not racist imo since alot of foreign women these days want to marry a korean man bc of the media and not the culture they say they will learn but it won’t be the same as an actual korean woman.
This has been very interesting. Thank you for conducting the interview.
I like this guy, first time watching one of his vids, and it was great! You have a wonderful attitude, and ask the questions in a normal honest way...so I subscribed! Good job :)
I think those people using age as an excuse for the way they think, it’s just that, an excuse. In my family we are 7 siblings, 3 of us married “foreigners “ who did not speak our language, yet my parents were very accepting and kind. The lady who spoke about keeping the “bloodline” pure really smacks of racism. If a white person says that we’ll all be up in arms about it.
I just find it amazing that in this day and age people are still talking about it. There’s such a big disconnect between older and younger generations in Korea, it seems. I mean some of those people are my age (I’m 65) and even my parents (mum 95 dad deceased) are/were more open minded than some of those people, who seem to be living in the 19th century and not the 21st.
You have quite an open minded family. My family here in Ireland are not open minded at all. I am in my early 30’s and when i was growing up we were told in no u certain terms that you “don’t come home with a black or a traveller” ( a traveller is what we call a type of Irish gypsy living here). How awful is that? The bias still exists here even though people will never admit it openly because no one wants to be accused of racism. It’s something that really needs to die out sooner rather than later.
@@msmoco5898that mindset is even in Ireland?!😥
I agree with you. She gave a petty excuse the stay closed minded and xenophobic.
@@MrTobi013Plenty of European countries actually still have remnants of racism. People just don’t openly admit it though.
"If a white person" bro wtf? So we can't think our pwn now? Always trying to be a victim that's stupid and there's racist on every race bro it's not new, nobody is open minded as ur family bro keep that for u
I went to Korea last Christmas to stay with my boyfriend’s family for one month. I felt so comfortable and welcome, despite the language barrier. I’m so happy to be marrying into an accepting family.
good for you. korean families are great once you are part of them. family is very important in korean society.
I really enjoyed watching this! Great interview 😊
This is super interesting! I would lobe to visit Korea and am subscribing to your channel! 💜
I love the concept of interviewing the elders. please add more concepts about them. Topic:
1. What are the qualities they are looking for before they approve of marrying?
2. Tips how we can get along with Korean parents or elders.
3. more questions please
I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband is an only child from Korea, I'm Mexican-American. My in-laws were welcoming from the start. I was honestly shocked at first. I know elementary Korean and we still get along well. We'll be celebrating our 4 yr anniversary next week ❤
Bless you guys❤may you have many happy and healthy years together!
Congratulations 🎉
AMLF, nice...
I hope you guys live a long happy marriage together 🫶🏼
that’s so cute! congrats!
ty for the disclaimer!
Hello Shy Guy!! Thank you for your program,it is amazing. Trying to find great content isn't always easy but your style comes across globally,and that is what makes you a great interviewer. AND, you are most definitely very handsome with the added bonus of GREAT CHARACTER WHO HAS A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT!!! CANT GET NO BETTER THAN THAT!!! ❤
Fantastic interviews and I like how comfortable/ relaxed you are whilst asking those questions. I love how the parents acknowledged life then and now, how they would honestly feel about their child(ren) marrying foreigners BUT also admitting or recognising their kids’ feelings and choices at the end of it all… ❤
Plaid Ahjusshi is gonna bring world peace and reunification I can just feel it in my bones 🙏
Haha "Plaid Ahjusshi", I love this comment so much!😁
I have a feeling he's a very positive person who embraces every good moment in life.
oh my gosh i laughed so hard at this comment, thanks for that!
🤣 most chilled father ever seen. Probably traveled unlike the lady with black shirt with the red stripe. When don't travel out of the country you don't experience new things.
Or he is just naive.
Ppl say that he is open minded but the reality is marriage requires alot of work. Living with a person from same culture without language barrier is hard enough. Marring a foreign is total dynamic to life on top of all that.
그 할아버지는 너무 멋져요. 반응은 굉장했어요! Lol. It's never a loss for you if the person you're with wants to break up because he/she doesn't want to go against their parents' wishes. A person who truly loves you and want to be with you would take risks.
Thoroughly enjoyed this interview. I was surprised by some of their point of view, but somethings you just can't overcome......" the old way of thinking" (such an excuse in my honest opinion) All in all your topic for this segment- thank you!!
The thing that I like the most in this video is how some of them are honest that they don’t like their kids dating foreigners but they also admit it’s “an old way of thinking” or an “outdated idea” 😅
I don't need a shower to listen to the elders. They generally stated hey I know it's old, dated thinking, but hey, I'm old and dated, it's how I think.
The elder father of the third interviewed family reminded his son he had dated a woman from Macau & he accepted that. A woman from Macau would be Chinese, maybe Portuguese & Chinese, so differences would probably be linguistic and cultural more than racial.
I do need a shower reading some of these responses about "superior genetics". I'm sure if someone said Europeans or white people have "superior genetics", they'd be having a fit. Such individuals have pictures in a dictionary when you look up hypocrisy.
My ex boyfriend of 6 years was Korean and his parents accepted me to a certain extent, I got along with them very well. But they thought having children mixed with black (I’m half) would be too hard in Korea. So he suggested that we raise a child in Europe and they said they didn’t want to be separated from him. It was a shame because my parents fully accepted him (my family are two different races anyway). I definitely don’t blame him for the situation but it was unfortunate. I wasn’t strong enough to keep it going after that.
This is so sad😢
So did you end the relationship or did he?
@@amorelockster1023 I did. He wanted to continue and thought his parents would change their mind if we got engaged, but I didn't see it as realistic. We're still friends but what's done is done I guess!
Oh my god..... really?? 당신은 한국에서 살아보셨습니까? 한국에서 정말 흑인에 대한 인종차별이 있었나요? 그것은 부모님이 당신한테 직접적으로 아이에 대한 말을 했습니까? 헤어지고싶어하는 남자친구의 변명 아니에요? 나는 충격을 받았다.... 그리고 만약 그것이 사실이라면 진심으로 미안하다 그것은 100% 인종차별이다
@@QWER-wv5kn 네 저는 한국에서 2년을 살았고 우리는 4년 동안 LDR (장거리 연애)를 했어여ㅠㅠ
한국에선 아줌마, 아저씨한테도 '예쁘다'라고 불렸고 한국에서 잘 지냈어요. 전 뚱뚱하지 않지만 일부 뚱뚱한 흑인들이 나쁜 경험을 했다고 들었어여. Maybe that's why I had a good experience! I found Korean people to be very kind generally.
전 남자친구는 부모님께 결혼에 대해 진지하게 이야기해보려 했지만, 부모님께선 전 남친에게 혼혈아는 키우기 힘들 거라고 은밀히 말씀하셨어요. 제 전 남친는 부모님께서 우리의 연애를 받아주셨기 때문에 결국 결혼도 받아주실 거라고 했지만 저는 그들이 싸우는 건 원하지 않았기 때문에 그와 헤어졌어요... 저는 전 남친가 저와 그의 부모님 중 하나를 선택해야 하는 상황을 원하지 않았어요. 6년동안 이쁘게 사귀어서 나쁜 감정은 없었어요
I love the intro specially the K utubers part, you are rocking it and I love it , Hilarious 😆😆😆😆😆❤❤❤❤
I like your vlog and ideas ❤
The discussion at the end of the video was 🥺🥺 Don't worry about finances! Being in a relationship is about appreciating the other for who they are. If your characters match and you make a great team together it's all that matters. Through truthfulness, compassion, and forbearance you will be able to go through everything together ^^
LOL, love alone doesn't feed you. Wake up!
@@jinlee2617 🤭Money and material possessions won’t be there for you when you need someone. Many young people end up depressed and insecure because of the pressure of achieving the level of status and wealth required by modern society. If finances are a decisive factor in being with someone, very probably that that will lead to lack of harmony in the relationship. Different ways of thinking will lead one on a different path of life, and everyone can live their lives however they think it’s right.
@@anamadalinacraciun346You cannot pay bills and taxes with love. Interracial relationships also boast lower wealth on average than their intra-racial counterparts. Finances matter a lot, and are the chief reason for divorce in most developed countries around the world.
This is yet more proof that people in interracial relationships are just selfish, and they are not serious about life; preferring to act on short term lust and fetishization as compared to the strong foundation and self esteem that is created for children from same race relationships. As Jesus said in the Bible, in Matthew 7:24-27. A house made on a foundation of sand shall surely fall, but a house built on a foundation of stone will not.
@@noyu5171 The thing is I never said anything about love, I said that "if your characters match and you make a great team together," which is more rational than love in my understanding... I don't think that's the case for interracial relationships only. If you get married for selfish notions and lust, when hardships arise (such as financial hardships) most probably that it will end up in divorce.
@@anamadalinacraciun346 How is character and teamwork measured exactly?
Those older folks you interviewed are so cute. They answered in transparency and told us what they really feel. I like that.
I wish them all the best. And thanks for interviewing those cute parents.
I have liked and be your new subscriber.
Thank you.
“Old way of thinking” is no excuse to remain ignorant
What a great video. I can understand the elders feeling uneasy with the thought their children might marry a foreigner. They grew up in a culture that believes this. But this video is also encouraging because it seems that the elders understand that the world is changing and at the end we are all human and love wins.
You're doing a great job. 잘 했어요 👏👏💜💜
Korea has been colonized many times, and many countries have tried to wipe out Korean culture. Many elders speak better Japanese because the colonial regime didn't even allow Koreans to speak the Korean language, not to mention the complete decimation of other cultural practices. As a result, Koreans value the integrity of their culture.
@@bae-bc4vsyea. All countries like that tho. Everyone I met values their countries.
It’s so nice to listen and hear these interviews from people who are being as honest as they possibly can be. To the grandmother that said absolutely not ….. and that it doesn’t come from malicious intent, but from an ingrained societal norm, makes me feel somewhat better about the objection. Although I don’t agree with her method of disowning her son, I think that part is sad, but I can understand a little more about where older people are coming from mentally so thank you for the video.
This is really interesting. Thanks for that. Yes, sometimes older people live in older traditions. You can find this opinions all over the world, even in my home, Germany. But fortenately not often anymore. Nice Job 🙂
Super Cool 😎 all his opinions!!! Totally love every single one❤ explaining what they're really thinking❤ totally love them.. and about the end of this video... yeah!.. I think he's handsome and like him too 👏🏻♥️☺️
This interview was soo fun to watch. Elders get rarely interviewed regarding this topic and their opinions are soo interesting.
I understand where they are coming from because in a way my culture also was pretty much like this back in the 50s. Marrying a foreigner was not seeing well, still today many elders think like this and it has to do with their keeping and passing on their legacy and protecting their culture. Marrying a foreigner is not easy as incorporating to another person's culture is difficult.
Thank you for making this segment!!!! 🙏🙏🙏
First time I watch a video here ,really enjoy it. I’m in a interracial marriage German - Black American, my daughter is in a interracial marriage , so my grandkids all mixed in 4 different culture , I didn’t really care who she married so long he treat her right and is happy -I’m happy
To the woman who was against her son marrying a foreigner…..you have nothing to apologize for. As an American, I am not insulted by how you feel about this topic. You are entitled to your opinion just like everyone else and I can understand your point of view. Take care and be well ❤
You’re absolutely correct. Her family, their lives but alot of triggered American commenters calling her racist n want to cancel her
Wow, this video is incredibly informative and well-researched! I learned so much.
It's the best video I've ever watched, because the elder are less likely to be interviewed (and even shot). Besides, I've learned different opinions on quite delicate topic, as parents want their child(ren) to be happy, and wish them all the best, even if they don't accept initially the child's choice
The two uncles chilling and being the wingman for the interviewer is so random and I love it 😅👍
Oh no! People have preferences!
Good job to the interviewer. I think he did a good job with his questions and how he was able to help people feel comfortable so that they could share their honest feelings. I appreciate honesty.
Well done for speaking openly with the elders! Very interesting to hear the differing views and the realisation of the changed world we inhabit. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Omg!! Two of the people in this video are diplomats I've worked with before! Nice surprise to see them living healthily (mentally and physically) in retirement.
Wow! Small world
I like this interview and appreciate the honesty. The lady I respect her opinion but truly love should be all that matters not race. That gentleman was so nice and is so open minded, that’s what the world needs.
I am married to a Korean man (he is such a good husband i love him)first i was scared because he is the oldest in the family and I was told that the oldest are allowed to just marry a korean woman ,but his parents are the most lovely people they was like it's his choice . I was sooo happy now i visit them and we always have this exciting conversation about my culture and their culture, also they all are helping me learn Korean. I for real love them so so much♡♡
I am so thankful my korean parents in-law (60+yo) love me that much. I know many international couples in Korea struggle to get approved by the Korean family and it breaks my heart. Even my husband's grandma who is 91yo cherish me. They're my family in Korea, where I don't have mine and I'm so happy I can share wonderful moments with them.
As always, it's a great video ! I understand both way of thinking !
I hope on day to visit korea ! I am learning Korean alone but it is not Really easy😂😅
No need to apologize for speaking your feelings , I love honesty , we are all humane and think differently , Saranghae 🎉 from San Antonio Texas USA 🇺🇸
Interesting video😊
Im glad they were honest with their answers. Very refreshing
Everyone has the right to their thinking and preferences. Respect for each other is very important. ❤
I mean I would be willing to learn Korean which I am currently doing. Also learning Korean culture is a must
For those still struggling with their foreign language study, Immersive translate is a great way . I suggest it since it has worked for me and helped me better my progress.
I’m currently having this problem with my Korean boyfriend. His parents didn’t care much when they heard we were dating. But as soon as he turned 30 they started telling him it was time to break up with me and get married. As if we were just dating for fun. Once my bf told his parents he was thinking of marrying me they were completely against it. We thought maybe they just needed to meet me and see what kind of person I was. But his mom told him if he met me she would tell me she’s not letting her son marry me. So I told him I don’t need to meet them as long as he’s okay. He says he is but I know it’s hard for him. We’re both family oriented so It’s stressful and sad. My boyfriend is going to come to America to meet my parents this year and they’re so excited to meet him..
Hope it works out for you, but you deserve in-laws who accept you especially if you plan on having children, it's messed up
@@_CLhonestly a majority of people have issues with their in-laws in varying degrees
@@taegan1831 wow humans have issues with other humans in varying degrees? no way
Your partner didn't know that ? He couldn't tell you that their parents won't let him to marry with you.?? He should have told you about their mentality
@@chemophile14 To his defense his parents sent him abroad to study English during that time they never minded when he dated foreigners. It’s not until we began getting serious and wanting to get married they have a problem.
The way you react to their answers is so funny😂😂😂
6:18 damnnn, you would end the relationship with your son just because he’d potentially marry a foreigner? 😔
Can you imagine, 20+ years of loving your child just to throw it away, then get sad because your kid doesn’t call you
I am from Romania,lot of love from here!❤
I think everyone would be skeptical in the idea of their kid marrying a foreigner because of their couture deferences but as long as they are good people and they love eachother everything should be ok.i think that's more important than everything else. It is their life and they should choose their other half.
It's good to know the thoughts of the elder from South Korea, makes me smile through out the video ✨
4:50 I could not help but be mesmerized by that very active camera whirling around and getting a good look at every face that passed by. Super dystopian vibes. Reminded me of Half Life 2.
Very interesting topic.
I think this is a question for most cultures…I am a New Zealand Maori and a lot of our elders preferred you to marry within our culture, firstly to ensure longevity within our bloodline (sadly there is no longer any full blooded Maori people living)and also our customs and traditions. This nowadays is no longer the case although there are still those old school thinkers. For me as long as my daughter is happy, loved and treated well that’s all that matters!
This is what some people don't understand, when there is too much mixing it becomes difficult to preserve the bloodline
When it's little it's their problem but when it becomes general it becomes problematic
Yes and for Koreans the idea of racial purity is becoming a big deal because their birthrates are already so low. Full blooded Native Americans and Maoris don’t really exist anymore and the same thing could happen to Korea with a generation or two.
@@microangels This is exactly what will happen unfortunately
Rare things are precious
@@microangels a lot of full blooded native Americans still exist all over the Americas though
You seemed so happy and animated in this video!
I married into the Korean culture and it was really tough. I think any intercultural marriage is difficult. All parties have to pledge to maintain an open mind.
7:30, not mama saying the interviewer tricked her 😂.
the first couple was so sweet 😭🫶🏻
🥰 this VDO made me smile until the end, the vibes is so good… it remind me how nice senior people in Korea willing to help me when I’m in trouble there even they can’t speak English. 👍🏼 love it!!
I had two Korean boyfriends (wasn't dating both at the same time of course). One was very open to marriage and his family were open too and they liked me while the one that came next did like me, but his family especially his grandma were against it ha ha. That shows how different individuals and families can be. There are many many kind Koreans indeed. I love and respect them
I freaking love the dude in the plaid shirt and glasses ❤❤
glad my korean parents arent narrow minded like this. i love sharing my culture with my fiance
It is interesting that you only collect opinions/thoughts of the older generation in Korea. Because the young generation and older generation has a huge mindset gap between them. You get very very different answers. Most interviews are with young Korean nowadays, so your videos show a different perspective which is nice. Even if the elderly have an "old way of thinking". It shows just how different the mindset of youngesters and elders is in Korea.
I understand their stance because many times you have conflicts due to the way you have been raise and what it was normal to do in your family. Add on top of that cultural differences and the language barriers especially with your inlaws and on top of that usually the children are less inclined to learn grandmother/ grandfather's language while them are much too old to learn anew language.
It is really a complicated situation.
3:56 grandpa is super kindd❤
The man with the plaid shirt is my favorite. He’s such a good person and with a good soul. I hope he’s having a great day. His wife is amazing too. The lady that said she would the relationship with her son is the worst.
Mixed cultures are the best I think ! Take the best from both and learn from each other. Make a better world to surpass old beliefs... and beautiful children always !! I love the lady that doesn't want it and excuses herself for it to the foreigners who watch. This is really so sweet of her and I respect her for staying true to her beliefs. This must also be possible. Respect everyone. In the end true love will conquer I hope. And good luck tot the interviewer in finding his true love. Indeed good looking and nice :)
I would say the opposite, it is very dangerous to mix two cultures even more if there is a difference between education
It's a risky bet
@@idontknow9357 no it is not dangerous as long as you communicate with your partner.But I understand why you say that it can be complicated when two totally different cultures mix. I'm a Carteron myself, I'm Belgian, Burundian and Icelandic and I could never get involved with a Muslim person, especially an Arab, because I find the cultures of these origins extreme and closed.
@@romyoliax6624 It will depend on your personality, communication is not always enough but Yeah that helps. (I mean for some it's easier to talk than others)
There are many more things to consider
it's especially at the level of children, as you are mixed maybe it's ok for you ? but for others (That I've known) there can be identity problems And others It can get complicated too if you add religion
(I had known a person who disparage or dislike the other culture Or a strange obsession )
People just have to be careful of the person with a weird fetish
Of course it is with time, some it works others not .
In addition to culture, it is also education that is different, I understand you
It's your preference and that's ok ,
I don't want to mix personally
@@idontknow9357 i have nothing against people that don’t want to mix . I understand them .
@@romyoliax6624 Thank you, I hope you meet someone very good (And also to pay attention to you)
Have a good day/Night !
I respect the elders views and honesty. It's rather refreshing 😂
Nobody wants to downgrade. Everybody wants to upgrade. Simple as that.
I'm glad that my fiancé's parents are so accepting. It makes our lives so much easier.
Since communication is key to anything, I would prefer if international couples learn eachother's languages before marrying and meeting the parents so there won't be any distance between the relatives and in laws, language does help a lot in making things smoother
Yes like Megan moon. She fit in so well to Korean society and her husbands family, even as a black American
They're all so sweet even the ones who are against it
I really appreciate this interview. I accept what these elders stated. I may not agree, but definitely hear them. Just keep in mind, the foreigner's parent(s) have their opinion as well. It's not 1 sided. 😊 Blessings!!
Woah, what a great video! I respect all of their answers but they also did not consider that the foreign part of the couple would fight for their relationship and try to convince the Korean parents. People will surely be moved by tears 😂