Its so bad how we limit ourselves In all that Katlego you are so timeless- real, authentic, unfiltered, uncatfished(and I'm all about each to their own) but its sooo refreshing to see someone comfortable with themselves enough to show up as consistently as themselves Looooove it
Here i am watching a JK video mara in the back of my head im like "she definitely callin me out" especially on the not liking people and overthinkin.😂😂😂😂 yho aus Katli this is a touch down video❤
I am currently recovering from overthinking, that lead to bad pattern thinking now my brain cells hurt from the junk of lies I fed myself now I am trying to save myself from the rat hole I threw myself in. Thank you for sharing and being authentic.
Yoh some your traits are mine too🤦♀️😩😢but when you said “ you need to cut it” eh eh ah ah you need to cut it✂️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣and unforgettable 🎶that’s what you areeeee🎵😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣I lost it Ooh Kat man🥹
It took me so long to actually realise that people do bad things intentionally. I also struggle with seeing the good in people and refusing to believe that they are capable of doing bad. You explained so well 🥹 Reading the book “What Happened to You?” helped me understand why. If you were raised in an environment where you saw mostly good “adults” your brain automatically associates adults with good. Your inner child sees people before you (in the present) sees them. I’m paraphrasing here and it’s not 100% the reason but it’s part of it
Oh the last topic, upset me so much….. but I’m trying to find the balance because I do care about people but that doesn’t mean everyone does….. wheee it was a heavy one indeed, love yoi Kat….. can’t wait for part 2💃🏽🫶🏼
Huge strength owning up and making yourself vulnerable in this manner! It’s a terrifying thing to do bcz we put ourselves in the line for judgement. Kudos to you!
Waaaal the courage it takes to introspect, accept and then get in front of the camera to talk about it, well done Kat this is not easy I salute you for sharing the real Kat with us, you didn't have to nice to meet you 😊😊❤❤
I overthink a lot, ene it's the main reason for most of my insecurities and unresolved conflicts, although it sometimes makes you one step ahead in preparing for things, it can just throw you completely off. The people pleasing yona I'm slowly outgrowing it, because I just experienced that I just wanna be the solution to everyone's problems and stresses when they actually don't even think about any of my issues, ene I would just hold resentment until I realized that it's my fault.
Dragging yourself with comical inserts is definitely JK style 😂😂 Jokes aside, my toxic trait is that I receive love from others at the level of the love I have for myself. I've lost connection with amazing people because I couldn't see their love for me beyond how I loved myself. So you can imagine it looks like I'm throwing their love back in their face because I struggle to believe that you can love me beyond my thoughts of me. 🙃 The other one that I learnt recently is that if you're my partner, I need you to think like me when giving advice or facing whatever situation. I found it almost offensive when my partner would give me advice according to his perspective. and he had a beautiful view on life, so sometimes his view was really effective. He would sometimes struggle to confidently voice his genuine opinion because of the "red pen" that I carried if he didn't think like me. what is scarier is 1.that I wasn't aware that I did this for a long time and 2. I'm passive aggressive sp my red pen wasn't in screaming and shouting but rather writing someone off after they've shared their thoughts with me. (yes I wanted to crawl under the earth because I felt horrible after finding out that I do that.) That's also how I learnt that you can help someone well without necessarily being in their shoes all the time, your own perspective can be as effective in certain situations. 🙃 in summary, therapy isn't for the faint hearted. I'm getting challenged every time I go there!😂We should actually have what therapy/life/ books has taught you and challenged you about yourself🤔
I'm an introverted Gemini and this is me..all me..I am very private, i'd rather visit my Psychologist than share my indabas with people😅. I even discipline myself but I also celebrate myself a lot.
I’m 10minutes into the video and I’m like Sis why you doing this to me🤭Ndim mos lo and I’m the first born too ,,,,,as we speak I have breakouts around my jawline because I had a crazy week then was just eating whatever 🙇🏽♀️
The last point is me. Baby I will forgive you but cut you off for sometime… FORGET why I was upset and for the life of me I’ll never remember and allow you into my space again. 😂😂😂😂 if I remember what you did, it was something that life threatening and traumatized me so forgetting is slightly difficult. If my life wasn’t at risk I don’t remember I just know that we had a fall out.
We have a few things in common. Luckily i have worked through it as well. And i have come to the conclusion after therapy and lived experience, that some of my toxic traits (perfectionism e.x.).are a by product of patriarchal system and other isms. Toxic traits doesn't make me toxic but unlearning and dismantling these systems makes it easier and its my responsibility. There are no toxic people just toxic systems 😮 not excusing myself just stating a more helpful prespective for myself.
🤭🤭🤭 yazi kuningi. The self-awareness is top tier though. It’s so tough there by introvert-ville 💀 When the social battery 🪫 depletes, kuba tense! Oh and no one can judge me more than I’ve judged myself lmfaooo! I think we are all toxic by these standards. Kunini ngithi me too. 😢
I am recovering ❤️🩹 from negative internal dialogue. I am able to critique myself and accept myself immediately. Overthinking as well. So many points you mentioned, I 💯 relate 😂.
Wow Katleho coming for me personally. Every single thing😭😭😭😭😭😭 hmmm but we keep putting in the healing work. But I’m learning that it comes with having a big heart…I often ask myself when does this big heart of mine actually serve me 😢 I’m learning to put up my boundaries.
Mogotsi next time please let me know beforehand gore we are going to expose ourselves 😂😂😂🙊. I relate 💯%. Except nna ke last born and an extrovert 😂😂😂. I am also an empath with self-sabotage traits. A perfectionist and a recovering people pleaser 🙈. Worst.... Iike you😂I am also in a mental health profession 😂😂😂. Sheba I am the family's emotional container 🙈. An optimistic of note😂😂😂. This video exposed all my inner secrets. Next time pls let me know in advance that we are getting naked. But the beauty is our vulnerability and honestly that's our super power. The world has space for people like us❤️. Love you loads and your content. Thanks for exposing us😂❤️. From one light worker to another.... Kganya and God bless 💞
overtjinking is me today I was crying over an argument which happened a month ago and meband that friend blocked eachother and for the fact that I cant fix it damn sis it has me on a choke hold mind you its not my fault 😂
Sis Kay i can say you are me am you, as am typing this am waiting for my mom to borrow me money cos i couldn't say no, don't like engaging in a group😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Its so bad how we limit ourselves In all that Katlego you are so timeless- real, authentic, unfiltered, uncatfished(and I'm all about each to their own) but its sooo refreshing to see someone comfortable with themselves enough to show up as consistently as themselves
Looooove it
You're not alone, I'm a recovering people pleaser and I always have to check myself, to see if I'm not compromising myself in helping the next person.
Here i am watching a JK video mara in the back of my head im like "she definitely callin me out" especially on the not liking people and overthinkin.😂😂😂😂 yho aus Katli this is a touch down video❤
Aowa guys.
Let's get Kat to 40K.🎉❤
I am currently recovering from overthinking, that lead to bad pattern thinking now my brain cells hurt from the junk of lies I fed myself now I am trying to save myself from the rat hole I threw myself in. Thank you for sharing and being authentic.
Well done girl ❤❤❤ keep working on you ❤
Yoh some your traits are mine too🤦♀️😩😢but when you said “ you need to cut it” eh eh ah ah you need to cut it✂️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣and unforgettable 🎶that’s what you areeeee🎵😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣I lost it Ooh Kat man🥹
😂😂😂😂😂
this is just me, everything you just shared is me😂😂😂through and through...... I feel exposed🤣
Here for the self drag😂😂❤️
Why are you me and why am I you???
Props for acknowledging and working on these traits.
Thank you!!
Are you me, am I on CZcams? Yoh, other than the saviour complex, you’ve described all my toxic traits
It’s like I am looking at a mirror. Thank you for sharing, the healing journey continues.
You are such a vibe 🤣🤣🤣🤣
It took me so long to actually realise that people do bad things intentionally. I also struggle with seeing the good in people and refusing to believe that they are capable of doing bad. You explained so well 🥹
Reading the book “What Happened to You?” helped me understand why. If you were raised in an environment where you saw mostly good “adults” your brain automatically associates adults with good. Your inner child sees people before you (in the present) sees them. I’m paraphrasing here and it’s not 100% the reason but it’s part of it
I started that book, but had to take a break from it. Triggering.
here for it 😀
Oh the last topic, upset me so much….. but I’m trying to find the balance because I do care about people but that doesn’t mean everyone does….. wheee it was a heavy one indeed, love yoi Kat….. can’t wait for part 2💃🏽🫶🏼
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Huge strength owning up and making yourself vulnerable in this manner! It’s a terrifying thing to do bcz we put ourselves in the line for judgement. Kudos to you!
Waaaal the courage it takes to introspect, accept and then get in front of the camera to talk about it, well done Kat this is not easy I salute you for sharing the real Kat with us, you didn't have to nice to meet you 😊😊❤❤
Thank you Portia!
Damn that liking people one sis, so real yet so difficult to explain😥.
Kat 🎉thank you ❤
Yho Katleho I’m going through the self sabotage phase as we speak 😢
5:31 Drag me! All of me. 😂 Personally I haven’t worked on it because of my other toxic trait :FEAR! lol. I hate it for myself.
Some of these traits are giving 1st born daughter... Yeyi!! Sitwele kanzima there. 😅
I overthink a lot, ene it's the main reason for most of my insecurities and unresolved conflicts, although it sometimes makes you one step ahead in preparing for things, it can just throw you completely off.
The people pleasing yona I'm slowly outgrowing it, because I just experienced that I just wanna be the solution to everyone's problems and stresses when they actually don't even think about any of my issues, ene I would just hold resentment until I realized that it's my fault.
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10 mins in and you dragged me💀💀
We love the Self Awareness ... Now we can't wait for you to expose the nation and their toxic traits ... 🙈
LOL!!! I did already and it was so lovely doing the dragging! LOL
Oh yes the people not liking is so me and mind you i talk alot but people overwhelm me uuuuu ee hle 😂
Dragging yourself with comical inserts is definitely JK style 😂😂
Jokes aside, my toxic trait is that I receive love from others at the level of the love I have for myself. I've lost connection with amazing people because I couldn't see their love for me beyond how I loved myself. So you can imagine it looks like I'm throwing their love back in their face because I struggle to believe that you can love me beyond my thoughts of me. 🙃
The other one that I learnt recently is that if you're my partner, I need you to think like me when giving advice or facing whatever situation. I found it almost offensive when my partner would give me advice according to his perspective. and he had a beautiful view on life, so sometimes his view was really effective. He would sometimes struggle to confidently voice his genuine opinion because of the "red pen" that I carried if he didn't think like me. what is scarier is 1.that I wasn't aware that I did this for a long time and 2. I'm passive aggressive sp my red pen wasn't in screaming and shouting but rather writing someone off after they've shared their thoughts with me. (yes I wanted to crawl under the earth because I felt horrible after finding out that I do that.) That's also how I learnt that you can help someone well without necessarily being in their shoes all the time, your own perspective can be as effective in certain situations. 🙃
in summary, therapy isn't for the faint hearted. I'm getting challenged every time I go there!😂We should actually have what therapy/life/ books has taught you and challenged you about yourself🤔
wow! love this comment, owning all of it!!
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That “choosing to see the best in people” chat hit me like it’s directed at me. 😢
Eish, it's hard.
For the love of JK ❤❤❤
Please never stop with the gifs you add on the editing 🤣🤣
I'm an introverted Gemini and this is me..all me..I am very private, i'd rather visit my Psychologist than share my indabas with people😅. I even discipline myself but I also celebrate myself a lot.
You are me, I am you . Its a Gemini thing !
Thanks for sharing!
I’m 10minutes into the video and I’m like Sis why you doing this to me🤭Ndim mos lo and I’m the first born too ,,,,,as we speak I have breakouts around my jawline because I had a crazy week then was just eating whatever 🙇🏽♀️
LOL, first borns share similar qualities I must say.
The last point is me. Baby I will forgive you but cut you off for sometime… FORGET why I was upset and for the life of me I’ll never remember and allow you into my space again. 😂😂😂😂 if I remember what you did, it was something that life threatening and traumatized me so forgetting is slightly difficult. If my life wasn’t at risk I don’t remember I just know that we had a fall out.
We have a few things in common. Luckily i have worked through it as well. And i have come to the conclusion after therapy and lived experience, that some of my toxic traits (perfectionism e.x.).are a by product of patriarchal system and other isms. Toxic traits doesn't make me toxic but unlearning and dismantling these systems makes it easier and its my responsibility. There are no toxic people just toxic systems 😮 not excusing myself just stating a more helpful prespective for myself.
oh absolutely! 💯
Why are you describing me Kat😂. I think this traits are more in us first born children 😢
Facts!
Hey Kat!! ❤
Love the content. As a young person who wants to get into the speaking industry, can you share some advice on how you started yours.
🤭🤭🤭 yazi kuningi. The self-awareness is top tier though. It’s so tough there by introvert-ville 💀
When the social battery 🪫 depletes, kuba tense!
Oh and no one can judge me more than I’ve judged myself lmfaooo!
I think we are all toxic by these standards. Kunini ngithi me too. 😢
Eish, we all share similar traits!
I am recovering ❤️🩹 from negative internal dialogue. I am able to critique myself and accept myself immediately.
Overthinking as well.
So many points you mentioned, I 💯 relate 😂.
Yey!!! It's so tough!
❤❤❤❤This topic wowwww...🎉🎉 😅😅
Kat ur too hard on yourself! Some of these are not toxic traits at all 😍 🤩.
Wow Katleho coming for me personally. Every single thing😭😭😭😭😭😭 hmmm but we keep putting in the healing work. But I’m learning that it comes with having a big heart…I often ask myself when does this big heart of mine actually serve me 😢 I’m learning to put up my boundaries.
LOL, askiesi!!!
The amount of catching up I need to do 😢 what is all ths consistency
Loved it
Here! ❤
Bathung katleho everything you said is me😭😭
LOL, askiesi!
Here for Masabatha😂💗
I am you and you are me😢😢😂😂😂 but i am getting better
Mogotsi next time please let me know beforehand gore we are going to expose ourselves 😂😂😂🙊. I relate 💯%. Except nna ke last born and an extrovert 😂😂😂. I am also an empath with self-sabotage traits. A perfectionist and a recovering people pleaser 🙈. Worst.... Iike you😂I am also in a mental health profession 😂😂😂. Sheba I am the family's emotional container 🙈. An optimistic of note😂😂😂. This video exposed all my inner secrets. Next time pls let me know in advance that we are getting naked. But the beauty is our vulnerability and honestly that's our super power. The world has space for people like us❤️. Love you loads and your content. Thanks for exposing us😂❤️. From one light worker to another.... Kganya and God bless 💞
LOL, sometimes we have to be honest with ourselves, helps with unlearning and healing
❤❤❤❤❤Loved it, can't wait for #KandidwithKat
overtjinking is me today I was crying over an argument which happened a month ago and meband that friend blocked eachother and for the fact that I cant fix it damn sis it has me on a choke hold mind you its not my fault 😂
Awwww, give yourself some grace. Unlearning is just as hard as learning sometimes
@@KatlehoMallela Word
6:19 I am the last born but yhiii people pleasing 😭 I have placed myself in seriously awkward situations for others 😢 angsafuni
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Blaming myself for peoples actions yoh ka skalla manyeo
eish....
Sis Kay i can say you are me am you, as am typing this am waiting for my mom to borrow me money cos i couldn't say no, don't like engaging in a group😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Glad I’m not the only one who does not like people😅
It's more common than we know!
This is me🫣
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Glow iring moNgwaneng❤❤❤❤
Ndim mos lo
I enjoy you so much.
I can literally listen to you speak over and over again.🥹❤️
Wow, thank you