5 Year Relationship…We’ve Never Met 🤔🤨 Karamo Full Episode
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- čas přidán 30. 11. 2022
- On an all-new Karamo, Brietta reached out to the show to help her decide on whether to stay or leave her relationship with Kertis. She discovered he was cheating on her and doesn’t know if she can ever trust him again. Kertis admits his mistakes in the past, he’s been a good man and doesn’t know what more he can do to prove he’s been an all-true man. Next, Tameeka met her boyfriend online and is ready to take the next step in their relationship. But her friends and family are trying to put the kibosh on things. Why? Her family members Jenna and Angela believe that Tameeka is being taken advantage of.
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He don’t even know if he want a fade or locs. How is he going to commit to one woman. 😩
Bro this comment 😂yasssss I’m thinking like bruh but you done said it.
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣Im like do women think this is cute
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If he's admitting to cheating 25 times...believe me...he's done it much more than that!🤨
Aaaa
Do people understand theirs diseases that can kill u stop sleeping around
This is just called sex addiction
Funny thing is she not going no where she used to it do can do what ever he want and come back home and kiss her in the mouth and I don't blame him
She sounds like a sugar momma
33 years old and still so immature....worrying about clothes and shoes and being fly just doesn't cut it. We as women deserve better.
Pp
Women need to start choosing better
@@michaelbanks7803 Exactly, they say all that tough stuff but homeboy had at least 26 women during this relationship. So yea, bro is toxic, BUT why are so many ladies attracted to these qualities in men. Then they wonder why so many men strive to be like this dude...they get all the women.
You don’t get what you deserve tot get what you settle for
He was honest and told her he can't give her what she wants. She needs to move on b4 she gets something she can't get rid of. Sorry but I'm leary of grown men over 25 w gold teeth.
He says who he is. Believe him and keep it moving.
Thank you! I was thinking the same time
Cheating is a choice not a mistake.
I agree
Exactly
Carla...that's well aligned baby
Especially 25 times smh, he ain’t her guy but she can’t see it, she has to see her worth and know what she deserve. Man peace means everything to me I ain’t retaliating I’m just gone bounce smh we got this life so LIVE it.
Most definitely 💯
Not this 🥷🏾 got tears in his eyes cuz she cheated once. He a walking syphilis and just throwing ass to anybody. GIRL STAND UP ! He ain't worth this
😂😂😂😂 Walking gonorrhea!
He got a taste of his own medicine 🤭👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My sister aren’t you afraid of STD’s? Get tested and run. You are worth more than that. Love yourself and move on.
exactly what i thought.
I was thinking the same thing.
Believe me if he admits 25 to 30 the number is actually double. This is why you don’t tolerate this period. He’s a pitiful man.
Pitiful boy
He said 20-25 was the minimum 😂 12:29
Little Man.
@@Jay_Hass Nasty his draws need to be donated to science, probably narrow down new strands of viruses.
To the first couple: Ma’am in the red, LEAVE HIM & go get tested.. the entire panel of transmitted disease tests. He’s not going to change no time soon. You’re hurting but you need to focus on yourself, I thought you was working on yourself anyway.
AGREED 👍💯
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Absolutely
Absolutely how triflin!!! You exposing her..and I know u can't tell by looks but he don't look like he wraps it up...just reckless all across the board
The first woman 👠 is soooo beautiful. I bet she's such a great woman.... just might be a tad bit insecure & unfortunately in love with a disloyal person. I hope she sees her worth 💔😔
Never tell nobody what you been thru because they turn around and do the same things to you
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𝚒 𝚍𝚘𝚗’𝚝 𝚊𝚐𝚛𝚎𝚎
Facts
I fully agree
Yikes. Therapy can heal that toxic belief
She ain’t been with anybody else, she’s just trying to get back at him. She’s a gorgeous looking woman but seriously needs to find some self esteem.
I agree I think she just said that to try to hurt him or some type of catch back
@@sherrillbutler6095
Absolutely, she weren't about to take that embarrassment on national TV. Lol
I was done when he said they only get the physical part of me run girl run!
Like forest
His revelation made me puked in my own mouth!
This girl is frickin' gorgeous!
Men will be scrambling around to line up to date her!
She clearly has business acumen and education - so, she is sexy and intelligent!
Why the actual fcuk would this delightful, stunning, utterly sweet young lady need to attach herself to this pile of steaming dog shit?
Hun, you can do better. So, do better.
Sending a mother’s love all the way from 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Run fast
Right. She better go on about her business,
Ikr straight up BS..." I cook..I clean..I provide" who gives a damn? 😂
This has become my new favorite show to Binge.!!
Yes me too.
same!!!
Me after realizing paternity court isn't putting up anything new 🤣
Yesss, I’m right with you
Feel sorry for her. Wake up please
When will women learn to STOP buying things for a boyfriend! You cannot buy an individual's love and respect. Actions speak better than words.
Right I mean if you got to take care of him you might as well just go get a pet adopt a child😂
@@mariejiminez173316:34
EXACTLY!!
Probably one of the reasons he was with her.
Probably one of the reasons he was with her.
He tried so hard to convince that girl to leave that man, but I can see how she looks at him she not leaving him.
Her man knew she wasn't leaving either.
I hope she do but i don’t think she will either.
This poor women who lost her husband and her son is blinded by grief and I pray she finds a good man who can hold her and be her companion she does need these types of brothers!!!
Amen 🙏🏻
Second woman sorry all those men from different parts of Africa are scammers this is a user trust me
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@@angelaburse6485Wtf do you mean 'all men from Africa are scammers'? I'm typing this from Kenya, East Africa and I know I am an upstanding citizen in my country and I earn my income legally.
LADIES!!! Never let a man drag you. It breaks my heart to hear this young lady say he is "breaking her down". When a man lies and cheats on you it is a form of abuse. It does break you down. Been there and done that..but never again. I will NEVER give anyone that type of power over me. If you can't be the man I need and deserve...keep moving. I don't have time for the bullshit.
Needed this comment because babbbbby his definitely breaking me down
Amen💪🏻🏅
I understand we're coming from cause I have been in a relationship recently we're I was feeling like I was in a relationship but no body was in love but me you no when a man call's you out your a try to belittle you and I had to get out of that relationship cause I was feeling myself losing my self and becoming some body I wasn't an almost on the breaking down I was starting to feeling myself won'ting to flash out and black out at the same time and I knew if I would not have gotten out of that relationship I probably would have ended up in jail or something and I no that is something I don't won't to be so I decided to just get out of it and give him back to the streets and let go and let God redirect my self and I have feeling free every since the day I walked off from that relationship.
This shit break u down mental and not worth it
At the same time, cheating to retaliate is not the solution. Keep yourself clean, God will fight for you
It's annoying when people say they stay with someone who blatantly disrespects them and say it's due to love. It's never due to loving someone so much it's due to the lack of love for self.
So true
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CHEATING IS NOT A MISTAKE.... IT IS A CHOICE. A CONSCIOUS DECISION. Men and or Women, STOP USING THE WORD CHEAT. You made the DECISION TO BE UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR PARTNER..... PERIOD.🙏🏾👑🌹
TRU FACT💯💯💯 SO BRIETTA & CURTIS. NOW I ASK, IZ UR DAMAGE RELATIONSHIP AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP???
As a Nigerian, this makes me sad because these are the kind of unscrupulous people that make us look bad. You dont need no visa to travel from Nigeria to Ghana and it is just a day trip by road so if he truly loved this woman, he would have made the trip. It is such a shame to see people like this parading themselves out there trying to scam people not only of there of their heard earned money but also their hearts, emotions and time. SHAME!!!
Like I was confused when I heard that. So sad
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Stop! Africans are worse...
Well too many Nigerians men and women are like this guy. Scamming and then wonder why they still haven’t made it.
It breaks my heart and makes me dejected when i hear and see disoriented,demented and ignominious Nigerian scamming people and given us bad name and image with.unscruplous love. This is scandalous .Anyway there are still credible Nigerians out there in the States doing great work that will help to cancel out this idiotic man's antics. He cant even go to ghana that u dont need a passport to go. Terrible man
Well said !!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I agree with you 💯💯 everyone know that is the biggest scam that come out of 🇳🇬Nigerian are KNOWN TO HAVE ONLINE SCAMS !! BUT YESSSS I DONT BLAME YOU !! It’s makes your country look bad , I know lots Nigerian men & women that are BEAUTIFUL SOULS , BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!!! ❤️ NOT ALL NIGERIANS ARE SCAMMERS !!! Love from Toronto Canada 🇨🇦
25 times ain’t no damn mistake, just take accountability sir and leave her alone
He’s a walking and breathing STD
It's definitely not a mistake, that's just who he is, and it's never gonna stop. I really hope that she'll get the strength to move on, he's just gonna keep doing the same thing, and she'll just continue getting her heart broken. He will never be faithful, it's just a lost cause.
After a man says he cannot commit to one woman or women only get one physical piece of him....NO NEED TO CONTINUE. Girl, dry your eyes, fix that crown and WALK AWAY!!
Karamo I love how you are not judgy. You deal with some sensitive topics that are not to be taken lightly. You do a wonderful job at that and you have a great way of finding the words to help make a person feel like they are not being attacked. Great job!
He definitely put ppl at ease, he's gentle with ppl
My sister flew to Nigeria, married him, came back… this man waited the whole 5 years and soon as he got his citizenship he left her. She came home from work and he cleared out his side of the room and even took his African food yall smh. Do not talk to these people online. I worked at western Union and money gram and I would see women coming in every couple of days sending thousands of dollars to these men in Nigeria. They will wait 20 damn years if that’s what it takes to get their green card. Also, after they get their green card they will fly their African wife/ family down to be with them. My sister met his family which had already lived in Phoenix Arizona…they were all in on it.
They do the same in South Africa, they target women who always codependent and use them to collect cash or marry them to get the ID.after few years in SA they then apply for Visas to Canada mostly or other country as it is easy to approve applications if its not from Nigeria. Ghanaians are exactly the same
@@learningnetwork6384leave us Ghanaians out of this ,😂😂
This woman truly is a queen. She has done the soul searching and has grown. I wish her the best.
Stop calling a woman you’ve never met a queen.
If he can admit to cheating 25 times, guarantee he has only mentioned a fraction of the amount he’s been out playing with other women
Never tell a man he's breaking you down. 💯👑💅
Exactly, he will continue to break you down!
If ur not happy in a certain situation 💥👀🙈move on…
Why are these women out here buying clothes and cars for men ? The more you do for a man, the more he’s gonna take advantage of you and disrespect you. I’m embarrassed for y’all. Have some self respect!!!
That’s why he doesn’t want to let her go…the material things. Hope she’s serious about it being over.
Desperate
Women that you know maybe. My wife bought me clothes because if she liked something on me she got it. We knew each others taste.
@@labrea654ew.
If it’s a healthy relationship there’s nothing wrong with buying for a man why don’t y’all allow men to be loved
Let’s NOT normalize BUYING dudes!
My grandfather told me this & every time I went against his advice I suffered:
“A man will take a hand up & when he’s up he’s going to repay you in some way! F-boys will snatch handouts & believe ONLY their PRESENCE IS SUFFICIENT FOR YOU”!
There's not a person in this world that can make me feel less than because I know who I am
In the first case, the woman seems to be supporting the guy financially so that's why he is with her. He is playing mind games but she is not going to leave him.
It’s hard when you want to be open with someone but you have to reserve something. Telling someone your entire history and what you’ve been through can sometimes give the wrong person the blueprint to say and do what it takes to get you.
Frfr
FACTS
Karamo, you did a fantastic job in this segment! I love how you speak and articulate the matter and help guests find a sense of resolve in their personal lives, it's so refreshing.
He said just the physical like that isn’t the part that can literally take her life
The minute he said "Strong black queen" .... looooool
Omg! Black women stop being tolerated. You are valuable and loved. Love yourself!
My mom is been dating a iNigerian and he doesn’t want to FaceTime . I am against as well as my other siblings . I feel like he’s scamming her . She’s sent him money and he’s never even given her a dime . She believes a he’s going too come here and marry her . He’s called from a Broward county number. My prayers that this lady listens. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I've dated Nigerian men and they're scammers one asked me for money and I told him no and he got mad at me actually a lot of them asked me for money and when I said no they got mad at me I was supposed to go on a date with a Nigerian man who was a car salesman and he lived in my city and state so he said I got dressed up and he canceled on me saying that he didn't feel like driving to my house
You may have to intervene physically to keep your mom from sending done bum from that country money
He is scamming her and she is blind to it because of her low self esteem.
It not low self esteem did you hear her say she lost her husband of 13 years and he Son got kill she is grieving she probably need help counseling nothing to do with low self esteem but you will come on here and judge her like your life is so holy only on CZcams.
@@MarkJohnson-xs1ql…she also has low self esteem. IN ADDITION to complicated grief and loneliness. Multiple things can be right at the same time. Relaaaaaxxxx❤
Yep
@@tamara5716ZERO LIES DETECTED!
A year ago today my
best friend in the world suddenly passed away and I'm still devastated.
I still cant make it past a few days without crying.
However, friend suggested that I see a grief counselor and I will go see them after the
Labor Day Weekend!
Thank you for the grieving advice.❤
God bless you. I too lost a very best friend the beginning of the year. I think I need counseling as well. I know exactly the pain you're going through 😓
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25 times 1 time is more than enough run girl run 🏃♀️
Tameka has a good heart and she just want to be loved. It's sad she can't see who he really is because I believe he's using her for money.
Absolutely. She is a FOOL!
Am so sorry about the loss of your son and husband . I pray that she finds comfort 😢
The second lady dealing with our Nigeria man, please run. His words are not true.
Nothing in that relationship to save. Just go your separate ways.
Forget getting "EVEN" Get the hell out of the relationship.
Run as fast as you can....
My girlfriend boyfriend came in at 5a.m. she dropped him that day! She told him told him to go back where he came from!
Every time I try to tell ppl to heal they get mad I’m inviting them to church now!!🙌🏻🗣🙏🏻😂
Lady please stay away from this man he is a scammer 😭😭😭
My mom is in the same situation lost my dad in 2020 her husband all she does is go online and Nigerians have groomed her to a point that she trusts anyone more than her family even after warning her so many times she speaks to these scammers sad really
Online dating is scam Job in Africa now. The lady is been scammed. She will never see this man. He is just using her and her money. So sad
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@@WhoisQueenphredaWow you just stereotyped a whole continent, how ignorant is that!!!!
@@shineright5818this actually is true. Obviously not everybody in Africa. But there’s people that will admit they learn from an early age to catfish and scam
Second lady is going to stay until it's clear as day she got scammed. She doesn't love herself or see herself as worthy.
What Men don’t understand is that once a woman gets to the point of giving her body to another person IT’S REALLY OVER for you. She was ALREADY mentally checked out and the physical was all that was left.
This! Cause majority of the comments about double standards are from men but they break women down and cheat then look shocked and hurt when they play the reverse uno
This couple’s relationship cannot be saved; it’s time to go your separate ways; it’s for the best; Kertis isn’t ready to be committed
Karamo needs to do a follow up on all the interesting people that have come on here . I wanna know if that lady rlly left that man
First guest is super funny. “I used to date toxic guys.” Current guy is a toxic guy. Haven’t learned anything. She never wanted a nice guy to begin with.
U NO ITS KRAZI, WEN PPL COM N UR LIFE PAINTING DA PERFECT PICTURE, JUS 2FIND OUT A YEAR LATER HE AIN'T 💩 NOW U GOT 2FALL OUT V LUV WHICH IZ 10X'S HARDER 2DO, THEN IT WUZ 2FAIL N LUV? SHEESH JUS GOT 2PRAY ON IT & WALK OUT ON FAITH 🙏🏾🙏🙏🏿💯💯💯
Tameeka needs to run from that 5 year relationship with the man in Nigeria, who she has never met. He is definitely manipulating her. It is very possible that he is already married with a family already. I hope she reads this. Run, Tameeka, run!
Girl, Run Run to the nearest clinic to get every STD test.
What’s the point on coming to the show if y’all both cheating 😂
She's storying. There is no other man. Come on. She so in love
entertaining
If someone cheats once, leave; the trust is broken. You can forgive them, but you'll never forget. 25 times? God forbid he brings back an STI or worse; something incurable.
This is a pretty young lady. Be strong enough to walk away and keep loving yourself.
Stop making excuses for him, you don't need to go Nigeria to find love, that man is not for you. He's gone keep asking for money, let him go
I just wanna know Brietta’s @ bc I dig her energy lmao “I know it’s not right but it’s even” come on!!!! 🤣
On line love? Don’t set yourself up to be used. OMG Nigerian ???!??? Run girl run!!!
Oh, these scammers from Nigeria these women need to run for their lives.
@@mauveletteburchell606 Not all Nigerians are like that... I hope you know that
@@omoa.483yes they are!
@@kalimbaayinde25Not everyone. Calm down.
@@magnateluxuryventures4691a Nigerian always say that when they are guilty
I lost my dad recently so the last section on grief and how to deal with it or help people with getting through it helped a lot ❤
I wouldn't be surprised if those "guys" numbers she saw, were actually MEN he was texting!
As long as a man wants to be with the one he loves, he can do anything and everything just to be with one who he loves period!!
Cheating 25 times to break the person you claim you love. You only stop when they are dead and gone. What will you do about it. Then another vulnerable woman will fall in the same trap? Girl run for your self. He’s selfishness PERIOD!!!
Why are you still with him. He is a cheater and he can’t stop cheating. Don’t be a doormat. Multiply that number he gave by 12. Let him go. He is telling you that you are not enough for him. Just say bye to this relationship.
This Queen is so beautiful both inward and outwardly, he doesn't deserve her . Wishing her all the best.
Never tell a man about your past. They will use it against you to hurt you.
To the woman dealing with the Nigerian man, sorry to tell you sis but you’ve been duped. And thank God your family cares enough to stop that nonsense before it got too far.
Nigerians are crafty
He said the most he's been without a woman is two days I can imagine how many women he been with. He needs to go get HIV tests and so does she. Good thing she got away from him.
I’m tired of hearing the “there are no good women out here or none left at all” then once they find one they treat her like 💩. It doesn’t matter how good you are to a man or woman they will do what they want to do regardless. You cheat once you will do it again.
When she said Nigeria I knew it was a scam. They think heavy women are desperate block them everyday.
I agree, she is still grieving and the Fake lover is manipulating and taking advantage of her in her time of vulnerability. You can't love nobody you have never met...and in 5 Years!! No effort to do anything for her or meet her. He has nothing to offer her but lies, lies and more lies!!! Wishing Tameeka the best!
Separate, Leave, Walk-a-way, Humiliation is NOT bliss.
THE END. 🤷🏽♀️
Karamo, you're spot on. Lagos to Ghana is about 5 to 7 hours drive or 45 mins by air; and for a Nigerian who owns a passport, movement along the West Africa region is visa free. For her to have come all the way to Ghana and the guy didn't make the effort to go see her is a huge red flag! She can't marry who she doesn't know very well. In Africa, we rarely jump into marriages until we know each other's relatives / background, and get approval from our elderly ones who bless the marriage with their prayers.
Yeah you people are the biggest scammers in the world it is a disgrace and sad.
The lady who fell in love online.
This is only the beginning, he is gonna cause more harm to you, ask me.
I even believe that the lady hasn't disclosed all the info bcs she's protecting that guy. There's no way that he found it difficult to come to see her when she was in Ghana. That's a pure 🚩
you are sharp everrrrrr day. thank you for being my new brother. I cant stop watching you, you are appreciated
I can tell he cares for her by the look he gives her however, he has a sexual addiction and that's a recipe for disaster. She appears to be a Queen and hopefully knows her worth. I wish them both the best 💞
He cares for her because she allowed herself to be his Sugar mama. He knows nothing about loving a woman.
@@yc1105 He is in love with himself. She's slow or desperate.
Queen? Where.
@@yc1105 gifting things to a man doesn’t make you a sugar mama especially not to someone you love
He does not geniually care about her. He may, in fact, have a sexual problem. But the brother does not care for her. That's NOT LOVE! LOVE NEVER HURTS 😢
Luv luv luv Karamo!! He is so fine. The guy in the velvet jacket is a waste of her time. He's for the streets...let him enjoy the trips to the clinic for his Std's
Facts!!!!
Cheating is not a mistake. Cheating is a choice. You don’t mistakenly cheat you choose to cheat. You choose the behavior. Period.
A choice and a pattern.
In the first guess, before he came out I could have sworn she said he was good looking!
Second woman is being catfished. I feel for her. He is scamming her. So sad. He took advantage of her grieve and she is now hooked in. So sad. Hope she moves on, gets therapy and dates someone from the same country as her
I couldn’t get past the dreads starting way back like that. 8:07 Let him go.
Right!! How many locs have fallen out? A LOT
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You mean for this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏾
Lmaooo im sorry. After noticing, I couldn’t unsee it since… it ain’t like he’s balding. Just WHY tho?! 😂
@@gabriellea.3732 😂😂😂😂lmao
It's a lot of people rockin this style and I have to say I agree with you. It's not cute at all.. They are trying to hold on to a fade with dreads but it's just not givin😭
I am confused, so the first woman wants to be with a man she has had to help purchase clothes, tires etc….???? What is he bringing to the table? A real man would never depend on a woman for these things! Why are some women so desperate and thirsty?
Why cheat? Just be single! I will never go through my husband's 📱 not because I don't know code but it's invasive to me personally. Everyone is different
If you thought he was cheating, you would go through his phone.
@@Que772 nope.
Never ever trust a man 100%….. even when things are good….do check their phones regularly n they should be able to go through yours too, why secrecy in a relationship???????
22/25 mistakes?????
sure....lie to yourself,but not to the one you love.
Baby girl, just keep moving. This is a Narcissis a dirty juggler
Right. They see strong, black independent women not as equals, but as competitors that they can break down.
From 90 days to 15 😂😩 that was hilarious
She needs to leave him she needs to run really fast away he doesn't see what hes doing is wrong therefore hes not gonna change she's worth so much more she is not deserve it and he is a clown !! He deserves ANYTHING SHE DISHES OUT ! Nobody wants a cheater I don't care if you can cook or anything else He's wrong He don't care He's hurting her He don't really love her.
I don’t understand why there’s a question. He cheats because he wants to as he clearly stated.
If you have to go to a show to ask if you should be with him you know the answer.. know your worth women!
“ at the minimum 20-25 times” Ayyo 😭
And his sorry a** been keeping up with the number of times he’s cheated? Sheesh if that isn’t lowdown idk what is!! At this age and stage in life you can’t blame nobody but yourself 🤦🏾♂️ hope this dear woman can find peace and solace. Very sad situation!
This is why I’m very big in keeping friends, friends….because once you have broken me I can’t even rely on you to be my friend anymore
Inge watching so hooked on this show !!! The all sound openness and Sincerity is amazing
And she buying him material items to make him look good and she just said on the show in her past relationships she would do for others to make them change and look good and for herself to look good as well. Smh she need self love herself fully before getting with a real good man
25 mistake’s…Really?? He’s a joke and dangerous to himself and women.
Am not buying no man tires that's not my Husband I need Commitment and Faithfulness. 💯
As a mother, I would be embarrassed if this Mr Blue Velvet jacket was my son. He has no integrity.
I personally don't think men or women should tell their new boyfriend or girlfriend everything they've gone through or allowed someone to put them through, BUT THEY STILL STAYED because if the person don't mean you right this could backfire and blow up in your face!!! Keep this information to yourself until a person shows they have your best interest in mind consistently!!!!