Joint Family System Curse Or Blessing | Nargis Zahra
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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
- In this video a famous public speaker and trainer Miss Nargis Zahra is talking about the issue of “Joint Family System Curse Or Blessing”.
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ماں کی نظر میں سب بچے ایک جیسے ہوتے ہیں لیکن آج کے دور میں جو بچہ کماتا ہے اس پے بہت زمداری ڈالی جاتی ہے یہ نہ انصافی ہوتی ہے ۔
Good
Tru
Many esa nahi dekha k MAA leye sab kids equal Hain. I m disagree
Is liye maa baap ko shuru se apne burhape kay liye investments aur savings karni chahiye takay unkay future bhi secure rahay aur wohi kabhi dependent feel na karein
Agree with u
joint family system ak bahu ko nafsiyati mareez bna deta hy jahan har waqt batiyon ki tareef r bahu ko abuse kia jata hy is trhan insan. ki izzat e nafs ko majruh kia jata hy
exactly
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G bilkol apny teek kaha esa he hota ha apni beti agr free b bety ho ony kaam k li ni bola jata bahoo se farmaishy poori krwaty ha
Bohat khoob zabardust massage jazakalah khairun ,aik baat bataye baho tu achi tab hoti jab woh sas ko Maa ka darja dy . Aur agar baho ki maa hi beti ko bhar Kaye tu kya kiya jaye .
izat jtni b dain ama phr b razi ni
Live close to parents in the same neighborhood but give wife a separate house .....
power jet daffodils but whose gona listen
huaband will make sure his wife suffers
نئے جوڑوں کو مشترکہ خاندان میں ہی رہنا چاہئے۔ جو لوگ اپنی جوان بیوی کو اکیلا چھوڑ کر جاتے ہیں۔ ان کے ہاں مسائل بہت زیادہ ہورہے ہیں۔ جب بچے ہوجائیں۔ اور تھوڑے بڑے ہوجائیں اور مزید جگہ کی ضرورت ہو تو رضامندی سے علیحدہ ہوجائیں۔
I agree with u joint family start k liye bht acha hy per after kids saperate hojana cahiye hy per esa kerta koi nahi hy 9 saal hogaye hen mujhy pistey hue jaan azab ki hui hy saas ne meri mee jana cahiye hy esi saaso ko
@@zohrawaseem1677 aap Theek keh rahi hen , aik larki jo Bohot se khawab saja kar aati he , woh chikna choor hojatey hen , or zindagi azab ban jati he , or is ka asar bachchon per parta he , lekin jab yehi bahoo sass banti he to tareekh ka pahyya dobara weysa hi ghoomta he.
mehram namehram ka kuch nahee bataya joint family system islam ka hissa nahee hai!
Because either she does not know what Islam says or she won't tell you because she believes more in culture than Islam.
I don't like joint family system, mairay khyal mai mohbt or khaloos ki bjae jealousy or comparison janam laita h...studies disturb hoti hain bachoon ki ...very lengthy topic....
Joint families r more of curse besides blessing cuz it's nothing but dirty-home-politics than mutual-relationships...
U r right dear
I hate joint family
u r right
Privacy is not secure in joint fmly systm mostly
Exactly
اچھی اور درست باتیں ھیں۔ اس میں کوئی قابل تنقید بات نہیں۔
May b jointfamily may ho but mujay passed nahi coz,buzarg insaf nahi karpatay
Jub husband out of country ho to joint family main rehna azab hy
Bchon ki trbiat b apni mrzi sy nae ki ja skti
Bilkul sai kaha ap ny
Right
Hate hate hate joint family system😠😠😠😠👎👎👎👎👎
Same here I hate joint family system .i would never do the to my sons
Bhai is joind family system ki wajah se to MAAN BAP BEHAN BHAI BIVI BACHE OR ABB TO PAKISTAN BHI CHOR BETHA HON APP KI BATIN TO BOHAT ACHI HAIN PAR IN PAR KOI BHI AMAL NAE KARTA
really I hate joint family.insan nafsiati ban jata hy
Miss Nargis Zahra
I have listened to some of your speeches and I must say, they are Realistic, full of Wisdom and worth listening to.
Your lectures show that you have plenty of study on what you talk about and experience.
May Allah SWT bless you and whole team and we keep learning from you.
Har aik ki izzatenafs ka khayal rakha jaye to hi blessing hae warna is se bari takleef koi nahin
اپ نے بلکل سچ کہا ھے ۔اگر ساس سسر عقل مند ھے اچھے ھیں
میں نےدرگزر کرنا معاف کرنا کم بولنا ۔کسی کے بھی معاملے میں دخل نہ دینا ۔اور خاص کر کسی کی بھی برائ نہ کرنا ۔
اپنی ساس اور سسر سے سیکھا ھے ۔جب لڑکی بیاہ کر اتی ھے ۔تو ساس سسر اپنے طور طریقے سکھاتے ھیں ۔اور کچھ وقت لگتا ھے ۔
ساس سسر اچھے ھوں اور اولاد کو اخلاقی تربیت دی ھو تو وہ سب معاملے ٹھیک کرلیتے ھیں ۔اور سب ان کا کہنا بھی مانتے ھیں اور سب ایک دوسرے کو عزت بھی دیتے ھیں ،
اور جہاں والدیں کی اپنی اور بچوں کی اخلاقی تربیت نہ ھو تو ۔زندگی گزرتی ھے مگر جھگڑوں میں ۔
agr saaaas sodhr jaiy.
khaw larkay ki ho
yaa larkee ki..
to moaashra sodhar jaiy..
yahi dono hi siyaset krti hy .😆😊😃😄😁
ufff joint family system toba nd I live in joint family I hate joint family foqieet sirf aik insaan ko di jati hy husband wife ka rishta to naam ka reh jata hy politics to joint family ka ahem hissa bn jata hy aik intehaie bdsurat zindagi bn jati hy...
ماں کبھی اپنے بچوں کو الگ نہیں کرنا چاہتی اس لیے مشترکہ خاندانی نظام چلتا رہتا ہے شوہر کے ماں باپ کو تو ساتھ رہنا چائیے مگر دو بھائیوں کی فیملی جب ساتھ رہتی ہے تو مقابلہ شروع ہوجاتا ہے یہ سہی نہیں اک فیملی ک ساتھ صرف ماں باپ رہنا چائیے
Bikul thek kaha aisy 2 behao aik sath hun pir sas susr k farq krny lg jaty hain . Aksar aik out family sy lai hui ho 2nd beho apni koi bhanji bateji ho pir out family sy jo lai hoti hai us k sath bhot zid krty hain .
ہاں بچے خراب ہو جاتے ہیں ضدی اور انسان کا خود کا سکون ختم ہوجاتا ہے
bilkul sahi
Jahan maa Baap hotay hain wahan Baqi behan Bhai bhi zaroor atay hain
Jee zahir hai ham bhi tu jaten hai apne parents k pas unka bhi haq hai bas enter fair na karen
I don't like joint family system
9 saal joint me rhi hon. R ab nafsayati problem feel krti hon due to this systm
malik anam g mujhe bhi. Lakin bachpan sy stuck hoon is system mai
Mujy b ni pasand.
Mai 15sal sai es joint family k azab ko abhi bhi bhokat rahi hoon.Aur Ab completely depression patient😥
Ishtiaq Shah ye hamarey deen mai nahi hai.ye manhoos system hindu culture sy lia hai muslims ny
Jitna marzi kr lo koi qadar ni krta
Very nice,
App jaisay logon ki hamaray mulk ki zarorat
Assalam o alekum Baji ap bht bhtreen bate smjha rahi h ye srf khuwabo me hi dekh skte h ye soch srf bahu rakhti h Baji SB Usko bdtamizi krne PR mjbur hi krte h aur krakr rhte h izzat dene k bad bhi bahu ko beizzat hi krte h
Kitchen must be seprated.
Salam main bi reti pir mera kitchan alag hai
Grow up mind.
Agree
bat privacy ne rahti , agr koi bat ho jay tu sab ko pata lag jata ha
Ary kitchen tho baad ki baath hy..pehly bathroom ko alag karo...ye ziyada dangerous hy meri behen :(
Shadi ek family hoti hai or har family ka apna ghar hona chahiye,sab achhe hote hain par apne apne ghar mein.kabi kabi mile'n or achha mile'n.
Assalam o aalaikum.
Boht acha topic hy or apne goftago bhi boht achi ki. .100% agree.
Wo jo kisi ne kaha hy k aurat hi aurat ki dushman hoti hy bilkul theek kaha.agr hr aurat chahe wo maa ho behan ko beti ho baho cosi n sister jis bhi rishte me ho agr wo aurat ka sth dy to kabi koi zulm na ho kisi bhi aurat pe.
Great Great.....100 time appreciate Very useful information.......
With all due respect, you are literally wasting our time “joint family system” is a part of the our culture not our religion. Islam pays huge importance to the rights of the women and husband wife’s privacy, Islam doesn’t support or promote joint family system in any way as it causes the most ridiculous problems that you just mentioned in this video and privacy issues as well.
Well said
Right
It is amazing how many desi people don't know about what Islam says on such basic matters and how culture dominates instead of Islam. The lady in video is clearly indoctrinated by culture so her mind refuses to see she is wrong. That's why she wants to brainwash others through this video. This is normal if you ask Pakistani or desi scholars or cleriss on such matters and it shows how dangerous culture can be. They will give you vague answers or indirectly but never clearly what Islam says.
I don,t like,joiend family,system
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Zabar dust kiya hi achchy tariqy sy smjhaya h. Congrats
aj ka dour wo dour hy koi khud ko ghalat manny ko smjhota krny ko tyar nai hy so joint failmy mn rehna bywakufi hy
Joint family system sirf iss tarah hi kamyab ho sakta ha jb husband samjhdar ho r apps mein larae na hony Dee kise k lagae mein na air r dosre Surat mein ager he fard mein bardashet r saber ho sirf bahu ko hi saber ki talqeen na ki jae
I totally agree with all the points of this lecture. A lot of points to learn and act. Jizakillah khair.
Main be pehlae joint family systam ko bahat pasand karti thi laykin mujhae jo tujurba meri saas ny diya ,koi or nahi daye sakta jub saas hi gher main alla qissam ki syeaasat kare tu wahoun per koi bee bahu kya kare
My WhatsApp number +12676685154.
Hahahaha same here
So nice.
Ap k samjhanay ka style bohat acha ha.me dua karon ga k Allah ap ko aur taqat de ta k ap ye silsila chalay rakhain.
Joint family is not living with sas sussar joint family is living with jaithani or dewrani
Exactly... Ap nai bht achy sy sb explain kiya ha same assy hie hota ha
There is no joint family system in Arab muslims. We only have it because we lived with hindus for centuries. I know one family where the saas did not let the daughter in law close her room's door as it gave her 'ghabrahat' the 1st bahu tolerated her behavior & put a curtain on her door but kept it open for most day till sleeping time, 2nd one came of younger brother saas told her not to close her room's door, the 2nd one divorced within 10 days of marriage, she did not tolerate this behavior & her husband did not even try to make the wife or the mother in law understand. Now the younger brother is remarried & the new one is allowed to close her door.
Only parents in law should be accommodated but the siblings should all eventually have their own dwelling because it is very abnormal for siblings and their families to live in one home. Not only is it against Islam, a family never gets focused on their own children. Too many distractions
Respect needs to be equal for older and young.
Very true. .....ghr k bre he agr shohr bivi ko kareeb na ane den to surat e hal ase ho jate he jese chingari tyar he aag jalane k lye
Join family ho PR portion alag jhagra aqser kichan k km m hota sas sarur ser ankho per leken 3rd person na ho
Very great lecture
Joint family system nhi hona chahiye is main jealousy aur competition Ata h is main tarbiat main effect Ata h bht braa effect..
Don't like joint family
My WhatsApp number +12676685154. Ajao tmko akely room men lejaon
Aap apney betey ki shadi uswaqt karna jab uska alag ghar ho .
Joint family system should be abolished. Ye nuwsaan ziada paunchata hai bejaizk faida.
Joint families r more of curse besides blessing cuz it's nothing but dirty-home-politics than mutual-relationships...
Joint family es lye b teek nahi k Barry bahoo py etna pressure huta hy kaam ka k wo bachon k bachpun or husband k saat start may ju understanding develop huni chahy wo miss hu jaata hy jis se ek negative personality devolop huti hy or mery saat ESA hwa
Mashallah sister yes everyone should be cooperative.....
Very best speech about joined familys , I am agree with you sister ,I like joined familys culture , because joined familys is further of my children . you now sister children follow & learn every thing for grandfather & grandmother , because children need ,love, respect, culture, how to live young age , or old age ,How to face for every weather & condition, now I have kids but I mis for grandfather and grandmother, ............................ This is continue journey of life...............
بڑا بیٹا اور بڑی بہو کو گدھا بنا کر رکھا ہوتا ہے
Agree
I agree
Bilkul
barri bahun to aksar batey ko lay kar farar hojaati hain k chotry ki biwi aarahi hai
Hahahahah...
Apart from other social issues, a marriage is basically a new relationship development between a boy and girl. Most of the marriages within our society are still arranged marriages, means love has to be developed with passage of time. And this basic objective needs time and self learning from their own experience. Let couple experience their own life. When parents do allow their children to go abroad for studies or work, why cant they feel confident that married children can live on their own.
Totally agree with you.
I wish my mother in law was alive! I wish she would be living with me. As she has waited too long to see her grand daughters and sons. Besides my other in-laws have seen and enjoyed her blessings and love. I missed her so much......
mam m joined family system mi hu or meri dono brii jithanio me abbi tk mjhe susral mi jagah nh bnanay di...be WO dono apni hy to achi hy ma ghairo mi se aa gyi hu to apni kbii nh bn skty..joined family system ajkal aik lanjha bn chuka hy.
Dear Sister Nargis Zahra
I like
I appreciate all your nice videos
Larki bohat nazuk jazboon k saath susraal may qadam rakhti hay apna sab kuch qurbaan kr k sab ko khush rakhnay ki nakaam koshish karti rahti hay jahan aik galti hoi nahi tamaam achaion ko bhool kr us ki insult ki jati hay Allah k liay aik doosaray ko izzat our piar dan bahoo ko bhi apnay jaisa insaan samjhan jis ki galti ko kabi moaaf kr do kabhi ignore kr do
Joint family main nafsyati mareez bnty hain joint fimly main bchy muhbbtun Main zyada prty hain.. Jo k bht bri tabaaaahi Hai
Very nice topic hain or haqiqat b..
Wonderful...amazing God bless u sister
bht achi video ha jazaak allah please asi or video bnain
Im not agreed with your solution. Joint family mn sirf saas bahoo nahi hoty or b log hoty hen jo directly or indirectly connected hoty henn ek dusry sy... joint family ka sub sy ziyada asar any wali nasloon py hotaa haii...
She is trying to misguide you (make you gumrah) . That is why she did not tell you what Islam really says. In Islam there is no concept of joint family. Look at the proohet, Fatima and Ali and all the sahabah who all married and lived seperately. Also in Islam. The daughter in law has no obligation to serve or take care of inlaws. Joint family system is cultural traditions.
Seek knowledge and listen to what Tariq Jameel and non-desi scholars say. Pakistani and Indian ulema will often misguide you because they are don't want to take away this benefit for the boys.
Joint family system tabah kr deta hai larki ki zindagi..sb khuwaishen...andar se mar jati hai larki
Why don't the girls choose Islam then instead of desi hindu inspired culture? Islam gives wides right to seperate home and privacy and there is no obligation on on her to serve her inlaws. When one chooses culture and don't know ones rights then this happens.
I have very bad experience in joined family system..
16 month's mein divorce ka case start ho gaya..
ekloti baho hun main..
nanden hain apki???
You are talking about our practices but have not proposed any practical solution to this.
Joint family system is the root cause of all marriag problems. It's a culture of indo. Pak region.
Has nothing to do with Islam and love. But only a system to abuse financially and devastating privacy. It's not Islamic.
Gives excellent opportunity for back biting.
Parents of husband are no problem. But all in one is just a psychological issue.
If joint family system has to exist it has to follow boundaries of respect. And has to be systematic. At least separate kitchen and no interference after maghrib should be the rule. All susrali relatives become Aristotle and give free advices which is sometimes beyond their scope and you become a puppet to please everyone. Please do not give non practical advices.
Respecting and helping parents and siblings is must but it should be vice versa.
Joint families r more of curse besides blessing cuz it's nothing but dirty-home-politics than mutual-relationships...
I agree with u
الگ رھنے سے انسان ھزاروں اقسام کے گناھوں سے بچ جاتا ھے ۔
آزاد رھتا ھے ۔
بے پردگی بھی نہیں ھوتی۔
کسی کی روکا ٹوکی بھی نہیں
بچوں کی لڑائی اور دوسرے بچوں سے بری چیزی پک کرنا بھی نہیں
دیکھاوا بھی نہیں
جو اکٹھے رھتے ھیں وہ بے چارے مجبوری سے رھتے ھوں گے
Very good advice. Amazing great.
Humary ghr main bhi bhabi ka portion upr hy n separate hy.we knock their door when we go there.but when they came to our portion there is no knock and no privacy.
I love to do art work but now I don't have space to do any art work.
In our house daughter has to do all kind of work suba 7 se raat 1 tk.
Live islamic system everyone will be happy...but need more awareness about our religion.
Ab to head of fmly sas susar nhi blky jithani hte h...
jaithani or jooti ki aik he jaga bas
Same prblm here.nd i hate my jithani churail.
Common problem .is there any way to get rid of her authority ?
Same hamary gar mai b yahi hota ha jetani ki marzi se he gar mai sub koch hota ha
Mn b jythani hn mgr uqat ak bkrani jse hy bchy b snbhlo or km b kro mgr skon ak lmhy ka ni
Mein phaly joint family system k ha mein tee 13 saal shadi k bad rahe joint family mein laken ab mein iss k khalaf ho laken biwi ko bate s maa bhnoo s zoor milna Dana chaye r ana Jana chaye alg hony k bad bee ku k door rahne s Mary khal mein mohabatee bhrte Han
Ap jo bat kr rai ha sunne me boht achi hain. Par mje koi umeed ni is society se k yaha koi khof e Khuda rakh kr zindgi basar kre. Hum orate ik k bad ik mar jay g lakin sas susar apna drama ni chore gy
Mohtarma ap sari Zindagi b saas bahu ko mil jul ker rehne ka dars deti rhen, phir b ye conflicts khatam nae honge. It's impossible.
Iska ek e solution h jo k Islam ne dia h wo ye k wife ko separate accomodations provide kro.
Jin ka apna Dil Apne beton ko Alag krna ka nae hota wo you tube per joint family k fazail bayan krne pohnch ATI hn
It's a never ending debate.
Joint family me srf maa bap ko sath rakhna chahye.bachy b dekhty hain ager ap apny maa bap ko nhi sambhaly ge kal ko bachy b ap ko nhi sambhaly ge.
Mashallah meri sas meri dost hai jo baat main apni ama se nai karti wo apni sas se karti ho
Kuch waqt guzrnay dain
apki tarbiyat achi hwe h
@@MuhammadImran-xp4im mashalllah meri shadi ko 10 sal pure howe hai kuda ka sukar hai mera dil nai karta meke jane ko mere bahi jb main shadi karke apni ama aba k gar se nikal rai ti meri ama ne kaha sas ko sas mat samjo apni ami samjo or use agr baat bataho or apne gar ki baat e kabi muje se mat kahena mashallah muje koni bi mukil ya zarorat ho main apni chachi ama./sas/ k pass jati ho muje kis dost ki zarorat nai hai meri sas meri dost hai😍👐
@@umarabdullah7587 thanks
haha😯😀
Ap husbend k bahin bhaiyo ki bt kr rhi hn m to susar k pory khandan k sath rehti hn kitna azaab h wha rehna m janti hn susar k bahyo k bahuye unk bachy sb sath hn ap khid andaza lgaye kesy gzr rhi hogi
yr apko aisi jaga shadi hi nhi krni thi.....
Bilkul joint family m thori space Debi chahye lekin hmare Han space nahe di jati bare apne nazriyat ko samajhe k yhi thek hain phr chahe wo ghalat b ho wo purane nazriyat sy Bahar nahe Ana chahte or bachon ko b chahte k choti sy choti chez srf unki marzi sy ho personal choice ka HAQ nhe dya jata yh bht common problems hain hmare joint system m..
Joint family... is it in Islam.if not then no use of it.its terrible system.
It is not but you can see from th e comments in here that majority who hate it are females, and majority in support are male and most comments don't know whatvislabn says. Such is the danger of blind faith in culture instead of studying Islam and learnings ones rights and obligations both as man and woman.
I hateeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee joint family😤.
Me too... 😐 Cuz it's more of dirty-home-politics than mutual relationships...
بہت عمدہ
Allah Se Zyada apko ilm hai qk Allah ne jo bhi baat Bataye Rasool ke zariye usme joint family Mana Hai Hum Jaise bata rahi hai koyle ki Kaan Mein Raho Aur Kala mat Bano research sodo Hadi se padho
آخری باتیں اچھی ھیں انکی۔
Ye sirf bolny ki baty ha suny ki had tak hi ha bas practical nahi ha joint family system is worst sas k sath sab kuch kar k dekh lia 1-1 bat kar k b dekh lia ..jena mushkil kia hua ha ..bahue se jalan hasad ..har waqt larti ha bilawaja koi bat hoti b nahi ha likn pir b mou bana hua hota ha..pata nahi konsi jaga se ye baty layi ha ap es video mai practical ni hota esa..
Absolutly right.
Joint family system aj dour me meri nazar me kutta system hy
joint family me sab rishto ki qadar gir jati ha bahtar ha k alag raho or aik dosry se mhbt bhe qaim rahy
Allah mjhe smed sbko tofeeq de kuki 7 sal se kch nhi badalta dekha duao me yad rakhe
So nice video
70% jin ko aap buzurg keh rahi hain in logon ki wajah se hamara family system tabah ho gia hai, in logon ne na hi apne maanbaap ki izat ki sari zindagi apni manmani karte rahe ab aulad ki zindagi tabah ker rahe hain, kyunke yeh samjhte hain ke inhain walden hone ka license mil gia hai wo jo chahen kare inhen koi rokne wala nahin, allah in buzurgon ko hidayat de aur hamare muashre ki islah kare ke hamaish ghalti aulad ki nahin hoti aur is blackmalling jo ke "nafermani"ke naam pe ki jaati hai khatam ki jay,sorry if i heart someone
Mashallah but koi bhe parecticly nhe hota n na ho skta hai just yeh aik dhooka hai jo diya jata hai.
Hi mem ap sach bolti ho par ye logo ko sab se aziz paisa he aor peso ke pojari log kabi sach ko qabol nahi karte par ap ke cllas me dum he kery on
Ma Sha Allah u r lucky one lady.
Islamic tariqa bhi yhi he shadi k bad ghar alag banana chay wo beast he mery hisab sy q k is trha husband wife ki life achi guzar sakti he magar ma bap ki izaat karna bhi lazmi he
MA bap ghreeb bety k sath ohty ah.. Or sass us bahuo k sath ohti ah Jo uski apni bahnji ya bteeji oh.. 🙏🙏🙏
There are some flaws in this research. Most of Pakistanis like nuclear family system. It save us from grudges , hypocrisy n insider heat.
Her research is flawed because it's not academic or religious research. It is far away from Islam almost like bidah. Islam has no concept of joint family.
زبردست پیغام
Well done sister.....
Joint family system ameer logo ka kam hai ......ghareeb ka joint family me rehna bohat mushkil hai ....
Nahi kafi dafa choty baho ko izat mill jaty ha or bari batien sunty rehty ha
جن آنٹیوں کو ساس سو سر پسند نہیں ہے ان آنٹیوں کو چاہیے کہ ایدھی ہوم کے لڑکوں کے ساتھ شادی کریں وہاں پر نہ ساس ہوگی نا سسر خوب انجوائے کریں ان کے ساتھ
Baat sych hai mgr baat hai ruswai ki
Saas susar bahu ki zindgi azab na kren to na bury lgy
Everyone has a right to mental sanity
Jis family system ko hamary den e islam mn foqiyat nahi di gaii.. us system mn yaqeenan koi na koi problm zaroor hoo gi....
bijli k billon ka msla.gas's k bils ka msla..panii usme zda use KR lia..us ne km use kia...bhtttt msaayl hotay hy..
umdaa. i love your efforts ma,am. keep it up