I HATE this about Thai men *trigger warning*
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Hi my name is Lilly and I am an American expat living on the island of Koh Samui in the gulf of Thailand for the last 9 years. My husband is Thai and his name is Wat. We have two boys named Luke and Leon and a new baby girl named Lyla. Nam is our Nanny and she is like family to us. She is from Myanmar and has worked for us for over 7 years.
What do you think?
I think his not a right guy fore you
Oh Jesus,I couldn't cope with that in labour from any man.thus I'm single,but that's more than ok.
You said the truth about C-sections in many countries in Asia. It's all about money. I've said this before and I'll say it again: Wat is a rare man in Thailand. The fact that he was even with you in the same hospital room while you were having painful contractions is unusual. This is a macho culture where men don't want to be anywhere near their wives while they give birth. It wasn't that long ago that most Western nations were the same. To change that, Thai boys must be socialized differently. That takes courage from both men and women, and a willingness that I am not sure most people are ready for.
I think your husband has a deep sadness in his eyes. I'm glad you know Jesus. He is the healer of all. He's healing *my* husband! Pray for your husband day in and day and out and continue to ask God to build your faith that He will restore him xx🙏
Generally Asian men are born that way...shy to show emotion...but Watt is a lovely man...Please don't hate him...
Don't worry Lilly! He will always be by your side. He is a good father and he is a super hero!! He went thru the window of the bathroom to save his baby boy 💪💪😆...Wat! 👊👊👍
My Thai fiancee is the most supportive man I've ever met. He does everything he can when I have any kind of pain. He's the only reason I've ever considered having a baby (haven't yet). I would say my Thai guy goes above and beyond any American guy I've been with! There are perfect gems out there. Not all Thai guys are the same.
Oh good luck
Having the kid will really be good
It’s the long game then
🌈😇💌💝
Good and bad guys in every culture!
Neither are all American men either.
I can totally relate to your experience. I have been married to a Thai for over 20 years. Asian men have been brought up to be responsible and protective over their family. Nurturing, nursing, changing diapers, feeding just do not fall under that umbrella. Not because they don’t want to but they feel we do a better job at it. So I try to encourage him rather than making him inept. When I was giving birth, his words of encouragement was “ you can do it. Julie gave birth to a 10 pound baby, so I know you can too. “ omg ..The cuss words that were flying around in my brain
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌹🙏🏾
I’m Thai and I really related with that. My dad is in his 90’s and has been just like that too, like when I was a kid, sometimes I got headace and cried he didn’t come to hug me but telling me not to cry because it never help and told me to take medicine. I know he loves us so much from hard working and always the kids first before themselves. It’s just about his personally is kind of tough sometimes. So I can tell from watching many of your video that Wat is genuine and has a nice heart and love you and the kids so much. And it’s hard to find Thai guys like this in Thailand because many of them nowadays might be so sweet at first and then change when being together longer.
Wow you really surprised me I didn't watch the video yet but just the fact that you lived there for 9 years among foreigners, arguably not better than living in a two-room studio in LA and just the fact that you have that level of courage and confidence I admire you truly
Beautiful little family. Darling tots.
She really has a good heart and she's very strong enough to still live with it's bec of her children also 😃
She lives in a mansion
Lilly it's not just Thai men who can't handle pain or such a crises, there are many others from different countries who are the same. You have a lovely family & hope that Wat gets an American passport soon too. He is a very caring father.
Oh! Lilly, you shouldn't worry about that at all. Wat is such a wonderfu man. Every man is different and every woman is different. He loves, cares for, and respects you. He takes a good care of his beautiful 3 children very well. You have such a lovely family.
Totally agree
That's only her American hang ups.
@@mariacelestebustillobarraz3583 That is such BS. And he should be working and not living off of his wife. A real man works and provides.
Her husband is very ugly. Lmfao
@@cherylann1962 a real man? And what does a real woman do? You cook for your hubby? Clean?
You made the right decision to have a C-section. Cultures are different. Wat is a great husband
Haven’t followed you for a while and here I am going gaga over your latest addition. The last I watched, you just came back from a long break in America.
You’re gonna be okay. That’s among the cultural differences you’ll find along the way of mixed marriages. I think difference in education level also plays a significant part. But you have shown that you are a strong woman, and have stood the tests until now.
Your baby is so sweet, and it’s a girl! Congratulations to both of you. 👏🏼💐
Wat is a great husband and father to your beautiful family. You have great people surrounding you Lilly♥️ Bobo and Nam are both adorable.
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? 🌺🌹Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend
Nam is an absolute pleasure love her smile and laughter! A lot of joy in your home❤️
I’m Thai!! I think it’s nothing to do with Thai or any nationalities. It’s has to do with their personality. I’m sure there are many people like that not just a Thai guy!!
God bless you Pete!
Yes, HE was selfish.
yes. race is not the issue. it is the narcissistic personality. they could come as a very gentle and kind creature too. that is how they keep their victim. will keep you confused to make the decision to leave.
I agree with you. In every nation in the world you will find good men and bad.
Yeah right ,,in Philippines so many people like that too hahahha
It looks to me since that first birth, Wat has made up for that time by being a hands on dad and husband…forgiveness is a powerful thing!❤️
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Thank you for sharing. It is not just Thai men I believe most (not all) asian men are not good with relating or having empathy not only to pain but emotions in general. Its part of the asian culture to not tap into emotions much less acknowledge and express them outwardly. Also it depends how they were raised but generally that is like that. Thats why the mental health and trauma in the asian culture effecting relationships/marriages/friendships and upbringing of children has past down generational curses and bondages. I appreciate you being open about it especially for someone who is not asian because it confirms a lot of what I have learned and seen growing up. It's sad but it's only Jesus who can heal those closed or broken areas of people in general. I am encouraged to see that you bring your faith and prayer into your family.
Bondages?
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌹🌹
It's good to express your feelings and release that stress. It's good for you to prevent postnatal depression.
You have a beautiful family Lilly be proud of them. Everyone has tough days but life is to short to hold you back. Good luck to you all from Australia 🇦🇺.
Thank you
@@lillyslife My daughter just had a baby. The baby kept scratching his face. The nurse told us not to cut the nails because it will destroy the nail bed. She told us to file the baby nails with a baby nail file. The nurse told my daughter that the baby should be able to discover their fingers.
It was an enlightened suggestion.
Lilly you have a very caring husband 😘 gorgeous kids. I love watching your family 👪 stay happy, healthy and safe.
Wow! I can relate to this story. It's very hard to be with someone without emotions. You love them, but there's a moment as woman you need someone to tell you ( we're going to get through this and yet nothing)..I guess really it's understanding the culture difference, the bringing up of that person, and how much you love them to take it all in... Also, just so you know, it's not only Thai man, it's happening to other cultures too. It has happened to me, You have a beautiful family Lily, wish you both well as a family ♥️🌻
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Because, is not really good love.sorry.
Lyli's husband is not good looking man and not rich either. She is beautiful lady she could have got a better looking man. Lol 😆
Girl you’re not alone. It happened to me, my husband said to my sister, “I’m so tired I wanna die”. So you’re not alone and it’s a lot of Men are like that.
My Thai husband slept through the night on the little hospital couch while I laid awake having contractions. He probably would have stayed up with me if I had woken him up and asked, but I guess I figured better for one of us to get some rest instead of us both being sleep deprived! Part of me wanted him to offer to stay up with me though. He's been on nighttime duty for four years now to make up for it 😉 In my experience, you have to tell them (all men, but def Thai men) exactly what you want them do because they don't pick up on subtleties.
Lyla and the boys are all gorgeous and such a credit to you all. Nam is so good with the children as well isn’t she. You are lucky to have her
That's true she is so lucky to have Nam. We Burmese (most of)are hard working, reliable, loyal and faithful to their employer.
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌹
Aww, I could feel you in that moment, you had to be so scared. I'm happy you've made up because you have 3 beautiful children and a wonderful husband! Thank you for sharing this with us!
Absolutely! Thank you for sharing, we are very happy for you and that you have forgiven and mostly forgotten and are happy with your husband and family. I relived those moments with you and am grateful you survived with grace and continued to add to your family, it is beautiful. I envy your bravery, your strength.
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌹
Yeah. Thai men of Wat's generation and older have been raised to be tough. My dad too. He just doesn't know how to emotionally support his wife and daughters. He doesn't understand the complexity of our emotions. He thinks crying is a weakness. But, he supports us financially very well and does tough things around the house. Oh, and he's also a good cook. My father-in-law is pretty much the same, or worse. Doesn't care much about how his wife feels.
I think your right. Its lack off empathy. Its a macho upbringing
I spent 2 months in Thailand back in the 1980s and still remember how much I loved it. The people are so nice and welcoming, and of course the food is incredible. I still remember a dessert called "fuktong", pumpkin with coconut custard pudding inside.
Are thai men sexist? I've heard their awsome but also the opposite, opinions?
Hi Lilly, I’m so sorry to hear all the hardships of your birth story with Luke. I used to be a Maternal/Newborn nurse in America and some American men are like this too, believe it or not. I’ve seen my pregnant women/postpartum women give these dads “death stares” across the room as these dads sleep away. Some even sleep through their newborns crying while the moms are the one doing everything 😢 It’s not all like this of course, but these types of men are everywhere lol. I hope Wat has learned from this and becomes better :)
So true, some American men are not loving or caring too, I mean they are not demonstrative….
I am currently maternal child nurse too . Just like yesterday my c section mom was the one attending her newborn and still on IV and Indwellling catheter while her husband only stares . I told him straight on his face , “You need to change your baby’s diaper because your wife just had c section !” He laughed at me and turned his back . They’re Hispanic couple from California .
Her husband is very ugly. Lmfao
Yup-- very true! My American husband wouldn't even lend me a hand to hold when I was getting the epidural which hurt like hell. While I was getting a spinal block, he was nodding off on the couch next to the bed. I had to throw a pillow at him to wake him up! Aftee my son was bor , he couldn't be bothered with his crying baby in the middle of the night. Only when I was about to die of exhaustion and begged him to tend to the baby for me did he agreed to help. Some men are just like that, doesn't matter where they're from.
You can teach your husband
OK ….Lilly. So…my first child was a natural birth and after some Lamanz classes I was part of the whole process (Maine 1980) breathing coaching. Holding her hand..not sure how much I helped , felt quite useless actually, but I realized just how amazing and superior woman are….So, when my Thai wife gave birth here in Bangkok…they (Doctors) wouldn’t let me go in and they induced two weeks early because they were some complications and the doctor had to leave the next day….I had to watch through a window and it made angry…if no one tells someone there’s a better way, can you really blame them…WAT is an “old school” man…and that’s not so bad in the long run. Blessings to you, Lilly. Thanks for your openness …
Thank you Ron!
Glad to see you back lilly with your amazing family the kids grows so fast, Wat is now dramatically shows and speaking to your vlog, You can still maintain your FLAWLESS BEAUTY, life is challenging just enjoy it 🥰
When your kids are all in thier stage of maturity thier you can see yourself hows life is all about..😄😄😄
I love your videos as they resignate with me so much. I was married to an Balinese/Indonesian man and lived there for many years. I too was induced with my first son. Dad was not there emotionally for me either so i really feel for you and understand. Infact with my second labour my mum came in with me instead of hubby and ive never seen anyone more relieved than the father haha.
You children are so adorable. My 2 sons are now grown up with 2 adorable grandaughters. My 2 sons are handsome kind, intelligent people and you have this to look forward to. I will continue to watch your journey and go down memory. Thank you so much for sharing your precious family with us ❤️
Well this was my American husband. So sometimes it’s culture, sometimes personality, sometimes maybe both.
In the old days, no one was allowed in the delivery room - only doctor and nurse. Many, many, many years later, when my daughter-in-law gave birth to my grandson, she was gracious enough to invite me to witness the birth. I was the most awesome day of my life to see my grandson being born and my son cutting the umbilical cord. What a beautiful experience.
I know what it’s like to be alone in labour. My husband was not there for the two births. When I think about it now, it seems so sad for me. Thank you for sharing your experience Lily. X
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌹
Lilly you are such a strong woman. Your family is beautiful . You faced some difficult challenges. Thank you for sharing those hard times . No one’s family is perfect all the time.I see the love you and Wat have for each other . God blessed your family .
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌹
We love Wat! He is great husband and father! You are so so BLESSED!
I know this is an old article but I want to say I understand the frustration you had with your husband during labor. Both of my labors happened before epidurals were popular. During the worst part of labors my Dr. took my husband to dinner and left me all alone, both times. I could have killed him and probably would have if I hadn't been in so much pain.
Ja, men can be such bricks.
Sorry that you had to go through this.
I had a C section and everything had to go quick, my husband took of a couple hours of work to accompany me to the Gynecologist, but the doctor said I need immediately a C section.....so he brought me to the hospital and we called my mom who was then their too. My husband wanted to go back to work because he was afraid that his chief will complain that he was not coming for work.
My mom said to him you tell your chief that you will having a baby, you are not going to work, you call you chief. She put the foot down on him.🤣😂🤣🤣🤣 I never will forget this.Mom's can be so cool !!!😎
What ! Unbelievable !
Don't feel bad. I married to a Nigerian man, he acted the same. That's what we call cultural differences. I noticed that those who were brought up in tougher circumstances likely to hide their emotions n take pain quite differently. It hurts our feelings really if u don't understand the reasons behind.
Such a beautiful family and little Lila is gorgeous, she seems like such a good natured baby. It warms my heart to see how protective Wat is of the children. I probably would of walked out of that preschool as well. I think that the birthing process especially hard long labors can be difficult for some men regardless of their ethnicity. I want to say that it is so lovely to see how Nam has become an extention of your family. Too many times especially in America families they tend to hide the fact that they have nannies. When I watch your videos I get the feeling that you are all great friends and you are like a big sister to Nam. So lovely to see. Enjoyed your day at the fair with all the delicious food. Thank you for boldly sharing bits of your life with us. Sending you all beautiful blessings and wishes of much happiness to surround you all 💜🦋⚘
I didn’t know she was nanny.
@@reflectionsinthebible3579 I believe Lily mentions this at the beginning of each of her videos ♡
Hi Lilly, I can understand you! I got birth in Phuket and I have a Thai husband, so I can totally understand you! God bless you and your family ❤️
Ciao Giulietta, ti spero bene, riprenderò a seguirti presto ancora su YT. Abbracci !
I laughed at how Wat thought it was so funny. You could wake me up 😂😂😂 Never mind, you have a gorgeous family, including Nam. Keep the videos coming, I so look forward to them.
God bless you lily. You have a beautiful family! Your daughter is so beautiful! Many men are like that. I'm from Chicago and I had three of my 5 kids all by myself. My kids are all grown and now I have 3 gorgeous grandchildren. When God is in control of our life we can rely on Him. He'll be there for you. Love your videos.❤🙏🙏❤
Nanny Nam is from Burma. She is always very cheerful and happy no matter what conditions she is in(her home country's bad situation). I am also from there and it is not easy and worrying for the family.
Oh my goodness, Lila looks just like Leon. So precious.
Lily I didn't have anyone I was by myself .I only have one daughter and she is sick most the time .I am 67 and and she is 47 .she was born with cerebral parsley because they induced me and I was in labor a week .it was awful .she got real sick at 3and we found out she is a diebetic. Now at 47 she lost a foot .she learning how to walk.but anyway I'm praying God let's me live and be able to take care of her .because I don't know who will if I'm not here .I'm glad you got threw it .you have 3 beautiful kids .Enjoy now love watching you and your family.
Please don't hate him..Asians. men are like that..but they shy to show emotion...Watt is a lovely man to you and a good dad...
It's okay to hate Thai ppl
Your story sounds like mine when I had my first born son. They gave me pitocin also to induce my labor. Then they purposely broke my water and I had contractions and never dilated past 5 centimeters after 24 hours in labor. His father slept through it and I was furious at him also. Thank God my mom was there to help me through it. Needless to say, I ended up having a C section after 24 hours of labor and no dilation.
The same thing happened to me when I had my first son many years ago in the US, and because I only dilated to 2 cm on Pitocin, and 24 hours had elapsed since my water leaked, the doctor recommended I have a c-section to prevent possible infection. IMO, it was really because it was Superbowl weekend 1980 and he wanted to get home to watch it (and besides, surgical birth is much more lucrative!)
that's the thing... we don't even know if the mother is dilating or not! C section became a thing. more money for them.
I think it depends on the person. Your husband may not be very good at dealing with pain or woman things. I'm Thai and when my wife was giving birth to my children, I was there to see if she was okay in the surgical room and welcomed my babies to the world.
I wouldn't sleep with my wife in the labour room. I went in there with her each time. I remember she would ask me to go back home and relax that she would handle everything. I would refuse and still hang around the place. For me if my wife is heavy am also heavy with her. Not easy road to travel though. Thank you Lilly for understanding and forgiving.
You are really sweet 🥰
Love the children. Lila is so adorable she is like the baby Leon🥰
Hi Lily, you have a wonderful husband and children and nanny. Thank you for sharing your stories to us. You are a beautiful person and a wonderful wife and mother. God bless you all!🙏🏻💖🥰
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌹🌹
Oh, Lilly! My partner was Czech, a European man, and did the exact same thing, went to sleep in a chair while I was giving birth to our son. Totally understand your frustration. You are in pain, delivering your baby and he cannot be bothered, right? And the worst is when you hear those beautiful stories where the husband was supportive, just like your nail lady told you ... it kind of increases the frustration from the past. But, as you said, let´s forget it and leave it in the past. I like that. However, I absolutely understand why it is still on your mind. This is a very vunerable situation for the woman, she needs her man because she cannot stand up for herself at this difficult time, when she needs something she should be able to rely on her man and when he is asleep it is frustrating, sad, lonely and scary. On top of that, I was thinking to myself when he was falling asleep: "Is he not excited? His child is being born! I can´t wait! And he is just like "yeah, whatever, man, I´m tired". What is wrong with him?" Anyway, let us leave it in the past, girl, as we are getting more and more hurt by talking about it and thinking about it, noone else is getting hurt but us - over and over again. So, taking your advice and letting it go. Tons of love xxx
Hugs to you ❤️
Don’t be so hard on Wat . He was there with you so that says a lot . I wasn’t comfortable when my wife was in labor , I was praying when it would be over and every second being there with my wife was stressful and uncomfortable for me mentally and otherwise . You have a beautiful family and husband . God bless
"Uncomfortable when youf wife was in labor" ???!!!
Try being in labor then.
What a total lack of empathy 😕
Same Thing here, my Europan husband also went out the hospital room during my contractions with my son and said he was tired and wants to rest somewhere because it was in the mittle of the night. Now 14 years later I am still disappointed about this but Life goes on and we are still married.😅
Lyla is absolutely adorable 😍. I think Nam and Bobo are planning on getting married. God bless you all🙏
LOL I felt the same about my late husband when I was in labor. So funny how much hatred we can feel towards our husband when in terrible labor pain.
So true!
imagine being post wall and now your angry and fat and ruined plus over 23 years old, most are smart to leave.
I love your honesty we all fail in some way or another, definitely men from different traditions have to learn the person that they are married too might have a different way of doing things… it’s communication but it can probably be difficult from differs cultures. He’s a sweet husband and so much a good father! Hope he is attentive to you as well!!
Ohh!! And Happiness 😊 to your sweet friend who tends to the children and to her budding relationship / boyfriend ❤️
You have been a beautiful husband congrats🎉🥳 From. 🇮🇳India
I’ve never been pregnant but I’ve seen births before and all women are angry at their husbands when going through labor, even when they are supportive. Wat is fine. Love your baby girl! So sweet. You are truly blessed.
Hahah this was soo entertaining. It had everything! Food, sweet Nam and the babies, relatable emotions of us women, evil hospital/docs , the "oh no you must get a c section" story of pregnant ladies (ive heard plenty), common asian men traits which seem baffling, love.
You guys are so real and just yourselves, this is one of my favourite distractions. Thank you for starting a channel and sharing your world.
Ps- i absolutely support your initial natural birth decision but they messed it up. But here we are everything is good and you two made three beautiful babies ❤️❤️
“Relatable emotions of us women” yeah just make it seem like women are emotional and men aren’t, that’ll stop men from being sexist
@@cloudcastle338 ? I think you misunderstood my comment to Lily. But since you bothered to get offended, if you are a woman, you can relate to other women on certain levels, on human levels we can all relate to eachother man or woman. My comment had nothing to do with men or men not having emotions. Check with yourself before you mindlessly type a reply.
@@helee28 okay I thought you were trying to say “only women feel these emotions” because men usually try to say stuff like “oh women are so emotional” I was just trying to see if you were speaking about it in terms of biology or how people are raised differently just bc of their gender. Also you’re the one being mindless because I wasn’t saying “men and women don’t have emotions” 😊
@@cloudcastle338 🙄 thanks
I absolutely love you! 😂 you telling story about having Luke 😂🤣😂 ok if he sleeps beside bed 😂🤣😂 oh my gosh I’m crying laughing so hard
it’s not easy for him as well to marry a foreigner,, it’s not easy on both of you .
Be kind on your videos, Don’t need to mention killing there’s no need for that,
I wish you well, but I also feel for your Thai husband, luckily you have such a lovely nanny who has stuck by you and luckily you can afford a good life as well 😊
All three of your children are absolutely beautiful! All that is important at the end of the day is love you all have for each other every day.
Don't let the past creep in as it only robs you of the happy life you have created now.
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌺
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌺
In some cultures it is still considered improper for men to be present during childbirth. Until the 1970s, most U.S. hospitals did not allow fathers into the delivery room for the birth.
I wouldn’t want to be there anyways 🤢
They rather have the wife kill their husband during labor instead of them.
I LOVE you're stories Lily😍
Luke, Leon and Lily are adorable!👍
LOVE to all if you from🇺🇸
My Thai dad literally didn’t do anything much when my mom gave birth to me. He was there at the delivery room but mom had to went back home the next day after the delivery to take care of my older siblings, doing all the housework JUST LIKE EVERYDAY and my dad went out drinking with his friends. He left mom with 2 toddlers and 1 newborn alone and come back to eat dinner that mom made. I am still so angry with him but not only about this. His Thai masculinity is so terrible that when I was a teenager me and my mom had to move out.
My father is definitely not as supportive as Mr. Watt. He’s a great man helping you taking care of the children and they are so cute. You middle child eyes are like galaxy. Anyway There’s this ego about Thai men, especially southern Thai men. My dad was so so conservative, closed mindset and arrogant. He is actually a intelligent person but his patriarch system in the house was not great.
Your dad is just a shitty person. Literally. I am Thai, (28 yr old this yr) and believe me my dad would never do this to me or my mom. He was there for my birth being very supportive and rly excited. If one thing in life is true; he love us more than he love himself. So rly though i do think it just depend on the person rather than the country where they are from.
I had an American version of that story except I ended having the babies (twins) naturally but with a 3rd degree tear. So sister you did the right thing. I feel for you!!!
Reading the comments, and uh… I’m a male and don’t know what 3rd degree tear means but it made me weak in the knees.
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌹🌹
All your children are really cute. Lilly you're such a beautiful lady!
who care's wht people talking abt, family is number 1. just grow some love to make family happiness ♡
He's there for you and the kids . Yes husbands and wives, well ..we have to forgive each other always!! No relationships are perfect...I see the both of you have a strong connection and lots of love! Your husband would die for you and your children no greater love than that♥️
Lmao 🤣 He’s like just wake me up when the baby gets here 😂🤪 You two are such a cute couple and such beautiful kids! Love mixed kids! I’m Filipino/Mexican and my hubby is white and you’re kids remind me how my kids look!! Soo cute 🥰
You should marry a Filipino man and you should be with a Filipina nurse. Big difference from what you have experience. Filipino man will bear the labor pain for you if it's possible🥰🥰🥰
You have a lovely husband and family. You’re so lucky to have Nam, Lyla is a beautiful baby x
At the end when you told Wat that you were telling your birth story with Luke, when I saw Wat's face ,eyes,expressions and what he said, I almost spewed my coffee. Hilarious 😅
He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey can we Be friend🌺🌺
Your baby is adorable. The food looks amazing (at the market). Men are aggravating creatures but we love them anyway.
My birth story is that I had all back labor, so painfull. My husband pushed on my back until he was sore and he was a U.S. Marine Corp soldier at the time.(OOh-Rah) I'd just given birth a few minutes before and while he crashed out on the bed beside me, I was awake and excited. I called everyone I could and announced that baby had arrived. My husband was snoring.. I laughed at him, here I've had the baby and he's the one that passed out with fatique!
I'm very sorry you had a hard time. I'm glad you have 3 healthy children though and you have much happiness after all.
Thank you for sharing your journey.
It is just alright. There are situations that we will be caught by their being passive but in truth men just need to be taught of what we need... I really appreciate your openness and I see that you got a nice family. Your vlogs inspire me that I am always waiting for it 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
What a beautiful family you have Lily. Be strong.
Nan is the live wire in ur videos.Lily u are blessed with beautiful adorable kids.Thanks for sharing ur heart out.
The green layers stuff you ate at 8.50 is not made from jelly. it is made from coconut milk, poured layer by layer and each layer is given time to cook/steam. At times it also comes in various colors, or sweet sticky rice. The color much be from pandan leaves
The gelatinous texture is due to tapioca flour and rice flour. Coconut and pandan is for color and flavor.
I do not blame Wat not wanting his children to be exposed to foreign things that are in that covid test as a Christian man he knows some things wrong with it. He's just protecting his children he's a good dad.
Agree, Lily comes over to me as a spoiled brat and everything is done for her, making videos is making money and more important then her family. You went to that culture, learn to respect it.
Theirs nothing wrong with getting a covid test now days you have to have a covid test to be admitted into the hospital all they do is swab your nose
@@diniemadsen4778 This wasn't even about Lilly ..but you have to Diss her right ?!
That sounded similar to my delivery and my husband is Cambodian. My husband fell asleep because he had a long day at work when i was being induced too due to low fluid. But when they broke the sac so much fluid came out. I ended up getting an emergency c section. Attempting natural after c section was the of the most traumatic event in my life. Thank god my son and i are ok. I remember every aspect of that delivery
It’s a Thai thing but also a US thing. I’m Germany you can only get a c-section if necessary they will only induce you if past they due date or complications. When I took the hospital tour In the US where I gave birth to my first born, I was shocked how many pregnant ladies chose to schedule a c-section.
So sorry for the rough experience. It resonates with many women. I had two csections for both sons. I tried for a VBAC 2nd time and endured Pitocin trying to labor naturally. I totally get how it completely removes the natural sequence of a normal contraction where you have an identifiable start, a crest then it subsides and gives you a slight pause before the next begins to relax and prepare for the next. Pitocin disrupts that natural ebb and flow so that you’re stuck at the never ending crest of surge upon surge. It’s an exhausting and disheartening onslaught that undermines women’s ability to let go and patiently work thru the process and do what your body knows to do. But of course God forbid a hospital staff be patient and think about something other than their timetables and bottom lines, right?!Pitocin is the devil. Well done, despite these challenges in birthing your beautiful children into the world. Whatever process it was. You endured on their behalf, well done to you and all strong women everywhere who do so for their families 💜
“The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His face on you and give you peace.” ( Numbers 6:24-26)
Why didn’t you get an epidural. I had pitocin after starting labor naturally. Then got an epidural and was assisted through my labor with OB and my anesthesiologist. This was in Manila.
My daughters name is Lila, I’m also Thai. Amazing lol. That being said, maybe it’s because I was born in the U.S and didn’t know the culture was like that with Thai men and pain. Very Interesting.
Your husband is sweet actually.He is so good to you and your children and yes not only Thai mens doing that but other's too.God Bless you and your beautiful little family
i feel your pain. this feeling of being with someone but also felt alone and on ur own. something happened but different case for me.. but this feeling of abandonment and not so much nurturing and emotional pamper strike alot of super saiya in me .. :) 🔥
Lilly my husband is Canadian and I too went through something similar 🥺. It’s hurts and it stays in the pit of our hearts, I get it.
My dad is Thai and you are right about Thai men and pain. My Dad couldn't handle seeing my brother and I in pain and it was always mom nurturing us. I never felt like my dad did not care, it's just they were raised differently.
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Lyla is such a cutie 🥰 she’ll grow up to be beautiful just like her mama 💗
Well I think most men are Lilly. To be honest we women handle stress so much better than them. I also noticed that, we also handle issues so well than them even have much higher pain tolerance than them.
My husband also is like that. If there are emergency situations from the time he'll knew he gets to be floating in the air for like few minutes before acting upon it. Unlike me for example my brain automatically switches to like what can we do, like what's the next steps things like that. So i guess it's really true that the way our brain cells & wirings are programmed is definitely way different from them.
So basically he keeps his cool and make calculated decisions whereas you freak out and act reactively. 🤔
"Past is history, now is prsent, tomorrow is mystery." Watt is a great husband👌
If my husband didn’t support me through my pregnancy, delivery or when I take care of the baby, that would be the first and only baby I would ever have with this man.
As if you would make baby/babies for your husband and not for you too.
We Have the same experienced Lilly, i suffered for almost 10 hrs. Of pitucin. They started to induced me at 9.30 am and break the water at 11.30 am. But by still natural birth my daughter born at 8pm . Imagine how i suffered? I have only one child after her and i said one is enough ! Thanks God for the safety and beautiful daughter i have.
In truth, the majority of men would rather NOT be in the labour room. My husband looked really scared but stayed with me; however he said that if I had told him to wait next door, he would have gladly done so.
Baby Laila is a cutie pie! 💜💛 Luke and Leon are cool kids!! I don't think it's a "Thai thing" but most men are insensitive to their woman giving birth. Overall, I believe he meant no harm. Anyways, all of You continue to Stay Blessed!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I was waiting for something really bad ?
My sisters husband didn't even go in with her in her first labour, he opted to not be with her because he didn't want to see anything!
My husband was being fussed over by the nurses when I was in heavy labour and eating spahetti bolognaise while I was in agony ...
I think there is way worse that Wat could have done ...
Thank you 🙏 Lilly for sharing this, I respect your sincerity , being genuine and natural ♥️
Why this Thai man so lucky to have you? You are super nice lady. Beautiful, hardworking, earn money to support family. Give birth three lovely babies. I really feel he is such a lucky guy to have you.
I like What's approach to life.He loves his children, love's his family, very positive, very productive and very meticulous, especially about his food.
My Filipino husband was outside the delivery room while I was in pain due to contractions. I can literally hear him playing an online game while I was inside the delivery room trying to deliver our son.
I will never forget that moment. I was so bitter that he gets to play while I was in so much pain. That was four years ago and I am still cringing whenever I remember that moment. 😅
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My first child was a spontaneous labor and I was perfectly fine until my Dad made me mad. I then elected to get an epidural which stopped my labor and only took on one side. UGH...then the pitocin came. That stuff was the devil. Finally at 2:59 am my son was born. Between getting the epidural and giving birth I went to sleep. My husband at the time stayed up with my sister in the room with me. They both were very supportive during labor and delivery. My 2nd child I was suppose to have a scheduled C-Section. I tried telling my dr. that I was not going to make it to the date they had it planned. They didn't listen to me. Needless to say I went into natural labor with a breech baby. Then the hospital tried to send me home because I wasn't dilating. Before the nurse could bring me my discharge papers my water brook. So they were running around prepping me for an emergency c-section only to be told they could not find the dr. So I was taken to the OR and had to wait on the table in full on labor. On top of it they wouldn't let my husband in the OR until the Dr. was ready. Thank God for a nurse, she was an angel, she helped me through it all. Then the Dr. finally came in and was trying to start and I started yelling, Oh He** NO! I want my husband. We had been married since I was 19, together since 17. Finally they got him in the OR and my baby girl was out in a matter of 5 minutes or less. Then my 3rd child was an all natural labor and delivery with a different man than before. Needless to say he was scared to death because he had NEVER seen me act like that in pain. I have a very high pain tolerance. So he stayed against the wall and wouldn't come near me. I was so angry I could have strangled him. I went in labor around 5 am with my third child and she was born before 8:30am. I labored so fast my sister couldn't get to the hospital to get my other two children so the nurse tried entertaining them and blocking the view when their little sister was born. My first daughter can tell you the exact story to this day and she was only 4 at the time.
So cute and lovely layala, nice to see your beautiful family.my regards and a lot of wishes from Nepal.