The Power in Loneliness
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- čas přidán 16. 05. 2024
- You have to be able to like to be alone. It is a very important skill in life because you will inevitably face such moments. In this video, I describe the importance of being okay with loneliness.
Robert Greene is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, The Laws of Human Nature, and most recently, The Daily Laws.
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What gives you a sense of community? How do you deal with loneliness? Let me know in the comments ⬇
I try to read and get new ideas or watch CZcams videos that's how I even came across your book for the first time in 2023. Then I tried to binge watch your interviews and podcasts.
Currently alone and looking back at the growth, I've learnt how to connect with people more (when I am out there) with the little chance.
Thank you for doing whatever you did to put out all these subliminal books.
Davui from Africa, Ghana
In my journey through loneliness, I found solace and transformation in the idea conveyed by the quote, 'Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.-Dag Hammarskjold' This profound thought resonated with me deeply, serving as a beacon through my darker times. It propelled me to search within and around me for a purpose that was not just a distraction but a calling.
As I discovered my passion, I realized that my focus and energy had shifted significantly. My loneliness, once a constant companion, began to fade into the background, overshadowed by the enthusiasm and fulfillment derived from pursuing my newfound goals. It was as if in finding something that truly mattered to me, something I was willing to dedicate my life to, the weight of solitude lifted.
The loneliness that once seemed insurmountable became a catalyst for profound personal growth and engagement. I no longer felt defined by it, nor did I feel it with the same intensity. Instead, my passion and commitment to my cause filled those spaces, providing me with a sense of belonging and direction.
In essence, by finding something that captivated my heart and mind so completely, I inadvertently rendered my loneliness irrelevant. It's a journey I believe many could benefit from, turning inward to discover what truly moves them, and in doing so, transcending the solitude that once held sway over their lives.
In my journey through loneliness, I found solace and transformation in the idea conveyed by the quote, 'Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.-Dag Hammarskjold' This profound thought resonated with me deeply, serving as a beacon through my darker times. It propelled me to search within and around me for a purpose that was not just a distraction but a calling.
As I discovered my passion, I realized that my focus and energy had shifted significantly. My loneliness, once a constant companion, began to fade into the background, overshadowed by the enthusiasm and fulfillment derived from pursuing my newfound goal. It was as if in finding something that truly mattered to me, something I was willing to dedicate my life to, the weight of solitude lifted.
The loneliness that once seemed insurmountable became a catalyst for profound personal growth and engagement. I no longer felt defined by it, nor did I feel it with the same intensity. Instead, my passion and commitment to my cause filled those spaces, providing me with a sense of belonging and direction.
In essence, by finding something that captivated my heart and mind so completely, I inadvertently rendered my loneliness irrelevant. It's a journey I believe many could benefit from, turning inward to discover what truly moves them, and in doing so, transcending the solitude that once held sway over their lives.
I grew up in a family full of conflict, so I learned to love the peace of being alone. Now I am 48 years old, live alone with my dog and like it this way.
I get a sense of community at work ( with co-workers from 20 to 53 years old, from different countries and I love the way we work together). I also like the sense of community with other dog owners. Simple things but on a daily basis.
I have also a sense of community with a good friend of mine, who live in another country and with my "Lebensmensch" (that's german for "person of my life" )
Being alone is ideal for me if I'm doing something creative (hobbies) and as a mean of recovery after interacting with many people (clients and co-workers).
Many years ago (20?) I read your book "48 laws of Power" and "the Art of seduction". A couple of weeks ago, you popped on my CZcams feed 😊 I like listening to you and I am re-discovering your work.
Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.-Dag Hammarskjold
Sometimes I do feel lonely, but I rather be alone than be with toxic people.
Get yourself a nice partner and focus on your work and purpose. As an introvert, I'd rather be isolated and heal myself than in a crowd with mindless sheeps.
@@True38There is nothing like "Sheeps" my good friend.😊
Yes Me To,
It is always better to be alone than in a sh**** relationship
True
I’d rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.
Because you don’t like… feeling alone ? 🤨
@@Takiki There’s a big difference between solitude and being made to feel alone. Huge difference.
I recognise those words 😢
Yes 100% the only way my family can accept me is being their little bxtch,they make out they are really good people and alot of people fall for it😢
@@ws5826that’s an interesting perspective. I will ponder it.
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean-Paul Sartre
That’s a bar lmao
_"Hell is other people."_
That's my favorite JPS quote! So true!
BOOM!
I'm a simple man. I see Mr. Robert greene, i click.
I read "click" as "dick" 😅
Thank you for watching.
real
Same here 😂
Ummm.....yes.
Loneliness = poverty of self, sadness from lack of friends
Solitude = richness of self, happiness with your own company
Wrong
@@PrinceKoopaTell us what's right and don't hold back.
Happiness =connecting with a person on the same frequency as you. That's heaven.
@@roses6564 wrong again. That sounds like love more so than happiness.
Every human is different so every human has different types of happiness @@roses6564
I'm happiest in my own company. My stress s in life all came from others.
You can actually block out other people that stressed you. There's a technique called filtering. Other people's problems are theirs, don't let them invade you. I have learnt it as a well coping mechanism and it works well.
I couldn't agree more ❤
I like that !
Facts
Same
I love being alone. For many years I forced myself to be an extrovert. Partly because I didn't know or like myself much and partly because society tells us we should have a lot of friends. Truth be told I am an introvert. Took many years to be ok with myself and eventually love who I am and now being alone is a joy!
I think that I think this is what is happening to me
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer. Page 64 😇
❤❤
I went through the same process. The moment I accepted myself as an introvert, I felt free.
Been a lone wolf since almost forever. I'm unstoppable now.
How does it go? How does it start?
Same. I noticed most people hate being alone just with their thoughts. Makes you wonder.
I’m starting to be a lone wolf now from a bad breakup
Can you please elaborate? What do you mean by unstoppable?
@@youtuberzero2583 When I was long ago as a teen, I had so much negative ones asking why since I had an event that basically change the way I saw the world. I got to a point in time where I was so overwhelmed with negativity that it basically sparked a change in me where today I can proudly say I am the happiest I have been my whole life. Of course there are days that suck or aren't that great but I am able to think on those and understand the situation as well as let those feelings flow and know they won't last forever.
I think people are just afraid to face the truth because that is what you end up doing when you are alone with your thoughts. For me in high school it was knowing that nothing will come to me. That was part 1. Later on, it was that I had to take action for something to happen. Waiting for opportunities does nothing for you. Even if you do and one happens to show up, are you prepared to take it?
" Better to be alone than to have bad company "
Precisely correct!
I enjoy the silence when I am alone. It sparkles the air that I breathe in.
Love this!
I've found going on holiday on my own is the most liberating thing I've ever done
How did you find it? I'm considering doing similar myself
Wow! Your too pretty to be alone.
@ryu029 I did city breaks, so not so obvious you're alone, and just long weekends at first just to see how I felt. but more you do more confidence you build.
Did that once in Bali. It was incredibly annoying when this street kid kept hanging around my hotel and would literally follow me whenever I walked down the street. He's symbolic of people in general when I want to be left alone.
@ohmannonotnow your is a possessive determiner.
Perhaps you meant you You’re which is a contraction for you are.
To be alone produces the finest minds
Schopenhauer quote. Nice.
Yep.
I think, on the contrary, the finest minds tend toward solitude.
@@mainstreet3023 But that still directs to his statement.
Debatable. lol
The feeling of loneliness only creeps in when I am being objectified, lied to, or manipulated in some way. Loneliness for me is always in relation to other people, never the absence of them. A sense of community, of belonging, I've only ever gotten from nature. I still remember the love and contentment I felt as a kid tooling around in the woods and fields by our house. Our home was cold and hostile but out there I felt alive and cared for. It was wonderfully soothing. I am thankful to have had the chance to experience nature in such a way.
Robert always gives me the feeling that everything is going to be okay.
Yes, yes he does… ❤
I love being alone. The solitude of it.
Same here 😌🙂
Yes
Someone who is capable of being alone for long periods of time and whenever they are out, socializing, they still can converse with others without being socially awkward. It's like they have not missed a beat.
That describes me. When I'm social I'm very social but I also guard my alone time and rarely let others infringe on it.
When I do feel lonely, which happens around birthdays or Christmas when I miss family who have passed away, I just remind myself of the good times we had and treasure them.
@@feralkat9370 Indeed. That's practically all that can be done. Smile or day dream about the good times, while being glad you were able to experience them 👍
omg wow this is so true it kind of makes you confident in a way ..
Robert Greene is a treasure. He saved my life.
Take good care of yourself Sir. We really need your wisdom and knowledge. Difficult to find pure honesty nowadays.
So glad you found him. He changed my life, too. I recommend his books constantly to my clients.
Be real. You saved your life
How did he save your life?
@@PrinceKoopa I can comfortably say that Robert Greene has God-given knowledge and his wisdom describes reality with honesty. You can actually say that a man is honest by reading his books. I judge the man by his words. He is an honest man, and I invite him to read about the prophet of Islam Muhammed.
One day I realized that almost all of my best and happiest memories are of times when I was alone, and most of my sad and painful memories are when others were involved
Wow, true for me too.
@@tnt01 : I hope you find the right people around you to have great and positive memories soon. It is one of the best thing to share a great moment with other people.
@@brainstorm3k loyalty is hard to find nowadays.
Really for me too
Facts
I wish more people would realise how much of a advantage they have being alone, its truly a matter of perspective
The beauty of nature and reverence for God fixes my loneliness.
I love being alone; it’s peaceful, calm, helps me focus
We spend the most time with ourselves embrace loneliness!
Sometimes ! ... living alone is living free !
I often feel annoyed when others speak to me with condescending pity, as I prefer solitude rather than to waste time with those who drain my energy. I recognize that it's their projection, because it is the rare person who can be alone and not lonely. There is a blessing in a season of solitude. I count my true friends as blessings, like the gems they are.
Yeah I remember my parents told me they were concerned I was lonely. They then realize I really wasn't since this new age, we are able to be social online. I basically am able to stay in touch with high school friends who really are a huge good influence because of discord and social media. One friend kept wondering why I wasn't finding a woman to potentially date but he realized that I was so heavily working on myself so much that when he saw the change I made from when I met him, he realized I was working on myself first. Also that I wasn't in a rush.
At times I find myself lonely and seeking others company...I'm often disappointed when I find company.
I’ve always enjoyed being alone, and never get bored. I connect with Nature and animals easily. I love to read, learn, and express myself creatively. I’ve chosen to live alone (with cats) for most of my adult life. It’s so liberating! Many years ago I realized that I feel most like myself when I’m alone. Authenticity!
Living alone but with a cat/cats makes a lot of difference. They bring so much joy and comfort.
Me too
@@jannyhansum9716Absolutely agree!
I live alone with my cats too! One is sleeping beside me on the couch as I type this. 🙌🏽 ❤
Indeed it is🎉
You can still feel lonely and not literally live alone. Broken people make others feel more lonesome than living all alone. Being comfortable alone is a superpower in its own right
Being lonely is painful, being around others is truly intolerable.
😂😂 true
Hang in there, I know that people can overwhelm you and me. Practice, decent responses to their predictable verbal attacks(they seem like attacks). Observe what others say in similar situations.
I always reply this when people don’t understand why I enjoy to be alone: I am not alone, I am with myself ❤
I've learned to be alone I'd rather be alone then be with someone that doesn't value me
When you are alone you can be yourself.
I love being alone….rarely get lonely. Life is good. 😊
Yes🎉😮
I am alone a lot and I love it.
I am alone. I moved away from all my family 4 years ago to a different city, I don't know anyone. Fortunately I have been a loner most of my life, I am 66 so I can cope, I have hobbies. I get down times of course but what really helps me to stay happy is to count my blessings and I mean really count them. Way them up, think about them, know them. Keeps me sane and happy.
Everything I've achieved in my mini world, in my early 20s, I did it alone and I'm glad I did that. I only needed the guidance of 48 Laws of Power, Mastery, Art Of Seduction and later in the years, Laws of Human Nature. I wish people knew the power of being comfortable with loneliness.
What a great advice!
It’s good to see someone comfortable going it alone at such a young age
Which book first?
@@oneminutedaily6394 48 Laws of Power
I had a life surrounded by people, events, distractions, business. Life happened and I found myself on a journey that required being alone. Having thoroughly experienced both sides, I prefer being alone. It's the condition most conducive to spiritual awakening. "All of humanity's problems stem from mans inability to sit quietly in a room alone." Blaise Pascal.
I never feel alone when I am doing something I enjoy - I know that I am the only certain constant in my life, so I work to appreciate my solitude.
Robert, the only thing that could make your books better is if you narrate them yourself for the audiobooks❤ you are not just an excellent writter and the best story teller but your voice manage is perfect; tone, intonation etc. There is something very special about listening to you that really hipnotizes me😊
I agree!
Agreed
Absolutely agree
Abolutely, he's got a beautiful voice..
I often look to see if the author is the narrator of any audio book I’m considering. That one consideration makes up 1/2 of my decision to buy. Speaks to the writers commitment to the works! Albeit not every author has a voice that will add value.
One of the loneliest times in my life was in a crowded party full of people. The way I perceive it, loneliness is about being disconnected, feelings of abandonment, helplessness, fear, worthlessness, inadequacy and the odd one out. In solitude, my mind provides me with enough mental nourishment and stimulation, but I do like human company in small doses. Also, in the other extreme, there are people who drain your energy, by being too clingy, talkative and encroach on your personal space. That's another form of loneliness.
Aloneness is so peaceful and powerful at the same time ☺️
I love swimming, being in water, napping and sleeping alone. It’s peaceful.
Being alone and have me time is bliss!
Being alone is scary sometimes but its not so bad when it becomes more of a regular thing.
i have mastered the skill of being alone all my life; no one wanted to be a part of my life. and it continues, yes its lonely
Robert Greene is that one uncle we all need❤️!
I used to feel sad when going to social events and being the only person without a friend or spouse. Instead, I learned to embrace the time with myself and enjoy the ride. It's liberating and brings joy in the experience of life.
I love being alone …I never feel lonely 🤷♀️
In times long past, I found myself alone, without a father, scarcely any family, and no friends. It was a difficult period, until one day something came over me-I can even recall the precise moment-and ever since, I've managed to improve my life in every conceivable manner. Since this challenging phase, I've learned to be comfortable in solitude. Nowadays, I see many who struggle with it.
Hey Robert, i just wanted to let you know you are like the wise grandfather i never had. Thank you.
Being part of an online community makes me feel less alone and its often difficult to find like-minded people in the real world. Its better to be alone than having to pretend to be someone you're not just to get along.
I HATE dealing with people.
Same
Love being an introvert. I can do ok with others. But in limited doses. Alone time gives you more room to truly discover who you are. Deep reflection, really getting the chance to observe human emotions. To see people for who they really are. Quietness can cause others to feel uncomfortable. When you're ok and accepting of who you are, being around others who are quiet, won't rattle you.
I read the laws of human nature, the 48 laws of power and I just finished the 33 strategies of war 😊😊I'm now moving on to mastery
Hope you enjoy reading Mastery.
I love being alone; I revel in my abandon 🤗
every day i didn't spend alone was wasted. Robert Bly.
This is so true to be OK by yourself, I grew up an only child I had to entertain myself a lot of the time. There is peace in enjoying the beauty around you with no distractions. Some people it’s a nightmare to not have people around all the time. For me my energy is depleted being around people for very long. I do understand there needs to be a balance.
I just happen to spend most of my time thinking and having converstions inside my head so loneliness can't harm me.
My problem is that I feel lonely in the midst of other people but feel full and at peace when I’m alone
Sounds like it's not a problem at all.😊
I lost my mother just before Christmas after caring for her for three and a half years.
I've never felt more alone.
But I'm thankful I had so much time with her
God bless you and your mother.
I feel you my friend I lost my mom just before Christmas as well. I think about her and miss her everyday. Be well ❤️🩹✌️💙💪🌹🙏
@andrews127 Thank you..she was a good age of 86 but it was sudden and unexpected because she was doing well..spent the hour before singing along to Christmas Carols.
God Bless!🙏
@laurenfinucci7305 Thankyou.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Yes,it's very hard.
What was really bad for me was I took her to A+E at the hospital the day before for the same symptoms..but they put her on a drip for an hour and said I could take her home.
@@borderlord I happened to be with my mother when she passed. Same scenario as it was sudden and it was horrendous She had ischemic heart disease and the heart just stopped.
Not lonely…alone. There is a big difference.
Robert, as a digital artist and creator I thrive on being alone, but I have to take breaks on a regular basis because my work is mentally taxing. So right now I am enjoying learning from you Robert, as I have many times before. I would not be as artistically gifted if i was a social butterfly, people can be negative at times and it can be draining dealing with them. So Yes, being alone is not scary or depressing to me, it is instead a way of liberating my gift. Take Care Robert, and please know that you have helped me personally many, many times.
I create something. Then i don't want to be interrupted while in that creation mode. I'm satisfied with my inner dialogue and outward actions
It's the best thing.
I've come to love the time I spend alone. There are absolutely times when you should be sociable, just make sure to spend that time with people who you genuinely love and align with your values and direction in life; that social time will then energise you.
But on your journey to Mastery everyone must spend copious times alone and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that. Enjoy it, love it, grow, learn and be productive during that time. Take full advantage of your alone time as you will not be able to cultivate any skill without it.
I am ♋️ I love to be alone so many times and people don’t understand me
I am so grateful for this video because it will help me understand that am okay with being alone
Thanks 🙏🏽 for sharing this video
I watched a video of a psychiatrist who said the "lone wolf" mentality is a result of trauma. Speaking as a lone wolf myself, I agree with this assessment. I find much more comfort in being on my own than around people socializing, but that's because I adapted to loneliness in my childhood due to the emotional neglect I experienced. I have trust and abandonment issues, and socializing triggers a trauma response within myself, and it's the main reason I stay in solitude. I'm in therapy and trying to overcome this, but it's not easy. My safe place is in isolation, but I am aware that it's not healthy.
There's nothing wrong with finding a balance between solitude and socializing. I have the solitude part down to a science, I can probably live alone for the rest of my life, but I also know that will be a very lonely journey. There's value in both connecting with others and connecting with yourself alone, and I think bringing yourself to that middle ground is where true happiness lives.
Well said
- it is Completely normal to be alone a lot of the time
- people are Very different, do what works for you
- Appreciate yourself, someone loves you
after listening to Robert and Andrew talk about three months ago. I felt better. Robert helped me put the gun down.
I am going to survive this
I’m glad you made a video about this. Bc in the book you talk about isolation being dangerous. I prefer to be to myself most of the time it soothes me.
Love the book "Laws of human nature" - attitude changing....
I concur. Im happy talking to myself, im the only one who understands me. I challenge myself to ask questions about anything and i answer in every way my imagination or mind will allow me. Its wonderfull. To train your brain to think more is highly rewarding in so many ways, ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
I‘m very glad I found about your work! Please don’t stop sharing ur wisdom and ideas we need you
I love you Robert, i will never stop to follow you . I will be my own person, just with a litle bit of wisdom planted in me from you (books/talks/ect.. . Ty for not stoping, reasirching and learning in your youth
This is so consoling for hermits like myself. Thank you Robert Greene.
This video was put up at just the right time, thanks Robert 😊
This really resonates with me and how my situation is right now, it can be beneficial to force yourself to socialise + build connections - you’ve given me a great insight into my own mind. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thanks for adding so much value.
I have discovered Your channel only so recently but I can't exaggerate how much I appreciate the advice I am getting through Your videos and books (though I have only begun reading). Immense pleasure. Thank you!
I love you Dr Green. Thank you for existing and all the work you do and share with us 🙏🏽💕
My Greatest Mentor I have ever Meet. Always challenging my thinking and Perspective in there way I view the World and People in particular.
This helps a lot, thank you Robert
I can feel the Devine speaking directly to me through your videos and books. Today, this was right on point for where I'm at in this moment. Thank you
As a reader for decades now, I love being along and reading and writing. Wonderful video!
Supremely put.
Thank you Robert Greene! You made me realize I'm amazing and people don't have to get it. Thank you!
I have been read reading your book since 2014. I've already read each one of them. Thank you so much!
Dear Robert, I am so grateful that you exist and that you give people so much value on their path through life with your outstanding work. Cordial greetings ❤
Thanks Robert this video came to me at the right time
I'm always alone, felt different to other people especially my peers. But even tho i feel it everytime i still like it, because i prefer to have my own company rather being with fake people. Thank you Mr. Greene! We loners
/ lonely people felt heard by you.❤
Forever grateful for Roberts consistent uploads just so much wisdom
Thank you for your encouraging words. Your books kept me sane against a gaslighting world.
"Meglio soli che male accompagnati" - grande Robert :) thanks for sharing!
I have to have a dose of Mr. Robert Green at least once a day. He adds to the reshaping of my reality❤
I live alone and I enjoy robert Greene podcast instead of movies
Thank you! Like a guardian angel who protects us and keeps us on an even keel.
Kind man...love to listen..true worst tkx❤
I’m okay with being alone,it’s everyone else that thinks it’s not okay and try to send you messages that it’s weird. Thing is it’s their fear that’s too afraid of being alone.
You sound very genuine in the advice you give. Thank you for your work and effort in everything, Robert.
Thanks Robert! My best art has been born from loneliness where the art itself was both the meaning to continue and the entertainment a rich life requires.
I appreciate your knowledge