Ancient Strategies For Finding Happiness
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- čas přidán 20. 06. 2024
- What did the ancient Stoics have to say about finding happiness?
During South By Southwest Ryan Holiday sat down with Arthur Brooks to talk about how the Stoics thought about happiness, what the Stoics got wrong, his equation for happiness, and more.
Arthur Brooks is the William Henry Bloomberg Professor of the Practice of Public Leadership at the Harvard Kennedy School and Professor of Management Practice at the Harvard Business School. Brooks is the author of 12 books, including the national bestsellers “Love Your Enemies” (2019) and “The Conservative Heart” (2015). He is also a columnist for The Atlantic, host of the podcast “How to Build a Happy Life with Arthur Brooks,” and subject of the 2019 documentary film “The Pursuit,” which Variety named as one of the “Best Documentaries on Netflix” in August 2019. He gives more than 100 speeches per year around the U.S., Europe, and Asia. His new book "From Strength to Strength" (geni.us/1rgWvPX) came out in February.
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00:00 intro
00:13 - Happiness strategies from the ancients
02:55 - What did the Stoics get wrong?
06:38 - What is the equation for happiness?
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Happiness Essentials
1.Something to do
2.Someone(something) to love.
3.Somethings to hope for.
It seems that hope is essential to happiness. As for the Stoics, they may not have believed so.
"I find in the writings of our Hecato that the limiting of desires helps also to cure fears: "Cease to hope," he says, "and you will cease to fear." "But how," you will reply, "can things so different go side by side?" In this way, my dear Lucilius: though they do seem at variance, yet they are really united. Just as the same chain fastens the prisoner and the soldier who guards him, so hope and fear, dissimilar as they are, keep step together; fear follows hope. I am not surprised that they proceed in this way; each alike belongs to a mind that is in suspense, a mind that is fretted by looking forward to the future. But the chief cause of both these ills is that we do not adapt ourselves to the present, but send our thoughts a long way ahead. And so foresight, the noblest blessing of the human race, becomes perverted."
- Seneca, Letters
@@samuelhoffmann162 Interesting! I personally have never been too sure as to the extend to which hope may be relied on or wished for, if it were necessary.
Definitely keys 💯
As Griefcounselor for men, this resonates so much with me. Half of my time I work on getting men to invite emotions, feelings and sensations in their life, because frankly - blocking them can kill you. As I always say "grief doesn't kill you, but you can". To fully engage in life is not to drown in drama, but to grow through grief. Thank you again for such an eloquent explanation on this topic!
Can I ask a question. I lost my mom 19 years ago and still hurts and I think about her everyday. How or what can I do to feel better or let go. I hope you get my meaning. English is not my first language.
Nice insights 👌👍
If more men these days were introduced to stoicism in their early 20s, they would be so much happier
@@martinnielsen5805 Since no one else has tried, I will offer you part of the answer. The reason you feel pain about your mother is that you cherished her so much. So always remember that it only hurts because it (or she, or your relationship) was wonderful. It was a gift. You were really lucky. Many people never have such a gift. Remember that.
That hits home. For I think a couple months I felt like what you could call dead inside. Just felt nothing. Nothing good, nothing bad just emptiness. I thought it would eventually lead to suicide and I found that profoundly scary so I took internal steps to get better and I did. I realized that feeling was so much worse than any pain, depression or sadness. Like you said its extremely important whether good or bad that we release these feelings or else they will eventually destroy us.
As a woman, in the past, I blocked my emotions...hardened my heart...now, at present, 75 yrs later my emotions are totally unblocked., thanks so much!
I loved the story about Xeno and the part that you added, " Once you lose Everything, you are Free to do Anything". Insightful guest you had on the show today Ryan, Much Gratitude for your Service and Stoicism Philosophy! Dude this is Food for the Soul!
Hi nnbbnnn bbbnn nbnnnnn bnnb .
To watch these two minds intertwine is a joy to witness.
A "Stoic" - unemotional endurance of pain.
Quote which helps me a lot is "You don't have to have opinion."..such well said.
RE: Wanting less
You can want in a patient way. One can say, “I want that guitar pedal!”, and not be sad that they don’t have it, but have a sort of underground bubbling excitement that they will get it in the future when the time is right. The key is to want patiently and appreciate that the thing or endeavor you desire is cool enough to inspire emotions from you, but not be solely driven by it or driven by it in a way that puts others or yourself down.
There's no specific way to be happy, it's all up to you, you can define your own happiness, never let other people define it for you
great meditation to start the day=] I love the idea of finding happiness through "purpose" and finding vitality in the mortality that we each face. I love the concepts of Faith, family, friends, and being of purpose to others as our core foundation or "cornerstone" of a healthy structure.
I love Ryan & Arthur together. Arthur's old podcast "Art of Happiness" was how I heard of Ryan Holiday, Marcus Aurelius, and Stoicism. 🙏🏽
I always love these vids and wisdom man... but it's even better because the day they shared this, I mean look at it... pure green and blue all around behind them. Truly living their best :D
I am forever grateful for finding this channel. Thank You Ryan!
Your content is so valuable. Thank you so much
Each video is soul searching....God bless
Loved this episode,refreshing, could watch you two talk in this fashion for hours! 👏🏻👏🏻
Arthur Brooks is one of the only reasons I buy the Atlantic. His writings grip me every time.
He is really really good!!!
Free of passion, full of love!
Been starting to watch and read Ryan's books now and philosophy and even buddism. Wanted to say thank you for posting these and the books you have written. I'm listing to Ego is the Enemy right now and feels like the right time. Everything on my life has crashed or crashing down and the clean slate comments are dead on. Would love to meet you one day
Thank you
Great video. Will be looking in to more of Arthur Brooks’ work. Thank you
As always - wonderful stuff
Holy cow Ryan...such a great video...so many takeaways. Going to have to watch this a few times.
This is one of the best and most consistent videos. It may have it all… talking with the dead and learning from them. We have it all
That was great...Thank you
Wow.. fascinating video, thankyou so much!
I just read “From Strength to Strength” this week. Great Book. I enjoyed this video!
Hi, I enjoyed watching your video today and finding happiness through the ages!! The ancient stoics wisdom! Peace and contentment is the goal I believe...in my humble opinion. With peace you can live a good life... and love is happiness - agreed!
Great video 🙌🏼
Just watched Arthur Brooks on Rich Roll (where he mentioned Ryan). That was the first time I had heard of him. That was a great talk - as was this. I've learned a lot from this channel. Thank you.
Keep learning! 🙏🏽
Superb
😊🏴☠️
The sun glass thing gets me.
Ryan and his hands 😉 Good stuff, guys!😍
“ Faith. Family. Friendship. Work that serves others. “
Nah, secret to happiness is wearing dope shades, sitting on park bench on a beautiful day and ruminating on how great this shit is
losing all hope was freedom
Great episode also liked that your guest was a Catholic who study’s stoicism was wondering if stoicism is compatible with the Catholic faith
Thanks for the Daily Stoic. I will admit to not reading it every day.
For that they have the Occasional Stoic book
Hello Ryan. Thanks for another great video.
I have a question? Where did u get those glasses? I wanted one but orange inside.
A wonderful video, the only thing I would ask Arthur Brooks to caveat is (biological) family being one of the four keys to happiness. For those who either have none (orphans) or those who suffer terrible toxic abuse from theirs, feeling you lack family can add to the sense that you may never be happy. Having said that I interpret family to be those people who may not be biologically related to you, but like Arthur says, you can make that 2am phone call to and they'll be there for you
I was interested right up to the point where he said, “Just quit drinking.” Is that like, just say no to drugs.
Re: wanting less. In the words of Sheryl Crow “ it’s not getting what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got”
the way you think- is exactly the approach to life- and, creates feelings which solidifies your thoughts. So, staying stoic philosophy disciples my untamed mind. Enjoyed this talk- but, silly i caught myself wondering what is the receipt or paper laying there?
Being free of excessive emotionality is to be free of needless drama and strain and the Key to being free to Love totally sincerely, dead to self in order to truly live to peace
Could you share the studies which say that 50% of happiness is genetic, please? It would be interesting to look into
Yeah I'd love to see this. I think some of my issues are genetic.
Yes, if yiu get in to dr Joe dispenza which he talks about Epigenetics which means that your thoughts and emotional state can turn on/ off any type of disease and so on.
the work concept or requirement is very similar to the Japanese philosophy of Iikigi
Going through a break up right now and it’s really rough. Any insight from anyone on how to go about and feel better about the situation would be great, especially from a stoic point of view.
hey nick , hang on man , fkn hell
what you feel ... is it
inside you or outside you ?
FFs man don’t let your ego get in the way, and you’ll be fine x
Break ups are tough and it’s okay to feel sad/angry or any other emotions about it. What helped me is the notion that you may continue to love someone but that that doesnt mean that you two are a good match for a relationship. Stoic notion: focus on what is inside of your control and recognise what is outside of it. What was inside your control was trying to be a good partner and voice your needs/boundaries, what is outside is how they treat you and whether they decide to stay with you. Now that it’s over you can’t control the thoughts and emotions you have about the break up, but you can control how you respond to them. What helps is framing what happend in a way that helps you. Know when to distract yourself, when to talk about your feelings or when to write them down. Take care
@@lmvdam this helps so much. Thanks a ton for taking the time to write out this wisdom, you’re the best
Hey Nick, a little insight for you about this hard time you going through: everyone we meet in our life are given to us on loan... They come and they are returned back either by death or by growing apart, breakup, moving away or any other way.. We never owned them in the first place itself so hoping that they will stick around forever is quite wrong. Be grateful they came, you had your moment together and acknowledge that your relationship has run it's due course and so they are returned back.
Also, nothing is permanent anyway, so it was bound to happen if not today then some other day. Give yourself a little time you I m sure you will bounce back better than ever. Hope this helps.
It is meaning, not happiness that matters.
Thanks be to God for Arthur!
I love the stoics philosophy.
I agree with the truth he speaks.
Also practicing Catholic.
God is love. ❤️🫶🏽
"You will be wise when you start talking to the dead" books
I love that "I've got this amazing technology: don't drink!" I need to apply that to my diet. Definitely feel like I'm a slave.
Real friends. Not deal friends.
100% pure awesomeness. Right on the money. Listen to it. Rinse. Repeat.
Chairman Mao was a real stoic. Can we talk about him
This guy is OBVIOUSLY on the tread mill of pushing his latest book. These guys always crack me up because at the end of the day they're all about the COIN while saying "I'm trying to help the people". Funny.
Good video but when they talk about habits they gloss over and discount the daily habits such as taking care of ones health and being responsible for that. You can be doing the other habits they speak of but if you aren’t taking care of your health you will not be happy
My last words would be:
I'm so thankful that I took Psilocybin 🍄 in my thrirties and develped an amazing relationship with my Soul and God thereafter :).
Bhai Mani Singh who lived a noble life of sacrifices_the executioner tried to take a short cut being ordered by moghul oppressors to chop his body limb for limb_Bhai Mani Singh to do his job properly to the executioner
Islamic perspective on these issues ?
I don't have a family or friends. 😭
Also happiness is your inheritance, Jesus came to give us life that overflows with joy, He takes our burdens in place of His yolk which is Love...I only seek what's God driven, you will know it's God cuz it's a calling it draws you, and worldly pleasure it's fleeting, it's outside of me, it's dependent..I'd rather know I can be happy because that is my inheritance because of Jesus Christ, I don't have to suffer that's optional..Happiness is already IN me, it's recognizing the outter world is made up, it's the inner world that can set you free:)
Jesus never preached radical love my guy he preached love but not radically
Guy on left was uncomfortable with the first guy having a cult so hurriedly asks to move on to the next thinker who ironically turns out to be Jesus Christ lmao
Sikhism and Gurus _sacrifice_selfless service_a deep ocean
I can’t take the music in the background
Not looking particularly happy.
This guy talks about "the next life" and how the Stoics "never got anything wrong". Sorry Ryan, this dude is one of the self help "spiritual charlatans" and beneath you. Protect your legacy and reputation - it's far above this wanna be Deepak Chopra character.
How to be happy. Step 1 wear cool shades. Step 2 be skinny. Step 3 wear cool shades while being skinny in a nice grassy park as fat people walk behind you in the background.
The best way to become happy is to quit drinking alcohol before you piss every single drop of gratitude out of your body 💫✊🚱