The Scariest (but most effective) Way To Improve Mental Health
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#psychology #shadowwork #carljung
Timestamps:
What Is Psychological Projection: 0:00
An Example Of Projection: 1:03
The Sad State Of Most People: 3:31
Dave: 4:54
What You Need To Realize: 6:00
Where Your Shadow Formed: 7:38
How To Find Your Shadow: 8:28
How To Integrate Your Shadow: 8:58
How To Fix Your Insecurities: 11:14
Topics: shadow work for beginners, shadow work explained, carl jung shadow, how to do shadow work
Itâs important to note that thereâs a lot of nuance with this. Not everything you dislike in others is a reflection of what you dislike/repress within you.
It might as well be that you are the reflection to someone else's shadow, causing them to act up in your presence. Wouldn't be the first time I would see that with those who have authority over me and by that point should have done the mental work to be in this position, in the first place.
I was going to say that sometimes I am triggered because people of influence are sharing damaging/mean-spirited attitudes, or I am triggered by reckless drivers who are about to run me over while I am in a crosswalk, or countless situations where people disrespect safety or the law. However, I can be triggered when people say, "Excuse me," which is definitely me being whack.
So, the question is "How do I know if what I dislike about someone, is a reflection or not?" đ€
' Solving 9-11 by Christopher Bollyn . '
more like what you wish you had
itâs crazy how once i actually started to love myself, natural compliments came out much more often
People can feel that energy you give off for sure
Maybe cause if you love yourself youâre less sad, less sad = more energetic and people like that :))
I like to pee in nature as a fetish should I fix this?
@@forest7455 peeing in nature is natural. Do you think early humans had toilets?
Dive inward, recognize what you hate about yourself, write it down, and come up with a plan on how to fix it, I'm better at exploring my shadow through art, so recently I wrote a story where I went through almost everything I hate about myself then recorded videos breaking down the story, put the story and those videos all together in my video "Doomer Hates Himself" this whole process was very therapeutic for me and help me understand what's wrong with me, now I'm currently working on fixing it
That is a very unique idea! Definitely seems like a good way to come to terms with all parts of yourself and your past good and bad
I'm currently dealing with self-hate due to stuff I like and others find weird. And that's smth I can't fix, though x-x And I can't find people IRL in my area who share what I like. So I'm stuck, whci makes me depressed etc. since 2-4 years. But in general, yes, that's a great idea :)
sometimes its useful for you to hate yourself
part of Adlerian theory states that one uses his emotions as tools to help them achieve or maintain something about themselves; contrary to the popular narative which is : those negative emotions have some past cause , so point is if you consider it , you should ask yourself how you can achieve those same goals without using your shadow , or in your case, how can you stay creative if you no longer have a shadow to express?
based name and improvement method
@@calebyoung8805 thank you brother
Something I hate about others is how every time I try to hang out with them, they always tell me that theyâre too busy to hang out. Either that, or they never respond to my texts and/or calls.
Iâm not that kind of person. If somebody asked me if I wanted to hang out with them, Iâd try to make time for them even if I was busy. I canât say the same about the people I try to hang out with.
I have 2 groups of friends Iâve known for years and one group is my gamer friends and theyâre all introverted/shy so they tend to flake on me the most and are hard to hangout with. (I usually have to take initiative on everything.) However, my other group of friends are outgoing/confident so they actually hit me up to hangout and theyâre always down to do something every weekend.
So consider the type of people they are, or it could just be that they donât like you lmao it is what it is
It's hard to surround yourself with the right people for you, but I wish you the best of luck and I'll try to do the same for myself
A good way to not take things personally when people are mean to you is to just realize that they are obviously going through something and have some issues of their own that they need to sort out. Just like you said, it's a projection of themselves. They are treating you like their mirror at home, in a way. I used to get upset at mean people, but now I just feel bad for them. This was a great video, Cole :)
Bro this helped a ton. Thereâs an emotionally tough kid on my sports team who Iâve been trouble communicating with as a natural empath. I think he may be struggling with this. Thanks for making me aware, Cole!
Thanks for watching!
One of the most scary things you could do in life is *taking a look at yourself* and *see the flaws you have* . It scares the sh1t outta me, but man it is neccesary for growing up and becoming the best version of yourself that you can possibly be \m/
YEH MATE ITS F WILD CRAZY AND HELPFUL
I dont see whats so scary about it
This is the route of so much bullying and discrimination. I hope after watching this that anyone who's been on the receiving end of people projecting their dark side can see that it was never really about them, and feel better knowing that. Amazing video Cole!
I think there is something else worth noting: as you previously mentioned in your video about "writing every thought down", the human brain is a real idea generator. Around 6'000 thoughts cross the human mind every day. We cannot assume that every negative thought about others is a manifestation of our shadow self, otherwise, this would mean that we are secretly everything bad that our brain thinks of and our emotions get triggered by. That's simply not possible.
Also, intrusive thoughts are a real thing. We cannot start paying attention to every little thought and attribute it to our shadow self, we might end up becoming the monsters that we fear.
I don't know if you are an INFJ, Cole, but your videos have resonated with me so much on a spiritual level. Lots of success to you:)..you are a gem.
Don't forget that the Myers Briggs test is best used to identify/share what kind of personality you (might) have and not scientifically proven and not real stuff (just like astrology is not real/cold reading).
I'm an Infp and I can resonate with his vids as well
A lot of us men (incl. me) are emotional nowadays, but imho it can be fixed. It's impossible to shut down emotions and nobody should even try that, but with stoicism the point is to live by principles, not emotions. It's perfectly normal to feel emotions, but we must learn how to control them and not be controlled by them, like most of the people, because when being controlled by emotions we can make really, reeeally stupid desicions and reactions. Feel emotions, live by principles.
For some people, that's not easy, sadly. Emotional dysregulation is sadly a thing for some mental and neurodevelopmental discorders. I'm jealous of people who have the ability to choose when to react and regulate their emotions. I either have way too strong ones or none at all + depressed.
@@Chizuru94 i fully agree with you, but I believe in you and I am sure you can achieve whatever you want. We are not perfect but we can improve more than we can think of. Stay hard
Eh... It's a fools journey in my opinion. Your emotions are not produced by you, but if you know how they work, you can influence them.
You should not suppress or ignore emotions because those chemicals in your body will always be there.
Iâve been watching you for a while now, but over the past year or so, youâve really leveled up, and put out so many highly substantive videos on a whole other level!
You also go against the grain of a lot of self improvement conventional wisdom that I really appreciate
that means a lot. Thank you my friend
The insight provided in this video reminds me of that time in Naruto when Naruto was training on turtle island with Killer B and had to go inside of a cave to accept his âdarker self,â the side of him that harbored negative feelings towards himself, others, and the leaf in regards to his past and how he was treated. After confronting and fighting this dark version of him, he then hugged his âdarker selfâ which was basically a sign of him accepting his âshadowâ as Cole puts it. It was a very vulnerable moment and this was a great video.
I swear if I ever see you in real life, i will give you a big hug. You are amazing Cole
I feel like I've been doing this for years now but there's always more layers to peel away it feels. Everytime you accept a different part of yourself you become more powerful, its like an anime. I always thought this kind of progress everybody was self motivated to make but I think that's my own trauma and all the acid and mushrooms I used to do making me curious about it. Good video to really spell out this issue as everybody goes through this.
It's a continual process for sure. I always find new layers too
I usually don't click on your videos even if im subscribed to your channel, cuz i know that you tell the hard to swallow truth, and it triggers my insecurities and fear, but im convinced that the only way to get over it is to face it. TY COLE
I genuinely think this might be the best video you have ever made next to your love shortage video, Cole, Excellent Job!
This is definitely one of my favourite Cole Hastings videos it just explains a lot of stuff Iâm going through so I appreciate u Cole đ
Each and every one of your videos is such an eye opener, thank you for what you do!
I also dont like people when i meet them and see them only a few times, when they say "If somebody hurts you, let me know, i wil go after them etc" when they spot my weakness.. It feels like cant i stand up for myself? I feel im being judged weak then.
And yes, i was bullied, and people hitted me etc. So i geus that reminds me of that.
Normally Iâm a passive viewerr but, Cole I just started watching your channel this past year and I gotta say your story telling and general content is amazing and itâs was cool being able to see u improve! One of the few CZcamsrs I actually recommend to people.
I absolutely love how you make this so understandable. Thank you
That sooooooo true Cole!!! I hate fake though people!
I quite easily express my emotions (anger sadness, anxiety )in front of other , I donât care. Not because imma girl (even if Iâm very proud being a women). I donât need to build big muscle to show my strong persona, Iâm already strong mentally because with or without people I can change my thinking ( like things Iâm grateful for, the bright side cet) and be happy.
Itâs when I admit my insecurities, it makes me stronger.
def one of the best self improvement yters crisp editing story telling and always sharing with us new cool topics !!
Appreciate that bro!
I'm so happy someone is putting this on blast!!! I've been doing the work myself and its the best
Man, you make the most informative videos like damn , ur channel will help so many ppl find direction
Been here since 90k
Your growth is inspiring keep going!
you helped me a lot these past couple of months.
Thank you cole.
you are the best of all of selfimprovment videos, while watching your videos i can felle my brani change like it is beem doing a workout, i truly appreciate the work you do for all your subscribers
I'm floored. This was an art piece, not just a timely message captured in a video. I have been doing the work and learning through a lot of pain and karmix life lessons. Thank you Cole, you're truly a solid creator. I cherish this video and we appreciate you !
I appreciate the very kind words. Thank you
Cole, your channel is sooo inspiring to me! Not only your content is great, but the quality of your videos is also amazing. đđ»
Thank you
This was really moving and motivating! Thank you.
Brilliant video, I do see myself being critical and judgemental of others and definitely trying to understand why and stop the behaviour
When the world needed him the most he came , great video Cole
I have come across your channel accidentally while searching for something to bring me out of my life sh*t. And I have to say you're doing some great job with your videos. They are eye-opening! Thank you!
Iâm glad you made this video. I already accepted my shadow self a couple years ago. But thanks to this video I can confirm a few things and I also now have the word âshadow selfâ to use when addressing this in the future.
I needed this, at this exact moment, you just unlocked something within me
Happy to help ya
I saw the title and thought "Yay! I can see this with Cole's perspective!"
Much love
@@ColeHastings It was great!
Amazing video Cole. Congrats on 400k
I've heard of this, thanks for explaining
Your channel is godsend keep up the great work!!!
Honestly beautiful, thank you.
Thanks for the videoâ€ïž
Great video. The big thing for me is that I immediately act annoyed & frustrated whenever someone else acts cocky, self-righteous, even just confident, etc. It could simply be jealousy, not sure though. Something to look into. Thanks for the vid!
thanks man you really helped me throughout these 2 years
Much love brother
Keep up the good work đđŒđđŒ
That was the most simplest explanation of shadow concept I have ever listened on internet. Awesome work Cole đ
But it is wrong / oversimplified, shadow cannot be integrated. It is just continous process (continous integration which can never be fullu integrated - otherwise it stops becoming shadow) And there is always shadow.
Damn this is the best video manâš,today I felt low because of my insecurities and coincidently you posted this video today
this has to be one of the best messages youâve sent yet.
great explanation man very eye opening
i was pretty lucky to realize this at a pretty young age i think i was 14-15 or something and it has helped a lot
but i since started to surpress a lot of my shadow side again
to the point where i read the title and thumbnail and was a little scared to click on it because i knew what it was about
but it helped a lot i need to act on this again thank you
Good stuff man. These narratives are your strong suit along with your honesty and vulnerability. Donât be like these other self improvement jerk offs copying each other. If I were you Iâd just do my own thing and see where it evolves organically. I wouldnât even watch the other CZcamsrs in this space. The one about the dying grandpa was great too. Now this must be what lifeâs about!
It helped me a lot brother. Thanks a lot â€
Amazing content man!
Loved this video. đ€đŒ
Great video my man
Awesome Vid Bruh! I havenât watches all of your vids⊠but from the ones I have seen⊠this is my fave!đ„łđ„°đ Resonated a lot!
Unrelated, maybe, but this video (and it's really good, don't get me wrong) reminds me of Persona 4. The main characters were in the same situation discussed here and had to literally accept their shadow selfs also :)
Great video. The truth will set you free.
This is the first time I've paid attention to an ad, nice cut-awayâ€ïž. And yes, the heart is me expressing my suppressed feminine side
I love this video!
what stands in the way becomes the way
Great content. Loved your video on cannabis. Can't wait to see your brand grow đȘ
I never thought about it that way
bro i am from India.i have been suffering from mental health issues lately.your vedios are very helpful for meâ€â€â€â€
Love the video, broseph...
This video was well put. However, I would like to add a few things and some words of warning. Opening up the door that is accepting and understanding your shadow is like jumping into a permanent free fall. This is not something you can turn your back on and revert to your old ways. Should you try to revert this through repression, you will feel your shadow in a much more present way. The journey of accepting your shadow is going to be difficult and it will likely be a lifelong journey. It is going to be painful if you truly try and delve into yourself. You will find things that disgust you and will be painfully difficult to accept.
I would like to expand on a few things and issue a few warnings from things I have experienced as I have started progressing through my own shadow. Be mindful of ego inflation. This will burn you if you come across the shadow as something easily conquered. The femininity expressed in this video could be the shadow, but also could be something else. The Anima is the inner feminine side of the male and the Animus is the inner masculine side of the female. Be aware of these two things within your psyche. Jung compared the shadow and the anima/animus in this next analogy. If conquering and integrating the shadow is known as the apprentice piece, the anima/animus is known as the masterpiece.
These things I am saying are by no means meant to scare you.
Please prepare yourself though. Write in a journal the things you find while engaging in shadow work. Have someone to confide in about your findings. Everybody is different, but talking or writing it out will go a long way in making this more bearable. Keep yourself in a routine and keep yourself interacting with other people. The shadow can subsume the ego (your conscious thoughts) if you are not careful. Take it slow and be thorough. You will find so many benefits in doing shadow work. Listening to "Ending your Inner Civil War" by Carl Jung is a great place to start in this journey. This video can be found on CZcams and it is one of my favorites. You can pull something new out of this video each and every time you watch it.
I am not even two years into my own personal journey of discovering and understanding my shadow so please take my warnings and advice with a grain of salt. Just remember, you can do this. Listen to yourself and keep yourself grounded by observing patterns within your writing or within your conversation with others. I wish you all luck as you start this journey!!
I just started my youtube channel in the same space as you and boooyy I frikkin love the edits Cole and the thumbnail!
Best channel right here
great video!
Your videos are such a great help to me and they are a terrific resource to have on the web. You are a very talented man! Thanks for your generous sharing. Are all of us sometimes missing our English usage a bit, such as with comparatives and superlatives? (closer, not more closer?) Thanks for all your work!
Love it!!!
A fact. Itâs all about self awareness and constant reflection.
the first thumbnail was good but the second is definitely better
love the andrew rate analogy
Thank you once again for this video, Cole. I badly needed to watch/hear this right now. In my case, I think I have already identified one negative quality of my shadow self and that is the fact that I sometimes get envious of someone. I hate the feeling because I know I should NOT feel that way but I do. My main concern now is HOW do I actually "fix" it? What should be the "process" of accepting it as part of myself? Help.
Cure to everything -self awareness ..
This video is by far the best one I can say ...
Hamza was doing really good still is .. but this guy made a video that actually works the right way
Just felt the shit you said instantly i felt calm amd happy
You are the best CZcamsr on the platform period, end of story
I like the perspective
Got yourself a new sub đ
Thank You Cole. Really good one this ! Your the best I prob owe you thousands in therapy bills. Much respect to you & hope your doing well day to day mate.
Peace as Always from the UK.
The shadow is an interesting concept! Your feelings and fears always try to tell you something, even if we as a species often rationalise things .. which often makes it harder in the long run .. but not even biology is perfect.. perfect is just an idea and not real . Where the fear is is where your challenge are and what sets you free.
Our ancestors had to face their fears on a daily basis and lived very different lives then we live in western society. We are often as free as an animal in a zoo.. so itâs understandable that people suffer from mental disorders when we are separated from our true biology
Great video bro!
Thank you
Wow. This video is so needed. Thank you for sharing!! :-)
Thanks
Great video brother
Thank you
This strikes a chord for me it reminds me of the book no bad parts by David Schwartz where he talked about learning and interacting with your inner parts. Gonna be mindful the next time I get triggered again
Really do appreciate Guts and Griffith in the background :)
This video sounds like a Persona game! Good stuff.
Literally what I did today lol the timing
Thank you. Saved my horrible day that was just about to end horribly before i decided to watch this video...
Much love, hope it gets better for ya
Joined NA about 7 months ago and this is basically the main point of âliving life on lifes termsâ, we always say everyone should work a 12 step lol
i also have difficulty to express myself the way i want.. i loose sense of self-esteem to communicate with anyone especially new friend until i develop social-anxiety symptom.. i hope by watching your content gonna help me
me too mane, me too
Oh Shit my guy on 399k. Thatâs less than 1000 from 400k people.
Well done man. You deserve it.
Itâs a good day when cole uploads
:)
facts
This whole video is like a summary of the game _Celeste,_ I love it!! :D
Good job Cole! Did you ever read Teal Swanâs book âThe completion processâ? There is a lot in common with her book and the content of your video.
I have not! thanks for watching
Adore your videos.
Damn this video slapped
PERSONA!