Life with ADHD: 5 Things I Wish I Knew A LOT Sooner
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- čas přidán 2. 07. 2024
- I share 5 things I would warn my 21-year-old self about life with ADHD.. These tips are applicable to anyone with ADHD, regardless of age. From finding your people to embracing personal finance, adopting a growth mindset, and committing to a healthy lifestyle, these tips will help you live your best life with ADHD. Tune in for practical advice and valuable insights!
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I was diagnosed a year and a half ago, at age 60. Since then, I have learned how to exercise almost every day, and I have never been stronger, and I have learned how to declutter (Dana K. White has the key for us!) so my home is also better than ever. I would have told my young self how much satisfaction and calm comes from those two! If I had really understood the rewards, I might have been able to do it. Now I’m nearing the end of the house project, and inventing the rest of my life. 😊
Great content
How many career changes?
Caren -- I'm glad I found your videos. I was given a 'tentative' diagnosis for primarily unattentive adhd.about 10 years ago. I am now 72 and still trying to figure things out. When I think back through my life the diagnosis made so much sense. It gave a context to all the trouble I've been through, jobs I've lost, relationships I trashed by being impulsive and many other things. I have tried to tell my family members and my partner and they don't seem to get how much impact it has on my life. I wish there was a support group around here( southern BC) but I think we're all in the closet . Keep up the good work
The growth mindset is one of the things that I appreciate the most. It really helps me, when times are tough. And that everything in my home, should have a place (else it is hard to clean up).
I am now learning that my needs are as important as other's, that I matter and to respect my limits. And to find my people :)
Thank you for sharing your list 🤗
I'm 62. The resources and verbiage we have now we DIDN'T have when I was 21. I started the exercise but then realized it felt disingenuous, even futile and depressing because even if I could go back in time, there's not much I could say unless I were able to spend a year with her to teach her what I've learned over the past 2 years since I started researching before my official diagnosis.
Ah. But the one thing I WOULD tell her that didn't sink in until a year ago is "your sister-in-law is NOT your friend. Do not trust her. She will pretend but does not even LIKE you." Yes, it took me 45 years to realize this. I'd also tell her that no matter what she does, her brothers will never believe in or respect her, so don't spend another minute working, hoping, or fawning for it. It just won't happen.
So I move forward, building my best life NOW. Focusing on now and the future.
Surrounded by dirty surfaces, clutter + items all over my apartment I expressed frustration with my "disability." While trying to blend a smoothie I said aloud: I am frustrated with how my mind works. This inhibits my getting things done: cleaning, decluttering, putting things away, ,,,,
I wish you were around with this great information when I was 21!!
Hi there. I’m an ADHD coach for women and I really resonate with this video content- I shared it with my clients some of whom are in their 20’s and I hope they really take it to heart. Thank you
Omg I I’m 44 and just found out I’m neurodivergent/ADHD 2 years ago and you are my savior 🙌⭐️❤️💯
Man, I wish this lady could live on to the rest of eternity. She's an angel. Her advice is gold and I wish her the best!
Thank you, Caren. Great lifehacks. Much love❤
This is a must rewatch.😊
I would have told myself to ditch my daughter's father, the alcohol, the cocaine, my parents. Move to Dennis Port with my daughter and then once there. Get your hormones in check and change your freaking diet!!🎉🎉 (I'd been loving me McDonald's a little too much at the time) Find your passion and cashiering at stop and shop ain't it😂
I get to go journal about this. Brought up a ton of stuff to look at,
Another great financial book and easy read;
Stop Overthinking Your Money by Preet Banerjee.
Canadian author but message is universal.
thanks for that!!!
The video quality is way better now
How would you recommend an ADHD brain to deal with grief? Without your whole life going down the drain by throwing the good habits throwing out the window
don't ignore your feelings and find support
Don’t fall for the hype of new relationships and sweet talking B.S. artists. Use post it notes when you have a cool idea. Your children may have ADHD, get them diagnosed even if you have no intention of medicating them because later they will be suspected of lying about their symptoms to get the needed meds when they hit college. If your memory stinks quit relying on it, set alarms, write things down, and know that having memory issues doesn’t make you stupid or bad. If you are listening to a teacher or a group conversation and miss something, it’s ok to say, “I’m sorry my mind went on a tangent and I missed something,” and ask a question. Don’t make big decisions you know are bad to please loud loved ones, they will live, and you may have to take the lead in their weak areas or pay the consequences again and again for their blind spots. You’re not dumb because you feel like a cuckoo clock leaving the house in the morning because you forget things, maybe you could benefit from a post it note by the door and have a laugh when you forget to look at it! Learn about relaxation, it is impossible to be anxious and relaxed at the same time and a relaxed body helps the mind relax and become clear and creative. Life is good, notice the goodness, and thank God for blessings, beauty and challenges that we learn from. You are loved and lovable even if you haven’t found your people yet 💜💚🩷
Hi Caren, I really like your content. I have some symptoms of ADHD and I haven't consulted a psychiatrist yet but can u please give me some tips to focus on my studies. I'm unable to study and my head is always messed up with thoughts.I really need some guidance
Seek out therapy through school. Try to get a diagnosis in order to try meds (Strattera is a non-stimulant if you are concerned) and get accomodations if needed. You can't force yourself to study. Our brains don't work like that.
Another great channel is How to ADHD. So many excellent practical and validating videos! Plus she just wrote a book by the same title I believe. Best of luck to you.
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Yeah will be working on it . Thanks for taking ur time and replying😁
The book “learning how to learn” really helped my husband.
Here are three things that helped me graduate from university (with a masters, even).
1. Spreading classes out over the day and then studying between classes. I was much more likely to study in one-hour breaks between classes than if my classes were done by noon and then I was supposed to study.
2. Pick your study location wisely. My husband liked the library so he could focus. I would just fall asleep there. Studying in semi-busy hallways worked better for me. Kept me awake but didn’t have too many distractions.
3. If a class has a lab, go do your homework there, if possible. Then you’ve got some body doubling going on and also, if you get stuck your help is right there. (Try a bit first before asking for help. The answer will stick better that way.)
Definitely try and get a diagnosis and meds. Wish I’d had them back then.
The suggestions below are a great starting point. Your school should have support that you can lean on. Also consider if you're studying topics that interest you. We don't get to choose all our courses, but try to customize your classes to your interests as much as possible.
I took my father''s baby boomer advice to "Go to law school." I hated law school! One thing that really helped me was the Pomodoro method. Set a timer. Study for 25 minutes. Take a break for 5 minutes. Repeat. Something about setting the timer enabled me to start. Knowing I would get a break soon helped me push through. Adjust the time as necessary. I liked 30 minutes of studying and then a 10 minute break. Also chewing mint gum! Something about the chewing motion helps us concentrate and the mint helps with wakefulness. Good luck!
There’s nothing wrong with you. You are not lazy and stupid. You can do it!
Is there an add spectrum?
My sister and i identify SO much with symptoms, at 57 and 62.
But primary doctors don't agree. She finally got a referral from hers for test but said dont get your hopes up.
Hi Karen I’m not sure what a ADHD coach is I thought maybe I might need one but what I really need is lab work I am trying to figure out if your an ND, because if so then I can schedule a meeting with you, and you can order it. Please don’t take this as a negative but I just found you today and I’ve watched through several of your videos, and the common theme I found is you “stating” “the problem”, but what most are looking for is the “solution” I’m not saying a supplement is the answer for everyone but I know Im probably deficient in areas due to my diet. I haven’t found a video where you mention “maybe your low in vitamins, minerals, etc…..” Trying to figure out what you offer, and what you are here for, it’s not clear in your videos. Most people already know the “problem”.
There’s nothing wrong with you. You are not lazy and stupid. You can do it!