"I Regret Transitioning and So Will You"
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please PLEASE remember to take your time and do not rush into transitioning. i would never want anyone else to have to experience something like this. the transitioning and detransitioning rate has been on the rise lately. transitioning has very permanent and serious affects on you so just please be aware of how serious transitioning really is. not to make this into a serious rant but you have so much time, take your time and you will discover who you are.
It WAS destroying her body in the sense that she took medication for something she didn't have, in the same way that if you take an antidepressant when you don't need it, you might get seratonin disorder. This article should've been more of a nuanced position of making sure you're ACTUALLY trans before you transition because it is permanent and not everyone is or will be transgender even if they want to be, instead of saying it doesn't work and it won't work for anyone and it's "mutilation"... if you're not trans and you transition, YOU WILL GET DYSPHORIA. YOU CANNOT JUST SAY YOU'RE TRANS AND YOU'LL MAGICALLY BE TRANSGENDER. In my opinion this is the result of people saying that you don't need dysphoria to be trans, non trans people transitioning, and then the dysphoria they gain leaving them extremely mad at the trans people who told them that they didn't need dysphoria.
Love how u like your own comment 😂
hey sam! i’m trans and have been out for a year. i have a supportive family who have supported me and have helped me get in touch with specialists. i’m in the uk and want to go private so i can be seen quicker and i’m 100% positive testosterone will make me a lot happier. would you say 16 is too young? :)
I’m off t 😰
Glad that Sam and others show that not all trans people aren't confused Other LGBT thinking their different.
My sister, a female since birth, has her driver's license marked as male, by accident and hasn't bothered to change it and I dont know where I'm going with this.
Jajsjshs I'm crying
it would be a good idea for her to change it because women get lower car insurance rates.
when I got my drivers license when I was 16 the DMV gave me no restrictions even though I'm legally blind. so legally I can drive without glasses, however that would be a very bad idea
Hahahah my sisters passport says male
Tessa Red same with me!!
“I saw so many chemo success stories written by cancer patients that I thought, hey, I should do chemo too even though I didn’t have cancer!”
Perfect analogy.
You made me spit my toothpaste, congrats!
I laughed to hard at this.
As someone who used to have cancer this is hilarious
@@venus6987 I'm happy to hear you're better now ❤️
“Mutilated? No. That’s sex.” -wise words from Greek sculpted man
Mmmmmmhmmmmm
Mutilated? No. Actually very very pretty boy.
zeus could n e v e r
He ain't wrong
and money
Hi Sam.... I’m new here and so glad I found you.
I’m a 57 year old woman and you have gifted me with insight I was lacking.
Thank you for that.
Lisa
It's so nice to see someone from an "older generation" still keeping an open mind and still trying to learn. Maybe there is hope for us trans people. Thank you for that, I hope you stay healthy and happy.
this comment made my day :)) only a few members of my famy will ever be supportive of me and my decisions, so seeing this just makes me glad that there might be trans children who dont have to have transphobic parents/grandparents :)
THATS GONNA MAKE ME CRY OMG
OMG LISA WE STAN ☝️😩
LISA WE LOVE YOU ❤️
“I stopped testosterone cold turkey without even seeing my doctor”
-wonders why her hormone levels are way off-
I mean, that's what I did when I went off testosterone twice
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...
yes, and have yo tried stop taking Antibiotics in the middle of a cold? It happens the same
yeah u should always ease off gradually, sudden hormone changes can cause problems
Realy smart ,..
"I once got into a car crash so now no one should be able to drive"
Honestly? There is a high mortality rate with traffic we should just make everything trains. *Cries in gay and disabled and unable to drive*
There's a huge difference between getting into a car accident and making the insane decision to pretend that you're someone you're not.
@@deydraniadiancecht8298 ya car accidents are dangerous as fuck and could end your life as well as that of others. Being confused about who u are is a very chill thing the worst outcome of that is some harm to yourself and the annoyance of others. It's rather unlikely it would put anyone but you in any danger at all so it's not really a problem..
It was the car commercials....I'm so sorry you suffered....
More like: "I once got into a car crash because I though I was ready to drive on the highway after my first driving ed class ever, so therefore no one should be able to drive."
wild. i lost 50 pounds on T because i stopped being so depressed and began to feel more comfortable in my body.
i know..i mean, the logic is just wonderful! makes full sense.
**cough cough** sarcasm **cough cough**
@Simon W. your appetite probably increased with your happiness maybe? not that they're the same, but that's why a lot of anti-depressants result in weight gain, because depression suppresses your appetite.
it can work the other way around though, like if someone used food and/or binges often to cope with their depression, feeling happier means they dont need to run to food as often, so they lose weight.
Nyctophile I use food to cope sometimes and I still gain weight on antidepressants ugh, so it’s not all black and white. Actually it’s almost _worse_ when I’m happy in a weird way because I’m not always worrying about what I eat or how I look to other people. Now that might sound good but its effects aren’t. But yeah that is true for a lot of people.
@@ashleyk8406 i definitely agree with you, nothing in life is ever black/white.
your metabolism might be out of balance due to going back and forth between not really eating and eating, which might be causing your weight gain. when your body doesnt get enough food your metablism slows to compensate, so that when you do eat, it will digest slower to conserve and absorb more energy.
when you start eating "normally" again, its going to take a while for your metabolism to return to its normal levels, so you're going to experience pretty rapid weight gain for a bit. if you continue eating well though, itll go back to normal and tht weight will come off naturally.
i know all this because i have an ED, and ive experienced this more than once. just thought you might want to know :)
Nyctophile Thank you love.
This sounds like a transgender fan fiction by a straight person. Especially when she says “I forced people to play along with it.”
It really does lol. I want to live in that world where everyone is just accepting and encouraging you to be transgender. 🤣
@@kairi4640 for real! Me too. I don’t understand what people get out of being so hateful.
Yeah, this story sounds a bit fake. As a cis person, there are some inaccuracies here that make it sound like someone didn't do research. Could be they exaggerated in the story, could be they are really that impulsive and don't pay attention, but IDK...
What gets me is she says she practically transitioned only a couple weeks after starting hormones, idk how it works in America but where I live you have to live as a man without hormones for a full year before you’re waitlisted for surgery
*cis person
The whole article is basically: "I took cold pills even though I don't have a cold, and I'm mad about it"
Check out Keira Bell’s case she won in the UK. The judgement reading is interesting.
Lol or like putting gorilla glue in your hair
"...so now i'm mad about it. therefore, people with a cold don't take cold pills."
@@kumashock4074 don't be racist please. We don't need that here.
@@Vyper78 What-?
This girl was obviously impulsive and can't own her mistakes, at least not the right ones. But there is social problems to blame, it's the homophobia that led her to hate her own sexuality and desesperatly trying to scape society's prejudice, and bad therapists. People accepting trans people is not the social problem here.
The problem is that this girl is probably fake
Laura Lorenzi also stubbornness, she said she would have let it kill her, before admitting her mistake, and that same stubbornness is what lead to blaming trans ppl
I think this all started when her father didn't accept her, and kicked her to the curb. Maybe that's why she felt so much hatred.
•happy• •always• the majority of a child’s problems come from bad parenting. 🤧😢
It’s just in today’s world blaming bad parents doesn’t happen psychologists come up with a new disorder.
@@k3th.b.w122 it is sad. I'll never understand why people kick their kid out because they are gay or pregnant. That's terrible parenting.
this girl said the only opinion she will ever care about is her grandfather’s but then proceeded to say she didn’t want to quit testosterone cause she was afraid of what people might think 🤔🤔
mte like the entire thing is precisely about her caring way too much about what literally everybody else might think and not even stopping to think about what's actually right for her :/
Literally
N P H exactly
IM WEAKKKKKKKK
N P H
There can be some middle ground. Instead of believing the world should cater and center around you only, make efforts to bring others in.
Of course you should be true to oneself but always keeping others feelings a priority. Give understanding of others as a marker in life.
If everyone is about their self this will become a lonely world.
This feels like a cis person who’s never seen a trans person looked up the side effects of hormones and wrote a fanfic without any more research
yep
I’m curious what are all the side effects? Why would taking t make you gain weight?
@@magnarcreed3801 He said it in the video. Men naturally have more muscle so being on testosterone would give you a little more muscle, and muscle weight a lot more than fat. She gained muscle lol
@@pissapocalypse
She described gaining fat, or at least that’s what it sounded like to me. Just threw me off a bit.
@@magnarcreed3801 She might've. I think hormones might cause people to lose or gain weight but dont quote me on that. Other factors like depression and anxiety can definitely make you lose or gain weight, but I really doubt it was the testosterone that made her gain over 50lbs
Detransitioining is sad
But just because you regret doesnt mean other people will
DoodleBird Are you the person in the article? I’d be shocked if that was a real person.
@@Moebz818 cool no one cares
@@loonaot12 if you don't care then why would leave a comment their comment is totally relevant to thw conversation yours isn't
agreed
@@SupraMan38 you inspire me so much Sam. Never stop making videos. You save lives
sounded like if the people around her were okay w her being a male, they wouldve been okay with her being a lesbian
Yeah like, I'm also pretty sure it's easier to just come out as lesbian than going through the entire process of transitioning
that’s exactly what i was thinking. it’s a lot less life-changing and obviously who she always was.
duckyodino as a bi peep, I agree!!
Yeah, I know way too many people who are accepting of gay/bisexual people, but are also transphobic. Not so much the other way around. Generally if they're find with you transitioning then they'll be okay with your sexuality.
Coming out as gay is also a lot cheaper than letting that internalized homophobia lead you to believe that being attracted to the same sex means you're the opposite sex.
Damn boi that's kinda true tho
“same sex relationships while looking like the other sex” ..... can someone else also see what’s wrong with that statement.
YeAH
It technically is correct bc sex is usually defined based on genitals. (Sex and gender are different)
Axel yes, that’s true it is different, but she is speaking of being transgender, not transsexual. i’m mostly pointing out her ignorance of not fully understanding what it is being transgender and rushing into it. she, herself, doesn’t realize there’s a difference between sex and gender.
@@Axel-wh2gy sex is based on a whole profile of different things. Otherwise it would be simple for castor semenya to flash her junk to Olympic officials to stay competing as a female runner and leave her naturally high testosterone levels alone
Sounds kinda terf to me bro
love how she skipped the social transition stage with the people she was closet to. like using a new name and pronouns with a friend for a few days to see if it gave her euphoria???
Exactly. Try out a new set of pronouns and name with a friend or family member. Change your hairstyle or wear clothes associated with your gender. Research terms. I thought I was agender, genderfluid and a trans boy before realising I'm non binary. It took me over a year to figure it out.
Truth. Social transition is a very important step.
yeah.. thats what you do
The fact is that she never understood what being trans was really about. She wanted to transition because she thought it would have made her life easier, not because she felt dysphoria. She thought that she had to PUT UP (sorry if it caps lock I don't know how to underline it) with the discomfort of being perceived as a man to get to her goal.
@@elettradelpin230 this! She didn't tackle her internalized homophobia and decided to be trans 🙄
I think this is the second time I’ve gone through this video, and I really appreciate the way you approach this topic, Sam. It’s a lot of fun to see your personality mixed in with honest compassion.
Hey OneTopic! I didn't know you watched Sam Collins. Nice.
BRO YOU'RE HERE TOO! DOPE!
Hey OT! Same here. I think back to this video a lot. It's so sad to see someone go through so much internal pain just to put themselves through unnecessary physical pain. Transitioning should be an exciting and satisfying process to the individual, not seen as a terrifying nightmare.
Hey bro! I didn’t think I would see you here 😊 haha this is epic
Woah hi there OT
I.... i can’t with this girl. She literally followed to do this because she was unhappy with herself, and then she jumped right in to meds. Smh.
awkward me I mean I’m 14 and I’ve came out a year ago and I’m starting t Friday! But tbh she should’ve waited and looked more into it
Malec Magic Yo so happy for you! I’m 13 turning 14 and I live in the UK. Getting private treatment I hope! I’m on hormone blockers right now but I really need T. V depressed and my body image issues are slowly killing me 😂. Tell me how it goes 🤪
Jacob Clement I’ll definitely update you!!😂 and don’t worry you’ll get it soon!!
Yes, that's why people are against every medical professional being bullied into prescribing hormones in case they lose their career and life for daring to question somebody.
@Matt H. you really have to educate yourself. Transition is the actual help for gender dysphoria. Or would you rather people invent drugs (when you already assume people are drugged when they are not lol) that block your personality, your true self? Don't you think that would be worse? Would that be your ideal treatment for people with a disorder you can't grasp how it feels like because you don'T have it? Or do you have actual ideas how to solve Gender Dysphoria without suppressing a persons individuality and mind?
TL;DR: I transitioned because I wanted to be straight, without any dysphoria and regret it. I regret something I rushed into without any consideration and you, a trans person with dysphoria, will regret it as well
Why did she even think she could escape homophobia by pretending to be trans? The same kids who make fun of you for being gay would also make fun of you for being trans (if you were actually trans).
It sounds like that’s what happened. When I was 17, I also hated that I was gay, but I didn’t think I should transition just because I wanted to be straight as that doesn’t make any sense. These people should think these things though better (and her therapist should have also known the right questions to ask to work out if someone has gender dysphoria).
She is blaming everyone but herself, it’s her decision.
Don't they realize that all of their psychotic problems can be solved by a gram of fentanyl mixed with a fifth of bourbon?
You know she wasn't honest with her therapist. She was probably lying to get what she wanted and not participating earnestly.
Cathy Reed sad.
It is sadly really easy to do
E MacPherson no blood test, no. But brain scans? Studies have shown that men and women have visibly different brain structures, and that trans people have the brain structures of the gender they identify as, not the gender they were born as. That is what creates dysphoria.
@@elizabethmacpherson0989 but if she had expressed what she does in her video and worked with a therapist she wouldn't have had to transition to discover she wasn't trans.
E MacPherson any good gender therapist or even general therapist could probably have told her she should be thinking more about this before starting hormones if she was honest. she clearly just went to a shit one. if she had 1) gone to a better therapist and 2) honestly told them some of the reasons behind wanting to transition (wanting to present as a straight couple with her girlfriend), i’m pretty sure the therapist would’ve been like maybe u should reconsider lmao
And this kids, is why being Trans, Gay, Hetero, etc. can't be a decision.
Precisely
Why can't it be?
vamperkillz because this girl was jealous of trans men therefore she tried to become a trans man, but she is not a man so doing so causes great distress. Had she actually been a trans man with gender dysphoria it should have helped. Do you understand? :)
@@vamperkillzshy Yes it just can't. I didn't put much thought on what gender I prefered since I do like acting feminine but immediatley I knew I liked being male. Also I did try to make it seem like i was a girl (it really wasnt that hard for me to do) and I felt like it wasn't me.
@@vamperkillzshy The 2 replies above mine pretty much said everything I wanted to say...
She literally started by sounding like a “not like other girls” post
GalaxyWolf875 😂 ikr
Off topic but where’d u get the pfp?
Ice Heart
picrew.me/image_maker/94097
Ok weeb
Athena
I am a weeb. What’s your point?
The way she felt when she was all on testosterone is how some trans people feel in their pre transition body.
So she became a trans man because she wanted to date her girlfriend and not because she experienced any kind of dysphoria
@IzumiRiceBowl, yes
Yep, pretty much
yup sigh
little known fact
you can be gay
IzumiRiceBowl yea
“I didn’t look like I was gay” is there really a look to being gay tho? Anyone can look any way and be gay
Michaela she left her rainbow at home
Y’all are so mf sensitive 😂
Venus Tv no I’m just saying there’s not a specific look to being gay idk how that’s being sensitive lmao
Venus Tv Lmfaoo girl you played yourself. byeee
Looking androgynous tends to make you look “gay” according to society, it’s more on the extreme end of things that people seem gay, like really feminine guys and really masculine girls (style and presentation wise not things you can’t help like being thicc or lanky)
It rubbed me wrong when she said “I didn’t look like I was gay, I had long blonde hair” ...femme lesbians exist lol
then again we all knew what she meant. thats literally the least problematic part of the article for me. the girl is obviously so stupid she couldnt even write a compelling fake article
“Mom, Dad, I’m gay,”
“What?! But you’re blonde!!”
I love how she's talking about being gay as if it's a physical trait that people can see. Yeah, if you're gay, it shows, the gayness will radiate out of you to alerts everyone.
She literally described what I look like & I'm a flaming homosexual lmfao
Ombre Nightcores this comment made me lose it
I love how TERFs talk about trans people encouraging others to transition. Here you are telling people to not rush into things. I am a post op trans woman. I tell people that they shouldn't transition unless they need to. If your sexual anatomy doesn't bother you; it's probably best not to radically alter it. If I regretted my SRS I would be screwed.
And a person is trans (or cis) regardless of whether they do anything about it. A lot of people can't or don't want to do surgery but are still valid
Idk some people dont feel dysphoria but wish to pass and go through with it.
i definitely think people should put a LOT of thought into it before they start physically transitioning, I think before physically transitioning people should live as the gender they think they are identify as it and all and imaging how it would be if they were a cis person born as the gender they think they are and if that all feels right then they should definitely be able to transition
@@MidnightEkaki But there's still a ton of thought and decision to put into this. I can't transition, but I know that if I could I'd still put thought into it.
@@ilikedarknes3351 Social transition is such an important step! For me personally, I approached it bit by bit, taking notes as I went as that was how I processed it best. I asked my sister and friends to try using they/them pronouns for me. Then a different name. Bought a binder and switched up my gender presentation. Gave my new name when ordering coffee and started introducing myself as it when meeting new people. Figured out what I liked and didn't. Talked to other people in the trans/nonbinary community. Only after I had done all this, and was as sure as I felt I could be in my nonbinary identity did I consider what parts of physical transitioning I wanted. Coming to terms with yourself can be such an emotionally stressful time, and it's best to be logical and calm when it comes to stuff that's gonna last a lifetime.
Uuugh, one of my friends sent me this article trying to "prove" my best friend (a sixty one year old transgendered man, soooo, pretty sure he's not "confused" ) is going to regret starting T again. Both of our eyes rolled so far back we could see the nineties.
😂😂😂😂
I DIED
Lol ily gurl, that was a good joke u made
😂😂😂
I'm glad that your trans friend has a person like you in his life
Girl straight up just hated herself. Calling herself a “dyke” in a negative connotation and admitting to her internalized homophobia. She just wanted a reason to feel “straight”. Which is not a good reason to transition. The whole article is a her problem being insecure and I pity that :(
@Mr S overweight people losing weight? they hate themselves! me going to the hairdresser to change the color of my hair? wow girl stop hating yourself!
@@janine2957 i really dont think you should compare transitioning with losing weight or getting a haircut. in order for a person to make such drastic changes to their body there should be a lot of psychological help in the first place to make sure that this is something that will actually help the person and isnt dont out of wrong motives
I feel like someone should have caught on with her issue and told her. Unless she didn't tell anyone
It’s sad. It’s like her only reason for doing anything was to make the people around her happy. And no one sat her down and asked her about it
Isn't that where most of this stuff stems from? Hate for one's current self?
2:46 the bit about "can date their (same-sex) while looking like the opposite sex" gets me. It's quite clear that she Doesn't view Trans people as they are. She quite clearly just wanted to get over her internalized homophobia.
Exactlyyyy If I'm a lesbian, and my girlfriend is transitioning, I can't say I want to still be in a relationship with a transgender boy if I like girls like tf
“At 18, I wasn’t even old enough to buy alcohol”
*Laughs in Canadian*
;-; im moving to Canadian
*Laughs in European*
And here i am, laughing in Swiss
In France you can buy alcohol at 16, but not hard alcohol. Hard alcohol comes at 18
*Joins in German*
so basically a homosexual that is uncomfortable with homophobia? Well mate that's all of us
the whole story sounds off, the whole "but think of the children" sounds like some anti-lgbt political propaganda.
@@Gee-xb7rt I would really like to know where she is from, because most places make you wait a year, even like in the UK I think you have to wait like 2 years or it maybe even longer before you can be put on hormones specially if you are using the governments insurance. I do not know the exact law for Canada but they are probably likely to be one of those places that doesn't make you jump through so much hoops as the US.
@@TheLiana1102 I can't remember her name, there is a trans youtuber from Canada that hit puberty and was getting more masculine features and then they started her on hormones. Canada's insurance is by province, so as a disclaimer it could be different elsewhere. I really don't know where you can just go in and pick up hormones unless you are getting them on the black market, which unfortunately a lot of minorities down here in the South have to resort to. This story didn't sound like someone desperate for hormones though, it sounded like some anti-lgbt nonsense, all you got to do is add "I found Jesus and a husband" at the end.
Preach
Sally that gurl__Julia I’m from the UK and my best friend is ftm and now that he’s turned 17 he’s been put on the waiting list for testosterone and it has something like a 40 month long waiting list so he probably won’t get testosterone until he’s at least 20 :(
Another title - "Lesbian girl had such intense internalised homophobia that she thought transitioning would stop it" OR " Lesbian thought being Trans was choice"
It's actually what they do in the Iran to homosexual people. They are only allowed to live their sexuality if they transition into the opposite gender.
Right?????? Girl sounds like u just wanted to be a butch lesbian n u were scared
shut up i used to be gay
Getting professional help is the first thing to do, make sure that is the path you want to take.
lol its weird how she hated being gay so much but she had no problem with transgenderism. most homophobes have a problem with both, and if its only one then its usually being gay.
This article is total bs, but here I am to say:
It’s okay if you think you have your identity figured out, and then realize you were wrong. I used to think I was bisexual, then realized I was actually asexual and biromantic. Pretty much everyone in the LGBTQ+ community once thought they were straight/cis then realized that wasn’t them. Sexuality, romance, and gender is complicated, and it’s okay if it takes you a while to figure it out.
"I lied to my therapist and friends and doctors that I was trans, and they didn't tell me I was wrong! Therefore it's all their fault and also the fault of trans people for existing! Definitely not my fault at all!"
That's... kind of the vibe I got from that article.
But more importantly, thank you for making this video Sam, I appreciate you! Rock on.
It's like disliking the fizz on your straight hair, telling a hairdresser you want a perm and being mad you ended up with curls.
Just make peace with the fizz (Not a perfect analogy I know)
@@ApequH czcams.com/video/DYO72MHbsgE/video.html&ab_channel=AreaEightyNine For some reason I was reminded of this. XP
Exactly!! Like that therapist was 100% shitty and if her experience is not super exaggerated she probably did SEVERAL things wrong while on hormones ( though i truly dont know anything so i could be incredibly wrong) but like??? its her mind and what she feels??? its not her friend's place to say whether or not she's trans and her therapist and doctors prob thought she thought abt it for awhile so ofc they didn't question her.
@@brigc7755 Yeah!! I'm like smh! (facepalm) How dare they believe her and support her??
Yeah this junior boomer Karen really needs to stay in her lane and get some perspective. And unfortunately people like her present it as "saving the youth" when really the moral of the story is "don't transition if you're cis."
I rate this article gross/10 for misleading all our parents.
“You wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at me; I had long hair and makeup” because the length of your hair and makeup choices are so relevant to which people you date, are attracted to, and have sex with!!
Ignores the fact men can have long hair and women can have short hair and it doesn't change who they are.
I have long hair welp guess im straight
@@KarmatheCorgi yup my brother (tbh I’ve never straight up asked and I assume he’s straight Bc he’s only dated girls but I shouldn’t speak for him and I can’t confirm” has legit always had long hair. Ranging from scuffy/punky, to his metal head phase to his recent “academic hippie” look lol. He’s 22 and it’s been that way since I can remember. Even in our bsby pics it’s shoulder length.
Of course when he was younger and during the cursed late 2000s to mid 2010s people would call him a girl or make some dumb comment because he had a baby face, but he’s otherwise a fairly masculine dressing snd presenting guy, like I said used to be big into the metal and post punk scene.. just a more alt dude who likes his hair long.
My best friend is biracial and does combat sports, thick and toned, always done boy short hair, either a faux-hawk or just short when she wears it natural, no makeup seldom even on her wedding day.. but she’s straight af, used to be BOY CRAZY before she got w current partner, still enjoys fashion and bath bombs and glittery things..
I shouldn’t have to say this but like there is no reason for this stuff to matter. It’s hair, it’s color to enhance or creatively change your face, it’s fabric on your body.
If I ever have kids I have no desire to “know the sex” and refuse to decorate their room in a gendered way and when they’re old enough to start having preferences and expressing the self and what not around toddler age I’ll just let them look around and try out and check out different toys and outfits and just pick whatever they think is cool. I’ll ask them how they went their hair cut or what types of activities and books they’re interested in trying out.. that’s it. Not pushing gender roles on your kid nor “manipulating them to be trans”. Just letting them be a human. When they’re old enough to process it gradually and as long as they accept their AG I’ll be real with them about what it means to be that gender snd if they’re nb or trans i prey to god they hsve s better world by then but I’ll learn and support them thru everything
@@sad-qy7jz "Just letting them be a human." Yes. This. 1000% this. Just let people be who they are.
Sadly, in Latinoamerica, if you cut your hair, society will tell you that you look like a "boy", likewise if your a guy with long hair. Here, society is soo fucked up and homophobic, transphobic and very intorelant.
But u know what? Fuck society, I Just want to love and I don't want to be bothered for it
So uh, this girl is so deep into her stereotype abt being a gay girl that she thinks if shes gay she cant have barbie blonde long hair and wear dresses and if she likes girls she should be a guy....?
It seems she’s never heard of femme lesbians I guess
Yeah, she's either mind-blowingly clueless, or doesn't exist.
She's very homophobic it seems
I've met people who say they are going to transition just because they want to marry gay men...
Those types of people are making us real trans individuals look like that we're faking it and that infuriates me.
@@quillmorningstar8713 wtf…
Stories like this absolutely baffle me. They do literally 0 research on hormones/transition, don't socially transition properly, and just go straight into it... I'm 23 and only just started hormones last year though I've been out as trans since I was 14 but had known since I was 11. ALL these years I've been researching, going in and out of gender clinics, etc. And I never forced myself into anything I wasn't explicitly ready for. It's a long process (unless you have money to go private), and it's just... Ridiculous to me how they make it look so ~easy~ to fit their own narrative that "trans ppl r bad >:("
Just sounds to me she was just a lesbian and over thought it
Thanks for so many likes damn 💕
Trying not to sound phobic, but many of the lesbians I know look/act like men. The difference between them and a transgender man seems razor thin.
Well it isn’t razor thin, trans men are rlly different than tomboys and butch lesbians
Regan Ngo Thank you for clarifying that because many people like to classify us both as the same thing. Lesbians are comfortable with their own body therefore they identify as women.
Nepthu
Lesbians: can be masculine and often are.
Trans men: have gender dysphoria. Want to be called he/him. Called by male name. Want to get a penis (not a strap on). Get rid of female chest. Go on T.
It’s not razor thin my friend
Nepthu It’s really not. Being masculine and being male are two totally different things. Butch/tomboy lesbians still identify as female and acknowledge that, they just aren’t feminine.
this sounds like a girl who rushed head-first into a mistake and is now blaming everyone else and calling themselves a victim
Atyana Thomas lmao true
gabbie hana who?? 😷😷😷😷
*claps*
yup. pretty much. every single detransitioner i read about transitions within a year or 2 or like couple months.
Sounds like what terfs do
"If you're not trans, thanks for watching. You're really cool. Glad that you're interested in the subject."
Me: ... 🙂❤️
also me: :) 🥰
😁❤
KUKAKYOTOTOKYO i’m not trans but i am gay, and i’m a fierce ally of the rest of lgbtq+ because i’m proud to be who i am, and i want everyone to be just as proud.
Im pan but same 😊💕
Not trans and straight here! I just absolutely love the lgbtq+ community in general, plus I love learning more about all of them 😁❤️
Side note: Sam is the best boi and we stan 👌
These detransitioners made me doubt myself.
My whole life I felt like a guy.
I expected male puberty so when I ended up getting periods it crushed me and I felt like my body was betraying me.
With loads of haters and my own Mother rejecting me I'm back in the closet being depressed as all heck.
I'm back to where I was in my teen years.
mtf in the same situation LOL
I am currently in the same position. It's really depressing.
Wait what happened ?
How are you now?
Teens make impulsive decisions, someone should've told her that things like this shouldn't be taken so rapidly.
Agree
SoulRedness and that’s on the fault of the clinicians and why a LOT of de-transitioners are trying to advocate for a few more restrictions to the treatment because the effect are so irreversible that giving it out like Halloween Candy (like some people here apparently want) is not the best idea.
While transitioning is SUCH a positive experience for the trans community and I am so happy that it gives anyone an opportunity, I feel like there’s always cons. While there is an increasing positive perception, it’s so difficult because when someone expresses their want to transition, a lot of people become complicit and supportive and are too scared to question people’s motives or hurt what they think is an integral part of their identity. It’s so maddening that people fearing to challenge others on the basis of political correctness like that has got in the way of such a positive experience and led to such impulsive decision making :( I hate the terms the woman used in that article but it’s true that the success of the trans community may seem like a solution to some people these days and the overwhelming positivity can sometimes be deceiving. Edit: I am so proud to have a trans friend by the way. But I’ve been growing up with them since they were about 12 and they’ve been so sure of who they want to become. I am SO for transitioning, I just think all the dumb contradictions really get in the way of what should be a success story :((
Yeah but validation culture exists and everyone gives terrible shit info on being trans. I knew someone who'd call themselves trans cause they "didnt feel female" but didnt want to transition, had no dysphoria or wanted change anything, even clothing and had severe identity problems. I told them straight up you're not trans, at most maybe gender non conforming. Honestly given how naive the person I knew was if I wasnt there they'd would've been told they were trans by someone else and gone through with it. It's always depressed people with poor sense of identity that think trans is the miracle cure and all their friends validate this.
“While transgenders could date their same-sex significant other while looking like the opposite sex.” Feels really icky and problematic to me, because it’s showing her lack of acknowledgement towards the validity of a transgender person’s new identity, it’s implying that they’ll never truly change their gender and that’s so rude and untrue. It’s also pretty clear from the article that she was dealing with a lot of internalised homophobia, jealousy and self-hatred that manifested into a series of uneducated decisions and eventually into what looks to be unwarranted resentment, envy and judgement towards the transgender community
Yes, i was surprised that Sam didn't address that. She thought transgender guys were still "lesbians" or dating someone the same gender... That is like the basis to a homophobe/transphobe and she definitely got EVERYTHING wrong.
@@Cemhta yeah she already had some incorrect assumptions about trans folk
Part of it is her trying to make an excuse. “If I transition, I’ll be ‘male’ and then I can date girls and be straight.” It’s her internalized homophobia. And then after transitioning didn’t work for her- since she didn’t need to do it and thought it was basically just a costume- she’s transphobic because “I regretted it, so will you.”
Especially because trans people definetly can't just exist and date their partners happily.
Dating as a trans guy is extremely hard. Most women just see you as lesbians or man lite and men see you as a fetish.
And even if you manage to find a partner a lot of people around you see you as not a man and treat you like shit.
People who believe that trans people can just casually exist with no problems are ignorant.
@@maximellow5745 yeah and with this girl you can see that she viewed trans men as "lesbians taking it to the next level" which is obviously bullshit so she already had uneducated views on trans folk
and thats the problem: she didnt change for herself, she changed for other people. and thats never good.
Her complaining about having support makes my blood boil. There’s still thousands of trans men and women grateful for still being alive and being treated the bare minimum by their peers. Suicide rates for trans people are still high. Transphobia is still an ongoing thing that affects millions of people. There’s countless of trans people who have unsupportive parents, friends, therapists, and more. That feel like ending their lives because they feel like no one is supporting them and appreciating them for who they are. And this woman, has the nerve, to be so ungrateful and petty-
Okay so the emotions and experiences of trans people are valid
But the emotions and experiences of de-transitioners are not valid?
@@user-mi8xf8tq1z The emotions and experiences of bigots are not valid no...
Especially when they're lying about everything anyway... >:K
A high majority of older trans people said they wished theyd never done it. It was they were not happy inside, and thought becoming a whole other person would change it. They were wrong....
i don't think it was having support - i just think that she wishes that people had questioned her a bit more about it (like her family and friends) and not just played along with her, which i get in her situation, but if a family member comes to me and says 'im trans' and they say that is what they really want (which im guessing she might have) then i would support them to an extent and just tell them to be careful and to know what they are doing, there's not much that you can do honestly. i agree maybe they should have been more careful with her, but i do understand why people are more supportibe.
@@barnacles62 Source? Because that sounds like bull
if she was dating a lesbian and she transitioned i don’t think they’d want to hold her hand anymore-
It’s homosexuality not homogenderality.
ᅳb e l l yes, but if you were attracted to strictly females
That’s so insulting to trans men when “””””lesbians”””””” say they like trans men
ᅳb e l l that heavily implies that straight trans men are lesbians, which they clearly aren’t.
Their girlfriend might not have been a lesbian
Being a lesbian is not socially accepted, hmmm... I’m gonna tell everyone I’m trans, that should be better!
The line about passing was telling. What she wanted, it seems like, was straight-privilege. From what I've seen, detransitioners seem to be gay girls with internalized homophobia who see transitioning to being a straight male as preferable to being a lesbian.
Well I'm both gay and straight you see I'm genderfluid...
@@AlcoholHasAProblemWithMe Genderfluid is expression, not a gender, you cannot physically change the sex of your brain from male to female.
holly hell Lmao Trisha Paytes logic
@@Pipes570 "im both gay and straight"
"I'm gender fluid"
Clearly this person was making a joke. Cmon it's a Sam Collins video haha Sam is king of Sarcasm so it wouldn't be crazy to assume that his fans would make sarcastic jokes too... lol
She hated being gay and decided transitioning would fix everything? Not a wise decision, she's also blaming therapists for her not thinking things through.
nah i gotta agree that a therapist who will diagnose dysphoria after like, 9 hours of knowing someone is probably pretty bad, but on the other hand we don't know thats she didn't lie to them in those sessions
@@nb_knight5251 it really seems like she is misrepresenting things. But on the off chance that what she is true, that was indeed a really bad therapist.
@@nb_knight5251 exactly what I was thinking they might both be at fault and from what I’m reading she probably had a bias since she said she wanted the transition by 19 so she must’ve rushed to answer to the unprofessional shitty therapists because she felt pressured to act in a way she would get her transition done
Im afab cant decide if FtM or demiboy :/ im bi and i prefer men so when i trasition i would actually be more gay then im now soo.. idk if that make sense.
@Sey no more i meant more gay from the view of society becouse i mostly date men and now society sees my as a women so when i transition to man then from their point of view i would be more gay even thou my sexuality didnt change :D it make sens in my head but idk
i fucking love that sam uses self-grandizing humor. so many people are "haha i hate myself". but sam, as he says, is sculpted by the gods
this sounds exactly like one of those documentaries they show you in Catholic school. As well, the weight thing could be overeating due to stress/depression/anxiety/etc.
Yeah
I think she knew inside herself that she wasn’t trans and started eating due to stress and depression because her body and her subconscious knew that it wasn’t right for her and she was going to get gender dysphoria from transitioning. Therefore, she ate more unhealthy foods due to comfort eating/stress eating, and became obese and pre-diabetic. And she got sick after going “cold turkey” because her body could sense something was wrong but couldn’t quite process that you can’t get rid of hormones in your body by just throwing up.
when you said “the transgenders”, i WHEEZED
Mr Hamilton what are you doing here, you have to go back to writing your 51 essays in the span of six months and cheating on Eliza with Maria Reynolds.
*he's back-*
@Sho Ships KiriBaku OMFG 😂😂😂😂❤️
I perfer calling groups by THE
It makes it funnier
THE GAYS
THE TRANSGENDERS
THE BOYS
THE PATRIOTS
@@sho.thatsit Hhhgxuoftisuaexf, YES!
Am I the only one that gets kinda offended when people call us “transgenders” like dang didn’t know me being trans got rid of my identity as a human being
Well, when they talk about transgender people, the correct way to refer to them is "transgender." Although I understand that it sounds somewhat abrupt, but it is the correct way to say it xD
I mean, it’s not really any different than saying “blacks” or “whites”. It doesn’t imply that you’re not human. It’s just a part of you. We all have something we can be identified by. I guess “transsexuals” sounds more natural in the plural form, but I’m not sure if that term has fallen out of favor or not.
Ashley Kleinvehn If you’re still calling black people “blacks” I feel like that’s a little effed up
Lane Dehnel Examples: “Blacks won the right to vote.” “Blacks killed in hate crimes.” “Whites migrated to the suburbs.” “Many whites did not like the new civil rights laws.” None of those phrases sound weird to me. In fact it could very well sound like something out of my history textbook.
sorry, you can’t be a human and a transgender. gotta separate the sensible (humans) from the non-sensible (trans) (joke, if this offends you let me know and i’ll delete it)
Personal Note: I love being transgender, i thank the Divine, the universe, nature and what ever made me born transgender. Trangender people, all LGBT people really are the rare gems of humaninty.
Came out as trans in 1977 before the word transgender was in common use. I understand other people mileage may very but i have to put out the counter point, transgender people can be content and happy...this trans lady is....
ive struggled w my identity a lot the past couple of years. i came out as trans ftm when i was 13, although i was technically i was outed in front of a courtroom during a custody battle. bc of me being outed i really struggled with feeling like my identity was mine and i often struggled with the thought that i was faking it or i wasnt trans enough. when i was 15 i forced myself back into the closet because everyone around me was ignoring everything i had to say about who i was so i thought that maybe i was wrong about myself. i wasnt, but i was only 15 and super susceptible to the opinions of other people around me especially the opinions of my family. i dressed more femininely than ive ever been comfortable with to overcompensate and try to convince myself that this is what i wanted.
after a bit i realized what i was wasnt really me and that i should stop listening to family that dont *really* care about my happiness. so when i was 16 i discovered other genders like non-binary and genderfluid. i started to experiment with pronouns and different identities. eventually i settled on they/he pronouns (although now im thinking abt minorly changing my pronouns to he/they)
after turning 17 i started to use the term genderqueer to describe my gender, but im starting to consider myself transmasc as well because i want to transition both socially and medically to present more masculine. i desire to be seen and recognized as male in society even if im technically genderqueer and not completely a guy.
sorry for the long spiel i just did let me get to my point of this reply haha
i wish that some detransitioners (especially like the girl sam is talking abt in his video) would understand that not everyone is faking their feelings abt being another gender than they were born as and i wish that theyd stop pushing this rhetoric that bc their transition experience was bad or didnt help them that, thats the case for all trans people
im currently really unhappy with my life because i am unable to transition. i never recame out after determining that i really am trans and that i was wrong abt being wrong and i dont plan on officially recoming out until i move out. i see a medical transition making my life so much better in the long run
anyway! sorry for this reply idek why im telling my story. maybe bc i thought the little bit you told abt yours was really cool lol. i hope youre doing well!
and i also wanted to thank you. people like you are the reason why being trans is just a *little* bit more socially acceptable now. you came out during a time where it was much more dangerous to be out as trans than it is now. you were super brave to come out in the 70s and i really admire that :)
Ur just crazy. Madness loves spirituality more than anything. Its the most potent source for sustaning delusion.
I’m 66; I transitioned at 45. While, I wouldn’t recommend waiting as long as I did (it was a different time), please know that there is LOTS of time to confirm that you are making the right decision. The original militancy of trans activists was to overcome unproved reasons for obstructing transition and to validate who we are. However, thèse successes led to too little responsible and informed medical oversight and in the last 15 years as the percentage of adolescents presenting as gender dysphoric has dramatically increased, the issue is compounded by normal youthful exploration for one’s identity. In the past that self-discovery might involve how one dressed, makeup, acting out, being a Goth or Emo or even exploring same sex partners. Now, unfortunately, some have access to hormones which effects are permanent emotionally and physically. Proper medical guidance and therapy is absolutely essential. Your video was well balanced and I hope compelling for your young audience. The whole purpose of a well-monitored and gradual transition particularly with a therapist or psychologist is to allow you to explore and experience the implications of transition before it is irreversible. Stopping transition is not a failure, it is as much a success as completing transition-a journey of discovery leading to who you really are.
Aaaa this made me so happy to read. Y'all are SO valid and just. Eeeeeeee. This just made me happy thanks ❤️
Thanks 🤗
I’m genderfluid I’m still trying to find who I am and this made me so happy to read the ending you are valid and thank you for sharing your story!💕💕
QUEEN YOU ARE AMAZING AMD VALID
A
summary of the article: how DARE all these people actually TRUST ME and not see through how stupid i was?!! if they had just thought carefully on my behalf i wouldn't have done all this
holy frick you’re right tho lmao-
so she mainly just had internalised homophobia, so she's going to tell every transgender person they shouldn't transition? and she's blaming others for treating her as trans when she wasn't, when she said she thought she was?
that's what bothered me sm because everyone is different
@@SupraMan38 yeah, it's kinda bothering me too, so I don't blame you. But she really shouldn't tell other transgender people not to transition, because she made that choice, and come to realise she wasn't actually trans.
She basically transitioned so she wouldn't feel judged for being lesbian lmao I'm done with the internet😤 who gives a shit what other people think of you no need to pretend to be someone you aren't just so people won't judge you
Gamer Wes yes preach
It wouldn’t be surprising also if she had to fool her therapist and make her believe she is trans for her to get hormones that quickly. For example saying that she always felt that way when that isn’t true because that’s what therapists look for when they test you
She had a problem, but being trans wasn’t the answer. Sometimes we’re all confused and that’s okay but try your best to identify your feelings, and even if you detransition just don’t claim that transitioning won’t make you happy, because there’s lots of people who genuinely have dysphoria and that’s why they transition, not because they want to date a gender without being judged.
“‘The Transgenders.’ Sounds like a movie” 🤣
What would our superpower be?
The ability to pass unnoticed
I'd watch it
@@fujoshipeanut5074 yeah same
@@katepittman498 I wish sksksk
so basically she didn’t wanna be discriminated against for being gay so she decided to be trans..¿?
Yeah she's definitely not the sharpest tool in the shed
🤔🤔🤔
Yes because straight/heterosexual is better. I always looked up to heterosexuality. I always wanted to be a heterosexual, and understand this girl.
@@renny6151 k but like,,, trans people are waaay opressed, my g
@@Tomisnormal yeah she also looks kinda dumb
“I was always different from other girls, I wore boys clothes- I was a classic tomboy.”
“You wouldn’t have been able to tell I was gay from just looking at me. I had long blonde hair, wore makeup and carried myself rather femininely.”
...Uh?
1 sentence is about her childhood, while the 2 one is about her teen years.
*one of these things is not like the other*
@Rebekah L I'm talking about the whole thing with being a "classic tomboy" and then saying about how outwardly feminine she was
You can’t tell anyone’s sexuality by looking at them anyways
“YOU DONT LOOK GAY”
“SORRY LET ME JUST-“
i told everyone I was a lesbian a while ago. my mom found out when she read my friend and I's conversation over text back when we thought we liked each other. I have been questioning my gender for a bit now, and I think I'm settling down to he/him pronouns. But, after watching how she said she thought she was because she liked girls, makes me second guess myself. I feel way comfier with being a guy than I will ever a girl, and try my best to hide my chest in safe ways. My mom has been saying that I'm too young to even have to question myself and sexuality so much. But again, watching you say you knew at 8 or 9 helped me. My whole family is really religious and tried their best to support me when I came out as a lesbian, but I'm scared as to what they'll do if I say my a guy. My friends at school are calling me Toby and use he/him to refer to me, and I smile just thinking about it. sorry this was so long, i just needed to get it off my chest
Proud of you for coming out to the people around you. You're so brave, Toby. 👍😊
gets paper cut
" IM NEVER USING PAPER AGAIN SO YOU CANT EITHER"
Are you serious? I mean, how can you even compare these two things. Paper cuts don't change people's lives, unlike transitioning. Dude, really, think before you speak.
@@sabotagingmyself OMG I am zambi and take things sooooo literally
@@sabotagingmyself you need to shut up bro if you aint gone help or be nice go away stop watching a trans vid if you don't like talking about it lol
@@sabotagingmyself ...??
@@sabotagingmyself ever heard of an analogy?
She was so afraid of being seen as a lesbian that she transitioned to male, ate too much, got fat and then hated herself. Wow.
Also, I’ve had to go off T for several weeks two separate times in the last five years due to changing careers and struggling with finances. My cycle came back but I didn’t get sick. She’s so dramatic.
I'm so sorry for you that you have to pay for medical treatment yourself :(
Joey Joker aw, it's okay. It sucks but that's life over here, lol. Luckily the insurance I get starting in December should pay for the majority of what I need in the future, including surgery.
Lucawren, you're lucky, I can't get health insurance x have to pay for my own surgery. I'm m2f. my story is quite long. That's the short verision. Goodluck to you.
Your perspective in this entire situation is severely limited. Lets keep in mind that it's never explicitly stated how she gained weight or became pre-diabetic. Maybe the irresponsible transition gave her dysphoria, she began eating for stress management? If she developed dysphoria, which it's almost certain she did, this is not someone being dramatic , this is someone who fucked up their body chemistry, and suffered for it. Is it their fault? Maybe. I say it's our fault as a culture, for making transitioning look like a fun lifestyle choice that you can do to show you love yourself. I think its the doctor's fault for not maintaining a proper and thorough correspondence. And maybe it is her fault, but only in sofar as she has fallen victim to these other things. She is a victim, and you all mock her, simply because she has a differing opinion. If you had began transitioning thinking it would solve all of your problems, and then had her experience, im sure you would be a little "dramatic" too.
This whole video and comments section is so dismissive, it's really appalling. These are the tumblr people who say "transition, come out of thecloset, have pride, drink water, take care of mental health", but as soon as someone disagrees with them, it isn't mental health or a lack of self care, it's them being dramatic. Do these people not deserve the same love and care that people in the LGBTQ+ club do? Completely ridiculous.
"Youre always destroying your body.... If you're breathing in New York"
Me, A queens, ny resident: *hyperventilates*
Mutt Teeth or you have a car accident
dont hyperventilate you’ll inhale more of the air
@@tperez210 I think that's the point
Beyond duality, there's YOU. With all your complexity and beauty.
Life isn't black or white, male or female.
Life is.
Much Love to All 🖖☀️🙏🕊️💕💜
⚛☯️️♾️☯️⚛️
Yep. And if you believe in reincarnation, we all probably do so many lifetimes as both that it's going to change by itself sooner or later, change and change again...
My mom is a child psychologist and she does encounter kids who identify as transgender but later on change their mind. She is extremely accepting of the LGBTQ+ community and has worked with transgender kids. When a kid says they are transgender, my mom will talk to them and make sure this was what they want and not to rush into it
This is such a cool job
I been waiting almost a decade to even start testosterone, I didnt even talk about it, at this point, I'll wait an extra 5 years or so to finally transition, people like this young lady often need to learn to take responsibility and become a proper adult. I, almost 18, have been waiting long, rocky, confusing, emotional years to be who I am.
I mean young kids don’t transition in permanent ways anyway so it’s really not that deep.
Your mom is doing good work
@@Cries_In_Vampire you’re still trans if you’re genderfluid tho
Turns out transitioning doesn't change:
* Homophobia
* Transphobia
* Shitty decision making
ReAlLy?!?!
*or other persons prejudices (they will judge anyone not cis and/ or straight. Transitioning won't change them either)
@@familiacraneo4306 Always gunna be some pointless haters out there who will crap on you no matter what. EF em lol. Let em die mad : )
Lmao it doesn’t make you any less of a complete asshole either
@@soyborne.bornmadeandundone1342 #letemdiemad
Sam: Testosterone.
Captions:
To sauce thrown
Te scarce their own
Test lost hair loan
Toss coster drone
This needs more likes lmao
this is absolute gold
I'm less than a minute into the video imma turn or captions now 😂
now it's normal :(
Fuck I love this.
You’re so calm discussing every topic in every video it’s really nice
The fact that she thought that because SHE wasn't transgender, that transgender people don't exist, is so weird to me.
Imagine taking insulin if you aren't diabetic, getting side effects, and then arguing that diabetic people don't exist.
Honestly. Same with asthma and depression. Can't take the medication if you're not diagnosed
@@gordonramsayslambsauce Tell the alphabet company this & the over 50 gender clinics & the thousands percent increase in transitioning. It's a f*ng joke/nightmare. The alphabet company is recruiting children left & right. Posters gender snowmen saying feelings dictate who you are. Doctors/therapists making a boatload of $$ & sterilizing children & mind fucking. The madness has to stop. Transgender is rare but a movement has made it a fashion statement. "It's better/cool/woke to be trans than homosexual." Read Ray Blanchard's work. Parents pat themselves on their backs. The alphabet company is promoting sexualizing children out of the womb. It's beyond disturbing. It's abuse. I guess it got boring being in adult's bedrooms & so the movement is towards children's bedrooms. Abuse!! California schools in middle school teach about orifices & what you can stick in them for pleasure you or your partner. Are you f*ng kidding me? Drag kids are shaking ass in bars for adults. Mothers are Munchausen' children to gender clinics who say, "Yes, yes, your child is transgender," without any real dialogue. Folks should not transition until their late 20s and even then it's a lifelong medical condition. It's a difficult journey & alphabet company is not really meeting the needs of any group anymore just political shills.
@Mandy That was the stupidest sentence ever, and it made no sense. There are scientific reasonings behind the cause of dysphoria and transitioning, you people just refuse to believe it
@@donaldsteckler5667 You can visibly transition whenever the hell you want, cutting/growing hair, wearing more feminine/masculine/androgynous clothing, etc. Testosterone/estrogen is something that a guardian has to sign for minors, but they do that because not only will dysphoria just totally drain your energy, but puberty is horribly difficult to go through when you're trans and need to transition. I think that before transitioning, you need to be diagnosed or talk to a therapist if you can afford to do so, just to be sure. But this case in particular came from internalized homophobia, where she transitioned for a stupid reason
@Mandy that made literally NO sense but okay
I'm sorry- "while transgenders could date their same-sex significant other while looking like the opposite sex"?
That sentence just reeks of transphobia, no matter how I look at it.
Ikr
Lol it’s funny she thinks it’s that easy to be a trans person publicly like at all in the world we live in.
And internalized homophobia cause she literally changed cause she didn't wanna be a girl dating a girl.
I dont think you should hate her on this. Many gay people have internalised homophobia at first. Some suffer from it forever.
Sometimes you are more harsh to yourself than others. I don't care if someone has diabetes, for example, but if i had it I'd be pretty upset
(please dont be offended for my analogy, i meant well by what i was saying! )
@@faye7199 the amount of lying and blatant lack of experience talking about anything trans-related makes it pretty clear this wasn't some honest mistake, but at least a partly fabricated story
"At 18 I wasn't old enough to buy alcohol"
**Laughs in European**
Same thought here **sips beer at age 17** greetings from Germany
*laughs in Aussie*
What softies!
AshyVinc indians go the hardest, our classmates’ parents buy us beer
*laughs in canadian*
ahh children
In my country it's way too easy to buy alcohol when you're underage. I'm 15 and bought a bottle of vodka at 7am without even being questioned....
This lady made a mistake (and that is truly unfortunate), but she doesn't have to drag real trans people down just because she wasn't trans
*Mum:* I love chocolate”
*Girl:* “I want to like chocolate”
*Mum:* “Here, try some chocolate”
*Girl: “EWWWWWWW! I HATE CHOCOLATE AND SO WILL YOU!”*
The Thinking Being i like chocoletooo 😋🙋🏼♀️
*chef kiss*
The Thinking Being how in the world can you hate chocolate🤯
Thinking about it. Chocolate and genders are exactly the same. Huh, the more you know
Me here eating chocolate right now: 👁👄👁
This chick really wants to blame trans people instead of taking any responsibility
Exactly
@Marie Helser not really. There was an outside influence excusing every choice she made.
Your an ass. Look up Keira Bell
“I started gaining more and more weight. My skin started to get more and more puffy and discolored”
Wow it’s almost as if people call going on HRT “second puberty” for a reason
When the norm to be straight is so strong that you change gender just to not be gay.XD
i read this article a while ago it’s literally so destructive and awful.
my name snek
Can you send the link, I would like to read it???
what’s it called
It seems so fake.
www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailysignal.com/2019/10/07/i-spent-a-year-as-a-trans-man-doctors-failed-me-at-every-turn/amp/
I read the comments for it just a second ago it's really fucked
My therapist gave me testosterone after a few months was because she saw how much pain I was in because of my dysphoria. Not only that, she took back my letter once because she wanted me to work through other mental stuff before starting me on HRT. She was incredibly honest with me and it has helped me so much. That is what a GOOD gender therapist does.
I was able to go to a primary care doctor who actually does informed consent, and I talked about my dysphoria and wanting to start hormones. We worked on my meds for depression and anxiety FIRST to get me more stable.
That's gatekeeping. That is what an abusive bigot does.
@@ancuruadh6027 no . No it isn’t . Have you seen how many regret stories there are ? People need to be aware of EVERYTHING before they start this. There are girls crying bc they’ve been on male hormones for years and wanted their original body back, and they cry bc their voice never changed back to female. It’s sad.
@@nikicarrie4071 Stop lying, bigot.
@@nikicarrie4071 if it's sad for that little percentage who got a little taste of dysphoria and the struggles of being trans, just imagine how sad it is for the rest of us. we actually go through the wrong puberty FOR YEARS, all our lives we lived that pain and even more.
"Does that look like mutilation? No. That looks like sex and money." you could be a rapper also WHO WAS YOUR TOP SURGEON you look AMAZING
I also want this information! He looks so fucking ggoooooodddddd
@@62calum shut up, transphobe
@@62calum actually HE is a man because he identifies as one and it doesnt matter what his genitals look like so stop
(and he's beautiful bitch)
62calum wow you’re not only a transphobe, you’re also a fucking pervert. Reporting this, you disgusting bastard
@@Griff23938 he is as much of a man as my little sister and always will be .
I'm getting my top surgery in 1 month and can't wait!!!! I've waited 49 years for this moment and I know i will never regret it and be so,so happy!!
Story: when I was 16 I was struggling with my gender identity and I wanted to identify as nonbinary with they/them pronouns but everyone around me told me that it wasn't real and to just identify as a trans male, so I did that and I physically represented myself as male and went by he/him pronouns for 2 years. My mother was extremely transphobic and told me a lot of detrimental and invalidating things that made me want to transition more. I was put into foster care when I was 17 and started testosterone from there. In my case I rushed this and went with the first therapist I could find and was given testosterone within 2-3 weeks (hastey ik) I stayed on hormones until I was 18 and realized that I still felt off. Now that I was in a more accepting demographic (I moved to LA from Orange County) I stopped my testosterone "cold turkey" and had the last meeting with my hormone therapist before transferring.
In short: I felt nothing from the cut of testosterone besides some mood swings, I have a slightly deeper voice but I actually like this one way more anyways, and I'm turning 22 in February of 2021 and still strongly identify as nonbinary. I'm glad to have the toxic transphobes out of my life, and personally I don't regret attempting to transition one bit.
Happy late birthday ! Im glad that you feel comfortable with the way you are, that's the point anyway !
❤️
I'm very happy that you're at a good place in your life. Your story reminds me of a friend. They now identify as nonbinary, but when they were a youth coming out as trans in the 00's, they didn't have the vocabulary to articulate how they felt. I'm really glad that you're able to identify and present in the way that feels right to you.
I am glad it worked out for you. It's sad when people feel pressured to transition. I also think that folks should be able to partly transition. I see nothing wrong with going on T for a few till you get the effect you want and then stopping T. But it is super important to see a therapist before going on HRT, to make sure it's appropriate for you.
I'm glad it worked out for you :)
I'm agender and my 'friend' recently told me i cant use he/she/they pronouns because you can't use they for a single person but i can still use he/she pronouns he ultimately made fun of my pronouns and said i should just use we as a pronoun probably because 'we' refers to multiple people
I don't get how so many teachers have just let kids pass second grade not knowing that they can be used for a single person
some people are just dumb and are not educated at all
"If you're breathing in New York"
I SCREAMED
That got me *dead* 😂
Same lol
“My pet dog died so nobody can have dogs now.”
Lmao more like "I lied to a doctor to get pills to use to kill my dog so nobody can have dogs now"
No one can eat cake cause I’m on a diet
No one can eat at McDonald’s because I didn’t like the egg McMuffin I got two years ago
I convinced my mom to get me ice cream and i'm lactose intolerant, but its her fault and no one should ever eat ice cream
Fun fact over 90% of people who transition (I have this info from Samantha lux and correct me if I’m wrong) said it saved them from commeting su1cide so i belive you shouldn’t rush it but it’s really helpful to a lot of people mental health
True
I knew a girl who detransitioned bc the Jehovahs witnesses didn’t allow it. She than killed herself bc she couldn’t stand being a guy…
Glad I left not much later :/
Yeah it’s so absolutely harmful to trans people when people who have detransitioned use it as an excuse to say no one is trans. It sucks that people have to go through the detransition process, but it’s also so awful to watch people use it to harm and belittle trans people.
Her complaining about having constant support pisses me off. Some people can’t get that love and support that they desperately need. It makes me angry and I’m not trans. She was complaining about how her friends were supporting her and her parents were letting her get a therapist so she could transition. This whole article is fucking gross
I get that this girl had support was a good thing, but that no one was even the least bit concerned about her health and told her "hey yk don't rush into this ok?" is a bit worrying to me. I can see her issue with that.
@@madhurimapremkumar2341 In the real world, she could’ve been closeted for years. People normally don’t ask “oh when did you decide”, because that’s rude.
No one would know if she had just decided or has been in the closet for years. All they’d want to do is support her.
@@gabrxael It’s their *friend*. What if she was rushing into something that endangered herself. Why would you be more concerned abt someone being absolutely sure they wanted something than abt someone not being so? Why is the first thought when your friend gets irreversible surgery not “I hope they know this is what they want.” and “What if they’re sure and me asking if they’re not is rude.” Why would you care more about rudeness than safety?
@@madhurimapremkumar2341 Because it would be denying someone’s emotions to question who they believe they are.
She TOLD them she was trans, new pronouns, new name. She was SURE about it. And so they accepted and supported her. Your first thought should NOT and NEVER BE: “What if they’re faking it”.
She KNEW she was faking it, she even said how she was lying to her therapists to get their approval. They were just supporting her, and she should have realized how stupid her thought process was before making a life-altering decision.
@@gabrxael Potentially denying someone’s emotions is a risk I’m willing to take when the consequences of doing this can be huge. I would react the same to any potentially dangerous action one would take, like joining the military or getting plastic surgery.
Someone questioning you on whether or not you’re sure about an incredibly expensive procedure that can harm you is someone I’d rather have near me than someone who will support every decision I make blindly. I can’t see why you wouldn’t be for people being questioned about a procedure that is as expensive and health impacting as transitioning into another sex.
I’m not saying the woman who is detrans is not to blame for her actions, I’m just saying blind support isn’t something that helps people at the end of the day.
I was 303lbs. Before transitioning, testosterone saved my life. I now weigh a healthy 172lbs.... great video, thanks for posting
So if fat as fuck just do steroids.
SUPER PROUD OF YOU!!🎉❤️✨
Proud of you king/queen/non binary legend
@•EllieeElven• i feel like if you don’t know someone’s pronouns,,, just don’t use any 🤷♀️ there’s no reason to do that “she/he/they” thing. or just use neutral ones.
@•EllieeElven• nah
This entire story is just her admitting that she chose to be trans
I loooove how she tried to blame the therapists. Look, the therapists only know from what you tell them. If you tell them you have dysphoria, that youve always felt this way and you believe 10000% that you are male, theyre going to diagnose you with gender dysphoria and allow you to be on T. Its not the therapists fault that you neglected to tell them you were a confused lesbian who for some reason thought if they were trans that life would get better.
God, this chick is irritating.
What are we paying them for if they just believe anything that comes out of someone's mouth. That's dumb, naive and dangerous.
@@dracochapman8295 and most trans just want to be attractive to who they want to attract.
That’s the point though - the therapists are meant to be experts and able to diagnose correctly using the diagnostic measures.
It’s gross negligence at best.
Their whole role is to work with people who are vulnerable, anxious and or confused.
@@AS-bg9et EXACTLY.
I see nothing wrong with detransitioners speaking out. It simply wasn't the right choice for THEM. And I think that therapists / doctors should be more vigilant in making sure people who come out as trans really are trans.
I also worry about detransitioners being used as a way to discredit / delegitimize people who truly are transgender. And I don't think it's right for detransitioners to assume that what worked (or didn't work) for them will work for everyone else.
I agree
but the way she said it was “i made a bad decision and now YOU CAN’T DO THE THING I PERSONALLY REGRETTED”
The issue with the article is that it misinforms people about what hormones will do to you
I don't think anyone has an issue with detransitioners sharing their stories, it's just when they start blaming the existence of trans people that i'm mad about.
PERIODT
I find it stupid that the second she thought maybe I'm trans she started trying for a permanent change. Instead of like binding, cutting her hair, and whereing guy clothing. You can change all of that easily but instead she was like hey why don't I PERMANENTLY change my body three seconds after thinking I MIGHT be trans.
I know this story is just so fake, but it still scared me so much that I just had to take a break from the video and sob it out. It shouldn't have to be that scary... I shouldn't have to be scared like this
I might track down the article and expose it. If I do would you like me to post the results in this thread?
@@HangryOnPaws yeah, I'd really appreciate that. Thank you
I feel like she sees transitioning as a nose job or a crazy haircut. She just doesn't know why people do it
“Am I obese and having a heart attack?”
“YES.”
SAM LMAO
lmfao this girl went
"ahaha, what if i was male...
jk...
unless 😳😳😳"
Hormones:
There is another😈
omfg like for realll tho
Transitioning wasn’t the right thing for her and thats fine. She felt so miserable because she isn’t a guy but what she seems to forget is that this is how transpeople feel before transitioning. Just because she did regret it, doesn’t mean others are gonna regret it.