What are you chasing? Why I am giving up and not trying anymore
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- čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
- I have been doing this for the wrong reasons. I've been chasing external ways of regulating myself rather than looking inwards and to the present moment. I've been putting band aids on my feelings and trying to escape my feelings rather than listening to them. I've realised my happiness is in the ordinary present-moment things. So I am giving up all the shoulds. And going back to the basics. No more reaching out. googling. social media. hobbies. dating apps. trying to do this or that. I am going to embrace fully all the every day bits. I'm just going to accept where I am, feelings and all, and be right here. And I have a feeling this is going to bring me closer to a fulfilling life.
For me the problem of chasing things is the restlessness that comes with it.
It is really hard for me to accept myself as i am, because there are many things in my life i wish to be different. But then again, i also know that this is a neverending circle of a thinking pattern.
I just thought to myself so many times that so many problems come with my minds inability to be silent. So many thoughts repeat themself over and over and over again, until they become very tiresome. That has actual physical effects on me where i am constantly tired and just want to rest.
And somehow life consists of endless things to do. Do this, do that, stand up, go work, have some free time here which you spend doing things again and so on and so forth and there is never really an end to it. While meditating helps, the mind will give trouble back as soon as you are out of it. I just want to be in peace.
Have you ever done cognitive behavioural therapy? It could be very useful for those unhelpful thoughts...
I don't want to be just a number and that's why I am commenting.
in these times I feel like everyone have a feeling that they must be a content creator or the next big thing .we are scared of being just a person, someone living their life.
not being what we admire and not being noticed is a constant nightmare for us. that's why we are always running into the next big thing, the next wave, the new trend, the better education, the next degree. We know we should stop running but what should we do with our free time? for me I am a freak learner, I like to learn in my free time, but that is also running, maybe playing video games is not running, going out with friends, going to the gym for mind clarity, watching the kids grow, reading books in other aspects like about parenting, personalities, novels, gardening, maybe trying a new sport, swimming, climbing.
try to find what would be cool to have that is not running. I am currently trying to make my pen writing better, for nothing, just because I want to. I think this strategy could get you or any of the viewers somewhere.
by the way I am not 100% on this goal, it comes and goes but it is fine.
Also another reminder that all of us are going through this too, and you are not alone
so I wrote this comment at minute 10 I think,
but I see that you are one step ahead of me, I will try to live the moment like you said and allow myself to be pleased.
It's a tough one! there has to be balance of course..For me I feel like I have been doing too much chasing and not enough enjoying the every day things. I may return to my goal of clinical psychology in the future, but only if I then can see that it would be a good decision for me and my family and not coming from a place of not accepting where I am at currently. For me, when I feel restless then I choose to chase something, an exciting idea or plan or goal etc. For a while I am going to experiment just being with my restlessness and looking inward.. learning is good, as long as it is giving you something and not taking away! I am going to try to make decisions on what I do with my time when I am feeling calm and know that it's something genuine. :)