To those with low motivation/energy, I'd suggest having as few possessions as possible. The less you have, the less you have to pick up. I can relate. Depression is a beast.
I'm so tired of the misuse of this word. He's not a "partner" if he doesn't help his "partner." "Partners" share each others' loads as a team. He helps her and she helps him = "partner." He's basically just someone she's dating, not a "partner.".
This woman’s issue is not “not having time to clean". It’s a psychological issue, and she desperately needs to seek professional help. Unless she gets to the core reason for why she is living in these conditions, when her house is cleaned out and put in order, it will be no time at all until it goes right back to the way it was. Such a shame that her children had to live in these filthy conditions. Worrying about getting married should be last on her list of priorities!
She wonders why her partner doesn't want to move in? Really??? She has no room for herself.. She lives in a health HAZARD!! I wouldn't knock on the door WITHOUT A MASK😪
@@worldsworstneighbours I really like this channel, it kinda makes me get up and run the vacuum 🤣😅 living in the US it's fun getting a peek in UK households.. their so small compared to ours, and our refrigerators are massive compared to the UK ones.. id LOVE cleaning one those.. it's actually just enough space, easy to keep clean..
Her house is a reflection of how she feels inside. When you're that "heavy" inside you can't do much & just adjust to the environment. She needs to change her comfortable routine. Very sad.
I agree, many parents are just barely able to raise children due to work, health, attitude and don't always pass on those skills. Even as we go on we need to check what we've learned as time, options change. Or as an example we learn that products we thought were tried and true are found to not be safe. US brand Tide on EWG comes to mind.
Exactly what I was thinking. I was taught how to get things clean and keep things clean. I have battled with depression my whole life. It's true that minimizing your belongings, helps to maintain the cleanliness of your home. Bless those who ask for help and those who are willing to help. 😊💗
She obviously has grief, the poor lady. Hoarding usually is the outcome of grief and people can’t cope. She will be ok and Counselling will support her journey. Be kind, you never know if you will step into her shoes due to grief in your own life.
Wouldn’t you try to help them by encouraging counselling at least.? Or support them by hiring a team of hoarding professionals? No? Well any partner of yours is better off without you anyway.
Nice to see Haley again. But my anxiety level goes up when I see her cleaning with her hair hanging loose. Haley, put your hair up/ponytail/braid it anything to not have it flap around into the toilet bowl or greasy oven or in the dust! And Bill? He's just lazy.
I like that she is involved in testing, cleaning, and sorting, so she has more of an idea how bad it really is, and also how to keep it from being like that again.
He's been with her for 10 years?! Why has he never pitched in and lent a hand? Or if he can't handle it, why hasn't he hired a cleaner to help her out? She's working and studying and has a couple of kids. Does he have all that going on? Why can't he at least mow her lawn??! Having said all that though, it's obvious she is very disorganised and doesn't seem to even know the basics. If the kids are old enough, they need to help! Set aside Saturdays to tackle it. Who would pull clean wash out onto a filthy floor?!! And pile it in a big, stinking pile on that rack? Or not use cleaner on the bathroom sink?! When he said he would "make sure it gets cleaned" instead of "I'll help and make sure it stays clean", my blood boiled. I hope I'm wrong, but I can't see them as a couple living together. She's besotted; him I'm not so sure. Sorry. Best of luck though.
The lovely lady has mental health issues. Please be kind enough to understand with a compassionate heart. Whatever happens in the relationship of the first couple is no one’s business.
@@Joans20thCentury what does a grill cost? Foolish to rehab something that far gone. I hate to do it. It wastes 5 minutes but I wipe down the waffle iron with a paper towel because I LOVE WAFFLES!
The problem with drying clothes inside when it is raining is that in the UK the humidity outside is often so high that opening windows and doors does not help if you have 90 - 95% humidity outside then an open window is not going to get rid of damp inside. The only way I solved it was a dehumidifier. Cheaper than a dryer and turning the heating way up. I know this is the least of this ladies problems - I think she needs counselling.
Air movement is good though, even if the humidity level is high. I don't know about yours, but my dehumidifier has a laundry drying setting. It's really good. That washing blows on the airer like it's on the line. 😀
I did have a damp house but invested in three dehumidifiers, two downstairs and one upstairs, they have been a game changer. They are all Meaco's, I can recommend 👌
It's hard to understand how someone's house gets this bad. Many ppl think it's just laziness and sometimes it is but, often women are expected to keep everything in the house up despite working full time themselves. This lady is stretched too far with no help from her husband. I'm sure she's not feeling very supported or loved. I'm sure she is too embarrassed to ask from help from ppl she knows. It's hard to find ppl who will be compassionate and non-judgemental, while keeping things private and opinions to themselves. I'm glad she was able to get some help.
Correction: This is not her husband. She has a long term boyfriend whom does not live in the home. I cannot imagine why he hasn't married and isn't living with her. Still, she has too much to do on her own.
Shaving cream as a cleaner is ridiculous for that bathroom. Needs a proper mildew killer and disinfectant. All those tiles are disintegrated and really need replacing if she can. Same with her carpet on the stairs…there’s no saving that.
Sweetie, get over your problems. In Europe, especially in urban areas, space is not as easy a commodity as in the States. We all have our washing machine in the kitchen or bathroom and we all survive. My cousin has a lovely antique closet in her livingroom... guess what´s in there. Exactly. Her washing machine and dryer. We make do.
Unfortunately council properties don't allow for separate laundry room. I would love one but in social housing which I am so grateful for so I'm not complaining. It's just a bit...😊
Get off your high horse, some people have waaay more health issues than arthritis.just cos you can doesn't mean everyone can judgey 🐄 and no my house isn't like this
@@pondlifefreezone no one should live like that it is a health hazard I'm in agony with spinal arthritis and have to have injections also depression I'm not on a high horse if you want to clean you find a way if you don't and are lazy you make excuses and aren't you judging me
@@angelawood9853 no some people can't, I was a clean freak and since becoming seriously ill with numerous health conditions including cancer and arthritis ME/cfs fibromyalgia ankylising spongylitis (prob spelt that wrong) and depression because of this most days can barely do a thing but I keep trying. I'm not necessarily speaking up for this woman I just know there isn't one size fits all and what one person can do really doesn't mean other people are lazy that's all! I should have omitted the word 🐄 but no I'm not judging you but think before you assume others are just lazy.
And you Judged me I don't care what other people's houses are like if u knew me you would know in not judgmental but watch the blo9dy video and read the other comments
My mom told me long ago, touch things only once, meaning don’t just move it around. When you pick it up, put it where it belongs right away. I’m not perfect at it but It helps me break through my depression at times.
Tony and Rich's case: Orange oil on that sticky living room floor. Leave it set 20 min. Scrape off. Oven cleaner on the grill, cover with saran wrap, leave overnight or as long as possible. Wipes right off. ✨️😅 love that she was given instruction. Hopefully she gets psychological help as well. Great job!
Bill and Antonette feel entitled to be untidy. Regardless of your upbringing you be capable of cleaning up behind yourself. They just needed someone to clean up their filthy house. I don’t believe they will keep it clean.
Hoarding is a mental illness. It is extremely complex. My childhood home ended up becoming a hoarding situation after I moved out and my mom left the relationship. It’s really sad. You also can’t just clean the house. The person who lives there needs therapy and supports to help the, learn life skills.
Possibly the partner has commitment issues. If he doesn’t want to enable, that’s one thing. If he thinks that only she should keep the house clean once he is there, that is a big red flag!!! Not having her guy move in could be like dodging a bullet.
I once scrubbed a guy's kitchen, and he was just a fling. He didn't ask me to, I just lent a hand cuz he was expecting guests. I cannot imagine having a partner for 10 years and them just letting me struggle instead of helping, at least from time to time. Understandable if he doesn't want to live there and that it isn't his responsibility but he should still support a little bit. And tbh, between work, kids and night school, when is this woman even living? Isn't there anything he could do, at all?
I have t say that if this man has been with her 10 years, he could pitch in too at least with the garden. She is in that big house alone by the looks of things.. The way he said ONE of the biggest issues is the mess ,made me wonder whether that was his get out of jail free statement .. a sort of, right ,now that little problem is addressed we'll look at the next one. The thing is, if he were to move in with her (I only watched half the video) , is he then going to still treat it as her problem and her home ,he is living in ,or is he going to be fair and help keep it tidy?
He most likely also has a full time job he may work more than 40hours a week, we don't know. His own place looked very clean and tidy, that's probably he hasn't been helping clean her place, he's cleaning his own place in his home time.
I suffered from depression and a breakdown but my house never looked anything like that at any time. I find it so hard to understand even a modicum of mess being left especially in the bathroom.
Viewers please understand hoarding is more than likely a mental health issue, not just laziness. Be kind to others before commenting. Mental health disorders can affect anyone at any given time, people don’t choose it.
If he made a paste out of the bicarb, put cling film over it, and left it over night he would have got that clean with way less effort. White vinegar spray would also help at the end.
Too much clutter.I would guess her mum was a harder so it was learned behaviour Will be hard to keep it clean. Using that filthy grill was not something most people would do . Lovely lady I hope she can manage it now it's clean.❤❤
She might need a diagnosis and treatment, From what I heard in the beginning, she's totally and completely overwhelmed. She has no idea what to do home. Her house is a representation of her mind. Getting her house cleaned up is great, but without proper care for her mind, when the home comes back to this, and it will, she's gonna take it a lot harder, making her condition worsen 😢
If she's prepared to live like this, and raise her children in this environment, it tells you everything you need to know about her as a person. Whether her partner helps or not is irrelevant, she won't change. I wouldn't choose to live with her either.
@@worldsworstneighboursFor the first couple - I don’t think her partner should have to help her clean if he isn’t currently living in the house with her. It’s all her mess and dirt no?
This woman has a big problem…… Laziness I had 3 children under 6 and was working full time on night shift as a nurse in Emergency department . Looking after the kids during the day, taking the eldest ones to school and back, doing the shopping, and ironing and washing etc…I used to do all the housework and would go back to work the next night with only 4 hours sleep. And my house had never been in that state, it was always totally cleaned. If you do it as it comes and do not wait, then your house should be always in order. She is lazy…….
Well good for you but humans are all different and some people have mental health issues, ADHD and other health issues. Labelling someone as ' lazy' is very judgemental, it's not kind of useful. Where is your empathy and compassion, if you are a nurse I would hope that you would have buckets of both.
I grew up in a mess and I've been a cleaner from toddler age. I always kept my bedroom clean and tried to contain as much as my little self could. My home is clean as an adult. The problem I have is everyone being overdependent on me and making messes and hoarding then expecting me to constantly clean up.
Nope. Disgusting. Bring shame back - she should feel ashamed to have her children living in that pigsty, it is just plain lazy & not cleaning up after you use something. Unless her children are under 10yo they should be helping with learning about chores. I know many single parent families, who work full time & some also study, yet manage to maintain a clean/tidy house. She's been there for 19 years; it is her place, I wouldn't move into it either.
To me it seemed she was trying hard to better herself by working and studying, not sitting on her bum on a benefit. She may never have been taught how to keep a house clean and tidy. I think she is probably overwhelmed too. But she at least asked for help, and even agreed to go on camera which is pretty darned brave. I can't see what shaming her would achieve at all.
situations like this normally originate from mental illness or trauma. please develop compassion. nobody WANTS to live in squallor. and it's wonderful that the homeowner is seeking help. that takes courage to open up your home and show your struggles to others.
Okay the grill, you make a paste with caustic soda, be very careful of the fumes and dont get it on your skin, protect eyes. Paste it all over, put cling wrap over it. Go sleep. Next day wipe it clean and scrub a little with soft plastic brush, and it will be clean in minutes.
She could hire a gardener or her partner could do it. He's as bad as she is about cleaning the house and if you are in a relationship with someone, you should help.
Great cleaning Hayley and team. Both homes look much better now. The second home is really nice cleaned up, showcasing the antiques. All those books are superfluous! You can read books online or loan them from a library. What's the point in having all those dust collectors other than giving an image of being well-read. Most people only read a book once so they should go after that.
Your obviously not a reader. Some of those books maybe worth quite a bit of money, as well not being available commercially any longer or reference books.
don't over commit!!! You chose a partner, you two produced kids? Drop school and work as few hours as you can afford and take care of your kids and the home. Find a partner who wants to share equally and can move forward with you.
Home #1: well done, Team! Haley dear, please wear your hair up and back; it was touching filthy surfaces whenever your leaned forward. Home #2: Bill looks like he has sketchy personal hygiene. He and Antoinette hoarders, and they'll continue to be so after the cleaning.
I'm glad the homeowner is taught how to clean and is expected to help in the actual cleaning. I am always a bit concerned when I see someone come in and clean a home like this while the homeowner is absent because I can't help but wonder how many weeks it will take for her to get it right back in this same condition. MAYBE if she cleans it herself she will be able to maintain it a bit better. I think the BF should wait a while to move in so he can see if this is a one time thing with her or if she actually keeps her house relatively clean.
sometimes its about just giving a push in the right direction. a nice reset. similar to people dealing with rehabilitation. just because a relapse can happen doesnt mean it isnt good to start somewhere. take wins.
@@ZenDragoonYT ok. But both couples lived in unacceptable filth for so long they probably won’t even notice the slide back. Without ever lifting a finger, the place will still look clean to them and they will let everything go. Get back to their ‘passions’…
My husband is retired and I am disabled. My husband is very good looking after me but his idea of cleaning and I are completely different.. I asked him if he would help me declutter the flat to make it better but he refused. After a lot of thing and frying he agreed but hast not made any move yet. We have been married 26 years and he has always worked. I suffer from fibromyalgia, long covid and broke my ankle in November. So I a not very mobile. If they are there alot then they should help even if its only to clear their own mess. All this its a man or woman's job is rubbish. I have tried talking to him about the way he cleans but he takes it as criticism which is not my intention I just want a nice house!😢😢
Men of a certain generation! Tell him he’s going to have to cut down his pocket money because now you need to budget for a professional cleaner. That might work 😉
I'm honestly so surprised they don't have long term physical illnesses.. like infections, food poisoning, skin disease, respiratory digestive something, anything environmental factor. Unless it wasn't discussed during filming...
To those with low motivation/energy, I'd suggest having as few possessions as possible. The less you have, the less you have to pick up. I can relate. Depression is a beast.
Misleading title, he’s not her husband he’s her partner and he doesn’t even live there so is not obligated to clean it 🙄
Exactly what I thought-really not fair to him
Pretty sure that title was aimed at the second couple, where the husband never cleans
Maybe watch the full video before you comment 🙄
Couple #2 shows the unhelpful, slobby husband. He's got a bad attitude
I'm so tired of the misuse of this word. He's not a "partner" if he doesn't help his "partner." "Partners" share each others' loads as a team. He helps her and she helps him = "partner." He's basically just someone she's dating, not a "partner.".
What about her sons? They can do dishes, be taught to do their own laundry, and run a vacuum.
Ever deal with a hoarder? My mother always said I "cleaned it wrong." If I tried to get her to throw something out, she "needed it for later."
For the first couple he should wait a while to make sure it doesnt get bad again
Exactly bc over 90% return to their filthy hoarding ways. Idk what the ‘experts’ are experts in bc it very very rarely are successful.
Animals are never to be blamed for the mess. We chose to have them and it’s our responsibility to clean our houses
Yup it just makes it harder or take longer but definitely our responsibility to stay on top of it….
Totally agree we got a cat always make his litter tray is clean has fresh water etc
Yeah exactly the same as children.
100% y yo lo hago con todo mi amor xq los amo ...
@@rachelhele7827 Not only are we responsible for picking up after them, we need to keep things clean FOR them!🐾
This woman’s issue is not “not having time to clean". It’s a psychological issue, and she desperately needs to seek professional help. Unless she gets to the core reason for why she is living in these conditions, when her house is cleaned out and put in order, it will be no time at all until it goes right back to the way it was. Such a shame that her children had to live in these filthy conditions. Worrying about getting married should be last on her list of priorities!
The kids can help.
maybe they helped to mind transformation😅
Lazy Kids do not help@@hestererlank8354
She looks really depressed.
She reached out.
She's trying.
She wonders why her partner doesn't want to move in? Really??? She has no room for herself.. She lives in a health HAZARD!! I wouldn't knock on the door WITHOUT A MASK😪
Yep...
@@worldsworstneighbours I really like this channel, it kinda makes me get up and run the vacuum 🤣😅 living in the US it's fun getting a peek in UK households.. their so small compared to ours, and our refrigerators are massive compared to the UK ones.. id LOVE cleaning one those.. it's actually just enough space, easy to keep clean..
Her house is a reflection of how she feels inside. When you're that "heavy" inside you can't do much & just adjust to the environment. She needs to change her comfortable routine. Very sad.
Im sorry but who in the world would think the washing would dry - just piled up on the clothes rack !!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I like that she is taught how to clean. A lot of people never had the training.
That’s a nice positive comment. Shows that you are a nice person to say it. Cheers.
You don't need to be trained how to clean. Come on!
@@AniGstring l respectfully disagree.
I agree, many parents are just barely able to raise children due to work, health, attitude and don't always pass on those skills. Even as we go on we need to check what we've learned as time, options change. Or as an example we learn that products we thought were tried and true are found to not be safe. US brand Tide on EWG comes to mind.
Exactly what I was thinking. I was taught how to get things clean and keep things clean. I have battled with depression my whole life. It's true that minimizing your belongings, helps to maintain the cleanliness of your home. Bless those who ask for help and those who are willing to help. 😊💗
The fact that she doesn't mind cooking in a NASTY electric grill just shows that she doesn't care.
She obviously has grief, the poor lady. Hoarding usually is the outcome of grief and people can’t cope. She will be ok and Counselling will support her journey. Be kind, you never know if you will step into her shoes due to grief in your own life.
She’s not a hoarder, she can let go. She just doesn’t like cleaning. Maybe she would enjoy cleaning if someone is doing it with her.
I would just have to throw away that grill. (Did they swab that grill? 😂)
I wud no longer be in a relationship if I found out they lived like this
Wouldn’t you try to help them by encouraging counselling at least.? Or support them by hiring a team of hoarding professionals? No? Well any partner of yours is better off without you anyway.
Why didn't they just buy another small grill for $20 ???
Can't stand smell of vinegar but can stand smell of nasty house really
When they started cleaning with no gloves on, especially the bathroom it was hard not to be grossed out.
Why would they do that? Kind of disgusting.
So easy to become overwhelmed. Wonderful job
she acts like she did not know how to clean,, all a surprise to her,,come on,,
Maybe she doesn't!
@@worldsworstneighboursA woman should know how to clean.
@@rachelhele7827 and you should know how to show compassion for those struggling with depression.
@tanial694 Everything is depression these days.
Cleaning is not just something you are born knowing how to do. Some people really don’t know how.
Nice to see Haley again. But my anxiety level goes up when I see her cleaning with her hair hanging loose.
Haley, put your hair up/ponytail/braid it anything to not have it flap around into the toilet bowl or greasy oven or in the dust! And Bill? He's just lazy.
I like that she is involved in testing, cleaning, and sorting, so she has more of an idea how bad it really is, and also how to keep it from being like that again.
This episode makes me want go home and clean!
He's been with her for 10 years?! Why has he never pitched in and lent a hand? Or if he can't handle it, why hasn't he hired a cleaner to help her out? She's working and studying and has a couple of kids. Does he have all that going on? Why can't he at least mow her lawn??!
Having said all that though, it's obvious she is very disorganised and doesn't seem to even know the basics. If the kids are old enough, they need to help! Set aside Saturdays to tackle it. Who would pull clean wash out onto a filthy floor?!! And pile it in a big, stinking pile on that rack? Or not use cleaner on the bathroom sink?!
When he said he would "make sure it gets cleaned" instead of "I'll help and make sure it stays clean", my blood boiled. I hope I'm wrong, but I can't see them as a couple living together. She's besotted; him I'm not so sure. Sorry. Best of luck though.
He isn't going to move in, I think that was obvious. Why would she want him to anyway as he doesn't seem the type to lift a hand to help.
Maybe she’s *not* besotted? She keeps not cleaning up so he doesn’t move in? 😅
The lovely lady has mental health issues. Please be kind enough to understand with a compassionate heart. Whatever happens in the relationship of the first couple is no one’s business.
I think after 10 years he could have helped! Lazy bloke!
Why waste an hour cleaning a grill pan, it would have been better to buy a new one
Right, and some grill surfaces can be carcinogenic if particles are ingested, namely non-stick ones.
Maybe they just wanted to explain how to clean them 🤷 but that thing sent my ocd into overdrive! 😂
Could be a money issue?
And maybe mow the back lawns
More junk waste for the planet because people are lazy.🤔🤷♀️🦘
That would turn my stomach, that grill should have been binned 🤢
Yep...
@@Joans20thCentury what does a grill cost? Foolish to rehab something that far gone. I hate to do it. It wastes 5 minutes but I wipe down the waffle iron with a paper towel because I LOVE WAFFLES!
I agree
The problem with drying clothes inside when it is raining is that in the UK the humidity outside is often so high that opening windows and doors does not help if you have 90 - 95% humidity outside then an open window is not going to get rid of damp inside. The only way I solved it was a dehumidifier. Cheaper than a dryer and turning the heating way up. I know this is the least of this ladies problems - I think she needs counselling.
Air movement is good though, even if the humidity level is high. I don't know about yours, but my dehumidifier has a laundry drying setting. It's really good. That washing blows on the airer like it's on the line. 😀
Good point!
@@suewilkinson910 hi would you mind sharing make and model please .
I point a fan at mine too.
I did have a damp house but invested in three dehumidifiers, two downstairs and one upstairs, they have been a game changer. They are all Meaco's, I can recommend 👌
If downstairs is that bad, upstairs must be horrendous too..
Tell me about it..
THAT place probably needs an exorcist!!😂
If she has older kids why aren't they helping ther mom?
Hoarders usually won't allow their children to help. They end up arguing and guilt tripping them to get them to stop and it strains the relationship.
There is an amazing woman from Finland who helps people with absolutely filthy homes. I mean bad n she does it for free. It’s a good watch
It's hard to understand how someone's house gets this bad. Many ppl think it's just laziness and sometimes it is but, often women are expected to keep everything in the house up despite working full time themselves. This lady is stretched too far with no help from her husband. I'm sure she's not feeling very supported or loved. I'm sure she is too embarrassed to ask from help from ppl she knows. It's hard to find ppl who will be compassionate and non-judgemental, while keeping things private and opinions to themselves. I'm glad she was able to get some help.
Correction: This is not her husband. She has a long term boyfriend whom does not live in the home. I cannot imagine why he hasn't married and isn't living with her. Still, she has too much to do on her own.
Not his house not his responsibility. Her house her kids they should clean it up.
@@theicequeen4076 I can imagine why he didn't marry her. He had seen this home.
Good love you for your beautiful comment. At last someone that thinks of others instead of judging.
@@theicequeen4076 If she were clean and tidy, he'd likely already have moved in.
Shaving cream as a cleaner is ridiculous for that bathroom. Needs a proper mildew killer and disinfectant. All those tiles are disintegrated and really need replacing if she can. Same with her carpet on the stairs…there’s no saving that.
What I love about this cleaning programme is there’s no judgement. They just crack on.
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Oh they’re judging, just not on camera
I do not understand why Britain doesn’t have a proper laundry room. Flithy clothes should not be intermingled in the kitchen.
A lot of British homes have utility rooms, however the UK is a population dense country so houses tend to be smaller than say in the USA.
I wish I’ve never had any utility pantry laundry rooms we just don’t have houses big enough here unfortunately 😢
Sweetie, get over your problems. In Europe, especially in urban areas, space is not as easy a commodity as in the States. We all have our washing machine in the kitchen or bathroom and we all survive. My cousin has a lovely antique closet in her livingroom... guess what´s in there. Exactly. Her washing machine and dryer. We make do.
Britain is overpopulated.
Unfortunately council properties don't allow for separate laundry room. I would love one but in social housing which I am so grateful for so I'm not complaining. It's just a bit...😊
I have severe arthritis and am 69 my house is cleaned never any excuse
Get off your high horse, some people have waaay more health issues than arthritis.just cos you can doesn't mean everyone can judgey 🐄 and no my house isn't like this
@@pondlifefreezone no one should live like that it is a health hazard I'm in agony with spinal arthritis and have to have injections also depression I'm not on a high horse if you want to clean you find a way if you don't and are lazy you make excuses and aren't you judging me
@@angelawood9853 no some people can't, I was a clean freak and since becoming seriously ill with numerous health conditions including cancer and arthritis ME/cfs fibromyalgia ankylising spongylitis (prob spelt that wrong) and depression because of this most days can barely do a thing but I keep trying. I'm not necessarily speaking up for this woman I just know there isn't one size fits all and what one person can do really doesn't mean other people are lazy that's all! I should have omitted the word 🐄 but no I'm not judging you but think before you assume others are just lazy.
Oh and I have a spinal cord injury too
And you Judged me I don't care what other people's houses are like if u knew me you would know in not judgmental but watch the blo9dy video and read the other comments
My mom told me long ago, touch things only once, meaning don’t just move it around. When you pick it up, put it where it belongs right away. I’m not perfect at it but It helps me break through my depression at times.
Tony and Rich's case: Orange oil on that sticky living room floor. Leave it set 20 min. Scrape off. Oven cleaner on the grill, cover with saran wrap, leave overnight or as long as possible. Wipes right off. ✨️😅 love that she was given instruction. Hopefully she gets psychological help as well. Great job!
I am a single mom who works full time and my house has never been this neglected. Hope she can keep up with it now that it is clean.
I would be in a constant state of isolation, anxiety, and self criticism if I lived in such a state. Here's hoping she gets the help she needs.
Bill and Antonette feel entitled to be untidy. Regardless of your upbringing you be capable of cleaning up behind yourself. They just needed someone to clean up their filthy house. I don’t believe they will keep it clean.
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i think buying a new grill would have saved a lot of time. Then showed how to keep it clean.
Wonder what the bedroom looks like.
Good point...
Hoarding is a mental illness. It is extremely complex. My childhood home ended up becoming a hoarding situation after I moved out and my mom left the relationship. It’s really sad. You also can’t just clean the house. The person who lives there needs therapy and supports to help the, learn life skills.
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The weird part is her partner won't help make it a nice toxic free place to live for their health that matters so much.
Possibly the partner has commitment issues. If he doesn’t want to enable, that’s one thing. If he thinks that only she should keep the house clean once he is there, that is a big red flag!!!
Not having her guy move in could be like dodging a bullet.
I once scrubbed a guy's kitchen, and he was just a fling. He didn't ask me to, I just lent a hand cuz he was expecting guests. I cannot imagine having a partner for 10 years and them just letting me struggle instead of helping, at least from time to time. Understandable if he doesn't want to live there and that it isn't his responsibility but he should still support a little bit. And tbh, between work, kids and night school, when is this woman even living? Isn't there anything he could do, at all?
I have t say that if this man has been with her 10 years, he could pitch in too at least with the garden. She is in that big house alone by the looks of things.. The way he said ONE of the biggest issues is the mess ,made me wonder whether that was his get out of jail free statement .. a sort of, right ,now that little problem is addressed we'll look at the next one. The thing is, if he were to move in with her (I only watched half the video) , is he then going to still treat it as her problem and her home ,he is living in ,or is he going to be fair and help keep it tidy?
Good point!
I'm wondering if they are still together. I get this nagging feeling that he will constantly judge her.
We're is the cleaning crew she bought in what happened to them😅😅😅😅😅
He most likely also has a full time job he may work more than 40hours a week, we don't know. His own place looked very clean and tidy, that's probably he hasn't been helping clean her place, he's cleaning his own place in his home time.
I don’t blame him for not wanting to move in that mess.
No kidding. Absolutely disgusting
I suffered from depression and a breakdown but my house never looked anything like that at any time. I find it so hard to understand even a modicum of mess being left especially in the bathroom.
Viewers please understand hoarding is more than likely a mental health issue, not just laziness. Be kind to others before commenting. Mental health disorders can affect anyone at any given time, people don’t choose it.
How clean is your house with Kim and Aggie was far better!
If he made a paste out of the bicarb, put cling film over it, and left it over night he would have got that clean with way less effort. White vinegar spray would also help at the end.
Too much clutter.I would guess her mum was a harder so it was learned behaviour
Will be hard to keep it clean. Using that filthy grill was not something most people would do . Lovely lady I hope she can manage it now it's clean.❤❤
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Is she really going to keep it clean ? I'm sorry but there's no excuse for this filth
She might need a diagnosis and treatment, From what I heard in the beginning, she's totally and completely overwhelmed. She has no idea what to do home. Her house is a representation of her mind. Getting her house cleaned up is great, but without proper care for her mind, when the home comes back to this, and it will, she's gonna take it a lot harder, making her condition worsen 😢
You can tell a lot by a person on how clean their kitchen and bathroom is.Absalutley no excuse for this.
Absolutely!
it's normally has to do with a mental illness or trauma. please be kind.
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Be kind to your self 💚
@@ZenDragoonYTI suffer from depression and I force myself to do housework. My cats are not going to live in squalor.
She will take that behaviour into the marriage!
Shouldn't he help?
If she's prepared to live like this, and raise her children in this environment, it tells you everything you need to know about her as a person. Whether her partner helps or not is irrelevant, she won't change. I wouldn't choose to live with her either.
@@worldsworstneighbours yes!!!!
@@worldsworstneighboursFor the first couple - I don’t think her partner should have to help her clean if he isn’t currently living in the house with her. It’s all her mess and dirt no?
@@worldsworstneighboursnot his house not his responsibility
This woman has a big problem…… Laziness I had 3 children under 6 and was working full time on night shift as a nurse in Emergency department . Looking after the kids during the day, taking the eldest ones to school and back, doing the shopping, and ironing and washing etc…I used to do all the housework and would go back to work the next night with only 4 hours sleep. And my house had never been in that state, it was always totally cleaned. If you do it as it comes and do not wait, then your house should be always in order. She is lazy…….
Well good for you but humans are all different and some people have mental health issues, ADHD and other health issues. Labelling someone as ' lazy' is very judgemental, it's not kind of useful. Where is your empathy and compassion, if you are a nurse I would hope that you would have buckets of both.
I thought it was her head but I agree it is nothing but LAZYNESS.
This sad cause that means her kids grew up in this situation and now that they’re older they will have issues with it.
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I grew up in a mess and I've been a cleaner from toddler age. I always kept my bedroom clean and tried to contain as much as my little self could. My home is clean as an adult. The problem I have is everyone being overdependent on me and making messes and hoarding then expecting me to constantly clean up.
Stand your ground please refrain from letting them take advantage of you
I like to listen to this while cleaning for motivation.
Hoarding shows have changed my life.
Its good to help out. So if you're in a relationship help out
Nope. Disgusting. Bring shame back - she should feel ashamed to have her children living in that pigsty, it is just plain lazy & not cleaning up after you use something. Unless her children are under 10yo they should be helping with learning about chores. I know many single parent families, who work full time & some also study, yet manage to maintain a clean/tidy house. She's been there for 19 years; it is her place, I wouldn't move into it either.
Fair enough!
To me it seemed she was trying hard to better herself by working and studying, not sitting on her bum on a benefit. She may never have been taught how to keep a house clean and tidy. I think she is probably overwhelmed too. But she at least asked for help, and even agreed to go on camera which is pretty darned brave. I can't see what shaming her would achieve at all.
situations like this normally originate from mental illness or trauma. please develop compassion. nobody WANTS to live in squallor. and it's wonderful that the homeowner is seeking help. that takes courage to open up your home and show your struggles to others.
Okay the grill, you make a paste with caustic soda, be very careful of the fumes and dont get it on your skin, protect eyes. Paste it all over, put cling wrap over it. Go sleep. Next day wipe it clean and scrub a little with soft plastic brush, and it will be clean in minutes.
The yard is full of debris too 😢
Yep...
If she didn't clean she's not going to do the garden lol
She could hire a gardener or her partner could do it. He's as bad as she is about cleaning the house and if you are in a relationship with someone, you should help.
He can stay right where he is cause if he can’t help the situation then he can’t enjoy the aftermath of the situation!!
My sentiments exactly, the way he didn't even reach out to give her a hug when she was crying until after the cleaner did, speaks volumes!!
@@sallyal5266 exactly!
Great cleaning Hayley and team. Both homes look much better now. The second home is really nice cleaned up, showcasing the antiques. All those books are superfluous! You can read books online or loan them from a library. What's the point in having all those dust collectors other than giving an image of being well-read. Most people only read a book once so they should go after that.
Your obviously not a reader. Some of those books maybe worth quite a bit of money, as well not being available commercially any longer or reference books.
don't over commit!!! You chose a partner, you two produced kids? Drop school and work as few hours as you can afford and take care of your kids and the home. Find a partner who wants to share equally and can move forward with you.
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I personally wouldn’t want a relationship with anyone who lives like this. I’ll live by myself
The kitchen bacteria check got me to jump up and spray bleach my sink 😂
We know both households will go right back to the way it was.
Thats no excuse your tired cause u have 2 children and work i have 4 children and work 2 jobs abd still clean my home
You have to change, not something; just start cleaning your home by picking up rubbish, binning it and get cleaning. It's not rocket science.
Antoinette has a lovely house and hope she gets to enjoy that.
“Marginally less than super clean” wow. I’m not a neat freak…but I might be now!😂
Old man wants a maid like whwn he was younger. He donr want a wife. He expects her to clean up after him.
He didn’t make the mess it’s her house her responsibility. He has his own house.
Did you not watch the video? HE DOESN'T LIVE THERE!
But, the mildew. Black mold is no joke. I wonder if it’s all behind those tiles and wall board?
Nice job cleaning tho.
I am so happy that she got the help it looks amazing.❤
Why is only the woman cleaning?
Home #1: well done, Team! Haley dear, please wear your hair up and back; it was touching filthy surfaces whenever your leaned forward.
Home #2: Bill looks like he has sketchy personal hygiene. He and Antoinette hoarders, and they'll continue to be so after the cleaning.
What a lovely couple! I hope Toni and Richard do move forward with their relationship now the house is cleaner and more organised.
We do too!
@@worldsworstneighbours If I were him I'd want to give it at least 6 months to see what she does to a) the rest of the house and b) how she keeps it.
@@suewilkinson910 If I were her I'd want to see if he's going to be more supportive in practical, hands-on ways too.
THIS!!!! He better not expect her to do it all. That’s not a partner.
I'm glad the homeowner is taught how to clean and is expected to help in the actual cleaning. I am always a bit concerned when I see someone come in and clean a home like this while the homeowner is absent because I can't help but wonder how many weeks it will take for her to get it right back in this same condition. MAYBE if she cleans it herself she will be able to maintain it a bit better. I think the BF should wait a while to move in so he can see if this is a one time thing with her or if she actually keeps her house relatively clean.
The title of this is sooooo off 😂 her partner, not husband, doesn’t even live with her.
Glossed over the black mold problem in the bathroom
Yikes...
yeah, shaving cream is not the solution to black mold 😂
Bill...God love him...he needs to do something about that toofy😅
Love how she sets the food out at the " cat station" but i know full well if i had the food out on display my boys would eat the lot 😂
Her husband is NOT a "partner." He is another son since he lives there and refuses to help clean. LBH
Never thought I would see Hayley put hand down toilet like that. She has always been a lovely person ❤
Right? I was surprised to see that scene!
I don’t feel hopeful about maintain this deep clean with this couple.
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sometimes its about just giving a push in the right direction. a nice reset. similar to people dealing with rehabilitation. just because a relapse can happen doesnt mean it isnt good to start somewhere. take wins.
@@ZenDragoonYT ok. But both couples lived in unacceptable filth for so long they probably won’t even notice the slide back. Without ever lifting a finger, the place will still look clean to them and they will let everything go. Get back to their ‘passions’…
This is result of mental illness. They need some help. Getting the home cleaned up is a start
With the cost of shaving foam, lol thats not a good alternative cleaning product. Use the vinegar pls.
Why dont you call Aurikatarina?
I loove that girl ❤❤
From 🇰🇪 kenya ❤❤
Great job again. Hope they keep up with it.❤
did NOT expect to see a ddlc reference on the fridge xD
My husband is retired and I am disabled. My husband is very good looking after me but his idea of cleaning and I are completely different.. I asked him if he would help me declutter the flat to make it better but he refused. After a lot of thing and frying he agreed but hast not made any move yet. We have been married 26 years and he has always worked. I suffer from fibromyalgia, long covid and broke my ankle in November. So I a not very mobile. If they are there alot then they should help even if its only to clear their own mess. All this its a man or woman's job is rubbish. I have tried talking to him about the way he cleans but he takes it as criticism which is not my intention I just want a nice house!😢😢
Oh no!
Men of a certain generation! Tell him he’s going to have to cut down his pocket money because now you need to budget for a professional cleaner. That might work 😉
Some grills have removable cooking plates that can be soaked in the sink .
I’d have bought a new grill!
Great job guys! 🙌🏽👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😍😘
she needs educating .
The title is f wrong
Why?
@@worldsworstneighbours perhaps you need educating too ?
All people like that seem to have plenty of possessions, and forget where the waste bin is. - Psychological!
Most of that dirt could be tackled with Jiff and a green scouring pad😊
48hrs my bottom 😂
He’s giving off so many red flags, I hope that she gets help she needs
I'm honestly so surprised they don't have long term physical illnesses.. like infections, food poisoning, skin disease, respiratory digestive something, anything environmental factor. Unless it wasn't discussed during filming...
I was thinking that. If the sink was five thousand times over health precautions how come they weren't ill
The house is so cute. ❤. I love all the colors.
I love this young lady, so willing to offer help and advice.
For the toilet thats like that, put one cup of pool acid in it, leave it overnight, next day use a normal toilet brush.