Engagement rings are a scam, drinking underage & being friends with the opposite sex | Ep. 36
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We've got hot takes and you've got hot takes too, from our thoughts on Taylor Swift and her "cult" of Swifties to whether or not engagement rings are a scam and if you should be friends with people of the opposite sex when you're in a committed relationship.
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What Abby said about everyone needing to be comfortable disagreeing and still be okay with each other, that’s SO true. I wish our world wouldn’t have gotten so offended by everything and sensitive. It should be a positive thing to share our differences in a respectful way❤️
100%
Yes completely. I feel like sometimes an entire view of someone is changed over one simple thing they said and that just isn't appropriate. Whether that view is the media's or an individual's, it's insane how much an opinion can change so fast over seemingly nothing to some of us.
I absolutely LOVE conversations Abt hot-takes and controversial topics etc. It's so much fun!! I get so passionate no matter if they agree or disagree with me.
100% it's okay to not agree on things. That's life. That's the beauty of difference but these days people just want yes men
Spot on 💯. See an individual and appreciate their dynamic personality, we're all singular non replica (yet😮) beings
Someone finally said it about fake eyelashes/ eyelash extensions. I've always thought they look so bad no matter how 'natural' the lashes are 😂
Agreed 😬
There are some people who you probably don’t even know they have extensions because they look so natural
Abby is hilarious! “You wanna see crazy, I’ll show you crazy!” 😂
I can't wait to see her in 15 years😂. That's when the crazy really sets in. She'll be using that line on her kids.
My husband gave me his grandmother's ring as an engagement ring. It's beautiful and I so love that it's a family heirloom because it is extra special and makes me feel even more included in his family. The stone is amethyst, which ended up being the stone for our wedding month and the birth month of our first child. I love how it has all turned out!
Precious❤
My engagement ring was appraised at 10k and it took 3 years for him to propose. Three months after I lost the main diamond. It fell out of the setting. I tore the sink apart because that's where I noticed it was gone. Thank GOD, I ended up finding it in my attic on the stairs where I changed my clothes. Immediately after that we took it to a jeweler and got the setting fixed and put two feet around the diamond instead of one and added a halo around the diamond. We got it appraised and insured in case anything like that ever happens again. Insurance on your valuables is the best thing you can do
As a die hard swiftie I appreciate the respect.. I get why people think she’s over hyped and it’s all so extra if they aren’t fans. But I think just to respect her as an artist. People don’t have to like her if they don’t want to.
Shes the smartest business woman around
Right? I’m like I understand not everyone can like her music but I think everyone should respect how smart, dedicated, talented and just all around the person she is. (I’m also a die hard swiftie!!)
LITERALLY! THANKS!
yeah exactly. I am not really a swiftie but my sister is a die hard swiftie and all I hear in my house if taylor swift, but i have my respect for her as an artist because she has been a thing for so long and she knows a thing or 2 about the music industry and being a new artist.
I love Taylor Swift and I don’t think she’s overrated just because I’m a fan, but you need to think about why she would have so many people hyping her too much if there’s nothing there 😅
“The worst kind of person is someone who makes someone feel bad, dumb or stupid for being excited about something.” - Taylor Swift. Confirmed that Taylor Swift doesn’t think you are dumb for starting a musical career.
Yes! Agree 💯!!
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THAT!!!
Absolutely. These two are starting to believe they can say or do no wrong. I'm basically done with it.
@@michelewalkerwebbOh good grief.
Love when abbey is constantly aware of the disclaimers because she cares about people feelings not because she cares more about her channels. And love when Matt says that even if you disagree with us we can still be friends. And in these little ways, you guys are great examples and have real influence definitely not just nobodies.
The way Matt constantly speaks love to Abby is so heartwarming! He’s always so kind to her. A true example of marriage. ❤
Wow it sucks that people crapped on you guys for doing a podcast when you first started!! It’s literally the highlight of my week ♥️
Same it’s so relaxing watching them, I want to have what they have one day because it so beautiful
He. C bc
Same
As someone studying dietetics and working towards becoming a registered dietitian, YESS! All foods can fit! Thank you guys for not buying into diet culture 👏🏻
We didn't get an engagement ring at all. We decided to put the money towards our wedding. My wedding band cost $79. My dress cost $450. We had a picnic in my parents garden for our reception and we spent the most money on our photos. Our total cost for our wedding was $8000 of which $5000 was the food/drinks (no alcohol). Am I happy we did it this way?? You bet!! And we have been happily married 25 years! xx
We had a similar approach to our wedding and have never regretted it. Although I would hesitate to say this is universally true, I have noticed that in many cases, it seems that the more extravagant a wedding, the shorter than marriage lasts.
I’ve been married 28 yrs and I can say WITHOUT a doubt the reason we are still strong today is the fact we respect each other in every regard .
That’s the one thing I share to couples asking how we made it so long and how we are still madly in love .
Treat your significant other the exact same way you want to be treated .
My husband and I are best friends and truly have the most ultimate respect for one another .
It just works ❤
Love you guys 😊
I am so glad you two are influencers for the younger generation. Very articulate and genuine. I appreciate your viewpoints and ability to share them!
Just dropping a comment to say that I’m local & looking for buddies 💗 My husband, toddler & I moved to Phoenix just a few months ago and finding some friends who are moms too has been so hard! We left all of our family behind in Florida and it definitely feels lonely “momming” alone. Our little one was born just 2 days after Griffin & my husband is very outdoorsy and loves hiking! Love y’all & your hot takes!
They should see this!
We are local too. My husband and I moved from California. Two daughters. It is very lonely especially in the hotter months. No one comes outside in Arizona.
Note from your friends in Europe, EVERYONE should take their shoes off at home!!! It’s so common here, you just know to arrive at someone’s house and remove your shoes at the door. Some people have some cosy cheap slippers to wear at home themselves and also for friends and family that come visit ☺️ it’s just more hygienic and nicer.
haha YES thank you for sharing that. When I watched it I was like "why wear shoes, it's so comfy without them" and everyone does it here haha :)
wait Europeans do that? I guess it depends on which part since Europe is huge and they definitely do not do that in Germany lol
what I meant to say is that most Europeans take their shoes off, sorry if that was miscommunicated haha - ich bin auch Deutsche und hab sie immer ausgezogen ;) @@sunlight.travels
@@sunlight.travelsreally??? I’d expect Germany to do it too since I’ve lived in Switzerland for years and now I live in Austria and everyone does it hahah :)
@@sunlight.travelsit depends where in Germany they live, I know plenty of people in Germany who have shoes off in the house rule. So I think it just depends on the person/family.
First of all, Abby has a sweet voice, Matt sings beautifully, and your podcast is one of the only ones that I can listen to the entire way through. Keep doing what you do, I love you guys ❤
Hot take: the unplanned podcast is SO GOOD 👏🏾
I can relate with Abby about having to have a breakfast type of food first no matter what time of day it is 😂 it feels weird jumping into any type of lunch/dinner food first haha
Totally agree. I can not understand why people spend money on engagement rings and weddings when they could just use it as a down payment on a house.
Some people work hard and have money.
Weddings too! It’s such a waist!
I realize I’m very fortunate but my dad paid for my wedding. He said he had saved that money specifically for my wedding. And that money wasn’t available to us for just anything. It was for me and my siblings if we wanted a wedding.
Sometimes you get gift amounts that equal the price of the wedding and you have something to enjoy with family and friends
@@S_Car28yeah.. that’s why we waited 10 years after being together and 5 years after being engaged to have our wedding. I wanted a dream wedding. It was 30k which is the average wedding price. We waited until i graduated grad school and started working for a couple years so we could afford a wedding.
In Canada you ALWAYS take your shoes off at the door before entering someone's home, unless they specifically say it's ok to leave your shoes on. When you live someplace with a lot of weather fluctuation and all 4 seasons you have to! I was always amazed during my visits to the US how common it is for people to wear outdoor shoes inside.
With the whole shoes thing, as an Asian, we usually have a set of house slippers in our home, so we have "outside" shoes and "inside" shoes. it's just part of our culture...
Church is such a great way to find a community when you move somewhere new. You could go with Bella and Dallin!!
I do not believe Taylor Swift is overrated. She built her empire as Matt said! She deserves the hype. And my husband and I do not have “rules” when it comes to talking to single women but he constantly reassures and make me comfortable with him talking to anyone. He tells me anytime a girl texts him even my sister 😅 I got a good one honestly. In my previous relationship this was a very toxic subject 😅
Your podcast has become one of my favorites. I love how funny Abby is and am glad she is showcasing her personality. And Matt cares so much, about the podcast, about the product he produces, and they care so much about each other. It really is a great outlet!
My hubby and I were so poor when we got married in 1996, we didn't have money for engagement rings. We bought our rings at a pawn shop. A plain gold band for him, a diamond cross band for me. And.....here we are.....celebrating 28 years in April. We did talk about a lot. What happened to those people, to their marriage? I wouldn't change a thing.
My engagement ring is from my fiancée’s great grandma’s aunt so it’s super old and cost nothing! I believe in reusing family rings because there are so pretty and it stops the rings from being a scam!
I AGREE MATT! The brown sugar cinnamon pop tart is so underrated! Pop that baby in the toaster and it’s so bomb!!!
I am a single woman with married guy friends. I worked with a guy who was one of my closest friends for a while. We ate lunch every day at work together. It was completely platonic. I met his wife and kids attended their birthday parties. Loved his wife. We don't work together anymore, and don't live near each other, but we will still message each other to check in. Having a friendship with someone of the opposite sex is completely possible. Just need the spouse to feel confident in the relationship and comfortable with the friend as a person.
Exactly 👌
I found that episode really inspirational. Especially the part with being parents and being good at your job. Thanks for sharing!
I agree with 99% of your hot takes 😂❤️ love it that you said you can have different opinions but still be friends. I love having different viewpoints than my loved ones.
People who disagree with you ARE NOT BAD PEOPLE. We’re all entitled to our own feelings and opinions. I love y’all. ♥️
That first hot take. I grew up with bangs, got rid of them through uni and then came back to them when I started my teaching career and become a mom. It felt like coming home when I chopped them again. Maybe it’s because I’m a redhead, but they suit me so much better and I wished I had bangs for our wedding day! But the key is to know how to trim them yourself confidently, makes bags a waaay better experience.
I’m 32.. and I’ve had bangs since I was 17. 😂 side bangs. Have not cut them. I feel I look weird without them.
😂😂😂
Matt: Hot Take-which pop tart is the best pop tart??
Abby: Hot Take-pop tarts are disgusting
Matt: EH wrong….brown sugar cinnamon
😂😂😂 you guys crack me UP
I also LOVE that Abby is educated! Especially with her relationship with food 💕
The podcasts I love the most are the ones where u guys are just chatting ❤
My favourite podcasts are the ones with just you guys chatting ❤😊
My favorite episode so far. You guys seemed so insync. It was very relaxing to watch an listen to. ❤keep it up!
I absolutely loved this podcast. Very thought provoking. You guys are awesome xxx
Abby your voice is lovely and really suits you. People can be horrible. Hope you don’t listen to the negative comments from jealous people. ❤
you guys seem so be doing so much better mentally!! happy for you guys!
I liked this video a lot, I love hearing other people opinions and discussing that it’s okay to be different and still have a strong friendship. If you agreed all the time life would be boring. I watch a lot of your videos and would consider myself very different from you guys but enjoy seeing different perspectives! 💪🏼
i love your podcast, so fun to watch. i love all the guest you bring on the show but i almost love when its just yall two a little more!!
I really love your podcast. Keep doing what you guys are doing, yall are amazing. Crocs are amazing.
My husband and I moved to Las Cruces NM from Fort Worth TX last year and immediately became pregnant. So not only did we move away from all of our friends, we had a huge life change. It’s been very lonely. Still haven’t found community here.
I enjoy watching your podcasts because you guys are so relatable and it makes me feel less lonely ♥️ thank you both for being genuine and authentic. The world needs more people like you.
this podcast is the highlight of my week and it really really motivates me !!
Yes, Abby! Love love love what you said about people needing to disagree well! Having varying perspectives in your life is so important!
It is not the first time I hear this hot-take in the podcast and I want to address it. Having close friends of the opposite sex should not be a problem, it masks jelousy issues of the person. What if the person is bisexual or pansexual? Then they cannot have friends? I understand for couples/marriages of 2 heterosexual people that may be a thing they do not thinn about. But just saying it here becauae it keeps popping up. Anyway, love the podcast, it is somehow comforting to hear you both speak. I wish you both and your little ones the best!
Thank you so much for putting out a podcast right now.
Hot take but there are some opinions people have that are non negotiables with me. Not talking about religion or politics but for example overly posting your children on public online accounts. Your friend Bella and Dallin I think his name is, I stopped watching them because every single post or video is of their new baby. It makes me super uncomfy. I also dont follow anyone I know personally who has a public IG and posts their kids. I just dont support it. Thats my "hot" take lol
I completely agree, your kids can’t consent to have their faces on the internet and people can make deepfakes of anyone and there are so many creeps on the internet who follow others purely for their kids
I love the podcast and I LOVE Matt's songs!! You are so talented, Matt. Never stop singing!
I'm very glad you guys are doing the podcast ❤️😊 usually a silent viewer
I love this podcast I look forward to it every week I love watching y’all and your podcast helps me relax ❤
It''s great that y''all are able to do these podcast. It's good for your marriage. Open and honest!
You are exactly right about being that friend/being the one to ask. I once heard a speaker at an event talk about friendship, and that if you want to have good friends, you need to be a good friend, and part of that is being the one to be willing to do the asking and serving…if you have found a good friend, they will do that in return!
Also, about wanting community/friendship/people to do life with…find a church you like, and join a small group and a mom group. You will find your people.
Congratulations Matt! Love your song, keep up the great work!
I love your podcasts ! Especially your just Matt & Abby videos ! 😊
Love you two, you are so honest and open and if those haters out there don't like it they don't have to watch. Keep on doing what you are doing.❤❤
You guys are amazing. I love you guys so much and I am so glad that the episodes that are just you 2 are back. I felt my heartfelt comment on the last episode so go read it!! ❤❤❤❤❤
This is my heartfelt comment for you guys!!
I love this podcast so much. Matt and Abby, you are such amazing people and the best parents ever. you are so selfless and care for everyone around you. Every episode is perfect and they are just so fun to listen to. I am so grateful you guys started this podcast. You guys have been able to share things to us that you wouldn't really put in your vlogs. Abby, you open up on this podcast and i love that. You share raw emotions with us as you talk and it shows that you are human, you go through tough times in your live but that has never stopped you from anything. Matt, your funny and understand Abby and her emotions really well. You put so much effort into making this podcast so perfect and special for us. To say that this podcast is good is an understatement. This podcast is amazingly perfect. You get into deep context in your podcasts and I really love that. I always struggled to find a podcast that I could listen to that i enjoy and i finally have. I have been a member of Matt and Abby since the very start, and you have come along way to make this podcast. You guys always make sure this podcast is entertaining by bringing some incredible guests on here. I love every episode and i can't wait for the many more coming! My personal favourtie episodes are the ones with just you 2 but any episodes always bring me so much joy as i go about my day to day life. You get hate from the haters but that has never stoped you. you guys are strong and the fact that you are brave enough to share on this podcast in shuch depth says something about how brave and vunrable you guys are. I am so glad this podcast has worked for you guys, because it brings me joy and it helps me so much. The time and effort that goes into these podcasts doesnt go unnoticed and you guys need to know that. you have so many amazing suporters and i'm your biggest fan and i am here for all your episodes and the more to come!!! Insta: lovely_leah02. Love you guys!!
Abby is beautiful inside and out and I love her voice it makes me sad that there are people who would want to make her feel otherwise
I listen to your guy's podcast every morning while getting ready for work. Love you guys!! ❤
You guys are so wise! Love it!
always love the podcast!❤️ you should do a video of trying pop tart flavors like the cheesecake video!!!
This is my favorite podcast ever
i never miss an episode. love the podcast😮😊
One of my favorite episodes ❤
I totally agree that people tend to have a negative attitude towards people when they are first starting something new, it’s not until you’ve ‘made it’ until most people start to show their support.. it’s hard not to take it to heart though, especially since you usually need the most support when you are first starting ❤ I started my CZcams channel just over a year ago, and my mom tends to state more negative thoughts towards it. Although I try to ignore those comments, because I know she loves me and just doesn’t want me to get my hopes up, it does hurt my heart a bit when I hear it.. especially from someone I care about 😕
I absolutely love you guys. I am a long time follower and I think that the podcast has been a great adventure for you guys. I love listening to it.
Love these hot takes, please do this againnnnnn❤
Up at 3am sick but this made me smile ❤ thank you
I totally agree with y’all that if there’s a dream you have- just do it. Nobody mocks small beginnings after success has occurred - but in the beginning it can be brutal when the harvest hasn’t come in yet. Keep planting, y’all. 🖤🖤🖤
Matt I hope you know to your core how truly talented and inspiring you are. If anyone thinks it’s “cringe” or bad somehow to cherish your life with a family and be brave enough to put yourself out there and pursue your dreams… I mean that’s a clear them problem. I hope you are as proud of yourself as a creator, father, and human being as we all are of you ❤️ Love you guys
Hot take: You need to be able to talk for hours (like this) about everything with your partner to know your marriage will last.
THE ONLY PODCAST I WATCH RELIGIOUSLY!❤ Love you guys
Finding community at church is really great. Joining a small group helped me a lot
So true! Definitely recommend this! and generally a good church has lots of family values 😊
Hey Matt and Abby, I love your podcast and it here CZcams channel. It helps me a lot and Matt music
Absolutely loves this episode ❤❤❤😊
Awesome as always guys ❤
You don't have to be a crazy fan or a long time fan to enjoy music!! If you like any of Taylor's music and want to be a swiftie then you are!
So so so true about the diets! I’ve lost 40lbs without cutting anything out. All in moderation and knowing what you’re doing with your goals.
ABBY I love your voice! I jump on any video I see and I clean pools while listening to the podcast! Both of you are epic and stand by that! Yall got this and don't change!!! Yall are the highlight of my day! Please don't listen to idiots that wanna bring yall down! I wanna go big with my channel and it prolly will never happen! But I still want to grow on it! Thanks to yall I want to do better I just hate editing!❤❤❤❤ Love you both so stinken much!!
You both brighten my day!!! Keep being yourselves ❤ you speak with your hearts and I love that !!! From Magog Canada ❤
I love your hot take on bangs! I have bangs and have had them for awhile and maybe it’s time for a change! 😂❤ love listening to other peoples opinions, we all have different experiences in this world and it’s important to listen to others not just your own! Love you both! ❤❤❤
We all love you and the podcast
People are SO mean on your videos Matt, I hate it. Your videos are amazing & you’re the best!
I love you guys so much 🥰 don’t listen to the critical people you are such a positive light in peoples’ lives.
You guys are amazing! ❤
I completely agree with being friends with everyone including people who have different opinions about things than you. The only problem is some people are unable to keep those friendships because some people have a hard time agreeing to disagree. But I try to always have a open mind about things especially ones that can possibly have a negative effect if I don’t. But I love your channel, so far I watch you guys as well as Bella and Dallin the most. My engagement ring is actually from Amazon and has two cats since I’m a huge fan of cats. Thanks for including us and showing us that it’s okay to be different than others and still get along I truly hope that one everyone can be more excepting of others.
The diamond itself can retain value. I think the family pass down jewelry and redoing the ring is the sweetest.
Wait I love Abby’s voice! I actually find it so calming
Matt’s take on the haircuts is simply YES
Abby, I love your voice!! It's not annoying at all!
Church! Church has always been the place I have found friends, no matter my age/ life situation.
This was fun. You guys would be so fun to have dinner with. ❤
I just listened to Matt's songs, and I'm obsessed!!!
Pretty ring. You are both so fun to watch🙏🏻❤️
Y’all should do a trying every pop tart flavor
I absolutely LOVE that you know of Chris!!! As soon as you said, Chris in the Croc heels, i knew exactly who you were talking about! He's such a vibe and love him!
Love this episode!!! My favorite episodes are lowkey just you guys talking so thanks for keeping them coming as you incorporate more quest speakers :)
Also ABBY YES ON THE BREAKFAST FIRST, like even if it’s afternoon if I haven’t eaten I HAVE to have something breakfasty even if it’s a little bite of a granola bar or pastry and am eating lunch 5 mins later LOL. I have no idea why and thought I was the only one!! Hahaha (and pop tarts are nasty sorry Matt)
Omg I am so glad I am not the only one who NEEDS a breakfast food before eating anything else haha - the other thing I cant do is go to bed without dinner
I love Matt’s song. Makes me emotional xx
On community- my husband and I moved to Boston as newlyweds last year and we found a great local church that’s pretty small but has awesome small groups/community groups! It has made us feel like we have a little family in Boston/feels more like home❤ especially when we weren’t expecting to like Boston very much!