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My TERRIBLE Relationship With A Thai Bargirl
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- čas přidán 17. 08. 2024
- I interview Dan, a British expatriate who embarked on a life-changing journey from the UK to Thailand. After closing his business, Dan decided to start fresh in the "Land of Smiles." He shares the deeply personal story of a tumultuous relationship he had with a Thai bar girl, shedding light on the challenges and lessons he learned along the way. Dan also opens up about how he met his Thai wife online, and the interesting strategy he used to make sure he found someone who wasn't after his money. #thairishtimes #thaitalkwithdan #movingtothailand
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00:00 Intro
01:15 Why I moved to Thailand
08:55 My terrible relationship with a Thai bargirl
16:24 The arguments we had
19:08 How I met my Thai wife
21:44 The rocky relationship with my Thai wife
Here’s part 2: czcams.com/video/JhfOujnhIJ0/video.html
Why would anyone be stupid enough to want a relationship with someone who sells her relationship time through a third-party?
can't imagine uprooting/selling entire life to move to paradise JUST to end up in serious relationship with literal hooker lol
same reason some women just date bad guys or whatever, i mean i don't know what the reason is but it's the same one
desperation ?!
...plus the danger being infected by certain illnesses or addictions on her side to forget about the bad in the past (and/or present)
they think, their saving the girls, when infact most chose the easy money @@
RULE 1;
Do Not Date a Prostitute.
RULE 2;
Do Not Date a Prostitute.
RULE 3;
IF IN ANY DOUBT,REFER TO RULES 1 OR 2.
Its pretty sound advice 😂
Rule number 0. Do not go to Thailand for a serious relationship 😂
Dan seems like a VERY nice guy. Smart, well-spoken, authentic, level-headed, not a show-off. His wife must be quite shallow not to appreciate what she has. His devotion to his son is so admirable. I wish him the best of luck.
I can’t get used to his accent, it’s very weird.
Two of my favourite CZcamsrs … so really enjoyed this. Seems like you’re the only one Pete to have ended up with such a great partner …. from everything we hear. Your Irish accent is much thicker now btw …. 😂. keep up the good work
Thanks mate, glad to hear it. Haha hopefully you can still understand me
Kudos to Dan for hanging in there. I wish he & his wife the best.,
When I lived in Thailand I had an English friend at one of the English language schools where we both worked, and he brought a bargirl back to live with him. A couple of weeks later he decided it was a bad idea and he told her to move out. The next morning he came to work white as a sheet and he told us what happened. She grabbed a huge kitchen knife and held onto the blade with her bare hands (handle extended towards him). He was afraid she would stab him, so he grabbed the knife which cut her hands pretty deeply. She then wiped her blood all over every single piece of clothing he owned, the walls, furniture, etc. We were all speechless listening to the story.
Women are nuts. Better in small limited doses. Nothing serious.
The fool got out of it lightly …
Picture or it never happened.....😂😂😂😂😂..
Thats grim
Lucky the cops didn't throw him away for years.... no one is on your side over there and you will always be seen as the wrong. Fairness does not exist.
My two favourite Thai CZcamsrs, definitely went back to Thailand for the bargirl though 😂
I know A BLOKE in Australia, who's lost 4 houses to 4 Aussie women!!
So 4 times failure, he is the common denominator. Obviously he is messed up. Should work on his issues.
Pretty standard in the west the woman are rubbish
He needs to avoid women entirely for the rest of his life in any form other than maybe friendly acquaintances. For a lot of men myself included it just doesn’t make sense to get too involved and if you’re not in your twenties full of hormones it’s best just to stay in control of yourself myself included.
@@ianarnor just keep it casual? Why get financially entangled after like 2nd time?😅
4 mistakes? That's on him, he never learnt the lesson
First came to Thailand in mid-80’s and lived & worked for a Thai company in the 2000’s - my feeling, bar girls have a different emotional tolerance than non-bar girl types. Of course not all Thai girls are the same, but from my experience it seems bar girls including freelancers can be more emotional and narcissistic.
Maybe being f*cked for money with thousands of men you don't like, makes girls a little nuts 😂😂
Why can't people say Bargirls are the same....just coz there are Outlier s doesn't mean we can't Generalize.
Witches b crazy
Dan's "origin story" is relatable. Bloody hardcore really! GL bro.
Great interview.Very coherent and could feel the frustration.A lot of lessons can be learned from this video.
FINALLY!! Ive been following Dan for a while , was wondering Wen you were gonna get him on, well done Pete.
My bullshit detector was ringing off the hook!
Imagine it from the other sides perspective...this guy would rarely do anything wrong from his view. This guy chooses certain types of women to be with and says, I hate drama! Are you serious buddy? You need to stay away from relationships because you are delusional about yourself, and what a relationship even is 😂 truth, not hate...
😂😂
Dan doesn't have much luck with women, but he's making a living telling horror stories about Thai women to other men who don't have much luck with women either.
That’s what happens when your brain is further down than it should be .
hes with his wife now
Wife 🙄
From the the frying pan because of bad choices, now in the fire because of continued bad choices.
@@betsymartin4709 ... or if there is non
@@L-Nino trying to raise his son, more than most men do
Watched his (Dan) channel and looked through the comments. I can see the people in his community are exactly the falangs I steer clear of in Thailand.
C, Mon falangs don't speak to each other in Thailand, I been too
Yup!
Care to explain?
Wow! Interesting to hear Dan’s own story given how his vlog is of stories of others dealing with the same.
thats why he started his channel !
He is CORRECT. And it is no joke. You, too, can find peace in Thailand.
Great video.
Maybe dating a bar girl is not the best strategy to start a serious long-term relationship.
There are educated women in Thailand. And no. Not all of them are bad.
Not brain science ! Only a fool would ! Tho i have met one bloke, whos mate married a bar, tho she only worked in the job for a few months. married and still over 20 years !@
Do educated Thai women want uneducated chav types like the bloke in this video?
Great interview lads! I love both your channels !
Another great interview Pete. ❤
Guys need to understand, when you're taking on a bar girl, you're taking on a totally different beast..that's putting it mildly.
I noticed most of these horror stories come from Thailand. Filipina girls seem so much more mellow.
Filipina bar girls are no different. Recreational use only.
A prostitue in any culture is still a prostitue, these guys mess up because they date prostitutes.
Excellent VIDEO 😊. I have watched every video that Dan puts out. Great Channel 👍.
He shouldn't live in Thailand. He doesn't have the temperament to live in Thailand. That doesn't make him a bad guy from a western perspective though.
Who are you to tell him where he should live? 🤡
@@andrewmoss1135 my opinion dude. Everyone has one. Don't get all riled up.
@@NITBAN lol, riled up, my emotions are fine mate, no chance of any riling up
@@andrewmoss1135 all good then 😀
Exactly. He’s quite a damaged guy. He’s desperate for the Disney fantasy (which is actually a nightmare), and also wants to teach his “wife” a lesson. You can’t teach woemen anything. They live in their emotions, and so does Dan. He needs to go to a monastery for at least 6 months and start learning and practicing Buddhist teachings as he’s completely deluded, as most westerners are. Otherwise he’ll continue to suffer and become increasingly deluded and bitter …
This Dan character seems to be his own personal worst enemy. Always determined to prove his point.
yup. I don't see the appeal honestly. Just another one of millions of falang that think they get it, but don't
@@Ned88Manif you get it, you avoid particularly Pattaya as a plague. By the time you enter Pattaya, all odds are on the table 😂
A wise ole character said to me when I was a young man regarding woman in Asia "Dont make your problems my problem"
Play with fire...get burned brotha. Thats the type of people youre dealing with. Great guy, dumped his girlfriend in a pinch. Fired all his employees.
💯 he's a Right 🐓
Ya that firing all his employees didn’t sit well with me either.
It's a rite of passage, get a messed up GF at least once when you are new there! Lmao great stuff Pete, needed a good laugh
Dan would be brilliant to have a beer with, refreshing to hear down to earth people.
Never buy them anything with real value or give money away. That's rule #1.... if they get mad you don't give them lots of stuff, move on.
Sometimes, after the female spider lays the eggs, she eats the male and his corpse is used to feed the offspring. Loved this interview because of Dan's honesty and willingness to share.. How can we enjoy the amazing Kingdom of Thailand without getting caught in the oh so common webs that end up trapping us and taking away our freedom?
The female mantis mates with a male and when they finish, the female bites the male's head off. So there you go.
Honestly. it’s usual falang sob story and always makes me chuckle. You see people like Pete and others dating properly in Thailand and doing their dude diligence. Others just fall for the first bar girl they meet 😢
@@Visor8888 If you don't date prosititutes and remember you're not there to help somebody elses family, i can't see why its so hard. Maybe I'm sociopathic but the second they start talking about their families money problems, i`d say, wow thats horrible, whats for dinner lol If they chuck a tantrum and split, that's life.
Meth and prostitution DON'T make a good girlfriend. 😂😂😂
I don’t think it’s just Thai women that can’t control their emotions. Most people cannot. It’s just manifested in different ways. Women in general tend to be more openly emotional than men and use emotion to get what they want.
well they can't beat men at physical force, especially a petite Thai girl, so instead use the power you got (emotion)
Poor guy. Seems he's really into deluding himself. Either he's very naive or he has a thing for rationalizing and romanticizing his life. He's sort of old to still making basic mistakes with women.
There is a kid involved.
The blue pill (being a beta) is a hellava drug …
I am 67 and can say You are never too old to stop making mistakes with women.
You are never too old.
My Thai wife does have a hot-headed streak about her, but it's very fast to cool off, and she nearly always says sorry.
I love her very much. She was never a bar girl - she worked at the Pandora factory in administration for a decade before finding a de facto there and opening a shop selling Jok and Isaan curries. She made a fortune while her man went out womanising and drinking himself into a stupor every night.
She eventually caught him balls-deep in someone else and she broke up with him. He came back with his family and guns and told her to hand everything she had worked for over to them. Her parents had to go collect her and bring her back to the farm.
I had decided before I went looking for her that I was going to go live in Thailand. I met her on a Thai specific dating app and flew to Thailand for my first ever visit, thinking, if she didn't turn up, I would at least scope the place out for where I planned to set up my life. She turned up.
She was and is the best person I have ever met in my life. What little drama we have is gone in literally minutes and with a little kiss on the cheek and a sorry, it's all forgiven.
I can't imagine my future without her.
... thx for sharing. May be she has learned, how define herself by what she is, and not by what she has
great news, all the very best, there certainly is very beautiful Thai women with good hearts out there
The blue pill is a hellava drug …
@@ma3stro681yeah this guy helieves that crazy story?? Lmao
I always find it interesting when a Falang is describing his Thai girlfriend/partner usually within the first few sentences he claims she was never a bar girl. Red Flag 🚩 I am not saying this guy’s wife was a bar girl or not I don’t know her or care.
Just another strange "only in Thailand” observation. Just think about your father, introducing your mother to his friends for the first time and the first words out of his mouth, "by the way Gents she’s not a whore”
Again i’m not saying the guy who wrote this comment girl is a bargirl. However if a guy says, "she’s not a bargirl she’s different” That usually means she’s NOT different and definitely a bar girl! But there’s always an exception to every rule.
By the sound of it just stay single
Heres a better idea, dont date prostitutes.
This guy sounds as dramatic and stubborn as the women he's describing. 😅
He says he doesn’t like drama (no self respecting man does), but he marries a crazy Thai woman and has a kid with her. Dan’s as blue pilled as they come … 😂
Not really.
You can take the girl out of the bar but you can’t take the bar out of the girl.
Amen mate, i been with a girl for 6 year and i live in thailand. She goes back to bar 😂
Common thing acting suicidal, and if you dont take them serious then they will plot to kill you...this has happened to some of my friends, the difference between my thai wife and bar girls is like chalk and cheese.
Was waiting for this team up!!
Exactly HOW did he stop his relationship, within 24 hours after returning to Ireland, from Thailand, as he stated? Maybe he needs another interview to explain this.
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Maybe He is just Completely FofS 🤔
Well able to talk this lad. Didn’t see any Starbucks on Koh chang the last 10 years I’ve been going but seen many relationships like this.
Great interview! Ah, female emotions... It's got to be so hard, but I am pulling for Dan to overcome the troubles. Seems like such a solid guy. Yes, you don't abandon your kid as a father, I would not even give it any thought. 👍 Looking forward to part 2.
His biggest mistake was thinking she was “different”. It’s a blue pilled, beta, deluded outlook on woemen. So he played himself, but I think he’s waking up …
Another good one Pete. I like both channels. I wonder if Dan has any Irish in him, Mairtin.
Why are these men dating bar girls? obviously they are not the most mentally stable considering their life styles, there are many normal girls but I guess they are not as desperate as he ones working in a bar.
Everyone knows that you use ONE FRIKKEN TEASPOON! Not two. OMG, these people.
One of the crazies was slashing her wrists with a knife! I told her she was 'doing it wrong'! What?? I told her she was trying to slice across the veins! I said 'Try lengthways as that will really open the veins and help you die quicker'! She looked at me in disbelief and stopped. She put down the knife down and went away. Never put up with their BS!
😂😂
After 4 failed relationships the main problem might just be looking back at him in a mirror
In a sense yes. Anyone who goes to Pattaya for a meaningful relationship needs to look in the mirror and spit on the guy he sees 😂😂
May be there is a reason why "bitch" and "witch" differ only by one letter ...
... and the most dangerous is the vagina-witch
A good man is Dan, wishing the very best for him and his son. It's not easy!. Respect and best wishes to the big fella and the wee fella.
I have just watched a couple of you posts about your thoughts on Thai woman, , my first watch on CZcams of your thoughts and advice
Great interview!
Changes the story as he’s going along, make your own minds up
500K baht!!! holy cow, money gouging seems to be the way of the Thai! I made a similar decision and emigrated from the UK to New York. For many reasons but also because I got bored silly in the UK. It was a tough transition, for many reasons. Do I harbor regret? Not in the slightest. My 2c on women: seems wherever you go, men and women are just different. Men are from Mars, women from Venus (it's a good book and worth a read). They have estrogen, ovaries: the woman's brain is physically wired differently to a man's brain. A marriage will always be a compromise. And men seem to be the ones' compromising the most. Up to each one of us, to decide if the compromise is worth it.
Good post but in all reality this quote "Men are from Mars, women from Venus" really does not accurately portray just how different the sexes are. Dude we are not even from the same galaxy let alone solar system.
A few years back. I don't know if it's exists today, a Thai lady was called Madam something was teaching the ladies through a on line course how to be with a foreign man by crying and many other tricks charging them 5000 Baht. I do know that because my Thai Holliday girlfriend told me when I was together with her. So they learn all that and more in advance you know.
Feck me !
This a last collaboration I'd I've thought possible.
Jaysus .
Cant believe im listening to you Dan, saying keep quite , back down etc with a Thai women, any drama i have had here was with bar girls donkeys years ago and just got rid of them. Find a real girl NO dramas ! All the girls ive dated over the years within a few meetings they know i wont tolerate drama or KEEP QUITE AND BACK DOWN ( sounds pathetic) man up you guys 🤣im not a weak guy who they could take advantage of.
Been watching a few of Dan's videos lately.
Same old thing going on. There should be warnings signs at the airport telling people what not to do in Thailand. It would mean a lot more happier travellers, and that's better for Thai Tourism.
Every noob to the Kingdom needs to read Private Dancer. Blue pilled western men have no chance against Thai bar girls …
I think most know. I am sure even as we speak now these same guys will still fall in trouble ...including most of us hearing these stories 😂
@@afrivox Probably. But there should still be warnings. There are Countries that are well known to the government, whereby romance fraud is a big occurrence, yet they don't do enough to protect their Citizens from it.
It's not something to joke about either, as it can have very serious negative effects.
People can lose everything they have worked for, to people who never cared for them in the first place.
I've read enough about multiple Men committing suicide because of this.
The first sign would be go to Manila.
@thedrummerboy1215 here is the list.
1. Do NOT go to Pattaya.... apart from girls, there is nothing you cannot find anywhere else in Thailand
2. Do NOT go to Sukumvit... see number 1.
3. Think with your big head, not with your small one.
4. If you are 65, fat and bald and a 20something yo beauty tells you you are handsome, think twice.
5. Do not date any girl in the pleasure industry ie masseuse, dancers, bar girls except for a short time if that's your thing.
6. Do not leave your common sense home.
Ok?
Epic my 2 fav expat channels
A truly great interview
ThaIrish Times, love it.
Mate, can’t believe he’s still trying to make it right. I’m so glad I’m not in his situation, out in issan everything is upside down and back to front.
The women are intolerable and toxic.
Everything revolves around gold.
Disgusting so called culture 🤮
@@AndiGomez-yu2dxI think it's guys like these who made it what it is now. Idk
Im a Buffalo, Walking ATM Dirty Farang in Thailand. There's No other way 🤷♂️ lol 😆
What a great guy
Works 24-7 then plays with the kid
Don’t you get it knuckle
You don’t give her any attention, romance or love
Sad dude
Its easy for a man to not take the redflags seriously sometimes . it happened to me in tbe Caribbean. Alot of theses women that have tempers, exhibit self harm traits they might be bordeline and or bipolar..
As a older man 58, looking back at my younger self....A man has to have clear boundaries and standards.
And stick to them ❤
"Nothing is worth more than your peace".
yes dan, fight the good fight. just a lowly guy in chaing mai. big fan of the tharish times too, rock on boys
love the graft
As Dan says, narcissism or may even borderline, they tend to not being able to control or understand their own feelings, its all over the world, and you can't really do anything about it.
@@Tugela60 Its not funny really, they tend to destroy other normal people around them, it's a survival strategy for sick people both men and woman.
Pete and Dan great combination
I wish happiness and balance to his small family of three 💞💞💞💓
He is so funny. At some point, he will realize he is the problem and not every other women he has been involved with.
Thumbs up 👍 Pete & Dan
Dude talk about understanding thai mentality when he only choose to date women working in the sx industry BARgirl and other red district 😂
These boomers really are naive
Dude, boomers are like 70
@@samhellion
well yes the oldest baby boomers are 77 this year and the youngest are 59 .. but yes Dan looks younger than 59 so probably not a boomer
@@samhellion he looks old enough to be one of them
@@Chawaniiiokay zoomer
@@paulthurson my Gpop is 80 and technically a boomer.
This is common in Thailand,not just the women,all Thai people are never wrong,even when it's obvious they are
You little beauty, Dan and Mr Thairish times
Dans a good sort, I enjoy his humour
When you visit Thailand you’ve gotta leave your heart at home.
Only thing - in a relationship western or there, it's not about being right, just apologise regardless & cool things down, & let them know you understand & listening
Apologies for something you didn’t do particularly wrong? No thanks, I’d rather stay single
I love this guy mindset but maybe a little naive. Very true about people in the UK wearing masks...
Women are nuts. Most of them. They are. It’s much much better and easier to just not get involved. Just only see them casually. Nothing serious. No moving in. No letting them move in. If they don’t like it just tell them to leave or you walk away. Before it gets really serious. It’s way way way too much trouble guys. It is. I am still single and loving it. Free as a bird too. It feels great. 👍😎
Exactly! Free agent bachelor is the only way for any sane, self respecting man to live …
I would have to agree with you.
I feel like he's just described women everywhere. Maybe the way it's expressed as slightly different with Thai women. But in general women are very emotional and they're very different to us. And you never win an argument with any woman so..
She threatened suicide 😂
this one will have many views. People just love hearing about bad stories from Thailand and see Thailand as a place for sex tourists
Dan’s imaginary friends are stories are actually written by the ghost writers from Philippines. He is reading them from the prompter.
Bullshit
@@AndiGomez-yu2dx Another imaginary friend with a fake account 🙂
@@ismailarslangiray Fake acocunt? makes no sense. Keep coping big man.
@@AndiGomez-yu2dx You are the exact type of audience he is looking for!.. Imaginary and fake as it comes
@@AndiGomez-yu2dx English is your 3rd language apparently. Also Toss his salad while you are at it!..
I've had the same thing happen, when I left, she grabbed a butcher knife, and put it to her stomach, and neck to commit hari kari
This chap comes across as a really good bloke ....but he's unlucky with the females ... He's gonna get burnt by his current wife I suspect ...He's super unlucky to have had a child with her ... hope things work out for him
He is definitely a good blood...AND for that he shouldn't have gone to Thailand for relationships. A little too late, unless he gives up his son, but he should leave Thailand and go be stable somewhere else
I like Dan but he’s far too forgiving when it comes to his wife and cuts her way too much slack.
What he mentions here is only the tip of the iceberg. There is a lot more to what he says here.
All the best mate 👍
I love Dan for what he's done and the principles he has. He is living the dream and I envy him 100% Right now I'm making the money, I'm addicted to it but I know my heart is in Bali in Indonesia. I should make a decision but I'm too connected to the cash and the every day in Australia. Good luck Dan and I hope you live your dreams in life to Thairish.
But that's the point he ain't living the dream got a wife who's a nutter working everyday for peanuts lumbered with a kid and constantly telling stories about guys getting ripped off in Thailand. Just another one of many westerners telling you how his own country is so shite and how great Thailand is but doing nothing but moaning about his situation. Unlike Pete who didn't let his d---k rule his head met a lovely educated girl and got a great life together never slagged off his own country or Thailand should take a leaf out of Pete's book
Your post made me genuinely sad when u said ur addicted to money...
life is short and on your death Bed your not going to asking to make more money.
I hope you re-center and find out what's really important in life.
@@michaelchristophergutierre7244 Thank you for your open and honest feedback.
Money is important to me right now to support my family. I have a son with special needs and I can't just up and leave my responsibilities behind. I'm not making money for me, I'm doing it for my family. One day hopefully living overseas will be a reality.
We're doing well financially and get to travel to Bali twice a year but that sort of move is very expensive and it would be incredibly irresponsible for me to take my family overseas without some sort of nest egg behind me.
Is Dan your definition of living the dream? Mate...Please 😢
@@afrivox Not after his recent updates. No life is perfect.
Only an optimist thinks they have a relationship with a prostitute😢
Sorry English is not my mother tongue. Is optimist a fancy word for idot?😂
l went with a thail girl for 5 years someone bought her out the bar next morning she came to my room l had another girl in room 2 days later my ex thail girlfriend cut her self thankfully she never died we are not together now
This guy is immature, self absorbed and so full of himself. I feel sorry for the Thai women! (When everyone else is wrong, it’s probably not them). I like to listen to a good story but this guy is insufferable.
In America theyll leave you for no reason and take everything. 😂
Link to Dan's channel?
Some people shouldn`t be allowed on the plane.
About Thai Talk with Dan, just watch a few of his videos. Otherwise, you will become bitter and depressed like him.
Captain Savaho in da house. 🤡
I am from Brunei and have been staying in Phuket since April 2023. In January 2024 recently, I met a mancunion guy who has the same age as me and started on the day we met, we spent everyday together for one week. He had been dated two thai bar girls before meeting me and he had bad experience with two of them until he met me.
I was expecting he won't contact me again after he went back to UK but contrarily we speak together everyday on video call until one day he asked me to move to UK with him. I booked immediately one way ticket to Manchester which I will be leaving in April.
How did it go?
Concerning this 24-Hours release time. How will you calculate this? Exactly? Or, in the Thai way?
It'll be released 6pm Thai Time Sunday 12th Sept