I wish this was a more mainstream idea, because as an autistic person I constantly see like- my special interests being hated on like this. Especially creators who share this special interest. And it's getting annoying. Like you can find me or these creators annoying all you want, but I swear people treat creators and things they find annoying the same way they treat pedos and its very confusing for me. I'm sorry if it's weird for me to bring up my autism but in my opinion the way people are hating on this dude is the same way people hate on me for being autistic so I can't help but compare the two 😭😭
@@fallenbee ye my community gets a lot of hate and ppl call us furries as an insult 😂 like it's literally paper craft where's the furry and why is that an insult. I'm an adult and autistic but these kids in the community sometimes can't take it and they quit because it no longer makes them happy. Its really sad
Right this is so easy to do I’ve literally blocked creators(Chris Dolo 😭) who I found annoying and that’s the end of the story, never left a hate comment.
The lack of a no is *NEVER* the presence of a yes. What’s happening to Chris Olsen is absolutely heartbreaking. This is one of things that ended Amanda Todd’s life. We can not keep repeating this cycle of abuse.
"someone not saying no, is not them saying yes" THIS. THANK YOU ADAM. Im broken listening to this, how can people do this to another human. I hope he can heal..
My dad taught me something very important when I was a kid 'why waste your time and energy on something you hate if you can use it on something you love?'
“I have to stand by the fact that during all of this, I never said no. But today, I am saying no.” As an SA/DV survivor, that hit so hard. I carry so much guilt and shame about not saying no. It happened and I went along with it. Same with guilt about staying in that relationship as long as I did. That everything that happened to me was not my fault never occurred to be until my therapist asked me “could you leave? Could you say no?” and I realized no, I couldn’t. It was, in fact, not my fault. Sending so much love and support to Chris & all survivors.
Same here. I've forgiven myself for the mistakes I made with what happened to me, which took a long time to do, but I also know it's not entirely my fault and shouldn't have happened in the first place. Cases are rarely black and white but even if they are, we still attribute blame to ourselves and it makes everything worse, especially including recovery.
Same but I hope you can or have also forgiven yourself for feeling that way in the first place. I struggled with hating myself & realized I’m not the only person who couldn’t stand the way they reacted to the trauma(s). This may not be relevant to you but I always want to put this out there, we react the way we do bc we’ve be trained by so much of the culture to react that way. Like I don’t think we talk enough at how growing up feeling like we can’t be rude or a bother, or all the other things we internalize, effects us in ways it make take us forever to recognize. It’s insidious too. I was raised by l€sbian feminists who belived in women being loud & proud, but I grew up in a society. That society had more of an impact on me than I could have ever imagined. I’ve just seen to many ppl not just broken by whatever abusive situation they were in, but that loss of self & feeling weak bc they got to that point or bc they didn’t insantanly regain who they once were. Like I lost things I’ll nvr get back & I’ve had to learn to be ok with that. The main way I’ve been able to accept that loss is by thinking, yes I went through this and I lost so much of myself, but I have this experience that can be used to help someone else. But everybody has to find that thing for themselves. ♥️
Same, the "could you leave? Could you say no" was an eye opener for me. I had to tell myself I didn't deserve what happened to me just because I didn't say no. I hope whoever is going through something similar can find peace and happiness and I wish you all the best!
I love you, I'm so sorry. I coincidentally had a long cry about this yesterday, how I was so cruel towards myself for years and years because I didn't try to fight them off, even though I was literally 14, drugged and not even awake when it started the first time, and out of nowhere from a trusted friend that I had slept besides a hundred times the second time. I'm 28 now and still struggle with admitting what they both were, but how much shame I poured into myself for so long is what makes me the saddest. They never talk about what r*pe is in it's entirety, that it's planting a parasite in your mind that will alter the way you speak to yourself for the rest of your life. I hate that there are so many of us.
You took the words right out of my mouth. Like, why would you send someone hate for being annoying???? That’s insane. He’s annoyed me a couple times, but I would never in a million years ever send him hate for that! I hope Chris, and other people who have been hurt, can heal and live happy and healthy lives❤️
Fr. I wasn’t really a fan of his so I just blocked him. If people find him annoying why tf would they comment on his shit? He’s going to pop up more on your feed if you interact with his content! There’s no reason to just hate and hate and hate on him. That block button is there for a reason. And blocking someone isn’t a bad thing. I’m sure Chris would appreciate all the haters to just block him rather than send him all that hate for just being himself.
I feel horrible for him. I don’t know why people feel so comfortable being mean to people who haven’t even done anything wrong. I will never understand.
This man sounds like he's at his breaking point and it's honestly heartbreaking. Being bullied for simply being yourself must hurt deeply Edit: wow what he went through (and still is) is even worse than I expected
It's so sad, you can see how much this shit has broken some part of him. EDIT: I want to be super clear that Chris doesn't have to be your cup of tea but bullying and doing revenge po** simply for finding someone "annoying" is straight up evil. Your one comment might mean nothing to you but one comment from many people becomes a sea of hate and bullying.
"them not saying no is NOT THEM SAYING YES" ABSOLUTELY. As a TWENTY YEAR OLD I can fully understand how people ABOVE EIGHTEEN end up in veeeeery bad situations. I fully get it. 18+ does not mean you're not still able to be easily manipulated/you are still SO YOUNG. This was so intense and I appreciate him sharing his story.
Yep yep yep. It's why, despite the fact that an 18-year-old and a 27-year-old *are* both legal adults, it's still a huge red flag if they're dating and people close to both parties should be looking at the relationship carefully. The 18-year-old has little to no adult experience, and could easily get themselves into a bad situation (unless they had to grow up way too fast-and in that case, I hope that 18-year-old goes to therapy, because that's horrible to deal with). It's not INHERENT, but it's LIKELY.
Chris’s videos sometimes made me cringe but you know what I did? Scrolled past. I will never understand commenting hateful shit on someone’s post just because they annoy you or make you cringe. Like, just move along with your day or block the creator if you don’t like them jfc
Yes exactly this. Why would you go out of your way to send hate to someone just minding their own business ?? You can easily just move on and (like he even said) just block and move on!
It is tragic that cruelty, hate and online bullying has become so normalized. Thank you Adam for taking a stand against this. No creator is too big to not be affected by this level of cruelty.
I really hope Chris finds peace throughout this. Thank you for covering this and for being so adamant about the point “not saying no does not equal a yes” because so many survivors, myself included, beat themselves up & diminish their experiences by regretting the fact that we didn’t use the word “no”, but we were saying no in other ways.
@@purplesky99876i know who he is but I don't see him on my FYP or anything bc I haven't interacted with his content in forever. I guarantee most of the ppl complaining about seeing too much of him are too stupid to remember that the more you interact with a creator the more of them you will see. Literally costs nothing to just ignore something you don't like and block it.
As a fellow sober person who has also been SA’d, I feel him so hard. Those feelings are so valid and something we just have to work through over and over and it’s exhausting. Battling those feelings plus internet bullies is so unnecessary and I can’t even imagine. So so SO much love and endless support to him.
Beautiful comment. I pray for his sobriety right now. Hoping he has a really great support system. His sobriety story is what first drew me to him. Julie sobriety is amazing isn’t it? I’m proud of you and so happy you know the miracle that is sobriety. 🩷
Exactly! As a man, I find it 100% a *requirement* to have an enthusiastic yes before any sort of intimacy-I do it before holding hands, cuddling, kissing, and ESPECIALLY before anything sexual. I make it a priority to make sure that the other person is as comfortable as possible. It’s as simple as asking “is this okay” before doing anything that could be considered taking the next step. If a person finds that to be a turn-off, then I’m obviously not the right person for them. I care about how others feel, and I’d never want to make someone feel uncomfortable.
I have never understood the hate that Chris gets all the time. Yes he loud and he's freaking everywhere, because he's good at his job. This whole thing is another instance of the internet just collectively deciding to ruin someone's life who truly doesn't deserve it.
im so glad you covered this bc this is such a REAL THING THAT HAPPENS to so many young adults especially in the sx industry. Companies trick people into signing vague contracts and will end up making them do things you cant even imagine. Its very sad but this happens to people so often. 😢
I haven’t been in the loop about this guy but good lord my heart broke for him. You can hear in his voice how pained he is by what is happening. You are so right that a lack of a no is not a place for a yes.
i feel awful for him i’m not an avid watcher of him but when he pops up i always watch idk how people are so horrible just because you see someone a lot doesn’t mean you need to bully him i really hope people that are mean leave him alone so he can carry on his life poor guy
honestly i’m glad to see him express his emotions like this. and call out the general public on the internet. the whole “everyone’s a casual bully” line is too true. most people see nothing wrong with bullying and just being terrible toward people online bc they think it’s normal i guess. im glad someone’s speaking up about the way people act online even though it is personal for him, the internet overall is becoming horrible exclusive and just miserable honestly.
thank you seriously for covering this, i discovered chris like a month ago (ik ik, im old and rarely use tiktok lmaoooo) and i was really shocked by the vitriol he seemed to be continuously facing for nearly no reason outside of a vague general dislike/annoyance. which… just keep it pushing then??? but yeah the revenge porn use jarred and disgusted me, that should never ever ever be used as an avenue of attack against someone regardless of who it is. and having seen the full story of what he went through in one of his earlier relationships, i feel even more disgusted by people on the internet taking this route against someone who already publicly documented the ways he was exploited sexually as a minor and early adult 😢
This is really why I always try to think twice about typing out my cattiest thoughts and hitting post....there are real people out there who have real feelings.
Thank you for highlighting this, Adam. I don’t have a TikTok account (had once, quickly deleted) and don’t plan to anymore. honestly the vitriolic way people have been acting towards Chris Olsen and other folks on the app makes me less inclined to join too. I didn’t even know who this man was, but to hear that people have been vile towards him just because of… finding him annoying is so??? It’s like 4chan/reddit/kiwifarm behavior but somehow “more acceptable” because it’s on TikTok… if I find someone on the Internet annoying (or even when i find out a creator has done genuinely deplorable things)… I just block and don’t interact. If I had a platform maybe I would talk about the latter, but to shit talk someone just for having a hyper personality is stupid, and like Chris said himself, very highschool behavior. As an autistic person that gets overly and loudly excited with things I like and am passionate about, I also feel this vitriol is subconsciously rooted in ableism. Chris likely isn’t autistic but there’s been similar cases of autistic creators being driven off TikTok for being considered “cringe” and “annoying”. With Chris there’s also the deeply upsetting fact that people are retraumatizing him by means of revenge p o r n. Gives off underlying homophobia and puritanical, victim blaming targeted hate… all because they didn’t like how he expressed himself. Like Imane Khelif, I hope Chris seeks out suing for cyber bullying because this is beyond disgusting (just on the grounds of certain people sharing those images without his consent).
I’ve never heard of this person but this is so heartbreaking casually hating someone like treating it so casual to send them hate… is vile and I wish people would understand the consequences.. I was awful in my childhood but I obviously learnt and regret things like this (different level obviously)… thank you for highlighting this so others can learn the impact if they still haven’t considered it
haven’t watched the who thing yet. i really hope chris didn’t do anything bad 🙏 12:35 that fucking broke me. i’m so upset for him. the same dynamic happened with me. i always loved chris and will continue to. i’m so upset for him.
Consent is 🍟! Freely given-with out pressure, manipulation, or under the influence. Reversible - can be changed at anytime. Informed - full story given, parameter and boundaries set. Enthusiastic - not the absence of a no or a present of a yes, but really wants to be doing what is going on. Specific - saying yes to one thing doesn't mean you're saying yes to everything. He did not give consent based on what I know what consent is. It is not okay! It wasn't freely given, it doesn't seem to be reversible, it wasn't informed, he was not enthusiastic, and it wasn't specific. Just cause he said yes to the photo shoot doesn't mean he was agreeing to no clothes. I hope that things get better for him.💜🔥🌹🙋🏽 Survivor here too! If he reads this know you are not alone!
This makes me so incredibly sad. I was bullied pretty bad in HS and the good thing was at the end of the day, I could turn my phone off and not physically have to see/hear anything. I feel like there is no escape from the negativity for him, especially considering his job involves social media. Sometimes I am so ashamed to be a human being :( I wish we could be nicer
the “being dramatic” or “you signed up for this” is the dumbest argument. i get one rude reply and suddenly i’m overthinking everything about myself. people were not born to know how to deal with internet fame. and being the bud of the joke is tiring. when it’s a political, or someone actually horrible, i say it’s fine. but when you are insistent is harassing someone because of their looks or ‘oh their personality is annoying’, you’re a bully. plain out and simple. people do this sht to people and then wonder why people are depressed, insecure, k wording themselves. im also SO sick of the casual ‘kys’ and ‘i wish he would d13’?!? hello??? would you say that to someone IRL. TO THEIR FACE? if so, you’re way more sick than i thought
Adam, in your one video you had stray kids in your recommended (lalalala) and i decided to listen and i fell in love and went down a kpop rabbit hole 😭❤
Ohh man he has a lot going on nobody can call him over dramatic for the things that it's been through and all them people coming at him is stressful 😭😭 this made me cry
He is in very good company! Miss America, Vanessa Williams, had her girl on girl nudes leaked to Penthouse magazine as the reigning Miss America! She went on to have a fabulous career in entertainment and is probably the most famous Miss America ever. My heart breaks for this actor. I am praying for him and applaud his courage for this display of vulnerability; THAT takes strength. He is good looking so the haters must be jealous losers. Sending love and thanks to you, Adam. Wow.
I was taught: “If it’s not an ENTHUSIASTIC yes, it’s a NO” It needs to be verbally confirmed that they want it. He shouldn’t invalidate his feelings because he “let” it happen. You go into survival mode and it’s fight, flight or freeze. Sometimes you don’t get to consciously decide which one you choose. You can’t blame yourself for that! 😢❤
Amateur astronomer here, sorry you missed it, I missed it too due to clouds. Meteor showers do require low levels of light pollution, so being away from the city is necessary. The good news is Aug 11-13th was the peak, it's still happening after those dates. Generally the Perseids are going to give you 10-20 meteors per hour. If you or any other muckers are bummed you missed the show there are other meteor showers coming up this year, look out for the Geminids in mid December, which are my personal favorite ❤
He might have been looking at the wrong patch of the sky, they're clustered around and above Cassiopiea (W shaped constellation that is somewhat north here). The other half of the sky won't be nearly as good. We all saw quite a lot last night, even in a fairly light polluted place. Just make sure to let your dark vision adapt!
when people are unproblematic online it tends to cause others to look at them through a microscope. it’s sad how people think it’s okay to be hateful just because it’s behind a screen.
My heart breaks for him. You are so right theres people who do genuinely awful things and dont get hate like this. He seems like a truly kind guy and I wish I could give him a huge hug
this is so heartbreaking, as for someone who feels him on such a personal level. i really hope he finds peace in all this. thank you adam for covering this.
Why cant people do this thing called “ignore”. I admit, Chris has been popping out of my fyps in my social media accounts and yes i was kinda annoyed by it. But i just ignored it! And chronically online people need to do the same! These online bullies will realize one day how freakin exhausting causing hate towards someone just because they exist. 😔
Thank you, Adam for saying that not saying no does not mean yes. my heart bleeds for the sky. I’ve never seen Chris Olson before, but he’s been literally put through the ringer and I can’t believe these people can do this like the police get involved and make them stop and I’m proud of being vulnerable with us and admitting to his sobriety, and I hope he can continue on his sobriety path.
he’s right like nobody would ever say that to his face, people think just bc they don’t like themselves they take it to the internet and take it out onto another. so sorry to him
It’s literally not that hard to use the block button, or just SCROLL past. The trolls online literally have nothing better to do than spew vitriol to make themselves feel like the better person? Absolutely disgusting people. I’m not his biggest fan, because I think he got his career by leeching off Meghan Trainor, but even I can say this bullying is uncalled for.
People forget you can block people, and keywords on TikTok. Not only that but if you can NOT engage with the video…the moment you leave a hate comment those videos will continue to be pushed on your algorithm. Chris is a lot to take in for his goofiness and he’s just very outgoing online but he’s really funny, and great to watch! I respect him a lot and hope he has good support system to help him through this.
“Someone not saying no, is not them saying yes.” THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. If it isn’t ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT it isn’t consent! I’m still learning to forgive myself too ♥️.
We need to sort policing this sort of thing. It’s not okay. To create accounts on social media, you should have to upload a form of id just for the platform to see and approve and your name should be your user name so that when you report that person, it goes to their local authorities or they get blocked from the platform
I hope Chris can have a good support system and therapy to work through this because it’s a horrible situation to be in and I wish him all the best. To all the people that will be rejoicing over this because their hate had such an impact, little do they know that it will bite them in the ass when they least expect it and when they least want it. Unfortunately the internet giants don’t care about their creators, they are mostly just driven by money from what I can see in the last two years but I do hope things turn around and we can somehow minimise this awful behaviour that’s been going on online for a while now. Absolutely awful stuff. It’s so weird seeing Chris like this after knowing of his content for years when he comes across and is always very funny and always smiley. Horrible.
Adam! Don't worry about missing the Aurora and shooting stars. They're really only going to be visible if you go to an elevated area with little to no light pollution, like a big hill or nature area with no residential lighting nearby. I went out to see the Aurora the other month at 1am to Cannock Chase in the midlands with some friends and we didn't see anything, certain areas like Scotland, Devon etc had the best views. Love you diva x
I've said this a hundred times, and I'll say it again. The online dogpiling of people NEEDS to stop. 99% of the time, it's not warranted. And then when these creators, celebrities, etc. off themselves, everyone's suddenly all emotional. How about we treat people with basic human decency and kindness while they're actually here?
I think people need to learn how to have boundaries. That is something we are lacking. Even as myself as a creator on TikTok, I’ve seen many people going through what Chris Olsen is going through including myself and it’s absolutely vile to be acting like this to creators who are trying to have fun or even trying to do their jobs.
I am so genuinely sorry to this poor guy, people forget that these are PEOPLE! INDIVIDUALS! I remember being bullied back when I was still in school and I i really relate to his reaction. Feeling so helpless and alone; I seriously hope he can find some peace of mind and know that he is 100% valid. Just because he is a man or a public figure doesn't mean he deserves to have his pictures leaked. Even if it was on a p site, it still isn't okay (especially since it was a violating experience) If there is not an enthusiastic/continuous yes- then it is a no
honestly i have the most respect for people like you and chris. content creators get the most vile hate comments everyday simply for just existing. if that was me id be crashing out 😭 i see why people genuinely spiral on the internet. being a content creator/ influencer isn’t for the weak
This was so heartbreaking thank you for talking about this Adam, I’ve hardly ever really seen his content, I think I remember seeing him on tiktok a few times but its awful how people behave towards eachother.. we’re all humans
I just wanted to say thank you Adam for keeping my ass up to date on the latest. I have had TikTok deleted for almost a year now and typically just stay on CZcams and you are the only person I would watch. Thank you for being my news outlet :)
hate has genuinely become so normalised on the internet that people don’t realise them saying a hateful comment and continuing with their day can really ruin someone elses. the mindlessness of it makes it bone chilling.
I do not have a tik tok, so holy hell was i shocked at every word of this. He is so brave for taking his agency back, telling his story, and setting his boundaries. May he find healing and peace, and may those who have wrought harm unto him get what they deserve.
i feel so so bad for him :( i truly hope he has a good solid support system behind the scenes bc this is truly awful what everyone is doing to this guy. The argument of "just turn off your phone" that ppl use to say cyberbullying doesn't exist is so stupid bc he's still left with this trauma of so many ppl crossing his boundaries and saying awful things to him. it's insane
i’m so glad you made this video because i had no idea, and it really shows your character given that you are so willing to spread awareness and someone else’s story. ❤
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ppl really need to start learning how to block creators who are not their taste and go on w their lives instead of sending hate
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!!!!
Yeah, I honestly don't know why people don't do that 🤔
I wish this was a more mainstream idea, because as an autistic person I constantly see like- my special interests being hated on like this. Especially creators who share this special interest. And it's getting annoying. Like you can find me or these creators annoying all you want, but I swear people treat creators and things they find annoying the same way they treat pedos and its very confusing for me.
I'm sorry if it's weird for me to bring up my autism but in my opinion the way people are hating on this dude is the same way people hate on me for being autistic so I can't help but compare the two 😭😭
@@fallenbee ye my community gets a lot of hate and ppl call us furries as an insult 😂 like it's literally paper craft where's the furry and why is that an insult. I'm an adult and autistic but these kids in the community sometimes can't take it and they quit because it no longer makes them happy. Its really sad
Right this is so easy to do I’ve literally blocked creators(Chris Dolo 😭) who I found annoying and that’s the end of the story, never left a hate comment.
The lack of a no is *NEVER* the presence of a yes. What’s happening to Chris Olsen is absolutely heartbreaking. This is one of things that ended Amanda Todd’s life. We can not keep repeating this cycle of abuse.
THIS!!! THIS RIGHT HERE.
Never forget her name. Amanda Todd.
I don't see cody ko getting as much hate as chris olsen does and it tells a lot
Yea society is ALL WRONG 😞☹️
THISS!!!
"someone not saying no, is not them saying yes" THIS. THANK YOU ADAM.
Im broken listening to this, how can people do this to another human. I hope he can heal..
Thank you for sharing this..there really aren't any words.
i know. 11:46 made me cry. some people on the internet have no empathy for anyone. i hope he gets better and heals.❤️
I remeebrr the melanie martinez controversy because she said Timmothy "didnt say no"
Seriously! I totally get not liking someone's content but this is so evil! These people are so sick and need to go outside for once.
Exactly!
People have so much misplaced anger.
This legitimately broke my heart. He doesn’t seem like a bad person and deserves so much better
My dad taught me something very important when I was a kid 'why waste your time and energy on something you hate if you can use it on something you love?'
Very true ❤
“I have to stand by the fact that during all of this, I never said no. But today, I am saying no.” As an SA/DV survivor, that hit so hard. I carry so much guilt and shame about not saying no. It happened and I went along with it. Same with guilt about staying in that relationship as long as I did. That everything that happened to me was not my fault never occurred to be until my therapist asked me “could you leave? Could you say no?” and I realized no, I couldn’t. It was, in fact, not my fault.
Sending so much love and support to Chris & all survivors.
Same here. I've forgiven myself for the mistakes I made with what happened to me, which took a long time to do, but I also know it's not entirely my fault and shouldn't have happened in the first place. Cases are rarely black and white but even if they are, we still attribute blame to ourselves and it makes everything worse, especially including recovery.
Same but I hope you can or have also forgiven yourself for feeling that way in the first place. I struggled with hating myself & realized I’m not the only person who couldn’t stand the way they reacted to the trauma(s). This may not be relevant to you but I always want to put this out there, we react the way we do bc we’ve be trained by so much of the culture to react that way. Like I don’t think we talk enough at how growing up feeling like we can’t be rude or a bother, or all the other things we internalize, effects us in ways it make take us forever to recognize. It’s insidious too. I was raised by l€sbian feminists who belived in women being loud & proud, but I grew up in a society. That society had more of an impact on me than I could have ever imagined. I’ve just seen to many ppl not just broken by whatever abusive situation they were in, but that loss of self & feeling weak bc they got to that point or bc they didn’t insantanly regain who they once were. Like I lost things I’ll nvr get back & I’ve had to learn to be ok with that. The main way I’ve been able to accept that loss is by thinking, yes I went through this and I lost so much of myself, but I have this experience that can be used to help someone else. But everybody has to find that thing for themselves. ♥️
Same, the "could you leave? Could you say no" was an eye opener for me. I had to tell myself I didn't deserve what happened to me just because I didn't say no. I hope whoever is going through something similar can find peace and happiness and I wish you all the best!
I love you, I'm so sorry. I coincidentally had a long cry about this yesterday, how I was so cruel towards myself for years and years because I didn't try to fight them off, even though I was literally 14, drugged and not even awake when it started the first time, and out of nowhere from a trusted friend that I had slept besides a hundred times the second time. I'm 28 now and still struggle with admitting what they both were, but how much shame I poured into myself for so long is what makes me the saddest. They never talk about what r*pe is in it's entirety, that it's planting a parasite in your mind that will alter the way you speak to yourself for the rest of your life. I hate that there are so many of us.
I'm really glad your therapist said that so clearly.
I could never be in the public eye. I think many don’t realize the mental toll it takes because people just fucking suck and it’s just not worth it.
i’ve definitely been annoyed by him in the past but would never send him hate because????? that’s just deranged behavior
Literally! If someone annoys you online… scroll, block, move on. I don’t understand people who decide to hate and bully it’s childish
You took the words right out of my mouth. Like, why would you send someone hate for being annoying???? That’s insane. He’s annoyed me a couple times, but I would never in a million years ever send him hate for that! I hope Chris, and other people who have been hurt, can heal and live happy and healthy lives❤️
Fr. I wasn’t really a fan of his so I just blocked him. If people find him annoying why tf would they comment on his shit? He’s going to pop up more on your feed if you interact with his content! There’s no reason to just hate and hate and hate on him. That block button is there for a reason. And blocking someone isn’t a bad thing. I’m sure Chris would appreciate all the haters to just block him rather than send him all that hate for just being himself.
wait what did he do?
Exactlyyyy like sending hate is literally disgusting
I feel horrible for him. I don’t know why people feel so comfortable being mean to people who haven’t even done anything wrong. I will never understand.
This man sounds like he's at his breaking point and it's honestly heartbreaking. Being bullied for simply being yourself must hurt deeply
Edit: wow what he went through (and still is) is even worse than I expected
It's so sad, you can see how much this shit has broken some part of him. EDIT: I want to be super clear that Chris doesn't have to be your cup of tea but bullying and doing revenge po** simply for finding someone "annoying" is straight up evil. Your one comment might mean nothing to you but one comment from many people becomes a sea of hate and bullying.
"them not saying no is NOT THEM SAYING YES" ABSOLUTELY. As a TWENTY YEAR OLD I can fully understand how people ABOVE EIGHTEEN end up in veeeeery bad situations. I fully get it. 18+ does not mean you're not still able to be easily manipulated/you are still SO YOUNG. This was so intense and I appreciate him sharing his story.
Yep yep yep. It's why, despite the fact that an 18-year-old and a 27-year-old *are* both legal adults, it's still a huge red flag if they're dating and people close to both parties should be looking at the relationship carefully. The 18-year-old has little to no adult experience, and could easily get themselves into a bad situation (unless they had to grow up way too fast-and in that case, I hope that 18-year-old goes to therapy, because that's horrible to deal with). It's not INHERENT, but it's LIKELY.
Shit I’m 33 and I still find certain situations frightening to stand up for myself in. Especially SA… you can get killed for saying no? 😔
Chris’s videos sometimes made me cringe but you know what I did? Scrolled past. I will never understand commenting hateful shit on someone’s post just because they annoy you or make you cringe. Like, just move along with your day or block the creator if you don’t like them jfc
Yes exactly this. Why would you go out of your way to send hate to someone just minding their own business ?? You can easily just move on and (like he even said) just block and move on!
Perfect timing to ignore customers and listen to my bestie
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Gen z comment lol
hiding in my car to watch lmao
It is tragic that cruelty, hate and online bullying has become so normalized. Thank you Adam for taking a stand against this. No creator is too big to not be affected by this level of cruelty.
I really hope Chris finds peace throughout this. Thank you for covering this and for being so adamant about the point “not saying no does not equal a yes” because so many survivors, myself included, beat themselves up & diminish their experiences by regretting the fact that we didn’t use the word “no”, but we were saying no in other ways.
“Chris Olsen is all over social media”
Me: *never heard of this man in my life*
Same idk who this is, but I feel for him and have seen many people with public platforms say the exact same thing.
@@purplesky99876i know who he is but I don't see him on my FYP or anything bc I haven't interacted with his content in forever. I guarantee most of the ppl complaining about seeing too much of him are too stupid to remember that the more you interact with a creator the more of them you will see. Literally costs nothing to just ignore something you don't like and block it.
Me neither, maybe bc I don't use Tiktok. I honestly wish him the best, can't imahine dealing with that shit daily
NOT ADAM COMING OUT AS A MEGHAN TRAYNOR FAN 😭😭😭😭
He said he liked a couple of her songs as guilty pleasures lmao idk if that makes him a fan
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I HAD THE SAME THOUGHT
@@sad.jackfr00tit's the entire reason Adam and Collen fell out in the first place, "coming out" as a Megan Trainor fan 😂
@@Stayment ohhhh-I’m an idiot 😂😂 I watched this video this morning before my brain was working apparently
As a fellow sober person who has also been SA’d, I feel him so hard. Those feelings are so valid and something we just have to work through over and over and it’s exhausting. Battling those feelings plus internet bullies is so unnecessary and I can’t even imagine. So so SO much love and endless support to him.
Beautiful comment. I pray for his sobriety right now. Hoping he has a really great support system. His sobriety story is what first drew me to him. Julie sobriety is amazing isn’t it? I’m proud of you and so happy you know the miracle that is sobriety. 🩷
Can we pretend that air planes in the night sky are like shooting stars? Adam really wants a wish right now, wish right now 😞 0:11
The fact that I sang this comment 😂
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@@Dira091998me too🤣🤣
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This is actually sad. Something happened just earlier today, really relating to him rn. Wish him the best.
hope you're doing okay too
I hope you find some peace, thinking of you 🫶
If it's not an enthusiastic yes, it's a no.
Exactly! As a man, I find it 100% a *requirement* to have an enthusiastic yes before any sort of intimacy-I do it before holding hands, cuddling, kissing, and ESPECIALLY before anything sexual. I make it a priority to make sure that the other person is as comfortable as possible. It’s as simple as asking “is this okay” before doing anything that could be considered taking the next step. If a person finds that to be a turn-off, then I’m obviously not the right person for them. I care about how others feel, and I’d never want to make someone feel uncomfortable.
I have never understood the hate that Chris gets all the time. Yes he loud and he's freaking everywhere, because he's good at his job. This whole thing is another instance of the internet just collectively deciding to ruin someone's life who truly doesn't deserve it.
I had to fight back tears watching those videos, my heart breaks for him
im so glad you covered this bc this is such a REAL THING THAT HAPPENS to so many young adults especially in the sx industry. Companies trick people into signing vague contracts and will end up making them do things you cant even imagine. Its very sad but this happens to people so often. 😢
I haven’t been in the loop about this guy but good lord my heart broke for him. You can hear in his voice how pained he is by what is happening. You are so right that a lack of a no is not a place for a yes.
i feel awful for him i’m not an avid watcher of him but when he pops up i always watch idk how people are so horrible just because you see someone a lot doesn’t mean you need to bully him i really hope people that are mean leave him alone so he can carry on his life poor guy
I'm really glad that you covered this! My heart breaks for Chris and highlight this is really important- the lack of a no does not mean yes!
He’s so right about people being so casually mean nowadays too. Both online and in real life. I hate it.
honestly i’m glad to see him express his emotions like this. and call out the general public on the internet. the whole “everyone’s a casual bully” line is too true. most people see nothing wrong with bullying and just being terrible toward people online bc they think it’s normal i guess. im glad someone’s speaking up about the way people act online even though it is personal for him, the internet overall is becoming horrible exclusive and just miserable honestly.
thank you seriously for covering this, i discovered chris like a month ago (ik ik, im old and rarely use tiktok lmaoooo) and i was really shocked by the vitriol he seemed to be continuously facing for nearly no reason outside of a vague general dislike/annoyance. which… just keep it pushing then??? but yeah the revenge porn use jarred and disgusted me, that should never ever ever be used as an avenue of attack against someone regardless of who it is. and having seen the full story of what he went through in one of his earlier relationships, i feel even more disgusted by people on the internet taking this route against someone who already publicly documented the ways he was exploited sexually as a minor and early adult 😢
I am so glad I forgot and didn’t lose sleep over a meteor shower that wasn’t visible
Tiktok is such a toxic place, no idea who this Chris guy is but it's disgusting to see him being driven mad because of TikTok
Yes tik tok is a cesspool .. I left because it’s full of toxicity, ignorance, delusion and misinformation..
This is really why I always try to think twice about typing out my cattiest thoughts and hitting post....there are real people out there who have real feelings.
14:29 "but today I am" that hit hard:( my heart breaks for him man
Chris reading his statement at the end made me cry. Sending him so much love. Idk what’s wrong with people that they can’t just swipe past a video
Thank you for highlighting this, Adam. I don’t have a TikTok account (had once, quickly deleted) and don’t plan to anymore. honestly the vitriolic way people have been acting towards Chris Olsen and other folks on the app makes me less inclined to join too. I didn’t even know who this man was, but to hear that people have been vile towards him just because of… finding him annoying is so??? It’s like 4chan/reddit/kiwifarm behavior but somehow “more acceptable” because it’s on TikTok… if I find someone on the Internet annoying (or even when i find out a creator has done genuinely deplorable things)… I just block and don’t interact. If I had a platform maybe I would talk about the latter, but to shit talk someone just for having a hyper personality is stupid, and like Chris said himself, very highschool behavior. As an autistic person that gets overly and loudly excited with things I like and am passionate about, I also feel this vitriol is subconsciously rooted in ableism. Chris likely isn’t autistic but there’s been similar cases of autistic creators being driven off TikTok for being considered “cringe” and “annoying”.
With Chris there’s also the deeply upsetting fact that people are retraumatizing him by means of revenge p o r n. Gives off underlying homophobia and puritanical, victim blaming targeted hate… all because they didn’t like how he expressed himself. Like Imane Khelif, I hope Chris seeks out suing for cyber bullying because this is beyond disgusting (just on the grounds of certain people sharing those images without his consent).
This is so saddening, I wish for so much healing for Chris. Thank you spreading awareness about this
I’ve never heard of this person but this is so heartbreaking casually hating someone like treating it so casual to send them hate… is vile and I wish people would understand the consequences.. I was awful in my childhood but I obviously learnt and regret things like this (different level obviously)… thank you for highlighting this so others can learn the impact if they still haven’t considered it
I just want to give him a hug
Same. 😣
haven’t watched the who thing yet. i really hope chris didn’t do anything bad 🙏
12:35 that fucking broke me. i’m so upset for him. the same dynamic happened with me. i always loved chris and will continue to. i’m so upset for him.
Consent is 🍟!
Freely given-with out pressure, manipulation, or under the influence.
Reversible - can be changed at anytime.
Informed - full story given, parameter and boundaries set.
Enthusiastic - not the absence of a no or a present of a yes, but really wants to be doing what is going on.
Specific - saying yes to one thing doesn't mean you're saying yes to everything.
He did not give consent based on what I know what consent is. It is not okay! It wasn't freely given, it doesn't seem to be reversible, it wasn't informed, he was not enthusiastic, and it wasn't specific. Just cause he said yes to the photo shoot doesn't mean he was agreeing to no clothes. I hope that things get better for him.💜🔥🌹🙋🏽
Survivor here too! If he reads this know you are not alone!
Felix in the background is so real
as someona who also didnt say ”no” specifically, thank you so so much
This makes me so incredibly sad. I was bullied pretty bad in HS and the good thing was at the end of the day, I could turn my phone off and not physically have to see/hear anything. I feel like there is no escape from the negativity for him, especially considering his job involves social media. Sometimes I am so ashamed to be a human being :( I wish we could be nicer
the “being dramatic” or “you signed up for this” is the dumbest argument. i get one rude reply and suddenly i’m overthinking everything about myself. people were not born to know how to deal with internet fame. and being the bud of the joke is tiring. when it’s a political, or someone actually horrible, i say it’s fine. but when you are insistent is harassing someone because of their looks or ‘oh their personality is annoying’, you’re a bully. plain out and simple. people do this sht to people and then wonder why people are depressed, insecure, k wording themselves. im also SO sick of the casual ‘kys’ and ‘i wish he would d13’?!? hello??? would you say that to someone IRL. TO THEIR FACE? if so, you’re way more sick than i thought
Adam, in your one video you had stray kids in your recommended (lalalala) and i decided to listen and i fell in love and went down a kpop rabbit hole 😭❤
Ohh man he has a lot going on nobody can call him over dramatic for the things that it's been through and all them people coming at him is stressful 😭😭 this made me cry
He is in very good company! Miss America, Vanessa Williams, had her girl on girl nudes leaked to Penthouse magazine as the reigning Miss America! She went on to have a fabulous career in entertainment and is probably the most famous Miss America ever. My heart breaks for this actor. I am praying for him and applaud his courage for this display of vulnerability; THAT takes strength. He is good looking so the haters must be jealous losers. Sending love and thanks to you, Adam. Wow.
I was taught: “If it’s not an ENTHUSIASTIC yes, it’s a NO” It needs to be verbally confirmed that they want it. He shouldn’t invalidate his feelings because he “let” it happen. You go into survival mode and it’s fight, flight or freeze. Sometimes you don’t get to consciously decide which one you choose. You can’t blame yourself for that! 😢❤
Amateur astronomer here, sorry you missed it, I missed it too due to clouds. Meteor showers do require low levels of light pollution, so being away from the city is necessary. The good news is Aug 11-13th was the peak, it's still happening after those dates. Generally the Perseids are going to give you 10-20 meteors per hour. If you or any other muckers are bummed you missed the show there are other meteor showers coming up this year, look out for the Geminids in mid December, which are my personal favorite ❤
He might have been looking at the wrong patch of the sky, they're clustered around and above Cassiopiea (W shaped constellation that is somewhat north here). The other half of the sky won't be nearly as good. We all saw quite a lot last night, even in a fairly light polluted place. Just make sure to let your dark vision adapt!
when people are unproblematic online it tends to cause others to look at them through a microscope. it’s sad how people think it’s okay to be hateful just because it’s behind a screen.
12:59 thank you so much for saying that, Adam ❤
There are only so many hits you can take before you start hitting back
My heart breaks for him. You are so right theres people who do genuinely awful things and dont get hate like this. He seems like a truly kind guy and I wish I could give him a huge hug
I have no idea who these people are but I'm seated
this is so heartbreaking, as for someone who feels him on such a personal level. i really hope he finds peace in all this. thank you adam for covering this.
taking a shot evertime adam goes off topic will become my fav drinking game
Omg Adam you’re coming out as a Meghan Trainor fan !!!!
this is what ive been commenting!!! the ability to live and let live must be a maturity thing...
Sending Chris Olsen love, it’s so sad to hear the hurt in his heart 😔 ❤
Why cant people do this thing called “ignore”. I admit, Chris has been popping out of my fyps in my social media accounts and yes i was kinda annoyed by it. But i just ignored it! And chronically online people need to do the same! These online bullies will realize one day how freakin exhausting causing hate towards someone just because they exist. 😔
It's actually fucking INSANE how easily people bully and torture online these days
Thank you, Adam for saying that not saying no does not mean yes. my heart bleeds for the sky. I’ve never seen Chris Olson before, but he’s been literally put through the ringer and I can’t believe these people can do this like the police get involved and make them stop and I’m proud of being vulnerable with us and admitting to his sobriety, and I hope he can continue on his sobriety path.
Meghan and Chris were childhood best friends so it kinda just worked out for both of them that Chris is good at social media management
That was a joke they confirmed a long time ago. Same goes for Brittany Broski calling Sarah her cousin. They are joking
Yess! More procrastination material!!!
YESSS BESTIEE
that was heart-wrenching. thank you so much for bringing light to this ♥
I freaking love Chris Olson. He’s so funny. I’m so sad this is happening to him😢❤🥰
All these uploads, plus its therapy day???? I think I’m in heaven.
I love him because he was so unapologetic abt who he is never understood the hate I feel so bad for him
he’s right like nobody would ever say that to his face, people think just bc they don’t like themselves they take it to the internet and take it out onto another. so sorry to him
It’s literally not that hard to use the block button, or just SCROLL past. The trolls online literally have nothing better to do than spew vitriol to make themselves feel like the better person? Absolutely disgusting people.
I’m not his biggest fan, because I think he got his career by leeching off Meghan Trainor, but even I can say this bullying is uncalled for.
People forget you can block people, and keywords on TikTok. Not only that but if you can NOT engage with the video…the moment you leave a hate comment those videos will continue to be pushed on your algorithm. Chris is a lot to take in for his goofiness and he’s just very outgoing online but he’s really funny, and great to watch! I respect him a lot and hope he has good support system to help him through this.
This is straight up homophobia and good for him. Oh honey chris Olsen.
I will forever stand by "if you don't like the content, scroll on"
It takes so much more energy to be hateful.
thank you for covering this Adam
“Someone not saying no, is not them saying yes.” THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. If it isn’t ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT it isn’t consent! I’m still learning to forgive myself too ♥️.
Oh my god. I feel bad for Chris 😭
We need to sort policing this sort of thing. It’s not okay. To create accounts on social media, you should have to upload a form of id just for the platform to see and approve and your name should be your user name so that when you report that person, it goes to their local authorities or they get blocked from the platform
I hope Chris can have a good support system and therapy to work through this because it’s a horrible situation to be in and I wish him all the best. To all the people that will be rejoicing over this because their hate had such an impact, little do they know that it will bite them in the ass when they least expect it and when they least want it. Unfortunately the internet giants don’t care about their creators, they are mostly just driven by money from what I can see in the last two years but I do hope things turn around and we can somehow minimise this awful behaviour that’s been going on online for a while now. Absolutely awful stuff.
It’s so weird seeing Chris like this after knowing of his content for years when he comes across and is always very funny and always smiley.
Horrible.
Adam! Don't worry about missing the Aurora and shooting stars. They're really only going to be visible if you go to an elevated area with little to no light pollution, like a big hill or nature area with no residential lighting nearby. I went out to see the Aurora the other month at 1am to Cannock Chase in the midlands with some friends and we didn't see anything, certain areas like Scotland, Devon etc had the best views. Love you diva x
I've said this a hundred times, and I'll say it again. The online dogpiling of people NEEDS to stop. 99% of the time, it's not warranted. And then when these creators, celebrities, etc. off themselves, everyone's suddenly all emotional. How about we treat people with basic human decency and kindness while they're actually here?
I think people need to learn how to have boundaries. That is something we are lacking. Even as myself as a creator on TikTok, I’ve seen many people going through what Chris Olsen is going through including myself and it’s absolutely vile to be acting like this to creators who are trying to have fun or even trying to do their jobs.
I am so genuinely sorry to this poor guy, people forget that these are PEOPLE! INDIVIDUALS! I remember being bullied back when I was still in school and I i really relate to his reaction. Feeling so helpless and alone; I seriously hope he can find some peace of mind and know that he is 100% valid. Just because he is a man or a public figure doesn't mean he deserves to have his pictures leaked. Even if it was on a p site, it still isn't okay (especially since it was a violating experience)
If there is not an enthusiastic/continuous yes- then it is a no
honestly i have the most respect for people like you and chris. content creators get the most vile hate comments everyday simply for just existing. if that was me id be crashing out 😭 i see why people genuinely spiral on the internet. being a content creator/ influencer isn’t for the weak
i can't fathom thinking he's ugly. this is my first time seeing him and he's one of the finest men i have ever seen.
This was so heartbreaking thank you for talking about this Adam, I’ve hardly ever really seen his content, I think I remember seeing him on tiktok a few times but its awful how people behave towards eachother.. we’re all humans
This is so sad. I feel so badly for Chris. He is a sweetheart... and he has an amazing singing voice.
Morning Muckers! Who’s watching Adam while getting ready for work?! 🙋🏽♀️
adam videos after therapy 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Omg literally❤
I just wanted to say thank you Adam for keeping my ass up to date on the latest. I have had TikTok deleted for almost a year now and typically just stay on CZcams and you are the only person I would watch. Thank you for being my news outlet :)
hate has genuinely become so normalised on the internet that people don’t realise them saying a hateful comment and continuing with their day can really ruin someone elses. the mindlessness of it makes it bone chilling.
I do not have a tik tok, so holy hell was i shocked at every word of this. He is so brave for taking his agency back, telling his story, and setting his boundaries. May he find healing and peace, and may those who have wrought harm unto him get what they deserve.
Love that you use your platform to highlight these things
If it's not FRIES it's not consent. FRIES: Freely given, Reversable, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific
i feel so so bad for him :( i truly hope he has a good solid support system behind the scenes bc this is truly awful what everyone is doing to this guy. The argument of "just turn off your phone" that ppl use to say cyberbullying doesn't exist is so stupid bc he's still left with this trauma of so many ppl crossing his boundaries and saying awful things to him. it's insane
i’m so glad you made this video because i had no idea, and it really shows your character given that you are so willing to spread awareness and someone else’s story. ❤