Heyy you've got this. And it's never to late to progress. I believe humans' ultimate goal in life is to evolve so now is always a good time, don't regret the past or time lost before, it only keeps you from fully looking forward. ❤🙏 lots of love
This is awesome! It doesn’t matter how “old” we are, we can always evolve. We can always get a second act, and we can get our best life at a seasoned age.
I turned 30 last year and decided I wanted to upgrade to a bit more elegance and a lot less of whatever it was I was doing 😂😂 I absolutely love this for you, whether you're 22 or 52, growth is growth!!! 🩷🩷🩷
I noticed this with my body weight. I told myself it was acceptable to be overweight because I am middle aged. So many people in my family were unhealthy once in middle age And so I was comfortable overweight. It wasn’t until I realized it to consciously change my mindset that unhealthy isn’t a part of aging. I can be older yet fit.
More than anything, that last bit where she said "Your life is not meant to be a constant self-improvement project" -- THAT! That's what I need to learn. Oh god! Thank you!
I had that with my relationships. I was so used to being single that I was sabotaging my relationships, until I found my current partner - I got together with him shortly before pandemic, so we weren't able to be as close as couples in normal circumstances. Then, slowly, when the pandemic went away, we were getting closer, and closer and closer and I think the fact that I didn't jumped right into 100% relationship, but transition over time, made me get used to that state of being. So sometimes soft and slow changes are better.
You should create a workbook for all of the different things that we could / should notice, think about, do, etc And - really important - questions we should ask ourselves in order to reach greater clarity. It would be ever so helpful to have it all right there so we can work through it, review it, be reminded and anything else related to that. I know I'd pay money for such a valuable tool. Please seriously consider it. Thank you.
I feel like I hit a glass ceiling for sure in money. I also feel that whenever I have a good week of productivity, I then self sabotage my time and mood and feel bad for a few days/week and then the cycle continues. I am going to work on noticing what my first negative behavior is when I am feeling good.
As a neurobiology-informed couples and trauma therapist, I was excited to find your video and to see how relatable it is. It is well-established that we can improve our stress-tolerance by calming and soothing our nervous system, as well as practicing self-compassion. What many do not realise however, (which you so accurately touch on in your video) is that experiences that are considered safe and joyful to some, may feel unsafe or overwhelming to someone who may not be used to such experiences. This is because what feels unfamiliar to us can often feels unpredictable and/or comfortable. Some possible steps to expand our window of tolerance, as you rightfully suggested, is to gently allow ourselves to soak in our experience and to expand our tolerance bit by bit. Gentle touch and words can help, but if self-compassion is not forthcoming right away, that’s okay too. Neutrality can be a bridge in the meantime, before one is ready to move into a gentler & compassionate state of being ☺️🌿 Am grateful for the good work that you do! 🩷🩷✨✨
Interesting and very true. Arupa jhana (a higher state of advanced meditation) generate just about the most pleasant sensations possible for a human being to experience. However, my first solid experience with the 5th jhana in meditation (which is a state characterized by soft joy and a feeling of expansiveness) immediately brought back a flood of childhood memories. I realized then that I regularly experienced 5th jhana as a child before falling asleep. Although the sensation is very pleasurable, I thought as a child that something was wrong with me. There was a certain anxiety attached to this wonderful feeling because it was so different than normal consciousness. This has been far from the only example of anxiety attached to pleasant feelings in my life. Sometimes we just need to quietly reflect on the moment and take inventory. Often it’s simply novel and in no way threatening or dangerous.
My limit is in letting go of actual items. I had no idea how much energy and how many emotions can be stuffed into one little item in my house. I’m finding it to be a painful process but I think that’s somewhat of a story. I have 60 days to let go and embrace an entirely different, exciting new life. The truth is that letting go of the familiar and unknown is racked with fear for me. It’s my upper limit. Thanks for the insight. I’m going to push the ceiling of what I find comfortable and see the excitement of the new life I’m stepping into. I’m grateful for the 60 days, I’m grateful to have worked from home and I’m excited for the new chapter that means the world to me 💃☺️. Love your videos. Binge watching while letting go and when I get stuck, I just pause and then listen to some of your insights and I feel ready to pull forward. You rock girl. What a treasure to find you. Thank you, thank you!
in the movie Interstellar... there is a line that goes... "humans need to leave something behind in order to move to their next place" or something like that. I recommend the movie
Jill I don’t usually comment but I got emotional and had to- I really need to hear this, this has been in my way for 3 years and I didn’t understand. Thank you so much ❤
Sometimes the biggest expanders are people we never would have expected. It is important to listen to and respect everyone we come into contact with, even if we are feel they have nothing of value to give us. Knowledge and wisdom is so vital to our spiritual growth and becoming who we are meant to be! No one is worthless, least of all you. 💕
Waiting for the other shoe to drop used to plague my existence. It took until my mid-30s to even realize it. I'm 37 now and I don't think like that anymore. I'm not in an ideal situation atm; I'm not even currently in a good situation lol but my peace of mind these days is tenfold compared to 5 years ago. I'm so grateful I learned how to stop sabotaging myself. My outlook and attitude are so much more positive now and I'm a million times better at handling the tough times. Now all I need is to find my people and I'll be untouchable! ✌
I relate to this so much, and I feel like I'm pressuring myself by wanting to break this negative cycle before my 30s, like do I have to wait for my 30s to have this peace and mature perspective? I don't want to waste time. Also, I'm so happy for you ❤
Mine is time management. I’ve always been a terrible procrastinator, to the point where just the thought of getting my shit together-no matter how much I know I want to-actually makes me uncomfortable to think about because it’s so unfamiliar. Definitely something to work on, and I’m glad I now have an explanation for why I feel this way, since it felt so irrational until now.
Jillz, you’re seriously one of my favorite CZcamsrs! I never comment but I just had to tell you I love your attitude, you seem like such a nice person and your advice is life changing. Happy Sunday!
Hey I was you a few years ago, remover not to worry too much about others( trust me they are just as worried about what everyone thinks of them to worry about what your doing) and enjoy having people around you all the time
Totally, just focus on yourself and know that there is a big world out there with many more opportunities than the few you have now. (but take advantage of those too!)
When I have the best, most love-filled, joyful, blissful moments with my partner, I get overtaken by fear that he’s going to die suddenly somehow. It takes me out of the moment, of course. I think this is due to an upper limit on my joy. I don’t know how to expand beyond it.
same i dont know how to expand beyond my upper limit, how do we actually regulate our nervous systems and lean into it like what she said in the video?
omg i have this so badly sometimes!!! i'm not 100% sure why my brain does it but i'll get this awful anxiety that he's not going to come home and i'll lose him and have to rebuild my life all over again. glad i'm not alone in this
I think my biggest self sabotage is financial. Everytime I get to a spot where I'm doing well, something bad happens. Thanks for this video. I'm going to work on fixing this
Thank you for this!!! For a long while now, I have noticed moments in my life that were "too good" and strangely made me feel out of place, or like an 'imposter', and never really made any conclusions of it. I would avoid certain scenarios, certain attention from others, being given gifts, or being treated like princess...because it didn't feel 'genuine' in my mind. Like it was not real life. Being brought up in a family where the thermostat is very low, where you were never truly accepted as who you are...it takes a lot to break out of it. And I'm starting to break out of it slowly and surely. This is amazing.
This video is incredible. I've managed to break many "barriers" these past few years, but am still glued in place by shame in spots. I'm totally guilty of picking fights or getting migraines when things get too good, and I've been confused by the uptick in these troubles since taking the reins and improving my life. It seems I face my dark side much more frequently now than when I lived in victim mode. You explained the situation perfectly, though -- and what to do about it. Thank you so much!
Thank you Jillz! I’ve been a quiet follower for some time now. But I feel the need to comment on this video! This is what I needed to hear and what I needed to know! That’s exactly what’s been happening in my life… every time I am getting better, a new health problem. Every time I get more money, something happens and I have to spend and can’t save or I just don’t save wisely. Recently I saw someone accomplish something that is my absolute dream in life! And seeing that person accomplish that made me feel soo happy because it was like a sign that is possible for me too! I was so happy and amused that I cried and then I realised who I am, and I finally started working on projects that I’ve been procrastinating on starting for quite a while. So watching this video made me realise that person is an amplifier for me ❤ and I’ll be forever grateful! That changed something inside of me! I realised who I am! And I think that can also be true for the other areas of my life! I’m so grateful for this!!!!!
Thank you Jillz, this video was brilliant and so informative. I’ve been self healing from “BPD” and last month I had my best week ever. I was doing meditation, had so much self belief and was taking amazing care of myself and my good work was reflecting positively into my relationship. Then out of the blue I got debilitating back pain which crippled me for 3 weeks and spread to the rest of my body, putting my in my lowest mindset I had been in for a long long time. I did think the timing was VERY strange. Now I know why and I feel better equipped for the future ❤
THANKYOU SO MUCH !! I you solved a huge issue i was currently facing and i was on a deadline. Ahhhhh! For anyone who believes that magic doesn’t exist, lemme tell you something today. I had a great opportunity to expand in life yesterday with a lil bit of capital investment involved, and I started to feel down, I started figuring out the answers to all the HOWs WHYs and WHAT’s And the biggest of all WHAT IF’s I shrugged and moved back to my room and started journaling and praying that what is happening to me must be something good. Maybe something better will come…… or maybe I’ll be stuck here in my old situation and let’s stay here .. its a risk. I was about to cry and accepted defeat. Yesterday i saw this video and added it to my watch later list. It popped up and as i was trying to distract myself i looked at it and thought i might as well watch this I NEEDED THIS. My thermostat is low I need to get it up Things are about to get good and i am seizing myself from something so good. THANKYOU!
Absolutely amazing! Such a great topic! Two statements that have stuck with me and have made my life so much more easy are “this can be easy, if i choose it to be” and “love, playfulness and ease” a conscious choice to change and having an image of what you’re changing into is so much relieving!
It’s taken the good part of 5 decades for me to get this stuff. No one talked about it and I had to find/attract these concepts. So it is very refreshing to find young women like you talking like this. Amazing. May the women of your generation know their power. ✨
Temperature...What a beautiful and helpful way to explain raising your frequency 👏 My upper limit often feels like "not doing enough." Not being able to rest in the joy of the good because of the conditioned feeling of "should be's."
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I can’t seem to break past a certain level of income in my small business. It’s always been a “side hussle” and I think that native has unintentionally kept me at this plateau. I go through phases where I give it my all and everything starts to become so effortless and dream-like… and in a matter of days, somehow I’m back to square one again. I think this video just helped me to realise I’m the problem. I’ve been wracking my brain trying to figure out why my business is so hot and cold!! Thanks Jillz ❤
I'm on the same path! Every time I get an opportunity, a new client and an exciting project I end up freaking out and messing up everything. I am starting a therapy this week to figure out what are all the reasons I set up myself for failure. Hope everything turns out great for you and wishing you the best in your business!
@@elise6346 Can I suggest having a daily journal that helps you to see patterns that you might otherwise be unaware of. I only say this because with so many things happening in the course of a day that it can be quite difficult to keep track of all the self-sabotaging habits we are subconsciously doing everyday. Maybe this combined with therapy can help you recognize patterns and move past them. I wish you the best of success in your business and in life !!
Thank you so much for such a concept. I really struggle a lot with this issue. I can remember how it happened to me when i landed a great job as i was studying but left it because i felt overwhelmed. My family didnt help, they just feed my fears unable to acept the change i was undergoing. But now i can pinpoint what was really happening behind the scenes!
Dear Jillz, thank you so much for your content! You are a big part of my personal progress in the last months, from a posing of a young woman not knowing what she wants or wants to behave, to some kind of a lady with confidence, femininity and self belief. Thank you! Keep going ❤
I'll set a huge goal and work really hard to achieve a significant several steps. For example, I'm overweight and want to be toned. I'll get the weight loss part all the way down to a healthy weight but that's it. Then i start feeling like my life is too regimented, and I need to enjoy my life and I eventually enjoy my life back into weight gained back. When people say set audacious goals I don't know if this works for me. I've lately found that if I take less extreme action it might have longer term success effects because it gives me the time to get used to the new norm so that I do a better job of maintaining at that level.
This video has been such an eye opener for me. It has helped me see myself in a different light and I can now look at things more positively instead of feeling like a failure because I keep feeling stuck. Thank you ☺️
It's a blessing that I came across your video. About to go through a major and very exciting life change, but it is a bit stressful and my body seems to be acting up in unexplainable ways. Doctors say it's nothing. I am so happy to hear that this is relatable. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, this is honestly one of the best days I've had this year🥰
Jillz, you have truly become one of my favorites! I just discovered you about 6 months ago. I am 46 and work in a factory, I sincerely feel that my life has a greater purpose and I’m struggling to find it. I’m on the verge of being able to retire but I won’t be old enough to draw my 401k so I’m working on side hustles. I’ve tried lash extensions and still working on that but it’s been rough. I know I have a few limiting beliefs surrounding money and I’m diligently working on that as well. I loved the alter ego video and that is my current motivation! You have a unique peaceful way of expressing your knowledge that is so compelling! Thank you ❣️
I watch your videos repeatedly just so I can make sure I am following what you teach correctly and step by step. ❤ Thanks for your video, I personally learn a lot!
that's the concept of frequency with different terminology, I definitely need to raise mine again, it's been on autopilot for too long. Thank you for the reminder. ♡
Hey Jillz, I really have to say Thank You, this came at exactly the right time for me. I have just started a relationship with a great, high quality man to use your vocab 😊, and now I‘ve caught some virus that has really brought me down healthwise. What‘s more, I recognize this effect of something good happening to me, some positive activity and then illness to put the breaks on… So I really believe you have shown me the key to this mechanism and I‘m really going to work hard to expand my comfort zone of happiness. Thank you so much!! ❤
Thank you, Jillz! I have had another simple and practical method, you eluded to, but it is to deep breathe and relax right down into your body, with any discomfort, wether it be a drama or a good thing. Move around during the heightened situation, and it retrains a sensitive nervous system. Has been quite transformative for me. So grateful.
Omg this is so true. I love Gay and Katie Hendricks! I have been getting emails from them for years and they always are so insightful and happen to come at the perfect time.
This video is amazing. I haven't heard it described quite this way before. It is unique and very relatable. You are undoubtably helping tons of people, including me! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.
Oh my gosh Jillz! This HIT HOME. Every aspect of my life has been in low temps, some negative, and every time good things happen I can now see how I play a big part in dropping. The beliefs part was huge! Especially the fear of outshining others.
I keep hitting a limit in every area of my life. I’m not making as much money as I know (logically) I deserve, I’m not finding a partner, just situationships that let me unfulfilled, and even in my fitness journey, every time I look fit enough I go back to unhealthy eating and inconsistency. I even always have the same amount in credit card debt! I still have a happy life :) but I’ve been noticing this pattern now and I’m ready to break it.
I realise that I am experiencing the discomfort in reaching my upper limits at work. This video made me aware of why I am experiencing that discomfort and what I can do to move beyond it. Thank you for a great video, Jillz!
Thank you for this! I keep getting set back in my healing and spiritual journey and have been suspicious about self sabotage and not knowing how to fix that coming from a very low thermostat setting in childhood. I’m 63 and ready to break the glass ceilings!! Thank you for this awesome video, I ordered all three books and can’t wait to work on it.
Thank you Jillz! I feel overwhelmed with the amount of limits I want to breakthrough. Here are a few…home more cozy, quality wardrobe, better city to live in, grow into being a thriving artist….❤
This is sooooo goooood! I wish listed all of the books you mentioned. I have several upper limit issues due to past traumas growing up that continued into adulthood. Whenever life was going well the ball would drop and things would crumble. To truly believe that I can be happy, at peace and remain there is a difficult challenge for me but I'm getting better at it everyday. I have found that reaching for the next best feeling, even it it's neutrality, helps tremendously. i tell myself I deserve love and abundance because it's available to everyone including me. Curating my circle has helped a lot! I am learning to put limits on people who trigger old wounds. I'm allowing people to leave my life that no longer serve my best interest and I feel better because of it. P.S. Jillz you're one of my expanders!!! Embracing that feminine energy!!!
Soo true right! Jillz is an amazing expander! And youve given me an idea.. to help teach/ expand others/ womyn with backgrounds with trauma. I’m pretty sure it’s all being done here.:)
I just wanted to say thank you for your channel, you have helped me to understand many things I had never even considered before. This video makes a lot of sense. THANK YOU!
YES. Oh my god YES. I need to do this! I am making really great progress. I am not letting my social media usage or money paranoia taking me out of the feeling!!
this is so true Jillz i remember last summer i had started being productive and working out and eating healthy and everything was going so well and then i got covid and was completely out for two weeks... for me it's always been getting ill or random bouts of depression. being aware of it makes it much easier to get past it though. and changing your temperature setting is very gradual but i have managed to shift it upward in the past year!
This is exactly what I have been experiencing.. been an year since I am struggling but I had no clue how to describe it in words. Thanks a lot for explaining the math about it! ❤
Thank you so much big sister ❤I always felt bad for not having an elder sibling for guiding me in my life. I see you as my big sis❤ who's guiding me to be the best version of myself❤❤❤❤
wow, mindblowing my jaw dropped after realizing this subtle unconscious mind play happening with me which is actually defining the way I live. love u jillz well explained clearly♥️♥️♥️♥️
This was just what I needed. I've had The Mountain is You book for over 6 months and never opened it. (And I think this video proves why 😉) Thank you for this break down, it was so very helpful!
I was introduced to these concepts (Including Katie and Gay Hendricks, Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer) around age 11 by my mom, and she just kept up my education over the years. She is still the best manifester of anyone I've ever seen. Her life now is exactly as she wanted it to be. I've seen all of this and I know it to be true but sometimes I still forget to apply the principles. This video was such a good reminder to not let my set point drag me down. You have to consciously apply the principles every day. Focus on the good, focus on what you want. Do things to raise your vibration. I so appreciate you for being an expander!
This is so interesting and something I have been really understanding lately the role of sabatague stopping us from change and our manifestations. Thanks
Another fabulous video!! Man, did I relate to the getting sick before or during vacations 😭. And I definitely struggle with things being easy and being ok with that. I was watching this while cleaning and had to stop, grab my tablet, and literally start it over because I was like “Ami, this is a video you HAVE to pay attention to.” Lol. Thanks for another great video that educates in such a soft and loving way. I really love this channel and learn something new every week. ❤
Getting sick on vacation - I can relate to this 1000 times ❤ ! Thank you for bringing up this topic ! Just listening to this video expands my comfort zone on its own 😅 ! Thank you, Jillz ❤ !
First time I have stumbled across your channel. I loved the way to described what is included in your daily wardrobe and what is still used but not included. Loved the sweater you were wearing!
Hey Jillz.. This video has been an eye opener for me. I got valuable insights from it. As I have Anxious attachment style I can relate to the feeling that if something goes on well , I somehow self sabotage my relationship with my partner. But now.. I will certainly expand my upper limit and experience the joy and care from my partner.❤
really loved this food for thought i find it incredibly helpful and eye opening . love your gentle energy and your videos . the whole concept of feminine energy helps me immensely with learning to relax during times of stress and anxiety (which is quite often)
⚡️💛⚡️ This was great! TY Jillz! 🙏🏻 Perfect confirmation for what I have been experiencing. I knew you were going to say “Consistency “ is key. ⚡️☺️This is exactly what I am observing for me. I love how the universe put you on front of me today to help me over a hump. 🙏🏻💛✨⚡️
You are looking radiant Jillz. Thank you for this beautiful video. I could listen to you for so much longer 😅❤. I needed to hear this precisely at this moment, it made me realize I have been doing this subconscious sabotaging of my relationship ❤🙏 by adding unnecessary complications so thank you so much.
Thank you Jillz. I have been on a mission to be in my feminine in 2023 at the tender age of 52. You have been such a joy to watch.
Awww I’m grateful that you’re here ❤️
Heyy you've got this. And it's never to late to progress. I believe humans' ultimate goal in life is to evolve so now is always a good time, don't regret the past or time lost before, it only keeps you from fully looking forward. ❤🙏 lots of love
This is awesome! It doesn’t matter how “old” we are, we can always evolve. We can always get a second act, and we can get our best life at a seasoned age.
51-year-old fan here! Wish I had this info decades ago, but better late than never!
I turned 30 last year and decided I wanted to upgrade to a bit more elegance and a lot less of whatever it was I was doing 😂😂 I absolutely love this for you, whether you're 22 or 52, growth is growth!!! 🩷🩷🩷
I noticed this with my body weight. I told myself it was acceptable to be overweight because I am middle aged. So many people in my family were unhealthy once in middle age And so I was comfortable overweight. It wasn’t until I realized it to consciously change my mindset that unhealthy isn’t a part of aging. I can be older yet fit.
More than anything, that last bit where she said "Your life is not meant to be a constant self-improvement project" -- THAT! That's what I need to learn. Oh god! Thank you!
I'm a dude, I liked this video.
I had that with my relationships. I was so used to being single that I was sabotaging my relationships, until I found my current partner - I got together with him shortly before pandemic, so we weren't able to be as close as couples in normal circumstances. Then, slowly, when the pandemic went away, we were getting closer, and closer and closer and I think the fact that I didn't jumped right into 100% relationship, but transition over time, made me get used to that state of being. So sometimes soft and slow changes are better.
Completely agree! Sometimes quick dramatic changes are too much at once and we panic lol
You should create a workbook for all of the different things that we could / should notice, think about, do, etc And - really important - questions we should ask ourselves in order to reach greater clarity. It would be ever so helpful to have it all right there so we can work through it, review it, be reminded and anything else related to that. I know I'd pay money for such a valuable tool. Please seriously consider it. Thank you.
I feel like I hit a glass ceiling for sure in money. I also feel that whenever I have a good week of productivity, I then self sabotage my time and mood and feel bad for a few days/week and then the cycle continues. I am going to work on noticing what my first negative behavior is when I am feeling good.
As a neurobiology-informed couples and trauma therapist, I was excited to find your video and to see how relatable it is. It is well-established that we can improve our stress-tolerance by calming and soothing our nervous system, as well as practicing self-compassion. What many do not realise however, (which you so accurately touch on in your video) is that experiences that are considered safe and joyful to some, may feel unsafe or overwhelming to someone who may not be used to such experiences. This is because what feels unfamiliar to us can often feels unpredictable and/or comfortable. Some possible steps to expand our window of tolerance, as you rightfully suggested, is to gently allow ourselves to soak in our experience and to expand our tolerance bit by bit. Gentle touch and words can help, but if self-compassion is not forthcoming right away, that’s okay too. Neutrality can be a bridge in the meantime, before one is ready to move into a gentler & compassionate state of being ☺️🌿 Am grateful for the good work that you do! 🩷🩷✨✨
Thank you for this awesome comment
Interesting and very true. Arupa jhana (a higher state of advanced meditation) generate just about the most pleasant sensations possible for a human being to experience. However, my first solid experience with the 5th jhana in meditation (which is a state characterized by soft joy and a feeling of expansiveness) immediately brought back a flood of childhood memories. I realized then that I regularly experienced 5th jhana as a child before falling asleep. Although the sensation is very pleasurable, I thought as a child that something was wrong with me. There was a certain anxiety attached to this wonderful feeling because it was so different than normal consciousness.
This has been far from the only example of anxiety attached to pleasant feelings in my life. Sometimes we just need to quietly reflect on the moment and take inventory. Often it’s simply novel and in no way threatening or dangerous.
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My limit is in letting go of actual items. I had no idea how much energy and how many emotions can be stuffed into one little item in my house. I’m finding it to be a painful process but I think that’s somewhat of a story. I have 60 days to let go and embrace an entirely different, exciting new life. The truth is that letting go of the familiar and unknown is racked with fear for me. It’s my upper limit. Thanks for the insight. I’m going to push the ceiling of what I find comfortable and see the excitement of the new life I’m stepping into. I’m grateful for the 60 days, I’m grateful to have worked from home and I’m excited for the new chapter that means the world to me 💃☺️. Love your videos. Binge watching while letting go and when I get stuck, I just pause and then listen to some of your insights and I feel ready to pull forward. You rock girl. What a treasure to find you. Thank you, thank you!
in the movie Interstellar... there is a line that goes... "humans need to leave something behind in order to move to their next place" or something like that. I recommend the movie
Jill I don’t usually comment but I got emotional and had to- I really need to hear this, this has been in my way for 3 years and I didn’t understand. Thank you so much ❤
Aww I’m so glad it was helpful ❤️🥰😘
Sometimes the biggest expanders are people we never would have expected. It is important to listen to and respect everyone we come into contact with, even if we are feel they have nothing of value to give us. Knowledge and wisdom is so vital to our spiritual growth and becoming who we are meant to be! No one is worthless, least of all you. 💕
There are no accidents!
Waiting for the other shoe to drop used to plague my existence. It took until my mid-30s to even realize it. I'm 37 now and I don't think like that anymore. I'm not in an ideal situation atm; I'm not even currently in a good situation lol but my peace of mind these days is tenfold compared to 5 years ago. I'm so grateful I learned how to stop sabotaging myself. My outlook and attitude are so much more positive now and I'm a million times better at handling the tough times. Now all I need is to find my people and I'll be untouchable! ✌
Love to hear that growth! It all starts with just becoming aware of it 🙌
I relate to this so much, and I feel like I'm pressuring myself by wanting to break this negative cycle before my 30s, like do I have to wait for my 30s to have this peace and mature perspective? I don't want to waste time.
Also, I'm so happy for you ❤
Mine is time management. I’ve always been a terrible procrastinator, to the point where just the thought of getting my shit together-no matter how much I know I want to-actually makes me uncomfortable to think about because it’s so unfamiliar. Definitely something to work on, and I’m glad I now have an explanation for why I feel this way, since it felt so irrational until now.
You can do it! One step in the right direction starts the journey and you might find that you enjoy parts of the journey too.
Jillz, you’re seriously one of my favorite CZcamsrs! I never comment but I just had to tell you I love your attitude, you seem like such a nice person and your advice is life changing. Happy Sunday!
Awww thank you so much!!!! 🥰❤️
Thank you girl for another video!! I’m a 17 year old girl senior In high school wanting to be a better person
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Same here!! But school made this really hard. The amount of pressure it gives is sometimes unbearable😔.
Hey I was you a few years ago, remover not to worry too much about others( trust me they are just as worried about what everyone thinks of them to worry about what your doing) and enjoy having people around you all the time
Totally, just focus on yourself and know that there is a big world out there with many more opportunities than the few you have now. (but take advantage of those too!)
When I have the best, most love-filled, joyful, blissful moments with my partner, I get overtaken by fear that he’s going to die suddenly somehow. It takes me out of the moment, of course. I think this is due to an upper limit on my joy. I don’t know how to expand beyond it.
same i dont know how to expand beyond my upper limit, how do we actually regulate our nervous systems and lean into it like what she said in the video?
omg i have this so badly sometimes!!! i'm not 100% sure why my brain does it but i'll get this awful anxiety that he's not going to come home and i'll lose him and have to rebuild my life all over again. glad i'm not alone in this
I think my biggest self sabotage is financial. Everytime I get to a spot where I'm doing well, something bad happens. Thanks for this video. I'm going to work on fixing this
Hey, how's it going ? Want to update on how the financial situation/ mindset changed ?
Thank you for this!!! For a long while now, I have noticed moments in my life that were "too good" and strangely made me feel out of place, or like an 'imposter', and never really made any conclusions of it. I would avoid certain scenarios, certain attention from others, being given gifts, or being treated like princess...because it didn't feel 'genuine' in my mind. Like it was not real life.
Being brought up in a family where the thermostat is very low, where you were never truly accepted as who you are...it takes a lot to break out of it.
And I'm starting to break out of it slowly and surely. This is amazing.
Very cool.
This video is incredible. I've managed to break many "barriers" these past few years, but am still glued in place by shame in spots. I'm totally guilty of picking fights or getting migraines when things get too good, and I've been confused by the uptick in these troubles since taking the reins and improving my life. It seems I face my dark side much more frequently now than when I lived in victim mode. You explained the situation perfectly, though -- and what to do about it. Thank you so much!
Very well said. Victim mode was comfortable, and that’s not good! Awesome that you are aware and broke through!
Thank you Jillz! I’ve been a quiet follower for some time now. But I feel the need to comment on this video! This is what I needed to hear and what I needed to know! That’s exactly what’s been happening in my life… every time I am getting better, a new health problem. Every time I get more money, something happens and I have to spend and can’t save or I just don’t save wisely. Recently I saw someone accomplish something that is my absolute dream in life! And seeing that person accomplish that made me feel soo happy because it was like a sign that is possible for me too! I was so happy and amused that I cried and then I realised who I am, and I finally started working on projects that I’ve been procrastinating on starting for quite a while. So watching this video made me realise that person is an amplifier for me ❤ and I’ll be forever grateful! That changed something inside of me! I realised who I am! And I think that can also be true for the other areas of my life!
I’m so grateful for this!!!!!
Thank you Jillz, this video was brilliant and so informative. I’ve been self healing from “BPD” and last month I had my best week ever. I was doing meditation, had so much self belief and was taking amazing care of myself and my good work was reflecting positively into my relationship. Then out of the blue I got debilitating back pain which crippled me for 3 weeks and spread to the rest of my body, putting my in my lowest mindset I had been in for a long long time. I did think the timing was VERY strange. Now I know why and I feel better equipped for the future ❤
Dear Jillz, this is your BEST, your most life-changing video!
Thank you very much for your work.
God bless you.
Love from Armenia
Ahh thank you!!! So glad you liked it!! 🥰❤️
THANKYOU SO MUCH !! I you solved a huge issue i was currently facing and i was on a deadline.
Ahhhhh!
For anyone who believes that magic doesn’t exist, lemme tell you something today.
I had a great opportunity to expand in life yesterday with a lil bit of capital investment involved, and I started to feel down, I started figuring out the answers to all the HOWs WHYs and WHAT’s
And the biggest of all WHAT IF’s
I shrugged and moved back to my room and started journaling and praying that what is happening to me must be something good.
Maybe something better will come…… or maybe I’ll be stuck here in my old situation and let’s stay here .. its a risk.
I was about to cry and accepted defeat.
Yesterday i saw this video and added it to my watch later list.
It popped up and as i was trying to distract myself i looked at it and thought i might as well watch this
I NEEDED THIS.
My thermostat is low
I need to get it up
Things are about to get good and i am seizing myself from something so good.
THANKYOU!
Keep your thermostat higher now. Don’t stop!
Absolutely amazing! Such a great topic! Two statements that have stuck with me and have made my life so much more easy are “this can be easy, if i choose it to be” and “love, playfulness and ease” a conscious choice to change and having an image of what you’re changing into is so much relieving!
Love those phrases!! I use them too 🥰
I got to know them from you 🫶 thanks for another beautiful impactful video.
It’s taken the good part of 5 decades for me to get this stuff. No one talked about it and I had to find/attract these concepts. So it is very refreshing to find young women like you talking like this. Amazing. May the women of your generation know their power. ✨
Temperature...What a beautiful and helpful way to explain raising your frequency 👏
My upper limit often feels like "not doing enough." Not being able to rest in the joy of the good because of the conditioned feeling of "should be's."
All of your book recommendations are changing my life. Thank you so much. Please always share with us. 🙏🏽
Same!!
I feel stuck in my life ...in my living situation, in job and my social anxiety
I feel this to. I feel like im stuck this situation. with no solution in sight to help get out of it
@@brownskinbeauty *hugs*
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I can’t seem to break past a certain level of income in my small business. It’s always been a “side hussle” and I think that native has unintentionally kept me at this plateau. I go through phases where I give it my all and everything starts to become so effortless and dream-like… and in a matter of days, somehow I’m back to square one again. I think this video just helped me to realise I’m the problem. I’ve been wracking my brain trying to figure out why my business is so hot and cold!! Thanks Jillz ❤
So glad it was helpful for you!!🥰
I'm on the same path! Every time I get an opportunity, a new client and an exciting project I end up freaking out and messing up everything. I am starting a therapy this week to figure out what are all the reasons I set up myself for failure. Hope everything turns out great for you and wishing you the best in your business!
@@elise6346Right there with you girl!! Good luck to you too. We got this ❤
@@elise6346 Can I suggest having a daily journal that helps you to see patterns that you might otherwise be unaware of. I only say this because with so many things happening in the course of a day that it can be quite difficult to keep track of all the self-sabotaging habits we are subconsciously doing everyday. Maybe this combined with therapy can help you recognize patterns and move past them. I wish you the best of success in your business and in life !!
Thank you so much for such a concept. I really struggle a lot with this issue. I can remember how it happened to me when i landed a great job as i was studying but left it because i felt overwhelmed. My family didnt help, they just feed my fears unable to acept the change i was undergoing. But now i can pinpoint what was really happening behind the scenes!
Dear Jillz, thank you so much for your content! You are a big part of my personal progress in the last months, from a posing of a young woman not knowing what she wants or wants to behave, to some kind of a lady with confidence, femininity and self belief. Thank you! Keep going ❤
I do understand myself and I allow myself to fall back sometimes but slowly get to my new life 😊
I'll set a huge goal and work really hard to achieve a significant several steps. For example, I'm overweight and want to be toned. I'll get the weight loss part all the way down to a healthy weight but that's it. Then i start feeling like my life is too regimented, and I need to enjoy my life and I eventually enjoy my life back into weight gained back.
When people say set audacious goals I don't know if this works for me. I've lately found that if I take less extreme action it might have longer term success effects because it gives me the time to get used to the new norm so that I do a better job of maintaining at that level.
Girl your timing is impeccable
This video has been such an eye opener for me. It has helped me see myself in a different light and I can now look at things more positively instead of feeling like a failure because I keep feeling stuck. Thank you ☺️
It's a blessing that I came across your video. About to go through a major and very exciting life change, but it is a bit stressful and my body seems to be acting up in unexplainable ways. Doctors say it's nothing. I am so happy to hear that this is relatable. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, this is honestly one of the best days I've had this year🥰
Jillz, you have truly become one of my favorites! I just discovered you about 6 months ago. I am 46 and work in a factory, I sincerely feel that my life has a greater purpose and I’m struggling to find it. I’m on the verge of being able to retire but I won’t be old enough to draw my 401k so I’m working on side hustles. I’ve tried lash extensions and still working on that but it’s been rough. I know I have a few limiting beliefs surrounding money and I’m diligently working on that as well. I loved the alter ego video and that is my current motivation! You have a unique peaceful way of expressing your knowledge that is so compelling! Thank you ❣️
I watch your videos repeatedly just so I can make sure I am following what you teach correctly and step by step. ❤ Thanks for your video, I personally learn a lot!
that's the concept of frequency with different terminology, I definitely need to raise mine again, it's been on autopilot for too long. Thank you for the reminder. ♡
This absolutely hits the nail on the head for me. I can’t ever let myself be too happy.
Hey Jillz, I really have to say Thank You, this came at exactly the right time for me. I have just started a relationship with a great, high quality man to use your vocab 😊, and now I‘ve caught some virus that has really brought me down healthwise. What‘s more, I recognize this effect of something good happening to me, some positive activity and then illness to put the breaks on… So I really believe you have shown me the key to this mechanism and I‘m really going to work hard to expand my comfort zone of happiness. Thank you so much!! ❤
This is just in time !! I was experiencing this and got this clarity through this video. Beautifully explained!! Thanks a lot ❤
Such a new perspective to see things.... I needed it badly.❤
Thank you, Jillz!
I have had another simple and practical method, you eluded to, but it is to deep breathe and relax right down into your body, with any discomfort, wether it be a drama or a good thing. Move around during the heightened situation, and it retrains a sensitive nervous system.
Has been quite transformative for me. So grateful.
Loveeed this one Jill! So many important concepts that people need to know but unfortunately many don’t. Thanks for spreading the enlightenment 💗
So glad you liked it!!🥰
Omg this is so true. I love Gay and Katie Hendricks! I have been getting emails from them for years and they always are so insightful and happen to come at the perfect time.
This video is amazing. I haven't heard it described quite this way before. It is unique and very relatable. You are undoubtably helping tons of people, including me! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.
Oh my gosh Jillz! This HIT HOME. Every aspect of my life has been in low temps, some negative, and every time good things happen I can now see how I play a big part in dropping. The beliefs part was huge! Especially the fear of outshining others.
Oh my god! I finally understand why I constantly sabotage myself 😢
Jillz, this is an amazing video and indeed a game-changer. Thank you so much! ♥️
Yep. I get sick or hurt myself before vacations or events I’m excited about. Thanks for this vid, Jillz, I’m happy I’ve found your channel!
I keep hitting a limit in every area of my life. I’m not making as much money as I know (logically) I deserve, I’m not finding a partner, just situationships that let me unfulfilled, and even in my fitness journey, every time I look fit enough I go back to unhealthy eating and inconsistency.
I even always have the same amount in credit card debt!
I still have a happy life :) but I’ve been noticing this pattern now and I’m ready to break it.
I realise that I am experiencing the discomfort in reaching my upper limits at work. This video made me aware of why I am experiencing that discomfort and what I can do to move beyond it. Thank you for a great video, Jillz!
Thank you so much for your beautiful wisdom & shining light on these self deprecating behaviors 🖤
You are truly adding value, thank you so much for giving this information for free and so neatly put together. 💜👍
I’m so happy that I came across your CZcams channel ❤️❤️ Your contents are answer what I have been struggling last 2 years🙏🏻
Thank you for this! I keep getting set back in my healing and spiritual journey and have been suspicious about self sabotage and not knowing how to fix that coming from a very low thermostat setting in childhood. I’m 63 and ready to break the glass ceilings!! Thank you for this awesome video, I ordered all three books and can’t wait to work on it.
Thank you very much Jillz. I've discovered your channel a few days ago, and your videos have already changed my mood. You're my expander ❤
Thank you Jillz! I feel overwhelmed with the amount of limits I want to breakthrough. Here are a few…home more cozy, quality wardrobe, better city to live in, grow into being a thriving artist….❤
This is sooooo goooood! I wish listed all of the books you mentioned. I have several upper limit issues due to past traumas growing up that continued into adulthood. Whenever life was going well the ball would drop and things would crumble. To truly believe that I can be happy, at peace and remain there is a difficult challenge for me but I'm getting better at it everyday. I have found that reaching for the next best feeling, even it it's neutrality, helps tremendously. i tell myself I deserve love and abundance because it's available to everyone including me. Curating my circle has helped a lot! I am learning to put limits on people who trigger old wounds. I'm allowing people to leave my life that no longer serve my best interest and I feel better because of it.
P.S. Jillz you're one of my expanders!!! Embracing that feminine energy!!!
Soo true right! Jillz is an amazing expander!
And youve given me an idea.. to help teach/ expand others/ womyn with backgrounds with trauma. I’m pretty sure it’s all being done here.:)
Oh yeah, gotta work on your circle! Good for you!
I Have never watched more helpful video than this one. Thank you so much!🙏
Wow, I don't have enough words to thank you for this video !!! Thanks a million!!!
Yet again, here is another amazing video. Thank you so much.
You are doing a fabulous job, Jillz. Well done and go further
After putting this to practice, I can say this is one of your best videos, and it helped me tremendously :)
I am so blessed I ran across your videos about 2 hours ago. Really enjoyed the 2 videos I've watched so far. Gonna continue watching others.
I just wanted to say thank you for your channel, you have helped me to understand many things I had never even considered before. This video makes a lot of sense. THANK YOU!
YES. Oh my god YES. I need to do this! I am making really great progress. I am not letting my social media usage or money paranoia taking me out of the feeling!!
Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you! ❤️
This was so helpful, I've been thinking about this lately. You put it into words for me to grasp.
You did a fantastic job of explaining this! Thank you so much 🙏❤️
this is so true Jillz i remember last summer i had started being productive and working out and eating healthy and everything was going so well and then i got covid and was completely out for two weeks... for me it's always been getting ill or random bouts of depression. being aware of it makes it much easier to get past it though. and changing your temperature setting is very gradual but i have managed to shift it upward in the past year!
Awareness is key!! 💕
Absolutely useful information! Self sabotage is my biggest enemy, not that ,, feeling unwell'' situations
Glad you found it helpful! 🥰
This is exactly what I have been experiencing.. been an year since I am struggling but I had no clue how to describe it in words. Thanks a lot for explaining the math about it! ❤
Thank you so much big sister ❤I always felt bad for not having an elder sibling for guiding me in my life. I see you as my big sis❤ who's guiding me to be the best version of myself❤❤❤❤
This hits home!! I noticed that about every time I travel too!!! Love your videos. you’re an expander for me! 😊
You are suuuper underrated, I LOOVE your channel❤ also the way you spell words is so soothing.
You are so well spoken! Thank you 🙏
wow, mindblowing my jaw dropped after realizing this subtle unconscious mind play happening with me which is actually defining the way I live. love u jillz well explained clearly♥️♥️♥️♥️
This was just what I needed. I've had The Mountain is You book for over 6 months and never opened it. (And I think this video proves why 😉) Thank you for this break down, it was so very helpful!
I was introduced to these concepts (Including Katie and Gay Hendricks, Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer) around age 11 by my mom, and she just kept up my education over the years. She is still the best manifester of anyone I've ever seen. Her life now is exactly as she wanted it to be. I've seen all of this and I know it to be true but sometimes I still forget to apply the principles. This video was such a good reminder to not let my set point drag me down. You have to consciously apply the principles every day. Focus on the good, focus on what you want. Do things to raise your vibration. I so appreciate you for being an expander!
Thank you for all your tips in this & other videos! I need these in my life. I feel so grateful! 💛🙏
This is so interesting and something I have been really understanding lately the role of sabatague stopping us from change and our manifestations. Thanks
Thank you so much for this video! It’s exactly what I needed to hear right now ❤️❤️
You are so welcome!💙
You’re definitely one of my expanders. Thank you so much 😊
Another fabulous video!! Man, did I relate to the getting sick before or during vacations 😭. And I definitely struggle with things being easy and being ok with that. I was watching this while cleaning and had to stop, grab my tablet, and literally start it over because I was like “Ami, this is a video you HAVE to pay attention to.” Lol. Thanks for another great video that educates in such a soft and loving way. I really love this channel and learn something new every week. ❤
Love your videos & the new studio setup is beautiful!
Getting sick on vacation - I can relate to this 1000 times ❤ ! Thank you for bringing up this topic ! Just listening to this video expands my comfort zone on its own 😅 ! Thank you, Jillz ❤ !
First time I have stumbled across your channel. I loved the way to described what is included in your daily wardrobe and what is still used but not included.
Loved the sweater you were wearing!
Thank you for putting the concept in an easy way to learn.😊
Your videos are so thorough & informative! Love them! Thank you! ❤
I have watched this video so often. It is really life changing! ❤
Hey Jillz.. This video has been an eye opener for me. I got valuable insights from it. As I have Anxious attachment style I can relate to the feeling that if something goes on well , I somehow self sabotage my relationship with my partner.
But now.. I will certainly expand my upper limit and experience the joy and care from my partner.❤
Glad it was helpful! 🥰❤️
This makes sense to me. I just started thinking I self sabotage my happiness.
Thank you Jillz! This is great and very helpful 🎉❤
really loved this food for thought i find it incredibly helpful and eye opening . love your gentle energy and your videos . the whole concept of feminine energy helps me immensely with learning to relax during times of stress and anxiety (which is quite often)
Love this video!! Thank you so much! So much juicy value here ❤
⚡️💛⚡️ This was great! TY Jillz! 🙏🏻 Perfect confirmation for what I have been experiencing. I knew you were going to say “Consistency “ is key. ⚡️☺️This is exactly what I am observing for me. I love how the universe put you on front of me today to help me over a hump. 🙏🏻💛✨⚡️
You are looking radiant Jillz. Thank you for this beautiful video. I could listen to you for so much longer 😅❤. I needed to hear this precisely at this moment, it made me realize I have been doing this subconscious sabotaging of my relationship ❤🙏 by adding unnecessary complications so thank you so much.
Great advice as always Jillz. Thank you so much 🙏❤