‘I Feel Exhausted All The Time,’ Says College Student Who Supports Her 56-Year-Old Mother
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- čas přidán 24. 02. 2020
- A 24-year-old college student says she is her mother’s sole caretaker and means of financial support. She says she feels exhausted, angry, and emotionally manipulated.
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That "mother" is acting like she's 85 when shes 56. Jesus christ.
that's true lol
@Sir Francis Drake who?
My mom is 56 and also has to take prescription medication and she works everyday and still looks way better than that
I know right. Even if my 60yo mother and my 68yo father do all the things by themselves. She's just mooching off her daughter.
On me
the bags under her eyes says everything about how exhausted the kid is
Was thinking that too.
Yep, can see them clear as day even with the makeup. Poor girl.
Exactly
Oh yes, you should see mine. I live with my Mom that has Dementia & pulmonary fibrosis
I can’t see them
If her mom is so sick she needs a nursing home.
Nursing homes are so expensive
Jean Roger Yup & some of them don’t treat patients well or worse abuse. But usually they’re expensive , they might not be able to afford full time nursing, unless the boyfriend helps out but I doubt he will
@@jeanroger4738 well she's already paying all her bills so I think it would balance out
Hulda Tachiri it’s around 8k a month for a nursing home without insurance. I don’t know who would have that money.
If she is really disabled there is help for a nursing home through Medicare. For that matter she should be trying to get disability if she really can’t work. There are resources if you are willing to put in effort to find them. But she probably won’t, she seems to mired in her own helplessness.
Her “mother” is exactly the type of person who complains about how bad the younger generations are
While she mooches off the younger generation🤔
IKR
The fact that this woman is not on disability but depending on her daughter’s money makes me wonder how real the sickness is 🤔🤔
To get on disability, the primary doctor must be proactive in getting a diagnosis and maximizing function with treatment. Dr Phil reads her medical record and the PCP Nurse Practitioner says that this patient might have EDS because she fulfills some of the criteria. Okay... So why not get her diagnosed? She likely has a combination of physical and mental illness. But she can’t either get better or get on disability unless she has a proactive doctor.
To be fair even when you have "real" sicknesses is difficult to get approved for disability. You could have an arm hanging off and be imobile and it would still take years to get approved 🤷🏽♀️
Uhmmmmmm SHE HASN'T BEEN DIAGNOSED SMFG
J. Holan instead of blaming the medical community for not diagnosing this person with a disease and starting the transition to full medical disability should be your first indication that she doesn’t have a disease that qualifies her for medical disability. She is morbidly obese and a parasitic parent who is ruining her daughters life. She probably has depression , main issue is narcissism and laziness.
Exactly. I have mental health issues, and I'm on Disability for them. But my mother still doesn't understand why it hurts me that she never calls me to see how I'm doing. She says "when do you ever call to check up on me?" I shouldn't have to worry about her when I'm the one on Disability. Narcissistic mothers are the worst. They always feel entitled to play the victim. Children of narcissistic parents are the ones who need help. Not the other way around. If she got divorced 8 years ago why should her daughter support her, and cook for her, and basically be her slave? She chose to be a parent. Now she's manipulating her into being her caretaker. So sad.
Look at the poor girls eyes. She looks extremely exhausted. Put a ring on her man, shes a keeper.
Its too risky! that man should run and find someone else.
Yes she can take care of her children not her man because he is grown
@@haroldmccarthy8382 She deserves happiness 🤗🤗☺️☺️
@@haroldmccarthy8382 Wtf ??
@@haroldmccarthy8382 I agree. It's moving from one form of caretaking to another.
This poor young lady is exhausted, she has bags under her eyes that she shouldn’t have at her age, it’s so unfair!
Cat Kay Lmao say that to the kids at my school.
Sophia no one cares about the kids at your school
@@Catsss1017 Shut up
Oyun Ochir shut up
Wait I’m sixteen and I have baggy eyes lol
Her: “Mom, I’m tired of cleaning up after you. You need a real job!”
Mom:”i cArRiEd yOu fOr NiNe MoNtHs”
Well she has been carrying her mother for years lol
Well she has been carrying her mother for years lol
That’s your mistake not mine
I would have said that
@@icykittenwing9072 which is why I hope you never become a parent.
Harun Ashura what do that mean?i never said about being a parent reread the sentence
This poor girl is so mentally and physically drained.
That family....
Cassia Bree shut up
@@elite4124 why so rude?
its true :( she looks so tired
J Gomes how dare you!… that’s her mother that held her for 9 months, gave birth to her, fed her, raised her, and that’s the thanks she gets? What a distorted society ugh!,
I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Severely. I'm in a wheelchair, and a lot of pain. I have 6 kids, and I take care of my family. I cook, I clean and I do everything I can.
ASMR and Healthy Living ❤️❤️❤️
I knew someone who had it. But they were hella more active than this girl's mom
Sometimes it can be debilitating. But what I note here is her out walking and sat on stage having walked on there. I can't do that, but yet I'm able to look after myself and my family albeit more slowly and with more steps than usual. She needs to help herself and stop leaching.
Bless you! I’m glad to know that you are trying your hardest to provide for your loved ones despite your disability! Truly inspirational❤️
Aww god bless you and ur family❤️❤️😊
It's weird when your kids end up parenting you.
I’ve had to do this to my parents 88 year old father (I’m 16)
lindsay mctavish thats normalish
Some of us have such parents.
it's fine but when your parents emotionally manipulate you for their own comfort, that's just wrong.
lindsay mctavish oof feels bad
I am chronically ill. I have Crohn’s disease, which means that sometimes (when it flares up) I can be in so much pain I won’t be able to walk, eating will be really painful and even laying in my bed will hurt badly. I’m still a minor and live with my parents, so they take care of me when I’m in pain. Even when in pain, I try very hard to do things on my own, and if I can’t, I always thank my parents for everything they do for me. This woman is selfish, and could live without her daughters care if she wanted to, she’s just too lazy.
You're not alone, my dude. My brother has Crohn's disease too.
I'm so sorry, bless you for being so strong. I'm sure your parents are extremely grateful for your selflessness. 💖
Crohn’s sucks. I’m currently on the tail end of a flare up and lost 30 pounds last month in April when it was really bad. I was a little overweight so it wasn’t too bad until I couldn’t move to do basic tasks. I’m currently waiting on my 5th lower intestinal procedure when there’s a specialized surgeon available during this scary Covid 19. My parents never believed I was sick, always said I was so stupid to believe the doctors and throw my money and time off of work away on “elective” procedures (mon was an RN for 45 years btw...) and that I was just being lazy. This is among many reasons of why I don’t talk to my parents anymore. I’m pushing 40 now and I’m constantly wondering if I’ll ever be able to have a normal body and am endlessly looking for solutions. I wonder what my life could have been like if my parents believed that my symptoms were worth looking into at your age. Tell your parents they are wonderful and I love them for me. Tell them they’re doing a great job in supporting you and loving you through your painful ordeal. Tell them that your family is in my thoughts. It’s wonderful to see a supportive and loving unit. I hope something works out for you sooner or later and please stay strong. Stay well CZcams stranger.
@@germenehilda my God. I hope your procedure goes well. I was neglected medically by my parents as well but luckily I did not have a chronic pain condition. I had several smaller things. I'm in my late 30s and i wondered too how things could have been if i had been treated early on. I hate to hear children who have no voice be neglected and ignored medically.
I’ve had Crohn’s disease since I was 7... I’m 18 now and I’ve already had surgery on my small intestine. I know how you feel when you’ll be completely fine then out of nowhere you get this tightening pain like someone is ringing out my intestines. When it hurts bad I stop what I’m doing and just crouch down holding my knees to my chest and eventually it goes away for a couple minutes then comes back. Crohns is the worst! If you haven’t already you should look into trying medical marijuana. It helps me eat and takes away some anxiety I have. I used to weigh 125 and now I weigh 106. I lost all of it in 2 months. It seems like anything I eat upsets my stomach. Anyways keep your head up you’re not alone in this.❤️
She looks so tired bro, she has STRESS LINES.
I just saw her eye bags
I know poor girl
Yes even if she had makeup on i can still see the streets lines
Or it could be genetic you know. I've had bags since i was like 9 years old
MsPuggles like itachi from naruto (idk how to spell his name)
She seems like such a good girl. That guy better realize he is with a saint.
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 we are all sinners sorry. She isnt a saint
@@wanefelicia8779 you are braindead
@@wanefelicia8779 Sin isn't real so nah. But on that same level neither is being a saint.
He looks like a nice boy
@@wanefelicia8779 i think you should go get some amnestics
When she peeked her head into her mom’s room and said “Mommy?” My heart just BROKE for her.
“In six months we are moving out”
Video: *made 6 months ago*
Me: you go queen
Did it happen
@@SAKTKcrunch idk man I hope so
Her man looks like he's not playing. He's probably about to shut this whole down with a strategic plan, slowly but surely.
It'll happen to someone who truly loves the other and can't stand to see them hurt anymore. No matter how close the other people are.
and the short bastard.has non right to!
yes they will,like any demons like you would!
and soon..he will do the same thing to her..and soon the ugly girl will become
his and his evil seeds slaves and soon enough as the evil seed grow up.will do the same to this ugly daughter..the same thing that she did to her mom
at least place the mom in nursing room.maybe she is living off her mom social benefits and the whole story is not told!!!!!!!
@@meta-etherealinfo2445 what drugs are you on
@@ujurak3899
who talks about drugs constantly
are the ones that live by them
are you on illegal or legal drugs?
@beyond the invisible can someone give me a translation
My mom took care of my grandmother when she was dying of cancer. My grandmother tried really hard to do things for herself until she physically could not. This lady is a narcissist. Most sick people WANT to do things for themselves. They don’t want to sit around and do nothing. Her mom is just lazy, doesn’t want to work, and wants sympathy. The daughter has a good man, she better take her man, get married and RUN!
Yesss!!! Finally someone said it my grandma was on a wheel chair and walked down stairs just to help in the kitchen and to help clean the house. Older folk don’t wanna lay around and feel useless. They want to feel needed and a necessity to their kids/ grandchildren’s lives
I agree she is definitely a narcissist. Or pbd. The daughter should RUN. Move. Get away fast.
Exactly. I have a chronic illness and do my absolute best to do everything I’m able to do. There are days that I have to lay low and rest up, but it’s so rare for someone to be in their 50s and completely not able (or willing! Which is way worse!) to take care of themselves. I’ve certainly never met a single chronically ill person who deliberately won’t do anything for themselves.
Yeet Fleet yess definitely!!! Me and my mom would get mad at my grandma because she would still try to cook, help us clean and get up by herself. It was actually really hard for her to accept she was so sick. Which is how I knew this lady is full of BS. (My grandma had lymphoma btw)
Absolutely my mother in law's health is dwindling downhill & downhill fast. She does what she can but it makes her condition worse. I took time off work to help her but I haven't been going much lately because the way she's treated by her husband. He's not a bad person it's just she catered to him all these years & now she can't & I think it angers him. I now try to avoid going over. I went for the first time in days today & he was a bit better buy not much.
She’s so young and beautiful let her live her damn life.
Seems like the mom probably has some jealousy towards her daughter and she is intentionally trying to sabotage Cheyenne. Boyfriend said “Cindy carries a negative energy with her”....YEP!!! What a sad excuse for a mom
explain more please how is she jealous?
Clyde Farrow she’s a narcissist
@@homersimpson7091 Shes jealous that her daughter is young and sweet and beautiful and capable of anything and has the world and a man at her feet. My mom acts jealous of me she told my boyfriend not to come pick me up on christmas eve when he got off work and instead made him dinner and they ate together when I was alone at my dads house waiting for him to pick me up all night!!! She did that so she didnt have to be alone on christmas eve knowing we were all partying at my dads house where she wasnt invited.
I went to school with Cheyenne. She has always been the most respectful and beautiful soul. Cheyenne if you see this, I'm so proud of you. I never knew how bad it actually was. I relate to you so much on this.
nice!
My name is Cheyenne too! Lol, this video was weird for me.
Deserae Sahar are you on somebody else’s account
@@selma8337 No, I just use a fake name for my account for privacy reasons.
Were you friends? Maybe you should reach out?
Just looking at her eyes, you'd see that she's been through a lot.
The eyes don't lie.
I agree I saw it literally as I read this comment.
I immediately noticed the circles under her eyes. She's a beautiful girl and seems so sweet. She deserves to be happy.
She seems so exhausted, tired and just done.
Jedd Cruz nah just bad makeup
This poor girl should be enjoying her life and planning her future. Not trapped with her mother 24/7 taking car of her.
she should be watching cartoons and playing
@@mymonsterhighlittlepony-2632 what
@@ihatesweets4273 what do you mean what?
@@mymonsterhighlittlepony-2632 Are you talking about the mother or the daughter?
I have eds and I'm pretty sure she's faking it
Even IFFFFFFF she does have ehlers danlos, she's still a terrible, manipulative person
the escapist exactly. I have a coworker who has eds and despite the fact that it does present her with some unique challenges, she is very much still functional and can work and go to school like everyone else. This woman is a leech.
It’s crazy that there is a genetic test for that. She doesn’t seem to show anything on the beighton scale. There’s a huge reddit sub that talks about people claiming to have EDS. If you ever want to check it out it’s callled illness fakers gone wild. Nothing irritates me more than someone who’d ignore a doctor and go for google.
I have hEDS + other (also formally diagnosed) comorbidities and autoimmune disorders and am legally disabled and cant work. I chase down my kids on forearm crutches most days. Bad days see my wheel chair and "kid's choice movie time!" This lady just makes me cringe. She can't do laundry or make a sandwich? Come on now.
Omddd me too 😂 it’s not as bad as laying down not getting a job
Gabrielle Liles
I don’t believe in god, but if there’s one, god bless you
I did this for my mother when she was in her 90s. I lost her about six weeks ago, she was 99. She always thanked me and wanted me to know that she appreciated what I did for her. This woman is 56! I was still going out to the clubs when I was 56! This is shameful. That young lady should be enjoying herself.
Rip
Rip but how old are you?
AD C sorry for your loss
Delusional Slob y’all forgetting she got these "diseases"
I'm so sorry for your loss but dang your mother's lived through a lot
damn my grandma is 70 and she’s so active lol
My grandma has broken her hip, arm, had heart attacks, etc and she still walks around like nothing wrong!
My friend/neighbour is 70 and stick thin because she's always busy doing something. Her flat looks like a show house. She puts this much younger woman to shame!
My great grandmother was 90 almost 91 when she passed and she was literally the most active elder I have ever met. You could sit down, and have a normal conversation like you would with a 25 year old imo. There is literally no excuse to any of this, if she had a serious illness I would understand partially. But throwing it all on your college-age daughter is NOT okay. There are people willing to care for people like this, it’s literally a job.
Right my grandmother is 87 and takes a 2 mile walk before going to the gym to work out. She still ski's every year, though only half a day and for 2 weeks at a time. She got grazed by a crane and had skin graphs 5 years ago, the doctor legit said at her age they would be amputating but because she is so active and healthy they can do skin graphs and treat her like a 40 year old.
Why wouldn't your grandma be active? 70is not so old at all. She is still young and if she is healthy than she can really do everything
Ironically, the daughter might die young and the mother won't still lift a finger for her burial... This is too sad and tragic.. Was this ever resolved?
Poor girl is drained of all energy- she should be living her life freely, it’s not fair to her.
I love how the daughter's boyfriend blasts the mother...he is savage!!!!
Oh he won't confront her he Respect her but wait till she watching the show (mother)😄
@Cass M i agree!
Cass M exactly girl
Yeah now he's the new leech and leave her with new responsibilities. Father and husbands are getting extinct. Feels like watching Animal planet.
I dont care what the situation never disrespect your Mother/Father.
she’s not a real mom if she wants her daughter to stay like this with her
송기주k0reanchild She’s the type of mother that would say “You should have kids so someone can look after you when you’re older”. The worst thing is that she’s not even old yet, but still she expects her daughter to take care of her.
Ana-Maria yea she’s going to college and instead she has to do this, this may impact how successful in life she is.
I would rather die or become homeless then be be a drain on my future kids
@Mohan Sandal I don't think you understood what I said. I said I would rather die or become homeless then have to hurt my kids by taking their money.
In other words I would never steal my kids money to support myself
Exactly like i love when kids dont abandon there parents when there older and and care for them. But like this is too much
Is there a support group for young adults being guilt tripped by their "sick" manipulative mother ?
There definitely should be it seems to be a common issue.. I wonder if there’s an official name for it
There are Facebook groups. One is "Daughters with Narcissistic Mothers"
@brown bird No thanks I don't drink.
@brown bird you're so quirky 🤪
Jas Rod imagine thinking that drinking alcohol is a personality trait...
He’s so lucky to have found such an independent, hardworking, caring woman. You take care of her dude. She deserves everything in the world. Give her yours. ❤️
He looks miserable having to fight his place in her life ALONG with her mom... He deserves better
I have a phyical disability and uses a wheelchair. No one takes cares of me. I work, cook, clean I go shopping by myself and drive. I rely on no one.
Good luck girl
I’m your Down chick wow that’s amazing! There’s people with 2 working legs and perfect health that don’t do all that!
I’m your Down chick god bless
I have no limbs and torso yet I do everything on my own
Good on you 🥰💪🏻
My mam had polio, she wears a caliper and now suffers with post polio syndrome. She brought 4 kids up on her own, made sure the house was clean, food prepared as well as everything else.
It proves it can be done and alot of people just use excuses.
Your amazing
Poor girl doesn't even put herself first. The mother should be ashamed of herself for relying on her daughter to care for her. Her daughter is young and should be enjoying her own life.
Hear that? Its a tiny violin, its playing for this generation of lazy twats, again
@@Always_Right00 you mean the boomers?
@@Always_Right00 If you mean her mother's generation, then yes.
@@Always_Right00 so you think it's right for the girl to stop living her life to take care of her mother? Put yourself in her position and tell me you are okay with that.
@Andrea Gomez I didn't say abandon, but the girl needs to start living her life, I'm sorry you are going through this, but sometimes you need to think what is best for you.
Those eye bags are so clear even with all that make up damn...
The girl needs to run and never return
This daughter is one in a million... The bags under her eyes are shocking and very sad..
Even with make up on, dose bags r huuuge. Not a good way to live in ur your youth. 😨😨😨
She should be out with her friends instead. Not cleaning her moms house every single day.
It's like the first thing I saw. And the show has makeup artist, so the fact that even makeup couldnt cover it...girl is drained
I know someone who has it wayyy worse
My mom doesnt even have bags and she is 45
She’s doing a great job However she should be enjoying her youth, going to university for her career. What’s going to happen when they have a baby? The mom needs to go in a home
Celine Terra would you put your mother in a home?
Ashley Eklund. If my mother acted like this woman 100%. It’s obvious the mother can do a lot more and pull her own weight. But she doesnt and drains her daughter of everything. Shes got to go.
But is she sick what’s wrong with her ???
Ashley Eklund. Yes
Ashley Eklund. If my mom can’t take care of herself and I have my personal family to care of I would.
she looks simultaneously so young and old...I hope things get better fir her
As someone with EDS it's infuriating to see someone abuse this condition just to get her daughter to take care of her. I know what it's like to be in pain every day, I know what it's like not to have a diagnosis, because neither did I the first 18 years of my life, but when I learned about EDS I went to a clinical geneticist and they tested and diagnosed me. I didn't google it and just run with it
This is ridiculous. First of all, there should be an official diagnosis from a doctor. Go get blood tests, etc. Second, if the mum is that incapable of caring for herself, why can’t she get a home health aid? It’s disgusting how she is manipulating and abusing her daughter. I have a severe illness that requires assistance from my parents, but I would never put them through this!
xRaineDropsx there aren’t blood tests for EDS.
Tina Cris that’s not true. My ex husband has it so of course our daughter had to be tested. They did blood (to see if she’s got the mutation on her dna) and echocardiogram tests your see if/which type she has.
I had my diagnosis because my youngest daughter was born "a floppy baby," and rather than the doctors taking a bone marrow sample from her, they took one from me. Not fun, and I imagine there are other ways to diagnose this.
There are lab tests, but they are extremely expensive for most people, so often a clinical diagnosis is given which is an official diagnosis.
There are 13 types of EDS currently recognized. For 12 of them, there are DNA tests. One of the types is diagnosed clinically.
Shame on her Nurse Practitioner! A good clinician does what is necessary. Don’t just mention that the patient might have something! Figure out what is wrong physically and what is wrong mentally with your patient!
An EDS specialist is a Geneticist. Typical waiting lists to get in are more than 2 years. There are few Geneticists in the USA. It’s common that a patient in need of a Geneticist simply cannot see one in the USA because their health insurance won’t cover it. And EDS workup costs several thousand dollars.
My mom is a 56 year old woman and even when she’s sick she never rests, literally never. She’s been working since she was a kid in San Luis Potosí (Mexico) and she can’t sit still. Seeing this makes me glad that my mom isn’t lazy and damn I’m grateful to call her my mama :)
melina ugh your mom is amazing God bless her
God bless!
Jazz V I’m Mexican too but I wouldn’t say ALL of us are hard workers. And saying that white people aren’t hard workers is a WRONG statement to say.
Jazz V unnecessary comment. Yes, Mexicans are very hard workers, but no need to bring up racial matters. There are homeless children of all colors all around the world. Sick woman
Jazz V especially since the video is about a white woman with a struggling life who is TAKING CARE of her mom. Good try tho
This poor baby girl, Paying for everything doing everything.
Her mother is delusional😑
OdinRules TV exactly.
So many parents try get out of their kids way when their older but this lady is only 56 and loves to be a burden to her young daughter.
The makeup artist on this show needs to learn to match foundation. The poor boyfriend looks caked in a bad way.
sooooo orange
I was on the doctors once...they were awful there too! The hair stylist didn’t know how to turn on a blow dryer.....
I think they used dr Phil's shade lol
@@catcanavan 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
And the girl’s looks horrible as well. She looked way better in the at home interview. The make up artist must be a stand in
She's got a good boyfriend he sees what her mom is doing to her .and he's trying to save her from it sometimes you don't know what's happening until you get a fresh pair of eyes on the situation. that's ridiculous if she was so sick she would be able to get disability right!? I think she can handle making a salad at a burger place.
TheLicktySplitz
She has a Nurse Practitioner who says “maybe” she has Ehlers-Danlos and that she meets several criteria. Okay... So why doesn’t that NP figure out what is wrong and how to maximize this woman’s functional level?
Does she have EDS? Which type? Does she have associated POTS and MCAS that keep her in bed for days? Maybe this issue is mostly mental. Likely it’s a combination of physical pain issues and the mental depression that often accompanies such situations. Maybe she has an autoimmune disorder. Maybe she has a personality disorder.
To get disability, her PCP needs to give her a diagnosis and an affidavit of disability. Instead, her PCP speculates on what she might have but does nothing to help her. Sad.
I hope she gets the help she needs but I’m concerned because Dr Phil has no medical training.
It usually takes several years for people like her to get on disability. I went through this process with a friend and it was horrible. My friend had a Masters in Healthcare administration but she went without income for 7 years until she finally got on disability. She had to hire an attorney and had to pay out of pocket for medical and psychiatric evaluations that her HMO wouldn’t cover.
The disability process in the USA is horrible. And don’t even get me started on the “Ticket to Work” program to get off disability. That’s a total cluster f*** too.
If she is that sick, and cares about her daughter at all, then she would be proactive in getting all the help that she could, so that her daughter can actually have a life, and enjoy what remains of her youth. I love my mother more than anything! But I'd never allow myself to be held in thrall to the person who should want me to succeed, above all else.
@@gabrieladerre2862 exactly
Gabriel Aderre
I just finished the whole episode and I’m convinced that she loves her daughter and wants to get help.
@@GoodnightJLH
Nothing says love like threatening suicide to guilt trip your daughter.
1:28
my 86 year old great-grandma is more active then her
Good for you
Ik she wants to escape, but then her mom is going to be like “why don’t help me?”
@Gloria Marie that’s true but Cheyenne can come back with a good comment saying I’ve helped her basically all my life
Wow you can tell she's tired those bags under her eyes reveal everything 🤔
YUP!!! her mom doesnt go to sleep until 4am...geez
Poor baby! She needs therapy herself.
It’s very sad. 😞🙏
Mom needs to lose weight n go see an orthopedic surgeon to fix that knee n get to work once the surgeon says it’s okay to work!! This is bs!
She is a narcissist n is dragging n robbing her daughter of her life !!
Run Cheyenne! Live your own life, marry, have ur babies n enjoy 🥂
I’m 60 And look 20 years younger than this woman. I have a urge to go walk 3 miles.
well 😮 post a video of urself
It’s probably the lack of exercise that makes her look like that
@Danny 1000 what do gay people have to do with this subject??
What a sweet girl! I feel so bad for her but she will come out so much stronger
Look at that poor girls bags under her eyes!!! She is absolutely exhausted!!!! SHAME ON THE MOTHER
Her mom SHOUKD BE ASHAMED OF HERSELF! How cruel could yu be to do this to your own flesh and blood? Ugh!
Excatly! I have 3 kids and I would never act like this!
I agree i have 2 daughters and I would never do this to either of them
a lesson for me if i ever have children
Some parents seem to have children as a contingency and retirement plan. It's really sad.
For real like I could never
This is literal abuse. Doesn't matter what her "disabilities" are.
My grandma is 70 and even tho she has a bunch of diseases she still cooks, cleans, takes the dog out, and she’s 14 years older than this woman
My grandmother is around the mother’s age and she went skydiving just last year. And look at what the mother is doing smh.
A young girl like that shouldn’t look that exhausted and worn down. I wish the best for her and her fiancé.
Her mother is a narcissist. Simple. My mother is a narc too.
Yup! You see it too
Gnome67 It’s crazy right
My stepfather was one as well when he was in my life. I'm so grateful I'm not blood related to him.
You can’t possibly diagnose someone from a short video! I’m pretty sure that this woman has a combination of physical and mental health issues. Shame on her Nurse Practitioner for not investigating this! But this woman is willing to go on Dr Phil. Think about it. This woman wants help. Why can’t we all show some compassion to her as well as her daughter?
She definitely seems like she has a NPD
That poor girl has bags, she looks exhausted
Cheyenne looks like a sweetheart 🥺🥺🥺, she doesn't deserve her mother's treatment. Ntm she's in college AND she pays ALL the bills???!!! I'm in college and I always ask my mom for help with my bills even when I had two jobs 🥴, idk how Cheyenne is doing it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She is a saint. Lucky guy. And he looks proud of her as well.
She's lucky as well! Kudos to this guy for sticking around with all of this 'motherly mess'😒
Nope. She is just another sinner.
.and a weak individual at that
@@wanefelicia8779 They were not being literal, they was using figurative language.😑I get that no one I perfect, but that does not mean she is weak. That IS her mother. It is not right, but still...
Wane felicia god says to look at the plank in your eye before telling your brother he has a thorn in his. You seem to persistently put this girl down at every comment that calls her a saint. Either you’re trolling or you’ve never read the Bible because what you’re doing is sinful in itself. You have no place to judge or to belittle someone, especially when they work hard to love and take care of someone just as god would want us all to do. Shame on you.
Wane felicia but how??
She needs a break poor girl
Her mum sounds like a narcissist
Gilt trips, mulipilation- yep def a narc
vegan fit mumma horrible enough is enough this woman can lose weight and go to work
The mom kind of reminds me of my mom
vegan fit mumma do you even know what a narcissist is? You can’t just throw that diagnosis around
Vegan, fit, and illiterate!
Also "narc" is not short for narcissist, something else entirely 😂
Her mom needs mental help and a JOB. Parents who revel in being a burden to their children are the worst! Yes, many kind people care for their parents in OLD AGE because they don’t want to send them to a home but that’s when the kids are like 40-60 and established enough in life to do that. This is clearly way more than she can handle and it’s gonna end badly.
she’s such a sweetheart. i feel absolutely awful for her, she deserves a better life.
She seems like such a sweet, respectful, and mature lady. She will grow up to be an amazing mom, and grandparent God bless her for all her hard work
This girl is a super woman
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If her mother really feels like she can't do simple things like cook and clean then I feel like she should've just employed a carer or stay in a nursing home.
Wow, that moms only 56 and is too lazy to walk while my 92 year old great-grandma still goes on 2 mile runs. Jeez 😬
This makes me so sad. I feel so bad for this girl. The mum can at least do the basics.
If she was truly that sick she would be hounding on dr’s doors everyday if needed to get a diagnosis so she can get the support and correct treatment needed I call BS! I am 28 with arthritis and cannot work at the moment because of the pain killers I am on so I am studying full time for when I have a double hip replacement (fingers crossed in the next 3 months) and hopefully able to work I have a degree behind me I am also keeping my mind active which helps a lot!
Oh geez, I hope everything works out for you! I'm 17 and also have arthritis, it's tough at times but you just gotta power through eh? Best of luck to you, you've got this!
Hi from Israel! Good luck with school! I wish you good health!!!❤❤❤xxxxoooo
ikr! i’m 15 with hEDS and it’s like really love? I go to school and do theatre even when I’m in pain because it takes my mind off it, also waiting for a double trochleoplasty (i think that’s how u spell it 😂) Obviously I know everyone’s experience with EDS is different but there comes a point where you are leeching and this lady has reached it!
TOTALLY! I have a nervous system disorder that certainly affects me at work and school, but I cannot imagine myself or any other disabled person I know treating my child this way. This is so unacceptable
That sounds terrible! Have you ever heard of Mikhaila Peterson? She has had a crazy journey with juvenile arthritis and depression and claims she cured it through major diet change (she follows the Lion Diet). Just in case you were interested in reading her stuff ☺️ I hope you find relief soon!
My grandmother is 78 yet she’s so active and that is another reason why I love her so much because she doesn’t let her age slow her down I love you so so so much Grandma
I lived this way with my mom till I had to say I can't do it.
I went and got all the help I could to get her her own place that I could visit!
I am the youngest!
I feel you and this pain.
This girl deserves all the free spa days she could ever want. She is a saint. I would have lost it. Haha
I have MS, had it for 15 years and am legally disabled. There are times I lose my vision. I am in constant pain. My legs barely work, I have recently started using a cane but I manage to get up every morning, take care of my children. Take care of housework, cook, laundry grocery shopping, all of it. I refuse to have anyone wait on me even on my worse days. I do have a great support system. My husband helps me however he can but he works full time. I am on my own most of the day. This woman has no excuse. She needs to get a handle on her mental health first and foremost. This is not fair to her daughter. I feel so bad for her
My mom deserves this when she gets older. She did it until I was 18 and now I’m gonna help her until her last day. That’s the least I can do for her.
Agreed
My grandma is around her 60s to 70s and she still is active as well a survivor of breast cancer
This girl is a servant to her mother...Mom needs to cop on and let her daughter live her life.
As someone with Ehlers I’m truly astonished that her mother would even think that she can’t do anything. I have joint pains but this is ridiculous I have issues walking but EDS does not completely immobilize you like that
Unfortunately a lot of people fake EDS for some reason. Check out the subreddit r/illnessfakers. It will make you angry.
Exactly. And if she does have EDS she needs to be more active
..not less
My 4 year old was diagnosed with it back in January. Right before her 4th birthday. She is a more severe case and that's why she was diagnosed so young. Her nuerologiist felt she had a muscular dystrophy at first but a year of doing every genetic test they have including sequencing her entire genome led us to the hEDS diagnosis.
I had never heard of it. Didn't know a thing about it but I knew she was extremely hypermobile in every single joint. I knew she had other diagnosis that I assumed were connected to whatever condition she has that we just didn't know at the time.
She has Dysautanomia (diagnosed at 18 months), slow motility and is gtube fed since 14 months old, nueropathy confirmed at 3 but showed sings from just 2yo, essential tremors started back at 3.5yo, extremely soft skin (had comments since her first week in the NICU about that), she scars very differently then others which I learned the day she was diagnosed by the connective tissue specialist that it's classic for hEDS to scar this way. She has hyptonia...also common in this.
She has almost everything that most adults with hEDS have. Just seems to be having symptoms a lot younger then most.
She's in physcial therapy twice a week and will be for a very long time. She will never be able to not doing either therapy or have a personal trainer for strength trianing to keep her core strong and her muscles toned. This will help her with her joints stability.
She also does aquatic therapy twice a week. Occupational therapy once a week.
The stronger and more active she is the better off she will be.
If this mom truly had hEDS she should be in PT. Should be trying to lose some weight to help her joints and should be seeing the right specialists for it.
@@oliviad3326 I don't know why anyone would ever want to fake this condition.
Like if the doctor is trained properly then they will know if u have it or not and her pulling her thumb back to show the hypermobility like she did in the video does nothing for me. Over half of my nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, includes on my mom's side can do that lol. They are hypermobile but they do not have ehlees Danlos Syndrome. They aren't hypermobile in every single joint not do they have the other conditions associated with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome it's weird to fake this. Really weird
I see how horrible it is for my 4yo. I would never want to fake it or portray it that my daughter had this if she didn't. Pain daily is nothing to lie or joke about and for those who do have it and for those who have it severely and cannot function most days...it's a slap in the face.
Jenifer Clark oh bless her heart , you got this momma everything you do for her is amazing and I’m sure she loves you for it xx
I had a dear friend who actually had Ehlers Danlos syndrome, i took care of her during the last 6 months of her life, but that brave beautiful woman worked every day all of her adult life up until her Aorta blew apart (dissected) and she had a massive brain bleed which caused her to become very disabled. All related to her ED. Before that she had had multiple open heart surgeries and repairs to her Abdominal Aorta, over 25 years, and she worked full time all through it. She was a Savage, my beautiful friend. I've known and cared for a few ED patients with ED and related connective tissue disorders over my 30 years in health care. Actually my grandmother had Marfans syndrome which is in the same family. They were all working. Both my friend and my grandmother died from Aortic dissection at 52 years old. Both worked almost until the end of their lives.
This was the poor girl’s situation before COVID...I hope it isn’t even worse now 🥺
Damn you could see the bags under her eyes.
Oh Lord. Even stage makeup can’t hide those tired bags under her eyes. Love her heart ☹️
this young girl is just a sweet, kind hearted goddess. i love her
You can see the bags under her eyes. She’s so tired.
Are you kidding me? the mom said she’d off herself if she had to move out. My mom said that to me recently knowing my aunt did that and how it devastated me. Our relationship will never be the same after that. People really need to know how to watch their words.
CC
I agree. The mother’s behavior is WAY out of line. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t have some sort of physical pain disorder. I highly suspect that this woman has both physical and mental illness. She needs proactive doctors to diagnose her, maximize her level of function and determine if she can work or get her onto SSI (typically about $780 per month) and other social programs.
She likely has Medicaid. She certainly qualifies for it. The problem with having Medicaid is that most doctors won’t accept it so it’s very hard to find specialty care.
I hate it when she said that her mother has never worked. So she’s been a bumb her entire life?? I find it ridiculous to be 56 and to have never had a job if she isn’t handicapped
Let this girl live her life jeez , shes wasting her teens and 20's slaving over her mom, her mother should be ashamed
As another emotionally abused child, I feel so much for this girl. My mother had me practically raise my younger sister since she was born (I was six). When I look back at those years, I realize it wasn't a normal childhood, but at least I have the sweet memories and love of my sister. But this girl won't get anything out of a mother like that. She seems like such a lovely person, I wish her the best luck.
As someone with Ehlers-Danlos - this is incredibly frustrating. The last thing I want is to be reliant on others. I recognize that everyone has a different experience with chronic pain... but that is never an excuse to treat others poorly. I don't know a single person with chronic pain who is content with being reliant on others. If anything I (and many others I know) tend to over-exert ourselves before asking for help because the last thing we want is to be a burden.
I appreciate you so much for this comment. The last thing anyone with invisible illness wants, is to feel like a burden. We burn ourselves out before we do. That mother just wanted to mooch.
While I agree with this statement (I also have EDS), I think there is more than possible eds going on here. I would NEVER even attempt to say whether or not she has EDS. I have no way to know just be watching a show. But I think most of her
I think she has convinced herself that she is totally dependent on her daughter out of a fear of abandonment. If she can not function without her daughter, then her daughter can never leave her. I hope she gets physical and mental help.
I have EDS as well, and my biggest fear is living like this. I want to be independent and am scared I won’t be able to be and will have to burden my parents or other family. I cannot imagine someone simply embracing it. And I agree it’s never an excuse to treat someone poorly.
My sister has that and she doesn't act like this.
Jessica Struempler I feel the same way! I have Eds as well and would never use it as an excuse.
We have guests like her mom all the time with their “illnesses” that make them incapable of walking past a single car but can run like an athlete to get on a roller coaster ride.
I hate how her mom just thinks about herself. I mean, you can clearly see that her daughter is drained and exhausted. Apart from that, you can see that she is madly in love with her significant other. Why are you doing this to her?! Let her go man!!!
this is why parents r just dead weight to their offspring
She still laughs even after all that work
Respect
This is exactly what every (sane) parent doesn’t want for their children. Poor thing..
This poor girl. I have EDS, so I understand the pain and how difficult every day is. But I am also my moms full time caregiver since she had three strokes. You do what you have to despite the pain.
God bless you xx
The poor girl even has eyebags bless her soul💖❤
Even Dr.Phil doesn’t have bags and this young woman has them.
I feel so bad for her.
Her daughter is gonna be very blessed in the end
The oldest daughter reminds me of Cinderella.
I really hope she has the strength to tell her mum she can't/won't look after anymore. The mother is a master at making her feel guilty.
So sad. I hope he stands his ground of not letting her mother live with them. Poor girl