What i said is a lot of the times in the dating world self improvement basically either means. Can't find a woman? - Get rich and attract a golddigger. Women don't like your hobbies and morals? - Just DON'T BE YOURSELF
@@darkseason96 This is the nature of humans. Women will always search for the best and healthiest provider, and men will search for healthy and caretaking women.
@@chrisbruhe Good thing humans have the ability to act outside of our base instincts. The argument that men must appeal to superficial women (or vice versa) because it’s “human nature”, is an appeal to nature fallacy.
@@chrisbruhe Providing isn't just about money since money can't always buy security. It's also about safety, support during pregnancy, and empathy. These are softer things that women with real self esteem are also looking for and the redpill never mentions, even more than money (beyond the basics, such as paying your own bills). It is NOT natural for a woman to want to stay at home and a man to pay for everything himself. Men aren't naturally designed to be capitalism slaves, just like women aren't.
thats the cope people use so they have a excuse not to emprove their situation, but at the same time complain about their dating results. Complain but never do anything to improve.
I agree that bettering yourself is a lot more than getting a good body or getting money. But it's a solid base to get fitter and healthier, you probably cut out bad habits such as eating junk food, smoking or drinking. Idk what ur situation is but the best thing to do is doing stuff that you love that doesn't negatively effect ur health.
This mentality is terrible - Hitting the gym isn’t about getting abs or buff - it’s the result of it. But it teaches discipline. It’s HARD to wake up and go to the gym - it’s HARD to push your body past its limits. It’s also been linked to be therapeutical which is why people associate it to therapy. If you’re pissed or depressed I 100 percent promise you that if you do 100 push ups and go sprint / run a mile that emotion will subside. What’s the other solution lay in bed and be mad or just eat or succumb to pleasure and be mad / depressed. Also the reason why men push to be “successful “ is because unfortunately for the most part many women look for a partner who they can see will provide for them / their kids. You also have one body why not take care of it ? This mentality is dangerous and pushes you to be contempt with your situation- the irony is he’s using “mass media” “corporate” words as a way to push his outlook. He’s right you don’t have to push yourself to be better but what’s the msg - don’t stride to be better mentally , physically , emotionally ? Then uses movies and compares real life to exaggerated CHARACTERS in movies??? Guys- he’s talking the complete extreme to push his agenda. It’s about balance as well. He then mentions how going to the gym won’t “fix his current situation” now the gym won’t fix a flat tire or if you’re broke . Again it’s been scientifically proven to be linked to assist mental health- teaches discipline which is essential in life in all aspects. What’s crazy is he notices theirs a problem - and instead of pushing for other solutions just tells himself that those solutions won’t work because he feels they won’t work
@@darkseason96 Going to the gym doesnt mean you will get a girlfriend and many girls are attracted to different builds but using 15 year olds/ kids as a basis for how your sexual/ relationship life should be as a grown man is just wrong. If you want to use that as a comparison everyone in highschool knows that wether your 13 or 17 years old girls would tend to gravitate towards, the athletes, funny guys, tall guys, good looking guys or popular guys. Based off that women chose their partner on attributes that are associated with strength (tall,athletic) or statues (funny, popular) no women has ever said they want to date a guy who doesnt care or nurture his mind or body. Discipline is very important as an adult and discipline was even a factor in highschool in ways you look past- it took discipline to show up to school, it took discipline to study, it took discipline to graduate, it took discipline to go train on that sports team you where on. Theirs different levels of discipline.
@chriskevin17 women expect me to provide money to get something that they gave high school boys for free. After 20 penises been in that pussy i wouldn't even go in it for free. Maybe it's just me but sharing DNA with a bunch of nasty losers ain't my idea of sexy
Depends with self-improvement, like with focussing on our trauma's & trying detach yourself from the external world, but yeah the standard getting money & get a good body is shallow as hell, lol. I think Anti-Natalism is really good for people with trauma, because instead on focusing on children they can focus on their past trauma's. I noticed that many child free/Anti-Natalists are in generaly more kind than parents.
Starting my home yoga practice actually did lead to improvement in so many other areas. As I got stronger physically I started cultivating more discipline and confidence. My nexus of control shifted from external to internal as I stopped wondering how I was being perceived in exchange for radical acceptance and gratitude for my place in life. I got more energy, I found myself cleaning more and taking better care of my home and hygiene. As I discovered that I could self-regulate my emotions and lower my stress and sleep peacefully through meditation and exercise, I was able to fully quit smoking weed. When I began to tune into my body and what it was capable of, I was better able to know what it needed and it was easier and natural to prioritize better nutrition and less digital escapism. Slowly after rising to the challenge of practicing over and over my mind started to let go of fear cycles, I found myself asking “why not” instead of “why bother”. I could go on and on. It cost me literally nothing because the mat was secondhand. We all have the chance to save ourselves from ourselves Edit: oh, and my hair stopped falling out because the poses allow for better blood flow to my scalp
You always hear the people for whom it works talking out, not those who fail consistently. Don't project your personal success, being a completely different person, onto everyone else. Besides, we don't know if you've correctly assessed your life or if you aren't misrepresenting it, or how you will turn out in the future
@@TheEternalClown you sound trapped in a mind vice of negative deficit black and white thinking. “Those who fail consistently” are also “those who keep trying”. I’m not trying to proselytize from a pulpit of a “successful” transformation. Life is about meeting yourself where you’re at, learning how to shift perspective is a powerful tool that invites in opportunity instead of blocking it.
I agree man. There is certainly a toxically positive aspect of popular self improvement culture. It often does focus on appearing attractive, cool or happy, because it erroneously indicates to parts of society that you are doing well. It also normalizes the practice of treating attractive people better.
I don't know if you take requests but it would be interesting to hear your take on forced socialisation (particularly in working environments where people expect you to attend after work parties when most of your time is already taken up by work itself).
I will say with the gym stuff it can be helthy but it can be unhealthy to easphsaly peaple who overdose on stariods. Personally I wanna be stronger and some muscler arms wold be nice so I work out to improve strength but visbal strength might be nice side effect. I heard being active has good effect on mental helth. You made it clear you dont wanna do that and that a ok. I honestly think if you wear intrusted someone like you wold like you might enjoy night walks or walking in butifal grave yard well listing to music. Im Personally more into night walks but have yet to walk in graveyard art night now that be different experience witch I may have to try sometime with my friend. Personally, i like nature and hikes so somtime I may go for night walk in forest when camping after dark.
I think it depends on your reasons for engaging in self-improvement.....if you are doing it for your own health and development, it is fine. But if you are doing certain health and wellness things (like gym looks maxing, mewing, etc) purely for acknowledgement from others, or in the hopes it will lead you to success/money/a romantic partner this is not a guarantee of self-improvement practices. Also, true self-improvement doesn't focus purely on physical aesthetics. You must truly show care for all parts of yourself, including your mental health. Any past emotional trauma that wounded your "inner child" needs to be addressed as well. Ironically, my own looks improved as I focused on therapy work and dealing with the pains of the past. I slept better, ate better, worked better, and treated others better. All of it is connected. I think men (also women) focus on purely one aspect of self-improvement thinking it will fix all their problems. But it is a multifaceted approach. No need to purchase a "plan" from some influencer; all of this can be done on your own
You're free to stay subpar. That's OK too. We need people to flip burgers. We need people to work at Walmart. That sounds like hell to me. But if someone else wants to take those spots, it's not a bad thing. To each their own. Less competition for those of us who are improving. We need you guys.
@@darkseason96I think you overthink things too much lol you’re already a CZcamsr (which is awesome) and good health (mental and physical) is key to a happy life. So the main things I focus on for my own life is my diet, exercise , loving the job I do, and being good to those who are good to me. And so far I’ve noticed a positive change. You can too 😉
I just never understood the whole "hit the gym bro" mindset people have. Everyone doesn't want to be super ripped. It's like society has an issue with people who are content with their physical appearance and aren't worried about fitting into societal beauty norms.
even the wrestlers nowdays don't look muscular so why should I. I have body dysphoria and I prefer looking more soft and femininine instead of having muscles
@darkseason96 Yeah, the idea that we're all supposed to just slave away in the gym for several hours so that we can all be bodybuilders is delusional to me.
You don’t have to be a jacked body builder, but you’ll feel better about yourself and have more confidence to more things, you’ll have a better outlook on life overall, plus working out helps your brain function better overall.
@@Nina.VanRobiart True. That movie was a parody of typical high school movies. The one I can remember was some girl that was working in a VHS store rewinding tapes. And she had a crush in some popular guy but she was too nerdy to get with him
@@matane2465 thanks for the reminder. I can't stand Freddie Prinze Jr. He is what we call a chad daucebag that gets girls while putting in no effort. And yet blackpilled fools think you gotta be muscular to be a chad lol
hi bro i am pretty drunk and hungover, im getting some ramen noodles and beef. btw you are not ugly, you dont need muscles, the problem is the society. many women expect way too much today because of unrealistic social media standards. we need to become humble again
@bluelightmoon777 true. Back in the day simply looking decent, being respectful and funny and working any job would get you a woman of your own social class. Nowadays an unemployed nobody expects to get a male model
You both are so brainwashed into thinking it's women who are the problem. Wake up and realize that scrawny guys, fat guys, and nice guys still get pussy. Yall are just obsessed with how people think of you.
you do have a point because if youre uggo and short going to the gym isn't really going to do anything but a lot of money will, personally I'll rather be fit in a somewhat healthy body than one that's not.
@BlazeEst money don't matter either. Money is going to attract a wh%%e not a wife. And it's not even about looking ugly. Looking average is not good enough to attract an average woman. You gotta look like Henry Cavill to even get them to notice you.
Seeing obnoxious influencer types sell gridset self improvement junk definitely turns me off of self improvement too at times. But doing some sort of physical activity outdoors and trying to eat and sleep better is definitely helpful. Try to ignore those fake shallow people and disconnect health from them in your mind. Connect physical health with spiritual health and realize it is only one small component in a journey to become closer to God.
it's just "reddit". it's a proper name. it's not "the reddit". jebo te pas glupi. >getting healthier, fit, and becoming more accomplished is not going to change my situation at all >painted nails alrtight. that's all I need to know.
@@cunjoz some dumb Balkan thug like yourself isn't worthy of using my role model Anakin's picture as a profile pic. Maybe Tito or Stalin would fit your toxic personality better commie bootlicker
@@darkseason96 još više si se pokopo mamlaze jedan. razina tvog odgovora je kao kad bih ja uočio hrvatski grb na zidu i onda ti reko da si nizozemac. disparatne stvari. trebaš ići u mentalnu instituciju. schizoposting je samo za Terryja Davisa i Uncle Teda, a ne za low T subhuman mongoloide poput tebe. nadam se da je pitanje vremena kada ćeš se pridružiti onima koji spadaju među 41%
no need to be rude, but he is coping he said a gym body with out steroids isnt much difference from a out of shape body, and unless your take your shirt off people can't tell. Thats major cope we can see how fit someone is by how clothes hang and fits on them and in their face. You can tell a girl works out by looking how her hips and behind and body fits in just normal clothes.
good comment mating is a arms race, if you decide you wanna look soft and not care about your appearance your gonna lose to thos who do care. No amount of complaining about women or hypergamy is gonna change your situation. People are always gonna pick their best option.
If you don’t like it, there’s nothing wrong with that. But self improvement is not fake because you don’t like it.
What i said is a lot of the times in the dating world self improvement basically either means.
Can't find a woman? - Get rich and attract a golddigger.
Women don't like your hobbies and morals? - Just DON'T BE YOURSELF
@@darkseason96 This is the nature of humans. Women will always search for the best and healthiest provider, and men will search for healthy and caretaking women.
@@chrisbruhe
Good thing humans have the ability to act outside of our base instincts. The argument that men must appeal to superficial women (or vice versa) because it’s “human nature”, is an appeal to nature fallacy.
@@chrisbruhe Providing isn't just about money since money can't always buy security. It's also about safety, support during pregnancy, and empathy. These are softer things that women with real self esteem are also looking for and the redpill never mentions, even more than money (beyond the basics, such as paying your own bills). It is NOT natural for a woman to want to stay at home and a man to pay for everything himself. Men aren't naturally designed to be capitalism slaves, just like women aren't.
thats the cope people use so they have a excuse not to emprove their situation, but at the same time complain about their dating results. Complain but never do anything to improve.
As Shakespeare said, “One man, in his time, plays many parts.” Everyone changes, but you kind of have to improve yourself for you…
Well he wasn't really good looking so.....
I agree that bettering yourself is a lot more than getting a good body or getting money. But it's a solid base to get fitter and healthier, you probably cut out bad habits such as eating junk food, smoking or drinking. Idk what ur situation is but the best thing to do is doing stuff that you love that doesn't negatively effect ur health.
yeah but some of us don't live a self destructive lifestyle
This mentality is terrible -
Hitting the gym isn’t about getting abs or buff - it’s the result of it. But it teaches discipline. It’s HARD to wake up and go to the gym - it’s HARD to push your body past its limits. It’s also been linked to be therapeutical which is why people associate it to therapy. If you’re pissed or depressed I 100 percent promise you that if you do 100 push ups and go sprint / run a mile that emotion will subside. What’s the other solution lay in bed and be mad or just eat or succumb to pleasure and be mad / depressed.
Also the reason why men push to be “successful “ is because unfortunately for the most part many women look for a partner who they can see will provide for them / their kids.
You also have one body why not take care of it ?
This mentality is dangerous and pushes you to be contempt with your situation- the irony is he’s using “mass media” “corporate” words as a way to push his outlook. He’s right you don’t have to push yourself to be better but what’s the msg - don’t stride to be better mentally , physically , emotionally ? Then uses movies and compares real life to exaggerated CHARACTERS in movies??? Guys- he’s talking the complete extreme to push his agenda. It’s about balance as well. He then mentions how going to the gym won’t “fix his current situation” now the gym won’t fix a flat tire or if you’re broke . Again it’s been scientifically proven to be linked to assist mental health- teaches discipline which is essential in life in all aspects. What’s crazy is he notices theirs a problem - and instead of pushing for other solutions just tells himself that those solutions won’t work because he feels they won’t work
did 15 year olds go to the gym and have discipline when they got their first relationship?
Get a grip
@@darkseason96
The 15yo were already healthy and fit when they got relationships. You shouldn’t let yourself go. No one should
@@emyywolf they didn't even wash their balls at 15. Tf you talking about? To you smoking a pack of cigarettes a day at 15 is healthy?
@@darkseason96 Going to the gym doesnt mean you will get a girlfriend and many girls are attracted to different builds but using 15 year olds/ kids as a basis for how your sexual/ relationship life should be as a grown man is just wrong. If you want to use that as a comparison everyone in highschool knows that wether your 13 or 17 years old girls would tend to gravitate towards, the athletes, funny guys, tall guys, good looking guys or popular guys. Based off that women chose their partner on attributes that are associated with strength (tall,athletic) or statues (funny, popular) no women has ever said they want to date a guy who doesnt care or nurture his mind or body. Discipline is very important as an adult and discipline was even a factor in highschool in ways you look past- it took discipline to show up to school, it took discipline to study, it took discipline to graduate, it took discipline to go train on that sports team you where on. Theirs different levels of discipline.
@chriskevin17 women expect me to provide money to get something that they gave high school boys for free. After 20 penises been in that pussy i wouldn't even go in it for free. Maybe it's just me but sharing DNA with a bunch of nasty losers ain't my idea of sexy
Depends with self-improvement, like with focussing on our trauma's & trying detach yourself from the external world, but yeah the standard getting money & get a good body is shallow as hell, lol. I think Anti-Natalism is really good for people with trauma, because instead on focusing on children they can focus on their past trauma's. I noticed that many child free/Anti-Natalists are in generaly more kind than parents.
Starting my home yoga practice actually did lead to improvement in so many other areas. As I got stronger physically I started cultivating more discipline and confidence. My nexus of control shifted from external to internal as I stopped wondering how I was being perceived in exchange for radical acceptance and gratitude for my place in life. I got more energy, I found myself cleaning more and taking better care of my home and hygiene. As I discovered that I could self-regulate my emotions and lower my stress and sleep peacefully through meditation and exercise, I was able to fully quit smoking weed. When I began to tune into my body and what it was capable of, I was better able to know what it needed and it was easier and natural to prioritize better nutrition and less digital escapism. Slowly after rising to the challenge of practicing over and over my mind started to let go of fear cycles, I found myself asking “why not” instead of “why bother”. I could go on and on. It cost me literally nothing because the mat was secondhand. We all have the chance to save ourselves from ourselves
Edit: oh, and my hair stopped falling out because the poses allow for better blood flow to my scalp
dont listen to this guy ! you are doing it right .
You always hear the people for whom it works talking out, not those who fail consistently. Don't project your personal success, being a completely different person, onto everyone else. Besides, we don't know if you've correctly assessed your life or if you aren't misrepresenting it, or how you will turn out in the future
@@TheEternalClown u sound like you need the gym buddy !
@@TheEternalClown you sound trapped in a mind vice of negative deficit black and white thinking. “Those who fail consistently” are also “those who keep trying”. I’m not trying to proselytize from a pulpit of a “successful” transformation. Life is about meeting yourself where you’re at, learning how to shift perspective is a powerful tool that invites in opportunity instead of blocking it.
@@trotgun1563 I'm already going to the gym, foo
I agree man. There is certainly a toxically positive aspect of popular self improvement culture. It often does focus on appearing attractive, cool or happy, because it erroneously indicates to parts of society that you are doing well. It also normalizes the practice of treating attractive people better.
I don't know if you take requests but it would be interesting to hear your take on forced socialisation (particularly in working environments where people expect you to attend after work parties when most of your time is already taken up by work itself).
great idea!
I will say with the gym stuff it can be helthy but it can be unhealthy to easphsaly peaple who overdose on stariods. Personally I wanna be stronger and some muscler arms wold be nice so I work out to improve strength but visbal strength might be nice side effect. I heard being active has good effect on mental helth. You made it clear you dont wanna do that and that a ok. I honestly think if you wear intrusted someone like you wold like you might enjoy night walks or walking in butifal grave yard well listing to music. Im Personally more into night walks but have yet to walk in graveyard art night now that be different experience witch I may have to try sometime with my friend. Personally, i like nature and hikes so somtime I may go for night walk in forest when camping after dark.
I think it depends on your reasons for engaging in self-improvement.....if you are doing it for your own health and development, it is fine. But if you are doing certain health and wellness things (like gym looks maxing, mewing, etc) purely for acknowledgement from others, or in the hopes it will lead you to success/money/a romantic partner this is not a guarantee of self-improvement practices.
Also, true self-improvement doesn't focus purely on physical aesthetics. You must truly show care for all parts of yourself, including your mental health. Any past emotional trauma that wounded your "inner child" needs to be addressed as well. Ironically, my own looks improved as I focused on therapy work and dealing with the pains of the past. I slept better, ate better, worked better, and treated others better. All of it is connected. I think men (also women) focus on purely one aspect of self-improvement thinking it will fix all their problems. But it is a multifaceted approach. No need to purchase a "plan" from some influencer; all of this can be done on your own
interesting video.
Maybe some music reactions/reviews?
I'll do it if my videos don't get blocked for copyright
You're free to stay subpar. That's OK too. We need people to flip burgers. We need people to work at Walmart.
That sounds like hell to me. But if someone else wants to take those spots, it's not a bad thing.
To each their own. Less competition for those of us who are improving.
We need you guys.
I'm not gonna work and serve idiots like you. And you better be careful what you say or someone will spit in your food.
@@darkseason96
This is just sad. Best of luck to you.
😩
@@darkseason96I think you overthink things too much lol you’re already a CZcamsr (which is awesome) and good health (mental and physical) is key to a happy life. So the main things I focus on for my own life is my diet, exercise , loving the job I do, and being good to those who are good to me. And so far I’ve noticed a positive change. You can too 😉
@@cookiegirl891 being an incel makes everything else empty pleasures
I just never understood the whole "hit the gym bro" mindset people have. Everyone doesn't want to be super ripped. It's like society has an issue with people who are content with their physical appearance and aren't worried about fitting into societal beauty norms.
even the wrestlers nowdays don't look muscular so why should I.
I have body dysphoria and I prefer looking more soft and femininine instead of having muscles
@@darkseason96yeah man your patchy facial hair and unkempt hair are very feminine
@darkseason96 Yeah, the idea that we're all supposed to just slave away in the gym for several hours so that we can all be bodybuilders is delusional to me.
You don’t have to be a jacked body builder, but you’ll feel better about yourself and have more confidence to more things, you’ll have a better outlook on life overall, plus working out helps your brain function better overall.
@@mannny52 Nah i prefer looking soft and feminine. I feel better about myself looking that way
The thing with the actor with the glasses n stuff its like the girl from the movie "not another teenage movie"
czcams.com/video/h4Va0uwP_7g/video.htmlsi=bkh4cALI95iJoZkA
@@Nina.VanRobiart True. That movie was a parody of typical high school movies. The one I can remember was some girl that was working in a VHS store rewinding tapes. And she had a crush in some popular guy but she was too nerdy to get with him
That was a parody movie. The actual movie was She's all that.
@@matane2465 thanks for the reminder. I can't stand Freddie Prinze Jr. He is what we call a chad daucebag that gets girls while putting in no effort. And yet blackpilled fools think you gotta be muscular to be a chad lol
Insert Tyler Durden phrase here.
They say not to smile so you don’t cause lines and wrinkles on n your face.
true I guess
Don't smile, don't frown. Can't have shit in this world. 😢
Maybe lower standarts ? Chuby girls are often best girlfriends
Thats what I'm saying. I said in a bunch of videos that chubby girls are my preference and I find that figure sexy af.
How about women lowering their standards?
@@chuckcollins2349 exactly.
@@chuckcollins2349 they are already low. I always wanted 6inch 4 or 5 bf, now I am happy with 6,1
@@darkseason96same I have a chubby gf
why choose to let your body rot and decay instead of be the best version of your self
What about music, love and art even , philosophy the supernatural, there's enough misery in this world to be dwelling on that.
Well considering that I'm lonely and miserable it's difficult to enjoy anything but I do wanna review some albums and games
@@darkseason96 ❤️
@@darkseason96 ❤️👍
If I don't comment enough, I do appreciate your content dark.
@@naisot2174 thank you. I'm happy to have loyal viewers
Maybe overveiw of your favorite songs from favorite bands
@@misssheltered1081 great idea
I enjoy eating cheeseburgers and being lazy
hi bro i am pretty drunk and hungover, im getting some ramen noodles and beef. btw you are not ugly, you dont need muscles, the problem is the society. many women expect way too much today because of unrealistic social media standards. we need to become humble again
@bluelightmoon777 true. Back in the day simply looking decent, being respectful and funny and working any job would get you a woman of your own social class. Nowadays an unemployed nobody expects to get a male model
@@darkseason96 bingo. cheers m8
You both are so brainwashed into thinking it's women who are the problem. Wake up and realize that scrawny guys, fat guys, and nice guys still get pussy. Yall are just obsessed with how people think of you.
you do have a point because if youre uggo and short going to the gym isn't really going to do anything but a lot of money will, personally I'll rather be fit in a somewhat healthy body than one that's not.
@BlazeEst money don't matter either. Money is going to attract a wh%%e not a wife.
And it's not even about looking ugly. Looking average is not good enough to attract an average woman. You gotta look like Henry Cavill to even get them to notice you.
Seeing obnoxious influencer types sell gridset self improvement junk definitely turns me off of self improvement too at times. But doing some sort of physical activity outdoors and trying to eat and sleep better is definitely helpful. Try to ignore those fake shallow people and disconnect health from them in your mind. Connect physical health with spiritual health and realize it is only one small component in a journey to become closer to God.
it's just "reddit". it's a proper name. it's not "the reddit". jebo te pas glupi.
>getting healthier, fit, and becoming more accomplished is not going to change my situation at all
>painted nails
alrtight. that's all I need to know.
@@cunjoz some dumb Balkan thug like yourself isn't worthy of using my role model Anakin's picture as a profile pic. Maybe Tito or Stalin would fit your toxic personality better commie bootlicker
@@darkseason96 još više si se pokopo mamlaze jedan. razina tvog odgovora je kao kad bih ja uočio hrvatski grb na zidu i onda ti reko da si nizozemac. disparatne stvari. trebaš ići u mentalnu instituciju. schizoposting je samo za Terryja Davisa i Uncle Teda, a ne za low T subhuman mongoloide poput tebe. nadam se da je pitanje vremena kada ćeš se pridružiti onima koji spadaju među 41%
Daniel pbuh !!!!!
what?
Coping baldcel 😂
wow so original
good good pat yourself on the back for coming up with that
no need to be rude, but he is coping he said a gym body with out steroids isnt much difference from a out of shape body, and unless your take your shirt off people can't tell. Thats major cope we can see how fit someone is by how clothes hang and fits on them and in their face. You can tell a girl works out by looking how her hips and behind and body fits in just normal clothes.
being shallow is our nature 🍄🟫 if you're not "shallow" you'll be behind everyone else since you won't care about appearance
good comment mating is a arms race, if you decide you wanna look soft and not care about your appearance your gonna lose to thos who do care. No amount of complaining about women or hypergamy is gonna change your situation. People are always gonna pick their best option.