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I am part of a high value couple! We started off dirt poor together with a baby on the way... but 6 years later we are debt free (excluding a very manageable mortgage), have 3 lovely children, and make 75-100k a year together! There was plenty of bumps and the growth was slow at first, but I am very proud of my wife and family.
A relationship can literally make or break your future … however if you cant find a good relationship your better off by yourself … avoid my mistake and dont just get into a relationship for the sake of a relationship it can lead u to dark places 🤷♂️
I woke up and realized I can do better and be better. I do agree that having a partner who constantly pulls you down is the worst thing that could happen to a person. All goals are achievable but sometimes the simplest things can become so difficult to achieve when surrounded by the wrong people. Remember, it’s Better to be alone than with the wrong people.
In my opinion, high value couples don't compare themselves to other couples and stir unhappiness/dissatisfaction in the relationship but do whatever they enjoy doing and focus on their own path and goals.
Whether you're man or woman. Don’t let anybody, especially yourself, make you feel like you don’t deserve to be in the room you’ve earned a right to be in. You have something unique to contribute - your ideas, your experience, your wisdom, and your point of view.
Everyone in my family is part of a high value couple. Wealth wise, everyone in the millions. We all have great education, great careers, zero divorces. We invest in our spouses with no hesitation, both the men and women. Always fun bringing our kids together.
@ Han Ooi - you are lucky that you’ve met the right ppl to marry because if otherwise I don’t think anyone get married with intentions to later divorce but sometimes things just doesn’t work out and you have no other options. You guys must be lucky ones.
@@UnlimitedAspirations24 Well, we were able to replicate our success consistently, I don't think it is luck. We have a system for evaluating partners. Plus our family is morally conservative. All this sleep with a person first to figure out whether you want to have a relationship with them garbage would just get a candidate canceled from consideration. Our very first screen is "What kind of family is the person from?" and "Where is the person going with his life, career, education and family aspiration wise?" The third rule is once you find a qualified candidate, be decisive and move fast towards marriage. We have each other evaluate our candidate as a sanity check. In some other threads, I posted an evaluation scorecard we use.
@@priscilladuarte6324 What gives you the impression I'm not investing in myself? I have been granted patents for my ideas and have founded a startup company around them of which I am CEO. Better yet, I've been able to self fund all the way to profitability thanks to the large savings we've accumulated and the support my wife gave me on the journey (health insurance from her job). One would think this is the ultimate textbook example of both self investment and mutual couple investment.
I love how alux recognizes how absolutely uneducated it is to put down your partner. From the outside, people really frown on a person who does that. It does make a person look like a "clown".To really bring it home; it's the same when you cheer people on who do the same to your mother, sister aunt or grandmother. Alux. You get the point.
Wahmen initiate divorce 90 percent of the time and the more educated she is the more likely that Hoe is going to quit or cheat on her man. BYE FELICIA 😉
It's bizarre to me that so many maintain relationships with people they don't respect or even like, but seems like most people eventually end up in one. My guess is it's largely due to people valuing material comfort and familiarity over peace of mind and independence.
You can definatly be a high value couple and not have alot of money. As one of the points suggested money isn't the only marker of a low or high value couples. I beleive as long as both encourage growth in the other without attempting to change the other from their own desires. They both contribute in one way or the other.
16. They know how much a divorce really costs (emotionally, financially, psychologically, for them and the children), and they make every effort to avoid it.
@@mayanlogos92 @guitaro comes across as a red or black piller. They are the kind of people who only play to not lose. His kind doesn't know how to play to win. His kind stagnates and then die slow lingering deaths of the soul and body.
This one has A LOT of great points, but I cant say I agree with all of them. For instance, at some point life will become routine in a marriage. Yes sure you can spice it up, but most times people dont even realize as its happening. Its not that they are not working towards certain goals together, rather they are in a phase of those goals that demand consistant, routine action. Sometimes, because of life challenges, its prolonged for years. This does not mean theyre a low value couple. Also the point of them always leading and everyone adjusting their schedules for them is flawed. Not every high value couple must lead in everything they do. They are not experts in every area, no one is. Rather I would say they are always a valued member of a team or committee whatever. They are able to identify when others are more suited to take the lead, and offer strong support. Likewise, when they do lead, people are more than happy to follow. As leaders or supporters they are sought out to join. There were one or two other things, but overall this was a great video
I am very happy to actually have a partner who is equally ambitious and supportive. I see couples who are just going through these block unblock games and fighting over birthday wishes, whereas I have never had a fight with him, because it always have been just an active discussion rather than argument. I would say that someone who makes you feel that they are another chore you have to handle, is not a good sign. They should be someone you should go to have good and meaningful conversations and just relax and being able to share everything and feel comfortable, sharing things.
I found myself binge watching these videos daily this week, receiving something more with each video. Truthfully, I have a high-value work ethic, I earn high-value wages. But everything else in my life is low-value. Wife, family… Help! I need to make life changes, starting right now! I now smell change in the air, beginning with me. I will nolonger roll as or with anyone low-value. Low-value family members and friends will now be kept at a distance. This writing holds me accountable. Peace!
All the best to you, Eugene. I'm definitely in the upper middle class region with high value goals and aspirations. As with you, parts of my life were low value. Over the years I walked away from the low value people in my life - family, friends. Regarding immediate family, wife and daughter, I find I must be the relentless guide, not just by talk, but by example. I won't do low value activities. I won't talk trash. When someone says or does something trashy, I'll ask, "Why would you say/do that?" I hold them accountable, just as I hold myself. As in this video, there are times it would be desirable to just walk, yet I know I made decisions many years ago, and I'm committed to them. You sound like a good man. You have the money side worked out. You have the drive to make other parts of your life better. You have the intelligence to figure out how to do that, to find resources, to find information, to really learn right and wrong. All the best to you in your journey. Keep up the good work!
I see alot of these videos as a guide and nothing more. Like the having kids when young part, that can come for systemic reasons and such. But you can either take the information and do what you see fit to do with it
Best of luck Eugene. I walked (moved 1000's of miles) away from low value friends and family four years ago and have endured relentless criticism ever since from my husband. I can't lie though, it has been so darn liberating!!! Best decision ever!!! I'm excited for you!
I didn't even know what high value was, yet this is exactly how I see me and my future husband. It's something my mom has always drilled in my head since I was a teen. PEACE
As a woman, being respected demonstrates love to me. I do not care just about effort but about outcomes, and the partner observing those outcomes after his actions or mine and planning accordingly over time. Coddling a male because he feels he cares is of no interest to me. A man who demonstrates respect to you brings more peace and communication than the male who showers you with gifts or constant compliments
Sounds like you have a thick masculine shield repressing your femininity. A sign is your disgust with what you term "coddling" that you are disgusted with the feninine.
Better be willing and able to give whatever you hope to receive then, because any man worth having won't tolerate a disrespectful, lazy or selfish woman just as you won't accept that behavior in him.
Better be willing and able to give whatever you hope to receive then, because any man worth having won't tolerate a disrespectful, lazy or selfish woman just as you won't accept that behavior in him.
As I read through and listen to this list, while I thoroughly agree with the entirety of this list, being a “high value” couple has nothing to do with how much money either party has. The truth is that there are PLENTY of “low value” couples who make a lot of money. I’ve had clients who have shared with me some pretty scandalous stories with certain couples who would be considered “high value”. All that glitters isn’t gold. In other words, you can be a “high value” couple before you make a high value. Be of high value mentality FIRST.
I agree that having lots of money doesn't automatically make a couple high value. However, a couple who struggles financially will have a hard time achieving some of those things that lead to high value. It's harder to provide for good education, diverse experiences, etc for the children and the family if money is a contention point. Agree 💯 mentality is where it starts.
@@verb0ze it’s all about mentality. Bc if a Financially low value couple times together, but has a high value mind set it’s only a matter of time before they build together and create a financially high value life them and their family.
Something that I have learned from past relationships is if she is going to her mother, friend, or some other dude about issues you two are having then you need to leave her. No matter what who fault it is everyone will take her side. If you want to go outside of the relationship for advice then see a couples therapist. At less they are a neutral party.
Yeah man, women love taking bad advice almost as much as they love giving it. I've seen women destroy their relationships, families and lives on the advice of others so many times IRL and it never ceases to amaze me. Often the ones giving the bad advice do so knowingly and maliciously too, but the woman never realizes it until too late because the advice flatters them and encourages them to act impulsively.
PEACE ☮️, What an amazing video! This one of the most important decisions we all have to make in life. Choose right and your life can be setup for greatness, choose wrong 😑 and suffer the consequences until you are out of the relationship!
This is a good video for those looking for a relationship now or in the future. I personally am not looking now but still agree with the content 100%. I know some of both here and I have always said the partner you choose is the only family you decide to be with, that is the most important choice.
Communication, emotional intelligence and functioning as a team rather than competitors really does help! The rest of what was mentioned, I guess should be obvious, e.g mutual respect and intimacy, fun etc.
Will you ever make a cast abt divorced women? I mean marriage is good and there are some women who do not have the good luck of a good man or marriage and yet they show courage walk out and start from scratch... They too can be high value.. may be some tips on how they can find good partners
I feel like I'm part of a high value couple now. My wife is amazing. She saw something in men when we met that I didn't even see in myself. She stood by me through my divorce and helped me to become a better version of myself. She got me to take more pride in my appearance, she encourages me to excel in my career. She lifts me up when I need it and gives me a reality check when I'm being unrealistic. We compliment each other because one is strong where the other is not. I didn't have all this in my first marriage. My ex actually left thinking she could do better. 4 years later she is still single and the grass was not actually greener on the other side while I have thrived without her thanks to my current wife. I wish the best for my ex, but I feel like she did me a favor by leaving.
When I'm in the right relationship I feel like doing my 100% to make my partner feel special and happy. I go the extra mile and can not justify why I work like that. I usually don't get this energy for the other things in my life.
It's no surprise that the majority of divorces in America are cause by problems related to money or lack thereof. Get your financial situation straight before you commit to a long term relationship if possible. Your future self will thank you for that.
As long as there's a breath in my body I'm NOT going to stop trying to improve my quality of life, & if a woman that I'm attracted to wanna GROW TOGETHER then God is watching over me for sure. Until then I'll do it alone. PEACE✌🏾
PEACE thank you for releasing this at an opportune time for me to appreciate my wife that works late nights so that she can be with family during the day
Beautiful video as many many more, completely agree with you. At the start it was briefly mentioned that often our geographical location dictate who we pick as a partner, what if you like in an area with low population, super focussed on your targets in life and career progression, are dating apps your only resort? When statistic say most people on these apps are mentally/emotionally damaged. Any advice or suggest would be much appreciated. God bless you guys
Did anyone happen to notice that there is an undefined income range from $150,000 to $200,000. Middle class is until $150,000. While upper middle class starts at $200,000. So what is the term for families with income between 150k to 200k ? Middle-middle-class?
#12 and #13 hit home. We can sense when there's something wrong. We state our issues up front, argue/discuss, but we forgive at the end. #13, Pre Cana was a pre requisite before getting married in the Catholic faith. We learned each other's short comings/nobody's perfect, and accept them. If you/fiancé has an issue, then you do not go through with the marriage. (2 years) before taking vows.
Brilliant insights! These are the guidelines I’ve lived by my entire life, contributing and receiving while expanding the beauty and Joy of our worlds. Thank you for putting pen to paper.
Best advice ever! Men do want respect and appreciation. To them that equals love, and it took me a long time to learn that. Too much of today's media buzz is about toxic masculinity...nothing is toxic about true masculinity and it deserves appreciation.
If you got someone that’ doesn’t control or he or she feels like u gotta go threw them before you make a move leave them If you got someone that lets you move around stick with them in life loyalty always makes you stronger
Glad you brought up the part about high value couples marrying. It is just so weird to see people in their 30s who have been "living together" for the last 7 years. It shows a lack of maturity.
@I’ll beat everybody ass Cohabitation is not biblical marriage dude. Besides I'm not even in the US, never been, I'm speaking from my country's perspective where the laws are different to yours and cohabitation still exits.
2:35 "Men don't want to be loved, they want to be respected." #FACTS This is where modern women get it wrong every time. They come at us (men) from THEIR perspective and assume we look at the world the same---which we do not. Its the rare woman who can break out of her comfort zone and learn that her man does not have to externalize his feelings to prove to anyone what their relationship is about, or their commitment to each other. That is all between them. As long as they are both showing each other respect and loving each other the way each individual respects and accepts it, then they are good and forget what the world thinks. I'm always suspect of couples who seem a bit too determined to show PDAs in public. At some point, it always seems a bit forced on the male end of their relationship. As if he knows he doesn't want to do it, but sort of has to, or she'll be upset with him. I appreciate older couples who occasionally hold hands, or I'll see them support each other in very small ways, but don't feel the need to prove to the world they love each other by hugging and kissing 24/7.
thanks for this. I am beginning to accept the fact that men don't externalize their feelings. I have always been with men who showered me with beautiful words but rarely backed it up with actions. I am currently with a man who shows love through actions but rarely showers me with sweet nothings. He tells me here and there but not as often as what I am used to. He is one of the most reliable men I ever met. I am experiencing love as an action. While I love to hear the words, I will take a man who shows love through action than the one who consistently compliments me but is unreliable and won't be there during hard times.
As someone who works retail, what is generally a tip off to a low value couple is when they can't agree on anything, bicker over small things, complain about their lack of money, usually all of those within one span of a trip to the store. Another tip off is when they'll remove food that they could ya know. eat? To put cigarettes on. I know a high value couple when they come in, their clothes are neat, they don't argue with each other over every single thing, and they know exactly what they want. They can clearly and directly tell me politely what they need and don't lose their absolute crap when I don't have it in stock. They have their stuff together, Peace out.
High Value is not comparing you or your relationship to others. Simply stay on your path and do you. Some people take these videos wrong and it can create a Narcissistic person which is an entirely different issue. Nobody is perfect, and we all get into slumps at times. Just get up, brush off and try again.
Mw half-way through the video: I hope alux makes a video on High Value Families and Low Value Families. Thank you for your content alux, you always help me expand my knowledge and I'm totally living for it 😭💕✨
50% of marriages end in divorce, but not 50% of first marriages (at least not the last time checked). The legendary 50% statistic includes second, third, etc. marriages, and second marriages fail more than first, third marriages more than second, etc. I've been married and divorced once. That was enough. The kids are raised, and I'm done .
I TRULY need to find myself within a high-value relationship, if not rise to & accept myself as a single high-value woman. 😓 #HardTruth #DropLossAversion
PEACE! This is my first comment since subscribing.... an add to this list is that a HVC work toward and present a "unified front" in important matters (to others).
Peace, love and gratitude. Alux videos have been a huge blessing and of immense value in navigating through life with a vast amount of insight and common sense as well being a constant inspiration to pursue one’s most noble skills and purpose. Thank you!
This would be fantastic advice for a pre-marriage counseling session. Whether it's for the middle-class or the rich...it would be a tremendous benefit! Peace.
I love the idea of a relationship being 100-100. We never just split the bill. I'll pay the bill, and she leaves a 100% tip. I'll do the dishes, she then washes all of them again.
A lot of men worry about a women will take his money in divorce but the actual question is why did you marry her if you don't want to share your money with her? Why do you make children with baby mamas if you don't want to share your money in child support? Every man likes to play victim in divorce these days.
I'm personally not looking for anyone at this stage in my Life; right now. However, I am glad Alux touched on this particular topic because I (until now) didn't really know what a High Value Couple was or what that means. I found it highly educational. Prior to this, my thoughts ran along the lines of "If you're doing extremely well alone; why would you add somebody else to your Life and possibly risk it?" However, everyone is different. If someone does make your Life better in every conceivable way; why wouldn't you marry them? This video has opened my mind to that chance. If it is possible. Thanks again, PEACE 🕊️ ☮️ ✌️🕉️ .
This video is very insightful. I've never had a high value relationship, but have seen couples who do and are in loving committed relationships. I was never seen as having any value, only being a burden. Being alone is how I'm going to ride the rest of this life out. Better to remain alone than make someone else miserable.
I'm sure you have a lot of value unless you are a horrendous psychopath or something equally negative. Being a good, kind person is always valuable. Take care.
*NUMBER 2* is a key point for me. Yes, I *do* judge a man's love based on his efforts. .Respect be damned, it's meaningless if the man doesn't show how much he is willing to sacrifice for that love. Exactly.
I am reminded of first Lady Barbara Bush who said" you do not have to get married but if you do, the marriage has to come first. You do not have to have children, but if you do, they have to come first"
My relationship leaves me confused after watching this video. We seem to be neither high not low value as a couple. We earn less than $50,000 as a couple about 50% of the years yet we afforded a house with a low mortgage in the country & with decent neighbor s. We also have more assets than liabilities; th erefore, we have stuff but a not a lot of cash. We do take short vacations & don't always stay home when we take vacation. In terms of mutual goals we need to work on that. We trust each other and don't fool around but we not as snugly as we should be. First off, you always need to work on your relationship. Unfortunately, I work 10 to 12 hours per day as my employer requires it. It leaves me little quality time with my wife. We both acquired education & a degree but we can only work in menial jobs most due to our age, physical condition, and a local economy that only create menial jobs. There are very few professions in the area even if major corporations are present.
May I suggest something? Think outside your "local economy" think outside your employer. When you fix that with the education you and you spouse have, you will resolve #1 the snuggly issue and the time together issue and the income issue. I'm 57 and starting a brand new business because I was "too old to hire" now. I'm starting this journey with other men even older than myself. We are all full of life and look forward to each day. I'm about to remarry, things are great. You can do it!
@@eduncan501 My wife doesn't want to leave the area because of her daughter and her daughters children. Her daughter, my step-daughter had difficulty remaining with a man but she is getting better at selecting them & keeping them in the house. My wife is risk diverse on starting a business and I myself would only go into business if it was with multiple partners as in a chapter S-Corporation or an ESOP. I have spent my first half of my life before moving to this area working for small or mid-sized family controlled companies that often failed after the owner died or retired. Such an arrangement not only cuts my risk but keeps the business going after I retire or in one of my past cases die from a stroke while working on the job. I have tried to talk to my wife about starting a business and the consequences of working for a local corporation but somehow she can't connect the dots so to speak. My back ground in Mechanical Engineering heavy machinery design and an MBA with concentrations in project management and finance. I have some experience in project management ( very similar to managing a design build company for heavy machinery) and have spent some time in the finance industry through Primeamerica. While working design engineering I also worked as a cost estimator and did some marketing. I am 63 years old but educated, experienced, and very diversified.
@@informationcollectionpost3257 I'm in Alabama, my partners are in Philadelphia, Florida, Hawaii, New York Washington DC and the Caribbean. We meet by zoom. Bringing all our talents together to solve a problem not only motivates us but we didn't need to spend any money, only time together. But it was time well spent. Form an llc, which won't cost you much to start.. Look at all the emerging technologies and see how your experience can solve a problem. With new technology, you'll have the same experience as everyone else in the field, but you'll have years of experience on how to enhace it or in your case manage a team working on a solution. Answer two questions for a company to be of value How can you make them money or save them money by implementing your ideas. The quickest way to making money is by helping others to make money.
@@informationcollectionpost3257 just looking at your response I see niche you can look into. Help prevent failing companies by helping them with succession planning. All of these soon to be Alux billionaires will need that service. You can provide virtual MBA and project management services, etc. I hope I got you thinking 😊😇
If you both have children then you are "in the middle of the grind" and have limited flexibility because of your responsibilities. Do not beat yourself up. You should be proud of your accomplishments.
Thanks, one of my favs. I know high value men who have a dead weight wife. The wife behaves like she’s better than though, despite being nothing special together as a couple.
A great video ! The "trait neuroticism" part saying "women feel negative emotions stronger", thats what jordan peterson also talks about in one of his videos !
Not everyone that has money is “High Value”, also it would be foolish to believe that every couple that’s financially well off is as happy as this list would suggest. Being a high value couple has to do with the mindset of the couple before it has anything to do with their bank account.
Johnny Depp is a weirdo, drug user, and alcoholic, so...yes. Elon Musk is a weirdo, pseudo inventor, who has profited off government subsidies, while pretending to be self-made and having hidden children all over the place, so...yes. Bill Gates was paling around with one of the most infamous child sex traffickers in US history, which lead to his divorces, so OBVIOUSLY...yes. And either you didn't watch the entire video or your comprehension is off, but Alux never stated that high value was solely about income. They literally gave 15 qualities.
We are a high value couple we constantly move forward and work well together and apart. At the end of the day we have the quieting of the mind and peace as we snuggle up only to wake to smiles and kisses
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ALUX needs to give Kevin Samuels some recognition. He brought these subjects to life within the Black community. 👍🏽👍🏽
I am part of a high value couple! We started off dirt poor together with a baby on the way... but 6 years later we are debt free (excluding a very manageable mortgage), have 3 lovely children, and make 75-100k a year together! There was plenty of bumps and the growth was slow at first, but I am very proud of my wife and family.
And in 6 yrs be able to say something completely different from that. Grow more. You aren't done.
Nice Man! Keep pushing!
I make 80k at 24 years old and I feel broke. Haven't even graduated college but I've bought a house
God bless your family even moreeeee!!!
Great
A relationship can literally make or break your future … however if you cant find a good relationship your better off by yourself … avoid my mistake and dont just get into a relationship for the sake of a relationship it can lead u to dark places 🤷♂️
Truth!
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Facts, learning this the hard way now.
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Hey we have cookies 🍪 here so bring milk 🥛
I woke up and realized I can do better and be better. I do agree that having a partner who constantly pulls you down is the worst thing that could happen to a person. All goals are achievable but sometimes the simplest things can become so difficult to achieve when surrounded by the wrong people.
Remember, it’s Better to be alone than with the wrong people.
In my opinion, high value couples don't compare themselves to other couples and stir unhappiness/dissatisfaction in the relationship but do whatever they enjoy doing and focus on their own path and goals.
Whether you're man or woman. Don’t let anybody, especially yourself, make you feel like you don’t deserve to be in the room you’ve earned a right to be in. You have something unique to contribute - your ideas, your experience, your wisdom, and your point of view.
Right on!
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Just don't take it personally when the church couples snub you..
They won't want their kids playing with your kids either..
A couple who argues in public IS DEFINITELY a low value couple. In my opinion.
Everyone in my family is part of a high value couple. Wealth wise, everyone in the millions. We all have great education, great careers, zero divorces. We invest in our spouses with no hesitation, both the men and women.
Always fun bringing our kids together.
Thank God for that! It’s very rare these days
@ Han Ooi - you are lucky that you’ve met the right ppl to marry because if otherwise I don’t think anyone get married with intentions to later divorce but sometimes things just doesn’t work out and you have no other options.
You guys must be lucky ones.
@@UnlimitedAspirations24 Well, we were able to replicate our success consistently, I don't think it is luck. We have a system for evaluating partners. Plus our family is morally conservative.
All this sleep with a person first to figure out whether you want to have a relationship with them garbage would just get a candidate canceled from consideration.
Our very first screen is "What kind of family is the person from?" and "Where is the person going with his life, career, education and family aspiration wise?" The third rule is once you find a qualified candidate, be decisive and move fast towards marriage. We have each other evaluate our candidate as a sanity check. In some other threads, I posted an evaluation scorecard we use.
@Han Ooi I don’t believe it, how could you be happy living with jowels like those. If you have money invest in yourself please!
@@priscilladuarte6324 What gives you the impression I'm not investing in myself?
I have been granted patents for my ideas and have founded a startup company around them of which I am CEO. Better yet, I've been able to self fund all the way to profitability thanks to the large savings we've accumulated and the support my wife gave me on the journey (health insurance from her job).
One would think this is the ultimate textbook example of both self investment and mutual couple investment.
Peace is everything to me. I slipped up a couple of times but chose to make the decision to only do the things that give me consistent Peace!!💙💙💙
Be careful who you marry. Be even more careful who you have a child with.
Another great video Alux!
Exactly...be careful
Oh, how right you are.
I love how alux recognizes how absolutely uneducated it is to put down your partner. From the outside, people really frown on a person who does that. It does make a person look like a "clown".To really bring it home; it's the same when you cheer people on who do the same to your mother, sister aunt or grandmother. Alux. You get the point.
Yup to put down anyone that's not a criminal.
They called it fair down the middle from fact based research
Wahmen initiate divorce 90 percent of the time and the more educated she is the more likely that Hoe is going to quit or cheat on her man. BYE FELICIA 😉
It's bizarre to me that so many maintain relationships with people they don't respect or even like, but seems like most people eventually end up in one. My guess is it's largely due to people valuing material comfort and familiarity over peace of mind and independence.
Yeah my girlfriend would put me down saying I shop like a woman was very demeaning
You can definatly be a high value couple and not have alot of money. As one of the points suggested money isn't the only marker of a low or high value couples. I beleive as long as both encourage growth in the other without attempting to change the other from their own desires. They both contribute in one way or the other.
Exactly and it is much more than just money.
By the way ..as a man, I can honestly say..when you have a high value woman in your life, cheating on her is 100% impossible...
16. They know how much a divorce really costs (emotionally, financially, psychologically, for them and the children), and they make every effort to avoid it.
Definitely true.
Correction: HE makes every effort to avoid it.
Forming a high value couple is like investing in real estate. You make your money when you buy.
@@guitaro5000 THEY DO IT TOGETHER... cs a HIGH VALUE COUPLE MEANS 100 - 100 REMEMBER? OR U SKIPPED THAT PART?
@@mayanlogos92 @guitaro comes across as a red or black piller. They are the kind of people who only play to not lose. His kind doesn't know how to play to win. His kind stagnates and then die slow lingering deaths of the soul and body.
You can recognize a high value couple by the depth of their love, the aliveness they share, and the strength of those involved.
Or by how they react to hard times which is the real mesure of a hight value relationship
This one has A LOT of great points, but I cant say I agree with all of them. For instance, at some point life will become routine in a marriage. Yes sure you can spice it up, but most times people dont even realize as its happening. Its not that they are not working towards certain goals together, rather they are in a phase of those goals that demand consistant, routine action. Sometimes, because of life challenges, its prolonged for years. This does not mean theyre a low value couple. Also the point of them always leading and everyone adjusting their schedules for them is flawed. Not every high value couple must lead in everything they do. They are not experts in every area, no one is. Rather I would say they are always a valued member of a team or committee whatever. They are able to identify when others are more suited to take the lead, and offer strong support. Likewise, when they do lead, people are more than happy to follow. As leaders or supporters they are sought out to join. There were one or two other things, but overall this was a great video
I agree and they had some good points, but I don’t agree with all of them. Plus, it will vary from couple to couple.
I am very happy to actually have a partner who is equally ambitious and supportive. I see couples who are just going through these block unblock games and fighting over birthday wishes, whereas I have never had a fight with him, because it always have been just an active discussion rather than argument.
I would say that someone who makes you feel that they are another chore you have to handle, is not a good sign. They should be someone you should go to have good and meaningful conversations and just relax and being able to share everything and feel comfortable, sharing things.
I found myself binge watching these videos daily this week, receiving something more with each video. Truthfully, I have a high-value work ethic, I earn high-value wages. But everything else in my life is low-value. Wife, family… Help!
I need to make life changes, starting right now! I now smell change in the air, beginning with me. I will nolonger roll as or with anyone low-value. Low-value family members and friends will now be kept at a distance.
This writing holds me accountable.
Peace!
We rooting for you
All the best to you, Eugene. I'm definitely in the upper middle class region with high value goals and aspirations. As with you, parts of my life were low value. Over the years I walked away from the low value people in my life - family, friends. Regarding immediate family, wife and daughter, I find I must be the relentless guide, not just by talk, but by example. I won't do low value activities. I won't talk trash. When someone says or does something trashy, I'll ask, "Why would you say/do that?" I hold them accountable, just as I hold myself. As in this video, there are times it would be desirable to just walk, yet I know I made decisions many years ago, and I'm committed to them.
You sound like a good man. You have the money side worked out. You have the drive to make other parts of your life better. You have the intelligence to figure out how to do that, to find resources, to find information, to really learn right and wrong.
All the best to you in your journey. Keep up the good work!
I see alot of these videos as a guide and nothing more.
Like the having kids when young part, that can come for systemic reasons and such.
But you can either take the information and do what you see fit to do with it
Best of luck Eugene. I walked (moved 1000's of miles) away from low value friends and family four years ago and have endured relentless criticism ever since from my husband. I can't lie though, it has been so darn liberating!!! Best decision ever!!! I'm excited for you!
@@lilid5016 thanks!
I didn't even know what high value was, yet this is exactly how I see me and my future husband. It's something my mom has always drilled in my head since I was a teen. PEACE
You’re blessed to have had her wisdom poured into you.
As a woman, being respected demonstrates love to me. I do not care just about effort but about outcomes, and the partner observing those outcomes after his actions or mine and planning accordingly over time. Coddling a male because he feels he cares is of no interest to me.
A man who demonstrates respect to you brings more peace and communication than the male who showers you with gifts or constant compliments
What’s coddling ?
Sounds like you have a thick masculine shield repressing your femininity. A sign is your disgust with what you term "coddling" that you are disgusted with the feninine.
@@Aj-fd4ne babying and excusing bad behavior to protect someone’s feelings.
Better be willing and able to give whatever you hope to receive then, because any man worth having won't tolerate a disrespectful, lazy or selfish woman just as you won't accept that behavior in him.
Better be willing and able to give whatever you hope to receive then, because any man worth having won't tolerate a disrespectful, lazy or selfish woman just as you won't accept that behavior in him.
As I read through and listen to this list, while I thoroughly agree with the entirety of this list, being a “high value” couple has nothing to do with how much money either party has.
The truth is that there are PLENTY of “low value” couples who make a lot of money. I’ve had clients who have shared with me some pretty scandalous stories with certain couples who would be considered “high value”. All that glitters isn’t gold.
In other words, you can be a “high value” couple before you make a high value. Be of high value mentality FIRST.
Yes! High Value Mentality!
Agreed fully with this comment,a high value mentality is 1000 times better than having great deal of money
It all comes down to mutual respect and being good teammates.
I agree that having lots of money doesn't automatically make a couple high value. However, a couple who struggles financially will have a hard time achieving some of those things that lead to high value. It's harder to provide for good education, diverse experiences, etc for the children and the family if money is a contention point.
Agree 💯 mentality is where it starts.
@@verb0ze it’s all about mentality. Bc if a Financially low value couple times together, but has a high value mind set it’s only a matter of time before they build together and create a financially high value life them and their family.
Each person in the couple has to have respect for the other in order for them to grow as a high value couple.
It can't be one-sided. 💕👍
Exactly and it is always a 2 way street.
Something that I have learned from past relationships is if she is going to her mother, friend, or some other dude about issues you two are having then you need to leave her. No matter what who fault it is everyone will take her side. If you want to go outside of the relationship for advice then see a couples therapist. At less they are a neutral party.
Yeah man, women love taking bad advice almost as much as they love giving it. I've seen women destroy their relationships, families and lives on the advice of others so many times IRL and it never ceases to amaze me. Often the ones giving the bad advice do so knowingly and maliciously too, but the woman never realizes it until too late because the advice flatters them and encourages them to act impulsively.
So true!
PEACE ☮️, What an amazing video! This one of the most important decisions we all have to make in life. Choose right and your life can be setup for greatness, choose wrong 😑 and suffer the consequences until you are out of the relationship!
Happy Sunday ALUX. I've been waiting for this compilations of this.
Because ALUX is high valued, I choose to be a high valued person.
Cheers!
This will add even more value.
This is a good video for those looking for a relationship now or in the future. I personally am not looking now but still agree with the content 100%. I know some of both here and I have always said the partner you choose is the only family you decide to be with, that is the most important choice.
So do you go to bars only to become an "alcoholic", "talk", or "have fun?"
Fact‼️
This is the video every person should watch before getting involved with someone and that every couple should watch to strengthen their relationship.
Communication, emotional intelligence and functioning as a team rather than competitors really does help! The rest of what was mentioned, I guess should be obvious, e.g mutual respect and intimacy, fun etc.
I love how you guys can always deliver such good quality content.
Will you ever make a cast abt divorced women? I mean marriage is good and there are some women who do not have the good luck of a good man or marriage and yet they show courage walk out and start from scratch... They too can be high value.. may be some tips on how they can find good partners
I feel like I'm part of a high value couple now. My wife is amazing. She saw something in men when we met that I didn't even see in myself.
She stood by me through my divorce and helped me to become a better version of myself. She got me to take more pride in my appearance, she encourages me to excel in my career. She lifts me up when I need it and gives me a reality check when I'm being unrealistic. We compliment each other because one is strong where the other is not.
I didn't have all this in my first marriage. My ex actually left thinking she could do better. 4 years later she is still single and the grass was not actually greener on the other side while I have thrived without her thanks to my current wife. I wish the best for my ex, but I feel like she did me a favor by leaving.
When I'm in the right relationship I feel like doing my 100% to make my partner feel special and happy. I go the extra mile and can not justify why I work like that. I usually don't get this energy for the other things in my life.
When you are? That means you leave the $1,000 for the $500 on the ground?
It's no surprise that the majority of divorces in America are cause by problems related to money or lack thereof. Get your financial situation straight before you commit to a long term relationship if possible. Your future self will thank you for that.
I hope I get this right. I'm about to get married in a few months haha
100% agree. A marriage is no longer a romantic commitment. It's an enterprise, a "company" of sorts.
Been through a divorce once for exactly that reason and I can confirm this...
High value men are scarce these days, ngl
@@tammysummers7360 Lol. They represent the top 10% of men, so BY DEFINITION, they were always scarce.
As long as there's a breath in my body I'm NOT going to stop trying to improve my quality of life, & if a woman that I'm attracted to wanna GROW TOGETHER then God is watching over me for sure. Until then I'll do it alone. PEACE✌🏾
Well said.
My husband and I are definitely high value. Love this video.
This channel keeps getting better and better! The amount of knowledge and wisdom given here is worth millions and millions! Thank you 🙏
High value couples are were each partner puts in 100 percent.That's great insight Alux team.
I'm glad ya'll made this into a series
Respect for each other in their face and behind their back.
This was so eye opening to see the two combined. The PEACE means so much and demands reciprocity. Thank you for this series. I truly enjoyed it.
PEACE thank you for releasing this at an opportune time for me to appreciate my wife that works late nights so that she can be with family during the day
Literally every topic I have a debate the night prior, turns out to be the Sunday motivational video 😅
We're good at reading your mind Isaac
Peace. My wife and I have known each since Fourth grade. Since we've been together we've grown so much .
Beautiful video as many many more, completely agree with you. At the start it was briefly mentioned that often our geographical location dictate who we pick as a partner, what if you like in an area with low population, super focussed on your targets in life and career progression, are dating apps your only resort? When statistic say most people on these apps are mentally/emotionally damaged.
Any advice or suggest would be much appreciated. God bless you guys
Did anyone happen to notice that there is an undefined income range from $150,000 to $200,000. Middle class is until $150,000. While upper middle class starts at $200,000. So what is the term for families with income between 150k to 200k ? Middle-middle-class?
I did notice.
I am part of a high value power couple 😌 peace is power 💛
So true!! Peace is Power. 💕 Going on 17 years married to my power dude.
#12 and #13 hit home. We can sense when there's something wrong. We state our issues up front, argue/discuss, but we forgive at the end. #13, Pre Cana was a pre requisite before getting married in the Catholic faith. We learned each other's short comings/nobody's perfect, and accept them. If you/fiancé has an issue, then you do not go through with the marriage. (2 years) before taking vows.
PEACE ✌🏼☮ I’ve been learning from this channel since LATE 2020 and I’m considered a “Alux Loyalist” 🙏🏼👌🏼🙌🏼👍🏼
Very well articulated, all golden nuggets of information, a must watch for any adult who wants to have a high value relationship :)
Brilliant insights! These are the guidelines I’ve lived by my entire life, contributing and receiving while expanding the beauty and Joy of our worlds. Thank you for putting pen to paper.
Best advice ever! Men do want respect and appreciation. To them that equals love, and it took me a long time to learn that. Too much of today's media buzz is about toxic masculinity...nothing is toxic about true masculinity and it deserves appreciation.
If you got someone that’ doesn’t control or he or she feels like u gotta go threw them before you make a move leave them
If you got someone that lets you move around stick with them in life loyalty always makes you stronger
Glad you brought up the part about high value couples marrying. It is just so weird to see people in their 30s who have been "living together" for the last 7 years. It shows a lack of maturity.
Or 20's
@@purplelove3666 Yep.
@I’ll beat everybody ass Cohabitation is not biblical marriage dude. Besides I'm not even in the US, never been, I'm speaking from my country's perspective where the laws are different to yours and cohabitation still exits.
2:35 "Men don't want to be loved, they want to be respected." #FACTS
This is where modern women get it wrong every time. They come at us (men) from THEIR perspective and assume we look at the world the same---which we do not. Its the rare woman who can break out of her comfort zone and learn that her man does not have to externalize his feelings to prove to anyone what their relationship is about, or their commitment to each other. That is all between them. As long as they are both showing each other respect and loving each other the way each individual respects and accepts it, then they are good and forget what the world thinks. I'm always suspect of couples who seem a bit too determined to show PDAs in public. At some point, it always seems a bit forced on the male end of their relationship. As if he knows he doesn't want to do it, but sort of has to, or she'll be upset with him. I appreciate older couples who occasionally hold hands, or I'll see them support each other in very small ways, but don't feel the need to prove to the world they love each other by hugging and kissing 24/7.
thanks for this. I am beginning to accept the fact that men don't externalize their feelings. I have always been with men who showered me with beautiful words but rarely backed it up with actions. I am currently with a man who shows love through actions but rarely showers me with sweet nothings. He tells me here and there but not as often as what I am used to. He is one of the most reliable men I ever met. I am experiencing love as an action. While I love to hear the words, I will take a man who shows love through action than the one who consistently compliments me but is unreliable and won't be there during hard times.
As someone who works retail, what is generally a tip off to a low value couple is when they can't agree on anything, bicker over small things, complain about their lack of money, usually all of those within one span of a trip to the store. Another tip off is when they'll remove food that they could ya know. eat? To put cigarettes on. I know a high value couple when they come in, their clothes are neat, they don't argue with each other over every single thing, and they know exactly what they want. They can clearly and directly tell me politely what they need and don't lose their absolute crap when I don't have it in stock. They have their stuff together, Peace out.
High Value is not comparing you or your relationship to others. Simply stay on your path and do you. Some people take these videos wrong and it can create a Narcissistic person which is an entirely different issue. Nobody is perfect, and we all get into slumps at times. Just get up, brush off and try again.
Mw half-way through the video:
I hope alux makes a video on High Value Families and Low Value Families.
Thank you for your content alux, you always help me expand my knowledge and I'm totally living for it 😭💕✨
my future husband and i aim to become a high value couple 😍
Same with my future wife and I
I hope my future husband and I will be one too. But it will take a lot of work.
Just remember this video isn't just about significant others. This very much pertains to friends as well.
Peace. Thank you for this series. It's been very helpful and informative!
Genuine laughter between a couple speaks high value .. PEACE
Peace? 🤔 I think yes. Can be the most valued quality in relationships. 😍
A TRUE genuine smile and happiness. GOOD SIGN
High value couple have peace. This is so true indeed.
50% of marriages end in divorce, but not 50% of first marriages (at least not the last time checked). The legendary 50% statistic includes second, third, etc. marriages, and second marriages fail more than first, third marriages more than second, etc. I've been married and divorced once. That was enough. The kids are raised, and I'm done .
Exactly. There are many serial divorcees.
Oh wow. I never thought of that
I TRULY need to find myself within a high-value relationship, if not rise to & accept myself as a single high-value woman. 😓 #HardTruth #DropLossAversion
"low value couple's only goal is to make it to the weekend" made me LOL 🤣🤣🤣
I love the peace...so important!
Thanks Alux team. Ever great and practical life lessons. Merci beaucoup.
Good configuration, respect for each is prima/excellent. Peace have to do with forgiveness.
PEACE! This is my first comment since subscribing.... an add to this list is that a HVC work toward and present a "unified front" in important matters (to others).
Peace, love and gratitude. Alux videos have been a huge blessing and of immense value in navigating through life with a vast amount of insight and common sense as well being a constant inspiration to pursue one’s most noble skills and purpose. Thank you!
I like how they’re replying to the comments : )
Don't tell anyone we're doing this...
Damn the thing about middle child is soo true. I am going through it myself
If I have inner peace and genuinely matter to someone special, I am an extraordinarily lucky man!
This would be fantastic advice for a pre-marriage counseling session.
Whether it's for the middle-class or the rich...it would be a tremendous benefit!
Peace.
Men love peace when they are with a woman, she don't have to be a IG model, if she can give him peace then she got him and he's not going anywhere.
Both sides having alot of kids by different people. That's a sign of a low value couple.
This is one of the best contents Alux has ever produced. Thanks Alux.
Alux, can you make a video on the things necessary to ask before marriage?
I love the idea of a relationship being 100-100. We never just split the bill. I'll pay the bill, and she leaves a 100% tip. I'll do the dishes, she then washes all of them again.
Lmao 🤣.
🤣😂😂
😂😂😂
A lot of men worry about a women will take his money in divorce but the actual question is why did you marry her if you don't want to share your money with her? Why do you make children with baby mamas if you don't want to share your money in child support? Every man likes to play victim in divorce these days.
Damn. This video is about your low value self. A wise and kind woman will forever have a home. Not a useless and parasitic one 😂
Will woman share wealth with a man?
I'm personally not looking for anyone at this stage in my Life; right now. However, I am glad Alux touched on this particular topic because I (until now) didn't really know what a High Value Couple was or what that means. I found it highly educational. Prior to this, my thoughts ran along the lines of "If you're doing extremely well alone; why would you add somebody else to your Life and possibly risk it?" However, everyone is different. If someone does make your Life better in every conceivable way; why wouldn't you marry them? This video has opened my mind to that chance. If it is possible. Thanks again, PEACE 🕊️ ☮️ ✌️🕉️ .
This video is very insightful. I've never had a high value relationship, but have seen couples who do and are in loving committed relationships. I was never seen as having any value, only being a burden. Being alone is how I'm going to ride the rest of this life out. Better to remain alone than make someone else miserable.
I'm sure you have a lot of value unless you are a horrendous psychopath or something equally negative. Being a good, kind person is always valuable. Take care.
# Peace 👏 that's why some men choose to be single until they found their Peace "life partner". Once again thanks Alux
*NUMBER 2* is a key point for me. Yes, I *do* judge a man's love based on his efforts. .Respect be damned, it's meaningless if the man doesn't show how much he is willing to sacrifice for that love. Exactly.
I’m single. I’m learning to find peace within myself in order to give this to my future love.
I am reminded of first Lady Barbara Bush who said" you do not have to get married but if you do, the marriage has to come first.
You do not have to have children, but if you do, they have to come first"
Low Value vs High Value Neighborhoods do it!!!
My relationship leaves me confused after watching this video. We seem to be neither high not low value as a couple. We earn less than $50,000 as a couple about 50% of the years yet we afforded a house with a low mortgage in the country & with decent neighbor s. We also have more assets than liabilities; th erefore, we have stuff but a not a lot of cash. We do take short vacations & don't always stay home when we take vacation. In terms of mutual goals we need to work on that. We trust each other and don't fool around but we not as snugly as we should be. First off, you always need to work on your relationship. Unfortunately, I work 10 to 12 hours per day as my employer requires it. It leaves me little quality time with my wife. We both acquired education & a degree but we can only work in menial jobs most due to our age, physical condition, and a local economy that only create menial jobs. There are very few professions in the area even if major corporations are present.
May I suggest something? Think outside your "local economy" think outside your employer. When you fix that with the education you and you spouse have, you will resolve #1 the snuggly issue and the time together issue and the income issue. I'm 57 and starting a brand new business because I was "too old to hire" now. I'm starting this journey with other men even older than myself. We are all full of life and look forward to each day. I'm about to remarry, things are great.
You can do it!
@@eduncan501 My wife doesn't want to leave the area because of her daughter and her daughters children. Her daughter, my step-daughter had difficulty remaining with a man but she is getting better at selecting them & keeping them in the house. My wife is risk diverse on starting a business and I myself would only go into business if it was with multiple partners as in a chapter S-Corporation or an ESOP. I have spent my first half of my life before moving to this area working for small or mid-sized family controlled companies that often failed after the owner died or retired. Such an arrangement not only cuts my risk but keeps the business going after I retire or in one of my past cases die from a stroke while working on the job. I have tried to talk to my wife about starting a business and the consequences of working for a local corporation but somehow she can't connect the dots so to speak. My back ground in Mechanical Engineering heavy machinery design and an MBA with concentrations in project management and finance. I have some experience in project management ( very similar to managing a design build company for heavy machinery) and have spent some time in the finance industry through Primeamerica. While working design engineering I also worked as a cost estimator and did some marketing. I am 63 years old but educated, experienced, and very diversified.
@@informationcollectionpost3257 I'm in Alabama, my partners are in Philadelphia, Florida, Hawaii, New York Washington DC and the Caribbean. We meet by zoom. Bringing all our talents together to solve a problem not only motivates us but we didn't need to spend any money, only time together. But it was time well spent. Form an llc, which won't cost you much to start.. Look at all the emerging technologies and see how your experience can solve a problem. With new technology, you'll have the same experience as everyone else in the field, but you'll have years of experience on how to enhace it or in your case manage a team working on a solution. Answer two questions for a company to be of value How can you make them money or save them money by implementing your ideas. The quickest way to making money is by helping others to make money.
@@informationcollectionpost3257 just looking at your response I see niche you can look into. Help prevent failing companies by helping them with succession planning. All of these soon to be Alux billionaires will need that service. You can provide virtual MBA and project management services, etc. I hope I got you thinking 😊😇
If you both have children then you are "in the middle of the grind" and have limited flexibility because of your responsibilities. Do not beat yourself up. You should be proud of your accomplishments.
this is gold as someone who is working towards myself I now know who and what o must become
Thank you, Alux for finally making these videos. Peace!
Thanks, one of my favs. I know high value men who have a dead weight wife. The wife behaves like she’s better than though, despite being nothing special together as a couple.
Make a video on how to become a billionaire, really inspiring for us!
Provide some value.
@ContriveBrain Very well said, thank you!
@@cryptonomous888 Thank You!
A great video !
The "trait neuroticism" part saying "women feel negative emotions stronger", thats what jordan peterson also talks about in one of his videos !
Thanks Alux! I needed this video as I get married next month.
Elon Musk ,Bill Gates and few months ago Jhonny Depp had divorced his wife . Are these people low value?
Perhaps they are (it's not all about Financial Status or popularity)...... I'm a huge fan of Musk though personally
Not everyone that has money is “High Value”, also it would be foolish to believe that every couple that’s financially well off is as happy as this list would suggest.
Being a high value couple has to do with the mindset of the couple before it has anything to do with their bank account.
Johnny Depp is a weirdo, drug user, and alcoholic, so...yes. Elon Musk is a weirdo, pseudo inventor, who has profited off government subsidies, while pretending to be self-made and having hidden children all over the place, so...yes. Bill Gates was paling around with one of the most infamous child sex traffickers in US history, which lead to his divorces, so OBVIOUSLY...yes. And either you didn't watch the entire video or your comprehension is off, but Alux never stated that high value was solely about income. They literally gave 15 qualities.
@@brentduanefoster Exactly. Well said!
Peace! Valuable vid.
We are a high value couple we constantly move forward and work well together and apart. At the end of the day we have the quieting of the mind and peace as we snuggle up only to wake to smiles and kisses
I am thankful for this great message 💓