I apologize in advance for any misspelling or grammar errors, but I'm Dutch and that's also one of the main reasons I hardly ever leave a comment, even when I feel like I have to. So here it goes: I just wanted to say how moved I am to hear your stories, and the responses of all the brave people (yes, you are all so so brave) sharing their own story in the comments. I have also been at a very low point in my live, because of something that happened to me. I recognize the feelings of fear, anxiety, loneliness, and others. The past two years I have been feeling so much better. One of the main reasons, looking back, is after all that had happened, all the feelings and struggles that only I could face and find a way to work with them, I realised that I was never alone. There where always people, familiair or not, who would be there or listen to me. I know it might not feel like it, but know that you are never alone. It takes a lot of courage to ask for a helping hand, someone who will just listen to you or the hug you deserve so much. Gary, you are amazing, you are loved, and, even with ups and downs, you will love yourself again. You, Gary, and you, reading this, are all amazing! ❤ And if you ever need to talk; I will be there to. Lots of love, Isa.
“Treat yourself the way you would treat others.” That is spot on. There are things we say to ourselves that we would never say to anyone else or accept from others, but we will tear ourselves down. We must learn to love ourselves.
Not that this comment, from a stranger on the other side of the ocean, will mean much or matter at all, but you are beautiful, you are brave and you are wonderful. You are sharing of yourself and that in itself is an amazing and strong thing to do. You are providing an outlet and giving others who may feel the same as you, a voice. I am also my own worst enemy at times. I know that I am kind, giving and generous and an overall lovely person, but I am also my harshest critic and never give myself a break. But I know I am enough. Thank you for sharing this video and your heartfelt thoughts and words. I am hopeful sometime soon you will see the beautiful person I am watching on this video. Please know, you are enough. 💙❤️💜
I am so loving these outdoorsy videos! They are so calming, and you have such a beautifully eloquent way of speaking and putting things that it's the perfect combination. I can relate to this so much, I think we are all too hard on ourselves, we treat ourselves in a way we'd never treat another person. You are so strong Gary ❤️ x
I remind myself and my friends all the time, "How would you treat your best friend? What would you say to them right now if they were in your situation?" It's hard to treat ourselves as well as we treat the people we love, but that's a part of learning to care for ourselves. Being a human is hard. I'm so proud of you for doing it anyway ❤️
I know I'm my own worst enemy. My brain is always planting seeds of doubt, comparison, fear, anger and lackluster. Little things always trigger my anxiety, and it always takes me a while to calm down and reassure myself that whatever started my attack isn't going to last. But I have been getting better, I don't have these lapses as much as I do. Any time I do feel an attack coming, I turn on a movie, write or read a book. Looking at cool pictures also helps me. I've really enjoyed these past couple of videos Gary, they've helped me get through this week ❤️. You're amazing! And speaking of mantra, mine is from Sierra Boggess: "You are enough. You are so enough. It's unbelievable how enough you are."
thank you Gary!!! no one understands what living with anxiety is like, or what fuels it. You have to have strength just to survive living with it. I love you, you're a beautiful person. Blessings to you❣❣❣
I suffered from pretty serious depression about 5 years ago, and it is still something I have to keep at bay and monitor. That depression robbed me of who I once was - I can't relate to the person I used to be and I can't imagine doing some of the things I once did. Ever since I overcame the worst of that depressive episode there's always been a part of me that feels lost, because I feel as though I have lost a part of myself, and in turn that leads to higher feelings of anxiety and concern. I don't think a lot of people really appreciate how life destroying mental illness really can be. Thank you for sharing your feelings and stories Gary. It's heartbreaking to hear about these issues that affect your life, but it's also really uplifting to not only realise that lots of people have struggles such as these (and thus normalizes it a little), but to hear you speak about these issues shows your strength, and I believe you can overcome your demons. You're stronger than you realise, because it's takes great strength and will to share such deeply personal things (I told my best friends the extent of my depression 5 years after it's initial affect). I believe in you.
You have such a beautiful soul, and more strength than you know. It requires more strength to survive in an environment of adversity than the thrive in an environment of comfort. You are absolutely worth treating yourself with gentleness and respect. We love you!
i relate to myself being my worst enemy. i was gonna write something inspirational but i honestly have nothing wise to say about this. stay safe, thanks for making this, its comforting to know im not alone
Thank you for making these videos. They help to give me strength in dealing with my own demons of depression and social anxiety. I often feel like I'm watching someone else live my life instead of taking charge and shaping my own destiny. Much love xoxo
I really love that you're filming outside at the moment - it makes your videos so calming and tranquil to watch! Also how dare that crow try and steal your limelight - but I feel like the words of Ru Paul are very relevant here: 'If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?' :)
YES! We are always our own harshest judge. When we talk about it and start to recognize those moments, there is a chance we can stop the self-abuse before it starts. Keep on talking about it! Thank you for sharing more of your beautiful surroundings with us :)
Get out for a nice walk and some fresh air everyday even if it feels so hard to peel yourself out of bed. It will clear some thoughts in a positive way. You are an amazing talent and so very kind. Choose to be happy today.
Hi Gary, I know exactly where you are coming from.. This is what helps me.. you need to be your own best friend, not your worst enemy. By treating yourself as you do your actual friends, you build yourself up.. Giving encouragement to others makes you feel good, as you are treating people how you wish you treated yourself.. but remember you are supposed to be the leading lady in your own life(shameless Holiday film quote).. I also think if you can develop bad habits you can train your brain into good habits.. small changes.. say out loud when you are feeling anxious, even if you are on your own..move the goal posts.. you are running the show.. And when you do go against your anxiety and everything turns out fine acknowledge it, film it and when you feel that wave of anxiety come over you again play that film back when you pushed passed and everything was ok. I don't like commenting coz I never know how things come across, but I'm saying this as a friend(even though we don't know each other)xxx
I relate so hard to this! You are stronger than you give yourself credit for, Gary. Going online, saying all of this to help others in your situation, that's an amazingly powerful act. Thank you for sharing this with us, Gary!
I really want you to know how much you're helping me at this moment of my life. Really, your videos bring me a light I have not been able to find by myself. A little bit of hope that makes me feel like I can walk past the pit I am right now and get better. Thank you very much for that! Plus, I think it's important for you to know you're helping someone who lives as far as Brazil even with all of the things you're trying to figure out. Thank you.
Thanks so much for this video! The sentence when you said, like, that was a completely different person doing that stuff, really got me, I feel that way a lot.
ah your videos always pop up just when i need them. Im having a very bad week, bad news everywhere all at once im not dealing with it, just shoving it to one side because i say to myself no one else will understand so, your right, i am my own worst enemy. i will retweet tour tweet now that ive watch it. hope london was fun. much love xx
I get this so much. It's almost like I feel like I have to do it, but recently I've been trying to fight it and I've felt a lot better for it. It has been hard though because I've always been a perfectionist to the point where it's unhealthy and I've been in therapy etc for it. Perfectionism for a while consumed my whole life including my body and grades and right now I'm doing my GCSEs. I know that I've overworked and that could have a detrimental effect on my results as I'm so exhausted, but I've been trying to give myself rest and relieve myself of the pressure I put on myself more as they go on because whats the real difference between an A and an A star? What's the long term gain? Not much, if any at all. But yeah, I'm trying and actually really pushing through and letting myself know not everything needs to be perfect every time I have a perfectionistic thought and I think I'm getting somewhere:) Sorry for the ramble but yeah, just thought I'd share my experience x
Thank you SO much for making all of your videos Gary, they are wonderful and make me feel less alone while dealing with anxiety and depression. You never fail to make me feel better, it always feels like having a great chat with a friend :) (sounds so cheesy, but it's the truth!)
I can relate so much Gary! My anxiety is always triggered by the fear of failure. The fear of failing my driving test has been the hardest hurdle to deal with at the moment and is actually making me ill and eating me alive. I finally took the courage to open up about it and go to the doctors today after watching your videos and I am finally getting the medication and help I need to get me through it, I hope I can overcome it and get the negative thoughts of failing out of my head to stop myself being my own worst enemy..thank you for your honesty which has helped me relate to someone and I now don't feel so stupid, embarrassed or guilty for feeling like this and I can be open about it ❤
I feel ya, why do we judge ourselves harsher than we judge the whorld. Maybe cause we're the eaiset target or we hurt no-one but ourselves. Others can build us up for us to just tear it down again. Love you and thank you for talking about this. X
Gary! The start of your video made me tear up. I've never been able to put my own feelings into words and you were able to encapsulate so perfectly how I feel. And I guess it's silly but I never realised that other people felt the exact same way as me too. I have loved this video series of yours but this one hit so close to home. Thank you so much for sharing xxx
Hi Gary, It is 2 years since you posted this video and like I have mentioned in previous replies to your videos, I am so glad I have found your channel. I relate to a lot of what you have to say about coping and living with anxiety. Thank you for posting and sharing this side of you. It helps so many, including me. ❤️
This is so true ... I am trying to get myself out of those destructive habits and try and do as like you said to try and not beat myself up ... It is very hard and is definitely an on going practice but we'll get there xxx You're such an inspiration Mr C 😘 xx
YAS!!! You got it in one and I agree we should all love ourselves more and think of the values we hold and what we can offer. I myself also scratch as a habit of my anxiety and the worst this is sometimes you don't even realise you're doing it until you look down and see. Keep going Gary love these videos! Xoxox
I'm sending you lots of love and hugs Gary. I know it might sound strange be when I'm having low moments I write down my thoughts and feelings, it somehow seems to help, like a diary. It often makes me feel better. Much love from me to you :) xxxxx
WoW! never judge a book by its cover What a powerful impacting young man you are . I've only seen you in someone else's vlog never new about your channel till tonight Very Moving . Great encouraging Message
Loving that birds attitude😂😂 what an insightful vlog...... never really thought about why do I expect different things from me than I would from anyone else. Take care ❤️ always x
Hello Gary, I see some of myself in what you say, but perhaps not to such an extent. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. You do help others consider their feelings, and to at least attempt to take steps to better themselves in some way. Thank you.
Hello Gary, that was beautiful and you are soooooo right we all have to love who we are inside and out. Loving the sunshine on your face stay strong, be strong and keep going. Wishing you all the very best of what your heart wishes for. Thank you for posting take care until next time.
Sending much love and hugs to you xxx You are forever going to be inspiring whether you mean to or not ❤ We are all stronger than we believe but we need that push to accept ourselves.
I love you Gary C! I hope to be laughing with you soon, look at how you made us laugh with a bird making sounds, you are talented.... Oh and btw WDW has added your fav song from the hunchback of notre dame in its new fireworks show! Ithink they are watching you too.
Gary I can completely relate with you on this. Lots of love love love ❤️ and I can say to you that I absolutely admire your beautiful personality. Your an inspiration for me. 🌺
Hey you have a great heart you're an amazing person you love your niece and nephew more than yourself probably you should care and love yourself more because we all love you and it's amazing what you do and bring to our lives so thank you for all your videos and keep rocking it bro
same omg I'm my worst enemy. I don't mean to but idk. I 'm also so scared of my own thoughts. I don't trust my own thoughts. and 2 minutes ago I nearly had a panic attack because my brain suddenly shouted "one day you'll be dead and if you get ill even sooner" trying to calm down a bit but uurg honestly wtf me.
I apologize in advance for any misspelling or grammar errors, but I'm Dutch and that's also one of the main reasons I hardly ever leave a comment, even when I feel like I have to. So here it goes: I just wanted to say how moved I am to hear your stories, and the responses of all the brave people (yes, you are all so so brave) sharing their own story in the comments. I have also been at a very low point in my live, because of something that happened to me. I recognize the feelings of fear, anxiety, loneliness, and others. The past two years I have been feeling so much better. One of the main reasons, looking back, is after all that had happened, all the feelings and struggles that only I could face and find a way to work with them, I realised that I was never alone. There where always people, familiair or not, who would be there or listen to me. I know it might not feel like it, but know that you are never alone. It takes a lot of courage to ask for a helping hand, someone who will just listen to you or the hug you deserve so much. Gary, you are amazing, you are loved, and, even with ups and downs, you will love yourself again. You, Gary, and you, reading this, are all amazing! ❤ And if you ever need to talk; I will be there to. Lots of love, Isa.
“Treat yourself the way you would treat others.” That is spot on. There are things we say to ourselves that we would never say to anyone else or accept from others, but we will tear ourselves down. We must learn to love ourselves.
Not that this comment, from a stranger on the other side of the ocean, will mean much or matter at all, but you are beautiful, you are brave and you are wonderful. You are sharing of yourself and that in itself is an amazing and strong thing to do. You are providing an outlet and giving others who may feel the same as you, a voice.
I am also my own worst enemy at times. I know that I am kind, giving and generous and an overall lovely person, but I am also my harshest critic and never give myself a break. But I know I am enough.
Thank you for sharing this video and your heartfelt thoughts and words. I am hopeful sometime soon you will see the beautiful person I am watching on this video. Please know, you are enough.
💙❤️💜
Lisa G well said x
I am so loving these outdoorsy videos! They are so calming, and you have such a beautifully eloquent way of speaking and putting things that it's the perfect combination. I can relate to this so much, I think we are all too hard on ourselves, we treat ourselves in a way we'd never treat another person. You are so strong Gary ❤️ x
I remind myself and my friends all the time, "How would you treat your best friend? What would you say to them right now if they were in your situation?" It's hard to treat ourselves as well as we treat the people we love, but that's a part of learning to care for ourselves.
Being a human is hard. I'm so proud of you for doing it anyway ❤️
I know I'm my own worst enemy. My brain is always planting seeds of doubt, comparison, fear, anger and lackluster. Little things always trigger my anxiety, and it always takes me a while to calm down and reassure myself that whatever started my attack isn't going to last. But I have been getting better, I don't have these lapses as much as I do. Any time I do feel an attack coming, I turn on a movie, write or read a book. Looking at cool pictures also helps me.
I've really enjoyed these past couple of videos Gary, they've helped me get through this week ❤️. You're amazing! And speaking of mantra, mine is from Sierra Boggess: "You are enough. You are so enough. It's unbelievable how enough you are."
thank you Gary!!! no one understands what living with anxiety is like, or what fuels it. You have to have strength just to survive living with it. I love you, you're a beautiful person. Blessings to you❣❣❣
I suffered from pretty serious depression about 5 years ago, and it is still something I have to keep at bay and monitor. That depression robbed me of who I once was - I can't relate to the person I used to be and I can't imagine doing some of the things I once did. Ever since I overcame the worst of that depressive episode there's always been a part of me that feels lost, because I feel as though I have lost a part of myself, and in turn that leads to higher feelings of anxiety and concern. I don't think a lot of people really appreciate how life destroying mental illness really can be.
Thank you for sharing your feelings and stories Gary. It's heartbreaking to hear about these issues that affect your life, but it's also really uplifting to not only realise that lots of people have struggles such as these (and thus normalizes it a little), but to hear you speak about these issues shows your strength, and I believe you can overcome your demons. You're stronger than you realise, because it's takes great strength and will to share such deeply personal things (I told my best friends the extent of my depression 5 years after it's initial affect). I believe in you.
loving these outside videos, there's something so calming about them
You have such a beautiful soul, and more strength than you know. It requires more strength to survive in an environment of adversity than the thrive in an environment of comfort. You are absolutely worth treating yourself with gentleness and respect. We love you!
i relate to myself being my worst enemy. i was gonna write something inspirational but i honestly have nothing wise to say about this. stay safe, thanks for making this, its comforting to know im not alone
I think this will echo with a lot of people 💜 well said!
omg this lighting is on fleek
just watched the whole thing and now this comment seems ridiculous! You're fab Gary, you're so loved
Thank you for making these videos. They help to give me strength in dealing with my own demons of depression and social anxiety. I often feel like I'm watching someone else live my life instead of taking charge and shaping my own destiny. Much love xoxo
I really love that you're filming outside at the moment - it makes your videos so calming and tranquil to watch! Also how dare that crow try and steal your limelight - but I feel like the words of Ru Paul are very relevant here: 'If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?' :)
YES! We are always our own harshest judge. When we talk about it and start to recognize those moments, there is a chance we can stop the self-abuse before it starts. Keep on talking about it! Thank you for sharing more of your beautiful surroundings with us :)
Get out for a nice walk and some fresh air everyday even if it feels so hard to peel yourself out of bed. It will clear some thoughts in a positive way. You are an amazing talent and so very kind. Choose to be happy today.
Thank you :D
Hi Gary, I know exactly where you are coming from.. This is what helps me.. you need to be your own best friend, not your worst enemy. By treating yourself as you do your actual friends, you build yourself up.. Giving encouragement to others makes you feel good, as you are treating people how you wish you treated yourself.. but remember you are supposed to be the leading lady in your own life(shameless Holiday film quote).. I also think if you can develop bad habits you can train your brain into good habits.. small changes.. say out loud when you are feeling anxious, even if you are on your own..move the goal posts.. you are running the show.. And when you do go against your anxiety and everything turns out fine acknowledge it, film it and when you feel that wave of anxiety come over you again play that film back when you pushed passed and everything was ok. I don't like commenting coz I never know how things come across, but I'm saying this as a friend(even though we don't know each other)xxx
Gary C, always making sure that everyone feels a little better about not being perfect 💛
Just used a few wee terms/lines you used in this video on my friend to try and help her go easier on herself xx
Thank you so much, Gary. A message from you was just what I needed today and this is just perfect.
I relate so hard to this! You are stronger than you give yourself credit for, Gary. Going online, saying all of this to help others in your situation, that's an amazingly powerful act. Thank you for sharing this with us, Gary!
Sending lots of love and support to one of my favourite youtubers ❤️❤️
I really want you to know how much you're helping me at this moment of my life. Really, your videos bring me a light I have not been able to find by myself. A little bit of hope that makes me feel like I can walk past the pit I am right now and get better. Thank you very much for that! Plus, I think it's important for you to know you're helping someone who lives as far as Brazil even with all of the things you're trying to figure out. Thank you.
You can do this Gary, I believe in you and support you 100%. You're such a wonderful person and you deserve so much happiness
You're a truly wonderful human being Gary, don't put yourself down ever 💛
I love your chatty videos, they are inspirational and they make me feel that I'm not alone.
Thanks Jorgelina :D
Thanks so much for this video! The sentence when you said, like, that was a completely different person doing that stuff, really got me, I feel that way a lot.
ah your videos always pop up just when i need them. Im having a very bad week, bad news everywhere all at once im not dealing with it, just shoving it to one side because i say to myself no one else will understand so, your right, i am my own worst enemy. i will retweet tour tweet now that ive watch it. hope london was fun. much love xx
I get this so much. It's almost like I feel like I have to do it, but recently I've been trying to fight it and I've felt a lot better for it. It has been hard though because I've always been a perfectionist to the point where it's unhealthy and I've been in therapy etc for it. Perfectionism for a while consumed my whole life including my body and grades and right now I'm doing my GCSEs. I know that I've overworked and that could have a detrimental effect on my results as I'm so exhausted, but I've been trying to give myself rest and relieve myself of the pressure I put on myself more as they go on because whats the real difference between an A and an A star? What's the long term gain? Not much, if any at all. But yeah, I'm trying and actually really pushing through and letting myself know not everything needs to be perfect every time I have a perfectionistic thought and I think I'm getting somewhere:) Sorry for the ramble but yeah, just thought I'd share my experience x
Thank you SO much for making all of your videos Gary, they are wonderful and make me feel less alone while dealing with anxiety and depression. You never fail to make me feel better, it always feels like having a great chat with a friend :) (sounds so cheesy, but it's the truth!)
I can relate so much Gary! My anxiety is always triggered by the fear of failure. The fear of failing my driving test has been the hardest hurdle to deal with at the moment and is actually making me ill and eating me alive. I finally took the courage to open up about it and go to the doctors today after watching your videos and I am finally getting the medication and help I need to get me through it, I hope I can overcome it and get the negative thoughts of failing out of my head to stop myself being my own worst enemy..thank you for your honesty which has helped me relate to someone and I now don't feel so stupid, embarrassed or guilty for feeling like this and I can be open about it ❤
I feel ya, why do we judge ourselves harsher than we judge the whorld. Maybe cause we're the eaiset target or we hurt no-one but ourselves. Others can build us up for us to just tear it down again. Love you and thank you for talking about this. X
Gary! The start of your video made me tear up. I've never been able to put my own feelings into words and you were able to encapsulate so perfectly how I feel. And I guess it's silly but I never realised that other people felt the exact same way as me too. I have loved this video series of yours but this one hit so close to home. Thank you so much for sharing xxx
Hi Gary, It is 2 years since you posted this video and like I have mentioned in previous replies to your videos, I am so glad I have found your channel. I relate to a lot of what you have to say about coping and living with anxiety. Thank you for posting and sharing this side of you. It helps so many, including me. ❤️
Thanks Iris x
I'm going to try to be gentler toward myself.
thank you
This is so true ... I am trying to get myself out of those destructive habits and try and do as like you said to try and not beat myself up ... It is very hard and is definitely an on going practice but we'll get there xxx You're such an inspiration Mr C 😘 xx
YAS!!! You got it in one and I agree we should all love ourselves more and think of the values we hold and what we can offer. I myself also scratch as a habit of my anxiety and the worst this is sometimes you don't even realise you're doing it until you look down and see. Keep going Gary love these videos! Xoxox
I'm sending you lots of love and hugs Gary. I know it might sound strange be when I'm having low moments I write down my thoughts and feelings, it somehow seems to help, like a diary. It often makes me feel better. Much love from me to you :) xxxxx
Katie Hill hoping the CBT and medication can help you see things differently xxx
WoW!
never judge a book by its cover What a powerful impacting young man you are . I've only seen you in someone else's vlog never new about your channel till tonight Very Moving . Great encouraging Message
Loving that birds attitude😂😂 what an insightful vlog...... never really thought about why do I expect different things from me than I would from anyone else. Take care ❤️ always x
Hello Gary, I see some of myself in what you say, but perhaps not to such an extent. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. You do help others consider their feelings, and to at least attempt to take steps to better themselves in some way. Thank you.
Hello Gary, that was beautiful and you are soooooo right we all have to love who we are inside and out. Loving the sunshine on your face stay strong, be strong and keep going. Wishing you all the very best of what your heart wishes for. Thank you for posting take care until next time.
Sending much love and hugs to you xxx You are forever going to be inspiring whether you mean to or not ❤ We are all stronger than we believe but we need that push to accept ourselves.
I really love this series of videos you've been making! xx
Gary I love you so much, you have such a kind heart and an infectious zest for life!!❤️😘 lots of love xx
Yasss Queen! You gotta love yourself a lots more. Sending you hugs Gary xoxo
I love you Gary C! I hope to be laughing with you soon, look at how you made us laugh with a bird making sounds, you are talented.... Oh and btw WDW has added your fav song from the hunchback of notre dame in its new fireworks show! Ithink they are watching you too.
Gary I can completely relate with you on this. Lots of love love love ❤️ and I can say to you that I absolutely admire your beautiful personality. Your an inspiration for me. 🌺
Thanks so much Caitlin :D
Be you be proud you rock!
Thanks :D
All love, Gary
Sending you loads of support, care and kindness. Be kind to yourself.
every time i watch ur videos i always like for the intro, i love it too much
I hear ya! 🙌🏼 definitely my own worst enemy!
P.S - it was after this video that you decided to block your loyal, number one fan.. the shade! 😉💜
i'm actually your worst enemy... keep your best friends close and your enemies closer :p
This is the first comment! 😂
Hey you have a great heart you're an amazing person you love your niece and nephew more than yourself probably you should care and love yourself more because we all love you and it's amazing what you do and bring to our lives so thank you for all your videos and keep rocking it bro
Bless ya Natalie, I really appreciate your comments :D
yes Gary! yes! ❤
Love, always love! :)
same omg I'm my worst enemy. I don't mean to but idk. I 'm also so scared of my own thoughts. I don't trust my own thoughts.
and 2 minutes ago I nearly had a panic attack because my brain suddenly shouted "one day you'll be dead and if you get ill even sooner" trying to calm down a bit but uurg honestly wtf me.
I love you! Take care of yourself
It has been about a week since you posted this vlog. Get out and audition for something!!!! You are amazingly talented.
Hugs to you dear 💛 x
sending hugs gary xox
He reminds me of Mark
💕💕💕
Diva Crow here... Sorry for being noisy and stealing your limelight 😂
Would love to take you on a proper date to show you and celebrate how important you are.