What Is Happiness? - An Extremely Advanced Definition Of Happiness
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At a deep level, happiness is an elusive state that few actually achieve. What we typically mistake for happiness is actually just excitement as a result of external stimuli. There's certainly no shortage of stimuli in our world today. We have literally become addicted to the elevated mood we get from daring feats, exceptional food, an absorbing movie, or cruising the internet. When that thrill is over, we are already hungering for the next.
Our ego encourages us to stay on this unending roller coaster ride of highs and lows, telling us that's just the nature of life. In truth, we've become creators of the drama in our life on which we're now hooked. Devoid of stimulation, our body goes into withdrawal much like that of an addict. Our minds have grown lazy with all the easy thrills, and we've distorted the arc of our life with all these cheap diversions.
Unfortunately, true happiness is an inside job. To find it, we must first unplug and seek it. Meditation and deep contemplation will shrink the ego's influence so that we can find inner peace. - Jak na to + styl
"All of man’s troubles stem from his inability to sit alone, quietly, in a room for any length of time"
- Blaise Pascal
"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way." My favorite quote of all times.
This is beautiful
I've been a Zen Practisioner for over 15 years and you hit the mark in this video. This video is a good reminder for everyone that we should stop chasing after things and not seek mental stimulation. Happiness equals peace, calmness, and contentment.
This video hits me hard. I am a stimulus junkie hard core. Movies and music and road trips and buying stuff, alcohol and smoking, the best food I can afford. I chase that cheese hard my friend! This video made me sob like a bitch.
Electro Maybe this video is what you need to set your mind to,you did not stumbled here by accident it may be the call to you to just CHILL and just be present.
Bless you in your new conscious journey into Self Mastery
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Leo, this message may be my last message. I live in a conservative country. That is, do not care about these things you say. I will find out for myself. I may die or be imprisoned. No, I do not have the money. How will I reach peace?
Happiness isn't a thing, it's an emotion we attach to the experience of some thing. I believe most people just want to feel alive and that their life is a worthwhile life lived.
This video is definitely one of your most important videos. Thank you for everything Leo, you literally changed my life.
Mine too
i was talking to a friend about the same concept that life is not a roller coaster
and he said dude if you are always happy then you got something fucked up in you...
after that i came here and im really glad i saw this video.
Well... don't discuss such deep and important matters with fools.
+GNΩSIS hey, he's actually right you know,...
I tried giving advice for how to study from a video on this channel to one of my friends at school and you could tell from her facial expression and eyes that she obviously didn't take it very serious. you have to wait for themselves to look for it. That's why i don't share these videos, I'm too afraid that others will take this as a joke or might become haters...
+Actualized.org i didnt get the word y said when defining happiness,is it "cretentment"
@@ActualizedOrg lol
This definitely changed my life. I've believed these concepts for so long but I never could articulate it as well as you did. Incredible and so poignant.
This very bright video can be summed up in the words of miss stacie orrico, who's got a song that also acts as a proof that pop music can have a lot of meaning behind the lyrics: "there's gotta be more to life than chasing down every temporary high to satisfy me".
i completely agree with every single word in this video, and i find it funny how much i've progressed spiritually within the last year- a year ago i might've not been able to understand any of this. but now i do. the happiest i've been in a while was a few months ago when i found the happiness within me, that glowing serenity, that sense of "being" rather than "becoming"... and it felt like TRUE happiness, because it wasn't dependent on anything external...nothing at all. it was just sheer gratitude for existing. best feeling ever.
you have saved my life Leo ....you have no idea how much this is clicking.... I have been searching for this truth my entire life.... without even knowing it....I was subconsciously aware that there was something I was missing.... something that "didn't quite add up" I can't even explain it, but I can see in you that even though I don't have the words or form of communication to explain, that you understand, because you feel it too...
Sarah me. Too. ❤️
Hey, Leo
I don't know if you'll see this message, but I want to thank you for taking the time to share your experience and your kind thoughts! Keep up the great work! Thank you, Leo!
Andrei Colesnic Welcome :)
Being unhappy is something we learnt after our birth.
I'm a 17 year old kid who has achieved an enormous amount of self development talkign with my good friend. We both dropped out of school, and are working to achieve higher levels of self development. We see past many things, and have questioned many things, and gotten great answers from ourselves. I'm a bit sad knowing all of this l, and being surrounded by people who don't wabt to understand, but I understand where they come from so I accept them as they are and that puts my mind at ease and less stressed, allowing me to think at higher levels. I can't wait to try your exercise. I have seperates myself from alot of stimulation, and I'm proud of the progress I've made. My family finds me a more annoying person now, Some people are just living to live , not really searching a for something greater. I'm trying to figure myself out and understand my past so that I can br at ease, and happy living in yhe moment. Its a miracle for you to exist. I am very greatfull for your existence. Your talks will skyrocket me and my Brother' self development, and we will live to help hummanity. Thank you again.
Teach others by example. U can compromise ur own self development getting too involved in trying to help others. Sometimes saying something short and sweet goes miles with ppl compared to very detailed explanations. It depends, cause some ppl don't care, don't have even a basic understanding of these things so it'll go way over their head, some ppl don't want to help themselves. Something short and sweet like, u think too much. Or u need to be greatful to have wht u have. Or, I don't let nothing bother me..... And be the example by just doing u.... And it'll get ppl thinking, re-evaluating. And if they're smart they'll want to do those things too. But it's subjective to who ur talking to but in my experience so many ppl don't even have a basic understanding of what he's talking about, sadly u'll just be wasting ur time, time u can use to live urself, meditate, train ur mind, be at peace, etc.
Your life is just ok as it is. Just keep this in mind and you'll be alright. We don't have to achieve anything greater than what we already are. You might be on the right path after reading your comment by the way. I leave you my email if you want to share something. riccardodeltorre@yahoo.it
I am a life coach and I believe peace, calm and content is truly the extremely advanced definition of happiness..Leo is right..Also Leo is right by saying what we typically mistake for happiness is actually just excitement..A great video..Thank you Leo
I can see it's true. I knew that chasing something materialistic is not gonna fulfil me but I didn't really know how to change it. Thank you for giving me the way!
Leo i love you man, peace and respect.
May you prosper in life, good luck!
Thanks :)
It feels like when the fake roller coaster is removed from the self, something real and true and beautiful must take it's place. How can absolute reality be based on anything but that? It's starting to feel so absolutely, ground-brakingly logical. I'm very glad I found Actualized, not just because it's pointing my arrow further towards myself, but because you are basing your business on something absolutely real and immovable in all of us. Keep up the good work! Cheers.
Wow, this is such a great message Leo. One problem here is that society is completely entrenched in the 'old' paradigm and capitalism thrives on this. The advertisers help sell just the kind of 'hamster on a wheel' happiness that you describe, so we keep consuming and consuming. It's very hard to convince people that what your saying is true - to wake up. We need people like you out there spreading this message - humanity depends on it - Thank you!!
I was the mouse in the wheel, running for my whole life, thinking I will catch the cheese - happiness. It was always temporary and sometimes self-destructive.
About a year ago I realized that the results can't give me long lasting happiness, I've started questioning my perception about life and everything and especially my "precious" mind. It turns out the greatest disasters came from a mind that wasn't well programmed. I am not a newbie, but still have a long way to go in changing that.
I listen to you and it all makes sense, I have resonated with every word you said.
Thank you for showing me another perspective, a great one! It helped me put the pieces together within myself.
You are awesome, keep it up and thank you again!
Peace!
Cool, great!
Hey brother, I just want to say thank you for all of the videos you post. They are really helping me get my life in check
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I guess "extremely advanced" is synonymous with "extremely simple."
This video was WAYYYY too wordy and long for what you said. You just kept repeating yourself over and over and over, giving more and more examples of the same thing. We get it. We know what stimulation means, you don't need to give 20 examples.
Allow me to save everyone 25 minutes of their life: "Happiness is not stimulation/excitement. Happiness is peace and contentment." Great, thanks. I already know that.
You want an "extremely advanced" description of your philosophy, something which really gets to the truth? Here it is: "Happiness is not dopamine, it is serotonin." There, end of story. And if you want to experience Happiness AKA "peace and contentment" just pop a xanax and it will influence your GABA receptors and you will know what he is talking about. But you can't fill those receptors on your own. No amount of learning or effort or meditation or philosophy is going to change your brain from an anxious, neurotic, depressed state into a happy, peaceful, contented state. And that is because your brain is an object bound by deterministic laws of physics and you can't change chemicals in the brain using thoughts. That is confusing the effect for the cause.
"No amount of learning or effort or meditation or philosophy is going to change your brain from an anxious, neurotic, depressed state into a happy, peaceful, contented state." One word, Neuroplasticity.
Neuroplasticity changes neural pathways... it won't increase the level of dopamine and serotonin in your brain.
How about passion? is that a stimulant?
can u subtitle u videos in arabic as an example cause some expretions r hard ... believe me u will gain about 100,000 veiws only from arabs
Shared on my FB...with a WARNING that it may anger your ego.
🎶 "We're just sittin' here watching the wheels go round-and-round...I really LOVE to watch 'em roll." 🎶
when i stop meditating my life began a rollercoaster but before that i had pace and control of my feelings nothing can disturb my peace ...now i'm starting again ..and you are 100% right ..love your videos ..dont ever stop
Leo, the only thing i can say is THANK YOU>
Wow...You brought it to another level. I've been playing with meditation for 10 years; but I haven't locked myself in a room for 2 hours.
How about a nice warm bath in the dark?
I would do that.
My mind goes crazy - I know this - it wants to produce and warns me that the day is passing and that doing absolutely nothing will eventually kill me. So I start to feel this time pressure. The more time that goes by...the more I get this anxiety.
I thought I was comfortable being alone; but it seems that I was chasing that stimulation.
Thanks so much for this video. It shook my world. My paradigm quivered a bit. I feel that I'm fairly open minded; more than most; but this shows me that, again, I may not have known how deep the ego entrenched itself with the me that is really me!
Hey Leo, I just wanted to say that this video hit hard with me. Constantly worrying about my own mortality and the lack of time and excitement I have in my life has kept me on the "wheel". Seeking constant simulation has always been my downfall on my path towards self improvement, but this is definitely a wake-up call for me. You are truly on to something very important. I say this as a person who dealt with the ideas of existential nihilism in the 6th grade. I'm 21 now and make a decent living serving the U.S. navy. Keep up the great work, one day once I have achieved my own peace of mind I'd like to thank you and shake your hand.
Through your videos and your activities, I have left almost all of my stimuli over the last 1 and a half years and now, whether life works my way or not, I experience happiness every second... thank you Leo. You are great
Damnit now I feel like I've taken the red pill...no turning back now
Lol me
MGTOW.
In my mind, it would be ideal to obtain this happiness, and then on top of that content, peaceful, real feeling, you get to have the stimulant on top of it, so you have this bliss on top of excitement to help you grow and have some fun, you just have to know where the real happiness and reality is coming from.
I agree, I think it would be possible to be enlightened yet still have 'success' or whatever else you want in life, only now you would not NEED it or be addicted to any of these stimulants
Exactly! I totally agree with you.
I dont think there is anything wrong with feeling excited about stuff. Else, we would be numb.
I think the key is finding that undisturbed inner peace and dont depend on those stimuli to feel happy.
You are so right on about chasing after stimulation. My Guru says "Stop chasing desire", but it was frustrating by not telling me directly like this.
I can't describe how this knowledge I get from your videos let me feel it is insane how much i have been growing since.
I was always interested in how the mind works, why we do what we do and you let me develop myself so much in a short period.
You are so right about everything, I guess most of the people are living in a complete joke, they don't realise all this stuff and I think some people will never. You have made my life a life thank you so much I can't thank you enough
I thought this video was extremely interesting. The definition of happiness which you've exposed in this video is exactly what I perceived it to be before watching this. I can see how many people would lack knowing the distinction between happiness and excitement.
I've had moments where i've just laid in my bed, in COMPLETE contentment, without any stimulation. I can say that sometimes being excited about things certainly boosts my happiness, considering that would be logical… However, with, or without any stimulations, this contentment does not fade. Even if something perceivably shitty happens, I tend to get over things a LOT quicker than really anyone I know , and that is because i'm so content with myself. When I was younger, I didn't understand what true happiness was, so back then was when it was essentially all based around excitement.. this was a good start though, because it trained my brain to feel good, and so i attracted more good.. In result, I grew into appreciating everything as is, not NEEDing any thing to justify my happiness. I came to this big realization a couple years ago.. and my happiness level has not faded.
I don't think that you need to fully eliminate your ego to feel this contentness, by the way. There are different ways in achieving things
Excellent! Make sure you keep it.
It's very interesting because I remember a time in late highschool and through college where I felt really truly happy. I was so immersed in school work and I felt awesome because the school work basically built up my prefrontal cortex so much that I had very strong control over my emotions. I was also doing something I felt was deeply important: philosophy. Objectively-speaking though, at that time, my life was shit. I had no friends, didn't date, was fat, ate very unhealthy, watched TV and played tons of videogames, had no direction in life, and had no money.
Once I got out of college and joined the workforce, that happiness quickly faded as I faced challenges to earn money. I stopped intense studying so my willpower atrophied.
Today my life is so much more rounded and improved it's frankly hard to even imagine how I lived in the old days. Yet still, there was something magical about the highschool days that I'm still not able to tap into.
I think kids and even teens are able to more easily tap into genuine happiness than most adults. Sometimes as the mind ages it can get weighed down with the hardships of life. I forced myself to break my integrity when I joined the workforce, and that was VERY costly to my happiness. I still haven't fully recovered from that. Once you break integrity, it's very hard to go back.
Interesting. I'm glad that as of lately, your life has improved. I have serious faith that if you keep up with your motivation and this positive mindset you will achieve all of your desires and in result end up happier than you were even in high school. It'll be a newer, improved, more successful version of your high-school self.
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please make a video on your insights on how to recover from breaking your own integrity.
Alrightly, that's a good topic.
Hey Leo, I'm really enjoying your videos. I have a suggestion for a future video topic which is..."Why in abusive/toxic relationships do people mistake "drama" for passion?". After watching your video "what is happiness?" I think maybe some people are stuck in horrible combative relationships because they are addicted to the negative stimulation, confusing "drama" for passion/excitement. Maybe you can instruct people how to break their bad relationship addiction. Just a suggestion is all. Thanks for all you do, sir!
I agree 100% Leo. I experience things you talk about. I used to go on trips every other months to look for excitement. I looked for people to make me happy. They didn't work. Now I do meditations everyday. I am working on being calm and happy all the time. Nothing and nobody can bother me. Your videos help me a lot.
Your videos have changed my life, I’ve shared them with several friends and family members, thank you for providing such great knowledge and content. You’re awesome!
Maybe the reason why people run after exciting/stimulating experiences is because it forces you to put all your focus on the stimulating object and for a short period of time creates an experience of no self..?
10 years of personal development later, I'm just blissful throughout the day, whatever happens or not. There are things I like less in my life - they are my teachers. There are things I love more in my life - I fully immerse myself in them. For all of them, I'm grateful. My life circumstances and preferences change through time and experience, but my ethics and ability to chose how I respond are stable. I gleefully choose to expand my experiences and contribution, and this keeps my life ever-fresh and exciting. Life is a playground full of choice and opportunities by which we create ourselves and co-create the world around us.
Project Happy! How did you start to achieve this beautiful life you live!
Oh, I forgot to say that people began coming up to me and saying, "You look different for some reason. I can't quite place it." One person told me that I seemed to be radiating some kind of a light. I couldn't see it. But it was weird that these comments, which I had never heard before my 27th year alive, came so suddenly and in quick succession to that meditation.
You truly do have a powerful impact. I feel it. Usually I can tell if people are faking something. Warning bells start to go off and I get this uneasy feeling; but you kept looking right into my eyes (viewers eyes) with this intensity and deliberate need to communicate what you had discovered. I could feel this compassion coming from you laced with a firm resolve to transmute resistance to inspired action.
I only wish that I had that kind of effect. People tell me that I can be magnetic. Dad told me that I would be a leader of leaders one day; but there has been no consistency to those claims.
One day, I came into a temp job like I had been for about a week, with gallon jug of water and my green skivvy Marine t-shirt. I was hyped up and excitedly going on about something that had just happened. A bunch of people caught that excitement and it caused them to smile, laugh and joke around...becoming just more lively. The manager came to me halfway through my shift, I think it was, and told me that I had a gift for motivating people, and he wanted to focus that gift toward the job. He wanted to make me Supervisor.
I turned it down. The employees spread rumors that turned out to be not far from the truth, that the company was headed down hill. About a month or two after I quit, I found out that it had dissolved. I sensed before hand that something wasn't right and got the hell out of there. I think back over those times when I got compliments for courage or inspiring others and intend to consciously do that at will.
I think your distinction between excitement and happiness made an awful lot of sense, and made me realise the things that I thought made me genuinely "happy" are in fact just part of that never-ending chase for a high. Things wearing clothes that suit me, walking in the park and even spending time with my family are just pieces of cheese to use your metaphor.
I don't personally think that I'm bold enough to try and take away the hold that my ego has on my life, but nonetheless I feel enlightened having watched this video. Like you said, I know better now and will in future be able to recognise times when I am truly happy from when I am excited.
Yup, you're on the right track. That's how it goes. You will slowly realize with more and more life experience that the things you really wanted are not going to really do it for you, and so your habits and tastes start to change.
For example, I would NEVER do drugs. I have zero desire to do them because I know they will not fulfill me at all. But many people out there feel that drugs are fulfilling. With time, they will evolve to see that they were mistaken. Then they'll get hooked on TV and think that is really fulfilling. But then they'll realize TV is really no better than drugs. And on and on it will go. Your desires will evolve to more humanistic ones.
As this happens, the quality of your life and your performance will skyrocket!
It's very good to actually observe yourself being happy. Be conscious of what really makes you happy and why. You will be shocked. Most of us haven't really explored happiness 1st hand.
well said mr. leo you are a good adviser for me.. ,
Fantastic!! Did blow my mind I must say. I am going to take your suggestion and try out the sitting by myself. I have been meditating very dedicatedly for the past couple of years but I see what you're talking about when you speak of "stimulants".... I would though suggest that you be a little more precise and elaborate a little less at places so make your talks more effective. I really love the subjects and the ideas that you touch. Have been watching at least 2 of your videos a week!
Dear Leo, i am 15 years old and have been observing the world around me since i could walk. I want to thank you for showing almost exactly the same thoughts that I have about life to the world. Thank you very much.
Cool to see you being self-aware at such a young age.
I Paused the video just to say i am shocked and blown away with what i am hearing right now.. i cried several times in some of ur videos and i just wanted to say thank you very much for in-lighting me .. i am currently facing allot of mixed emotions about everything in my life " friends, family, myself" and i am scared of that !! i was trying to seek help and found you videos .. thank god that he led me to you
You speak a lot about enlightenment, which is really another word for actualized. Mind you that I am viewing this and all your videos from a Christian world view. The wisdom you speak is an echo of many of the concepts outlined in the Bible, by Solomon, Moses, David, Paul, and of course the Master Himself Jesus Christ. Just wanted to say thanks, and that truth is truth, no matter where it comes from. Peace be with you.
Eddie Thrasher I think the closest religion to it would be Buddhism. This video is basically the noble truths :)
Can we call, excitement an illusion of happiness?
those two hours Leo they just made me feel like a real addicted guy.from the first 30 minutes started to shaking .doing it every day .thanks Leo for the light.hard but so much reward
Good work!
I am a clinician and I have always been the one to help provide advise on how to deal with trauma and find one's true self. I got it all wrong. Your videos have helped me get on a path towards self actualization. It's amazing how many decisions I have made in my life without knowing the real reason why I did them. Thank you Thank You Thank You.
happiness is to be aware that there is no happiness
happiness is having absolutely no problems (pain), which mean having no goal and it a state u continuously want to feel. Which mean it is the absolute immobilization. When u dont have a goal u dont need to move.
NeverStopAsking Why i like ur comment alot
How is it possible that there is no happiness? If there wasn't then there would be no purpose to existence. I agree with this video and am myself a victim of chasing the cheese. Ironically I usually end up in that trap because others try to convince me that happiness is in having a nice house, a car a this a that. I believe that true happiness does exists and you don't need any thing to help it happen.
try meditation, it should help u find out how the feeling of happiness flow in u.
well here is my (kinda) proof for mediation: search the happiest man in the world.
love your videos but i disagree with newbees not watching this. i got a lot out of this regarding outside stimulation. and just being content and happy in the moment. i never realized how much we run on seeking excitement to make us seem happy. we pass that on to our children and grand children. my grandson (8) when he's over always wants me to by him something. so he can feel that rush of excitement for a short period of time. which i figured was making him happy.
Well done Leo, you SMASHED IT !!!
This is crucial and people need to know. Whether they are ready or not is another thing. It certainly makes deep sense to me. Thanks
Your words strike deeper than any other person I've ever listened to. I really understand what you're talking about and I think your videos could potentially change my life for the better.
Dear Leo,
I am one of the people who thinks there is a lot of truth in this video. But I have a question. If true happiness" means being at peace and indifferent to any external stimuli, then does that mean we shouldn't have any passions or purposes in life? Wouldn't the highest, most ultimate form happiness be one where we just do nothing all the time? Because aren't purposes or goals also a form of stimuli?
There is actually nothing wrong with stimuli as long as you master your attachments to it. If you can be happy doing nothing, you will be just fine with any kind of stimuli and your passions will be true. That is very different from the false passions you have now. These false passions are ego defense mechanisms that constant keep you on the run from being still.
Actualized.org To play devil's advocate for a sec... If we disassociate ourselves from all the stimuli we encounter in life (we are in no way stimulated by it), then there really is no point in pursuing said stimuli, right? We achieve nothing beyond what we would have done if we had have done nothing. In that sense, would it not be fair to say that in your paradigm Leo "the highest, most ultimate form happiness is [indeed] one where we just do nothing all the time"? At the very least, there doesn’t seem to be an argument for doing anything else…
In case anyone might still happen to read this and wonder, I'd like to add an answer: Having no reason to do anything means there is no reason NOT to do anything either.
How to deal with frustration, nice tittle right? How about you do that topic for your next video
Or maybe how to deal with phobias 👍
It's a great title! Will write it down. Thanks! :)
I’m only 17 years old, this video changed my perspective on a lot of things. All I can say is thank you for teaching me something that I didn’t know
Wow I just watched this video & one on anger. I have been crying my eyes out!! You have already opened my mind. Can't wait to see more!! Thank you!!
I watched this video a few days back and I cant stop thinking about it! After endless hours of debate with myself about achieving life ambitions V a life devoted to meditation/being happy etc. (as this was my main confusion) I seem to have come to a conclusion for myself and wanted to know your own thoughts on this. (feel free to disagree) So...
In life we don't need any temporary stimulation to be truly happy including that of achieving dreams and ambitions, however, if we are content with ourselves and know and practice this fact truly there is nothing damaging with still pursuing what we want in life if we accept that there will be no long term advantages to our mental state?
We are programmed to thrive and survive, individually and as a community. That is our genetic mission. We are not programmed to just sit there and meditate all day long, disconnect from everything, and just focus on trying to achieve "happiness." Look at the rest of the animal kingdom for inspiration -- do birds and bees give up chasing worms and flowers, choosing instead to meditate and seek universal truths? Yes, we can pursue our dreams and our passions, even if we know that we will never achieve lasting "happiness" (which I call "pleasure," or what Leo calls "excitement"). In fact, that's the only way to properly live.
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Key: Excitement vs Happiness... Your videos are very enlightening. Thank you so much Leo, I am glad I found them... they have been very helpful so far on this journey.... LIFE. I will be watching more.
hi Leo i just wanted to share my story , i found happiness in living a life as an ascetic staying away from excessive talk,pleasurable things,food etc with the belief that i will get in return a proper life full of these desires i want, i found this in Islam and following the prophetic teachings of Muhammad. The things you mentioned are parralel to the views i held which was mind blowing. thank you
THIS GUY TALKS SO MUCH AND SAYS SO LITTLE...
Leo I can't put into words how much thankful I am for your videos... just Thank You!!!!
Was doing research on happiness for the anthropology class I am teaching and I ran across your video. I not only got great information for my class I got some serious thoughts for my own life and happiness. You are brilliant young man! Thank you so much for your sensible insights. It all makes perfect sense to me!
Last time I was genuinely happy was when I was a kid playing cricket after school. I remember the feeling vividly with absolute contentment, with no worries, cher calm and peace.
Earlier today I said "best yet" but now Even Better, and a great idea sitting quietly and watch yourself, from this we'll all learn so much more...
This is brilliant! I have to say that I am NOT a fan of a lot of his stuff but I am intrigued enough to poke around his videos. Whenever people ask me how I am I always reply "normal"...I am neither happy nor sad, I'm just trying to be in a constant state of "being". A lot of my past has been challenging and the future presents a lot of potential anxiety. Happiness seems to be a person, place, thing, etc...A MOMENT, it's NOT something you attain, it's NOT a state of being. Human beings are only happy when things go their way and when they don't, the thing or person that once made them happy will become a source of contention. People are so backwards, when I say I'm "normal", to most people that means i'm the opposite of happy which is sad or depressed. I also have to add I'm not attached to most things or people, for me that's a huge part of not getting sucked into the happiness vortex.
Finally a good explanation of what is real happiness... Thank you so much Lio :)
Im not gonna lie i cracked up when you said "life isn't a roller coaster. All the suffering you going through is created by you." Its all very true. Thank you for helping me change my outlook on life :)
Depression is killing me at the moment, thank you for giving me a moment of relief.
When I mediate on deeper level of my hart I always say to my self: I am love(breath in) everything is love(breath out), I am happy everything is happy, I am peace everything is peace. The peace Leo's talk about here after that kind of meditation stays for longer I need to say. Yes its from nowhere else then you! There is a lot of scam on internet to get you confused or I even to make you think your so right. I believe most accurate way in life to start is to stop judging. It really helps to separate your ego and star live in present. My biggest goal here is to master my judgment to level of not hitting a tree when I walk:) its all I need it for. And its really like a wall(ego wall) against self improving. Leo your great! Everything is so simple and so easy to understand! Good luck every one!
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Thanks so much for your authenticity and awesome work! I really do share your thoughts and resonate with them smiling! Also I am very grateful for your beautiful and loving existence.
All the best!
I realised this since I was a kid.
Nowadays I'm always in peace not seeking happiness through excitement rather seeking it through myself.
This made me balanced tho I never feel happy anymore nor sad i feel less excited about certain things because I've realised they aren't there to stay. I'd prefer this state rather than being addicted to achieving stuff and not being able to live the moment.
That video was amazing, i could relate to so much of what was being said, by looking at myself in the past and now or at people around me. my mind was totally blown. hearing in words what i have seen was totally amazing. off that personal note, the video was great, so inspiring and really well spoken. great work with this video and your channel! Thank you Leo!
Happy that I just found this. I'm currently writing a book on defining happiness and learning how to control contentment and your talks have really helped build a deeper perspective. Thank you.
Sound just perfect for me. I am a martial arts teacher and I completely agree, this is what old Masters always talk about from those out there that always look for this films and cartoons and in the end they just want to fight and not understand that martial arts, that by the way is not the right translation (was never to be martial) is to fight your enemies within and find peace finding true happiness. Thanks a lot Leo.
That's why when I visited Keyna on a school trip I saw that the people living the most austere lifestyles were incredibly happy, kind and at peace with the world. Whereas peoples of the first world who live very consumerist lifestyles are so egotistical, self centred and ultimately unhappy whilst looking at the world in such conflicting and hostile eyes. Hence your video would certainly be a good manifestation of that situation.
You just enjoy saying "titillating" at the end there a lot. Lmao! Love your videos Leo. Watch them every day omw to work and I'm learning a lot & have been sharing these with friends. I want to become a life coach as well. Thank you for your work!
I did not find this hard to understand at all. This has got to be one of the most profound videos I've seen in a while. I've really been struggling with what happiness is. This video has filled what that missing piece was. So many of us are unhappy because we mistake Excitement for Happiness. Our problem is that our definition of Happiness is mislead by our peers and our society. How did you come to this realization Leo? This is truly profound. It is funny how often times, the simplest of ideas often comes out to be the most profound.
Excellent video! And yes, I agree that this expanded experience of happiness is only achieved via a spiritual path that takes us on a journey of inner growth. The people who are not getting your message, I believe, are likely still caught up in the idea of having fun fun fun! When you’re young (me included), it’s always: “What can I do to have a blast today! And there is nothing wrong with this. It is a completely normal stage for young people to go through who have been “conditioned” by this culture. People who grow up in more spiritual cultures, on the other hand, are naturally taught to look inward at a young age in order to seek personal spiritual growth, and to learn to care more deeply about other people.
I think this is what the stereotypical “Western” mid-life crisis is all about: reaching a point where we realize that all of our chasing of external goals - whether we achieve them or not - does not make us happy and fulfilled. This is the point when many people in our culture begin to look for more meaning in life, often through a spiritual practice. And embarking on a spiritual path doesn’t mean we stop enjoying life, either. In fact, I find the “external stimuli of life” to be far more pleasurable than they used to be when I was younger because I have learned how to savor these experiences in order to get the most out of them. This is not an either/or proposition; it is more like both/and (and better all around!).
It’s not in our efforts of trying to get more (pleasure. “ego strokes,” etc.); it is in our very real inner journey of becoming more than we once were, on the deepest level, and the resulting increased compassion we have for other people and greater sense of personal inner peace that is the key to our lasting happiness. Cheers.
Leo my ego is already having a melt down at the ideal of locking myself in a room without even my phone or a book. I'll fall asleep from boredom.
hey leo,I have been watching your videos for a couple of weeks now and i can honestly say it has profoundly helped me esp (spiritual enlightenment)this video shook me in a good way i am now so so aware of my ego and my true self,i just want to say you are so inspiring for me,i cant express how much,thank you from the pit of my soul,ps; i love how you pause a little after making an interesting point thus allowing the viewer to digest this information i believe you are very very close to your own enlightinment,ty
Right now in my life, I've been going to church, and the last few services have been about finding that peace in our heart. I am presently clean and sober off methamphetamines. So this exercise really sounds like something that will help me better in trying to understand deeper, on the path I want to move forward with. Thanks.
Leo, you helped me understand that happiness is so much more complex. Thank you so much.
When I was a young child at around ten or eleven, I would go to parties at friend's houses and they would be running around playing games. I would go off by myself and sit on the grass. They would sometimes come over and ask what was wrong but nothing was wrong. It was sunny. I was near my friends and I was, largely, undisturbed. As an adult, I have spent a lot of time chasing stimulation. Boy, have I chased it. I still do. I do occasionally manage to sit still for a while. I often think I should meditate more, or wish that I could. I had an experience earlier this year, where I felt happy. It was reminiscent of how I felt as a child. I was walking near some cows. In that moment, I felt like I wouldn't need enlightenment. I wouldn't need anything more than what I had. The feeling passed. I SAY that I'd like to get it back but I know that to do that, I'd have to beat my ego. Easier said than done :) hahaha.
Good video Leo. I will keep watching.
I can totally relate to the stimulus and excitement seeking. I’ve tried different drugs but the most powerful “drug” for me was falling for someone. The date and sex felt like a fantasy, a dream, a highlight of my life. After those 2months came to an end it felt like my world fell apart. I was weaker physically mentally. I was so full of drive while I was on this drug of lust/love that when it was gone I didn’t know what the point of life was. Funny thing is prior to being dumped I notice how I needed this person more and more. So desperate for attention. I was risking doing crazy impractical things to travel and live with this person. Never in my life have I wanted to fight so hard for something I desired so bad. My “withdrawal symptoms” were/are not feeling good or worthy, fear of missing out, fantasy of sacrificing my life for this person, to much of my self worth fell into me being able to please this person. It still lingers in me to some degree. The feeling of wanting to relive that wild rollercoaster of emotions even though they weren’t peaceful. The rollercoaster of that reply, that video call, my whole day revolved around it. From questioning my worth, to getting so exited for that dose of feeling worthy enough for “the best person in the world”. Every interaction with this person was my dose of feeling worthy/self esteem boost. The crashes came faster. I guess this is how a cocain addict must feel addict and I know I need to start finding my peace. A question I’m left with is why do we discover our drug/fix only when we are introduced to it? Why does it reveal our emotional turmoil and then temporarily fix it. Did this problem always existed in me and just reveal it to me or did “the drug” create the problem?
Maybe look at it as your experience is a lesson for your conscious growth. Look what you've discovered because of it. Don't stop at just digesting the video. Otherwise, you could be right back on that Rollercoaster.
I am someone who has happiness, I learned this during my late teens and I am now in my mid twenties. What I find is that it is more important to satisfy needs; social, sexual, mental and physical. I have a need to keep learning and test my knowledge and skills, I have a need to be with other people and express myself, and a need to exercise, etc. I used to struggle with recognizing what I actually need in my life, and I found it was hard to recognize them because I was drowning them in addictions.
I've always been interested in this kind of thinking/way of life. I was asking myself a lot of questions when I was around 14-15yrs old (now I'm 20 and watching your videos made me realized that I've stopped being as invested as I use to be. This summer I was working to sell subway and bus fares(tickets?) and I was forced to spend a lot of time by myself and think a lot since the only distraction I could have were books and music. Now that job is over, mostly I'm at home, I study there and do my art work but I'm not as mellow and calm as I use to be and this video made me realize that it's because I went away from being connected to myself . I remember saying that I was happy to my friends even tho I couldn't go out with them etc because I was happy and sufficient by just the simple things surrounding me and being me..
I don't know how I happen to stop but I'm really looking forward to try your tips to change that around and go back to that happiness that I had
I am so thankful for your videos, I have found happiness, you helped me grow to achieve it, I listened to this, and it made such perfect clarity and its such an amazing feeling, which previously I shunned almost like I wanted to be unhappy. I rid the negative thought, I have rid the past, I am an amazing person. Now that I feel happy, I can see it even bringing happiness to other people, they just look at me different, people fall in love with me, not in a sexual way, its just amazing how life changes when you change yourself, my world has changed. I used to live in hell, I don't live there anymore, I feel like I am in heaven. Each day just keeps getting better :) Thanks Leo
what I gathered is ,fun and happiness are completely different and often mixed up.happiness is seems to be that state of being and not to be.The real you wants nothing,needs nothing because it is everything and yet nothing.such a difficult concept to grasp but it works wonders.thanks for the videos.they are bridging that gap in my mind when the programming kicks in.
I gotta say I agree with most of what you said and that excitements in our daily lives is an addiction. However I have to say that I don't think having ups and downs are necessarily a bad thing. If you don't have crappy days, you'd never know when you have a good day cause you'd have nothing to compare it to. Also, wanting more and striving for the next thing is a good habit. Maybe our ego just automatically makes us feel incomplete because it yields progressive results. If you never wanted for anything you wouldn't be driven to achieve the things you have. And the last thing is about that little moment of peace and fulfillment that you get after you reach your goal. Maybe this applies only to me but I enjoy the act of getting there. The excitement in the build up is far more rewarding than the fulfillment in the end. Ups and downs. Learn to love them. They are a part of life and proof that you are alive. Seeking balance and a constant flow of fulfillment will just dull out the lovely anxieties, disappointments and excitements that life has to offer. And in the end those are the moments you remember and they are worth living for.
But different strokes for different folks. Just an opinion of mine pew pew
I feel honored to have found your channel.
Not sure I buy into all of this dudes solutions but his train of thought and point of view of many of the topics he talks about are worth contemplating.
To sum up what I thought this video said and some of my own thoughts. I think it's important that we are content, and happy before we do these exciting things. We must first be happy internally and not always depend on external situations and things to determine our happiness. Like a child who wants a toy, he finally gets it and is happy, but a day later, that happiness is forgotten and they want more toys. Never satisfied. We must be satisfied first. Being alive and breathing is something huge to be grateful for. Gratefulness leads me personally to always find something to be happy about.
Powerful stuff Leo. Thank u for sharing!
I rarely comment on videos, I love our videos first off they have helped me further my self growth journey, the Getting Away from Being a Victim one was a big one for me. Regarding this video, I completely understand and agree with this video and the "True happiness" you speak of us what I've been after for years and I finally see myself slowly getting there. Lately, I notice all the things I use to get excitement from not wanting to do and saw it as my spirit telling me it's time to be by myself even more to go to the next step of my spiritual journey and growing as a whole. I been resisting it but after events within the last few days I'm ready to work on my growth even more particularly on finding the root causes to all my negative emotions especially anger and cure it for good so I don't feel powerless to my emotions anymore . I enjoyed your video on anger also. One thing I'm not sure on is after I truly discover the root causes to my fears and negative emotions, how do I go about releasing and actually treating them. Any advice would be appreciated and have a blessed day.
I’m convinced of the concept of happiness you’ve described. Looking forward to grasp happiness one day, real happiness, I know it’d would take tons of time, but I’m ready for it.
Absolutely fucking correct. No car, amount of cash, type of wife/husband/lover, power, fame, etc. can bring happiness. I've learned that happiness can ONLY be found within..and it makes me really sad to see people I care about suffering, because of the grip their egos have on them. Nothing I can do about it though; they're supposed to be the way they are...
As you mentioned this video is not for everyone and I really suggest people that are not prepared also are not in a stable phase of life not to watch, I would say this video explains everything all in once, but really requires months of preparation and working on basics before watching. This can lead to true and ultimate happiness but if not ready it can develop hopelessness, lack of motivation, depression and emptiness.
Amazing, I see your thoughts very very philosophical,
True, it's the monkey brain creating the ups and downs and makes you chase one thing after another seeking happiness.
It suddenly disapproves all the methods we have developed by life to become happy. It makes you feel the excitements and lows are all illusions.
Grate video mate
I agree with you and I'm starting from today following your words!
Thank you Leo, this is life changing. It's time to shrink that ego and admit to the truth.