A Tool to Help the Unfaithful Spouse Fight off Shame and Self Hatred
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- Today Samuel shares a tool he used and still uses in healing from his own infidelity.
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Samuel is an infidelity survivor and is one of many contributors to Affair Recovery's Survivors’ Blog, www.affairreco.... He participated in Affair Recovery's courses developed by founder and infidelity expert Rick Reynolds, LCSW. After finding healing, hope, and new life, Samuel wishes to share his journey and what AffairRecovery.com has to offer with others so they too can find hope and healing.
My unfaithful husband and I just had a similar conversation. Once again, your video backs up what we are feeling. Thank you.
Your videos are fantastic. I'm not from much of a "practicing faith" background, not that I judge, but the fundamentals involved in literally every one of your videos has helped me a ton on a personal growth level. Thanks for all this
I always ponder how Paul was rejected and dealing with his own shame after his Damascus road experience for murdering Christians.
Although I still get angry with my hubby in the eleven months after betrayal. I don't like it when people take him on about it or look down on him....wel and us, or take side. Because we do not need separate army's we need understanding and support. 😊
With the grace of god all is possible!!! It’s one thing when we learn from our bad pathes we choose, and stop!!!! And become a better person!!!! Till your time comes ... god bless everyone and again anything and everything is possible with the Grace of God and with a true pure heart true meaning...
Yes yes Yesss! This was Gods message to me this morning!!! I love this
so glad you do.
4yrs in as the Betrayed I get tried of the baby that struggles to move forward from time to time. I have my own unbelieveable trauma. from this. Growth on his part would go along way but he just wants to pretend and forget when he is the one stuck. Forward movement would go along way. His lack of momentum effects my importance in all of this. I feel I have have poured my whole life into US just to remain insignificant. I believe he blames me for his own shame. I don't know how long we can continue like this.
There are people that can make the effort to change for the better (whatever better is); it's the effort or acknowledgement that counts. For those who believe in Christ's work it's the acknowledgement of sin that gets us back into fellowship with God; not empty promises that we make saying we will never do it again for God. As Christians, we don't make the promises --God does. And what's amazing is we start with a clean slate every time we confess our transgressions to God. It's not a license to sin as some would erroneously think. No, it's a license to serve God and enable us to return to fellowship with Him through the work of Jesus Christ. God has this unfathomable ability (because he's God after all) to forget our transgressions forevermore. We unfortunately don't have that power. And unfortunately for us our sin nature is active as long as we are alive. As soon as we think we've conquered one set of sins, another list pops up and there we go again. Be strong in the Lord.
I’ve been doing tons of work for the past 2 years and ready to move through the shame but my BS spouse continues to shame me. What can I do there?
your betrayed needs help to get through it. what help have they received? i would ask them to consider taking this course: www.affairrecovery.com/product/harboring-hope they will need to work through grieving and then forgiveness and even anger management. it's a process for sure, but it's more than possible to heal.
I'm a BS and it's been a little over two months for me and some days it doesn't get easy and I want to lash out but I hold it in a lot and subtlety take jabs sometimes. I know she's trying her hardest but sometimes it's hard to accept. What kinds of things does he do to shame you and how do feel about it if you don't mind me asking? Wanted to let you know there's hope.
Thank you 🙏🏾
my pleasure.