What if I still don't think I'm sick enough?
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For me, it's not that any professionals told me I wasn't sick enough for help, but that for the longest time I thought that I wasn't sick enough since I was still functioning day-to-day and fulfilling my basic obligations (despite the fact that I had recurring/ongoing suicidal ideation). It took encouragement from my family to actually seek help.
im proud of you for gettiing help xx
SyskeBehard same here, I'm so happy you got help.
this is what’s happening to me,,
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Yeah my parents always told me "well everyone gets depressed."
Even when I was having a breakdown and crying and begging to miss class that day because I was feeling suicidal t
My mom just said "you'll feel better A when you get to school.... just stop thinking bad thoughts."
I'm glad I'm older now and can make decisions for myself on what I can handle each day
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your parents are trash for saying that stuff, no offence to you
Lol thats my sister... Sorry for you
God bless x
When you think you need help, you need help, simple.
PREACH
exactly!!
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what if you don't feel sick enough to deserve help?
Test Subject Mafia Not feeling sick enough is still feeling sick, and you deserve help then.
Until now, I don't think I ever realized just how deep the stigma of mental illness runs.... there is such a shame surrounding asking for help and it makes me so mad! If someone is diagnosed with diabetes, they know they need to get help to manage it and aren't ashamed to get the treatment. Why is it different for mental illness? We shouldn't be ashamed. We shouldn't be thinking that we aren't worthy of getting help because we don't feel sick enough! We feel ashamed and unworthy because of this stigma that hangs around. It has to end! We have to keep talking, sharing, and educating others until it does! For me, it basically comes down to this: If you have something in your life you want (or need) to change or heal, no matter how small it seems, you should get the help you desire without fear of judgement. That also includes judging yourself! I feel like sometimes we can have a little stigma with ourselves, even though we don't want to admit it!
Sorry for the rant Kati, haha. I just feel very strongly about this! :) xo
preach it sister
I love this!! and thank you for this rant.. I think it's so important that others hear it :) So TRUE!!! xoxo
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Well said & thank you to all these lovely advisors on here they bloody know what their talking about if only we could all habetme all in our daily lives how great would that be they are angels in my book
I feel like I'm "not sick enough" all the time since I haven't vomited yet even though I still do LOTS of things that most people with ED's do. It sucks so much, because I feel like my issues aren't valid enough and I don't fit into that stereotypical "bulimic" box.
I think this is a thought that every ed sufferer has, especially anorexic people. I think like this A LOT.
i have actually been feeling low today because of this exact issue.. and then i came home and you did a video on it :) it lifted my spirits! thank you!!
Perfect timing!! Yay!! xoxo
I didn't think I needed help until it got to the point where I developed ulcerative colitis from being so anxious. You can't undo that. Seriously, you KNOW deep down whether you're well or not. Listen to your gut or it will betray you, literally!
I AM SO HAPPY TO HEAR YOU SAY THAT. Of course horribly sorry, too. I was just diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and hs I'm glad yours was aggravated/caused by your anxiety. I thought that was an insane idea.
For over a year now i've seen countless doctors, cbt therapists etc and been told that everyone has mood swings and bad days, that it's probably just my personality. I kept trying to get answers and a few weeks ago a doctor actually listened to me and laid out what I had to do, instead of just labelling me as depressed and saying I need to take anti-depressants. I'm still trying to get my mental health sorted, but if you feel somethings not quite right, keep pushing it, keep trying to see different doctors, even if you feel rejected the first time, it takes one person to take you seriously. Thankyou for making these videos, you have no idea how helpful they are
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Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your experience with this :) I couldn't agree more that if we don't feel something is right keep pushing it! xoxo Preach!!! xoxo
I think these Thursday videos could be called #REALtalkwithKATI because .... shit, Kati is preaching the mental health truth!! and we all need to hear it.
and ps.- paper agendas/journals are timeless. :)
I like it!! Great idea ;) haha!! xoxo
I needed this more than I thought.
A while ago, you inspired me to get help from a therapist. Unfortunately, she was absolutely awful and refuses to help me more than arranging meds and a cliche self-help book.
This was a reminder that even though she was passionate, sometimes passion is misdirected and her opinion isn't final..
I am so, so tired, though; I just want to find someone to help me for real- help me sort out the jumbled mess that is my mind but I've legitimately exhausted my options living in a rural city.
No one's ever actually tried to ask more than "How are you this week?"
This is exactly why I want to do Psychology after I finish my current degree, I need to be something fresh and I need to help people, for real.
Thanks for all your videos, Kati x
Whitney Fitzgerald how are you doing now? I definitely relate to what you're saying about needing something different. Hope you've been able to find help and are doing better. Sound like you'd be of great help to a lot of people.
♥️, internet stranger
My Primary Doctor told me my depression and anxiety were just part of being a teen and that "every teen feels like they want to kill themselves just because it's an easy way out of a situation" -_-
kpk4803 don't listen to them. Keep trying to get the help you need. It's ok to get another opinion. Things can get better. Don't give up.
I totally agree with everything you said. Sometimes you have to keep telling someone or find someone who listens to be heard.
Exactly :) xoxo
Thanks Kati, this is just what I needed to hear. 😊
xoxo
I’m prior military. Joined when I turned 18. I only did 4 years then moved on. I went through some stuff when I was active duty but I made it home. With most of my brothers. Today. Most of them are no longer with us. The world feels so damn heavy for me and has for a long time but I always smile. I called the VA today. They are rushing me in first thing tmrw to start PTSD treatment. They mentioned PTSD when I was about 20 years old. I had just got home from overseas but I just laughed it off. I had a good time. I didn’t see any issues. I wasn’t sad or anything. But over the years. It’s gotten worse and worse and now. I’ve found myself in a hole that idk how to get out of. I’m just tired. I want to sleep, I want to eat. I want to be ok. And on the surface I am. I’m doing well. I own a home, multiple vehicles paid off, but I’ve also had everything fall apart too. And today. Was just like any other day. Went to work, laughed while doing some jobs with my coworkers but they weren’t real laughs. I didn’t feel happy. And I got home. And I lost it. Broke down. Spent an hour on the floor trying to stop these fuckin sprinklers coming out of my face and the worse part of it all is I have NO DAMN IDEA WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME.
hey kati I was wondering if you would be okay with making a video all about your mental health story. Thanks. :)
Love you so much Kati.. Thank you for everything.. You will never know what a positive impact you are having in the world
Thank you so much for this video! This has been such a huge problem to me. I saw like 14 psychiatrist until the last one I saw that I felt was like the first one that actually wanted to listen to my symptoms, and it might be that I'm finally getting the right diagnoses after struggling all my life with wrong treatment for a wrong one. It can be SO helpful when someone treats you like a real person with a real illness, instead of someone whose whose problems are not real, and something they should be able to just snap out of on their own and blaming you for not having done that. I had a psychiatrist who said my suicidal thoughts, are "just lack of self discipline " and stuff like that. I started having really bad episodes of depersonalisation just thinking about all the invalidating things mental health professionals have said to me over and over again. Still struggle with that sometimes. But it helps I at least found a doctor that listens and I don't have to be so afraid to see.
Every time I learn more about what I think I have, this question always pops into my mind. Thank you for this video
this was so well timed! i had a really invalidating encounter recently and it's been bothering me all week, thank you so much
I agree w/ all that you said! You are such an awesome person to post these videos! I always learn so much!
Thank you Kati! I've been watching you for years and a little over a year ago I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder type 2, anxiety disorder, and trichotillomania when I was hospitalized because of my being suicidal. After, it was hard to come to terms with the diagnosis. I felt like I wasn't sick enough to diserve help. Thank you for this video. I appreciate you. You always help me out in between my therapy sessions. Love you. ❤
I'm so glad to here that you still go to therapy! it really helps to normalize it and it's a good reminder that mental health and recovery are a long-term process that we can always be working on. thanks Kati!
Of course!! Any way that I can help to normalize the experience and remind people that we ALL need help sometimes :) xoxo
Yes even if people are successful in their chosen career doesn't mean their life is perfect
That's just such a preconception that needs dealing with it's like if someone's pretty or atheletic or musical yes u can envy them their talents of course but MH has no bounderies JUST THINK Winston Churchill who won the war he had the 'black dog' as he called it
Having said that if your dirt poor haven't got family or support group or a friend it's shit
Just trying to cover all bases! I'm going now 🤣🙏🙏🙏
I am finally getting help for myself now. I wish I saw this video 20 years ago rather than pushing through, trying to solve problems that I wasn't equipped to solve on my own and living less than a full and happy life.
If you think this video applies to you, please take Katie's advice, get help and live the life you were meant to live.
Best of luck to all.
Thank you for sharing your experience :) I am so glad you are finally getting the help you need and deserve :) xox
I felt like this for a long time before reaching out for help, and I still do sometimes, so thanks for talking about it and reminding me that I deserve help. :)
Thank you! That actually helped me. Always struggled with this question.
Hey Kati, thanks for making another great video. Keep em coming!! I like the idea to base if you need help on how you are feeling. I fought for therapy for three years, and I must say, it was the best thing I could have done for myself. Everyone is deserving, even if at times you feel that you don't!! Love your shirt!
You're so amazing Kati! Thank you for putting out such great videos for people who need them.
Awe I am so glad you enjoy them :) xoxo
Thanks Kati! You are so helpful!
I like your makeup :D and I needed this video so thank you!! xo
loved this kati . your awsome love all your content . you have a heart of gold and you are such a role model to me .x
Wow. Thank you so much. I'm crying, but because for once I feel understood. I'm still shouting here in the UK, but going to be taking a different route to try and get help. Xxx
I appreciate your videos Kati! ❤️
Thank you so much for this, it encourages me to open up to my therapist about my current eating issues. I am under eating, but I am not starving or over exercising (I think so anyways) or binging or stuff like that, but it does bother me a lot, and somewhere deep down I know it is a problem that requires attention.
Perfect timing. Was going to see a psychiatrist next week anyways. thank you☺
I think this is such an important thing to talk about Kati! I kept trying to seek help for a long time and I didn't get help. I was told by a psychologist "If you want my honest opinion, I don't think there is anything wrong with you." Some hospital staff were even more cold and hurtful about my mental illness. I was blinded by my illness and took it to heart and it only hurt myself in the end. Now, I stand up for myself and push for help when I know I need it. I really encourage everyone struggling to keep looking for professionals to help you! Thanks for your massive positive influence on my recovery Kati
Yes this video came in the righttt time thank you so much kati really needed that ❤️❤️
Thanks for the video Kati. As a LMSW I would never minimize or invalidate a client's symptoms or concerns. I've had it done to me by doctors and had to strongly self advocate and even go to other providers. Sometimes it's challenging to find the right person especially if you're limited on time and resources. Let's hope we can make a difference! There's power in numbers!!! 🙂
Totally on point. Thanks. Greetings from Poland!
Thank you - I really needed to hear this.
Hi Kati I'm a big fan from England, you have inspired me to start making my own videos about my mental health journey. I put my first one up today!
Yay!!! That is so great to hear :) xox
Absolutely amazing video.
Hi Kati
I have a question. Totally unrelated. I downloaded a simplified version of the DSM 5
It says now that there is a spectrum of concentration...where Attention deficit disorder is the lower end and OCD is the higher end. My question is that if its a spectrum...doesn't that mean that a person can only have either ADHD or OCD? Is it possible to have both ends of the spectrum? Or one cancels the other out?
Thanks
This is perfect, Kati! I've been going back and forth on whether I am sick enough in my eating disorder for residential. This is just what I needed to hear :)
Perfect timing!! xoxo
This was very timely. Thank you! I'm in therapy right now for depression, but also trauma. I experience hyper-vigilance, depersonalization, and some other symptoms like that, but I don't have PTSD. Lately, I've been feeling like, "What's my problem? If I don't have PTSD, obviously it's not that bad. Obviously I don't deserve to get help. I'm just being melodramatic." This was a great reminder that I do deserve to get help, even if what I'm experiencing doesn't fit under a disorder category.
This is what I needed, thank you. I feel like people only help me when I have a "mental breakdown" and it really sucks 😟
I experienced the perfect storm of stigma and misdiagnoses that was almost fatal. I cannot stress enough the need to overcome self-doubt engendered by stigma so that you will educate yourself and stand up to professionals to seek the right diagnoses. I was originally diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and GAD in 1988. At the time mental illness was locked in the closet, Especially, if you were a guy and the closet was bolted, barred and padlocked if you were a litigation attorney. I got over my fear of stigma, not by choice, but when my closet got blown apart by a severe reaction to Paxil. This required me to request an extension on a brief due to the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals and it had to be for cause. So not only did I have to tell my firm's managing partner, my doctor had to sign an affidavit explaining the problem and that affidavit was served on all the attorneys in the case. It was the best thing that could have happened. Turns out the managing partner was also on Paxil, but only a few people in the firm knew. That is what stigma does. It isolates you.
However, I was still not sure enough to become my own advocate. I later was forced to leave the practice due to panic attacks. I asked my then psychiatrist a number of times if he thought I was bipolar. Everytime he would roll his eyes and say no. Even though I had almost gone manic, sleeping less than 4 hour a night for weeks and displaying classic hypomanic irritation and anger problems. Also, my depression was classified as medication resistant. ECT was even recommend. Over 15 years of hell later I was correctly diagnosed with Bipolar II. All it took was for me to give in to my consistent suicidal ideations and OD on benzos. The psychiatrist who did my mandatory evaluation at the hospital took less that two hours of talking to me to correctly diagnose me. I was immediately started on Lamictal. I was already on Wellbutrin, which I understand is one of the only antidepressants to have much effect on bipolar depression.
Now I have a great psychiatrist (there is a huge shortage of psychiatrists in N. Idaho and Spokane so finding one took a long time) and a therapist I really clicked with - he and I are massive geeks. So again, I urge anyone struggling with self doubt about your diagnosis or the treatment you are getting to seek out other opinions. Don't let stigma or the fact you are not a "professional" keep you from advocating for yourself. Not doing so can be fatal.
Also, Kati, I have been going through your videos and was wondering if you had or would talk about Adverse Childhood Experience and the ACE score. When my psychiatrist found out I was a military brat and my dad, a career NCO, was the Great Santini x2 she had me take the test. I scored a 5. Even now the hard work I am doing with my therapist is getting the drill sergeant tapes out of my head.
Finally. please mention the Semicolon Project. I, along with one of my daughters, just got semicolon tattoos (my first) I had been thinking about it for awhile and at that time my daughter's best friend from high school brother had just killed himself, he was 24.
I've seen five different doctors now and trying to see a sixth. I feel like even when someone is meant to be there to help, they try to put it off to someone else. Nobody seems to want to deal with someone who may have a mental illness. I've seen five doctors, a counsellor, and a nurse. All of which were dismissive; didn't listen, told me I had to sort it myself, get help from someone else or told me that they can't do anything until I turn 18 (which is just under two years away).
I think I have depression, in fact, I'm almost certain. I don't remember ever being happy, but this probably started when I was about eight years old. I started trying to get help about two years ago and I've made no progress. I have had really low school attendance and have been struggling to get out of bed most days. This obviously impacted my grades and I'm now in my final exams. I broke down so many times at school that my head teacher stopped me taking history because of the amount of pressure it was putting on me. I've only spoken to her about two or three times but she was worried about my mental health. If she can see it, why can't the doctors? Especially when they're presented with more details.
Sorry this was long. I kind of went into a rant. Maybe it's just my local area or the doctors practice that I go to. But sometimes I feel like even when I'm screaming for help, professionals turn their back.
I have a huge issue with this topic. I'm the kind that doesn't like to 'bother' someone with my problems. I did reach out to my doctor about seeing a Pdoc and about disability. He wasn't really helpful with either. Then I had to go back and he made a snarky comment about my mental illness. I haven't gone to see him since. Unfortunately, I live in a small town so getting help is extremely hard. Most days I slip behind closed doors and cry. Thanks for posting this Kati. :)
This is a really important video. I've had professionals tell me that my eating disorder was fine because I needed to change eating habits anyway years ago, and on the opposite end, I've been told I'm too sick and too unstable and if I get medically hospitalized again I'd be discharged as it's too much liability. Those days are behind me, I hope, though. The vast majority of my experiences with professionals has been incredibly validating and I've gotten so much help and support. I'm still in therapy, and I am going through a bit of a rough patch at the moment, but if I look back on what a rough patch used to be? I'm miles ahead of that! You CAN find a professional that will take you seriously and listen and validate your experiences, even if it takes a while to find the right one. And it's so worth it!
Hi kati, could you please do a video about the types of attachment (anxious, ambivalent ect). And whether they carry on into adulthood?
Thanks and I love your videos. Keep doing what you do x
thaks a lot, you were so helful in my case God bless you
THANK YOU!!!
When it comes to a therapist it really has to be just the right fit. It's such a personal relationship, you have to like and trust them. In my experience and what I have spoken to others about, you have to try a few to find the right person. For me it was someone who was like a calmer more analytical version of my mother. I can imagine for a lot of people that would be the worst thing ever!! Just gotta find the right one.
Thank you..
I found this video really helpful, thank you Kati. I have managed to go a year now without medication and have done well managing on my own. For the past few weeks though I have started feeling really down and my anxiety is so intense at the moment but I have been to afraid to admit that I'm struggling again and might need some help. I'm just not sure who to talk to though as I used to tell my support worker everything and she was so helpful but I'm not at uni anymore so I feel stuck.
It was my last day of medical school today! It has been such a hard journey and I cant quite believe I've made it. I couldn't have done it without you, your videos have been such a huge support for me over some very difficult times and it was so great to meet you in Elgin. I'm feeling very grateful for a lot of people in my life today and you are one of them! XXXXX
That is so amazing!!! I am SO PROUD OF YOU!! I knew you could do it :) xoxo It was so wonderful meeting you as well. I hope I can come back to the UK soon!! Congratulations!!! You are going to be the best doctor!! xoxo
Thank you so much :) I hope so too! X
I love you katie.. It feels like you can enter my mind and solve any question related to my mental health problems.. Thanks a lot 😘 😘 😘 😘
Love from India
this was great. thanks
Hi Kati! Could you do a video about "relatives" of people who suffer from a mental illness, for example depression? I think it's a very important topic to talk about.
Thanks for your work you've done until now! Keep doing, you're great xx
I suffer from physical chronic illness. I think this video still applies. the illness that i have doesn't have any cure. I'm part of this facebook support group and have seen people asking this very question. i will be sharing this video with my group. thanks for this video.
Great vid Kati! :)
I have had some experiences with mental health professionals that made me realize that yes, even therapists/psychologists can be bad at their jobs haha. Nothing feels worse than when people shrug off what is a very serious issue for you. I've had professionals compare my self-harm to others (yikes) and tell me that I don't come across as suicidal to them. (Despite having spent a good chunk of time in inpatient for an attempt before.) Really disheartening stuff that left me feeling not sick enough, and doubting whether I could get help at all.
I am still in the process of finding someone to meet my needs, but I am hopeful that there is the right treatment for me out there. Shouting for help is just so exhausting haha. :S
I just had my first counseling session and was told that they don’t think I really needed any therapy or treatment because I “seem ok” and aren’t severely underweight. She also said people with anorexia don’t eat at all so because I eat sometimes I’m not anorexic. And they recommended I not do support groups because most of the others would not skinner than me and it would trigger me. This is after her speaking to my doctor who confirmed I’m underweight and have digestive issues due to my ED. It was so discouraging to hear I’m not sick enough to get help.
Kati, I know this is an old video, but I just came upon it. Thank you for this. Thank you so much.
Back in 2008, I did a 6 week IOP for my eating disorder. It was my first real attempt at a higher level of care, it wasn't a step down. I struggled the whole 6 weeks. I tried so hard to follow the meal plan and refrain from behaviors, and I couldn't. I was still struggling so much. I had tried to be honest with the therapist about this about halfway through IOP, she blew me off and told me to stop being over dramatic.
So the second to last day of IOP, we had our final check in with the psychiatrist. I really loved the psychiatrist and felt I could be more honest with her (because experience had taught me she didn't blow me off the way the therapist did). I knew I was not ready to go back to a lower level of care. I knew that I was still having a really hard time, so I decided the best thing to do would be speak up for myself and tell the psychiatrist *everything* that I was struggling with and ask if I could do another 6 weeks in the IOP (because I assumed that what she would suggest). What I didn't expect was her to tell me that she thought that it was time for me to step up to the residential program, because IOP wasn't enough structure for me. She asked that I go back up to the group room and have the therapist go down to speak with her about my treatment plan. So I did. And I sat in the group room freaking out that I was going to have to tell my parents I needed residential. I was so scared, too.
But what happened next? This is why the long comment. The therapist didn't come back to tell me she agreed with the psychiatrist and we'd start that plan. No. She was livid with me for being a "manipulative lier" to the Dr. That I did no need residential care, and that I would just be "taking up a bed someone else could actually NEED". It hurt deeply. I had tried to be honest about how much I was struggling and she yelled at me for it.
That was almost 10 years ago, and it still bugs me. I'm currently not doing well. I'm really trying. We even stepped up sessions to twice a week. But I can't seem to pull myself out of the spiral I'm in. So my current therapist (who I've been seeing a little over a year now) is recommended residential care. She called my current doctor (who I've failed to be honest with. But there is a release for them to talk) and filled her in on everything that's going on. My doctors office called me urgently and wanted me in ASAP to discuss "what steps we need to take from here". I have no idea what to expect from that appointment (it's on Monday) but from speaking with my therapist about the conversation she had with my Dr, it sounds like my doctor is going to recommend residential, too.
But even now, almost 10 years later... I worry that I'm not "sick enough" to warrant this. That I would be "taking up a bed someone could actually need".
I know this comment is long. But I... thank you. Hearing you say that some professionals can just be jerks... it helps more than you know. I'm trying to remember that I wouldn't be "taking up a bed" if both my doctor and therapist are pushing for this. That it's ok to advocate for myself and admit that maybe I DO need a little more help right now.
Seriously. Thank you.
great video thanks kati!! xx
Of course! glad you liked it :) xoxo
Please, please, please do a video on misaphonia. I would really like to raise more awareness for it and understand what I'm going through better xx
Hey Kati I was wondering if you could do a video on anxiety and depression in college. Like how being away from away from home and in a new environment can affect it. Thank you!
It's not just about my feelings. I really try zo fix something of it by my own and have this on-off relation tovthis question.
The things that helped me were two things: that i might not get through my studyings this way and that i actually reached a couple dead ends within my meditations.
I understand myself a lot more, but i also see, that i might develop chronic and very complex issues that way, even though i might have won against certain types of ocd and depression symptoms.
The big issue is still about my anxieties. I can't really touch them, if that makes sense. And that worried me for a long time as well.
Anyhow, i'm proud and thankfull of what i've learned through this whole process and that i'll see a real doctor in the next two months.
I hope my guess about the adhd clinic was right enough.
I'm glad it's been finally said that some professionals just suck! lol I met with a therapist last year that didn't seem to care about what I was telling him and basically said I was feeling down because I would graduating college soon and it's just a confusing time. Fast forward a couple months later, I was told by other professionals that this was all because of BPD.
I'm so glad I didn't give up on finding someone, because I know after meeting that first person I was extremely ready to just stop trying.
I am glad you kept looking for someone!! Cause some of them do just suck! haha!! xoxo
Thanks
Good video and informative
thank you
you are so very welcome :) xoxo
Can you make a video on how to deal with depression? Or just a video that talks about things that make you happy when your feeling a little upset? Or maybe what makes you feel relaxed if you feel like an anxiety attack is about to come on?
Hi Kati! Just wondering if you might do a video about not feeling well enough/too anxious to attend university convocation, and how to deal with that guilt or pressure
Give yourself advice like you would to your friend.
vulpine That's the golden rule I guess! It's funny because I would be so supportive of any friend who decided not to attend, but my friends are all encouraging me to go 😕
+abundanceoferica then try assessing the situation by pros and cons, see what is a priority and look for different perspectives on the same problem to come up with the best conclusion:)
Or just generate (realistic) alternatives ;)
vulpine I will do this actually! Thank you
+abundanceoferica no problem:) good luck!
Yesss! obviously I agree with this. 😜 I could talk all day about how many professionals I've had to ignore/fight over the years! I think the best example is when I got super sick physically and lost my voice for 2 years.. despite spending most of that time in hospital and having SO many tests, not one specialist worked out it was just untreated PTSD. In the end they told me sometimes things happen and we don't know why, I may never speak properly or work again and just gave up on me. If I had listened to any of them I wouldn't have found the right help and I wouldn't have my voice and life back.
That's just one time I've had to ignore professionals. I wish more people knew that just because someone is trained doesn't mean they're always right. Just because someone can't help you doesn't mean no one can. I always tell people to trust their instincts when it comes to their health. And if something a professional says feels wrong, get another opinion.. and another, and however many it takes until you feel like someone gets it. Because someone will!
I still struggle with not feeling sick enough and feeling like I'm lying about everything. I guess this only related to PTSD but something my therapist always says when I doubt my memories and past is that my symptoms are proof enough, even if I had no memories at all. That always helps me!
It doesn't matter the reasons why you feel the way you do, if you're struggling then you deserve help. It's that simple! 💛
Another thing my therapist said which always stops me when I worry about not being sick enough is "so what you're saying is people need to be in a constant breakdown to benefit from therapy?" .. she knows I'm thinking about training as a therapist at some point so she knows I can't argue that point 😒😂 Because it's true. If my partner was stressed about work or something, I'd think she was "sick enough" to get help, so I shouldn't treat myself any different.
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It's a hard call to make. Sometimes symptoms become conditions and conditions progress to personality traits.
I thought u conveyed your points nicely. there are too.many professionals with just "a job" I find it very frustrating if I take the time to answer multiple questionnaires and then find out the doc hasn't even read them - that they were only there to keep himself safe.
This video is so important. I was diagnosed with anxiety and dysthymia a while ago and have been struggling with it ever since. I've always considered myself a healthy person who just has a tendency to worry and gets down sometimes. I think the big question that looms over my head every single day is whether or not these things are real if I can still get up and live my everyday life. I go to work, I do most things that I need to, but I know that anxiety and depression are very real things in my life because, even on good days, I can still feel them there. Am I sick enough to take the medication prescribed to me even though I know there are people with more debilitating symptoms than me? I constantly go back and forth about whether any of it is real or not.
I feel the exact same way. I even stopped taking the medication that's been prescribed to me though tbh :/
I'm the same way too, anxiety and dysthymia. And I go through periods of thinking I need medication and not and sometimes getting them then not taking them because I just don't feel that I'm sick enough or that they even work on a mild form of depression. But these things definitely affect my life every single day.
Hi Kati! Just wondering if you could do a video about what to do/how to deal with your therapist dumping you (saying you need to seek other help) it's proven to be quite a difficult situation. Thanks!
i feel like im swaying back and fourth between believing that i may have an illness and me just being a teenager. im just waiting until i finally fall into a category that is certain on how i feel.
This is three years old and it has only 3 dislikes. That’s so awesome!
Hi Katie, I love your video and it’s very helpful. Thank you for making video to help other people. I have a question for you. What happened if a therapist want you to go to inpatient? And you refuse to go?
theres an anime I watched which is about a society where they can detect if you are stressed and will give u help. I'd like that, because often the hardest part is asking for help. (although the system in the anime is not as good, the premise of being offered help without having to ask is nice). I've always hid because I felt like my problems weren't real, or that I'm not ill enough...
Can you make a video on going to therapy or counselling when you have social anxiety because I find it really hard to open up and share things when my negative anxiety voice is talking?
Can you please make a video about bipolar depression when you get the time?!
I totally agree with you! My therapist told me that she won't help me anymore if i don't do the assignments she gives me, even though i told her many times that it's too hard for me to do. And when i finally have the strength to get out of bed and do an assignment she thinks i didn't make enough or made it wrong. Idk it feels kinda harsh..I hope one day you'll be able to visit the nederlands xox
That sounds like a terrible therapist!! She was just moving too fast for you and expecting you to be able to keep up with her rather than her working with you to set the pace.. ugh :( I hope you are able to find someone else.. cause that is really harsh and not helpful! xoxo
I still question myself even with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. Never feel "sick" enough to get help. People are always worse than me. Finally getting some help now after 10 years.
I am SO glad you are finally getting help :) Hopefully you can watch and rewatch this video every time you question if you are sick enough. xoxo
Hi Kati, first of all thank you so much for your videos! I'm personally struggling with depression (and actually think I have bpd, still have to find a doctor that is actually wanting to help me!), and I have a question.
I'm studying engineering and in some weeks I will have a ton of important exams... Do you have some tips on how to make myself study, when most of the time I can't even get out of bed? Some days is okay, but others I just either sleep the whole day or wander around my apartment achieving nothing...
Thank you in advance, and of course I'm glad to hear from anyone who could help me. Love you all!
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I don't feel like I have a great support system because I unintentionally push people away that I know in real life, and have very bad anxiety, which has kept me from getting a therapist so I have a better support system in place. But after doing a lot of introspection and research, I think the main source of negativity in my life is massive disproportionate guilt. So maybe I can speak or create through that guilt, and vent my negative emotion better, since I now know what one of, if not my main source of negative emotion is. I think I've often held myself to extreme standards in different areas of my life, at the cost of losing my own physical health and mental health, because of all the guilt I feel that I deserve.
Can you do a video about having a chronic life long disease and battling depression and anxiety along with it? I have ulcerative colitis and find it hard to find balance with my mental illness and my disease.
do you have a video about the psychology behind getting healthy like being cured from chronic pain? For example I'm doing treatment (physical therapy, reshaping my entire spine) for my migraines and I'm not quite sure how to handle not having migraines (oftentimes daily) and I'm starting to only have them about 5/month...
Everyone should go to therapy. No matter how healthy you are. Therapy is important
Yeah i wish it was available for everyone though
thx for this awesomely ha bisky vid i know that i would always get ignored by everybody you just cant give up or find somebody you trust that can help use google things like that
if you dont want help that is a different thing
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hi kati, i know this is an old ish video but i feel like i have become obsessed with this, i'm doubting everything i have been told and i don't think i have any real problems, i have made them all up and i just think i have problems because i am obsessing over it and feel like i'm being attention seeking.
Holly mackintosh i feel you so much, i feel like im obsessing over my mental health and some days i feel like there's really something wrong and other days i feel like im just being dramatic about how i feel
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Hey Kati! Could you possibly do a more updated video on suicide. Much like your "Suicide: An honest discussion" video but more updated? I'm sure you have learned more since then and it would be great to have 1 video with all of that information instead of having to search for all of our answers in 20 different videos. ALSO! Quick update. I have FINALLY started seeing a therapist after maybe 5 years of just avoiding telling my mom that I am not happy and need help. It has been really great to talk to someone.
Could you possibly do a video on disabilities and how it could lead to mental illness. I feel like disabilities are overlooked and ignored by a lot of people. In my experience being bullied because of my CP for the past 20 years is what led to my depression and anxiety. I feel like people need to be educated about it and why it's really important not to ignore and push aside people who are suffering with disabilities whatever it might be. Mental illnesses are finally getting the attention it deserves. I feel like disabilities (physical, learning, & cognitive) need to get the same attention because they too can lead to mental illness like depression, anxiety, ect. if there ignored.
Yes I can! It's actually already on my list :) xxoo
+Kati Morton can I ask you a question please?
Hi Katie I was wondering if I want to ask a question in private that you can do for a video where can I do that? P.S. your videos have helped me so much.