Marriage Be Hard Podcast | Tahir & Farren Moore
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Dang I wished Liss was here for this one. I would love to hear her thoughts
Haha u messy
Me too! But I think Liss would surprise us with the questions. She would ask some really good stuff. Y’all know her alter ego is Cinnamon 😊
Poly isn't for me I'm just here for the shenanigans🤣
Lol me too 😂😂😂
That's fair it's not for everyone and the shenanigans are hilarious!😂
It was so funny seeing Kevin blush and be a bit uncomfortable at the same time. (But not judgmental) I could see the wheels in head turning a hundred miles per minute
SAME! 😅
The wheels were turning
Shout out to Kev for the cool, adept way he handled this interview.
when two ADULTS decide to love each other in a non-traditional way. It's non of our business, period. Tahir anf Farren married EACH other and NOT us. Unless, we are paying their bills,living in their house. It's none of our business. Wishing them both the best and much love❤, and success.
They make it our business....keep your private freaky shit to yourself
It's funny how we say that it is none of our business yet and still, we are listening and minding their business. 😂 But, of course, you mean that it's their life and they alone should make the decision on how to live it. Especially, since they are not asking for our opinion, they are just sharing their life. 😊
i can’t judge but i can say i predicted it 🤣. they way tahir talked about relationships, sex and farren on other videos i just felt like their was a strain in the relationship. turns out there wasn’t, they just have an open relationship and i’m not used to not hearing someone talk about their sex life in such an open way nor about their partner in such a objective factual way rather than possessive, overbearing loving kinda way that monogamous people do lol
Umm…they make it your business when they put all their business out on a public platform for you to see. 😂
Kev is getting better and better with interviewing guest. Love Farren and Tahir. Even in their nontraditional relationship you can tell they prioritize each other. As they said repeatedly communication is key
Yes very non traditional and they just don't seem like the type to be in such a relationship ❤. I have respect for them
I have so much respect for Farren and Tahir for publicly sharing their truth. ❤ So proud of yal!
This makes a ton of sense! Met them in Niagara Falls shortly after I started following the whole crew. Farren kept telling Tahir to take a pic with me. I didn't know they were married but figured they were together. After, I remember thinking, I love how secure this woman is! Do what works for you always!!! Also, they were very cool!
Dope af. Farren is the shit 😍, shoutout Tahir too 😂🤘🏾
Whatever Melissa's perspective on this conversation would've been, it would've been epic to hear!
Do you think Melissa would subscribe to that type of lifestyle?
@@jonathancarter5575I doubt it bc Liss couldn't watch Kev kissing another women on the show #Churchy
@@jonathancarter5575 it very well may not be true but i will say I was under the impression that they were Christians so i would lean towards no but - who knows 🤷🏽♀️. we don’t know them or what their values are fr
This is like a laugh to keep from crying situation. 😢 I grieved watching this.
I love Tahir and Farren so much with their transparency on this non traditional journey. And Kev, for his genuine apology and concern when Tahir shared that his feelings was hurt, from what Kev said. I want to have friends like them when I grow up!
That’s a fact. ❤
From the love hour episode to this one they seem MUCH happier. That’s all that matters.
This was tough for me to watch and I'm not sure why. I love this Krew and am listening to learn. I wish them the very best in their union.
I know why it was tough for me. I hear everything they’ve said about respect and communication I just feel like there room 1 for people to be horribly hurt which could go wrong a number of horrific ways especially when you enter mental health and what people are aware and unaware of that we do not know because we are mere mortals-- and then 2. The open door for abuse that could come. I do not suggest that Farren is abusive towards Tahir or otherwise. What I am not suggesting but clearly stating is that if someone is prone to be an abuser; this would be a wonderful way for them to practice abuse. I also believe that this is also a perfect way for someone to practice escapism and not really being their body and skirt feeling vulnerable. I completely understand what they’re saying abs their perspectives. But I think there may be factors that they have not considered. Example- someone could think their ok with this arrangement with the two of them-- until it begins and then realize that they are not. They could handle it maturely and just leave. They could also be immature and destructive in a number of ways. The worst of those is them attacking in some way Farren and/or Tahir. But the other side of this is them being destructive to themselves in a variety of ways. Someone could fall in love easily. Only some people handle heart break well. But if that person doesn’t; which could probably coincide with someone just trying to self medicate with sex or the girlfriend or boyfriend experience because them being committed to someone cost to much to them--- that same person could end up mentally in a very bad way. Which could end negatively in a number of ways. 🤷🏽♀️ just saying. Having said that. I still respect Farren and Tahir and love them both. But no I’m vehemently against this lifestyle. That doesn’t make me weak or insecure. Agree to disagree.
I said it was tough to watch. That's not judgmental.
If your spirit is grieved it's probably because you believe this is wrong. We are supposed to evaluate, or Judge, what we see and hear. Be kind and judge with righteous judgement ( by the Word of God). Matthew 7, Proverbs 15, Ephesians 4
@@Noellistorivery judge mental
My favorite part was watching all of Kevin’s faces 😂😂😂😂 he said, “y’all really be having seks and other people be there” LMAOOOO
😂😂😂
I already know it's about to be a good time in the studio....Tahir & Farren are hilarious & their communication is top notch! Farren: "I actually get joy, from seeing him pleased" Tahir: "she's usually holding the camera" ----> Kev's face & internal scream was too funny!
When kev said the confidence is key when Tahir said vilification 😂
As poly person it definitely requires a lot of communication and forces you to be self aware and honest about your feelings, ego and desires.
Kevin is a good interviewer
I am not sold. Sounds like he really isn't game, but he wants to make/keep his wife happy. Then again, I'm all for it. If you like it, we love it!
Tahir is one of these comedians that you know comes from pain. All he wants to do is to make ppl happy cause that’s what was missing for him in his past. I hope he is happy and Farren that piece of the puzzle that makes them both whole and blissful.
Farren looking so good! I'm loving this hair color and lip color on her 😍
I love Tahir and Farren. Together they are Hilarious!! IDC who or what they do, them my people!! #StL
Please get Tim and Chia on this show.
YES!!!!!!
I appreciate this candid conversation.
This is deep. Wow. I can respect their openness about this and having a real conversation.
What I have learned from this conversation is that as long as the ppl who are involved are cool with it then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks/says about their marriage/relationship #CousinTabSaysAndThatsTheirBusiness
I love this for them! When you think about how much love it takes for someone to truly see you living your best life, with or without them, they are exercising love in a way that some people may never even get a glimpse of.
Tahir and Fanneen, I have questions. But I respect and appreciate your openness. So I'm going to keep my Christian love comments to myself. Lol
This was a great convo! Thank you all. (We still missed you Lis)
Great conversation.
Walked away with a new pov of poly relationships
Shout-out to Tahir and Farren for being so open and honest.
Guys, you are spiritual being , this will affect your lives in the long run!
It will affect them just like it affects all the women who stay with their cheating spouses. I guess at the point it affects them, they will stop doing it.
I tend to agree. But there’s something else nobody is saying. How does it affect the other people? I’m sure some of those other people totally think they’re ok with this….until they’re in it--- then what? Simple answer is leave the situation. But what if mental health is a question… what if there in so much pain before they ever get there that this started to make them feel again and it’s too much and they become suicidal? Very specific I know. And some may say unlikely. How unlikely is it for real? Just saying. But I love Tahir and Farren still-- I just strongly disagree. Because of the toll this can and probably has had on the human spirit of people in this lifestyle. No diss. I don’t think this is the same as homosexuality at all. If someone is gay they usually can remember the first day from childhood that they had feelings for someone of the same sex. That was far more than sex. This just sounds like people who want more sex. That’s not necessarily bad. But what about the effect it could have on ALL the people involved? Just saying. Agree to disagree.
What a beautiful nonjudgmental conversation. If they’re happy, that’s all that matters!
This has been a great series and I'm excited to see a conversation with Farren and Tahir!
I don’t know this couple and while I don’t find their lifestyle Christian and it is not covered by the blood per the Bible, God gives us free will and they’ve made their choice. I also don’t understand why people not claiming to be Christian are being attacked by Christians, I’m not sure what a Christian’s expectation would be. They have made the rules for their relationship and they appear very happy with each other. This was an interesting conversation and I appreciate them being open, honest, and sharing their journey.
Also, Kev…it seems like Tahir was doing this for Farren after listening to the story😂😂😂
Thank you Tahir and Farren for sharing!
Loved this episode! I didn't know that Farren and Tahir were in this type of relationship! I love when couples define what works for them and keep an open mindset no matter what society says! Kudos to them.
And the church said Amen! This is wonderful and needed!
Farren and Tahir seemed to have had an active sex life and then after marriage Tahir seemed to have lost his libido. I may have missed something but, did he consider therapy or getting his hormone levels (men's hormones can become imbalanced too) checked? Polyamory came across as more of a bandaid for Tahir, to a deeper problem, rather than something he really wanted to do. Again, I'm just going off of what I heard in those 60 or so minutes, probably some other factors. Anyway, I wish Farren and Tahir the very best and I appreciate them sharing their story.
He's had a very traumatic past which I feel explains a LOT. I know he considered therapy but don't know how far he got. Other approaches like EMDR works wonders
I have no desire to be in a polyamorous relationship or marriage, but I truly appreciate you having this couple on and hearing them discuss their marriage. If it works for you who tf cares what anybody else thinks 💚
Tahir and Farren >>> such a fun loving couple! ❤ wishing them a long and happy marriage 🫶🏾
1:07:44 - I ❤ how Kev protects his friends.
Amen! I loved this part some stuff is definitely for the group chat lol
I’m really learning a lot here. Thank you all.
I never knew. Not my thang but interesting. It does make me want to have more open and honest conversations in my marriage, in general. So thank you for sharing😃
their love hour episode was so beautiful, you could tell they were monogamous back then, very different attitudes. how tahir talks now i could tell their relationship was different. and that’s their life ❤️
Really really really good conversation. So healthy and candid. And funny 🤣Answered a few questions I had. Much appreciated. 👌🏿
I appreciate the HONEST LOVE . So many times one person is in an OPEN relationship and the other person is in a committed relationship.
Great conversation. You have to respect Tahir's humility putting his business out. To accept not being enough and letting his wife lead. Continue to love on each other.
This was such a great conversation. I love learning new information, especially concerning relationships.
Very interesting and informative episode. I'm glad farren and tahir are so open and free to tell their story and journey. Even the uncomfortable moments
I'm sooo happy they broke down the behind the scenes of a poly relationship. Thank you for breaking down the emotions and boundaries that comes with this.
In my opinion an open ,the term open marriage is an oxymoron. By letting outsiders in your relationship you risk for dangerous things to happen, not just to your marriage but people inside your circle. Just because of few people may respect the boundaries , there's to much of a risk for others not to.
That happens in monogamous relationships as well so what are you saying? It's not the monogamous vs poly it's whether the people involved respect it.
@@0pinionated let's just say what you just said made sense, what are the statistics on a healthy stable marriage and a poly marriage being sabotage by someone who's not respecting the boundaries you're trying to set?.
This is a very interesting conversation. I respect their truth and how they told this story
Not for me, but for those who feel the same way it makes good dialogue on how to bring this to your partner and how to respond without judgment
For her to say she’s “Different” but started the conversation off with “I know I’m not the only one” right there is where I said “It’s not that you’re different, you just have a mentality of every other woman out there that thinks boys will be boys, & that you know you not the only one”
I get so tired of women trying to convince themselves that they are open to thing’s that they know deep down in their hearts they want a guy that can be 100% faithful to them.
That’s the problem with people who think like that & have that mentality “ Boys will be Boys “ NO. How about take accountability for the thing’s you participate in & understand that just as much as HE play a role in the outcome, you do too.
Granted, there are people out here who truly live that lifestyle. And is happy & know who they are and okay with the life they live. I’m not speaking to those people. I’m speaking towards the women with her mentality that thinking they aren’t the only one, so let me remove the word “Infidelity” & open up the relationship to have relations with other women.
The fact that she mentioned she “Encouraged” him to have relations with other women, right here is where my ears were completely off and I knew everything else that she would say isn’t based on the fact of her being “Different”
A lot of ppl listen to things, but don’t really listen to what a person is saying. At the end of the day the root of it wasn’t because “You believed in Poly, & Wanted To Live The Lifestyle” The root of it was “ I know I’m not the only one, so instead of infidelity being a thing let me open the relationship & encourage him to have relations with other women , ( because I know I’m not the only one anyways ) “
No matter how y’all try to twist what I just said & create you’re own version of it. The truth is in the pudding & you can’t deny the Fact that it wasn’t because this is something she wholeheartedly just wanted because that’s who she is. It’s who she thought he was already & doing already.
In no way am I coming for her or him. I’m just calling a spade & spade and seeing thing’s for what they are & NOT by what I think I hear. I’m listening with all 4 ears. And there’s no way anyone can tell me that this lady wants to be Poly when her opening statement was “ I knew I wasn’t the only one “ Y’all can have the FairyTale story. We adults , & we can agree to disagree. It’s respect to Kev at the end of the day. 🥷
Yes I heard that too, sis. You told no lies. I can hear the defeat in her voice. And when Tahir said Kev told him she’s only doing it for him, he was right. Then Tahir turned it around and said Kev hurt his feelings, like get outta here dude. This whole situation is a hot ass mess. And I just hope Farren is protecting herself in all aspects.
@@bestlife9143 Chile I ain’t even watch the rest of it after that first line came out her mouth. I knew it was just going to be straight BS after that. 🤣 Like yeah okay keep running with this “You’re Different” image.
You should watch the rest of the episode
I somewhat agree, but I think she wanted it. I watched the whole thing and it didn't really explain how or why liked they claimed it would she been saying for years she wasn't satisfied, he said in this video she had a super high sex drive and took tea to decrease it. Basically this was not believable or seemed authentic. Melissa ain't here for the fake mess. This whole podcast is about married couples why even film if she was unavailable. I love Kev and Liss and all they do, so I'm a fan for life but this was a miss!
Sheeeesh! Ain’t no hate like Christian love. Wheeew!!
Loved this convo!! I love how secure and confident Farren is! I wanna be like her when I grow up 🥺
Love Tahir and Fareen, these two can do no wrong. Open, honest, and supportive!
This is my 3rd time watching this and I always appreciate the openness and honesty of Tahir and Farren. Finding out what will work is your marriage should the main goal of every married couple. I love and respect the talk and with each watch I take away something new.
I just love them. And as long as they are happy and healthy than I love it!
ME CYAAN WAIT! This finna be JUICY & HILARIOUS! 🧚🏾♀️🥃
Standard 🎬🥃
@@UKLeonie 👌🏾
You know it will!!!!
your Jamaican s showng
@@deanchristie7723 🇯🇲🇯🇲
“I still have standards, that you’re on the outside of”
I'm loving this clear expectation and understanding of polyamory.
I think it was naive of Tahir to think the friendship group wouldn't have conflicting opinions
I feel like they are both bisexual. But I could be wrong. Something that I noticed from Farren on their podcast a while ago…
I think so too
Come through COMPERSION!!❤❤❤
Word of the month
Ferran hat is giving rhythm nation vibes. Lol
I love Farren & Tahir. This was such a good conversation! Great interview Kev!
Thank you Farren and Tahir for sharing with us. I know close minded ppl don’t make this easy. I really enjoyed the conversation
This is the definition of friendship!
I am thankful for the honesty and transparency.
“Compersion is related to “sympathetic joy,” which is our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It includes the positive thoughts, emotions, and sensations derived from knowing of another person's gratifying experience, even when this experience does not involve or benefit us directly.”
Something not everyone has but something more people should strive to have.
I love their relationship ❤
I kind of already knew from their other podcast, but it’s dope you two are being completely transparent with your inner life.
Different things work for different for everyone… as long as you’re happy😊
This episode was amazing! Wish Melissa was here though. I love Farren and Tahir's relationship, thanks for sharing! 🖤I aspire to be a lil more like Farren in my relationship.
Liss we missed you on this one. Kev seemed a little uncomfortable but I loved the conversation. Tahir and Farren are comfortable about who they are and what makes them happy. I loved seeing them unapologetically them.
He maybe a bit uncomfortable... he a church boy, this is uncharted territory for him and that's fine. He can be uncomfortable with and without Liss.
I really appreciate this conversation. I have been waiting for them to discuss their transition.
Two of my fave friends of the Fredericks (sp?). I love them and their sense of humor!
I'm just glad people can make their marriages work.
I've been waiting to see Farren and Tahir!!!
I saw them on “The Honey Do List” and thought “ohhh they’re cute.” Forgot they had done this interview. Learning so much
I haven’t even finished the episode yet. But I LOVE it. I remember their story and follow their podcast. I kind of thought that they would be open to be open or at some point poly based off how open and understanding they are. I think a fair share of marriages are headed in this direction. Because people are starting to see that you can really love your partner but also transition over time and want more or something different. Glad that this conversation is had especially on Kev and Liss’ platform. I live that they are open to have this conversation.
I was approached about being in a poly relationship last year & I knew it wasn’t for me. I'm always curious to see how people do it. One interesting trend I've noticed in every interview I've watched (I haven't watched a lot) with poly people that started off monogamous is the female initiates this transition in the relationship.
This was an interesting interview & I wish this couple all the best!
I wonder why that is 🤔 there has to be a reason why it works when women start it
Kev was pretty good in this interview however he should have waited until Liss was available to interview Tahir and Farren! LOL he just should have periodt ya'll
I don't agree with none of this however I respect and love them both
I get the impression Melissa didn't really want to do the interview. She's done all the others.
Wheels spinning in Mr.Kev head 😂 but I really enjoyed the interview ❤
Farren's shirt let me know that she is my people. This convo is everything.
I watched this like a squirmy kid and I'm older than all 3 of them 🤣🤣🤣🙈😅 We're never too old to learn, thank y'all for sharing!
I had the small judging eyes for Tahir for so long, and it’s been farren all along 🤯. I feel like I should apologize or something
I think it's awesome they were so close to have this conversation and understand each other.
What made y'all switch from open relationship to poly?
Why is this so hard to understand for folks? Communication is key, and trust your spouse and the love therein.
I love them, they are always such a good hilarious time!
Darren is whole mood-love her 🤩🤩🤍🤍👏🏼
I've been looking forward to this interview for a while.
The fact that ppl are vilifying Tahir and Farren for THEIR decisions with THEIR relationship and THEY ARE GROWN is wild😂 Mfs just be mad and it’s sad😂 I’m glad the MOORES are happy and thriving 🥰
Init thou just hateration on grown married ppl ediots 😂🥃🤣🥃😂🤣
I didn't watch the whole thing but basically he can date other women and she can date other men correct?
Tahir is one of the first men that I've heard admit that a woman that loves sex can outsex a man all day every day! 💯 facts!!!
About a month ago, I had to stop a kids from beating another one up side thr head. Chile, his mama was in line waiting to pick him up and saw the hold thing. I took the child to the office and she had a attitude with me because I grabbed him to take inside. Girl, what?? Her exact words was "That ain't how you break up no fight." .....the state of parenting is trash
I don't understand how that relates to this conversation?
@@theOriginalELDunbar Not to mention how hard it is to read with all the typos.
This conversation is REAL & VULNERABLE & I appreciate them for sharing. 🤍
This was so good!!!
Tahir could not be serious for nothing, I think he was a little uncomfortable, being that the talk is in public with his friend. Still a great episode.
When the bond is there, why is there curiosity for other appetites?
The same reason why “monogamous” people cheat all the time 😂
@@SPEAKSB that’s not a good comparison because obviously cheating in a monogamous relationship is bad and is psychologically and socially seen as such. meanwhile being poly is supposed to be a positive or neutral thing in progressive circles lol
@@angel1202003 the original question was why do you need others if the bond is there. It’s simple, it’s the same reason why monogamous people have a bond but still cheat. They’re clearly craving something else. So is it worse to cheat on a monogamous relationship or have a poly relationship if you don’t want to be tied down to one person? That way no one is getting hurt
@@angel1202003 Is it bad? Because a LOT of women and some men stay with their cheating spouses knowing that they are cheating. So I guess people who choose to be poly simply decide to be honest. So is the question why be honest?
@@Ayommari uhhh I think you’re making it more complicated than it needs to be. You should be honest in any relationship because that builds trust with your partner. If you want a healthy relationship you’ll be honest. Just because people stay with a partner who cheats doesn’t mean they don’t want honesty.
I know people who are in these types of relationships so this is not a surprising topic to me. Thanks for sharing y’all!