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So sorry people cancelled last minute, that is really annoying. Totally understandable to feel hurt!
I have had that happen to me and it hurts and itâs so hard being codependent and not having where you take it personal I wish I could be happy by myself too I struggle with that itâs really difficult
FYI, I work at a place just like what you described. Please donât feel guilty for using the resources. Everyone is at a different point in the path in their therapeutic journey. We are there to help. And we appreciate being able to help anyone who needs the services, no matter the immediacy of need. If this place offers group therapy, I would suggest attending those. Trauma can isolate people, and certain traumas are hard to discuss with people who have not experienced them as well. The change I have seen in clients attending those group gatherings has been immense (I used to facilitate those groups, and that was an honor). And your hair looks great! Just know thereâs a therapist out there, with blue hair, working at DV, and SA, shelters and agencies who watches all your videos!
That's a friend issue, not a you issue. Unfortunately our friend circle has gotten VERY small over the last few years because we stopped putting up with that ish. You seem amazing and it'll be their loss when they realize what they're missing. Hugs đđ
Gurl believe me when I say it's NOT YOU the reason the so called "friends" didn't show to your party. Heck, you should of invited me and we would of had a blast! đ I'm so happy to hear you are going to therapy but sorry to hear the main reason why. I wish you all the best and remember... YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT! Your personality is addicting and I wish we knew each other in person. We'd totally click! â€đ§Ąđđđđ
Genuinely!! I used to have a friend I'd constantly be there for. She whined to me every single day about legit stupid issues (i wanna fuck this guy so bad but don't wanna leave my boyfriend because then I'd have to go live with my mom again) and would never be there for me when I had something going on. When i had a BPD episode and isolated myself from my mom and sister and vented a little about it to the friend she just cut me off and told me to talk to her once I'm normal again.
Those people aren't real friends. You shouldn't neglect yourself and your life for others, but friends should give you the same energy back in terms of what you do for them.
I'm glad to be able to say that, even though they're all on a different continent, I've finally been able to find amazing friends who love and cherish me the way i am and understand me and want to support me. Loving your friends unconditionally is awesome and all but only when they love you just the same. At this point i just can't help but say that it's important to know when it's time to cut someone out of your life if they're only taking taking taking and never giving back the same energy you bring to the table.
Edit: to be clear, i don't take it lightly when people undermine other people's issues. I also love being my friend's therapist, i basically live for helping my friends out and help them deal with their trauma and current situations. However i think it's reasonable to say that the former friend i mentioned in the op had "stupid issues" considering she whined to me about the same thing everyday NEVER with the intention of taking any of my advice or input and expecting to only ever get sympathy and pity. I love helping people who genuinely need it and not attention seekers don't want help.
Helping my friends is the best feeling in the world though because getting a therapist is hard and if i can be there whenever they need me and help them get out of a dark place then sign me up :)
I can relate so much to the ''giving too much and expecting the same in return'' thing. I'm so happy for you for taking the step to go to therapy. Thank you for sharing all this stuff, you are an amazing person â€
I'm the same so I understand, it's just really REALLY hurtful đąand every time I say not again...but you can't help being who you are, so I will never change and neither should you, keep being kind and thoughtful it's what outshines the bad things to keep he equilibrium going in the world! You are a special kind hearted person just like Aislinn x we shouldn't change, they should x
@@lisasmith8484 thatâs right girl, we shouldnât change ! Thank you for your kind words â€
It's true, never change and keep being kind, but please take care of yourself and recognize when it's time to cut people off. You shouldn't get taken advantage of by people who take your kindness for granted. Cut them off and make friends who give you back the same energy because that's what you truly deserve.
We LOVE you and we wonât ever let you down. If youâre feeling low mood just go live and come and chat with us. Doesnât always have to be hair related. We got you! â€
I went to therapy for a few years and it was nice to have someone to talk to, its really good for your mental health in the long run!â€
Girl I just had to pause on this video to tell you: they are not your friends honey, they should respect you and they just don't. I know it is hard, but believe me - when you realize that and move on from them - you will feel so much better and will open yourself to meet people who are actually worth your timeâ€
So proud of you Aislinn đ€ You sound like a friend that everyone would want and need. If people donât treat you how you treat them thatâs on them not you. Know your worth đ€đ€đ€
8:26 I donât usually comment twice but today I have to! I feel this rant about friends who donât come around so much man. I need friends to feel happy too and itâs such a double ended sword because I always chose the wrong friends. Your channel is such an out for me and you going to therapy makes me so happy. Itâs a great option â€
Know I've already said something but got further in and your husband sounds like a very wise man and you 100% deserve happiness and support â€
Its not your job to figure out if other people have aproblem with you, it's their job to be a grownup and tell you if they have a problem with you. As long as no one says otherwise, then you have not done anything wrong! They are just not being good frineds to you and they're not thinking about your feelings, and THAT'S the problem, my friend. You deserve better than that!
The thing about friends canceling is very relatable and it does hurt when it happens. We are so programmed to not say anything to people that do this, they may legitimately not understand how it feels. I had people do this on my wedding (which was informal, but stillâŠ) and I just stopped texting them.
Your friends that helped you move, theyâre the real ones.
The way you paint the dye on THEN use the tail comb to section just changed my life.
Love how openly you talk about your struggles. And i feel you, i once try to have my own B-Day party and no one came. I feel so Bad about that after all this Time, years, havent really try anything like that after that.
Oh wow! Making that first call to therapy is such a huge step! Proud of you!!! And those people canceling on you like that just reveals their character. Anyone with more than 2 brain cells can see how loving and genuine you are! â€â€
My friends do that to me too. I hate it. It hurts my feelings too.
Oh Aislinn. I agree that I think therapy would help so much. Iâm proud of you! I am a SA survivor also and it affects a lot in your life. Therapy helped me immensely. Your friends also bail because they take you for granted/ donât make you a priority. Donât take it personal. Theyâre just shitty friends and you deserve better. Hugs đ€
So proud of you for setting up an appointment for therapy. I'm waiting for a call back in June when they're taking new patients
I am so fucking happy you FINALLY got a code from them like you have supported them for so long!!!!! Havent got that far in the vid but I really hope you feel better soon I've just got out of counselling too â€
Honestly this was so relatable, this is how I have felt in SO many friendships and relationships over the years, it's always like I put in so much effort with people and no one wants to put in any effort with me
We are so proud of you for taking care of your mental health and working through things!! Thank you for sharing!
That pink is GORGEOUS đ€ also can relate to when you feel like you go above and beyond for others but they donât reciprocate or even do simple things friends/family should do. It sucks but itâs not your fault đ€đ€ proud of you for working on yourself!!
I had the same issues with friends when I was in Indiana, just before I left for the military. It got worse once I joined. I would drive 12 hours to get back to Indiana and make a plan for a party to see everyone and no one would come or only a few and others would just say...well can you drive another hour to see me? It sucks, but I feel this. I'm starting up therapy next week as well and I am so excited to start this new journey. I feel this in my soul. I started up my youtube channel recently because you inspired me to just be me and do it. (it's a different channel) so thank you and I hope it gets a little better.
When I tell you I don't even like pink but that color is đ„đ„đ„
So glad you're getting into therapy đđ
You look absolutely gorgeous!! đ
I understand how you feel about friends cancelling. I have friends who don't eveb respond to my messages half of the time, or they only time they will make plans with me is when they want their hair done. It makes me wonder if they even really want to be my friend anymore or even hang out, or if they're just busy or would rather be at home. It always hurts my feelings to think about it too. I feel like it's just a me thing, but idk. I'm trying to either make new friends or enjoy time doing what I want to do alone or with my significant other. I hope you can heal through therapy. đ€ You're an amazing person and you deserve to feel happy and healed! đâš
Hearing you talk about therapy made me realize I need to stop putting off getting help as well. I looked into it through my University and now I have a consolation tomorrow! Thank you so much for being open and honest about everything, it truly just changed my life â€
Now is the only time to stop trying and giving to those who give nothing back
Honestly this happened to me all of the time. I have kids now and would stick to plans and people still cancel even if I have a sitter. It hurts my feelings so bad. I'm so sorry you've gone through that. It's not a nice feeling but it's a them problem..not you
Iâm sorry that you feel your friends let you down by not showing up for you for something that was important and you feel that your friendships are unbalanced. Iâm in my late 30s and as Iâve gotten older, Iâve made the decision not to try to maintain friendships where Iâm getting less than what Iâm putting in and my feelings arenât valued as much as they should be. I imagine itâs very tough when you donât have local friends though but maybe now is the time to explore that.
And very well done on sorting out therapy! For SA/CSA survivors itâs very usual to take a long time to seek help, so please donât beat yourself up about that. Weâre very proud of you for sure.
it suckssss when people just donât deliver for you when youâre always there for them. my entire friend group stopped talking to me the end of last year bc of something that happened between me and one other member of the group. i would try reaching out to them but no one ever responded so i stopped trying to reach out. iâve been alone ever since. i donât feel so bad about it now bc i decided iâd be better off without friends who choose sides in situations that have nothing to do with them.
Just do what you and if they come they come but if they donât they donât. Itâs ok to have fun by yourself and to do things by yourself. â€
Aislinn, trauma does not quantify. Your trauma is not better or worst then anybodyâs trauma. Itâs not something you can measure. The brain process trauma the same way if youâre depressed or if you lost someone really close; the brain donât care what happen, it only care about how it make you feel. All that to say, trauma is trauma so please donât feel bad about seeking help. You matter â€ïž Proud of you đ«¶
Thank you for sharing such sensitive information about yourself.Just remember everyone deserves help whether it happened today or years ago the trauma is still bad. So, you deserve as much help as you need.
I had that happen for my 40th birthday! I invited my entire family on my momâs side and not a single person showed. I told everyone about a month in advance but only had one person tell me ahead of time that they couldnât come. They all definitely showed up to the Easter get together the following weekend though! I was soooooo so hurt so I totally understand.
But go you on going back to therapy! Iâm super proud of you, it can be really hard to reach out for help. â€
Itâs really common to feel bad for taking up a therapists time. I felt that way for a long time. But youâre doing what you gotta do. My therapist taught me to say âI have as much right to walk the earth as anyone elseâ. Helped a lot.
Your shirt cutout matches your chest tattoo perfectly! Ima need you to tailor all your shirts to have a perfect cut out đ
This colour is my colour too!!! Lđ©·VE Lđ©·VE Lđ©·VE it on you and always! đ
So proud of you for calling back and setting that apt up, girl! I wish everyone would go to therapy- it truly is foundational to healing. You are stronger than you know, worth more than you realize and deserve to be as happy as you can be. đ
Sorry back again.. I'm so proud of you for opening up. I think we both suffer from the same issues. Also it's hard to find the right person to talk to!! You have a friend here as always :):)
I am so proud of you. You will have to let go (a little bit) of those "friends" and leave the space open for new ones. They may be better, but it is not guaranteed! Best wishes.
I was just looking for something to watch and look at you popping up with the win!! Many thanks, Aislinn! đ
The best part of therapy is the therapist does not discriminate. They place you are starting with has an opening GO! It's the first step. If they feel you are not a right fit, they will recommend you to another facility they pair with .Don't ever feel you are taking a spot from someone! That someone is you! The things about people showing up to your party is kinda a funny thing. half the time its not about you and they are in their own heads... love you Aislinn
As someone who postponed going to therapy A LOT of times, I'm incredible proud of you! It may not be easy at first, but after some time you'll be so glad that you take the first step towards healing!
Also, I'll be your friend, don't give your love to someone who doesn't deserve it. You are an amazing person, don't forget that!
I can only speak for myself, but I do have a tendency to bail on big group plans because I psych myself out of going and my anxiety gets too high for socializing. Or my emotional bandwidth is gone and I don't have it in me to be social. But I only make plans with people who know about my mental health stuff and I'm honest with them when I need to cancel for those reasons. It's pretty much never about the other people it's about what's going on in my brain. Also, as women we're socialized to put everyone else first and that's something I've been working on unlearning that including my own health and feelings in my priorities.
Iâm so very proud of you for scheduling for therapy. Iâm glad your husband is a god support for you. He is right, people unfortunately donât reciprocate. So match their energy
It feels awful when folks donât prioritise you as much as you do them, but youâll notice as you get older that often we grow apart from friends. Itâs never personal usually, itâs just how life goes. We grow and walk different paths so itâs easier to try to understand that and move with it than try to keep making effort for folks that arenât worth the energy. I have hot hot pink in my cupboard, youâve inspired me to get my butt moving, Iâm buying bleach đ
I feel you on the putting more effort into your friends than they put into us. It totally sucks.
I have the same experiences with friends always bailing and never showing up for me, when I almost always show up for them. Same thing energy wise, me always being there for them but no one is there for me. So Iâve just distanced myself from so many people over the past few years.
Trauma dump, by all means. Here for you, your awesome, love your videos. I've been going to therapy for years, it helps so much. I tell everybody that. No matter how you let out how your feeling it helps to just get it all out so it's not festering in side. And as long as no one gets hurt I'm all for it.đđ
Sometimes I honestly think we are the same person!! My friend group is the same, and itâs really hard when youâre someone who finds happiness in being around people, but also are so anxious that you are convinced youâre the problem! I was the same with therapy and thinking that I didnât want to take someone elseâs time but I said that to my therapist and they were like âno! You are the âsomeone elseâ!!â đ
Depending on people for your happiness is so relatable đ„Č
This pink is stunning!!! I feel you 100% on the friends situation, it really sucks! Canât wait to see your make up vids and the products youâve been using đ„°đ„°
Wow aislinn your honesty is so touching and unique.
You are brave and deserving. I'm so happy for you for doing this for yourself! You deserve to get therapy. And your friends not coming is not about you! Everyone has there life all over the place and it's hard to take a moment and step outside of your environment to be there for others
I've learned you can't expect out of others what you give to them. You have to be your own happiness. Then all you allow in is just added happiness. Now with that said it's not easy and took me years to be happy alone to not feel like that when no one was around. â€â€â€ you are such a sweet sole taking care of yourself is really needâ€â€â€
Girl!!! I am so proud and happy for you!!! đ đđđđđ
Sorry that people canceled!! I have a lot of male friends too and I feel like I canât rely on them as much - they just donât realise how much you do for them and donât feel the need to reciprocate! (A generalisation of course, but just my experience). I think because they donât take things personally, they expect you wonât take it personally either? I dunno but it definitely sucks sometimes!
I once had a party when I was in my early twenties. I invited about 20 people, 10-15 people said they were going to come. One person showed up, I had bought lots of food and made vodka jelly shots for everyone. Fortunately the one person who showed is one of my best friends and we just ate and drank everything and watched chick-flicks.
I have a fear of being that friend who cancels last minute because I have been a part of a lot of friend groups and there is always someone or more than one who we all know says they are gonna show up but actually don't.
I try to be as honest as possible now, its much better to say no off the bat than to get someone's hopes up. â€
Firstly, you look amazing!! Loved how the pink turned out on your hair!! Makeup is beautiful! Secondly, sometimes people just suck! I have a friend from childhood who I literally can NEVER count on!! We were BFF's since 5th grade!! I have been there for her, each and every time she needed me! I always celebrated her birthday by sending her gifts or throwing her a party! She has celebrated my birthday twice, in all the years we've been friends! I moved to a different state, and she has never visited me! I used to make visiting her 2-3 times a year, a priority! When her Mom passed away, I helped her plan the funeral and was there for her every day! When my Dad passed away, not long after; she never even called me! My son was brutally murdered on November 6, 2012; he was only 22 years old! She called me one time and gave her condolences. After that, I just quit "trying" to be friends with her! We didn't speak for 5 years. We were "Facebook friends". My Mom suffered a stroke and I posted about it. My friend reached out with a phone call. I flew home to be with my Mom and my friend came to visit a few times while I was there. She apologized for being such a đ© friend. She had been going to therapy and found out she has Bi-polar Disorder! She also has very bad social anxiety! We talk more since all that occurred! I have learned to accept her where she is....and I am not disappointed. I said all that (sorry about the length) to say: "Most times the problem isn't you! It's THEM!" They may be or feel socially awkward! YOU are amazing! I love you just the way you are! Stay weird! All the best people are!! đđ€đ
Therapy has been such a huge part of my journey the last four years. Everyone is different but itâs so great to try if you feel like it might be beneficial to you! I actually had a really great moment to practice something Iâve been working on in therapy todayâŠand then I had an anxiety attack a couple hours later. Sometimes progress can look like celebrating the wins and nurturing yourself with patience while you are healing and both can be true at the same time â„ïž love your content, as always. Proud of you for taking that step.
Through therapy I understand that I over compensate within my friendships and I also expect the same of others. But ya know what?? I don't wanna lower my value or standards! And I finally have a few friends who are exactly the same. It feels so good to pour my love and energy into these people and have them fill my cup in return. I let all the people who repeatedly refuse to fill my cup in return fall by the way side. And it's the best decision I've ever made for myself!
Dude that shirt heart hole is perfectly placed! â€
Hey pretty! Iâm so happy for your hair to be pink again you look so beautiful in red tones. Iâm so happy you went live the other day truly made my day â€
I've been in exactly the same place with people bailing on stuff I plan even though I would always go to whatever they had going on. I eventually learned which people to invite but not hold my breath waiting for them to come, and who to just not invite at all. If they really wanna be involved, they can ask. It was all part of me really internalizing the idea that I can't control how other people act, I can only control how I react, and that way of thinking has made me a lot happier and less anxious. So glad you're going to therapy! I hope you have a great counselor that can really helpđ€đđ€
THIS is the BEST color you've done yet!! It's so vibrant and even!! I LOVE it.
And, I too always gave more than I received from people. I've made myself deeply aware of this now and I've stopped being an 'ear' to anyone who needs to talk or they're having problems. I will not be an "ear" for anyone who isn't an "ear" for me. It's quite cleansing.
I had a similar shade of hair during my rainbow adventures. I started with a blue toned purple. Then oil slick, teal, green. Managed to get halv my hair green and pink by accident. Dyed my hair red but no matter how much I out on it refused to go proper red like I wanted. That quickly faded to that shade. It was nicer than I had thought. If I would gp blonde again I'd just have candyfloss hair. But I get noticeable regrowth within 24 hours so I gave up. Now my hair is copper which is my favorite of all time. Works better with my naturally dark brown hair. Though my white hair is coming in strong. I wish it would all turn white all at once instead. My dad was grey before 40 and completely white by 60. I wouldn't mind having all white now at 36 if it just would hurry along would be great. Though all the trauma of the last 8 years have really made it turn faster than before. I didn't think stress really did make your hair turn white but yeah..
Very proud of you for taking the plunge on recovery. It is hard grueling work sometimes but so worth it. I can relate on the friend thing. I've lived in my apartment for 4 years in July and still haven't had a housewarming. The few times my family has come around has left me in tears and i dont have friends so that isn't happening. But I have what I need and I feel safe here so that is what matters.
Lots of †// Sara
You will be so thankful that you started therapy, you deserve so much to have relief from these feelings and start learning ways to start to give yourself love and compassion. It's a really hard thing to stop over extending yourself and separate someone's actions and/or feelings from yourself, but once you start to learn you will be so so thankful. I've still got a long way to go but even the little changes have helped so much already. You have been through so much and you are such a beautiful person, you really do deserve so much happiness and healing đ©·đ©·
Unfortunately it's very unlikely for someone who is currently being abused to get help. Those services are absolutely for anyone no matter what time frame.
i loved the book "complex ptsd from surving to thriving" by pete walker. it helped me so much in the start of my therapy journey! dont feel bad for seeking out therapy all therapy should be free and accessable!
i am proud of you!!!! and just fyi... if i was your friend and you invited me to a house warming party I would be SO excited. I think sometimes men dont think things are a big deal and dont realize that it affects peoples feelings, at least in my experience
Way to take care of you! Therapy helps so much, especially if you find the right person. You seem like a great friend, and you deserve friends who show up for you and celebrate you! đâ€
happy for you that you are getting therapy. I can honestly say that it has helped me so much. Once you find someone that you feel comfortable with you can let loose and talk about all that bothers you. Its great to get the tools and techniques that will help you handle the bumps in life.
Beautiful colour,really suits you,I stopped using no fanola as it made my hair too dry. Some freinds do this it isn't you honey, it's them. Ghosting is bad,and they will get it back with a touch of karma . Light some sage,then some cinnamon incense invite some new ones,ones that won't flake on you. Heal up aislinn. You'll get there đđ
Torrid has some biker shorts with rainbow on the side! They have a lot of pride stuff and it is cuuuute!
You are so loved by all of us, and you have us to get you through anything that is bothering you. Love that gorgeous pink hair. So loving it. đđđđ«đ
Am definitely dying my hair this color soon, am soo happy that your finally going to therapy and hope you get better, I think just ignore ur roots
I have learned to be my own my best friend, in the most non depressing way. I got tired of dealing with what you were dealing with. I was always there for my friends, but never got that same energy back. I'm married and have 2 cats and a dog, and wish I could have told my younger self it'll be okay. I now can count on one hand my friends I can count on, and I'm okay with that. â€â€
aww Aislinn..regarding your party: you are not the problem. i know what that feels like all too well.. and as a person thats gone through it and is in therapy, my therapist always says: you know your truth and who you are and thats all that matters. anyone that cant see it and appreciate it does not deserve your energy
Way to go queen and always slaying the hair and rainbow! I feel this on the friend thing, I'm also a bit intense and tend to ward friends off by my energy. But I just think to myself someone better will come along and be actually greatful to have me in their life apposed to burdened
My sign has arrived. I've been wanting to go pink for months..... ok universe I hear you. Thank you Aislinn.đđ
Therapy ganggggg !!!!!!!! Shout out to you for taking the steps to get the inner peace and love your looking for đ„°đ„°đ„°đ„°
8:25 after 3 tries itâs them not you, move on and let them reach out if they want. Be friends but know to keep them at a distance from your heart â€
I'm so proud of you for going to therapy! You're a beautiful person and deserve to be happy.
I just dyed my daughter's hair hot hot pink, yellow, and turquoise. It turned out amazing (after 3 hours of carefully painting sections of her short hair đ© ) BUUUUT even though the dye stayed on for the 3 hours it took to finish it, the pink washed out after only 2 washes...we used a protein filler and everything and even though the color WAS amazing, I'm disappointed we spent that much time on her hair, only to have the pink wash out that easily. The yellow is going strong, turquoise had faded to the degree you would expect, the pink is barely visible. Love the color, wish it stayed longer than 2 washes.
Omg that color looks AMAZING! đ
Also, I totally understand your frustration and sadness about people canceling last minute. Same thing happens to me, especially with my gigs (Iâm a musician). I still have a small group of amazing friends that make it out to most things, so Iâm grateful for them. And Iâve kinda just focused on them instead of the people that never come - it sucks but Iâm glad I have at least a few amazing people đ
the heart cut out on your shirt with the face peeking through is hilarious. love!!!
The whole doing more for others and expecting the same back is literally me. It's bpd for me. It's not like people think. Look into it loveâ€
so proud of you for going back to therapy! it's not your fault people bailed, try not to be too hard on yourself about it (easier said than done I know đ ) it's better to have a few wonderful friends than a bunch of people who will flake on you anyways, genuinely wish I could be your friend (in a genuine non-parasocial creepy way), just cause I kinda relate to you sometimes and I also love being alt and also love color and rainbows and yea you sport my ideal aesthetic. again so proud of you for seeking out therapy again
I wanna be your friend! I was getting free counseling thru work but I got laid off a couple months ago đ I'm glad you found something that works for you, it's so nice to have a listening ear that you can literally tell anything to đ p.s. your eye look is đ„đ„ and can I just say that I'm so sad I don't have a job cuz I NEED your palette when it comes out! I'm the same way with doing my makeup it's almost my meditation
yes. Needed this after work! Thank you for cheering me up aislinn. Iâm happy you are going to therapyđ„°
Iâm listening to you talk about not having many friends or family and you wonder if itâs you as to why people donât show up to your things. That is a reflection on them not you.
It took me years to get that through my head. My husband is a loner too. He literally needs no one. Things really donât bother him. He doesnât care about much he lacks a lot of empathy
I am the exact opposite. I am an empath. I feel what people feel.
I worry about everything it seems. I rescued a hurt butterfly. Few days ago and I worried myself to death making sure it ate and drank I even took it outside and sat with it so it could get fresh air. It died but I am going to put it in a frame and keep him. I felt so bad. I wish I could be more like my husband maybe then I could learn to love myself
I love you girl. I love your videos. I feel like I have someone who gets me. Thank you
You absolutely own this colour, oml đđ
Your feelings are valid. I felt the same way for a long time and recently cut off some friends. Was painful in the moment but now Iâm more at peace â€
I'm so happy for you that you're getting the help you need!! I myself am trying to get a spot (in Germany) but it's practically impossible, I'm already on like 6 or 7 waiting lists and I'm most likely not gonna get a spot this year :')
Therapy is gonna be extremely hard and tiring because you'll dig up old stuff and have to deal with the mental and emotional repercussions, but it's a necessary step to healing. I know we don't know each other personally but I just know that you're an incredibly strong woman, way way stronger than you yourself recognize. Wishing you and your loved ones all the healing and best in the world đ
I know exactly how you feel when you have friends that always bail or always say no when you ask to hang out. I literally feel the exact same way and feel like I don't have anyone I can turn to. I always feel like people secretly hate me and they just don't wanna be honest. I watch your videos every single time you upload and I really wish we could be friends in real life. Lol
I just did my hair purple again and now you make me wish I had gone pink instead lol that's beautiful!!
Your hair looks fire! I'm sorry to hear that so many people bailed on your party. It's not your fault; if someone has a problem, it's up to them to address that and deal with it. It sucks, and it hurts. There's nothing wrong with needing people, but I think therapy will help you a lot. I empathise a lot; I depend a lot on other people to keep my mood up, and I'm in the process of trying to get therapy.
I really hope it goes well, and I'm glad you didn't give up on contacting the therapy place.
I wish I could give you a big hug †You deserve access to therapy; your husband is right. Whether you are actively in a bad situation, or you've experienced in the past, you still need help. I've experienced SA and DV, and it leaves so many scars. I'm so pleased your husband is supportive and insightful. You're 100% the kind of person I'd love to be friends with you; and I'm super proud of you for reaching out for help â€
ETA I have a rainbow doormat as well, I love it!
It's a shame about the see-through shorts đ
Also I'm really excited to see what your makeup products are like!
I'm so proud that you are getting help and taking care of yourself! Also your boyfriend is amazing for supporting you so much! I love you so much đ€
I'm happy you shared with us, I expect a lot from people also but I feel bad also when they can't do anything back for me. I literally felt like you were talking about me. My husband says the very same thing about me. I think we are people pleasers and it takes a lot out of us and we don't realize. Proud of you for going to therapy đŻ same here I start next month. I wish you all the best đđŻđ