I resonate with all the points you made man, everything seems artificial at this point, especially human interaction. it does get really boring, so much so that it feels futile to even try and even conversate with a human nowadays
Dude I turn 29 and omg I thought I was only one feeling this lonely and depressed I understand it piss me off so many fake people even the women in this generation are BS wish I was your friend man.
What Ive found is most of the time they do it because of 2 reasons. She found him attractive but she can't act on it and go out with him because she already has a Man or she finds him attractive but she could be a money chick, also a lot of them are flaking especially today because they have a lot of options from Social Media and Dating Apps so they all delusional and think there is always something better out there.
I’ve started noticing the same thing with friends also now too nothing is genuine anymore if there not benefiting in some way from being your friend they don’t wanna hang out or do anything
Kinda the same. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend and recently on dating apps I got unmatched immediately by 2 girls(One is 19 and the other one is 21) after I asked them out after a decent chat. I also tried asking out 2 girls recently who were in the same school as me. One of them is 19 now and we were chatting on Instagram for a month and I asked her out on last Sunday and she even agreed that we will meet up one day but 6 days ago she blocked me mysteriously for no reason and it hurt me. Then yesterday I asked out another girl who is turning 20 next month and I asked her out very politely for a coffee after chatting with her on Instagram for over 3 weeks but she immediately blocked me after seeing it. My last hope is my childhood friend now who is 21 now turning 22 after 4 months and I asked her out for a coffee too but she isn't that active on Instagram so still didn't see or reply to my message yet. I hoping for a positive reply this time but I am so worried that what if she rejects me too.
Hey brother awesome to see you again. The shaved head suits you mate. I was looking forward to an update from you. Yeah I know what you mean about fakeness. I've been in a similar position to your friend you were talking about. When I was 20 I was working with a girl I was attracted to. I felt she was being flirtatious, touching me constantly, teasing me, laughing with me etc. I took a chance and decided to ask her out. I took my shot but she said no. After that she went totally cold towards me all the way up until I finished nearly 3 years later. It was awkward and I was incredibly hurt because I thought I had a chance but I guess not. I don't hold anything against her and I don't regret at least being honest and telling her but it is what it is. I don't know if she was being fake or if I just misinterpreted her. I can't tell if a girl is showing genuine interest or just being friendly or hitting on me as a joke I really don't know. Ever since then I feel bad if a girl is flirty to me because I feel like they're just being kind or joking. Yeah bro, it's lonely. I felt absolutely shit on valentines day. I'm nearly 30 now and I've never had anything other than 2 dates where nothing happened. Makes me feel sad so I really dunno. I'm just going to try and improve my body, work and try and meet more people. Thanks for the update bro I love all your videos. I appreciate you being real and straight up I relate a lot to you.
Hi, Ben. First of all, great video and I always appreciate your unfiltered honesty when talking about your experiences. When it comes to women, not all of them are the same but I know the exact type you are taking about in this video. The experiences you are talking about reminds me of my ex-girlfriend back in 2005-2006. When we first dated, she was very nice and, despite not being the best looking girl I have dated, she had a good personality and was smart. She later invited me to her final ball at her all women’s university and that was a big deal because no girl invited you unless they were interested. I came to find out in a hurray how jealous her roommates were as none of them had dates. Long story short, things felt different between us and I never knew why until I realized that her friends were encouraging her to dump me. My brother lived in the same city as her and I remember visiting him. I wanted to see if she would be interested in meeting up so I called her at 9:30am to see if she would be interested in going for a coffee. She lied to me and said she was sick but I didn’t hold it against her until I found out later. When I came back to my family home, I received a message from her telling me that “she was not that interested in me” and I seriously felt led on by her. This was back in the days of MSN messenger and I see her post a caption which said “Ceeps tonight” which is a local bar in her area. I felt hurt, disrespected, and betrayed and I held onto that feeling for at least 6 months. During that whole ordeal, I had a talk with a good friend of mine who gave me the best advice. He said to me to not wish her any ill will but to take the high road and wish her the best. He said to me that if paths are ever to cross again, then you will know what to do. About 3 years later, I was at a summer concert and I kept on hearing a woman call my name. It turns out it was her and I did walk over to her. By that time, I no longer had any feelings for her and she was more interested in talking about my life than hers. I later found out she was doing the same job she was working at while attending university and she was looking for a husband so “she can retire.” I used to think she just joked about that but then I came to realize that she was dead serious. I had more going on in my life than her and I felt I got closure telling her of my achievements and the fact I lost interest in her because she was easily swayed by her friends and groupthink in general. I did find out that she did marry someone closer to home but I certainly don’t envy her or the person she is now with in marriage. I was single for a long time, 14 years to be exact Ben, after dealing with her and I had a lot of trust issues with certain people. During the pandemic, I reconnected with a wonderful woman who is now my girlfriend. She is my perfect match and, despite the distance, we are making it work and plan to get married in the future. I truly believe that what is meant for you will come your way. Things fail so that better things are able to come together. I would just keep in mind that all women are different just like people in general. Red flags to always avoid are the histrionic, melodramatic, and insincere types. If a person lies to you, then that means they don’t respect you and are not worthy of your trust. I think you will eventually find someone, Ben. Take the time to explore the world and know that there is a vast variety of options for you if you are willing to explore it. My girlfriend is American so you never know who you will encounter on your travels in life. Most of the time the best things happen when you are not even looking for them. I hope this gives you a perspective on what is possible because I know you will eventually find someone worthy of your trust and respect because they will act on it and not preach it. Great discussion! I love your real talk. 👍🏻 💙
Read your whole comment glad u were able to move on and be the bigger person, i do agree that not every women is like this but it seems to be the majority these days. I’m Happy to know you found someone special
I don't trust women either , for the part you said you don't like being lonely , why not have healthy normal friends it doesn't matter the age old or young just have healthy friends to talk to and interact to it has 0 risk of heartbreak and you will never be alone from that.
The more authentic and for real you are, the faster they run away. And today you have a very high chance of getting together with a narcopath. Not worth it at all.
As a gay guy, it's even more difficult trying to find love. Sometimes I feel like giving up, but this little bit of hope keeps me going. Otherwise, I'd be dead by now. But yeah, life is so depressing having no social life and no romantic partner 😭
Don't mess around with women at work. It's not worth it. She just wanted to be his work-wife. She's got other guys for the slam-bang action. Now he'll be forced to be around her and he'll have to put up with whatever stupid shyte she invents inside her head about the situation - with no way to escape except quit.
4:53 They were always like this but in the past girls were forced to pretend they wanted other things besides a transactional relationship. Girls no longer have to put on the facade. Consider it a huge time saver!
The insane thing is you don't look bad, but these whamen want way too much nowadays. Apparently men under 6 feet are not men and deserve to be deleted from reality.
I get dumped for Chad within 1.5 years or less and this has happened 3 times with every girlfriend. They will drop you so fast and all that history for a chance at Chad. They lie and monkey branch. They become cruel at the end and kill any past memories you could have held onto. I would have been better never having met them and staying an incel. Alone sucks too.
My last fling used me for sex over summer and then ghosted me. I was on a dating site since and started talking to a girl, when I told her what I do as my daytime job, she kinda stopped talking to me. 😂 I kinda stopped pursuing women since then.
I wonder if men go for woman who like them or they like for example are they going for the fake great looking woman “the 10” that amillion guys go after and ignoring the chubby gamer girl “ the 5 “ that’s been buying you chocolates and saying hello every morning as a way of flirting because she doesn’t have “that look “
Nah those girls will cheat and have outrageous egos also I’ve dated the nerdy 5 and just not super attractive women the thing is she will still get a lot desperate simps hitting on her so she will always think she can do better and still monkey branch it’s honestly just not worth it they just do it to hurt you and I honestly think they have some type of cheating fetish like it boosts their self esteem or something when they cheat on you so yeah it’s a loss either way
Do not ask what you can do for women, ask what the women can do for you? 😂 What is the answer to that? Women wouldn’t even do the bare minimum to make your life easier.
In case the hair situation bothers you, may start using finasterid, you could just quarter the 1mg tablets that you typically get prescripted and just take 0,25mg a day instead, which will have 80 percent of the same positive effect (there is studys about this) but almost no side effects, plus another bonus it will be 4 times cheaper also. and if you just have receding hairline in the edges in my opinion you are a good candidate for fue hair transplant. i did mine in turkey but i started way to late and i also have hairloss pattern that covers my whole top and i would require 2 more sessions plus a micropigmentation to get the result i would be truly happy with (but i only got donor hair left for one more session because i was waiting to long with fin, to skeptical about taking 1mg when i should have just start taking only 0,25mg ten years earlier) i seen several other patients in the clinic i was in turkey that also just had done both edges (like your case) and the results will typically be decent because they can really put more density concentraded in those two "smaller" areas compared to cases like mine. also its probably affordable for you if you already spent 250 usd for 3scort in the past. it probably will cost you 2k usd at an very decent established clinic (incl 3 days hotel) just puls the cost of the flight
Sad I don’t trust women either, 😢 they get ran trough then think we should be happy we’re dating them😅 crazy
I resonate with all the points you made man, everything seems artificial at this point, especially human interaction. it does get really boring, so much so that it feels futile to even try and even conversate with a human nowadays
Dude I turn 29 and omg I thought I was only one feeling this lonely and depressed I understand it piss me off so many fake people even the women in this generation are BS wish I was your friend man.
What Ive found is most of the time they do it because of 2 reasons. She found him attractive but she can't act on it and go out with him because she already has a Man or she finds him attractive but she could be a money chick, also a lot of them are flaking especially today because they have a lot of options from Social Media and Dating Apps so they all delusional and think there is always something better out there.
I’ve started noticing the same thing with friends also now too nothing is genuine anymore if there not benefiting in some way from being your friend they don’t wanna hang out or do anything
Kinda the same. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend and recently on dating apps I got unmatched immediately by 2 girls(One is 19 and the other one is 21) after I asked them out after a decent chat. I also tried asking out 2 girls recently who were in the same school as me. One of them is 19 now and we were chatting on Instagram for a month and I asked her out on last Sunday and she even agreed that we will meet up one day but 6 days ago she blocked me mysteriously for no reason and it hurt me. Then yesterday I asked out another girl who is turning 20 next month and I asked her out very politely for a coffee after chatting with her on Instagram for over 3 weeks but she immediately blocked me after seeing it.
My last hope is my childhood friend now who is 21 now turning 22 after 4 months and I asked her out for a coffee too but she isn't that active on Instagram so still didn't see or reply to my message yet. I hoping for a positive reply this time but I am so worried that what if she rejects me too.
So what happened bro?
It’s ovER
Women are expensive and time consuming thats why i just have them as friends.
Hey brother awesome to see you again. The shaved head suits you mate. I was looking forward to an update from you.
Yeah I know what you mean about fakeness. I've been in a similar position to your friend you were talking about. When I was 20 I was working with a girl I was attracted to. I felt she was being flirtatious, touching me constantly, teasing me, laughing with me etc. I took a chance and decided to ask her out. I took my shot but she said no. After that she went totally cold towards me all the way up until I finished nearly 3 years later. It was awkward and I was incredibly hurt because I thought I had a chance but I guess not. I don't hold anything against her and I don't regret at least being honest and telling her but it is what it is. I don't know if she was being fake or if I just misinterpreted her. I can't tell if a girl is showing genuine interest or just being friendly or hitting on me as a joke I really don't know. Ever since then I feel bad if a girl is flirty to me because I feel like they're just being kind or joking.
Yeah bro, it's lonely. I felt absolutely shit on valentines day. I'm nearly 30 now and I've never had anything other than 2 dates where nothing happened. Makes me feel sad so I really dunno. I'm just going to try and improve my body, work and try and meet more people.
Thanks for the update bro I love all your videos. I appreciate you being real and straight up I relate a lot to you.
I hope things get better for u, most women seem to be fake these days I blame social media that’s why I’m still single myself it does get lonely tho
Hi, Ben.
First of all, great video and I always appreciate your unfiltered honesty when talking about your experiences.
When it comes to women, not all of them are the same but I know the exact type you are taking about in this video. The experiences you are talking about reminds me of my ex-girlfriend back in 2005-2006. When we first dated, she was very nice and, despite not being the best looking girl I have dated, she had a good personality and was smart. She later invited me to her final ball at her all women’s university and that was a big deal because no girl invited you unless they were interested.
I came to find out in a hurray how jealous her roommates were as none of them had dates. Long story short, things felt different between us and I never knew why until I realized that her friends were encouraging her to dump me.
My brother lived in the same city as her and I remember visiting him. I wanted to see if she would be interested in meeting up so I called her at 9:30am to see if she would be interested in going for a coffee. She lied to me and said she was sick but I didn’t hold it against her until I found out later.
When I came back to my family home, I received a message from her telling me that “she was not that interested in me” and I seriously felt led on by her. This was back in the days of MSN messenger and I see her post a caption which said “Ceeps tonight” which is a local bar in her area. I felt hurt, disrespected, and betrayed and I held onto that feeling for at least 6 months.
During that whole ordeal, I had a talk with a good friend of mine who gave me the best advice. He said to me to not wish her any ill will but to take the high road and wish her the best. He said to me that if paths are ever to cross again, then you will know what to do.
About 3 years later, I was at a summer concert and I kept on hearing a woman call my name. It turns out it was her and I did walk over to her. By that time, I no longer had any feelings for her and she was more interested in talking about my life than hers. I later found out she was doing the same job she was working at while attending university and she was looking for a husband so “she can retire.” I used to think she just joked about that but then I came to realize that she was dead serious. I had more going on in my life than her and I felt I got closure telling her of my achievements and the fact I lost interest in her because she was easily swayed by her friends and groupthink in general. I did find out that she did marry someone closer to home but I certainly don’t envy her or the person she is now with in marriage.
I was single for a long time, 14 years to be exact Ben, after dealing with her and I had a lot of trust issues with certain people. During the pandemic, I reconnected with a wonderful woman who is now my girlfriend. She is my perfect match and, despite the distance, we are making it work and plan to get married in the future.
I truly believe that what is meant for you will come your way. Things fail so that better things are able to come together. I would just keep in mind that all women are different just like people in general. Red flags to always avoid are the histrionic, melodramatic, and insincere types. If a person lies to you, then that means they don’t respect you and are not worthy of your trust. I think you will eventually find someone, Ben. Take the time to explore the world and know that there is a vast variety of options for you if you are willing to explore it. My girlfriend is American so you never know who you will encounter on your travels in life. Most of the time the best things happen when you are not even looking for them.
I hope this gives you a perspective on what is possible because I know you will eventually find someone worthy of your trust and respect because they will act on it and not preach it.
Great discussion! I love your real talk. 👍🏻 💙
Read your whole comment glad u were able to move on and be the bigger person, i do agree that not every women is like this but it seems to be the majority these days. I’m Happy to know you found someone special
@@komori201 You will too, Ben. I genuinely believe that. May not be immediate but it will happen when you least expect it.
Happy for you man. Thanks for sharing your story it gives us hope.
It is good hearing from you. The new look suits you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I get the feeling you're a hell of a driver
Dude your videos are awesome. Agree with pretty much everything you say. It’s exactly the same here in the UK
I don't trust women either , for the part you said you don't like being lonely , why not have healthy normal friends it doesn't matter the age old or young just have healthy friends to talk to and interact to it has 0 risk of heartbreak and you will never be alone from that.
You just spoke my thoughts
its like i am looking at myself 4 years from now
The more authentic and for real you are, the faster they run away.
And today you have a very high chance of getting together with a narcopath. Not worth it at all.
As a gay guy, it's even more difficult trying to find love. Sometimes I feel like giving up, but this little bit of hope keeps me going. Otherwise, I'd be dead by now. But yeah, life is so depressing having no social life and no romantic partner 😭
Don't mess around with women at work. It's not worth it.
She just wanted to be his work-wife. She's got other guys for the slam-bang action.
Now he'll be forced to be around her and he'll have to put up with whatever stupid shyte she invents inside her head about the situation - with no way to escape except quit.
4:53 They were always like this but in the past girls were forced to pretend they wanted other things besides a transactional relationship. Girls no longer have to put on the facade. Consider it a huge time saver!
Hey brother. You doing OK? Would love to see another update from you. Love your stuff.
After getting my job i will start posting like you.
The insane thing is you don't look bad, but these whamen want way too much nowadays. Apparently men under 6 feet are not men and deserve to be deleted from reality.
I get dumped for Chad within 1.5 years or less and this has happened 3 times with every girlfriend. They will drop you so fast and all that history for a chance at Chad. They lie and monkey branch. They become cruel at the end and kill any past memories you could have held onto. I would have been better never having met them and staying an incel. Alone sucks too.
My last fling used me for sex over summer and then ghosted me. I was on a dating site since and started talking to a girl, when I told her what I do as my daytime job, she kinda stopped talking to me. 😂 I kinda stopped pursuing women since then.
06:35 truth is.. we've been lied to by the likes of disney. Ours is a generation of men that have been betrayed.
Get your passport man, you won’t regret it.
Your cobber level has risen.
😎
Bratko, Have you thought about dating a +45yo chick or something? ;)
From the pre-internet era...
I wonder if men go for woman who like them or they like for example are they going for the fake great looking woman “the 10” that amillion guys go after and ignoring the chubby gamer girl “ the 5 “ that’s been buying you chocolates and saying hello every morning as a way of flirting because she doesn’t have “that look “
you act like chubby women dont have 10 simp orbiters at all times.
Men go after women who they find attractive and women do the same thing not complicated
That 5 has high standards too you know lol. The dating market is horrible.
Nah those girls will cheat and have outrageous egos also I’ve dated the nerdy 5 and just not super attractive women the thing is she will still get a lot desperate simps hitting on her so she will always think she can do better and still monkey branch it’s honestly just not worth it they just do it to hurt you and I honestly think they have some type of cheating fetish like it boosts their self esteem or something when they cheat on you so yeah it’s a loss either way
Do not ask what you can do for women, ask what the women can do for you? 😂 What is the answer to that? Women wouldn’t even do the bare minimum to make your life easier.
How have you been lately ben.
Doing well new video coming this week
Cool i look forward to watching it@@komori201
W video
Bro you a full time truckie now? Love your videos man
Thanks dude!
In case the hair situation bothers you, may start using finasterid, you could just quarter the 1mg tablets that you typically get prescripted and just take 0,25mg a day instead, which will have 80 percent of the same positive effect (there is studys about this) but almost no side effects, plus another bonus it will be 4 times cheaper also. and if you just have receding hairline in the edges in my opinion you are a good candidate for fue hair transplant. i did mine in turkey but i started way to late and i also have hairloss pattern that covers my whole top and i would require 2 more sessions plus a micropigmentation to get the result i would be truly happy with (but i only got donor hair left for one more session because i was waiting to long with fin, to skeptical about taking 1mg when i should have just start taking only 0,25mg ten years earlier) i seen several other patients in the clinic i was in turkey that also just had done both edges (like your case) and the results will typically be decent because they can really put more density concentraded in those two "smaller" areas compared to cases like mine. also its probably affordable for you if you already spent 250 usd for 3scort in the past. it probably will cost you 2k usd at an very decent established clinic (incl 3 days hotel) just puls the cost of the flight