Lol! Exactly! Narcissists watch these videos for tips on how to up their player game.😂 Best advice is to strengthen your intuition, listen to your gut, take care of yourself, dont overshare, focus on making yourself the best version of yourself ( regardless of a relationship, you want to maximize your life cuZ you only get one), keep your options ( ALL of them) open and watch their behavior in EVERY way, over time. Do NOT open up until THEY start to share substantive things about themselves. There are a LOT of males who are immature , dysfunctional players who have serious game. Stay independent and grow while keeping eye open for the needle in a haystack guy who may be worth investing in. Watch how they live their own life too. If they are trying to be the best version of themselves, there MAY be hope.😂 Good luck
I get where you're coming from. But, guys like me, raised with southern values, do these things for women because it's who we are and how we were raised. Us having romantic interest in a woman doesn't dictate that behavior. That behavior is shown because that's how you treat women regardless. However, you're right, it's not a regular thing in this generation. So, a woman experiencing that, when it's so rare, it's understandable that she could take those chivalrous acts as meaning more.
I don’t ever assume a man is interested in me by his actions. I will start to wonder but unless he flat out tells me, regardless of how flirtatious he is, chivalrous, or checks me out, I’ll assume it’s all in my head. Too many men do all this but rarely go any further.
I think its helpful for a lady to know that you do that for everyone and she is not special if chivalry is more of a kind gesture rather than showing attentiveness and interest. When chivalry was more common, I believe the gesture had more interest and meaning associated with it as opposed to just being something you do.
Thank you for saying this Nathan. This prince charming I've waited for my whole life did every chivalrous thing I never thought I'd experience... But it was just for sex. And he's gone now. It is so confusing, but I've accepted it now. Thank you for the clarity of 'the exception'.
Personally, I expect if I am walking up to a door, closed or open, and a Man is approaching, he needs to get ahead of me and open that door. Chances are, I gave him a signal by glancing over at him as I continue to walk toward that door, If I get there first, I stop and Allow him to open the door for me. So Men will even say " don't touch that handle" and I smile and wait for it. Yes! Chivalry is still alive! I always thank them, of course! 🧡💚❤
Joy that isn't true I have had 2men I was in serious relationships with and they always opened the door for me this was even in marriage. I don't like the negativity against men that is pushed at times it doesn't promote a healthy mindset for dating or finding love.
@@dogodivaamorfati7190 I'm not talking about that. I'm simply saying there is a difference between a person doing something because you want them to, and it being in their heart to do. Your point has nothing to do with what I said. If a person is doing something because we want them to, how will we take it when they no longer want to?
@@dogodivaamorfati7190 it promotes reality lol. No but truthfully the man I was with was never chivalrous even in the beginning. So of course later on he never became that way.
If women don’t expect their men to be chivalrous and make it a requirement to date them; it won’t happen. Women need to realize we have that power BUT must be willing to walk away if not receiving it which is the problem; most won’t walk away!
It's sad that many women haven't received genuine chivalry or being a "gentleman". Many think it's short lived, but observation is an IMPORTANT part of building a relationship. Look at how he treats elders, wait staff, children, cashiers, or anyone doing your dating encounters. Take notes!
When we’re walking he makes way for me to walk in front every time, so cute and more. My son 26 opens the car door for me to get in the car and see him do it for his girlfriend. Chivalry 🙏🏾
If a man keep on hiding it means he really don't want to be with you so stop waisting your time this is the lesson I have learned to stop trusting any man and stop waisting time just enjoy and stay single forever
This is only half-true. If you keep putting yourself in situations where it's hard to do anything with you or it might be embarrassing, and if he's not a very direct guy; then he won't do anything at all. But at the same time if it's been a long time and he still holds back, then either he went through something in the past and he's seeing false red flags or he really isn't interested.
King of Elfland I also been through a lot of pain and brokenhearted but I keep on still keep on searching for someone to love and if those man will going to keep on dealing about their past red flags relationship and will just going to keep on hurting other woman because they been hurt they can't never find the right woman who can love them and I know because of those man that even how much I tried to communicate in good way they still will make bad things to make me discourage they don't even know how to show respect so why waist time
My guy friend recently sent me flowers for my birthday. He’s away overseas for a year. I told him that I never received flowers from anyone and I was surprised when I he sent me red roses on my special day and so happy
@@Eddybo22 Sounds like a cop-out. When is the Male species going to take more accountability? Of course there are great men out there and I applaud and respect them. But let's be honest, too many males failled good women & refused to ne Christ-like & change, and that's why the world is where it's at today.
@@SpiritualLifeCoach43 a cop out? Perhaps that is your point of view. Women have been equally not been held accountable for the things they do especially in light of the feminism movement. They get away with many things that men would never get away with. Both sides need to make change but to ignore what women do and put it on men and accountability is equally a cop out.
@@Eddybo22 I agree women need to make changes too. I seen more positive changes in women by far in comparison to males. I just feel the men are supposed to be leaders and most women were let down. So they had to be mom and dad and independent. Men should ask why did the feminist movement really begin. I'm talking about the real reasons. Why did women opt for independence? The real questions and real reasons need to be addressed. I applaud all of the women that had to be super strong on our own. It's hard. With God all is possible. God is exposing the narcissist and jezebels. And there will be justice for the innocent and consequences and judgement for the wicked. Just watch.
I’m older, (67), and just started dating again a few months ago. Recently dating a man that is doing those things, opening the car door, and pulling my chair out at the restaurant..WOW…I’m loving it!!
Thank you for this message. I learned the hard way that not expressing my true feelings can be a issue. I'm now more open and honest with the people I care for. It was not easy for me, but it helps so much. Clarity has saved me time and released stress. I have peace now and it feels amazing. 🙏🏽
My ex was chivalrous but found out he had bout 5 side chicks. I think he practiced tht chivalry behavior to throw me off his cheating scent… it still didn’t work, I’m too intuitive!! 😂
It really is an eye opener when the man I am in love with has done this for me and I never thought this was what someone does when they are into you. Everything I am learning from your videos is showing how blind I was to his love and loyalty to me.
I was raised by women and etiquettes and a person with class then you know what to expect from a man or woman, because if he doesn't know, and some don't . Then I, myself will help him to understand how I should be treated. I believe that they will have more respect and would love knowing that there're doing the right thing by you if they enjoying sending time with you , but for me I have always shown the class about myself and how you present yourself. Try to make him comfortable and want to enjoy the moment together ❤️
My last ex wasn't chivalrous. He never carried my bag, opened the door, pick me up for our dates etc. My current boyfriend is protective and chivalrous towards me. You are absolutely right on this one: it's a man's nature to be chivalrous to the woman he is into with
This is exactly what I am seeing. My two previous ex's would barely do anything and my current boyfriend always asks if he can carry my things, he fixes my car, he walks on the outside and is protective.
Narcissist come in all forms…. Everything you said he did, and when it was everything it was Great . Once he got me he threw everything back at me constantly and then tried to control me and play victim ….
My platonic guy friend always puts me on the inside away from traffic when walking and opens all doors .I think it's just being a good friend because I am definitely not his type ( he likes the Kelly Rowland , Lauren London, Keri Hilson slender built girls 🤣)
Kay Jack your description of his type is the physical appearance. You my sister may have captivated him with your inner beauty, why because you might be acting all natural knowing your not his type, and in that circumstance he is able to see the real you.... l also say id you believe in Miracles, God has plenty all you got to is do; knock abd the door shall be open, ask ask and you will recieve, seek and you shall find.....All.the best.
I hate to say this but when a men is fed up with the women he chooses to deal with will sometimes not open up when he get a good women because he still healing from the past. He be a good dude but in the end if can't vent to women he's interested in. It easy to lose a good dude in interest who have the passion and love to give. So distance and that "playing it safe mode" will lose anyone interest to date. Listen to his heart not his mind. Vice-versa. I quote ("Same visual but not the same value")
Wow! A lot of the things you said I can definitely relate. I'm attracted to a gentleman and I'm just going to be down right Honest. I don't know what to do! What you are saying is dead on point. Me and this gentleman do seem to be two different people all together, but I'm willing to give this a chance. Hopefully your reading this comment right now and you can meet me halfway. No games, can we just be our authentic selfs to one another and I think we'll like the outcome. Can we just take a chance and be real with one another. I'm down if you are and I think you know exactly who you are.... can the game playing be over with please. If I'm willing to try hopefully you are too and maybe we can meet in the middle we've wasted enough time don't you think?
We work together he's my boss ! but he's leaving and I said to him, perhaps when you get your new job we could go for a drink ? He said Yes that would be fun... I"m not going to hold my breath I told him this along time ago... and he just talked to me again about it.
S-P-O-T on. This exact same scenario ruined a 21 year old friendship because my male friend was NEVER EVER CLEAR. I believe that grave decision will haunt him for life.
Interesting🤔 For me to be thrown and deeply respect a man.... I have to be blown away by his good character not a "man-child." I need to see strong confidence and sweetness. How can you respect a man who is insecure, intimidated and shy. He is the hunter so speak and initiate respecful movements. I'm only interested in a real gentleman: a King. So that would never work for me. I'm not raising a man-child. A male like that needs more time to strengthen his character.
Feminism killed it. When many woman go about screaming from the high heavens "We don't need men", "Men ain't worth our time" , "Boss babes", "I can do all bad by myself", illogical demands of women from here to Kazakhstan even if they don't deserve it, well where does being a gentleman factor into that equation?
thanks 👍🏼 for the video 💜 I say it all the time, just communicate with me, because communicate is best to know where you stand in a relationship or friendship. period. thanks again for a great video 🤝🏼💜
I wonder if the wife intuitively picked up on their feelings for eachother, saw his bestfriend as conpetition and felt she won by marrying him. That’s a sad situation.🙏🏽
I think its important to also recognize if a man wants you to open up and encourages it--- if he is encouraging it from others also, if he needs the attention from multiple people. I get confused in those situations. Some men were raised to behave a certain way, but as some have pointed out it does not mean the lady is special because they do that for everyone. I think it is rarer these days and even though I am a very capable lady appreciate the chivalry also. I think the meaning here is doing "extra" then what a person would normally do for everyone. If you do things that are unique and attentive to a lady that you don't do for others it helps if you share that with the lady.
You know what is really confusing about that story…hypothetically speaking, why would I think my best friend who clearly has the courage to express to another woman his interest and then even propose to make a life long commitment to another woman, would be scared to even tell me he likes me…the woman he is supposed best friends w, so clearly has some comfort around…thats weird to me. If he was an all around shy guy that was scared to approach women I might understand more. But thats just weird.
Do a video on breadcrumbing and why he texts from 100 numbers after you’ve blocked him. Wth?! I need to change my number. And keep blocking And a video on gaslighting and abusive men please so we are aware of signs
Last time I was in that kind of situation (it was not a date but as a lady and was the younger one...) I stop before the door and wait for the gentleman to open it. If he doesn't move, no one is gonna move :D Ladies, try this, you'll be fixed.
As long as you say "Thank You" when the door is opened it actually encourages the man to continue with that as well. Too many women want the door open but can't even say a simple thank you or worse yet given attitude when it is done. That is what the real problem is.
@@Eddybo22 of course, respect goes in both sense 🌹. But in this situation, I wait because I was walking before him and it was an appointment. It would have been rude to open the door by myself and run away from his office. Subtility.
@@Freeasabirdnow that's understandable. I do my best to open doors but I do find it irritating when a simple thank you is not mentioned and attitude is added to it as well especially from women of colour but then again I also have to factor in generations as well. Courtesy goes a long way as you said.
@@Eddybo22 try not taking it personally. Some take it for granted and some just don't have this courtesy in their blood, most have forgotten, some are not polite, some don't want because they are strong women who don't need to be pleased... Well, that are different beliefs systems.
My guy friend does all of this compliments me and buys gifts. But when I asked if he's interested in me he said no but he can't consider me just a friend because he treats me better than his other lady friends. So anyways still confused
Remember, he told you he’s NOT interested in you! He’s keeping you on the shelf out of boredom/loneliness until he finds someone he IS interested in. Then, that’ll all stop because, unless he’s very wealthy, he can’t maintain gifts for both of you and the new interest won’t take his engagement with you lightly.
As a guy, this is probably an ego thing. He feels good treating you as more than a friend and he probably knows you're confused. He's just trying to get validation, but he's not really interested.
I’m in the same boat, this guy calls me every night, msgs through out the days, plans dates pays for everything but says he’s isn’t ready for a relationship but acts very relationshipy. Should I just slowly cut him off ? It’s been 3 months
At Nolimit Kk, you're worth so much more than that. Set clear boundaries and continue if you wish as friends only. If he can't respect that, he's not worthy of your company in any capacity. Save yourself while you can and good luck 😉
He better not. That's her fault. She should have brought this up way before especially when she knew he was going to engage said woman. That would have saved all of this from happening. Yes the guy should have said something too but he probably figured she didn't want him like that and that is why he went off with someone else.
But this is why dating is phony. If you hold open the door for some women and somebody means it's not a core value. Why is holding the door for a date and not a friend?
What does the priest say????? If anyone has a reason why these 2 should not be joined together SPEAK NOW or FOREVER HOLD UR PEACE” THAT GIRL UPSET WROTE TO YOU? I hope u told her to leave him alone!
So many youtube channels about how a man thinks, how man this, how man that. It is a fact that men r big players and not sincere. Im tired of them bullshit.
I am taking this advice with a grain of salt. Especially after the Derek Jaxn scandal, and the fact that Stefan is not married or doesn’t seem to be involved with anyone. Let me just put that up on the table.
WOW I AM DISAPPOINTED IN YOU Stephen she is ur friend but she’s Not a Man. Hold the door open you are a huge man. Just my fathers generation my Dad held the door open for a woman or other women besides me & my mom. Why? MY FATHER WAS A GENTLEMAN- He was a MARINE better than an ordinary guy
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A narcissist will go above and beyond and still not love you.
True. One thing about a narcissist, eventually they slip.
So freaking true, I just found this out. Narcissistic men will utterly have ya ass confused.
I was searching for this comment… exactly
Lol! Exactly! Narcissists watch these videos for tips on how to up their player game.😂
Best advice is to strengthen your intuition, listen to your gut, take care of yourself, dont overshare, focus on making yourself the best version of yourself ( regardless of a relationship, you want to maximize your life cuZ you only get one), keep your options ( ALL of them) open and watch their behavior in EVERY way, over time. Do NOT open up until THEY start to share substantive things about themselves. There are a LOT of males who are immature , dysfunctional players who have serious game. Stay independent and grow while keeping eye open for the needle in a haystack guy who may be worth investing in.
Watch how they live their own life too. If they are trying to be the best version of themselves, there MAY be hope.😂 Good luck
True. My ex-husband.... enough said.
I get where you're coming from. But, guys like me, raised with southern values, do these things for women because it's who we are and how we were raised. Us having romantic interest in a woman doesn't dictate that behavior. That behavior is shown because that's how you treat women regardless. However, you're right, it's not a regular thing in this generation. So, a woman experiencing that, when it's so rare, it's understandable that she could take those chivalrous acts as meaning more.
I don’t ever assume a man is interested in me by his actions. I will start to wonder but unless he flat out tells me, regardless of how flirtatious he is, chivalrous, or checks me out, I’ll assume it’s all in my head. Too many men do all this but rarely go any further.
I think its helpful for a lady to know that you do that for everyone and she is not special if chivalry is more of a kind gesture rather than showing attentiveness and interest. When chivalry was more common, I believe the gesture had more interest and meaning associated with it as opposed to just being something you do.
That’s how my uncle raised me so I know those are basics but now shits are backward
Men raised in the South…. 🥰
Thank you for saying this Nathan.
This prince charming I've waited for my whole life did every chivalrous thing I never thought I'd experience...
But it was just for sex.
And he's gone now.
It is so confusing, but I've accepted it now.
Thank you for the clarity of 'the exception'.
Personally, I expect if I am walking up to a door, closed or open, and a Man is approaching, he needs to get ahead of me and open that door. Chances are, I gave him a signal by glancing over at him as I continue to walk toward that door, If I get there first, I stop and Allow him to open the door for me. So Men will even say " don't touch that handle" and I smile and wait for it. Yes! Chivalry is still alive! I always thank them, of course! 🧡💚❤
And even if he does it to impress you, he probably won't continue because it wasn't part of him anyway.
Yup
Or jus doing extra cause he wants extra. 🤷🏾
Joy that isn't true I have had 2men I was in serious relationships with and they always opened the door for me this was even in marriage. I don't like the negativity against men that is pushed at times it doesn't promote a healthy mindset for dating or finding love.
@@dogodivaamorfati7190 I better stand up gworl 🎉
@@dogodivaamorfati7190 I'm not talking about that. I'm simply saying there is a difference between a person doing something because you want them to, and it being in their heart to do. Your point has nothing to do with what I said. If a person is doing something because we want them to, how will we take it when they no longer want to?
@@dogodivaamorfati7190 it promotes reality lol. No but truthfully the man I was with was never chivalrous even in the beginning. So of course later on he never became that way.
If women don’t expect their men to be chivalrous and make it a requirement to date them; it won’t happen. Women need to realize we have that power BUT must be willing to walk away if not receiving it which is the problem; most won’t walk away!
It's sad that many women haven't received genuine chivalry or being a "gentleman". Many think it's short lived, but observation is an IMPORTANT part of building a relationship. Look at how he treats elders, wait staff, children, cashiers, or anyone doing your dating encounters. Take notes!
Yes I agree!
There's a lot of crazy man without respect it's to hard to trust anyone anymore
When we’re walking he makes way for me to walk in front every time, so cute and more. My son 26 opens the car door for me to get in the car and see him do it for his girlfriend. Chivalry 🙏🏾
If a man keep on hiding it means he really don't want to be with you so stop waisting your time this is the lesson I have learned to stop trusting any man and stop waisting time just enjoy and stay single forever
This is only half-true. If you keep putting yourself in situations where it's hard to do anything with you or it might be embarrassing, and if he's not a very direct guy; then he won't do anything at all. But at the same time if it's been a long time and he still holds back, then either he went through something in the past and he's seeing false red flags or he really isn't interested.
Well dang… forever lol. But yeah I’m at that point too.
true that 💜
King of Elfland I also been through a lot of pain and brokenhearted but I keep on still keep on searching for someone to love and if those man will going to keep on dealing about their past red flags relationship and will just going to keep on hurting other woman because they been hurt they can't never find the right woman who can love them and I know because of those man that even how much I tried to communicate in good way they still will make bad things to make me discourage they don't even know how to show respect so why waist time
Being a girlfriend is a scam
My guy friend recently sent me flowers for my birthday. He’s away overseas for a year. I told him that I never received flowers from anyone and I was surprised when I he sent me red roses on my special day and so happy
Girl he sounds like a good one! Go for it👍 💖
He’s away for a year … what about while he’s away? He will be sleeping with other women. Think about it
That’s really sweet he listened and took the opportunity to make you smile. ❤
Chivalry is a dying concept...just like loyalty
Not for the real and good ones.
Well it still exists but the "Boss babes" , "Don't need a man" type of women killed it for the most part.
@@Eddybo22 Sounds like a cop-out. When is the Male species going to take more accountability? Of course there are great men out there and I applaud and respect them. But let's be honest, too many males failled good women & refused to ne Christ-like & change, and that's why the world is where it's at today.
@@SpiritualLifeCoach43 a cop out? Perhaps that is your point of view. Women have been equally not been held accountable for the things they do especially in light of the feminism movement. They get away with many things that men would never get away with. Both sides need to make change but to ignore what women do and put it on men and accountability is equally a cop out.
@@Eddybo22 I agree women need to make changes too. I seen more positive changes in women by far in comparison to males. I just feel the men are supposed to be leaders and most women were let down. So they had to be mom and dad and independent. Men should ask why did the feminist movement really begin. I'm talking about the real reasons. Why did women opt for independence? The real questions and real reasons need to be addressed. I applaud all of the women that had to be super strong on our own. It's hard. With God all is possible. God is exposing the narcissist and jezebels. And there will be justice for the innocent and consequences and judgement for the wicked. Just watch.
I’m older, (67), and just started dating again a few months ago. Recently dating a man that is doing those things, opening the car door, and pulling my chair out at the restaurant..WOW…I’m loving it!!
Chivalry can come with ulterior motives and slowly lessen after a man receives what he wants if his intentions weren’t pure to begin with.
This is exactly why it is important to make them wait for the goodies until marriage.
If he likes you so much... then how can he go so long without contacting you...
A day, two days, 3 days...
But he's oh soooo into me.
You have a point
He's not that interested.
Thank you for this message. I learned the hard way that not expressing my true feelings can be a issue. I'm now more open and honest with the people I care for. It was not easy for me, but it helps so much. Clarity has saved me time and released stress. I have peace now and it feels amazing. 🙏🏽
My ex was chivalrous but found out he had bout 5 side chicks. I think he practiced tht chivalry behavior to throw me off his cheating scent… it still didn’t work, I’m too intuitive!! 😂
It really is an eye opener when the man I am in love with has done this for me and I never thought this was what someone does when they are into you. Everything I am learning from your videos is showing how blind I was to his love and loyalty to me.
My ex did all of this and still cheated on me 🤣🤣
I was raised by women and etiquettes and a person with class then you know what to expect from a man or woman, because if he doesn't know, and some don't . Then I, myself will help him to understand how I should be treated. I believe that they will have more respect and would love knowing that there're doing the right thing by you if they enjoying sending time with you , but for me I have always shown the class about myself and how you present yourself. Try to make him comfortable and want to enjoy the moment together ❤️
I want an encouraging man ❤ who is forthcoming and transparent because I am myself open as a female.
My last ex wasn't chivalrous. He never carried my bag, opened the door, pick me up for our dates etc.
My current boyfriend is protective and chivalrous towards me. You are absolutely right on this one: it's a man's nature to be chivalrous to the woman he is into with
That's very sweet of your current bf. He's a keeper ☺️
This is exactly what I am seeing. My two previous ex's would barely do anything and my current boyfriend always asks if he can carry my things, he fixes my car, he walks on the outside and is protective.
Narcissist come in all forms…. Everything you said he did, and when it was everything it was Great . Once he got me he threw everything back at me constantly and then tried to control me and play victim ….
I've got no idea how to be Chivalry, I can learn it if the lady deserve it...
My platonic guy friend always puts me on the inside away from traffic when walking and opens all doors .I think it's just being a good friend because I am definitely not his type ( he likes the Kelly Rowland , Lauren London, Keri Hilson slender built girls 🤣)
Kay Jack your description of his type is the physical appearance. You my sister may have captivated him with your inner beauty, why because you might be acting all natural knowing your not his type, and in that circumstance he is able to see the real you.... l also say id you believe in Miracles, God has plenty all you got to is do; knock abd the door shall be open, ask ask and you will recieve, seek and you shall find.....All.the best.
I agree with the sentiments below. Don’t count yourself out until God says it’s over…
Oooh you're speaking my language Sir, when comes to chivalry.💞😊💞 As far as I'm concerned, it has never been dead.
I hate to say this but when a men is fed up with the women he chooses to deal with will sometimes not open up when he get a good women because he still healing from the past. He be a good dude but in the end if can't vent to women he's interested in. It easy to lose a good dude in interest who have the passion and love to give. So distance and that "playing it safe mode" will lose anyone interest to date. Listen to his heart not his mind. Vice-versa. I quote ("Same visual but not the same value")
Wow! A lot of the things you said I can definitely relate. I'm attracted to a gentleman and I'm just going to be down right Honest. I don't know what to do! What you are saying is dead on point. Me and this gentleman do seem to be two different people all together, but I'm willing to give this a chance. Hopefully your reading this comment right now and you can meet me halfway. No games, can we just be our authentic selfs to one another and I think we'll like the outcome. Can we just take a chance and be real with one another. I'm down if you are and I think you know exactly who you are.... can the game playing be over with please. If I'm willing to try hopefully you are too and maybe we can meet in the middle we've wasted enough time don't you think?
It’s to late😢 …. I wish I had opened up an told someone how I truly felt… always a pleasure listening to your videos
Aw 😔hope next relationships works
Live and learn.
We work together he's my boss ! but he's leaving and I said to him, perhaps when you get your new job we could go for a drink ? He said Yes that would be fun... I"m not going to hold my breath I told him this along time ago... and he just talked to me again about it.
Do you have any videos discussing why are we (women) are not attracted to good guys that are really interested in us?
Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George says “God bless you” to someone’s wife sneezing and creates the whole marital problem 😅
Loving your book Stephan, learning and reflecting about myself.
Being a gentleman should never lapse from a man's consciousness irrespective of his level of interest in a woman.
S-P-O-T on. This exact same scenario ruined a 21 year old friendship because my male friend was NEVER EVER CLEAR. I believe that grave decision will haunt him for life.
Please do more videos on examples on the stories on confusion etc where people didn’t communicate so we can do this more with others.
Interesting🤔 For me to be thrown and deeply respect a man.... I have to be blown away by his good character not a "man-child." I need to see strong confidence and sweetness. How can you respect a man who is insecure, intimidated and shy. He is the hunter so speak and initiate respecful movements. I'm only interested in a real gentleman: a King. So that would never work for me. I'm not raising a man-child. A male like that needs more time to strengthen his character.
Oh my goodness, this video makes my heart melt, because it's SO true !! 💯🔥🎙🙏
Nobody:
Stephan: “You-See-am-sane” 0:58
I LoVE TO HEAR IT😂
What happened just being a gentleman. Doesn’t who the family is. It’s proper period!
Feminism killed it. When many woman go about screaming from the high heavens "We don't need men", "Men ain't worth our time" , "Boss babes", "I can do all bad by myself", illogical demands of women from here to Kazakhstan even if they don't deserve it, well where does being a gentleman factor into that equation?
thanks 👍🏼 for the video 💜 I say it all the time, just communicate with me, because communicate is best to know where you stand in a relationship or friendship. period. thanks again for a great video 🤝🏼💜
I wonder if the wife intuitively picked up on their feelings for eachother, saw his bestfriend as conpetition and felt she won by marrying him. That’s a sad situation.🙏🏽
Wise advice, just wish I had the guts to follow it!
I’ve gone out w/guys n all of them do all of that for me, but they are my friends.
I think its important to also recognize if a man wants you to open up and encourages it--- if he is encouraging it from others also, if he needs the attention from multiple people. I get confused in those situations. Some men were raised to behave a certain way, but as some have pointed out it does not mean the lady is special because they do that for everyone. I think it is rarer these days and even though I am a very capable lady appreciate the chivalry also. I think the meaning here is doing "extra" then what a person would normally do for everyone. If you do things that are unique and attentive to a lady that you don't do for others it helps if you share that with the lady.
Oh no. Nope. Nah.
Too much time and misunderstanding. Won't risk my most important friendship. I just can't. 😢
Thank U hun. I just got the answer I needed.
what if he does that for every woman? not just for me
He was raised right.. with manners!
Exactly
You know what is really confusing about that story…hypothetically speaking, why would I think my best friend who clearly has the courage to express to another woman his interest and then even propose to make a life long commitment to another woman, would be scared to even tell me he likes me…the woman he is supposed best friends w, so clearly has some comfort around…thats weird to me. If he was an all around shy guy that was scared to approach women I might understand more. But thats just weird.
Do a video on breadcrumbing and why he texts from 100 numbers after you’ve blocked him. Wth?! I need to change my number. And keep blocking
And a video on gaslighting and abusive men please so we are aware of signs
Can a guy like two females friends, and talk to get to know them and see which one is the one for him? Is that acceptable? Normal?
Last time I was in that kind of situation (it was not a date but as a lady and was the younger one...) I stop before the door and wait for the gentleman to open it. If he doesn't move, no one is gonna move :D
Ladies, try this, you'll be fixed.
As long as you say "Thank You" when the door is opened it actually encourages the man to continue with that as well. Too many women want the door open but can't even say a simple thank you or worse yet given attitude when it is done. That is what the real problem is.
@@Eddybo22 of course, respect goes in both sense 🌹.
But in this situation, I wait because I was walking before him and it was an appointment. It would have been rude to open the door by myself and run away from his office.
Subtility.
@@Freeasabirdnow that's understandable. I do my best to open doors but I do find it irritating when a simple thank you is not mentioned and attitude is added to it as well especially from women of colour but then again I also have to factor in generations as well. Courtesy goes a long way as you said.
@@Eddybo22 try not taking it personally. Some take it for granted and some just don't have this courtesy in their blood, most have forgotten, some are not polite, some don't want because they are strong women who don't need to be pleased... Well, that are different beliefs systems.
@@Freeasabirdnow points taken. I'll keep it in mind.
This is cultural, though. For example, in East European culture men will be chivalrous to show respect. It is expected.
Sustainability though? Is it something a man sustains through marriage?
Chivalry is dead or used against you. (at least in my country).
Awesome message. Thanks Stephan.
This really touched my soul🎉🎉🎉
All what you saying is right👍
I like whatever you like 🙏🏾🖤 Stephan🫢
RC I want to experience being treated nicely by a gentleman
My guy friend does all of this compliments me and buys gifts. But when I asked if he's interested in me he said no but he can't consider me just a friend because he treats me better than his other lady friends. So anyways still confused
Remember, he told you he’s NOT interested in you! He’s keeping you on the shelf out of boredom/loneliness until he finds someone he IS interested in. Then, that’ll all stop because, unless he’s very wealthy, he can’t maintain gifts for both of you and the new interest won’t take his engagement with you lightly.
As a guy, this is probably an ego thing. He feels good treating you as more than a friend and he probably knows you're confused. He's just trying to get validation, but he's not really interested.
@@339blaster I agree
I’m in the same boat, this guy calls me every night, msgs through out the days, plans dates pays for everything but says he’s isn’t ready for a relationship but acts very relationshipy. Should I just slowly cut him off ? It’s been 3 months
At Nolimit Kk, you're worth so much more than that. Set clear boundaries and continue if you wish as friends only. If he can't respect that, he's not worthy of your company in any capacity. Save yourself while you can and good luck 😉
So did the Best Friend divorce the wife ? And get with his best Friend ?
He better not. That's her fault. She should have brought this up way before especially when she knew he was going to engage said woman. That would have saved all of this from happening. Yes the guy should have said something too but he probably figured she didn't want him like that and that is why he went off with someone else.
Do you have Caribbean ancestry because that “Nunna dat” sounded a lil Jamaican 😂😂
Some men are so shy and it’s hard to read between the lines 🤔🫥🙄I’ll
Let God handle it ❤❤❤
Shy is incredibly appealing though - to me anyway
Great video ❤
So this mean calling him out on his bs ???
But this is why dating is phony. If you hold open the door for some women and somebody means it's not a core value. Why is holding the door for a date and not a friend?
True!
I wouldn't know that if I don't see him. I ain't seen the man🙄
Your funny af😂
Spot on!
Men who use women to vent and don’t listen to you are so lame. Avoid them ladies. It has to go both ways, give and take actually
I agree with all of it but where are these type of men good grief it seems they are in caves or something.
🗣️🗣️louder for the people in the back sis! Sheesh...it's slim pickins for real!
Dwlllll gurlllllllllllll, don't let me start.
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Amen ❤
All I’m hearing is, don’t trust men with female best friends.
What does the priest say????? If anyone has a reason why these 2 should not be joined together SPEAK NOW or FOREVER HOLD UR PEACE” THAT GIRL UPSET WROTE TO YOU? I hope u told her to leave him alone!
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So many youtube channels about how a man thinks, how man this, how man that. It is a fact that men r big players and not sincere. Im tired of them bullshit.
I am taking this advice with a grain of salt. Especially after the Derek Jaxn scandal, and the fact that Stefan is not married or doesn’t seem to be involved with anyone. Let me just put that up on the table.
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Are you married yet ?!
To me, I wish lol! It’s not really your business I guess? 👀😀
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All men don't know this.
Some men sorry.
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WOW I AM DISAPPOINTED IN YOU Stephen she is ur friend but she’s Not a Man. Hold the door open you are a huge man.
Just my fathers generation my Dad held the door open for a woman or other women besides me & my mom.
Why? MY FATHER WAS A GENTLEMAN- He was a MARINE better than an ordinary guy
Ain’t this man married? Lol what female friends… ? Lol
I have lots of male friends to because its not easy for me to get a long with women.
U have female friends 😣