HOW TO CHOOSE THE PERFECT NANNY | Shenae Grimes Beech and Susan Yara
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- I had to fire my first nanny on my way to film this collab so I decided to nix the other video idea and share this personal story instead! I also got to hear and share Susan Yara's top tips for finding the perfect nanny because through trial and error (and three not-so-perfect nannies), she found her dream nanny and gave this mama some hope and direction moving forward! xo
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HOW TO CHOOSE THE PERFECT NANNY | Shenae Grimes Beech and Susan Yara
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Also if a nanny is sitting on their phone and ignoring the child, that's obviously a red flag. But if they're using their phone to engage the child or parent, or even just to scroll through instagram during nap time, there shouldn't be an issue with that. 99% of the time when I pick up my phone while the kids are awake it's either to 1. take pictures to send to the mom 2. text the mom 3. look up a song that the kids like, educational crafts, or even a recipe to make for / with them. You just never know what they're looking at their phone for when you're at work watching through your cameras. That's why communication is KEY. Don't just sit in silence and get frustrated until it builds up to you firing her, ask her why she's on her phone.
I've been nannying for 8 years, and let me just say it's DEFINITELY like dating.. and not only that but it's just as big of a decision for us nannies as it is for you as a mom. I've turned down families who wanted me simply because I didn't see it being a good match or I didn't really like the parents. Also it really is like being a mother when you're with someone's baby 5 days out of the week, almost 50 hours a week. You never know the amount of love you can have for a child that isn't yours / isn't related to you until you become a nanny! But I think thats the beautiful thing, knowing that your baby is so loved and taken care of.
I ALWAYS lay down my nannying style during an interview because just like you don't want someone parenting your kid in a way you don't agree with, we don't want to parent anyones kid in a manner that WE don't agree with. I don't yell, it's not beneficial. I DON'T hit, that ones obvious. And if I see blatant parenting issues from the parents that are causing behavioral problems for the child, that's a red flag for me as a nanny too. We don't want to be frustrated every day at work by the behavior a child is demonstrating as a result of poor parenting choices. Especially when 90% of the time, we've been raising children longer than these new parents who want to hire us and have a lot of knowledge to offer, if they're open to hearing it. I've been in the position where my "parenting style was too hippie" (literal words that my old boss used) and I had to part ways from a family that hired me KNOWING what my style was like but decided two years into it that it isn't what they want. It's totally frustrating for the nanny too which is why it's so important for parents to do their due diligence and thoroughly explain what they want.. because we don't want to find out a few months into a job that they don't like us! It's a partnership, they didn't lie when they said it takes a village! Anyways... long story short, it can be frustrating on both ends if you don't find the perfect fit so definitely take your time and don't rush into it! Just know that all of your concerns are valid and we as nannies have them too! Just thought you might like some input from an experienced caregiver. ALSO DON'T 10-99 them.. omg please don't. It's a frustrating process to deal with and always ends in back taxes for the parents. Ok now I'm done haha.
I was a nanny for 8 years, and im now a mom, so I understand the other side of things too. I totally agree that it’s like dating! The one thing I totally disagree with though would be the no phone thing! I think the parents should set the same rules for themselves as they have for the nanny to a certain degree...and no phones is so unrealistic. If you had a desk job for example, where you really had deadlines for things, and a lunch break where you can go on your phone, that’s one thing. But with nannying, your dealing with a FAMILY, every day is different..there’s no “deadlines”, you don’t have a “lunch”. Nanny’s need mental breaks too! If the baby is sleeping, they should be allowed to take a break. Of course how much they’re getting paid and what they’re getting paid to do are factors that matter. But if they’re in charge of laundry and the kids dishes and such, and they get that done, along with playing and loving on the kids, why shouldn’t they have an outlet like their phone when they have a minute? The lady in your video said she didn’t like that her old nanny would text her kids...and that to me sounds kinda overkill. I think if she was gone all day, she would take a minute to text her own kids when it was appropriate. Obviously just my opinion, but when I was a nanny I HATED being micromanaged, and I found I enjoyed my job more, which in turn the kids got better care, when I felt trusted. Just a tip to you when finding a nanny :) if you have too many unrealistic expectations they will begin to hate their job and your baby won’t get the best care. ♥️
ashley hunting My nanny is very welcome to use her phone the two to three hours my son is napping. What I’m talking about is being on her phone while she’s caring for my child. That’s absolutely not OK. Even in my own job, it would be absolutely unacceptable to pull out my phone during a meeting or while I’m filming a video. That’s not micro-managing, that’s setting a rule. If my child is awake and you’re caring for him, your eyes are on him.
Susan Yara well of course if your child is awake he should be cared for. No matter if he’s asleep or awake he should be cared for. You didn’t mention the 2-3 hour nap though, you just said “no phones”, so I jump to the conclusion that there’s no phones at ALL. I’ve never met a good nanny that can’t distinguish a good and bad time to use their phone though, even if the child is awake. Nannying isn’t like every other job where you don’t have the privilege to look at your phone. In a meeting...it’s not a good time to use your phone. Just like if the baby is crying...it’s not a good time to use your phone. But just like moms, nanny’s are usually pretty good at multitasking, and like I said, distinguishing between a good time and a bad time to check the phone.
Susan Yara I mean the issue of phones is definitely not as black and white as your paint it out to be. It’s 2019, our phones are a source of so much information at our finger tips. Though someone using there phone for many different reasons versus scrolling through Instagram and not paying attention to your child are very different things. You have a platform it might not hurt to be more clear about that instead of making large sweeping statements about phone use.
Taylor FosterJones good point as well. Most of the time I’d use my phone while caring for children is looking up things that has to do with the child anyways! “How long can breastmilk stay out for?”, “How to relieve infants gas”, “white noise on CZcams”, etc.
ashley hunting I agree I constantly play music for the baby, take lots of pics and chat with the mom. I do answer a text as well though because there are lots of down time moments( for now I am an infant for a baby) Being a nanny is such a different type of day to day and while we count on those “naps” for us to eat lunch, check our phones. I’m sure there are plenty of days we miss those opportunities because a babies nap schedule is not a perfect science. I would feel micro managed about the phone thing because I just don’t think it’s that black and white, but that’s me.
I’m a nanny of 7 years and I totally agree with Susan, it’s 200% like dating 😂 on both sides! We all want what’s best for the kids & parents or nannies looking great on paper doesn’t mean you’ll mesh. I’ve worked for AMAZING moms who I love and respect so deeply as humans, but we just didn’t match as nanny/families. There’s no love lost when it’s just a respectful not fit situation (just like in dating) you’ll find the right Nanny soon! (I don’t know how Care is in general in LA but it’s gone down ALOT recently. I’d look into agency’s or nanny boards like how Susan mentioned)
sorry to be so offtopic but does anyone know of a tool to get back into an Instagram account??
I stupidly lost the login password. I would love any assistance you can give me.
I love how her sweater and your shirt kind of match ☺️
Shenae, SIT UP STRAIGHT !! 😂
She could be in pain. This seems like a rude saying.
Kyky Smith nahhh doesn’t seem like it
How have you just had a baby? Your body is literally perfect. 💗
I am a nanny and I completely agree with the fact that just because they say stuff on paper doesnt mean that's who they are. I love nannying, and it's so important to find a nanny that will feel like family in a way. Now with the phone I think it's okay if the child is in nap and all the chores are done. With the perfume, it should be okay to wear some but not drenched in it. I feel like if theres too many things to nit pick at, you might miss out on a true quality nanny. Just my opinion
Totally agree with this. I'm the type of nanny who will do the dishes, do the laundry, sweep and swiffer, all while the child is napping and then maybe have a half hour to chill and sit on my phone or have a snack. If I wasn't allowed to do that, that's a deal breaker. We as nannies don't get a paid lunch break so it seems inconsiderate to limit any down time during the day, at least if the child is asleep. Nap time is my ONLY break!
Yes I agree with you sarah, that down time is much needed. Those munchkins are a handful and we need our down time during the day if they take naps
LOVE your video!!!💕
Im a nanny and have been for about 5 years! Even though this video is intended for new mom's, as a nanny so far this has been amazing to hear from the other side!❤️ Also amazing nannys are out there! They're a little hard to come by but they're there!
I was a nanny in LA for years and I agree so much!!
I love your shirt! Where is that from?
Oh! And just to hopefully ease your mind a little when it comes to Bowie having the same routine every day, I totally get why a baby would need to go down for naps at certain times and having certain habits, such as the room needs to be dark for an example. But if they’re nanny doesn’t do it the exact same way as you guys do, kids do learn that certain people mean certain things. :) she will know your guys routine with her apart from the nanny’s routine and she’ll get used to the changes between each person :)
My mom is a nanny of over 20 years and I have gone to all of her jobs and have heard the complaints of her bosses of her other babysitters/nannies. You do need to mesh with your nanny but in the end if your nanny is great with your kids and loves them like family that is a true sign I feel like that is the most important thing...
•I believe and so does my mom that you are a second parent as a nanny and a babysitter is a bit different...
•Also you should be CPR Certified
•There should be phone use Incase of an emergency because most houses don’t have home phones anymore but limit the social media use
•Take references with emails and phone numbers and talk to there past employers whether in person or on the phone
I hope this helps with your search for a nanny!
I am a nanny and a babysitter and my network of clients keeps growing because I always get recommended to other parents by the parents I work for now. The feeling of knowing that the parents I work for love my work makes me that much happier to get up everyday and do it. From being a Nanny there are a few things I would look for in a nanny; energy/ youth (mostly for toddler+) (an older nanny could be better for an infant for experience reasons) and that is because when I take my kiddos to the park I full on play them, I look a little odd as a 20 year old on a play structure but the kids prefer when I am engaged in them. someone who isn't attached to their phone is also ideal, I only use my phone for texted the parents updates and googling answers to questions the kids ask me. Also, someone who does the job not because they think its easy, but because its rewarding. I would not say my job is easy. It comes very naturally to me, so it isnt stressful, but nurturing a child is hard. But as hard as it is sometimes, I love my kids, they might not be my own children but I take care of them as if they are and I care deeply about them. Another huge thing is that they understand that the way the parents want it, is the way to do it. always! I may love the kids like my own, but I follow every preference of their parents because they are not my kids. Having that respect for the parents is a major key! Another thing I do that moms super appreciate is I ask ask ask! if I am ever uncertain, I ask. For the most part I know what im doing but if I have a question like "what time are you planning on having dinner" so that I know when to stop giving them snacks, I just ask! Id rather shoot a text than mess up the dinner situation. Experience does not mean you know everything, and knowing you have more to know and learn will only make you a better nanny. I love my job. I love dropping the kids of at school and picking them up, and cooking for them, and helping them learn to do things for themselves, and reading and singing and going to parks. Its my favorite job in the world and The moms I work for are amazing women that I greatly look up too.
Susan!! 🥰
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I think as a nanny we should not be on our phones unless: calling/texting the mom and dad regarding child. The only breaks we get is when baby is sleeping then I think nannies should be allowed to use their phone for personal use.
This makes me feel better about my anxiety with the possibility of hiring a nanny/sitter because I feel justified! Lol Btw, is there a difference between a babysitter and a nanny?
RomanTheSamoyed I’m a Nanny and yes there is a difference. Babysitters are there no more than a couple hours, all resources are prepared in advance by the parent or guardian of the child, and (if the child is awake) all you do is play. Nanny’s care for the children while doing any othe pr number of things the parents or guardians ask them to do (eg. light cleaning, dishes, laundry) they also prepare the meals, plan the activities and (if the child or children are older) take them to and from school and extra curricular activities. Essentially Nanny’s are the paid parent. Hope this cleared up any confusion.
@@Hey_ItsMeganC Thank you!
Poor Nikash, smelling like the nanny's perfume! 🤢 I don't think it's unreasonable to implement a no-phone policy. I'm not in the market for a nanny, but I am sure that anyone who is will find this video helpful! I had no idea Shenae was on CZcams. I think I'll stay and watch some videos :)
These ladies are doing to much!!!You can see they are not spiritually inclined at all. You have to truly be able to discern anyone you allow into your home period!!! Remember why you are being so outspoken about what your expectations are, the nanny also has her own too thank you. The nanny is filling in where you have chosen to removed that time with your child. It’s a partnership between you and the nanny for the overall advancement of the child, well being. If you both have husbands, raise your own children period, then you don’t have to worry about complaining goodness. But if you going to do it be better organized and sure about what your goals toward the healthy growth of your child looks like for you and your husband period.
Wow this is judgemental as all get up! Worry about your own family and stopping judging theirs.
Is Susan divorced where is her ring ?