Addiction Treatment | 10 Mistakes Families of Addicts Make
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- Addiction in the family can be an extremely difficult situation. Addiction treatment is more than just detoxing from drugs and alcohol. There are often a lot of mistakes families of addicts make which can lead to enabling addiction, completely ignoring the problem and others which can ultimately hurt the addict and the entire family dynamic!
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In this video we discuss the top 10 mistakes families of addicts make:
1. Addiction does not affect them
2. There is a short-term solution
3. Having a tough conversation and/or negotiating about addiction with the family member
4. Throwing money at the problem
5. Ignoring the addiction problem
6. Delaying addiction treatment
7. Choosing the first addiction rehab center they come across
8. Not getting involved with the process of addiction treatment
9. Seeing the problem as separate from family dynamics
10. Disowning the child
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I’ve been a parent of an addict for over 14years ....when you walk the path parents of addicts walk, before long you you have to place shoes on ur feet.... to protect your soul.
In addition to your video on 10 mistakes family of addicts make, I think it would be very IMPORTANT
and perhaps helpful to make a video outlining 10 positive actions that a family should take. Give people 10 specific activities to do. That, I believe, can be even more helpful then ruminating on 10 mistakes.
Your last point was on disowning a family member. How can you help them if you have spent Thousands of dollars , rehab, doctors, treatment clinic, provided food , place, job, vehicles that have been wrecked & paychecks gone, Things and money stolen to get dope. What else can a family give when we sucked all out? If the family member don't want help? My understanding the best thing to do is make them leave. They become so codependent on the family and supply the fuel to get the drugs. I would never disown my family. But I don't want them to use me to get drugs. Addictions affects everyone in the family. It's never a private matter.
Of course it is a matter, but not everything is about money. Its also about love (maybe tough love) and give them for the basics, comprehension, make them feel like they still belong as part of your family, listen their actual needs, and still remember that sometimes an addict might fight a war and they don’t know. So my advice is to be a little more empathetic. and what happened to me was that or i go to live with my parents or they cut me off because i was no longer in med school (i am back thanks my Lord) and then i saw how i was affecting them and i self commit, didn’t think twice. I was blind to see how i was affecting my family until my mom trigger some words that affected me so bad: “i don’t see a spark in your eyes anymore” well i hope your family member is recovered back
Thank you. It's been a rough journey. But I show as much love as I can and talk alot to that family member. God knows I want to see them make it! Praying everyday. I appreciate your reply.
A huge problem WHY addicts can’t recover is treatment facilities need to take Medi Cal or state insurance!!!!! Not all families have 10-20k for a month of treatment!!! Does yr Facility accept Medicare Medi Cal ???
We do not accept Medicare or medical at this time, but you can call SAMHSA's hotline at 18006624357 or the phone number on the back of your insurance card and they will help you find a place that does accept it!
There are lots of treatment centers that accept it! Call the county and they will lead you in the right direction!
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Not true where we live. There is one. They have 14 beds. 7 now become covid.
Thank you for sharing such important information. The heartache I've experienced in losing my daughter's girlfriend to an accidental heroin overdose and then watching my daughter struggle in her own addiction and recovery is immense. I have hope for a brighter tomorrow. Thank you, again, for sharing.
You are so welcome Maria! Our hearts are with you.
I am happy it was helpful to you, Maria. Let us know if you would like to watch a video on any other topic or subject.
DrG
This was very helpful. Thank you for sharing with us. 💗
Addiction is killing me!! Seeing my bro go through it. It hurts so much
@rich jewish guy I'm so sorry you are going through this. Tbh all you can do is provide info on rehabs and pray. My family has been going through this almost 20 years and hes 60. I feel I should ask you to look into support for yourselves also. I have a therapist that I'd been lost without. There is Alanon also. We tend to be so focused on the addict we dont see the trauma it puts ourselves through. You can look me up on facebook if you'd like. I'd be happy to be there for you in tough times. It's horrible to go through much less doing it alone. I have watched alot of videos on the effects of these drugs which has helped. The weight loss is part of these drugs. You can always try and give him protien shakes if he refuses to eat. #1 help fir me is faith in God
Thank you for this video. Very helpful
I've made these mistakes. Over and over with my little brother. I am a codependent enabler. I've been working on this every day. It's easy to slip back into old habits.
It's very hard. My brother is a drug addict, and right now my family is going through this process of learning how to deal with him in order to help him. In fact, controling our feelings of love or hatred for the addict is not easy. May God help us.
@@hyagosales5513 currently struggling with the emotional hatred towards my brother.
thank you for this great video. I'm just learning how to help my 22 year old son with his addiction issues. I will take steps to understand my role in the family dynamic that contributed to the development of his addictions as a teenager.
I am guilty of ignoring the problem. Not any more hopefully. Thank you, these tips really helped.
I'm so glad to hear that! Let us know if there's anything we can do to further help!
Thank you for this information. I found it very helpful
Thank you, this was helpful. I am 24 and I need help getting my almost 70 year old aunt off drugs and out of pain. Adderall mostly, but benzos, and more, but thankfully no more pain killers like morphine. We have talked many times but she had been convinced by her doctors that these are the right steps for her and she will listen to them over family even though it is draining her physically, mentally, and financially. Maybe she's just a drug addict, I have tried everything possible but my rope is running short... PEACE & LOVE
Thank you for the video. My daughter is 37, addicted to adderall since 2013, given to her by a clinic that claims "Even though Dr Brugman is compensated by the pharmaceutical companies, he made it clear to them that his priority was not to promote their drugs but to make other primary care doctors more comfortable treating their patients..." Now she is pregnant and being told that it is ok to keep taking adderall. That is not true. She is so full of anger when I try to talk to her about it, I am concerned about how will she handle a fussy baby? Her husband agrees with me when we talk, but then turns around and tells her "your Mother said this..." which fuels her anger towards me because I am the bad one trying to deny her treatment for her ADD (there were no brain scans done or blood tests to diagnose, she doesnt have ADD, she told me that she was going to go to the doctor to get adderall to get thru nursing school, she never stopped taking them. ) It has brought her to the point of psychosis, hysteria, a visit to the ER and her hair falling out in clumps all over the house! I know about HIPAA laws but do you think I should try to talk to the doctor? Call an attorney? I find it so hard to believe that someone could take such a sacred time of carrying a child so lightly. My apologies for rambling on, it is absolutely breaking my heart.
Hello Sir. Thank you for your suggestions. For me, as a mother with an adult child with addiction I am always wondering how I am coping and behaving during this process and after listening to your kind way about some of this..well, thank you. It did help..a little bit. It sounds like I might be doing some good things. Thanks.
Great info, thanks
I just realized my son is addicted to substances and this video helps to get educated on the subject so I can hopefully avoid some mistakes, thank you
Thank you so much for that comment Victoria, We are so happy this video is helpful! Please let us know if there are any specific questions you have that you'd like us to create a video on!
Excellent! Well done!
Thank you so much, Mindy!
I heard what not to do, but can you tell me what I can do to help and things to say and what not to say? Can you make video on that?
Nice information. Thanks
Wonderful video, Dr. G! Extremely valuable information for families! If anyone would like more info on recovery, I created some great videos for you.
Very helpful. My son is an alcoholic. I’m in the UK but he’s in NZ.
I appreciate your video, do you have treatment center in NYC?
Hi Rajip, Thank you so much! We are located in southern California, but if you'd like to give us a call we may be able to help find you a place!
Thanks for the video
You bet
It is an ongoing heartbreak! I deal with a son who has the comorbidity of mental illness and drug addiction. He utterly refuses professional help. He is in jail now; which is actually a relief, for he is much safer there than being homeless. His behavior is so disruptive that he cannot live in anyone's house. I wish my State's laws permitted a family member to commit a mentally ill relative to the psych ward.
As an addict I agree
Thank you so much ❤️
You’re welcome 😊
Thank you for the help
You are very welcome! Please let us know if there are any topics you'd like to see us cover.
IIVIU, you are very welcome. Glad you found our material useful!
DrG
I loved your video this really scares me
Plz share what to do if the child is not ready to go to rehab...shd we do it forcefully...
Excellent video. I agree with all you say except for the last point. I have seen families destroyed by one member's addiction. If the addicted person simply refuses to get help what then? If other siblings are present, they will become resentful and bitter, the addiction will demand more and more of the family's resources and eventually the family will have no choice but to distance themselves from the addicted member. You don't seem to offer an alternative here.
The content of this video is relevant and to the point. Delivered in a simple,easy to absorb style. Resonated completely
Thank you for your kind thoughts, Paul! We're glad it was helpful! Are there any other topics that would be helpful to you?
You are welcome. As for other info I do have one question. If someone has not made the admission of their substance abuse, how do we introduce them to these tools without creating a situation?
That is a very good question, and can at times be very difficult! We created a video on this topic that you might find helpful about what to say to an addict in denial: czcams.com/video/8sxXr29f6yY/video.html Let me know if this is able to help you at all, and if not we will get you the answer you are looking for :).
Beginnings Treatment Centers thank you very much!!
You are so welcome, friend!
But how do you set boundaries with our loved ones if they live in the home?
Gabriela Gaby Rodriguez@ We let our grown son move back home with only one major rule: that he not take drugs. Due to his refusal to take his psych medicines, his behavior wholly disrupted our household. Then, after 2 1/2 months, he relapsed and got back on drugs in a bad way. I kicked him out. Doing so hurt me. Yet, I know I did my best to provide him with the opportunity to get help -- which was refused. Hope remains, as perhaps the judge will require rehab. I agree that attending a support group is very informative and helpful.
@@pepperco100 Hi i have almost a similar situation. My son finally had wanted to get help and go into rehab. He did 90 days and was sober about 3 more months after. He has relasped then he will do good being sober again for a couple weeks. But it is a pattern just repeating. He said when he left rehab if he Relasped he would go back. That definitely has not happen. So now im left with i cant stand by seeing this anymore. Now he is staying away from home for days. He only works weekends so has the whole week. Also if i text him he wont even answer me. I feel im being disrespected im really tired now. I have concern for his safety because he has mentioned suicide in past. But there is this fear i have what if i tell him to move and it just worsens him using. I want to be strong in what my decision will be. Because i see this pattern only getting worse anyway. It is affecting my own well being i have anxiety and hyper tension What do you recommend any advice? Also what is the update on your son? Your response and any advice is deeply appreciated.
@@mariewinter8869 I am sorry you are going through this. My advice is don't do this alone. Find a support group. I think you will find the discussions helpful. We are taught as Christians to be Good Samaritans and always help the downtrodden. Dealing with an addict is DIFFERENT! This fact wasn't easy for us to accept. I also suggest you learn as much as you can about codependency, and the harm we can do (with good intentions) if we enable the addict's addiction. Tell yourself, "If I live WITH an addict, I live LIKE an addict." Again, don't fight this demon alone. There's a lot of us out here going through the same thing. May God grant you strength and peace.
@@mariewinter8869 Oh, thank you for asking. Our son remains in jail, but he is on his psych meds, and back to his normal self. We're in touch by telephone and letters. (Can't visit due to COVID.) He says he wants to go to rehab upon his release. We are hopeful . . . and pray this time it works out.
thanks a lot
You're very welcome Omar!
He mentions that one problem is family members don't get involved with the therapy. My daughter has been to 3 rehabs that I know about . I requested to be involved and other family members in the counseling but not once did they involve us . My guess is that my daughter er would not let them.This is in atlanta .
Excellent thank you. Honors USF Grad while Opiods now Suboxone, Ive made all these mistakes but want to disown her. No job drove us broke all ways. Psych meds not working although some vicious outbursts. God please help !
Dan Martin our thoughts and prayers are with you
Don't give up, Dan. With insight into the complexity of this problem, we as human beings are strong enough and intelligent enough to solve it. Read more papers, articles, watch videos, and podcasts on this very troubling subject and heartbreaking dilemma, and you will get the answers you need.
DrG
Thank you for this video. I am struggling with what you said about not cutting her off though, or the injured connection. What do we do when she insists that we have done that, but we have not! We have tried and tried to keep the connection, but she has convinced herself that we are all horrible people and have abandoned her. She is violent, and abusive to myself and my other daughters. She rips us to shreds emotionally, and tries to physically. She is using a large amount of meth AND heroin. I don't know what to do. Everything any of us say is grounds for a vial attack.
Sharaun, that creature is no longer your daughter -- the daughter you loved and raised, sent to school and tried to parent. That is the daughter you lost, the daughter you love. That creature wears her body, speaks with her voice, but it's not her. It's a demon. It's goal is to destroy you and your entire family.
Great reply. This is a good example of what I call "remaining engaged" with the family member.
DrG
Sharaun, thanks for the response and reflections. Please review previous response from Lisa Storm. That's a great example of how family members can remain engaged and exercise patience while also learning more about addiction and ways of changing the conversation so that the family member who's dependent on drugs gains insight that connection and relationship with the family is more meaningful than the high they get from the drugs. Putting an emphasis on your last sentence "Everything any of us say is grounds for vile attack," I would suggest to learning to shifting the conversation from a debate and argument to a healthy dialogue that is designed to lead to more understanding between the family members. Stay away (as much as you possibly can) from criticism and finding faults. Try to establish an atmosphere of understanding and caring while drawing clear boundaries. There are tons of material available online nowadays that can help with developing this type of empathic communication skills. Also, attending support groups will provide ample opportunities to practice these skills.
DrG
How did things turn out with her. I’m dealing with the same with a brother
I have made all of these mistakes with my adult grown son. There is so much bad advice out there on how to help and raise a drug addict I love my son I don't know what to do for him anymore he's been in jail he's on probation now which is a joke because his probation officer doesn't drug test him at all even though I called him and told him that my son is that doing drugs hoping that he will do something about it they can do some drug test so that possibly my son will think twice before doing a drug again. He went to rehab for 30 days which they kicked him out because of his negative behavior. I thought they were supposed to help with that kind of stuff. I am a single mother of three adult children and they have all had problems with drugs .My one daughter beat her addiction and she's a proud mother of three small children. my other daughter doesn't talk to me I gave her the ultimatum of getting rehab or or she could not stay with me and she decided to leave. My son he's here with me he is working but still doing drugs and I know I enable him every single day and I just don't know what to do anymore. from a mother that loves her children and wants to help but does not know how to anymore.
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your story Sharon. You are incredibly strong for everything you've had to deal with. It is never easy. Have you tried reaching out to an interventionist? Often times they can be very effective in helping the struggling loved one. Our hearts are with you and we are here to help you in any way that we can
Sharon, thanks for your feedback and reflections. It seems like you can't do anything to help only because you are trying to help in the traditional sense of a parent. With addiction, we will need to change our understanding of better parenting and specific parenting to this particular person in this particular situation. In this case, you can help by informing yourself more about addiction, enabling, codpendency, and respecting boundaries. You also can be extremely helpful in the growth and learning of all your family members by attending Al-anon, Nar-anon, or similar anonymous support groups. Start from there and you will see improvements over time.
DrG
I have an adult son whose addictions and lifestyles has put a distance from other family members for many years now. When holidays come he gets,upset because no body invites him over. Im a recovering codependent addict myself, having had childhood traumas, and a 16 yr marriage to a narcissist, and when i separated from him, my son that i speak if is the eldest of 3., he was 16.
He was the scapegoat and went into a gang and started using back then. How do i make him understand that no one knows him anymore, he's isolated and never would be in touch so now no one invites him over. What do I do?? help!!
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How to help my brother who is an addict. Everyday he would sold household things or ask for money every.single.day and threatened us.we are living from paycheck to paycheck and taken loan from bank so we don't have much money. And he don't want to study or do job
This information was helpful. My question: How old should a child be to tell them their mother is an addict ? Suggestion on how to explain this disease?
For as long as I could remember my father has been a drug addict. I remember being in elementary school seeing him passed out on floors or acting very strange (opioids are his drug of choice) and I always knew something wasn’t right.. I remember at first just being confused because these things would happened and nobody would explain to me what was going on or that it was not normal. It wasn’t until I was in Middle school when I began to sleep over at friends houses and their fathers were so nice, not passed out on floors, not slurry their speech, not having seizures from taking too many pills, that I began to realize what was going on at my home was not normal AT ALL and that was the time I began to realize that my father was using drugs. I then began to become angry, very angry because my family would act as if his actions just didn’t happen. Which made me doubt my self and what I was experiencing while seeing my father on drugs all the time. My mother’s logic was that we were going to find out sooner or later so to keep us in the dark as long as possible she thought it would cause less harm. I think in the end, what hurt most was the fact I was never told that my fathers actions and what he was doing was not okay, that I should not have had to deal with what I was witnessing or endure the harm he would inflict while he was high while taking care of us as children. How he would talk and act while on drugs and the things that would happen while he was high were never spoken about. Which as a child made me confused, and scared. I was never comforted by being told what was happening was wrong and I constantly felt unsafe and didn’t know why. So to answer your question I was about 5 years old when I knew something wrong was going on with my dad but nobody talked about it. The child you are talking about probably already knows that something is off with their mother .. they just don’t know what and why. And coming from a child of a lifelong drug addict.. the sooner you communicate and make them feel safe and GET THEM AWAY FROM THE DRUG ADDICT.. the better. My mother did not leave my drug addicted father until I was 16 years old and it caused my younger brother, older sister and I a lot of emotional, physical, and psychological damage that we are working on bettering everyday of our lives moving forward. What helped me understand my father and his addiction was having it explained to me in a way of how much he was hurting inside. He has so many of his own demons that he doesn’t confront or deal with that he has to numb his pain. It’s sad, and it’s not a way to go about life, but it is how he chooses to go about life and it in no way reflects my worth. His actions are his actions. Good luck to you and Much love ❤️
@@danierae No child should have to go through that. Drugs are so selfish. I wish you the best.
@@pepperco100 thank you for your kindness. wishing you the best as well ❤️
I cannot make addict’s WANT to change their lives, just like they can’t make better food choices for me. It’s all very sad.
So the addict Lies/Denial of anything and they are an adult (40 years old)
How do you Force “help”
Also no insurance/ does not qualify for public assistance
These 10 mistakes don't give anyone who has a child with a drug problem any hope because any sane parent will naturally process this problem via these ten mistakes. What's the solution in all this? It's all very good to list ten mistakes that parents do when faced with a child who is an addict, but you also have to be careful that such a child does n't likewise drag you through some metal anguish that will be your own eventual demise.
Go watch the other videos. This is just one. Sheesh.
I have a important question. should I send this type of info and or link to the person who has a serious drug addiction?/ thanks in advance
Hello, while this video was created for the loved ones, it would be a great idea to watch it with the individual and discuss any issues together. Let us know how we can further help!
Hi Boar Hog, yes, feel free to do so. I believe that would be helpful to them.
DrG
I have cousin back on drugs!
I'm sorry to hear that, Jason. Anything we can do to help?
What if you take medication for a chronic lifelong disease and your family is calling you an addict out of their own ignorance. They have already disowned me, and in my anger and pain, I have tried to take my personal power back and say it’s my decision not to talk to people who can’t support me making choices that allow me to work, get out of bed, and stand. What then? The problem is when I tell people I don’t talk to my parents, they think that’s a red flag and either want to fix it or ignore me themselves out of ignorance, furthering the isolation and pain, when I have put in quadruple time explaining my condition and needs. I volunteer, have a clean record, am very present, go to church, eat healthy, and still people say I’m killing myself by taking medication. Actually I have saved myself. I have grown a business, built a house, written a book, learned to skydive, surf, and dance ballet, and if I were to not wake up tomorrow could say I true served my purpose because of the work I have done bettering other people’s lives through personal training, yoga, tutoring, and piano lessons. Why must I still be ostracized by society?
I have a friend that is on melth and. about any kind of pills abd he is to the point in there life that tthey want to get help but my friend then he not ready and he is to the point that something going to end up bad if he don't get help and I want to know how I can tell him that he needs to get help with iut getting mad and upset at him .
Jean Bryant sometimes a professional intervention is very helpful in helping convince the individual. I would look more into this if for any reason we are not able to help. We have a lot of resources on our website about interventions and if you would like to call is, Ask for Pej, he is our intervention specialist and can give you a lot of great insight (800)3876907
Jean, thanks for your question. It's always tough to bring up such important insights and observations about friends we care about because we fear our relationship will suffer as a result, either in the way we would bring up the problem, in the way the friend takes the feedback, or in the way the conversation may derail into a heated argument. The simplest way to start is by first asking the friend if they would be open to our feedback and observation of what they are going through. If they are not, there is really no reason to bring anything up. You may want to evaluate the quality of your relationship with that friend and decide whether or not that friendship is healthy for you. But if they are open, then you can bring up your observation as a tentative possibility. Let them know what you are observing and that you certainly don't know the whole picture but that you are genuinely concerned and worried because you care about your friend's health. By starting your conversation as only "your perspective that may only be a small part of the picture" you are sending the message that you are not here to tell them how to live their life but only sharing your angle and perspective. Let your friend be the judge how he wants to take that perspective and feedback and if they want to learn from it or just dismiss it. After you have shared your perspective, it's your friend's responsibility whether or not they apply your feedback to their lives or not. You are not responsible for your friend's drug use. I hope this helps a bit.
DrG
What would you consider a family who no longer has anything to do with the addict ?
I'm getting clean from H and doing it on youtube
I hope you are still going friend 🌹
20 years sober here. I needed support. If you blow it dont give up. Keep trying but dont isolate. Support helps. Sobriety is possible!! So proud of you!! Keep it up, you are worth it!!
This was dead on all 10 mistakes. I wish my parents could listen to this or actually want to take the time to want to listen and some of these so called helpers or leaders in my community
Hi we are in Africa and have a child with weed addiction. My husband just wants to kick him out and not have anything more to do with him but he is only 17.
Weed addiction?! Lol. That’s not his problem. That’s yours for thinking that that’s a big deal. Stop being so conservative.
I really liked the video but know to help me by living with him and not seeing any change......I am frustrated and it is imbalance in my mental health......plZ help
Me too
Another mistake is not realizing that some prisons, jails and rehabs are not doing their jobs or protecting addicts from more problems by allowing drugs and sex in these institutions.
Can addicts get proven as clean by drug test per month.
Homelessness is the only option for most addicts unless they have a parent willing to sacrifice their own life n sanity to keep the addict off the street.
This was a good video (a little slow) but is there another video telling us what is the right thing to do?
Hi Jackie! Thank you for your feedback and topic suggestion! We don't currently have a follow up video specifically for this, but we can certainly create it! However in the meantime, this video on what to do if your child is using drugs may be helpful and insightful to you! czcams.com/video/atUdR_RF-F8/video.html
My son 40 has gone to two rehab programs paid by the state ...Medicaid I would love for him to go to a long term program 1-2 yr if possible but he cannot be on suboxone or any psych meds which he is on.. antidepressants, sleeping meds etc. where else could he go being on these meds for him to be able to even physically do the program?? Please your advice would be appreciated.
Linda, I'm not sure what state you are in. But many states and counties nowadays have a lot more funding available to send patients to longer term treatment. You will need to call your local department of mental health and/or department of healthcare services or similar department and inquire about long term care. In case you cannot find any in your state, try to see if your son could obtain a better insurance policy that would give him the opportunity to seek treatment in a more independent treatment center that accepts private insurance.
DrG
Linda, you might want to understand that he might not want to be saved ... I have a 33 yo son who has drugged for 20 years, ran with gangs, threatened to kill me 4 times, and is gone to reality. I spent 10,000 s on him ... I choose to walk away. My other kids deserve my time & care over him. You cannot make him be responsible...
I'm need help to find a place that will help my friend get clean but the one problem me and his family have is that we don't have alot money to help my friend.
So please if anyone can help me with some place that will help me to get my friend go to rehab soon cause I don't want my friend son lose his father .
So please help me please
Hi Jean Bryant , there are a lot of options besides out of pocket expense. If you'd like to give our admissions team a call at (800)3876907 they can run through different options! A lot of the time health insurance can cover all or most! We are here for your friend
My sister is a meth addict and she's gone crazy and very violent she doesn't want help she said she loves her drugs she fought me two days ago she thought I was messing around with her ex-boyfriend she stalks him she hallucinates her kids crying she has gone full blown out of her mind and very violent I don't know how to deal with her anymore after her and I fought I just want to give up on her completely because she doesn't want to get clean she's not ready she lost all three of her kids my mom has them my mom enables my sister she lets her in when she's high and the kids see this and they are scared of her my mom can't protect those children and she never will
How do you get someone to want to stop using drugs. My family member has a 4 year old & a 2 year old and is using meth. She do not want us involved unless we have money to solve a problem for her. She has drained us of money. She won’t even go to any kind of meeting. The drugs landed her in prison for 1 & 1/2 years She came out is still doing drugs while on probation. Which she is getting away with because of the coronavirus. The probation office doesn’t want anybody coming in to the office because of the virus . So when that happens no one‘s getting tested for drugs. This drug problem has been going on for 12 years. She always denies it until it’s proven with a drug test. Then we get the story oh Im stopping and then they distance themselves until they think we believe the are clean. I have never believe her. She is now pregnant and I tested her last week and she’s positive for meth. What can I do to stop this?
If she refuses to get help or acknowledge there's a problem, there's little you can do.
@@BeginningsTreatmentCenters thank you. We have tried everything.
Faster! Must get to the point quickly. Please. You have great information but its too slow.
Thank you for the feedback, Cyndi! We're always looking to improve and create the most helpful content possible! Are there any specific topics that would be helpful to you?
I just watch most CZcams videos on 1.5x speed anyway. I much rather prefer someone who is choosing their words carefully to deliver their message as accurately as they can
Dependent
The only thing wrong is step 10: the best way to get out of playing the family circus is to cut off the addict and never look back. Do it, and thank me when you see the results IN YOUR LIFE. The addict has their life 100%- do the same and RUN
The addict is my brother. 25 years old living with us. Not financially independent. How are we suppose to cut him off? He is not ready for treatment and rehab. He says he is guilty and will never do it again but then does it another day. How are we suppose to cut him off? How can we?
These places all need to accept Medicaid!! Addicts usually don't have jobs with insurance to cover this and most do not have a bank account either. This country is a joke for real help.
Every place you call for help is usually only a place that provides you a few phone ## and a good luck!
That Was A Rude Coment, How would you like to be talked to that way little missy