13 Flags You're Dating The Wrong Person
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- 13 Flags You're Dating The Wrong Person
Before we get married we tend to focus on what we want. After marriage, we focus on what we need. Dating should be the preparation for marriage. In this video, my wife and I explain the 13 main red flags that should be avoided when you are considering a partner.
Chapters
0:00 - 1. God is not a priority
1:23 - 2. Actions and words don't match
2:10 - 3. Has close friends who are not committed to the Lord
2:48 - 4. He/she has a wandering eye
4:57 - 5. Got out of a relationship without fully healing
8:15 - 6. A person shows signs of control and abusive behavior
9:50 - Six Characteristics of obsessive love
10:52 - 7. The person has addictions and doesn't have the freedom
13:32 - 8. The person does not respect purity.
15:33 - 9. You don't want your children to be like them
16:25 - 10. You don't have peace about this person
16:45 - 11. Your mentors and family feel iffy about the person
17:45 - Being with that person has distracted you from Christ, church, and family
19:52 - 13. You are already praying for God to change him/her
23:37 - Final thoughts
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I really need your advice
I was going to message you on ig probably at the exact time this was posted today.
I been watching your videos. It’s like this repost solidified things for me. The man I’ve been in love with for 16 years is totally secular and has demons. I’ve now given my life to Christ and been devoted now more then ever, I’m a core group sister and trying to change everything to live righteous. We have a kid together who’s a preteen and I don’t want to cause more trauma in her life by leaving her dad, and he’s the only man I’ve been with for years we initially wanted to marry young but didn’t and ended up traveling for years then had our kid and he’s left me several times but comes back always. I’m done with those ways and letting someone like that in my life
I know it’s a soul tye but I know we both love each other. I often think if he gets saved he can heal and become the man god has planned for him to be and he would have a very powerful testimony. Do I stay and help him or see his demonic butt out the door? He is blind that the things he does and his secular interest are very antichrist and new age. He wasn’t taught about gods love growing up, and I believe still doesn’t know. He’s always positive towards my involvement in church and core group. He needs deliverance but I can not force that. I been speaking gods word more around him in a non pushy way. I been anointing our bed. But he has to turn to Jesus on his own. I no longer want to live out of wedlock and he is my only sin. I’m very confused on what to do.
Thank you for this important, valuable message. I have to share.
What if u went against ur parents wish not to marry but u did it anyway?…
As a person who experienced this, I can testify this message to be true. Please do not be unequally yoked. It takes too much valuable time to heal. Thanks for the message. God bless💯
Agreed
I can also say the same...It is a deep hurt and one does not win anything at the end.
The same here. The healing process has been long. That is a really bad decision.
Truth
Yes Agreed!
"It's better to wait for God to bring the right person to you, then to wait for God to change the wrong person you bring to Him." Great words I will be sharing this with my gal pals!
‘A person who is addicted needs rehab not a relationship’. 🔥🔥🔥. And thank you for mentioning this applies to porn!
Big facts
My husband has all this except 6, wish I saw this before I go married. I have prayed and fasted in what is a now 3 year marriage. I am official clocked out so please people take this serious. It will save you stress, tears and continuous heartache. Them changing may take years, years you could have been happy with who God wanted you to be with or single.
Me too..
I am literally going through this currently thank you for sharing this !! ❤
Things to pray for
1. Loves God more then you
2. Action and words don't match
3. He or she has close friends not committed to the Lord.
4. He or she has a wondering Eye
5. Broke up recently
I’ve ignored so many red flags in people thinking nobody is perfect and God must want me to help, love, and pray for them. Now that I’m older I’ve realized it was codependency.
@Tammi , I’m exactly the same , I recently did this got together with a guy thinking 💭 I’m helping him heal . Lots of red flags 🚩 I gave him
A chance wanted to help him He is toxic, with past traumas .
@@mariac5294 at least you wanted to help, the last girl didnt and she's Christian and she used to struggle with similar things i went through and its way too sus that she didnt want to offer compassion to me.
Dated a girl in highschool as I was graduating learnt a lot from that relationship just cause someone says their Christian don’t mean they really know the God they clam to serve she tried leading me into sexual lust and things but I never compromised and we aren’t together but I learnt a lot from that been single and in God’s presence more working on myself for future marriage but hopefully have something like you guys someday 🙏🏽🔥
I'm so glad you stuck to your boundaries and didn't jump into it. Awesome post. God has someone special for you! God bless you! ✝️🤍
I literally broke up with a guy based on the 3rd factor listed (wandering eye). 98% of the people this guy followed were females who looked a certain way. If they followed him, I wouldn't have a concern but he was following them and most of them were not on his followers list. He called me jealous and said it didn't matter. But I knew deep down something was wrong. Thank you for confirming this - now I know it's called wandering eye.
Better to be single and whole than be married and broken.👍
“I’m going to love God more than I love you because every year I will love you more”.
This was excellent!! Thank you. I believe this is for older people too. After divorces it gets difficult to find a good guy especially in our 50s and 60s. The guys all want sex. I'm like wait a minute just because we are adults God wanted sex to be between two married people.
👆🏼👆🏼Thanks to the name pointed with the finger, he helped me spy on my husband phone and got me the proof I needed to divorce my husband, the pain is unbearable it really hurts they don't know the amount of trauma and heartbreak we go through, after i almost lost my life to my narc husband, I couldn't divorce him cause of the kids I have to put up with a lot, because I want my children to have a happy home, but it got worst by the day, so I contacted him and he hacked my husband phone and got me all social media chat, deleted and undeleted text, he even recovered his social media account, I can even access his phone from mine and he also got me the proof I need to file a divorce, with the proof he got me I found out the reason for his behavior was because he was seeing someone else and all the evil things he has been plotting, God bless him send him a message if you need his service
So true!I am widowed for nine years now and had a godky husband,I do pray that there are still godly men out there!
Sorry godly
Amen! grownboys it's sad
Grown boys? A man becomes a boy because he desires sex? Feel lucky he even looked at your old ass. You're practically a ghost at your age.
I think often times addicts also need inner healing, not just discipline and deliverance. Addiction often has a function, it numbs the pain or makes you forget about it.
I'm not courting or dating anyone at the moment but thank you for sharing these tips on red flags.😊👍
My ex-sister in law send me this link and I'm am so grateful to her for all her prayers and affirmations...I'm recently separated from my husband of 39yrs, he is the OnLY man I've ever been with, I now see their was a blindfold i was wearing that i fought anyone who tried to take it off ...I'm 53yrs old struggling to find my own identity...
Vlad I love when you do videos with your wife! She’s so wise, has sense of humor and brings joy to your videos!
Great video!! I agree never go back to a relationship which you know was not from God from the beginning.
This is well appreciated. I am 50 and still wanting marriage. It is refreshing to hear this teaching. Even if you heard it but haven’t practiced these principles, its good that we submit to God and submit to this teaching. Also deliverance is so important in order to be free from soul ties and generational curses that will negatively impact your new relationships. Thank You both!!!! Blessings!!!!!
Many pastors don't talk about such a topic in detail especially how to be in a relationship.. what relationships are advisable for the church etc..and as a young person... this what the devil attacks teenagers with mostly.. so this is a very good teaching.. thank you
I wasn't saved when I married my almost X. I got saved after. He says he was, but I don't think so. Lots of abuse & many years later & im getting out ! I heard several red flags here that I wished is known years ago ! I know now, thankfully! Thank you for this !
A person who is addicted needs a rehab not a relationship, I had the same reaction as Pastor Vlad
It's so funny, but you guys nailed it completely. I just got out of a relationship with a Christian girl from my old church worship team, so believe me you touched on a lot of these red flags that I had and the Holy Spirit revealed this all to me and because i wasn't mature in my wisdom and how to guard my heart, the relationship set me way back in my walk but it revealed to me strongholds that I didn't deal with when I first died to self and walked in the Spirit, so please I urge you, be a critical judge of who you engage with because if you get attached and sin with a sexual act, you can get dragged down fast. And if that's you, just get out of that relationship and get back to Jesus. Love all, God bless Vlad and Lana, love your vids. Jesus is Lord. Amen.
Omg Adam! This made me tear up when you said "so please I urge you, be a critical judge of who you engage with because if you get attached and sin with a sexual act, you can get drag down fast." 😔 This is exactly what happened to me. Now, I feel so dirty, not good enough and lost myself. I turned my back away from God because of that unequally yoked relationship. I thought it was "real love" but it is NOT. Nothing but hurt, pain, regret and guilt. Thank you for uplifting my spirit "and if that's you, just get out of that relationship and get back to Jesus" 😭 I needed this.
Thank you God for this message. Am 19 years old and all this 13 flags are related to me recently I know that am dating with wrong person who have been hurting me but still I want to with him. But after hearing this message I feel I don't want with him anymore Thank you God for helping me from this message. From today I want to focus my relationship with Jesus. Who ever reading this comment please pray for me.
I am also 19 and I relate,I pray that God grants you the grace to leave the relationship and move on
SEEK GOD'S WAY AND PRAY THAT GOD BLESSES YOU WITH THE KNOWLEDGE/WISDOM/UNDERSTANDING OF GODLY RELATIONSHIP
Father God, Thank you for your precious daughter Sara and that you love her so much. Your love is not like human love. Your love is pure and powerful. It's amazing. Reveal to her how much You love her. Wrap her up in Your loving arms. Father, You know what she needs. Thank You that you will take good care of her. Strengthen her on her walk. Surround her with the right people. Give her wisdom she needs. Direct her paths. Pull her close to You. Close the wrong doors. Shine on light on her. Protect her from anything that doesn't come from you. Empower, encourage and enlighten her. Give her peace and joy that doesn't come from this world. Thank You Father that you are all we need and for your perfect plans for her life. We love You and need you and pray in Jesus's mighty name Amen
God bless you sister Sara. Cling to God. He is with you!
So good, I shared this with 3 young people already. Wish I had that advice years ago. Ignoring the flags causes you years of heartache. If you believe God hates divorce, then you realize you made the decisions, now you live with the consequences.
@kimberly sovern yes God hates divorce but he hates violence. Some of us had no option than to get a divorce. But I agree that it's the gift that keeps on giving.
@@diannekevwitch6958 agree, I wasn’t referring to violence.
Pastor Vlad, I'm sorry for questioning your teaching about choosing a spouse. You were right. Your teachings are great blessings for us, thank you for your ministry.
Excellent. Thanks for doing this. I wish all parents and pastors would talk about this.
Rehabilitation is restoration , implying...WHATEVER is needed; deliverance, discipline, Godly Spiritual counseling, healing....or a combination 🙏❤
Addicted person needs a rehab and not a relationship
Thank you Pastor for the reminder.
This was awesome thanks guys! Pray I find relationship like this!!
You guys are so wise. Witnessing the Lord’s work in you both is a blessing. A miracle right in front of us. God bless. 💕
Great words. My hubby and I love this teaching
Thanks for making this video guys! I'm a believer & the man I've got children with is supposed to be a believer too, but over time I'm beginning to doubt & see a lot of red flags. My goodness 😳
Its not too late first of all am not certain if you asked for God's permission before settling down with this person but all I want to say is that stop complaining about it n report it to God.... Thank Him for your marriage n us perseverance n tell Him heavenly father I didn't seek your permission for this marriage but today I turn it into ur hands take the wheel n pls forgive ur husband for all the wrongs ,pains n tramour he may have put u thru ....the bitterness n anger that u have towards him then leave God to do his work just fix ur eyes unto Jesus then u will things change for better...read 1corinthians 3:10
Allow God to fight it for you n change your man just stop complaining about just everything for the sake of those beautiful children .....may our God touch the heart of your husband in Jesus name.....The word of God says 'my children perish for the lack of knowledge n wisdom.' Love speaks it all may God grant u the grace to love n may you receive peace in ur marriage that supercedes all human understanding.
@Mark amen
@@margaretdrinzaru1765 that was well said thank you
Thank you so much Vlad and Lana! Your video on the red flags when dating is greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to do this. I definitely agree that one must look out for these ' warning signs' when befriending someone who is likely to become a regular feature in your life, for example dating, or spending a lot of time with this person etc. I am an older single female, never married and no kids. I am 55 years old and serving the Lord wherever He opens doors for me to serve. I have prayed for a marriage partner for many years and I am still open to meeting a godly man even at this stage of my life. But thank you for sharing godly wisdom with us so we can be more aware when spending time with someone we consider a potential marriage partner. God bless you both and your ministry!
This is profound! Just discovered your page and loving your Godly/Spiritual counsel, advice and content
The wandering eye is a no no
Thanks for doing the video! I’m sharing it with all my single friends!
This is my introduction to your ministry and content.
I think you and your wife are identifying important and accurate relationship red flags.
Thank you so much. Amen.
Him and his wife are experts and her being his wife doesn’t give her authority to judge others.
Marriage is not a qualification
Some points I never considered. Thanks for sharing
👆🏼👆🏼Thanks to the name pointed with the finger, he helped me spy on my husband phone and got me the proof I needed to divorce my husband, the pain is unbearable it really hurts they don't know the amount of trauma and heartbreak we go through, after i almost lost my life to my narc husband, I couldn't divorce him cause of the kids I have to put up with a lot, because I want my children to have a happy home, but it got worst by the day, so I contacted him and he hacked my husband phone and got me all social media chat, deleted and undeleted text, he even recovered his social media account, I can even access his phone from mine and he also got me the proof I need to file a divorce, with the proof he got me I found out the reason for his behavior was because he was seeing someone else and all the evil things he has been plotting, God bless him send him a message if you need his service
Yes! So good! Definitely making my teen watch it! Thank you
Thank you pastor Vlad and Lana for this preach;for helping me have a better perspective in life and in marriage. 📖❤️
👆🏼👆🏼Thanks to the name pointed with the finger, he helped me spy on my husband phone and got me the proof I needed to divorce my husband, the pain is unbearable it really hurts they don't know the amount of trauma and heartbreak we go through, after i almost lost my life to my narc husband, I couldn't divorce him cause of the kids I have to put up with a lot, because I want my children to have a happy home, but it got worst by the day, so I contacted him and he hacked my husband phone and got me all social media chat, deleted and undeleted text, he even recovered his social media account, I can even access his phone from mine and he also got me the proof I need to file a divorce, with the proof he got me I found out the reason for his behavior was because he was seeing someone else and all the evil things he has been plotting, God bless him send him a message if you need his service
Very vital teaching. Have been blessed with this. The last point exactly 💯 my own.
Thank you ❣️
Thank you for this! I pray that all young (and youngish) people who want to date will watch this vid and listen to the red flags you present. They are so VITALLY IMPORTANT 🚩🚩
Amen
EXCELLENT!! Thanks so much! Marriage isn’t the end goal, it’s only the very beginning of the race. Tremendous wisdom in what you have both shared God bless you!
Love the honesty and transparency.🙏❤🥰
Thankyou so much for this, Ptr. Vlad and Lana. I'm 25 and been single for years. Praying and waiting for a Godly man that God has for me and I would definitely take note of all these keys when I finally met the one or when I'm ready to enter into a relationship/marriage.
I wish I had been as smart as you at 25 and not furthered destroyed my life. I was abused at a very young age and my family just never cared about me . I was on bad meds from the drs , made me lose all free will and when I thought I wanted God back at your age I took part in making some huge changes that forever left me damaged . You
Stay strong in Jesus name amen !!!
This steps are so vital for our teens today.thank you.
Excellent points!
This is so good and so true! Look at the fruit in their life no matter how much you care about them.
Great teaching, except I’ve been studying the permanence of marriage and unless you separate for the cause of fornication while engaged , then you can divorce later but
If you divorce after marriage then you have to stay single. Mathew 5:31,32. Mathew 19:4-10.. Mark 10:5-12. Luke 18:18. Romans 7:2-3. And Romans 7:39. Hope this helps.
Go to Dr. Joseph Webb’s teaching. He has studied this for over 25 years. Blessings!
This is really true. I pray that God will release me from my past relationship.
Amen. Thank you for doing this video.God bless you both.
WoW! thank you for sharing! God bless you.
Thank you for sharing this video ✨
Thank you Pastor & Lana, so very true !
This was very helpful and I enjoyed it. Thanks y’all!
Totally agree. I thank God for it all! 🙏🏻❤
Such good advice and you’re a great example of a healthy relationship.
Wow this is so Good y’all!
Thanx for sharing
Glory to God
Wow… This was so helpful!!! 🙏🏽❤️
Good counsel. May the Lord bless your ministry.
Thank you Vlad and Lana 🤍
Beautiful clarification thanks 🙏🙏
So good!! It gives proper explanations for what I had in my mind and heart. Tha k you. Will share🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing this. I am a single women and I am divorced. I wish I had this teaching earlyer. Bless you!
Great advice.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you! God bless you!
Thank you pastor Vladimir
For the teaching mAny people new this most our generations
Thank you Pastor Vlad. This is such a good teaching. Nobody knows but I am praying for a husband for some time and standing on God's word that I receive from the Lord about getting married. Wait upon the Lord.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! POWERFUL TRUTH💥☝️💥
This is very moving! ✊🏾😬
Amen. A person needs a rehab, especially sex addiction.
Powerful teaching. 🙌🙌
Just watched and realized that my boyfriend has almost half of these red flags😥
You two touched my heart The Lord must be so pleased with you Blessings
God bless you pastor....🙏🙏🙏
Very well said. I wish I had known this before.
These are so on point
What wisdom, lanachka prosto prjelest!!! Beautiful inside & out!
I enjoyed this presentation! It was helpful.
👆🏼👆🏼Thanks to the name pointed with the finger, he helped me spy on my husband phone and got me the proof I needed to divorce my husband, the pain is unbearable it really hurts they don't know the amount of trauma and heartbreak we go through, after i almost lost my life to my narc husband, I couldn't divorce him cause of the kids I have to put up with a lot, because I want my children to have a happy home, but it got worst by the day, so I contacted him and he hacked my husband phone and got me all social media chat, deleted and undeleted text, he even recovered his social media account, I can even access his phone from mine and he also got me the proof I need to file a divorce, with the proof he got me I found out the reason for his behavior was because he was seeing someone else and all the evil things he has been plotting, God bless him send him a message if you need his service
Gold. Good solid truth.
Y’all are a precious couple. God bless you.
Wow, I’m an adult who was never taught anything like this and have had several failed marriages. These are spot on but I didn’t figure it out until to late. After we were married the little red flags I thought weren’t a big deal became monstrous. They were all liars, manipulators & creeps. Young girls everywhere need to be taught this!!
Great vid, thanks.
Thank you pastor vlad and your Lovely wife ❤for the word 🙏
👆🏼👆🏼Thanks to the name pointed with the finger, he helped me spy on my husband phone and got me the proof I needed to divorce my husband, the pain is unbearable it really hurts they don't know the amount of trauma and heartbreak we go through, after i almost lost my life to my narc husband, I couldn't divorce him cause of the kids I have to put up with a lot, because I want my children to have a happy home, but it got worst by the day, so I contacted him and he hacked my husband phone and got me all social media chat, deleted and undeleted text, he even recovered his social media account, I can even access his phone from mine and he also got me the proof I need to file a divorce, with the proof he got me I found out the reason for his behavior was because he was seeing someone else and all the evil things he has been plotting, God bless him send him a message if you need his service
So practical and wise.
So good. Likes to be admired or found comedic for the words they say .Often at the expense of others especially the person he's dating😢
Just joined. Thank you Vlad
Thank you for sharing!
I needed this reminder.
Let Holyspirit Reign. 🔥
How do you get over a soul tie if you already formed an emotional attachment? Broke off the relationship but still struggling with feelings.
Be sure your soul tie is broken and heal with time. czcams.com/video/pi9JF4rVjO8/video.html
@CloPlayGames It takes time. The feelings and emotions are going to be there for a while. I blocked my ex, totally cut off all communication. It was very painful but very necessary. I went before God and prayed for strength. Spend time with God and His Word, and trust me, you'll get through it all. 🙏🏼
👆🏼👆🏼Thanks to the name pointed with the finger, he helped me spy on my husband phone and got me the proof I needed to divorce my husband, the pain is unbearable it really hurts they don't know the amount of trauma and heartbreak we go through, after i almost lost my life to my narc husband, I couldn't divorce him cause of the kids I have to put up with a lot, because I want my children to have a happy home, but it got worst by the day, so I contacted him and he hacked my husband phone and got me all social media chat, deleted and undeleted text, he even recovered his social media account, I can even access his phone from mine and he also got me the proof I need to file a divorce, with the proof he got me I found out the reason for his behavior was because he was seeing someone else and all the evil things he has been plotting, God bless him send him a message if you need his service
Divorce them in the spirit realm
Deliverance
Thank you, Vlad and Lana, for sharing the wisdom God has given you on these topics!
I was wondering if you have some sort of course that could equip couples who would like to be mentors surrounding courting/dating etc.? This would be really valuable to my husband and I, and I'm sure countless other couples who feel called to help young adults in this area. We can watch and read and take as many notes as we can, but there are some practical pieces of tying it all together that would be great in a course! Even a place where we can bring our questions would be amazing! Thanks and God bless!! 🔥
Such good practical advice… thank you!! I learned from my past who not to date now, but I really need to mature when it comes to relationship and put Jesus first over everything! Thank you both! Love u guys and ur ministry!!!
Thank you for this blessing
How I wish I knew these things 😭 years ago. Thank you my brothers.
What sucks is I was married for 10 years to the wrong person. I loved her and I tried everything to make it work after two kids she abandoned us. Now I get to start all over 😒
Thank u for this teaching i am a pastor here in the Philippines i need this for the teens and youth
Absolutely right
Amen. Thank you🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
Thank you!
Thank you!!!
Thank you so much!
I've made a conclusion with your help, that I should not date the person who pursuing me