The Death Of Natural Beauty
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- čas přidán 17. 01. 2024
- Veneers, lip fillers, buccal fat removal, BBLs-have we reduced beauty to something that can only be bought and acquired through surgeries and procedures? What ever happened to natural beauty? Let’s talk about it.
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The cheek fat thing is crazy. As you age, your face naturally loses its plumpness and becomes sunken in. If you remove that now, you’ll be looking like Skeletor as a granny.
Oh, by then, they'll get cheek implants! 😂
im really insecure about my round face, & reading this comment makes me feel better
@@ily1ia It'll give you a youthful appearance years down the line. I've always had a round face and sometimes get mistaken for my 18 year old son's sister at 46.
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Yes! This! Be thankful for cheek fat. It makes you look more youthful as you age.
A whole industry is literally dependent on us feeling insecure about our appearance. Resist and stand strong!
Multiple industries!!
Most of us are too poor anyways
I Hate how its seems to start younger and younger every generation- obsession with makeup and looks, wearing adult fashion when theyre not even teens yet
Ok but look at her forehead. Watch her eyebrows when she talks. None of it moves. Not even a little bit. That's because of Botox. She didn't resist, she just wants you to think she did.
Welcome to Capitalism, where profit matters more than people and where diseases and insecurities are made to sell you a false solution.
When the tv and the phone is off, natural beauty still reigns
This is so powerful ❤
This may be true, but it means people need to turn off their phones and TV more often to notice this.
I was thinking the same thing. There's natural beauty in the real world, it's only dying on social media.
People really need to get back into nature and just decompress. It's amazing what doesn't really matter, like looking your best
Honestly, as a young teen, I used to think celebrities were the most confident people in the world and now I realize that they are the most insecure.
THIS! I'm so proud of you for recognizing this at a young age. YOU are beautiful naturally.
Forget beauty, society is destroying women period
Yup and men, especially white men
@@lorij3786 everyone wants a woman with the big butt and all that it’s not just white men. It’s every man really from Latin or black or Asian. It’s like a fetish.
Society is also damaging to men, but I guess we ignore that. . .
Blaming men is just lazy.@@lorij3786
@@MBurgland I say society forced men to leave
There was a Twilight Zone episode called, "Number 12 Looks Just Like You", where everybody is required to undergo an operation at age 19 to become beautiful and conform to their society. There were only a few models to choose from. That was supposed to be science fiction, and a warning about conformity. Never thought I'd be seeing it in real life.
I mentioned this when I watched Brett Cooper’s video on this subject.
Yep...and there was another Twilight Zone episode (or was it The Outer limits???)...where a woman woke up in a hospital with her face bandaged...she has plastic surgery to look "normal/beautiful" as she was hideous to everyone that she her. Well, the bandages came off and she was a normal pretty, nicelooking woman. She started screaming and crying when she looked in the mirror because the surgery didn't "make her beautiful." The camera then pans to the faces of everyone else and they look like some kind of reptilian alien humoids...😂😂 Which in reality they are ugly and hideous..not her. Anyway aparently the point is that beauty is subjective. In the end she was sent to live with a colony of other people that looked like her because she was so "hideous"...
I read a book with a somewhat similar plot called “Uglies”, where you were coerced to become a “Pretty” when you reached a certain age. It had similar messages about conformity and independence.
My first thought was the two Twilight Zone eps where they addressed this, especially the second one where if the surgery didn't take, you were sent to live with others like yourself, on whom the process did not work. It was shuddery ... and so is this.
Sounds like Asian countries for sure. They start signing their kids up for surgeries at the age of 13.
I was recommended veneers by my dentist after getting hit by a car while biking to class. I hated the whole process and hate that I have to replace them every 10 years. It is beyond me how anyone would go through this procedure willingly.
Why veneers and not crowns if medical necessary to fix? I have some for 20 years now
@@gunterine The dentist said that two of my teeth were cracked and he had to grind down the parts that were affected. He didn't want to grind down anymore than he had to, which a crown would have needed.
I'm sorry to hear that. I have missing and damaged teeth, but if someone was messed up teeth, and if I were them, I would opt for braces/implants. Functionality/aesthetics.
Really? It was a smooth process for me. I have really small lateral incisors, not quite peg laterals. After I had Invisalign they moved up again. I got x rays and I can’t have any orthodontic treatment ever again on those teeth, my front two teeth, and my bottom teeth because I have short roots and the teeth would be at risk of falling out if I got Invisalign again. So I’m getting two small veneers put on top of those two incisors, but my dentist didn’t have to shave anything down on my teeth, in fact if I decided one day to have them off, my natural teeth would still be there and look the same. There are a few different kinds of veneers, I got the cheaper ones that are considered no prep. Now those teeth could fall out before it’s time to get new ones put on but by then I’ll probably have to get implants :( but at least then I don’t have to worry about my teeth roots and them falling out
@@gunterineUnder the crowns , the Material/ Cut down teeth are rotting! These inflammations damage the Heart!!!
The sad reality is that the world is extremely shallow. People prefer natural, as long as you look perfect that way.
What people more so like is someone who passes as natural, despite the surgeries and cosmetics. It's like how people prefer the nomakeup makeup look, over a natural face
The absolute worst for me is the buccal fat removal. It ages people like crazy. Literally nobody looks better after doing that. Isn't the idea of plastic surgery to look youthful so what the hell?
Agreed!
And plastic surgeons have said it will look even more horrible as they age! Like they will look really creepy
It's all about what aesthetic they're going for....which is clearly Morticia from the Adam's family.
And the super pumped up lips that do not move when they talk, eat or smile. So weird.
I heard someone call it a 'high fashion look'
Do NOT change yourself Amala. You’re a stunning young woman just the way you are.
no shit she's not, if she made an entire video talking about natural beauty why would she ?
@@tbgtabiasare you that slow
fr, I have a few screenshots of her that I want to make into a drawing. And I RARELY like draw real life women.
@@tbgtabias Are you gay? Of course she is beautiful.
Right? A naturally pretty person
Erin Moriarty was literally perfection. So beautiful. People feel like they HAVE to do something. Natural is just so much more beautiful.
It’s really sad. Her natural beauty was part of being Starlight. There was a storyline of her not wanting to wear a skimpy costume and then she goes and gets whatever it is she had done to her face.
I still think now she looks like this 💀 emoji
I was really sad when she all of a sudden looked like that 😢 She used to be so beautiful
@@beanem.3989 These comments in themselves won't help either though. When people with these insecurities hear criticisms of their cosmetic surgery, they won't think "Oh! I looked better before? I'll reverse it then" no, they'll think something along the lines of "Wait, I still look bad? I'm not good enough yet? I need to get more work done then!" and that's why it's such a sensitive thing.
@@geebean9091 Well, that’s all true, but I don’t think she’ll read my comment so I think we’re okay here. I am going to go a step further and say I think she is a pretty bad role model or a really good example of why people should leave their faces alone and work on their mental health instead.
Amala... please do not EVER alter your looks like this. You are absolutely stunning, naturally, inside and out! 🤩💯🤘
I used to be struck by beauty before all this. Now everyone looks the same and slightly off. I’m never taken aback anymore. It’s all so boring and bizarre now.
Come out to farm country. Men are handsome and gals are pretty❤
@@RunninUpThatHillh Just any farm country? I might need to move to a small town
@@gracieluke literally any one LOL i live in rural NY. there are hotties around even here! what you need is a nice girl that loves horses :D
Maybe go outside
Go outside then. The internet isn't real.
People often forget that growing old is a thing. No matter how good the surgery looks now, there will be extra complications once they get old that wouldn't be there if they just stayed natural
My mother in law lost 50 lbs in her early 60s. Her cheeks sunk so deeply that she started looking old. Imagine doing it only to look "young" in your 20, 30s only for the sake of beauty?
A lot of these disasters will not get to old age because drugs addictions or worse will claim them first. Self love comes from within not without. Noone can make it to old age without loving yourself just a little.
@@othosos That's also true
@@brucheweinberger6863 What's worse is those cheek surgeries are often a downgrade. Most looked better before
@@FOF275 I know!!! The first time I saw my mother in law after she lost her weight ( we leave 6 hours apart), I was staring at her trying to figure out why she looked so old and haggard.
Ozempic being used by individuals that are obese and or have tried various ways to get the weight off is very different than those that are using it solely for aesthetics.
Natural beauty is already making a huge comeback! Thank God.
is it though? What I see is a lot of influencers doing the fake natural thing where it's supposed to mimic natural but it's all product and plastic surgery, South Korean beauty is famous for doing this
@@cottoncandykawaii2673 exactly. now the fake and plastic surgery look is being sold as natural. it's so pervasive that many people begin to believe that the fake look is natural
Women who haven’t ruined their looks with artificial interventions will be considered the most desirable in a few years.
Bingo 🎯
Also women who aren't covered in tattoos.
Thank you! A tattoo here or there I don't mind that much. But I prefer a blank canvas.@@johnhoran9840
It’s women getting bad cosmetic procedures that stand out the most. If you look further into procedures like rhinoplasty or breast lift, the after pictures are often making the woman more attractive when it is a good surgeon
I agree with you... the trend will eventually veer that way. 👍🏼
We all have insecurities but the problem here is social media exacerbating it. It’s never mattered more what we look like.
You are right. It’s creeped into the workplace and now it’s expected that we look a certain way as well. I guess it makes the business look better.
Exactly! Its really pathetic that people are so self absorbed and swayed by public opinion. @tripletriple777
@tripletriple777 that needs to be yelled off of balconies all around the world
@tripletriple777 I completely agree but I was generalizing. Everybody, to some degree, cares about how they look. What’s going on now is extreme. We have 10 year olds hanging out at Sephora, ffs.
@tripletriple777I think it’s not just about showing yourself on social media. But also exposure. Humans have never ever before been exposed to so many beautiful faces every day through social media, advertising, tv shows, and so on. It has raised the bar on what we perceive as an „average“ looking person.
I think it’s important to focus on comparing yourself to the people who you see in real life, not the people you see through a screen. But it’s hard, we all just wanna be loved and feel beautiful.
Thank you Amala! Im a 46 year woman and agree that plastic surgery is treated too casual like buying a pair of shoes. Even things like filler and botox have consequences. This is a topic that needs to continue to be brought up.
True beauty is being confident in yourself and that always shines through more than any plastic fix ever will.
About 9 years ago when I was about to turn 18, I was able to get a tooth implant (I was born missing a tooth) I remember my original dentist said I should get veneers to match the implant, but then when I seen a different dentist, he said he will not touch my healthy teeth to exchange them for veeners, he said it’s so unnecessary and prefers to only do them in the extreme cases and I’m glad I listened and kept my original teeth! And he made the implant match all my teeth VS matching all my teeth to one implant🙏
That other dentist was a sales man and not a doctor. VERY common in the medical field.
You can get no prep veneers that just cover your natural tooth and pop right off. I also have congenially missing teeth among some other stuff, and opted not to get an implant.
You are so lucky you saw an ethical dentist. Mine destroyed my beautiful teeth and gave me a mouthful of unnecessary veneers that have begun to fail and crumble after 10 years. I now need to replace most of them and that will be at least another $18,000 or more! The porcelain doesn’t last forever and caused issues on the adjoining teeth! It’s a mess and it was unnecessary!
@@kam0406 Probably why it's better to get caps instead of veneers...they do still make caps if all someone is interested in is having fake looking white teeth(real teeth will not look white, enamel is not white and never has been, it's an off-white).
@@zaklex3165 A cap IS a veneer. They require the filing down of existing tooth structure. The cap is more associated with a root canal but in essence they're all the same. A filed down tooth with a cosmetic overlay.
It was only a matter of time. Scott Westerfeld wrote sci-fi "Uglies" based on what he observed in South Korea around the early 2000s. The books were about futuristic society that was fully centered around the idea of beauty and that required every 16 year old to get a full body operation of plastic surgery. To me it's one of Hollywood's greatest disappointments that this was never adapted to the screen. Every attempt at starting the project never took off.
Reminds me of a Twilight Zone episode where a girl reached that age (about 16 to 18 years old) and had to pick out of a beauty catalogue which version she wanted to transform herself into, to look just like the other folks that already went forward with the surgery. She hesitated because it eliminates our natural beauty, uniqueness that we are born with.
I liked those books
Man I wish that series became a movie so bad.
I loved those books when I was in middle school and high school! I think about those books when I see all of this plastic surgery stuff going on. They don't need mind control implants anymore when they have TikTok and Instagram to control people now :(
Wonder why... Probably because they couldn't find any actors who haven't had plastic surgery 😂
I went on my first bare-faced first date yesterday. A little mascara and some lip gloss, but no foundation. And I felt GREAT.
Total respect!
@@TylerG7777 🩵 no second date, but to be fair, I didn't want one and was grateful I didn't need to come up with an excuse...
You are absolutely 100% correct. Unique, natural features are beautiful and give us character.
No! Don't touch your face! You are a real natural beauty!
Exactly, she looks great as she is
The craziest thing is that these trends are all temporary and cyclical. Back in the day, full plump cheeks were considered more attractive, and now people are going for the gaunt skinny look with buccal fat removal. Big asses are popular now, but skinny bodies used to be the ideal. These people are doing permanent bodily damage for trends that won't last. It's sick.
No now it’s skinny bodies again that’s why using ozempic is so big for celebrities
_> are popular now_
They aren't even popular. All these "trends" are over-inflated by the algorithm.
@@gg_ingy honestly
I'm 47 and still have what my family call "chipmunk cheeks".
I think it makes me look youthful. People think I'm in my 20's, early 30's.
I'm more than ok with that. 😊
I definitely don't want the fat sucked out of my face.
@@anakelly76512 I’m 27 and headed down the same route also stopped dying my hair 2 years ago lol 😂
You better not touch that face! You are not only beautiful but your kindness and uplifting spirit lights up your face.
As someone who usually wears a lot of makeup I've started not doing it at all. I put Mascara on and that's it. I have noticed how there are spots and skin blemishes from years of makeup and I think it's sad. I agree natural beauty is hard to accomplish when we're force fed all these beauty influences and stuff of that sort; so staying off most social media and working on myself is what I've started doing instead.
This is why I always tell my wife that whenever she hates a certain part of her body that she deems ugly to remind herself that her husband thinks she is beautiful even all the imperfections she sees within herself.
Why? As a husband you have little influence on your wife's self-image. You love her, so her mind says you are biased. Some hot guy at work or the grocery store has 1000x more influence over your wife's self-image than you will EVER have. One glance from him after she gets a haircut impacts her more than all the complimentary and assuring words you will ever speak.
And that sucks. It's wrong. But it is what it is. No wife values her husband's authentic love over the s3xual validation of a hot stranger. And it's ending the institution of marriage.
If she ever says that kind of thing again, say this. "If my attraction to you isn't enough validation, feel free to leave." Not "leave me." Just "leave." Then end the conversation. Don't engage anymore. Don't discuss it. You can repeat it, but do not engage. It may start a fight. It may get you the abuse of the silent treatment.
But it WILL save your marriage...if she hasn't let you know "she loves you" but isn't "in love with you."
Aww how sweet. My husband tells me he will pay for surgery. In fact he encourages it. How I wish he'd be like you in that way
@@holeymcsockpuppet lmao this incel
@@holeymcsockpuppet thankfully I did not marry a woman like that. She does the same for me when I even look at myself in the mirror and hate what I see.
I’ll make sure to pass along that info to others since it does not apply to my marriage of 15 years going on 16
@@MegaHunter90210 Good man
The unfortunate thing here is that even people who say they prefer the so-called "natural" look, don't really want to see the actual natural look, they want to see natural beauty, with an emphasis on beauty. And then they shame people for trying to improve their looks... the hypocrisy.
This is the truth. Sadly.
Came here to say this.. people are desensitized and it makes even naturally beautiful people feel not enough
This part. Especially with women. These same men are saying they like natural, but they treat natural women who aren't highly beautiful like shit. Often times unprovoked. Men make a huge deal about even being around unattractive women.
Beauty is been revered since the beginning of time. But now is a distorted fake version of it. Which fails to accomodate the concept, imo.
I don't see much of a difference between natural look and natural beauty
Thank you for bringing up this important issue, Amala. For my graduation my mom promised me a boob job (that I never wanted in the first place). She went to plastic surgents when I was 16, to see if they would do the surgery but they said we would have to wait until I was 21. Both my mum and sister have had boob jobs and I was told that I would be next. This was 15 years ago and I am so proud to say that I have turned the offer down when I graduated and by doing so gained so much confidence and love for my own body. Of course, I also struggle with certain aspects of my body, also because of aging. But my body is authentic and natural, just like my personality, and I am proud of that and love myself for who I really am (and want to be loved for exactly that and nothing else). Everything else is superficial, if you start to modulate your insecurities on the surface you will never be able to stop, because your insecurities will still ache from within.
Wow, that's so strong of you, well done! I remember being 14 thinking I needed a boob job - and then immediately realising I could never, because my parents would be so saddened if I ever did anything like that to myself. I can't imagine having your family actually PUSHING you to alter yourself - that's screwed up - and you're seriously so cool for managing to go your own way.
I can completely relate to this as a nurse even at work I'm constantly exposed to coworkers talking about botox and fillers. I mentioned something about not wanting to have my mom's droopy Jowls and a doc I worked with started explaining a procedure I could get done. This is in an ER....I said thanks but I'll diet and exercise first and then see where I'm at.
You’re not any better than they are talking about your mother like that
We’re in this shit storm because of people like you, who say toxic, horrible things about people as if it’s just another tuesday
My mum once said she worried she'd get grandma's droopy jowls and I was like... I love grandma's droopy jowls. They make her look super nice and grandma-y. And if I end up inheriting her jowls I'll be sure to remember that.
Someone once said in an interview: "we delete the concept of aging for kids. One day grandma is her usual blong hair, not many wrinkles, make up self- and the next day she's dead. There's no transition".
That’s what Aldous Huxley envisioned in Brave New World
wait, can you specify where or how? I don't remember@@Seliz463
20 years ago researchers showed women's breasts to teenagers and asked them which ones they found most attractive.
The majority picked the surgically enhanced breasts. Even the girls. It's almost as if the media, social and traditional has been reprogramming people.
But that is so not true
@@user-nk5pv5np3v It might be the extreme, made as a statement for a joke, but I honestly think people under a certain age can't tell the difference between natural ageing and "work done" age looks.
As someone who watched The Boys as the seasons came out, seeing Erin Moriarty change her face between each season was heartbreaking. She was so gorgeous in season 1, especially with her full cheeks. Seeing her waste away and change her face to become more and more sharp and sunken is really sad. :(
I am watching it right now and I was thinking she's just so pretty and the role suits her well. Very sad to see this.
It's almost offencive that naturally beautiful people ruin their faces like that... offencive towards the not-so-pretty-priveliged people 😅
same with Nina Dobrev in TVD :(( her unique bulgarian features were unmatched
It’s kind of ironic considering the character she plays on screen.
Oh, this reminds me of Lucifer's Lauren German. In the beginning she looked good, then as the show continued, she looked more and more fake. Her face changed drastically up to a point where I couldn't even watch the show anymore.
As I approached 50 I tried to fight aging all that I could - as I approach 60 I no longer care, love myself exactly as I am and feel great in my skin. I don't want to look plastic just healthy and stylish and that can be accomplished without Botox, filler or a trip to the surgeon. Stay strong Amala!
Amala, you're gorgeous, in my opinion. I hope you don't EVER change how you look. Thanks for making this video. I imagine many young girls admire you and will be influenced by what you've shared here. Carry on!
It's always better to look older but natural than "younger" but unnatural. You won't beat aging, just do it with style.
Not sure why, but your comment made me think of Madonna vs Helen Mirren. Helen Mirren is 13 years older, but is very non-surgical looking, and is absolutely stunning.
So true, and surgeries don’t make them actually look young per se. they look pulled and puffed and strange
Exactly! And if anything, these surgeries just age them even more. Kyle Jenner easily looks like she’s 40 when she’s 26.
Aging is inevitable. But as long as you take good care of yourself, it will make you age less.
I agree!
Yep, look at Michelle Pfeiffer vs Madonna. Both same age, but Michelle aged naturally but very gracefully.
The plastic look is fucking horrible no matter how well its done.
They always turn out looking worse than before
Anybody remember the movie Escape From L.A. with the abductions of people for fresh parts?
@@jaysonraphaelmurdock8812 Israel does that, just so you know, its a thing now.
@pookiesfriendrayray7086 its the look they go for is what i mean.
Watch kpop idols before and after
Such a complete conversation! Love what you admitted about makeup!
Thank you so so much for speaking up for natural beauty! Keep fighting the good fight 👏 👏 👏 I appreciate you!!!
I wanted surgery on my chest for a long time. I was really insecure. Then i heard a sentence. I dont even know where i heard it. 'healthy flesh should not be cut in.' and thats when it landed for me. My body was and is healthy, i was given this body by my parents and thousands of years of bloodline runs in this body. It works for me, it leads me places, why would i treat it with voilence in return? My body is healthy. It will not be cut in unless its medically necessary.
My Mom suffered for years because of her EE bust size and she was only a size 18(Australian sizing) it was a standing joke that both Mom and I would never fall flat on our faces, after years of chronic back pain she finally saved up enough to have a total breast reduction down to a size more fitting for her dress size, to say Mom blossomed is an understatement. I would love to be able to do the same but I just cannot afford the high cost of the surgery. So I struggle along, but for years after Mom was finally happy with the way she looked.
I find that women who think big is gorges are crazy it’s uncomfortable its annoying it would be fantastic just for once not having to have to wear a bra that is reinforced to hold up 2-3 kg bust 24/7 your breast grow with every pregnancy you go through. I cannot buy a bra that is pretty to wear because they don’t make pretty bras for women who have watermelons up front and centre. I have a size 18 waist, size 20 hips, but I’m a size 24 top and as I am losing weight the only part of me that’s not shrinking is my bust. I wear a bra that flattens my chest just so it does not look too bad.
Thankfully I am now almost 61 so I don’t care anymore I look great for my age even if I’m twisted like a pretzel due to scoliosis.
The one thing these women forget when they get these chest implants they have to be replaced every few years because of what they are made of goes hard over time and then it makes them look lumpy, and they can never get a mammogram to check for lumps.
I started to fully accept and love my features after looking through old family photo albums. There were generations of people who all shared some small feature with me. I love history, and I realized my nose that I hated is part of my own history: I never knew my great-grandfather, but he had the same nose. It completely changed the way I see beauty. Each body is thousands of years in the making, and that's pretty awesome.
Wow, that's so beautiful.
My wife is, in my eyes, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. She's never had any sort of comestic procedure apart from orthodontic treatment to correct an overbite (as did I), and she would never even consider it. She never wears make-up either. Sometimes she has moments of insecurity about some aspect of her appearance and regularly jokes about her "crazy hair" (very curly), but one of the things that makes her so attractive is the fact that she is very comfortable in her own skin, and she's embraced the way she looks without feeling the need to augment herself in any way. She doesn't look anything like the plastic people from the magazines and the movies and social media, and because of that some might think she's not 'conventionally beautiful'. Yet to me, her natural beauty outshines the glossiest Instagram model a thousand times over.
Your wife is so blessed to have a husband like you!
To be fair, overbite correction isn’t really for vanity. It can change appearance, but it’s mainly for health purposes. An uncorrected overbite can lead to breathing problems, pain while chewing, and gum disease. Your wife is a blessed woman to have you in her life.
Same here. My wife throughout her life took care of her skin by avoiding sun damage and keeping it clean and also hydrated by drinking large amounts of water. Women stop her in public to comment on how beautiful her skin is. She rarely wears makeup and looks years younger than what she is.
Fun fact, people have mistaken me for her father even though I'm only six years older than her. Not sure if I should take that as a compliment or not.😂
She's my trophy wife. 😊
If Scarlett Johansson asked you on a date I doubt you would say no to her just because she had a few nosejobs 😂
You're wife sounds lovely as does you! Hope you guys have a great life :)
Girl you're so well spoken. And honest. I love this. So so much. Thank you thank you thank you.
please do not change. you are very very beautyful 🥰
Madonna is evidence that aging will ALWAYS win.
Mad Donna turned herself into Pete Burns.
She was a narcissist that abused drugs and nightlife. She is not an example of smooth natural ageing
@@LordPoshnameVonPlumbingparts Exactly he should stay normal but The Alphabet Academy, The Industry, and Hollyweird especially his mental state put him over the edge until they push his death.
She looks horrible. She should’ve left her face alone.
Simon Cowell. I'm not his fan but saw him as a talent show judge a few times. Back then he was quite a hunk for a time. Working out and such and so he looked healthy and fit. Now he's just a scared balloon.
My mom taught me from a young age that "pretty is as pretty does," and placed a significant emphasis that beauty has a lot more to do with your behavior than how you look, so that's something I try to keep in mind any time I feel insecure because of a new trend.
Your mom sounds like a wonderful person
Your mom has it SO! right!
On a scale of 1-10, a mean aggressive woman loses 2 points, while a nice agreeable woman gains 2 points. Now, rate yourself from 1-10, then adjust.
My mother never taught me that but I figured it out, respect of women in my family and how they carried their selves and realized I respected myself at some point in my 30’s
@@bobjohnson1633totally get that
I've gone down the rabbit hole of historical fashion and what I love is that people didn't try to alter their body to fit the fashionable silhouette but instead used padding (on the bust, on the butt) to achieve it. Ther use optical tricks. Also, corsets were not torture devices and tightlacing was far from the norm. Corsets were breasts support, helped carry the weight of the skirts (instead of having the skirts dig into your side) and provided a more "rigid" surface, a base, for the clothes to lay on and give a smoother look.
At 42 and going through life’s aging process I am embracing the changes and recording how I lost 192 lbs but refusing any surgeries
Part of the issue is that we have a problem with aging. Everyone wants to look 25. I really don’t get it. Natural aging can be beautiful if somebody has taken care of their health. I hope one day we figure that out.
Exactly. And some don’t get the chance to age. People should be grateful they are living through the aging process. It’s life ❤
I'm a straight woman, but I've always thought men and women aged 35-55 were the best looking.
Amala and Brett Cooper put out the same video on the same day
I'm 32 do I look 25?
I have a big nose and when I was about 14 years old I got this idea in my head that because of this ugly, big nose whole my life would be ruined. And if I just had a smaller, prettier nose, I would be so much happier. One morning standing in front of the mirror almost crying - because I was so convinced this was true - my mom came, looked at me like I was an idiot and said "stop being ridicilous, get yourself together and learn to live with what you have got.." So that discussion was over and I had to do as told: I learned to live with what I have got. My nose did not get smaller or prettier, but instead of it I concentrated on the things I wanted to DO in life (like travelling around, learning languages, living abroad) and how to achieve those things in stead of obsessing over how I LOOK like.. Now I am almost 50 years old, my nose is still the same, but I speak fluently 4 languages, have travelled and lived abroad in many countries on several continents - and my nose was always there with me, but never a hinder on anything I have done. So I hope people would look less in the mirror and more into their inner dreams, which are achieveble no matter how one looks like.
Beautiful! ❤
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I'll be honest ... I kinda dig a big nose. I don't know why.
The devil invented mirrors 😮😮😮
Growing up poor the only mirrors we had at home were a tiny mirror in the bathroom I was too short to reach and this closet one that morphed you real good. Found out what I truly look like from every angel after getting a cheap camera for my 10th birthday and what pure joy! I like drawing caricatures so seeing the Jimmy Durante on my face made me very happy. Was lucky enough to never experience the doubt you and many others did. Glad your mom was there for you. Embrace the schnoz folks.
I remember when plastic surgery was rare and almost taboo.
In my eyes, natural beauty is the one and only beauty! It’s unique, you can 99/100 times tell when you bought your body
Hey, Amala! 15-yr old girl here. I look up to you so much, please never worry about your appearance when you are SO naturally beautiful!! I love your content!! Keep up the good work!!
Humanity is focused so much on looks that the SOUL has become completely obliterated.
Truth.
Disagree, get off the internet and into the real world
That's Satan's plan: focus on self, even on humanity, creation, etc, anything BUT God. If we focused on God, boy would our perceptions about EVERYTHING change!
That's the goal ultimate goal of Satan ....
Being an extremely late bloomer to makeup, as an adult I appreciate and applaud the artistry that comes with doing one's or another's face well.
Makeup is meant to enhance what we already have and is an expression of who we are and how we would personally like to be percieved. A perfect and even cat eye is very, very difficult to do well, and takes a lot of practice. The colors and fun we have in the form of self expression is limitless, and we are each our own private canvasses to work on whenever we wish. Cutting off and out parts of your face isn't really a celebration or enhancement of what you already have, it's harming yourself because what you were wasn't good enough for you to display and present as flatteringly as you could. In contrast, doing makeup that brings out your eyes or highlights your naturally occurring bone structure is showcasing and bringing attention to the parts you love about yourself.
I don't normally wear make up, only when in special occasions, I like how it looks but I just don't want to deal with the damage it will do to my skin... I have received tons of criticism from women in my life because I don't do it regularly... It's so ingrained in our society that I find it sad that people feel the need to hide behind make up or plastic surgery instead of working on their self esteem and learn to love themselves..
I see natural gorgeous women everyday and they get ignored for Instagram looking girls. With caked faces & tight or revealing clothing in real time. It’s insanity. Blows my mind.
*Edit* Interesting how I post this & some commenters are twisting the meaning of my comment(s), or just assuming things. Just calling it out. God forbid I agree with the topic of the video & not be met with negativity & assumptions of some people.
Years ago I worked in a production environment where there were strict controls on what we could wear while working. These were medical devices so for example we couldn't wear sweaters that would shed, or women couldn't wear nail polish or make up, etc. There was one particular woman who was in my eyes totally gorgeous. Every day I saw her without any make up at all so one day I ran into her outside of work and I almost didn't recognize her because she was wearing make up.
I didn't say anything but I thought she looked so much better without the make up.
@@jimmyboy131 …. So you never ever said anything? Rather a missed opportunity dude.
It's unfortunate, but I believe it. My theory is that women with lots of plastic surgery are desired by some not because they actually look good, but because plastic surgery usually signals lots of money, promiscuity, some level of fame, or all of the above. Vapid people prefer these traits over normalcy.
Define ignored.
IG likes doesn't necessarily mean they're winning.
@@sman14GTA People I’ve met I’ve seen never get compliments despite being beautiful, etc. Whilst girls with makeup & tight or/& less clothing get any attention or/& compliments in real time. I get it they’re beautiful but why just them, is the suspicious part. Hence the point of the video.
My heart sank when I saw the thumbnail. I am such a BIG fan of the series The Boys, and she was perfect the way she were. Now she looks nothing like her old self
They definitely killing off Stargirl
@@dazzrods I was so looking forward for the next season. Missing the Butcher, Frenchie, but not sure how to feel now tbh..
@@vitaaviandhono2506 oh she will be normal looking for the 4th season. just think they might do a couple of reshoots to kill the character off, but i doubt though
She looked like this in season 3. This is not new unless she has gotten more
@@justindaniel3273 I'll admit she was visibly skinnier than the first two seasons but she does not look like the thumbnail imo. Man I'm even more curious now for season 4 🙃
Just one thing i would like to add, it is not only social media itself but also some doctors and dentist try to influence the patient... and even criate more insecurities, like to them is never enough
When i was much younger, i wanted to change everything about my appearance. But then my grandma died. I've been told on multiple occasions that i resemble her a lot to people. That's when i decided that I'm not changing anything about myself.
Think about your appearance as a heritage from all your ancestors, this helps to appreciate what you have.
Growing up my mom used to make me get blonde highlights and everyone thought I was natural blonde instead of dark brown/reddish. She also would tell me I looked more beautiful with straight hair, I have beautiful curly hair. Then she said I would look so much better with make up on. I have grown to completely disagree with her and embrace my natural beauty. You all should too. Let's start learning gardening and taking back our country by participating in reality.
If your thumbnails anything to go by your right
But before gardening you have to have money, home and land first.
@@MollyHJohns this is true. Though seeds are cheap and you can start your plants in a pot.
@@apeape06 Our local public library has a free "seed library"!
You're quite gifted in terms of looks, self-awareness and commonsense.
I’m so grateful I’m too poor to “fix” my “ugly” body and face… I am grateful for the life my body has given me
Yho you are part of the problem so if you had money … you’d get it
Wrong. If you had the money, you'd be under the knife in a millisecond.
@@adams8830bold claim. Not everybody is insecure about their appearance. The only acceptability is 1) it’s a medical thing, nose job or 2) it’s something you really want to and you’re doing it for YOU, not for someone else. The fact is though that most people do it for someone else (society)
Standing Slow Clap! Thank you Amala for doing this work and sharing this important video. Please continue this message ..... natural beauty is being rejected by a generation of people who are not recognizing how beautiful they are; and it's heartbreaking for an old lady like me.
A guy here: I stopped using beard dye a long time ago. I’m not much to look at, but I’m genuine.
Accepting who you are at any age is one of the keys to be happy. Pam Anderson recently walked a red carpet without any makeup and it was great.
It was a stunt for attention which she lives for. It was all about her, no matter what she claims.
@@jamesclark6487calling attention to the rampant perversion in hollywood is a very good thing.
Men and women still hate her for it.
Pamela Anderson is one of the reasons millions of women had very poor body image in the 90s. Let’s not forget about that. We‘re also talking about a woman who has been under the knife many times.
yeah what? Who believes that it wasnt a publicity stunt for a huge has-been?
I always love that part in the 3rd Narnia movie where Lucy want to look more like her sister Susan. And Aslan shows her in her dream that by doing so she was wishing away herself. I found that moment to be so impactful. And then Lucy tells the little girl "When you grow up you should be just like you" 😭
I think about this everytime I want to be like everyone else...beautiful or "normal"...and then I remember I am me and that is enough ❤
Aww I love narnia! It's the best 😇
When movies had a good story unlike nowadays
I hate it when people who have beautiful teeth ruin them by getting unnecessary veneers.
Some people are writing that they prefer natural beauty. It's possible that you haven't actually seen natural beauty... Well, not in anyone with a public profile.
I'll take a natural woman over a store bought one anytime
It's not like you have many options
People just think natural beauty is too much they just want more. This generation is lost and confused my friend.
I second that Skorch
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I don't know man women these days making them androids very appealing 😏
What Anya Taylor-Joy has done to her face is virtually a war crime
Back in the day folk used to do meth to achieve that effect...
Yep, she looks so fake... That's why it's not beautiful, because it's not natural.
She looks otherworldly and not in a good way
She was soo pretty and she ruined it it's such a shame
My wife wanted plastic surgery and I showed her this. "See this can happen even if you are rich, imagine what your discount surgeon will do?"
As a natural woman in my 30s, some of these tweaked 20 year olds literally look like they’re in their 50’s with work done. They keep chiseling and hardening their faces, it makes me so sad. Soft round features are so beautiful and youthful, truly. Please don’t mess with your face, it not only about achieving a look now but you will age on top of that and it’ll morph. We have make-up if you want to change it up, that’s what it’s for ❤ be you, you’re perfect.
YES! YES! More CZcamsr speaking about it please!!! We need it.
What is additionally concerning is that when a celeb chooses to NOT have plastic surgery, the comments are mostly stating the person looks old and SHOULD have surgery
exactly, that's why I refrain from commenting on people's looks online. I can't imagine being torpedoed with such amount of criticism about my looks no matter what I do or don't do. I've no idea how they manage.
How about we just STOP talking about peoples looks? Like, at all? When the fuck has it ever been beneficial to ANYONE to talk about looks?
I find it all very contradictory, when we’re supposed to promote body positivity and accept obesity yet we have on the other end of the spectrum where people are all trying to look “perfect” it doesn’t make sense
Their goal is destroying all existing social norms, nothing has to make sense.
Regretfully, There were times in my life that I was superficial, and objectified people who I had no reason to objectify. That is a personal flaw based in a judgmental frame of mind. I think I’m much better about it today.
It shows when someone is self-conscious about something and they are insecure about it. It’s the judgmental, self-defeatist, and superficial attitudes that gets me to view people negatively, not the imperfections themselves. Some people are just looking for ways to put you in a box so they can judge you as being less than worthy of common decency.
I’m over 20% body fat, and that’s where chronic inflammation that accelerates aging begins for men. Nobody is shaming me for my body fat percentage, and I think most people know body shaming isn’t a loving and supportive way to encourage people to live healthier lives.
@@markaja2 I body shame myself...knowing full well I should be around a 100 - 120 lbs lighter, but I wouldn't look good at a 145 lbs either...more like 160 - 180, however, I refuse to give up my Italian food and other unhealthy habits...I'd rather have fun then be miserable. Also, knowing that it's a simple set of amino acids that would cause the body to burn my fat really irritates me...we know the exact chemicals that our own bodies produce when working out on empty stomachs that forces the consumption of our fact to fuel the body, yet because Big Pharma hasn't figure out a way to bottle and sell if, they come up with all these other chemical compounds to try and help people lose weight.
you are talking about women as a collective... ask them about opinion on 10 subjects and you will get 200 different answers depending on what time of the month it is. They have no idea what they want or what they fight for.
One thing I do know is the people who take the surgery and say “body positivity”, just say that to look all inclusive and accepting in public but their actions show you exactly what they really think about it.
I usually don’t care if someone gets plastic surgery as long as they’re not lying about it and say that it’s “all skincare“. But if a celebrity I admire were to get plastic surgery I would lose all my respect for them as I‘m personally against it and think it looks extremely fake and you can immediately tell if someone got something done.
what helps me ignore my body insecurities is that, i tell myself "atleast i'm real and atleast i'm different". like yes, i may be ugly as hell, right? but i sure don't wanna become one of them, looking like an instagram clone
I’m 17 and sometimes think I need plastic surgery. Comparison sucks. But I remember that we all are unique, and surgery won’t fix the “root” of the problem.
You've got a good head on you for a kid. When the outside nonsense seem like it's making sense, never forget these snake oil salesmen switch the "ugly trait" of the week into a beauty trait they want you to pay for. All these people with deflated butts and jacked up faces will be spending hundreds of thousands down the line just to look less uncanny.
You're so young and I'm glad that you have this view. As you age you will find different stages of beauty in your life. Please enjoy them because each is unique and special and tells the story of who You are.
Amala, please don't change a thing about you. You are beautiful just as you are.
I wholeheartedly second this
I third this! She’s very cute 😁
I 4th that. You're beautiful just the way you are girl. 💯
There’s an old saying that comes to mind whenever I see Amala: “She’s as cute as a button.” Please don’t change your very appealing look.
Amala is lovely. ❤
Being in my 60’s now, everyone was whoever they were in our teens. I can’t even imagine what it must be like for teenagers today.
Thank you so much for shining light on this.
People also need to keep in mind that beauty trends change over time.
Be your beautiful self and happy with who you are.
I personally like seeing someone else’s expressions and not a frozen robot face.
My grandma is 94 and hasn’t had a thing done and she is beautiful inside and out ❤
There's a huge difference in putting on a bit of makeup vs hacking at your face with a scalpel
The fact that Amala who I think is one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever seen thinks she needs to change her face is such a wake up call to how badly influential social media and these fake people can be. I wish I was as naturally pretty as her I can’t even wrap my head around the fact she doesn’t think she’s pretty sometimes??
Like, Amala is one of the most beautiful girls my eyes have come across. It's shocking she has less pretty moments
Indeed! Amala is really pretty and lovely the way she is.
That is seriously messed up. She’s awesome
If women just slept, ate whole foods, worked out, and practiced gratitude, ee would have a most beautiful and healthy world. No make-up needed. No extensions. No witch nails. No surgeries.
But she defaced herself with tattoos. 🤮
I find it really helpful to set boundaries with how often you are on social media and the content you are consuming. It can so easily influence your mind, body, and soul
We celebrate beauty too much, which has led us to this problem. To be unattractive to others makes humans feel so bad we will do anything to avoid it.
Its crazy because I've always thought these celebrities looked so unattractive and its because they got work done 🤦🏽 there's something so beautiful about the natural look that surgery just can't replicate.
The humans will look more robotic than the actual machines that come out.
It was scary to see the before and afters. All of them looked worse off. In fact most looked like Michael Jackson, in that they went a step too far with it.
Zoe (Zoë) Kravitz and Bella Hadid they look much more attractive after plastic surgery. There is no need to believe that it spoils everyone. These kinds of changes help them earn huge amounts of money. This is the reality.
An older friend of mine once shared with me her story of plastic surgery when I was a teenager. She said she had a nose job because she was convinced her nose was too big and it made her ugly. But after the operation her friends didn’t even notice there was a difference. She asked “don’t you see something different in my face” and the answer was “oh yea, right, now that you point it out” She was initially disappointed as she thought the procedure will have a bigger impact on the way people see her and her confidence. But she realised her friends and the people around her that matter accept her for the person she is and not for her looks only. I think that helped me growing up not too hyper focus on looks. And she clearly learned her lesson as she is one of the most confident and accomplished people I know.
This happened to a relative's ex girlfriend (of which I had a "relationship" with at one point).
She got her nose done, for reason I assume were like your friends, and none of us really noticed.
She didn't ask around though.
There’s just something about the “dead-behind-the-eyes” look that they all have that makes me SUPER uncomfortable. It’s like they’re looking THROUGH you, rather than AT you.
Wise words, young podcaster. Being a natural woman is a not just a journey. It's a trip!
We deserve this. We've cultivated a society that tells women they've hit their expiration dates at 20. That their boobs are either too small or too big. We shame men for being short or going bald. This was just the natural conclusion to hammering it into people's heads that things you can't change naturally decreases you're value as a person.
boobs are probably the only thing that men are pushing women towards when it comes body modification... everything else is pushed by women for women! And the list is really freaking long.
I'm a short-ish man, and tall-er men absolutely have a bigger ego than I do.
You've missed the point entirely.
Talking about balding just makes me think of Barkley and Shaq roasting Derrick White.
None of it is new.
Girl, please don't feel insecure about your looks. Personally, i think you're perfect just the way you are. You look fit, healthy and you have a cute and charming personality and face.
My heart broke when I saw what the actress who played Starlight in the Boys did to herself. She was so beautiful, and I'm so sad that she was bullied into turning herself skeletal :(
There was anothrr creator who made a podcast on matural beauty. I loved how she highlighted girls used to compare themsleves to the most pretty girl in the neighborhood. Now women compare themselves to the most beaitiful women in the world! Because we see too much of social media.
You are NOT the only one who sees it. People are getting creepy and artificial looking. *For the record, you are a unique and natural beauty. It is refreshing and lovely to see. Stay strong
Thanks for speaking up!
Amala is soo beautiful naturally, she should never make any drastic changes to her look! ❤
Could wear less clothes...
@@jamesclark6487 or a little procedure to Asian eyelids. She'd be totally traffic stopping. Would blue eyes be overkill?
Wow, James and Mark, inappropriate .
Amala, don't change a thing. You're beautiful😊
James and Mark can change though !
@@hummus1874 Oh. I forgot Elon Musk! Imagine how totally super smart Amala would be with a bionic memory implant Elon is developing. She'd get a billion subscribers in no time. So awesome.
I love videos like these about plastic surgery because whenever I’m feeling insecure about how I look I watch these and feel so much better
It’s crazy how beauty standards have changed to cosmetic messes that are very unattractive, these horrific trends are so sad.
This video made me cry so hard. As a 12 year old obsessed with her body this really gave me a reality check.
Please don't alter yourself. Let's bring back natural and make that a movement. Wish you a happy contented life. 😊
Darling, take it from someone who loathed their image in the mirror when I was your age so much so, that I felt shame being around anyone, because I was sure they were throwing up in their heads when they saw me: when I became 30, after many years of therapy, I started to look at the old pictures of my self aged 10, 12, 15... I started to cry so hard, you cannot imagine. I remembered hating my body and now, many years later all I could see was a beautiful, young girl, that was so traumatized, she didn't even see how she looked like. She always was beautiful, but it took her 20 years to finally see that. Please don't waste 20 years of your life. As long as your heart is beating and you can feel love towards the world: you are and will always be beautiful. You are loved dearly by All that Is. Everything else is a lie. Shut down your computer, put down your phone and let the trees show you your true beauty. Take this message as a sign from God or the Universe, that it loves you. Sending you love form across the globe. ❤
Saying it's a phase probably won't make you feel any better, but you should know that what you're going through, most girls go through around your age. Social media has presented your generation with much less realistic examples to compare yourselves too, though, which is no doubt making things more difficult. I'm glad that you know now that most of what you're seeing online isn't real. What Amala says is right - what they're presenting as "beautiful" recently (plastic surgery enhancements to create a generic look with big lips, sucked out cheeks etc.), isn't natural, and in the opinion of most people, doesn't make them look any better than they did before. You're still young, the best thing to do is stop thinking about the way you look for at least the next 4 years because your face, body, everything, is going to continue changing. Since you are going to change, and you don't know how you're going to change, there's really no point worrying about how you look right now because it's a very short term thing (in 6 months you'll look very different). After the 4 years go by, you'll have more life experience and will be in a better place mentally to think about things. If you're like most people (you probably are), you won't have to think long because you'll realize you have no problems to fix - especially nothing needing surgery! If you're overweight right now, my advice is different. While your weight could decrease to normal over the next 3-4 years naturally, if it's not just 10-20 pounds and is from eating wrong and not exercising, the best thing you can do for your future self is to learn what to eat and how much of it to eat, and begin exercising to start bringing your weight down and getting into a healthy routine. If your weight does continue to go up, and it goes up fast enough (a guy I went to school with gained 50 lbs. per year for 3 years...) your body could end up with problems - and not just appearance problems - you could end up with diabetes and have to inject insulin (I won't go on because just the names of potential health problems of obese people include almost all health problems you can have, including early death (as early as mid 20s to early 30s!). In summary, if it's weight, work on your diet and exercise now. If it's not, do your best to stop worrying and revisit the issue in ~4 years - you'll look different then and likely feel different too. I'm sorry society is messed up this way and causing you pain.
Get off social MEIDA and focus on real world around you. This is not a healthy place, at 12 years old I was outside back in the 90’s. Please get outside and leave social MEIDA alone till your at least 20 or 25
ur nuts, 2 even think that at the age of 12... who do you need 2 be pretty for..
I paid a deposit for a BBL when I was 20. Before I set a date for the surgery, something was telling me not to do it and I’m so glad I trusted my gut. I was able to get my deposit back in full because I hadn’t set a date yet, I used that money to hire a personal trainer and I could not be happier with my choice. I truly believe if I had gone through with it, it would have been a gateway to get more procedures that I didn’t need.
Age is coming for ALL OF US. We can try to delay the effects. But I don't think anyone will make it to 90 years old and still look like they are 30. We gotta accept that.
Forget all of that! I can’t even stand looking at women who are wearing fake eye lashes and those ridiculously long fake nails! I have SO much respect for any woman who I see going out in public all natural. No make up, no lashes, no nails. Respect!