How To Deal With Being A Professional Introvert | The Financial Diet
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If being an introvert was a profession I would have life-long job security.
kiya12309 this hahaha
Amen to the headphones. Not only do they literally block out distracting noises, but they help create a psychological barrier that separates me from the distracting hustle and bustle of the office.
What I found though is that these are vital for me to survive co-workers and bosses react hostile about them because they don't understand the issue. I used to work in an office situation where my boss was tutoring his son doing homework. I found myself answering the questions in my head because I cannot shut out noise.
When I bring up these types of things to bosses I've had, they just say that the open office is just the way it is and that I'd get used to it. My current boss sees extroverted behaviors as areas that I can grow in. It would be nice if our society valued introverts and not just introverts that pretend to be extroverts.
As an introvert, I totally agree. Open office setting, group work, meetings, distractions... Complete nightmare 😣 I work in a fairly extroverted job, so frequent breaks are crucial. The headphones are definitely a lifeline- white or background noise really help me focus.
The struggle is so real! I dealt with serious social anxiety when I started working. It was like all of a sudden i didn't know how to be human and interact with people because I wasn't used to interacting with adults on a daily basis. This was super helpful!
I loath open floor plan offices. The worst part is when you are constantly in someones line of sight that sits on the other side of the cube wall. I find that to be very unnatural and distracting. I wish I had an old school cube with taller walls.
OMG now I understand WHY I have been so shy for very long at work. I perform poorly when other people are listening to me making calls at work and are constantly giving criticism of what I do. Also, I now understand why I was not good at sales but still love marketing. I like to get some private space, work alone, get things done in my own terms rather than having people dictate to me how I should act like them (even though it might not work for me).
At one point I was asking myself what was wrong with me, and I never knew I was just a professional introvert! Thank you for this video girl!
Good grief it was like you were directly speaking to me. I thought I was the only one (or at least it sure feels that way in my office). Thank you for recognizing this very real and crippling experience.
This was one of your best videos. Was good advice and not stuff that is necessarily obvious. More like this!
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Thank you so much for validating the experience I've had with an open office. My efficiency has gone down dramatically and my anxiety levels are much higher with this layout. It's hard to seek solutions when no one else on my team seems to struggle with it like I do.
Fantastic video! I work in an relatively open space office and the people around me are often in skype calls and talking loudly so I can't focus. There are three things I do to deal with that and get my work done: 1) Headphones 2) I come in early (7:30) to get a good chunk of work out of the way before everyone else comes in between 8 and 9. 3) I block conference/meeting rooms when I really need to be alone and away from everyone else to my work done. I love that I have the chance to do that at my office but I wish we had one or two designated non-desk work areas because a change of environment can be really helpful too.
Omg!!!! I've been in a job were i feel so guilty for my attitude and this video relief all my pain. I'm not crazy, I'm just introvert and having people walking around me, having conversations, asking questions, asking for help when the printer next to me doesn't work has me totally drained, I've been thinking on quiting for the last 6 months and this video had opened my eyes. I'm totally in te right to feel this way because at the end my jobd gets affected since i am constantly interrupted. Thank you, thank you!
The point about compensation is really good. As an introvert I need time to both warm up and cool down on each side of high social stress (there are other people around, they are talking to me), so if you start counting in the time spent warming up and cooling down, then you might actually get a better final hourly wage based on working for less, but needing to spend less of your free time preparing for work or just sitting at home after with a need to do nothing (like REALLY nothing, stare into a blank wall style of nothing) and think about nothing.
Getting a nice work environment with the flexibility that you need is a luxury, and luxury cost money, but we all really need certain personal luxuries if we are to perform optimally. Adaptation is important as employees, but a really good employer also adapts the workplace, so they can get the absolute most out of their employees.
Taking a job with lower pay (but makes you more effective) might also give you options for improvement, which could lead to better career options. But as an introvert you also need to interact with your coworkers, or you lose your feel for what is going on, you might become isolated, and therefore easier to fire that someone as part of a social group, if the company needs to lay off a single employee. Therefore, I think it is very important to stress the cost-benefit balance between compensation and environment has a lot more depth than even this... But this is a very nice start :)
I would love for you to do a video on how not to be a fuck up. I remember hearing you say you used to be a professional fuck up, and I would love to hear your story on how you overcame that, because I constantly feel like a professional fuck up, and it has become a terribly unhealthy cycle I'm finding it hard to get out of.
make better choices girl lmao. have a specific goal. Cut out shit from your live that doesn't help. and lay one perfect brick everyday
I have a lot of phone meetings at my job and I purposely got a very obviously (and admittedly dorky) bluetooth headset that doesn't look anything like normal headphones. When people see I have it on, they don't try to talk to me. Sometimes I might cheat a little and put it on even if I'm not on a call meeting, just so I can get "professional introvert" work done :')
thank you for all these very needed tips!
I would also recommend Susan Cain's book Quiet: the power of Introverts in a world that can't stop talking, which explains so much about introversion in our society and how to navigate our world when you're an introvert.
Great video and tips.
The only thing that's missing is the deffiniton of an introvert-- it's too commonly misunderstood. So I'll define it for anyone one scrubbing the comments.
An introvert is someone who collects energy by being alone but expends it by being around others. Now, an extrovert is one who collects energy by being with others and expends it by being alone. And for the record, I don't think there's such thing be an "ambivert".
It's too common that people clump their social habits and temperaments into being an intro/extro-vert (don't get me wrong, there is an overlap but I don't feel it's a hard and fast rule).
I work in a large office and I'm a complete introvert. As a result, I've got big noise-cancelling headphones and I wear them a LOT. It might look unsociable but I always take them off when someone needs to speak to me.
We also have a thing called 'Red Time', which is a period you can announce and no one will disturb you in that time.
Thanks for speaking to and for us introverts #introvertsunite #professionalintrovert
This was helpful. Just switched to open concept and dealing with a coworker who chats AT me even when I have headphones on! I do literally need an hour at lunch and after work to get mental peace again.
This is so timely. I'm not social at work at all. The thing though is I'm not really social period. I think this makes my coworkers uncomfortable and at this point they seem to hate me. But that's just how I am. I only speak up when someone invades my space so it makes me seem like a bitch but I'm the opposite lol.
fashionerdxo My first "big girl job" after high school (I'm ignoring doing fast food) was at a webchat center for Verizon. I loved that we could bring music players without cameras (my Zune HD fit the bill perfectly) and thus, I'd tune everyone else out around me. My coworkers all knew my name...but I didn't know any of theirs. They left me alone, which I thought was fine but it began to bother me that I was making myself a complete outcast.
So, what I did was to try to say something during our meetings. Also, we did potlucks a lot, and the fact that I'd bring something made me feel like part of the group. I'd speak to them a little, but they knew I was an introvert and didn't press me too much. Also, as it was my first big job after high school, I was still unwinding the emotional damage from years of being bullied so that too made me withdraw into myself at that time.
After leaving that job to work at an actual call center, I learned I actually hate being alone at work. I had a funny and loud coworker who sat next to me and though I didn't talk directly to her much, it was lonely when she was gone. I was in a corner cubicle by myself otherwise. I learned that even when I'm not talking to someone, I thrive off of being surrounded by other humans, especially when my job involves speaking out loud. It keeps me from focusing on the personal issues I have with my voice and I can relax and speak naturally.
What I'd recommend to you is to maybe create a fake reason to speak with someone. If you guys do group trainings, maybe ask a question to someone about it, even if in truth you know the answer. Maybe follow it up with some experiences you've had on the job so far. For my call center jobs, we all can regale each other with horrible customer stories...They never get old. Or after the weekend, come in and say good morning to one or two people and follow it up with, "How was your weekend? Or maybe, "Wow, that weekend went by way too fast!" Usually people will make a sound or say something to agree with you, lol. This way, it shows you're verbal and trying to communicate.
Simple and small moments of interaction can help people warm up to you :) Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of advice because I'm quite the loner, but I at least try to laugh or say something in meetings or at the start of the day to show I speak, I'm friendly, and while I might seem quiet, I'm a comical and silly person when I'm allowed to fully be myself 😀
When a coworker later asks me a question about our job, it makes me feel good because now I know they realize that yes, I do speak, I just also need time to myself as well.
Thank you so much for making this video. It came at the best time because my company is moving to an open concept office in a few weeks. As an introvert, I really worry about my productivity and being able to perform the numerous daily tasks within my role that require careful concentration. Love your content!
Chelsea’s strategies:
1. Carve out alone work times
2. Keep work interactions concise
3. Invest in good noise canceling headphones
4. Always come to meetings super prepared
5. “Work solitude” as compensation
6. Open the professional introvert conversation with your colleagues
UGH so glad I'm not the only one! I am constantly being distracted at work by meaningless conversations. I don't want to be rude or short with my coworkers, but as a result I end up having to stay late, or work on weekends. Definitely going to look into a "home office" day. Once again great video! x
this is literally my work life. I'm so glad I've found this channel because the advice has been great and this has been the best relatable one yet.
As someone who worked at home for a year I am so glad to now be in an open office setup. BUT I discovered that Im a professional introvert. Negatives - other teams sitting near being on Skype call or chatting/joking is so annoying -_- Positives - the team I work in (4 data analysts) are all professional introverts. Thus working from home, having headphones in, quick emails, very prepared meetings, sprint and scrum style planning are all green lights. I'm ecstatic to be in a team with like minded people making our team very productive.
Wow, I never knew about this "headphone" hack until I saw this video. Very true and useful tool. I get easily distracted and also as much as I try to mold into the "Extravert" profile that the employers seem to want, can't disguise the fact that I am an introvert and always will be.
I think it really depends on the work being done. Writing a book? Probably want minimal interaction. Selling a product? Probably want more energy and interaction. Etc, etc.
Noise isolating is what you really want. Noise cancelling headphones are for low, constant noises like wind or one an airplane and don't help intermittent sounds like talking.
This is definitely the most helpful TFD video I've come across so far!
This is very insightful for me as a teacher. When you mentioned working in an open office space, it made me think about how classrooms are set up. I wonder now how I can become more mindful about individual work time for students so they have a mixer of both working collaboratively and independently. You certainly need a balance of both work styles.
Oh man I needed this, lately I feel super distracted at work because of the open workspace. Thank you for sharing these tips!
man when that on topic conversations go on for ever drives me insane. I wish some times scrum can be quickly adapted for my work environment.
this needed to be talked about! open office setting is not the answer, if you're an introvert
I am so happy, proud and grateful for this chanel. You guys are awesome! Thank you!!
Do you have anything about credit unions vs banks? If not could that be a thing? Thanks!
Yes, please!
Also, as I've been peppering these videos with my comments, I've finally subscribed!
Wow! I did not make the connection between the open office setting and my feeling overwhelmed at work. Seems a duh in hindsight! I love working as part of a team, but then I want to get away and do my part of the project. Having people drop by, or hearing other conversations around the office... let's just say I'm much less productive and I feel so happy to get away at the end of the day. Working from home, however, I tend to blast thru my work. Great insight! Thank you!
I always thought that I don't like an open office, until I found my current job. And it s all about what kind of coworkers you have to work with. At my present job, we can talk, and laugh sometimes, or we can work all quietly sometimes, so it's a great balance.
I work as a doctor in a big hospital but am more introverted, so I'm around people% of the time, whether it's patients, other doctors or nurses. I can cope when it's not too crowded like out of hours, but the days when it's super busy are hectic
This is me!! I hate the open office set up!!
Thanks, you really get to the point where introverts like myself really need to "isolate" to think and get things done. The nonstop chat on the phone is one of my biggest pet peeves because I cannot stand small talk. Get to the point, right?!
You just solved my problem with my problem with my new job. I can never get my job done fast enough with so many conversations and so many people walking up to me with random assignments. I try headphones but I can't hear instructions from my boss. If I leave my headphones out I don't want to hear everyone's conversation. I'm all stressed out and didn't understand why. Thanks for this video
I guess I'm lucky. My office is open if I wanna chat but if I put on my headphones, that kinda signals that I'm in "leave me alone to focus" mode
Hi. Thank you for all of your awesome videoed. I think that, once again, that this one was one of your best. Well done. I am an extrovert, but I too have begun to loathe open offices, thanks to my experience doing open office volunteer work at two different companies. I have been working as a massage therapist for the past five years, but being in a cramped break room can make these problems all too real too.
Super impressed, Chelsea!!👩🏻💼🌻
So me! I’m a project manager and I need quiet to get my work done. Great video.
OMG, that's what I needed! I am such an introvert but I want to have a great career!
I feel so fortunate right now. I'm a near-30 professional with an office with a door and windows, and I work in the field my masters is in. I have a liveable but not fantastic salary, too - but I don't love where I live. I chose to live here because of the career opportunities, but I question how much longer that side of the equation is going to win.
Watching this video in November 2020 feels so bizarre. Having worked from home for most of the year, I have never worked so hard and done as much as I did this year. It is just a shame that we needed the pandemic for people to realise that.
I have the opposite problem. I am definitely an extrovert and no one at my work talks (maybe because I'm fairly new), any tips?
Also, I had a manager once that blocked off an hour or two at a time so that she could do her work without being interrupted.
yep, I looove to concentrate
Love love!! Thank you
And all of this time, I thought I was awkward. Thanks for making this video
Great video and advice! Please do one on Roth IRAs - I'd love to learn more!
hey TFD I am about to graduate high school and i have no idea what I want my major to be and I have no "real job" ideas can you make a video about future plans
can you also do one about getting your dream car
I love open offices. I know it's a very personal thing, but I find cubicals depressing.
You must be an extrovert. Different strokes fam.
Awesome! Will you do a tour of your place? It looks beautiful and I'd love to see how you set it up :)
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Thank you
oh brother, so true. I used to be the only person in a big work space, until they hired two other ppl. All the constant talking and eating behind my desk, terrible. I got myself moved to another work area, just to be myself.
I would club a baby seal if it would allow me to work in an office setting that didn't deal directly with customers, lol. I can deal with coworkers and bosses. Those are fine. I see them on a regular basis and I can adjust myself over time to handle them. I find dealing with customers, both over the phone and in person, extremely nerve-wracking. But as I don't have a degree yet, office jobs are hard for me to come by. Even being a receptionist seems hard to get.
I now have a possible upcoming interview to be a sales specialist for a bank, and the reviews I've read online about the job aren't good. Extremely high sales goals that many say are nearly impossible to reach in many cities and talking with people in person and over the phone constantly. But...I'll make more money.
I think if I'm offered the job, I'll do my weeks of training and look to jump ship to something else afterwards. I've never done that before and I do want experience in a new job field. But I've never liked sales. I tried doing sales in my most comfortable environment, online, and still failed. I should've thought of that before I applied but I figured a job is better than no job. Or...just push through. I'll get nowhere with that "I can't do" attitude.
Though that's easier said than done, heh.
An open office would be horrible for me since I have inattentive ADHD. Also a big introvert.
omg I detest open office environments! I always end up feeling like I'm being stared at or watched at all times and my anxiety goes through the roof. I like my little cubby where I can hide away and get shit done away from prying eyes. The whole nonsense about not allowing employees to wear headphones is such bs, too in a lot of offices. If I'm doing my work and efficiently getting my job done, there's no reason I shouldn't be able to wear headphones just because Susan in accounting abused it 3 years ago. I wish employers would offer both and let the socials have their chatter space and the introverts have their hideouts.
Emilee Why do you perceive that everyone at work has nothing better to do than to stare at you? As for the headphones, the work world (and the world in general) is all about interpersonal relationships. Wearing headphones makes a person unapproachable. No doubt, that's introvert heaven, but it's no way to succeed in business or in life.
What's especially irritating is the modern start up world. Having to always share everything, always report on what you did the previous weekend. Also don't forget when you see a table tennis table and multi colored walls. Run. Like Chelsea said it's all to cost cut.
But if you go back to the old school corporate world. You have to like football, beer, grilling, trump, and being in the boys club to move up or learn anything.
Important topic!!
Your videos I meant to say.👩🏻💼
I had people call my introversion as unapproachable cause they have no healthy boundaries etc. ex: I would rather give kindness and good info rather than allow sexual harassment on their part
Why did she said she'd go back to a regular office space in the future? Please don't go, I love this channel
she can do whatever the FUCK she wanna doo cuhh
I’m not a fan of open offices either! I want my own office.
I really love that painting and I don't have ANYTHING on my walls and I feel like this would be something cute to have in the apartment. Where did you get it?
Do you think a prenup is a good financial idea?
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Work introvert??? Introvert/extrovert isn't dependant on the situation.
It's about energy. Introverts charge up alone or in small groups. Extroverts charge up around lots of people and stimuli.
These terms don't really apply in this example.
Maybe better terms would be, private/gregarious.
Some AWESOME info and tips but, it's more about desired work style than extrovert/introvert. :)
I think i'm the opposite- i'm a work extrovert but an introvert in my not work life
This is so helpful!!
open office totally ruined my work-life and sent me into a deep depression
H Vanity i feel you
I'm starting to get my resume in order because it's time to find something else. I cannot continue in this environment. But it comes at the worst time financially to try to start over with a new employer. I have to find the strength to get though it.
Do you have any particular brand of headphones that you can recommend?
I like it :)
My company forbade headphones.
Why would you be back in that environment? Are you taking another corporate job?
If you could be an introvert for a living I would be rich xD
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who the f%&* disliked?
Those hands.... move a lot 🤔
Jay C it helps you think and get your points/emphasis across -- at least for some people like me
omg i never knew what it was called LOL
uh no I am a introvert for a living lol
open concept offices are horrible