Couples Counseling: Pre marriage questions

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  • čas přidán 5. 06. 2024
  • Pre marriage questions. truepotentialcounseling.com/co... In this video Andrea Cairella, LPCC in Long Beach, CA covers the importance of couples counseling, premarital counseling and covering pre marriage questions before you get married. Premarital counseling and couples counseling is a helpful step in answering pre marriage questions.
    C'mon over to truepotentialcounseling.com/co... where the main discussion happens after the episode.
    Is communication in marriage important to you? In this video, you'll learn about the 8 pre-marital counseling and pre marriage questions all couples should discuss with their partner before getting married.
    1. ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES: Imagine how you plan on dividing chores and responsibilities.
    2. CHILDREN: Talk about your opinions on children and share important childhood experiences with your partner.
    3. SEX: Determine sexual goals. Discuss how to deal with potential sex issues and how to keep things passionate and interesting.
    4. SPIRITUALITY: Ask each other if you are spiritual or religious and share which practices are important to you.
    5. FINANCES: Be forthcoming about who will be responsible for paying the bills or how you will share expenses.
    6. CAREER: Address your own life goals and individual plans. Make sure this is a plan that your partner will support and that both of you are free to pursue individual interests and dreams.
    7. LOCATION: Address where you would like to live.
    8. LEISURE ACTIVITIES: Determine your interests and values that are important to you and share them with your partner.
    What pre marriage questions are most important to you? Do you see the benefit of premarital counseling or couples counseling before getting married? Tell me over on the blog.
    If you enjoyed this video, subscribe to our channel and sign up for your free weekly relationship and life advice at www.TruePotentialCounseling.com
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Komentáře • 58

  • @zeeshan.khan1993
    @zeeshan.khan1993 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I discussed everything with my prospective partner about these issues and also included finances, parents, etc.. she impressed me with her answers at first, but later told me that these things will depend on "context". And that the context changes. This is a hundred percent true! And that's why pre-marriage counseling is bullshit. It may give you some clarity, but it doesn't necessarily ensure a stable marriage. I now know for sure that you just need to have 100% assurance for the most important 1 or 2 things in marriage, and be ready to adjust yourself with everything else. For example - a man should not expect her wife to spend money even if she is working; and he must expect her wife to take care of the family inside the house

  • @shamimaakter5580
    @shamimaakter5580 Před 6 měsíci +2

    0. Roles & responsibility
    1. Children plan
    2. Sex issue
    3. Spirituality / religious practices
    4. Finances deal
    5. Career
    6. Location plan
    7. Leisure activities
    8. Interest / habits
    9. Daily routine
    10. Hate the things
    11. Love the things
    12. Opinion regarding joint families
    13. Opinion regarding single families
    14. Life goal
    15. Friends relationship
    16. Socialism with relatives & Cousins
    17. Relationship with parents & siblings

  • @StudioSokki
    @StudioSokki Před 2 lety +9

    I feel like all of this should be organically discussed and known before even considering marriage.

    • @kevinmarks1587
      @kevinmarks1587 Před 10 měsíci +1

      I have to agree with you. They should at least know majority of this information.

    • @mbuyiselocamagu7720
      @mbuyiselocamagu7720 Před 7 měsíci

      Dating not even marriage

    • @timothybuckley3621
      @timothybuckley3621 Před měsícem

      Yes. Some people need pre martial even pre engagement counseling to beyond the superficial and get to a deeper level .

  • @Brizizaz
    @Brizizaz Před 2 lety +5

    this is awesome, we had a great conversation on every topic and its genuinely just helpful for people who are recently engaged. Thank you!

  • @PranaYanna
    @PranaYanna Před 3 lety +9

    It’s wild to me that people would consider marrying someone they haven’t already talked to about this stuff. What DO you know about them?

  • @dontrelljohnson6234
    @dontrelljohnson6234 Před 8 lety +4

    Amazing advice. Thank you

  • @Myprogrammes
    @Myprogrammes Před 10 lety +27

    How to deal with extended family issues, particularly inlaws

    • @AndreaCairella
      @AndreaCairella  Před 10 lety +1

      I will be coming out with a video on how to deal with the in-laws next month (March 2014) so stay tuned.

    • @gsusmakama
      @gsusmakama Před 3 lety

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  • @AndreaCairella
    @AndreaCairella  Před 10 lety +5

    Kris- Thank you for checking out my pre marriage questions video. I am glad you enjoyed it. Coincidentally I will be coming out with a video on how to deal with the in laws in January 2014. Stay tuned and if you haven't done so already, subscribe to my channel so you don't miss it. Thank you again for stopping by.

    • @marriedmanproblems9235
      @marriedmanproblems9235 Před 9 lety +1

      I really enjoyed your video! I have subscribed! I just made my first video on how my marriage is going and would love for you to watch and comment your opinion. It wild help me a whole lot with what I'm going through. Thank you

    • @AndreaCairella
      @AndreaCairella  Před 9 lety +1

      Married Man Problems Thank you for subscribing. Best of luck in improving on your marriage. Stay tuned for future videos.

    • @chitranjankumar-th2wy
      @chitranjankumar-th2wy Před 7 lety

      Whаt MМMеn RЕАLLY Wаnt => twitter.com/39ef274ad71478c0a/status/804693412402241537 Coouples Cоunseling Pre mааrriаge questions

  • @natelove1459
    @natelove1459 Před 3 lety +2

    I should have had this before I got married

  • @MsViva710
    @MsViva710 Před 8 lety +3

    how about pre-mariage counsel for retired persons

  • @AbsoluteMdot
    @AbsoluteMdot Před 5 lety +6

    My fiancé and I just had our first class with my pastor. I was so scared because we live together. Although he does not approve he is still willing to work with us.

  • @MrFirstdance2000
    @MrFirstdance2000 Před 7 měsíci

    Your program is excellent but, your audio is bumped way down..you might try to readjust it?

  • @mckenziemorris5414
    @mckenziemorris5414 Před 7 lety +26

    I feel like if the two of you don't already know these things, you have really bad communication skills and have no business getting hitched... That or you should wait more than the month it took you two to "get to know each other" before you think about proposing.

    • @ivo-ng9br
      @ivo-ng9br Před 3 lety

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    • @alankonnor35
      @alankonnor35 Před 2 lety

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    • @elishajoaquin218
      @elishajoaquin218 Před 2 lety

      @Alan Konnor Flixportal :)

    • @alankonnor35
      @alankonnor35 Před 2 lety

      @Elisha Joaquin thanks, signed up and it seems like a nice service :) Appreciate it !!

    • @elishajoaquin218
      @elishajoaquin218 Před 2 lety

      @Alan Konnor no problem =)

  • @jawedu
    @jawedu Před 6 lety +8

    How do you deal with the husband who is emotionally unavailable

    • @coralineattano9267
      @coralineattano9267 Před 3 lety

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  • @DMRCapitalHill
    @DMRCapitalHill Před 9 lety +7

    She's gorgeous

  • @richarddeleon9817
    @richarddeleon9817 Před 7 lety +1

    hi my name is Richard I'm 33 years old and my girlfriend is 49 years old we've been together for 3 years.but we have been having serious problems.when we argue she dosent lissen always on the defensive it's become to the point that I'm afraid of telling her how I really feel because most of the time her answer at the end is if you don't like it you can leave ore she will just avoid talking ore start braking stuff and I have to sweat talk her to calm her down what should I do

    • @irishly2000
      @irishly2000 Před 2 lety

      I think she's pretty immature in a sense and if she totally cares about you and your relationship she would at least try to talk and figure out things tht needed to be fixed and i think older women try to have a hold in a relationship then make and younger ones always try to address the issue and what concerns you about don't be afraid to initiate it in a way that don't upset her i think purely that suggests her bad personality or it's just her attitude in a sense

  • @sarahmelton9163
    @sarahmelton9163 Před 7 měsíci

    You need a different microphone sound room or recording device.

  • @richarddeleon9817
    @richarddeleon9817 Před 7 lety +2

    and my other guestion is she wants us to live in separate house and only see each other on the weekends.all she wants is to work relax go see her family and only spend on day ore two with me go do something and then have sex at the end.but I really don't want to live that kind of relationship I want to share my life with her not only once ore twice a week what should I do i really love her but just thinking about living like that in two separate house gives me anxiety makes me sad and gives me mis trust help me what should I do

  • @parler8698
    @parler8698 Před 4 lety +2

    Those are first date questions.

  • @Danirey02
    @Danirey02 Před 4 lety +3

    Can premarital counseling guaranteed a forever marriage? Or is it a religious thing

    • @charliedavies3236
      @charliedavies3236 Před 4 lety +1

      I THINK SO

    • @abc-bn8qe
      @abc-bn8qe Před 3 lety +4

      It's none. There is no guarantee but it helps you to look into yourself and understand the realities of marriage.

    • @Danirey02
      @Danirey02 Před 3 lety +2

      @@abc-bn8qe marriage is no cake walk their be ups and downs and takes lots of mental strength as well

  • @santa007santa
    @santa007santa Před 7 lety +1

    i love a girl and i need her in my life she also love me but earlier she was very interested to talk, chat with me but i responded not good sometimes still she was looked that she need me. now she get angry i many times over me, i apologize to her many many times and want her to talk to me nicely. she listen everything earlier but now she refuses and doesn't respond like earlier. I want to marry her we both are agree but i want her nice behaviour , respect , love everything we build. plz help me and reply.

  • @Myprogrammes
    @Myprogrammes Před 10 lety +6

    How to deal with extended family issues, particularly inlaws