Our Coming Out Story | Dustin and Burton | Raising Buffaloes

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  • čas přidán 18. 08. 2020
  • We wanted to share our coming out stories with you. It's always hard walking through the struggles we faced, but we feel it might be helpful to some of you who are conflicted with being gay or curious about what a gay person faces when coming out. As always, thank you for all the love and support you give our family and us. Much love to all of you.
    Meet our family. We are Dustin and Burton, gay dads, and proud parents of our twins, Stone and Holland Buffaloe. We created our family vlog, "Raising Buffaloes," as a resource for all. We are an All American Family, who happen to be gay parents through surrogacy. On our channel, you will see videos of our family adventures and grasp what it's like to raise kids in the south as a gay couple. Our dad vlog captures our parenting and fatherhood journey, but you'll find much more. We open up about our coming out journey, relationship and marriage tips, and how to live life with a little more laughter. We use our voice to shed light and awareness to the LGBTQ+ community, gay rights equality, and opening eyes to others. Family has many definitions, and this is ours. We hope you subscribe and follow along our journey of raising our little Buffaloes.
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  • @RaisingBuffaloes
    @RaisingBuffaloes  Před 2 lety +16

    Be sure to Subscribe; New videos every Wednesday! - czcams.com/users/DustinBurtonRaisingBuffaloes

  • @smilingv1921
    @smilingv1921 Před 3 lety +367

    I am a 62 year old mother. My daughter came out to me when she was 14. I remember her crying so hard. I asked her what was wrong and she said she was afraid to tell me. I told her no matter what it was that it would be ok and that I would love her. So she finally told me she was gay. I said ok and gave her a big hug and told her that I l still loved her. She asked me why I wasn't mad at her. I told her you love who you love. Her and her wife live with me now and she is 36. I wish all parents would be excepting and supporting of their children when they come out to them. I have known many gay couples since my early 20's and have always been supportive. You love who you love!

    • @RaisingBuffaloes
      @RaisingBuffaloes  Před 3 lety +60

      love this so much! you're amazing!

    • @chasearjun2744
      @chasearjun2744 Před 2 lety

      sorry to be off topic but does anybody know a way to get back into an instagram account??
      I was dumb forgot the account password. I love any tricks you can offer me!

    • @joshfritsch3835
      @joshfritsch3835 Před 2 lety +2

      I agree

    • @dummydumby1700
      @dummydumby1700 Před 2 lety

      "SHE WAS A GAY" then " HER AND HER WIFE"? Does it mean that He has a "wife" as in a "girl wife"? Sorry to ask I'm just a bit confuse... but I understand the love and acceptance you showed to your child, love it!

    • @jomccutcheon2173
      @jomccutcheon2173 Před 2 lety

      @@dummydumby1700 It actually say's her and her wife,,,

  • @hpapi9849
    @hpapi9849 Před 2 lety +59

    when burton cries .......it's already tears on dustin's eyes..... that is the true love.......... LOVE is LOVE

    • @tileswarburagohain2265
      @tileswarburagohain2265 Před rokem +3

      Literally i was also crying when the burton was crying i can't stop my tears ...love is love its just an example 😍😍😍

  • @deborahmueller1183
    @deborahmueller1183 Před 3 lety +334

    My uncle came out only when he was dying of AIDS. He fully expected rejection by the family. We all accepted him and supported him through the last difficult years of his life. Nobody should have to fear rejection from those who love them most. We’re all just people.

  • @jayathaabeywardana3513
    @jayathaabeywardana3513 Před rokem +37

    I'm 16. My parents are so conservative and I gave some little hints to them that I was gay and there were so mad at me so I changed the topic. But I came out to one of my friend and I feel happy about it. Some day wanna find my own pease in me. Thank you guys for giving me hope and love.

  • @sarahcasias823
    @sarahcasias823 Před 3 lety +168

    I love Holland sensing her daddies are sad and coming in trying to make you feel better. Her little sweet face, being so calm and putting her hand on your backs. She’s precious.

  • @liberty622
    @liberty622 Před 3 lety +72

    In coming out to my brothers in the early 80's---my parents were already dead --- I had opposite reactions. One was negative and is still in that frame of mind. However my other brother with a strong Christian faith said something I will cherish to the day I die. He simply asked me, in a long distance phone call, if I was gay. I was terrified of admitting to the truth. I took a deep breath and said "yes I am". I waited for the explosion and he said -- " If you ever want to bring a friend or a partner home, he will be more than welcomed in my house". There was a long pause and then I burst into unbelievable tears. There were no other words that could have been said that would have made me feel more acceptable. The words have had an enormous effect on me and my life. He has since died but his memory lives on in my mind -- etched forever. There are good people in this world!!! Thank you both for your videos and showing how a family should live.

    • @michaelgaynor6866
      @michaelgaynor6866 Před 3 lety +1

      Peter A.O'Leary,that just brought tears to my eyes here in Philadelphia! Stay Strong and Stay Well!

  • @bojogaehw2497
    @bojogaehw2497 Před 3 lety +129

    Did Burton just say he was almost forty? 😲 He looks so young! I'm baffled.

    • @RaisingBuffaloes
      @RaisingBuffaloes  Před 3 lety +53

      thanks :) 39, Dustin will be 41 next week.

    • @gustavgecko7334
      @gustavgecko7334 Před 3 lety +12

      Forty doesn't mean he is out of order! Forty is just a number.

    • @ushakiran419
      @ushakiran419 Před 3 lety +8

      @@RaisingBuffaloes you guys are looking so young... Happy family and lots of respect for what you are. from 🇮🇳🙏

    • @arshad4980
      @arshad4980 Před 3 lety +1

      @@RaisingBuffaloes age is just a number both r still youth

    • @jslasher1
      @jslasher1 Před 3 lety +3

      @@decraft2005 You are only as young as you feel, and I suspect that Dustin and Burton are feeling quite young and positive these days. Love them both.

  • @jordanlewis4831
    @jordanlewis4831 Před 3 lety +84

    I came out at age 10, with only a few gay role models in my life. I’m now 17, and living my life proudly. So happy to know that there’s always hope and new role models in this world! 🥰

    • @ikehinnocent8160
      @ikehinnocent8160 Před 3 lety

      Amazing

    • @IrradioMan
      @IrradioMan Před 3 lety +1

      that's incredible. i so wish i could have done that when i was so young. could have had a normal time growing up.

    • @Sam-cs6hu
      @Sam-cs6hu Před 3 lety +4

      I am 18 tomorrow. I can’t even imagine how you came out at the age of 10. I only realized I am gay when I was around 13 and struggled to understand that’s ok for quite a while. You must be a really brave person. I know zero gay person in real life and I am often in panic encountering homophobic comments and feel helpless. I hope in near future, I might come out like you did.

    • @IrradioMan
      @IrradioMan Před 3 lety +2

      @@Sam-cs6hu come out as soon as possible, brother. every day in the closet is a day wasted for you to be your actual self. you're just holding your life back by staying in the closet.

    • @Sam-cs6hu
      @Sam-cs6hu Před 3 lety +2

      @@IrradioMan It’s scary given my parents have made some negative comment about being gay. That’s my primary concern. I came out to some close friends already.

  • @richyrich480
    @richyrich480 Před 3 lety +45

    This is what I needed... After 29 years I am beyond tire of hiding in shame and fear... 2021 is the year, I am ready!

    • @stephenleyden9559
      @stephenleyden9559 Před 2 lety +3

      Hey, Sergio. Good for you. But, just remember that you don't have to come out to everyone.
      Some people just don't deserve it. If they are highly homophobic and it's going to make your life much worse, I don't see the point.

  • @rickmosher5862
    @rickmosher5862 Před 3 lety +288

    Thank you both so much for being the role models and inspiration that most of us never had when we were young! ❤️

    • @RaisingBuffaloes
      @RaisingBuffaloes  Před 3 lety +22

      Wow, thank you!

    • @xelzevach9292
      @xelzevach9292 Před 3 lety +3

      Well that's my situation right now, there's no dreams of happiness in my life because there's no one on my life yet , its hard to have a partner there's no way at all I just trying to be a good man nice and kind to every one even to people that bullying me or gate me till God takes me to his big house.
      I enjoyed a Cristian Faith thinking that Jesus can take this gay filing a way fro me, yan make me a new straight guy , and I had really derp relationship with God and Christian people embraced me "love" me the first years then every changes cause they were realizing that I was kind of gay, then star bulling me in church, offended me and making me feel I don't belong there, so then my live goes down , so there's no friends, thetes no brothers in Christ there's no family so its so hard. Im no have the balls to take me life, because I know God loves me and Im good , but people are so hard to get along with.

    • @tptgamecock
      @tptgamecock Před 3 lety +2

      @@xelzevach9292 Xel, I feel your pain and will pray for you. It is hard to be alone and rejected. You are right that Jesus does love you. If you want to be friends even if it is just through facebook. You can find me at Thomas Taylor Swansea SC. I am older but would love friends. I am lucky to have a family. God has blessed me with two beautiful girls. I hope to hear from you Oh my email is tptgamecock@hotmail.com.

    • @xelzevach9292
      @xelzevach9292 Před 3 lety +1

      @@tptgamecock thank you, I appreciated your sympathy and prayers, I need it. Thank you have a good night..!

    • @deltaboy767
      @deltaboy767 Před 3 lety

      @@xelzevach9292 same goes for me as well, if you need friends I'm a single trans my Facebook is Ashley D'Vine. I'd love to make new friends. And trust me I went through the same things and ended up in a very dark place that took years to come out of. So I totally understand. Hope to hear from you. Cheers from Tennessee.

  • @stevenscholze8196
    @stevenscholze8196 Před 3 lety +8

    It's never easy. In 1994 when I met my husband, I had come out to my mother but after Michael and I moved in together we had no contact with my family for many years. I love you telling your stories and sharing your loving family with us.

  • @joshkeller8685
    @joshkeller8685 Před 3 lety +19

    I have a similar background to Dustin, and I just have to say I needed that cry this afternoon. Whoever may be reading these comments and is feeling the same, reach out to somebody and talk about what you’re feeling. (I’m here too!)

    • @Bojan_V
      @Bojan_V Před 3 lety

      You're so kind☺️.

  • @sebastienz2425
    @sebastienz2425 Před 3 lety +142

    I can’t stop crying from watching this. I am a 35yo African gay man, I work and live in the US. I have been married to a man for over 5 years now and I still haven’t come out to my family. I am still terrified by the idea of coming out to my parents. I have been through everything that Dustin went through except that I still don’t have the courage to come out. Thank you for inspiring me. I feel ready to tell my family about my sexuality and my husband. I love you guys ❤️❤️❤️

    • @arif_and_ricky
      @arif_and_ricky Před 3 lety +4

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️ you have all our support!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Loads of love form us, gay life coaches!

    • @jonstacy3503
      @jonstacy3503 Před 3 lety

      Hey how you do I’m gay

    • @ShrewdEmpath
      @ShrewdEmpath Před 3 lety +5

      I too am African and gay. There is nothing my abusive father can do that he hasn't done already. You're not a kid anymore and you don't have to care what your parents think if you find their opinions unhealthy.
      What do YOU think of yourself as a person? Your own resolution to succeed in life is far more important than your parents' distorted perception of 'gay'. Just because your parents are important, doesn't mean they understand the important issues in your life. And assuming they don't, sounds like you have other important people to fall back on.

    • @BrandonNaatz
      @BrandonNaatz Před 3 lety

      Good luck! Proud of you

    • @michaelgaynor6866
      @michaelgaynor6866 Před 3 lety

      @@ShrewdEmpath,Stay Strong and Stay Well! From Philadelphia, Pa.

  • @lyanosama7212
    @lyanosama7212 Před 3 lety +40

    I'm straight but this was so emotional I literally cried 😢u guys r amazing

    • @cathymckinney6578
      @cathymckinney6578 Před 2 lety +2

      Me too I love them guys

    • @brendasanga2045
      @brendasanga2045 Před rokem +1

      Me too...am still crying

    • @sophiaamundsen9142
      @sophiaamundsen9142 Před 11 měsíci +2

      Same here! I keep binge watching coming out stories and crying all over! Argh! If only people would just MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS! Live and let live and that's it! Why is it so hard for some people to understand something so simple? Anyway, great video and yes, of course it made me cry 😭❤️🏳️‍🌈

  • @prastutigoel3286
    @prastutigoel3286 Před 3 lety +46

    Being from an orthodox family I can imagine how terrifying it is to come out. Though I'm straight but one of my closest friend is gay and is struggling to come out. He constantly talks to me about how he feels as if he is not himself. When he came out to me he was crying and looking at him I could feel how important it was for him. We sat and talked about whatever he had in his mind and I told him that I will always be his best friend and support him no matter what. Your story truly touches my heart.
    I pray all the power strength and happiness to both of you and your kids.
    Lots of love ❤❤

  • @wnymann
    @wnymann Před 3 lety +24

    Thank you for sharing your coming out stories. What an inspiration. I am a 64 year old man who came out two years ago. I can understand the liberation and freedom after acknowledging being gay. I was married 25 years until my wife passed in 2002. I raised four sons to adulthood. They are amazing young men and they know that I am gay. They just want me to be happy. I too grew up in a conservative church and even pursued the ministry . I raised my family in the church. I had gay feelings but they were buried. I know all about the churches teaching on homosexuality and how sinful they claim it is. I got hurt very badly by the Christian Fundamentalist Church time and time again. I have left the church and do not wish to return. I have been the happiest these last two years after coming out in my life. Yes there are still some struggles that must be over come but it is liberating to be myself.

    • @dylanross5510
      @dylanross5510 Před 2 lety

      Good for you Dan! Keep following your path. My faith tells me God is walking with you every step of the way. Don't ever let anybody tell you otherwise. His love is everlasting because his love has nothing at all to do with the human judgement condition!

  • @michaelwindham9224
    @michaelwindham9224 Před 3 lety +22

    dustin i could relate with on so many ways. burton you made me cry when you started to cry. it was different in the 70's and 80's but as a community we are so much better now as we fought for the right to have kids and marriage. your story shows that life can be all we dreamed it could be.

    • @joelbotello1235
      @joelbotello1235 Před rokem +1

      Mee too I love burt he made me cry too coming out to father is so scary !!

  • @MartyEliBowerMusic
    @MartyEliBowerMusic Před 3 lety +34

    you can really tell when the other speaks how much love these guys have for each, it's beautiful to see and so representative of how important love for one another is

  • @jaimeguadiana1960
    @jaimeguadiana1960 Před 2 lety +4

    When he said “if god is perfection and god is so perfect than when he created me he didn’t make a mistake “…. PERIOD 💅🏻

  • @jslasher1
    @jslasher1 Před 3 lety +26

    How anyone could give this inspiring video the thumbs down is beyond me. I offer all my love to both of you for your honesty and your dedication to each other. Your children are very lucky indeed.

  • @ediflandes1565
    @ediflandes1565 Před 3 lety +7

    I couldn't hold my tears when Buron said "take my money and go to a place where you can be happy". It's amazing how parents can make a huge difference in our lives. I'm happy that at the end you found what you dream of. That make us feel that it's possible to have a beautiful family like you guys.

  • @ted1091
    @ted1091 Před rokem +4

    You guys are so awesome. I came out in 1974. Things were very different then. We had no choice but to fight. When I hear your stories, I realize it was all worth it. Thank you for sharing your stories. I'm glad you found each other. You're an inspiration

  • @erosleroi7638
    @erosleroi7638 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you for sharing your testimonies. It is truly touching to hear about your life journeys. I am a 65 year old gay man, and come from a conservative Christian background. I've been through conversion therapy and lived a celibate life for almost 20 years, and have been from one end of the gay life to the other end of the spectrum. I can relate to your coming out stories. I'm glad to see young people as yourselves living happy and productive lives and raising twins no less. Your videos are inspiring and heartwarming. God bless you and your family !

  • @garmo98
    @garmo98 Před 3 lety +7

    As I approach my 70th year on this planet I have relived the coming out experience of a number of gay men. Luckily, my own story is pretty uncomplicated, but I have seen the pain and anxiety that both coming out and the effects of conversion therapy have inflicted on people like yourselves. The great thing is that you are able to proudly express the love that is so evident in your relationship. Stone and Holland, when they are adults themselves, will have the most wonderful foundation of love to take with them.

  • @Black_Heart71
    @Black_Heart71 Před 3 lety +70

    When we watch your videos we only see 2 beautiful men with 2 cute children who have a life really like a fairy tale.
    Your coming out stories touched me so deeply and it´s so painful to hear what sad thoughts you both had and how fearful you were of your families.
    Believe me, God made us all the way we are. He loves us for who we are and will always love us for what kind of people we are. He will not ask for gender, but for a kind heart. That's all that counts.
    Just look at you! Look at your fingers, look at your wedding rings, look at your kids. You´re a *family* and we all can feel your *love* for each other.
    God bless you and children. ♥

  • @__eduardo.pereira__5284
    @__eduardo.pereira__5284 Před 3 lety +17

    Both are my example to follow, one day I would like to be like you, I never had a father who was there for me, but I know that when I have a son he will have two dads the rest of his life ♡

  • @kambound28
    @kambound28 Před 3 lety +102

    I am a follower of Christ and I truly believe that God has brought you guys together (Mark 10:9). I believe that true love is beyond gender and that it's more about heart and soul and that's what I see in both you guys when I watch your videos of your family. I truly believe that being attracted to the same sex internally is not a mistake or a burden and that you are destined for Hell. I strongly disagree with that! God does have perfection and knew the plans for us when He created us. With that being said, Dustin is right. Having a desire to being with the same gender romantically is not a mistake from God. Be the child that He wants you to be. Let His Will be done

    • @DavidBrowningBYD
      @DavidBrowningBYD Před 3 lety +7

      I read a very moving short story in a very unlikely place about a tormented gay teenager in a family of conservative Christians. They all go to some sort of revival, and from the very beginning, when his eyes meet those of the guest pastor, he knows he is seen and revealed. Toward the end of the story, at a traditional altar call, the guest pastor embraces the teenager and says to him, "God only gives good gifts!" Such a moment of love and acceptance!

    • @veronicaphiri7432
      @veronicaphiri7432 Před 2 lety +3

      Christ is love. There is much to understand concerning why the scriptures condemn homosexuality, but I certainly believe pure love abides here. This family teaches values of compassion and unity. God bless. XX

  • @linphilip6389
    @linphilip6389 Před 3 lety +10

    this means so much to all of us. the only thing I want to say now is "thank you, guys".

  • @love_gav5015
    @love_gav5015 Před 2 lety +5

    Stone and Holland are very blessed to have a parent that is full of heart. So much love❤

  • @seunfunmiomoya8681
    @seunfunmiomoya8681 Před 3 lety +52

    Your story is really inspiring. I'm so happy you found each other.

  • @mshh-mhn5503
    @mshh-mhn5503 Před 3 lety +29

    I will be your true fan forever....may God bless you

  • @Johnmatthew_
    @Johnmatthew_ Před 3 lety +22

    I was incredibly moved by this video I didn’t notice that my tears were running down on my face uncontrollably, you guys gave me the courage and hope in the future I’ve been depressed for so many years and I’m 27yrs old and haven’t had any relationship with the same sex and I never came out yet from my closet And grew up in a religious kind of place I admire you guys you are my role model when i reached that age I wish I could be like you
    Coming out will have happened once I meet the person who i will like to spend the rest of my life with. Thank you for inspiring us and sorry If i made grammar errors because i am still learning english . I will be always watching all your videos and your upcoming videos because i always feel happy whenever I watch your adorable family..

    • @RaisingBuffaloes
      @RaisingBuffaloes  Před 3 lety +2

      thank you. and much love to you as you come navigate your future! :)

  • @claucruz283
    @claucruz283 Před 3 lety +4

    Great testimony, God makes no mistakes, fear of rejection, acceptance, family support.. I shed a few tears.... thank you!!

  • @Anna_na_a
    @Anna_na_a Před 2 lety +12

    Guys, it's very important to talk about the coming out. Thank you for sharing your stories! You are so great!

  • @MSK-eg7sc
    @MSK-eg7sc Před 3 lety +15

    You guys are example of a perfect couple and a perfect happy family.. Doesn't matter gay or straight... Lots of love to you guys 😍❤

  • @rossanaa7744
    @rossanaa7744 Před 3 lety +14

    Soy una persona heterosexual y viendo varios programas de parejas homosexuales he aprendido mucho sobre ustedes. Los entiendo más, no tenía idea que ustedes sufrían tanto. De verdad son valientes.
    En cuanto a ustedes dos y sus hijos son una familia muy bonita!!!

  • @sagarmali1887
    @sagarmali1887 Před 3 lety +17

    That was the most touching story I ever witnessed. It definitely brought me to tears like everyone else am sure! The way Dustin was looking at Burt and cried,that shows the extensive Love you guys have for each other and I pray that it grows with every single moment. I definitely missed seeing 2 little angels.

  • @col62
    @col62 Před 2 lety +3

    I’ve watched this a few times. I’m a Christian and heterosexual but you shouldn’t have to go through the pain just to be who you are. Thank you for sharing. I wished the church would stop thinking folk who are gay have demons in them. That is so damaging. Be blessed guys. Amazing family. ❤️

  • @richardnault9493
    @richardnault9493 Před 3 lety +8

    We have been watching you for a while , but missed this along the way, beautifully done guys. We love you and your family and appreciate how you let us into your lives . I knew I was different since I was 4 , but had no way to express myself.To add to this I experienced a physical and mentally abusive step father. Add to that a kid trying to hide who I was, I even got married in 1961 and had a son, after 5 years we divorced, since then I have lived as a gay man who slowly came out to friends and some family. I am now 82 , fully out and have been with my husband happily for 38 years. All of our journeys are different, so happy for your happiness, we love you and your kiddos!!

  • @MrLisarn2
    @MrLisarn2 Před 2 lety +6

    My son’s story reminds me of Burton’s except for husband’s reaction but ultimately parent’s love always wins. I’m sorry you had to re experience that for us but I’m so grateful. I love my son more than he will ever know. So does my husband.

    • @RaisingBuffaloes
      @RaisingBuffaloes  Před 2 lety +1

      that warms our hearts! He will be so much better off having y'alls support! amazing!

    • @charleyhorse1864
      @charleyhorse1864 Před 9 měsíci

      I wish that were true, but some parents never do come around. I'm glad your son knows he's loved.

  • @Darl-ur3uq
    @Darl-ur3uq Před 3 lety +15

    Thank you guys from Morocco 🇲🇦 😭❤✌ that was so inspiring and powerful
    Alright , let's say thank you to this AMAZING couple from all around the world in this comment 🥰

  • @carlosrabino5125
    @carlosrabino5125 Před 3 lety +4

    Wonderful story, lovely couple, and beautiful family!

  • @paulmontrose8281
    @paulmontrose8281 Před 3 lety +8

    even though you are happily married with kids, it had to be hard for you both to tell this story. It had to be emotional and probably somewhat terrifying to have to tell this story. But you must know everyone thanks you for doing it. It was emotional for me to watch, and it makes me love you even more.

  • @Pucky71
    @Pucky71 Před rokem +8

    It's amazing how you can be wrong about your fathers. I imagined my coming-out to be full of conflict, since my parents were older (so to speak, from a different time, my father is from 1939, my mother from 1942). I was particularly worried about my father as he has a clear black and white way of thinking on many subjects (something can only be right or wrong, there is no in-between). When I finally told them, all my mother and father said was: "Live your life as you see fit. All that matters is that you are happy, whether with a woman or a man by your side. Just take care of yourself and find the right person for a relationship." On the one hand I was extremely relieved, on the other hand I was totally irritated because I never expected such an answer. That's a long time ago, when LGBT+ wasn't accepted by society like it is today.
    Even if many fathers don't say or show it that often, they too love their children with all their hearts and they too want to see their children happy. I think it's also a generational issue.
    I find Dustin's experiences so awful. Religion and belief in God must not look like this, so that one breaks one's children. I am happy for you that everything has turned out well and that your families see that being gay is not a bad thing and that a gay man can also achieve his goals in life. Tolerance should be talked about much more often in the churches.

  • @Nidhidhurvey
    @Nidhidhurvey Před 3 lety +129

    This literally made me cry such an inspiring story of you guys .

  • @rollymeeks7031
    @rollymeeks7031 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you! It's wonderful to share our stories, thank you both for sharing yours! My story mirrors Dustin's in many ways, I was very involved in church from a young age, thinking God would "heal" me . I came out to my parents at the end of my junior year in high school, my mother was great, however my father was more cruel than usual. I ended up moving out of the house in January of my senior year and then moving from Northern New York to Southwestern Michigan a year after graduation. In 1977, a year after I moved to Holland, MI, I met the love of my life, a tall, blond, handsome Dutchmen, Robert DeRyder! We lived a wonderful life in our little brick house with an English garden. Unfortunately Bob died in the hospital after a motorcycle crash as we were on our way to a family reunion in NY in 1987. My world became a very dark horrible place. In those days it was illegal for 2 men to even cohabitate, let alone be married. After Bob's death, his parents took everything, his clothes, the house, his car, everything. I fell hard. I ended up quitting my job as the manager of a family lakeside resort to work at a gay resort in Saugatuck, MI as the bar manager - and became totally immersed in the gay party lifestyle. After 10 years at the resort and 3 really horrible relationships, I quit, moved to Grand Rapids and ended up retiring from a large retailer where I was an international food buyer for 10 years. One more failed relationship, being diagnosed with emphysema and some severe mental health issues I went on disability and I moved back to my hometown to be near my mom, where I still live with my new love, the Adirondack Mountains! There's my story. 10 glorious years with Bob made the rest worth it. Cherish each day with Holland & Stone and with each other! Know that you present a positive & loving picture to all that view your channel! Be well, be safe, be happy! 🧡

  • @EternalOptimist510
    @EternalOptimist510 Před 3 lety +3

    I LOVE how Holland just came in so calmly and sat there listening, so precious!!!

  • @frankgyori2740
    @frankgyori2740 Před 3 lety +6

    This was an experience and an uplifting one at that. Thank you, this was as heartfelt and real as it can get.

  • @bradtrenary7701
    @bradtrenary7701 Před 3 lety +5

    I'm so moved by the two of you and your story. In May, my husband and I celebrated 40 years together. The children we had were nieces and nephews and next door neighbor kids and just about any stray that came into our lives. I have so much gratitude for your courage and commitment.

  • @frederickestares1460
    @frederickestares1460 Před 3 lety +30

    It feels sad coz I haven't came out yet and I'm 19 now. I'm scared to came out coz my parents are very religious Christians I just wanted to feel the freedom and being accepted 😢💔

    • @psharma4063
      @psharma4063 Před 3 lety +3

      Same 19 year old guy want to tell but cant bcoz I am scared I am not financial independent

  • @jonbudy
    @jonbudy Před 3 lety

    So glad you're both here! with the love of your family and friends. Blessings! Love

  • @raymondjohnston7577
    @raymondjohnston7577 Před 3 lety +2

    So inspiring to hear your stories. Your stories prove you can be happy living your truth.

  • @mitchelgeremino5516
    @mitchelgeremino5516 Před 3 lety +3

    Your love for each other is off the charts , your love for your kids is inspirational, thank you guys, you just saved so many young people that were hurting !!!!

  • @JO-mz1bo
    @JO-mz1bo Před 3 lety +141

    Burton’s eyes are piercing

  • @Felipe-ht9qh
    @Felipe-ht9qh Před 3 lety +2

    Your stories, wisdom, love and compassion are so inspiring. Thank you for sharing hope and kindness with the world!!

  • @joerocket2670
    @joerocket2670 Před 3 lety +2

    What emotional but motivational stories! You guys are gifted with words!

  • @chrismarec1462
    @chrismarec1462 Před 3 lety +24

    Oh god just bless you both, so very mature and honest talking. I have to say, I had struggled with the religion thing as well and hated myself, had suicidal thoughts, had long crying nights and all this affected my well being, concentration on life and torn my self-esteem. Until, I too realized god does NOT make mistakes in his creation, not one bit, and I am proud of the person I am today, I came out to lots of friends (when I thought I will lose all of them), but my family is still way far from this, they're very conservative.
    I am from the Middle East, and I always wished my parents know a little English so I can show them videos like these (especially this one), they have to see that gay people CAN have a great life like this.
    God bless you and your family once more

  • @danaanderson8435
    @danaanderson8435 Před 3 lety +2

    Oh wow, I just found your channel and this very touching. I’ll be watching your story unfold. Thank you so much for being a role model to young gay people!

  • @jacksonjensen7848
    @jacksonjensen7848 Před 3 lety +1

    This is so so powerful! Y’all are breaking the Mold and that’s what we’re here to do on this earth. So excited to watch your sweet family

  • @steevjaems
    @steevjaems Před 3 lety +2

    Beautiful, guys. I know that your words will help so many in this same situation, and those not in the situation, to appreciate the shared humanity within us all, and to understand that to face the challenges of revealing our innermost selves can be what is most needed by both parties.

  • @andmichaelt
    @andmichaelt Před 3 lety +3

    Thanks guys for sharing. I am so impressed by your family and your relationship. It is something I would have loved but sadly never had. You are such great role models. Keep up the good work and keep the videos coming. I can't get enough of them...

  • @user-ne5ok1zt1k
    @user-ne5ok1zt1k Před 3 lety +21

    From this day forward, I will remember this sentence, just be comfortable with your own skins. thank you for your videos.

  • @anthonydidato5855
    @anthonydidato5855 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for such a wonderful, vulnerable, open discussion about your coming out stories. Your openness and sweetness is a real balm to me during such troubling times in our country.

  • @justineturner3185
    @justineturner3185 Před 3 lety +1

    You guys are so honest & it’s so refreshing to see!! I hope more people find ur channel, I believe it could truly help others. I wish you both loads of love , happiness & health, Loving ur precious family ☀️🌻🤗

  • @DeneeDowning
    @DeneeDowning Před 3 lety +4

    Tear drops here... what a brave couple. What an amazing set of parents. I watch a lot of CZcams videos seeing a few on the subject and 100%. These two were made for each other and made to be parents of the children they have God bless

  • @gkl6566
    @gkl6566 Před 3 lety +3

    As a crusty old codger with a heart of granite, I feel I have to say I was moved by the way you told your stories. Thank you for sharing.

  • @penashe17
    @penashe17 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for sharing your very moving stories. (Had to fight back my own tears.) I know you will help others with their own struggles. Thanks, & God bless!

  • @danw1952
    @danw1952 Před rokem +1

    SO POWERFUL! Such bravery to be so candid. Proud to follow you.

  • @besuperhappynow
    @besuperhappynow Před 3 lety +9

    Your dads gesture was incredibly touching. That’s true love!

  • @Washing85
    @Washing85 Před 3 lety +4

    You two inspire me to believe in love and know that I too can have a family of my own. Though it is easier said than done, it is not impossible. I thank you for your vulnerability and allowing us into your lives.

  • @kennethrich6875
    @kennethrich6875 Před 3 lety +2

    I love ❤️ both your coming out stories. Thank you. Keep on keeping on!!

  • @michaelkks
    @michaelkks Před 3 lety +2

    So touching you guys. Thanks for opening up and sharing. You are inspiring to me!

  • @nicolaoddie748
    @nicolaoddie748 Před 3 lety +5

    Currently crying right now at your incredible courage and strength to release thisvideo, so inspiring and going to help so many people, I love that you are now being the representation of a gay couple with kids that you lacked growing up so future generations can see that it is possible and incredible :))))))))))

  • @RIOMACKEE
    @RIOMACKEE Před 3 lety +3

    THANKS FOR SHARING. It was a hard stage to come out with family and is still a process of complete acceptance but I believe it will get there. It's nice to see a wonderful family like yours. Stay wonderful.

  • @davidblacker4354
    @davidblacker4354 Před 3 lety +2

    Incredibly moving, fellas. Thanks for your visibility --- it's so important.

  • @aulicious
    @aulicious Před 3 lety +1

    Congratulations on your great family. Watching this video shed a few tears for me .. of joy ... of how accepting your respecting family was.

  • @ronaldlabieniec987
    @ronaldlabieniec987 Před 3 lety +3

    Thanks, guys. Always speak your truth. Lies can destroy the world; they can never, ever heal it. As the old saying goes, Honesty is the best policy. Love from Ct. 💗

  • @steveperkins7009
    @steveperkins7009 Před 3 lety +4

    Good job spilled your guts with your 'Big Reveals'. Love you guys massively.

  • @evansmith5387
    @evansmith5387 Před 3 lety +2

    I’ve watched all your videos and I skipped this one many times cuz coming out to my parents is something I’m still struggling with. I practically broke out in tears listening to burtons story because it relates so closely to my own. Just wanted to take a minute and say thank you to you both, your videos really do give hope and inspiration to those of us struggling with these issues. Y’all are adorable!

  • @gabrielncali8999
    @gabrielncali8999 Před 3 lety +1

    Aw, love this video! Thank you for your stories and your honesty. ❤️

  • @nelsonduarte6539
    @nelsonduarte6539 Před 2 lety +3

    Oh boy, that was deep. Thank you for sharing your coming out stories. 😘

  • @rightreverendraymondedsawy7212

    I’ve just viewed it again, and you bring tears to this very old man....

    • @arif_and_ricky
      @arif_and_ricky Před 3 lety

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @PenandPurpose
    @PenandPurpose Před 3 lety +2

    Such a beautiful video. I was very touched by both of your stories, and even though it’s in a different way, I can relate to the idea of finally living in your truth and that weight being lifted. Thank you for sharing a piece of yourselves with all of us watching. I can only imagine the lives you are helping with your openness ❤️❤️

  • @swedemartyrsonswade
    @swedemartyrsonswade Před rokem +1

    We learned from our experiences, making us stronger every day. And I learned that from both of you. Thank you so much. I am happy that a genuine family came out of your relationship.

  • @marvintheteacher1440
    @marvintheteacher1440 Před 3 lety +2

    I know i am behind in just watching this but man was this POWERFUL!!! You guys keep me inspired.

  • @kennethkauzlaric8948
    @kennethkauzlaric8948 Před 3 lety +3

    I've been crying the whole way through this video. We all go through that inner struggle, depression and self denial, but it doesn't change how we feel. I grew up in a loving, supportive family that accepted me for me. I wish that every kid, questioning their identity had my family to turn to. Love you guys ❤❤

  • @hengyan6232
    @hengyan6232 Před 3 lety +1

    You two are downright georgous!!!! outside and INSIDE!!!! love and support from Asia.

  • @carl419
    @carl419 Před 3 lety +2

    Dawson’s creek . . .
    U told part of my story.
    What a terrifying times WE endured, alone, which in the midst of the support some of us eventually get, the “alone” time is indeed something one has to “Live to Tell”.
    💙 thank U for sharing.

  • @jeffeustace6564
    @jeffeustace6564 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you Dustin & Burton for your inspirational stories. Only recently I realized I am gay. Deep down I really knew I am. You are beautiful men with beautiful children. I wish you all a lifetime of happiness. Take care.

  • @mincegroundbeef4916
    @mincegroundbeef4916 Před 3 lety +10

    You just inspire me, teach me to speak up for my life teach me to take care of myself that i never do it before . Thank you for being my role models. Love you 🙏🙏🙏

  • @sandraserafini4351
    @sandraserafini4351 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your stories . And I hope it helps many other people . You are both lovely guys . With a beautiful family of your own.

  • @d.e.t4147
    @d.e.t4147 Před 3 lety +1

    Hearing your stories was very touching and even made me emotional because I could see my story in yours. So happy you two are in such a wonderful place in life right now.
    Wishing you and your family SO much more of all the wonderful things life can bring.

  • @edgarvilla3272
    @edgarvilla3272 Před 3 lety +2

    Hi guys, I just viewed this for the first time and I'm crying. I love you guys. Stay safe, stay healthy, stay happy. Take care.

  • @babejennie8197
    @babejennie8197 Před 3 lety +5

    It’s like watching the fantasy fairy tale in real life, you made me so delight and fill with hope, joy and belief. I’m still struggle and face with discrimination and neglect from my parents about my sexuality. You make me believe in a much brighter day in future. Thanks so much and wish you all happiness

  • @m.sivaranjanim.sivaranjani7542

    Whenever I see this conversation I just can't control my tears...How you guys faced lots and lots of struggles and now being as a successful and responsible parent to your kids... really great to see you 👏👏👏...may your love spread lots of love... congratulations...❣️ Awesome Daddies...👨‍👨‍👧‍👦

  • @gerritgroteluschen7875

    Thank you so much for sharing your stories! It’s so touching and really reminds me of my own coming out. I‘m really thankful that there are people like you to talk about this sensitive theme, I’m sure you are encouraging many young people out there with your lovely and affectionate manners!
    Keep going on and all the best from Germany!

  • @modampurirakeshraju4619
    @modampurirakeshraju4619 Před 3 lety +4

    Oh my gosh....That was literally so moving guys,,, you both made me cry like anything...
    I can just imagine the story in front of my eyes while you guys were narrating your stories.
    Love you both...and be happy.. you have us and we have you....

    • @modampurirakeshraju4619
      @modampurirakeshraju4619 Před 3 lety

      Thank you so much Dear Dustin & Burton for liking my comment. Be in touch ah.
      rakesh@youngzoomers.club

  • @sherrytaylor9886
    @sherrytaylor9886 Před 3 lety +3

    Omg-you two are so genuine. Congratulations on life and your life..! Your family is beautiful.. 💜-Sherry

  • @cristiebiebuyck6199
    @cristiebiebuyck6199 Před 3 lety +2

    What beautiful stories. Thank you so much for sharing.