What social anxiety can look like in school
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- čas přidán 27. 02. 2022
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I'll be stressing for a week about how I said "here" in attendence..
same
Same because everyone copies how I say it because I say it with a fear voice idk why and I try my best to speak louder I just can’t.
I try more than 10 times how to say before my number come or when they tell to introduce yourself i wish that lecture to over before my turn
Same
Me too
It feels like you're an alien and you're trying to learn about people, but it's hard.
Yes I never felt like a human
Yes I felt like I am invisible person in my class that noone cares about
Yes i felt like i was envisible and ppl never ever cared about me and they just judge me especially me having only one best friend but i cant vent to and that best friend also haves anxiety depression and idk how to vent to her and shes also seperated from me and btw shes the only one who understood and cared for me in my entire life and it repeats all over again until school ends and the fact that i cant get help or vent to my parents bc they wont even understand❤
Btw guys if u have the money for therapy or your lucky to vent to ppl that u trust deeply i suggest u to vent to them or seek help if u do have the money for it take care of yourselfs yall❤
@@user-np3hc6ez6mbecause we don’t care about you ???
Yes perfectly described
Not just presentations, It’s anxiety before talking or interacting with people
I feel the same
Ikr😔
So relating I feel that too
Yes and during and after😢
Yeah, I can't really interact with any strangers anymore. Just the people I already know.
The worst part is when you walk in your classroom and everybody just be looking at you judging you
I just want to dip my head in a mud at that time😂
@@muhammadisrar5793bhai you also have Social Anxiety? 😢 I have it since I guess my birth only. I m 18 now it has increased with every year. I have become super weird 😭😭😭
@@GOD_1320 yes bro i have been suffering from it. I guess we have to deal with it and accept our shortcomings.
@@muhammadisrar5793 but living like this is very very difficult it's very tolling
@@muhammadisrar5793 btw in ur photo looks confident. U re indeed good looking guy. Why you have social anxiety.
me having social anxiety: *act normal to avoid attention*
Smart
it's about acting normal so you don't attract attention and then you start to think you're acting too normal and everyone is thinking you're an attention seeker or something-😭
Crying without tears hurts more than with tears
@@gka09 omg yes. And then you go home and think about it more and more- 😭
The problem is that you pretend you're being yourself being normal to a state you ARE NOT yourself anymore!!! I have experienced that myself for over 2 years
Im glad there’s other people who feel like me! Honestly sometimes the internet makes me feel better than real life.
Same here 🫂💯
TOTALLY TRUE and this why I spent 7 years in the internet
More like EVERY TIME
"Internet makes me feel better than real life" truest words I've ever read
Hahaha low life kids
Once when I had a presentation, I literally was shaking before I had to start. I felt like I was going to cry. And then when I went, I kept stumbling over my words and my legs felt like jello. I remember my teacher commenting on something I said and I was so embarrassed that I felt like I was going to cry in front of everybody. I hate presentations, they are torture. Period.
Fr... Whenever I hear that we have to do one, I feel sick
You can get accommodations for that if you’re in post-secondary.
Fr SCREW PRESENTATIONS
I feel the same. Even worse, I have hearing loss in one ear and speech problem caused by my condition.
Oh I get sick to my stomach when I here of presentation. How do we deal with it.
My social anxiety is why I hated school I wanted to be home schooled.
THIS. I can relate and agreed with you
2020 - 2021 >>>
I’m homeschooled but when ever I go to public places I’m like this even at home sometimes
Same like alot of people hate school cuz of the work and teachers, but I hate cuz of my anxiety and how there are so many people. It scares me so bad that if I am not around my friends, I feel so scared and lost. It was also so hard to find friends.
Wompity Womp Womp💀
My mom always says "your just shy" but I have really bad social anxiety
I can relate😢
me too 😪😩😢
Me tooo
Thisss is fr😞
Same here
When We have to dress in a certain outfit I get so nervous and I start stressing and I go “is today the right day?” “ will I be the only one?” And stuff like that
Same
Samee🥺
Same
Same, tomorrow we have to do that but someone didn’t realise and came as it today 😮
@@Louissmith909 NO that’s so embarrassing 😔
Your not alone, we understand you❤ we are all together dealing with this
The worst part about having social anxiety is that the people around you simply won’t understand. They will tell you to just “not care”. Gee thanks that really helps! I wish more more could understand the way social anxiety can make you a passenger in your own skin. It’s hard to be around people, even people o know and love. I can’t talk to strangers at all, I can’t even look them in the eyes. I try so hard to act strong but honestly I don’t know how much longer I can keep going….this is paralyzing. I want to live my life the way I want to. Not the way I think everybody else thinks I should. I don’t know how to not feel this way. I wish my family would understand me.
I've never seen a comment so relatable. Let's try our best to overcome this.
@@Inki_pinki_ponky_ you were forced to grow to fast my friend. More than not our need to please others comes from our parents. In my case, my parents would always fight and my mother would scream and cry for hours, I use to run to my room and shove my head between pillows just to not hear it. I tried to comfort them both but nothing I ever did was good enough, somebody was always upset. I tried so hard to please them but it was never enough. Overtime as children we falsely learn that others needs and wants are more important than our own. We have a need to please others, we need them to like us. Our happiness depends on their happiness. If they aren’t happy or pleased, we will do anything In our power to try to please them, even if it means we suffer as a result. Stay strong, this world can be hell for people like us and only few will truly understand but I promise you if you just hold on a little longer eventually you will learn to live your life the way you want to. Focus on the present moment and don’t let your mind be controlled by thoughts. Learn to control your thoughts. Learn that this is your life and no matter what you do, somebody will be disappointed in you in some way. You cannot please everybody!! So stop trying!! Please yourself. It’s easier said than done but you can do it!
I might be a stranger but I love you and I believe in you ❤️
I think I have it..... I been taking tests online and looking up symptoms and readings these comments are convincing me more the worst part is everyone just thinks I'm just shy but it's not just being shy... I want to talk to people but It's like I just can't that's one of the reasons why I hate myself.... I wish I wasn't like this
I have a speech impediment so that doesn't help so I actually do get laughed at when I do presentations also everyone sees me as the weirdo and stuff and I'm comfortable and very talkative and all around my parents and brother but I'm shy around almost everyone else even my other family and my classmates who I've known for awhile now honestly I don't know anymore I hate that I'm like this and I have no one who will understand I agree on what you said about no one understands and not knowing how to not feel this way it feels nice to know there is some people who understand what it's like but still...
And doing presentations are torture too me
@@Itz_Hannah46 people think they understand but they don’t know what it’s like. They can’t understand that some people have a very serious fear of social interactions. They will say “everybody gets nervous sometimes” but social anxiety is more than just being nervous. It’s a deep rooted fear that everybody hates you and you’re not good enough and everywhere you go you feel like people are laughing at you or judging you. It makes me so upset when people say they understand but I can tell they don’t by how they act. I get extremely anxious no matter where I go and no matter what I’m doing, I feel like everybody is laughing at me. It’s hell on earth. It’s hard to maintain a job, go to school, go to the grocery store etc. but it’s because we hate ourselves so we think everybody else does. The truth is, most people are too concerned with themselves to even think about me or you in the first place but it’s hard to convince our brains of that
I have had social anxiety for most of my life and the worst part is people don't understand how crippling it can be.
There is one thing worse than that
Its when you dont know how to explain how crippling it can be
Same here
Same
@@user-yv7ei1gj6f it's so annoying when they do that!!! Everyone can be a little shy, but social anxiety is very different
@@matheus10b mhm
"gets nervous before presentations"
I get nervous by just ging to my really good friend's house
Same
Same
that’s normal is your an introvert or have social anxiety
SAME
Same..
Sometimes, I start crying after presentations because of how bad I think I did. Everyone is staring at me. I hate it
My face be making usual movements
@@MoldovianballUmm dont exaggerate, no one truly cares enough to think stuff like that about people unless they themselves are a loser
You have it easy. I have a stutter so every day at school is hell for me. Doing presentations, reading out loud in class, and answering simple questions is a huge obstacle that I need to overcome EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
@@yoshi20105 And? Just because yours is" worse" doesn't mean they have it "easy"
@@yoshi20105buddy YOU have it easy…
I cried watching this because it’s so hard going through stuff like this I feel like I can barely live correctly. I tell myself it’s fine there’s no reason to be anxious but my body responds differently I hate it so much
I can relate. It's like automatic, not something you can control manually. I feel so anxious about the way I walk in front of public, where I look, or whether I'm being weird. It's all set automatically in my brain.
me too
Yall cried wtf
@@drounny3076u would too if u have really bad social anxiety
Same it's just so hard..
I literally still beat myself up mentally about something from when i was 5
I still mentally bash myself for somethin when I was 10 it happens to the best of us mate
Same
Same..
Man I cringe at myself for something I said to my online friends 2 or 3 years ago.
Literally same
The “obsessing over something you said” and “feeling sick before presentations” are so accurate for me
Same
I have a serious problem with social anxiety, but my way to ignore it is through laughing at how stupid it is. I hope this advice will help.
same dude im like rehearsing what im gonna say before presentations to make sure i don't make a fool of myself
Same TwT
Same
My father: "You need to stop being so shy or your never going to get anywhere in life"
what a great life it is.
I feel like it could be tough love but I believe I'm a sensitive child and I don't find those words so supportive. It just makes me so depressed when my dad tells me that.
I am 15 and I can extremely relate to this. Sometimes when there's any event or smth in School I would always go to the toilet and stay there, i don't care how long it is, i would sit in a corner and make sure nobody's coming and I cry sometimes..... And when it's over or time to get back to class I come back, I don't know why I just feel really good and better when I'm alone.
I was an extrovert 3 years ago but then people started deceiving me and I got into this condition, I used to hate being lonely but nowadays I love loneliness and feels like loneliness is the best thing for me.
I be doing the same but it's worse
same . Used to be social before lockdown. Now everyone tells me that i'm extremely introverted and I have social anxiety.
@@muhammadisrar5793bhai what happened to you I m too very same. 😭😭 all ppl say me bad things for my nature. I don't feel bad by things but I do feel bad of my condition of loneliness and social anxiety 😭😭
@@ben_trippingkindly just let me know how to become extrovery just for a few yrs as I had always social anxiety since my birth I never could speak calmly normally or casually 😭😭😭 Help I m 18 yr age
As someone who's the same age as you, you're not alone buddy. We'll get through this together.
Every time I talk to someone literally the minute after I think about what I could’ve said better- 😭
What flag is that in your pfp? I've seen it many times and don't know what it is
@ok™ im heterosexual :troll:
exactly 😭
Ikr
@@-SimonRiley lesbian flag I have it in my pfp to
sometimes I'm feeling confident during class, I say things that normally I wouldn't say and that really aren't wrong but as soon as I get home I start to think about everything and regret it, feel bad and start to panic just thinking that "tomorrow I have to go to school again".
I don't know why every comment is relateble 😭🥺
especially bad since i dont normally talk my classmates say "wow she talked" and stuff like that while im speaking its embarrassing
This is so relatable, I myself is such a huge overthinker that I hate my every life choice, every word that I utter, and that's really limiting me from doing things that I really want to. I need to get over it. Any book recommendations I would really appreciate it.
Same here bro. All my class mates and teachers are really good. When they're going to talk with me or ask me about something I just feel something weird and I also have the problem that you mentioned here, always thinking about everything I said and regretting them. How about keeping eye contacts with the other people. That's the worst thing I have ever experienced anyway I'm so glad that you guys are here cause it makes me feel like I'm not the only one with anxiety.
I can't even raise my hand in class
social anxiety sucks like it’s a unwanted suffering no one asked or needed.
The problem is that it's just in the head and other people can't see it but you feel uncomfortable everytime
My mom doesn't help it either she just says "you got to talk to people, it's not that hard" and I'll be sitting there like😐😐
Yeah I feel that my mom thinks I’m super confident and when I tell her about it she doesn’t takes me serious
Oh okay hello random person
They react like uhhh hello? Or u got no friends 😂
I’ll be thinking about conversations I had for the whole day regretting or wishing I had said something differently or whatever 😂
Edit: y’all gotta stop saying same. I’ve replied to a few that had more content to them that I felt like I could help with or add to but the other 160 “same” replies 💀
That’s what keeps me up at 3am
@@alana2513 I posted that comment at 3 am 😂
@@86aidan31 lmfaoo I have a fortune telling career
@@alana2513 go buy me a lottery ticket 😉
Same😭😭
Edit: I was the first same. I am a trendsetter. I am god.
I can't even read one paragraph in front of my class...
i always just say ahh oops sorry ah i can't speak today EVERYTIME :(😬
Me in school: not eating till i go home cuz i cant deal with ppl seeing me eat and feeling sick all day
Thats one of the Most relatable comments I have ever seen 😢
back in 7th grade i felt sick every night before school that i would cry all night
and i hated school so much that i would barely eat at all
This is me rn I'm in 7th grade I cry everyday in front of my daddy but hw never helps me 😔😕
I am in 12 rn i feel you
@@drounny3076same kinda socked that theres people like me itsok u can do it ❤ keep going don't ever give up
@ruchisrivastava3772 I'm so happy it's summer break 🙈 I'm not anxious😧 anymore worrying about going to school and getting laughed 😂 at and bullied 🤛
@Shreya...1 wow ur so old 😪
Teachers: "you'll be fine everyone gets nervous"
Bro no they don’t not like me
LITERALLY WHAT MY TEACHER SAID. IT PISSED ME OFF
@@Brooke0103 ikr
@@poingucac MY TEACHER PURPOSELY IGNORED MY PANICKED EMAIL TO HER
@@awesometani8148 THATS SO EVIL WHAT IS HER PROBLEM OMG
Whenever I’m on my way to school my stomach starts to hurt :(
Same! :'/
Same… it’s just a weird rotating feeling in mine 🙁
Happens to me too, I don’t know why but out of nowhere I just get super stressed
Same especially if I eat something in the morning
Literally me everyday
SCHOOL Is THE REAL DEFINATION OF HELL IF YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY!
@Moldovianball true...like for real🥲😔
All of these!! But omg when it was the day before a presentation I would lose soooo much sleep, I just couldn’t calm myself down and when summer would be close to ending I would get extremely anxious thinking about the future presentations that I would have to do! I honestly wish the school system would maybe do something a little different for the people with anxiety like if it’s a known thing that you have it you should be able to do your presentation solo with just the teacher but I know that’s probably too much to ask.
That system has actually been added to the school system fairly recently, i have my presentation tomorrow and my heart feels like it's racing, my stomach feels like it's about to turn in on itself and I feel a sharp and constant feeling of adrenaline and anxiety, but I'm still choosing to do it publicly because I want the feeling after to be the most relaxing and relieving feeling in the world.
I even get nervous for others presenting 😂
I had really bad social anxiety but then I got a job (im 15) and it just felt a lot easier to talk to people like taking there orders and I just realized that I was always scared people were gonna judge me for something I said in a presentation, but I found out how 90% of people aren’t bad. You just got to muster up the courage to overcome it I believe 🙂
Darn, I wanna get a job now...
hopefully everything will be better when i leave school cos at my school 99% of people *are* bad and acc judge the living shit out of me
@@idonthavealife4615 Hang in there, I understand because I’ve been through so many situations. Try to be good to yourself, you’re young & life feels difficult because you’re young. You need to start thinking positive thoughts for present & future. Remember you’re worthy, you matter, you’re loved, needed & never alone. Talk to friends, family members, churches & counselor. In area where I live Methodist churches Counselors don’t charge or charge very little. Take care & I’ll pray for you🙏❤️🙏
this! when i got a job it taught me to talk to people. im still awkward haha but ive defjnitely improved a lot! i used to be scared to simply be in conversation and stuggled to talk to new people but now it feels natural and manageable
I worked in New Brunswick this summer and out east in Canada people are super welcoming. Strangers will start up conversations with you all the time. That helped my anxiety a lot. I never felt like a burden there. I think all people with social anxiety should go there.
My dad: "You're just overthinking it!"
😔
The people who are saying it isn't real hurt the most...
You are.. Life is to be enjoyed. Stop worrying about people, because when you get old you're best friends are your parents.
@@Straline. Not really, it's called tough love. It's meant to make you stronger and help you mature. Anything that keeps you occupied, like a sport, job, volunteering removes the feeling of sadness, your brain will be too occupied to feel sad.
Yes I am why can't you understabd
@@albertol9654 you sound old asf
I have social anxiety and I have to present a presentation and I’m terrified that everyone is gonna judge me for my project
Same
i've had a high level of social anxiety since i was a kid but just throught i was shy. turned out it was social anxiety and i've tried to mkae myslef more confident till this day.
Thank you I did wonder why i kept getting nervous when I was trying to talk people
I been like this since a year or two ago but everyone said I was shy but now I know
What anxiety really feels like
“Just out dreaming and thinking about you’re stupid things you did in the past and still think what will happen if you didn’t do it”
I'm overthinking every jokes, every conversations that i have lol. And also, for no reason. I feel like i'm dying whenever i'm gonna have presentation lmao
Same here 😂💔
Is that social anxiety?
same dude i get like sick to the stomach and really nervous performing or talking in front of others even if it's just one person 😭
Same here my parents have been diagnosed with social anxiety. Might be related?
samee
I literally *DREAD* having to think of how to hold a conversation with literally anyone, even my closest friends. You can imagine how horrified I feel when I have to present in front of class or get noticed by more than 4 people in class doing literally whatever.
@_aakksame, i wish same
I'm full on terrified to present a class
My teacher let's me get away with skipping presentations. They understand.
lucky
Wow lucky i wish all teachers were like that.
What did you say ? Like how did you word it because I start school in a few days
That teacher is a giga chad
Damn... You have good teachers. I literally get paired with the worst people imaginable ):
I still remember the time when we were given candy in class by the teacher because we were working so nicely in class, but me and my partner didnt get along well because of my social anxiety, i wouldnt talk to her and i did the work separately from her (so if i got something wrong only i would be blamed). So she was doing her work too. But since she was more of an outgoing person, she got blamed for the non teamwork. I was seen as the quiet obedient one, so i got a snickers and she got ridiculed.
In my senior year, it ate me up inside that it happened because of me, and so it took me some months to get the courage to apologize, and she told me she didnt even remember what happened and that its okay.
I still think about it. Its terrible.
u opened my eyes
Hey, it is amazing that despite the anxiety, you did it!
I understand how you feel, but you’re being too hard on yourself. Because even your classmate was fine with everything. Tell yourself positive things daily. Repeat silently that your are worthy, you matter, you’re smart, you’re loved, you can achieve your goals & life is worth living. I’ll pray for you🙏❤️🙏
@@emeraldc.8796 Yea samd I agree I mean I would have been happy to take a snickers bar from someone
Lmao she forgot you
Tbh society has pushed the label introvert on people with social anxiety and it’s just wrong
There have been several times where the teacher explains we have to present something to the class and I’ve straight up started crying because the mere idea terrifies me. Everything becomes to loud and I can’t focus.I can’t breathe and my heart picks ups. And there’s always this miserable feeling in my chest that squeezes and just leaks revulsion and terror and that’s what pushes me over the edge
I have ADHD and autism so I struggle in crowded environments as well as having social anxiety and mental health problems
I struggle with body image and have attempted to end it all multiple times. I'm also anorexic from extreme bullying that went for three an a half years until somebody ( a friend) noticed on my school camp that I refused to eat properly. My recovery journey started about six to seven months ago
People calling themselves "introverts" when they have social anxiety. Being shy doesn't mean knowing yourself more.
That's me...
yea
I took MBTI personality test, and I'm INFJ-A. A true introvert. And, I was in self isolation all these years in my class, everyone sees me as a wierd kid. And I'm okay with it. I don't have any friends around my house, I study and do things alone. I take presentations, seminars, classes. It's just the way I am. Just like that, not everyone has social anxiety. They're just introverts.
Having social anxiety isn't just being shy theres a difference..
OMG PLEASE TELL MY EX BEST FRIEND THIS!!! She would always call herself an introvert but she just had social anxiety she would literally make like 20 friends when I was gone for 3 days I don’t even know if she had either-
When I'm gonna speak in class I will always have a bad feeling in my gut. Scared to be next. Heavy breathing, panic and feel like crying. I'm just scared that people are looking at me and think that I'm weird. When I was a kid it wasn't this worse but now it's so worse. I just wanna be normal
Same😢
Same damn
I used to think that too! But now it's like "Fugg those bishes who think im weird I just need to be confident an that's it"
Same
Damn you are the most relatable person ever
Everytime I'm gonna have a presentation I start to feel sick and like I'm gonna throw up and I feel like I'm gonna faint and can almost not talk cause I'm so anxious
My social anxiety was raging in sixth grade. I wanted to say so much and even though i said it so many times over in my head i wouldn't be able to move my lips to say those words. It's gotten better now but i'm still super nervous because i don't have many friends and i want to make more this year.
I accidentally said “I swear to god” in school yesterday and someone else said “what?” Now i think they hate me
*it’s one of the reasons I absolutely hate going to school, or out anywhere…I’d prefer to be in the comforts of my home watching Tv.*
Yeah me too
yeah but my fam just won't get it they said its not a good thing to not talk or scared to talk to ppl but I tried ..it's just not my way and idek what to start the conversation with. For me it's just a waste of time to talk something that won't benefit me so I want to be in my own zone to feel better
Completely relate but why did you bold it?
@@moneysign9713 no reason XD I do it with most of my comments ^v^
Frr same
I had/have this. In the late stages of secondary school I had it fucking bad. It was post-lockdown and I’d been a shy before covid but it just mega amplified it.
I grew my hair out to hide in it (male), had it fully over my face for a few months. I wouldn’t talk to anyone, wouldn’t smile, wouldn’t approach or hold a conversation. I was terrified of doing anything ‘wrong’ in a social situation, the worst part is I wanted so desperately to talk to people but I just couldn’t. I had 3 friends that I stopped speaking to once I left.
Luckily it’s not as crippling now but it’s still not exactly under control. I go out of my way to avoid people during walks because I feel like I’ll say ‘hi’ wrong (wtf??). On the upside though I made a bunch of friends at college, ditched the hair and go out more. I still don’t go out often but it’s better than it was before
now.. i know that the lockdown not only ruined the few nothing i had to offer with my worthless personality
well atleast i guess making music is not your dream(?) that just makes everything worse and even difficult
I get what you mean about wanting to talk to others so bad but just being unable to on a whole other level I'm like that and I hate it I see no way out... I'm trying to have hope but
Yesterday when I was at school I had anxiety I cried in front of the class because of how I was suffering my substitute teacher helped me and I felt better
this is very accurate, I always isolate from everyone unless it's my friend asking me a question, otherwise I stay quiet. I also have trouble with presentations, I usually stutter a bit. The worst feeling for me is the thought of everyone looking at me, laughing at me, and talking about me without me knowing
You are being way too hard on yourself. Others may laugh but that’s just at the moment. Be kind to yourself, think positive thoughts & remember you’re not alone. You are worthy, you matter, you’re loved & life is worth living. Talk to your friend, family members, counselor & churches. In my area Methodist churches have counselors & some don’t charge or charge very little. Take care & I’ll pray for you🙏❤️🙏
My son has social anxiety disorder plus general anxiety disorder, and finally in the past year he is on the correct cocktail of meds and has greatly improved. He can finally talk to people and can go into a store by himself. He's 27.
Glad to know
I hope he gets better and better ❤️ We are not alone
Thats so good that you are with him and he is getting better..i can't tell anyone coz i am afraid of embarrassment and other even if i tell someone they are not gonna understand..
The age is not important. Sometimes you're fine at school but then probably adulthood hits you, and change you. I think that's normal.
@@Idont8225 I am so so sorry you are going through this! I will pray for you. I am here for you if you want to talk to someone. I won't judge you.
I can relate to this so much. I’m in college now but I don’t even know how to make friends still. Everytime I talk to someone I’d overthink about it later or I’m literally always shaking while talking to them. And kinda jealous with people who have a friend group because I kinda used to wish I’d be more confident and talk to someone without being anxious but it’s so hard. And also I have a resting bitch face so, being quiet and having an rbf, people used to judge me a lot🥲 I wanna overcome this thing so bad
The obsessing over something u said is something I do alot on school days
In ELA class, our teacher introduced us to a project that we would be presenting to the class. When I heard this, I felt so mortified knowing I was going to be talking in front of 40 some people (yes, I have a big class.) What made this even worse was that our teacher announced that our presentations had to be between 5 and 15 minutes long! Everyday right when class started, our teacher made us go in front of the entire class, 1 by 1 to deliver a speech of just 1 or 2 sentences in front of the podium. As I neared my turn, I felt like I could not even talk. My throat was so dry and i could feel my head vibrating like crazy. As I went up to the podium, I looked up and I saw EVERYONE’s eyes on me. I thought that if I messed up any of my lines, it would be the end of me. Well, this situation ended TERRIBLY. As I started to talk, my voice literally sounded so hoarse and like a whisper I could not even talk! The teacher told me to sit down and that she knew I was nervous. Everyone passed by me saying how I was “brave” to go up and how I “tried my best.” After this situation, everything has gotten way worse. I’m in 8th grade, so we have to do A LOT of presentations before we go into high school. Today, I just opened to my mom about my anxiety and I am finally getting the treatment I needed for so many years. After the project in ELA, I was so relieved after opening up to my teacher about my anxiety and she let me present to only her during study hall. Remember, its okay to be scared and seek help if you think you have symptoms. I can’t wait to start my long journey and I appreciate everyone looking at this comment. Have a great day/night!
Hey how are you doing now? :)
I've been feeling very sick from interacting with people for more than I'd like to admit and to be honest I've just been pushing it through, I realize now that it's affected my life and resulted in a lot of unnecessary mental torture and a lot of isolation
@@valgarcia540 Im so sorry to hear that. I have really bad anxiety that I can’t even sit at public events or else I’ll panic and run away. Interacting with people definitely induces anxiety for me as well, but exposing yourself to situations over time will help. Again I’m so sorry to hear that.
@@Kim-pi2ug I think I’m doing ok now, I just get anxiety when i have to sit around people or giving presentations but it’s manageable now thank you
Whenever feeling socially anxious , just turn your attention to some random sounds around you, it diverts your mind from focusing on how you are perceived by others
thank yoy
thank you😭
“It’s just your menstrual cycle, you’ll be fine”
I am so sorry if someone said it to you itsok girl I can feel you just wanted to tell you that you are an amazing person u are smart and intelligent not a failure and you are talented and hardworking you are the prettiest and you deserve the world you are the best....God loves you❤❤❤ don't ever give up keep going
it's hard because I literally have trouble keeping up a conversation with anyone who tries to keep up a conversation with me, I usually think too much before or after I say anything in social situations or I literally get chills, physically/mentally tense or become shaky, swear it's literally easier for me to talk on the internet than instead of in person 🤦♀️
Same
one time i had a small presentation that would barely do any affect to my grade but when i started walking to do mine, i started feeling light headed and dizzy, i was also sweating like crazy, not a “i’m nervous” type of sweaty, like a “ i’m very sick” type of sweaty. and i was breathing really heavily. that’s just my experience though
I had same thing when I was the captain of my cricket team in my school of my house but I had fever too please help i always get nervous
Wait- it that bald Tsukki in you pfp😂😆
@@SandraKozume sorry 4 the late reply but yes 🧌i have it framed in my room😻😭
I feel like this, even in online classes and I don't understand why, I mean it's very easy to share your opinion (at least before doing it, in my mind) but afterwards it seems very difficult and all these feelings and thoughts make me feel so bad it really is hard to even explain.
I would just like to hide and not be asked anything anymore so I wouldn't worry 😞
Same here
Same here 😂 I remeber that day in my school where I was to narrate a poem. I practiced a lot only to speak 2 lines infront of the crowd 😭 I was given another chance but still couldn't make it 😂😂 loll just chill it happens with almost everyone ❤️ am still figuring out my social anxiety
I was like this but a few months ago but I just said "f*ck it, like if someone is going to care"
It was so hard, I remember how shaky my voice was when I started saying my thoughts and how nervous I got, but the more I do it the better it gets.
I'm still a little bit nervous but I guess that's normal.
@@bangbora4102 It’s the worst when people ask why I never talk..
Ok so my school reopened like 3 weeks ago...on first day the tchr asked everyone to give an introduction so when it was my turn my heart started beating and my face legs and hands started shivering. My class teacher is kind of trash she pointed it out infront of the whole class and all kids started giggling and making fun of me. i felt so bad ngl and now she targets me every single day. how to overcome this?
this was exactly what happened to me.. My class teacher would point me out as well.. She always tried to embarass me oh god
I have every anxiety, I over think I think something bad is gonna happen I shake every day I’m afraid if something gonna come after me I’m afraid to see a insect in the bathroom I’m afraid to meet new people I’m afraid to tell my crush I like her it’s insanely hard to talk to parents if I forget my homework I feel like I’m gonna die 1,000 times and I believe it’s because of soda, coffee, and sugar.
Why is Runaway just the perfect song for this? When this happens to me I just wish I could run straight home and forgot about everything. Unfortunately I just have to keep going otherwise the social anxiety will win.
Yeah that’s how I am to
Feeling light headed and just staying quite when my friends talk-
I have really bad social anxiety, every time I want to talk to someone, I just sit there and wait for them to notice me and every time I try to get their attention, I’m barely noticeable. Every time someone sits next to me, I get even more shy and just stay quiet, hoping that the person won’t judge me or maybe just wanting them to talk to me. I just want one friend that matches me. Just one.
What social anxiety can look like at school:
ME
That awkward moment when you realize you do all of these. And you’re also really awkward around people😅
Hehe same……
Help
Yep!!😂
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Haha that’s me
Same dude
I love how you bring awareness to the mental issues so many struggle with, including those in medical school or doctors. I’m 13 and an aspiring pediatric oncologist, but unfortunately struggle with multiple mental illnesses, included an undiagnosed ED, diagnosed depression and diagnosed anxiety. You give me hope.
I'll pray for you! Keep going!
Take care and be a great doctor one day!!
U will need all that strength in med school especially
Stop bragging about your disorders nobody cares
I also have this, and I feel like I’m dying😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I think everyone gets nervous when presenting in front of people but of course it can be more stressful for some people like myself.
“Feeling sick before presentations”
Well that’s me and my brother 😅
I used to have social anxiety so I started talking, crazy ik but it worked
This is so true. I am an energetic and an active person inside the house and online, and then when Im around peoples who I don't know very well, I feel like they are staring at me and judging me.
This also happens to me at school everyday but I have some friends on my school, some of them I know them a long time (since elementary).
When someone talks to me and tells me a story like how he got his injury for example, I just nod at them not know what to response.
But I am slowly trying to overcome this.
Edit: sorry if my grammar is wrong.
I realised that school makes my social anxiety worse
We had to do presentations in my health class a couple days ago, the first day I requested to present later because I have a bad history with panic attacks and my breathing was starting to get shallow. He took that as me not being ready and was about to give me a zero. After class I quickly told him why I wanted to present later and he just told me to make a video. The thing with that is I hate my voice so much to the extent where I don’t even want to speak if I’m being filmed. So the next day we did presentations I was second and I could barely breathe when I was standing in front of the class…
I had brought a plush I frequently use to deal with stress and was squeezing it for dear life. The thing is, I have a problem with writing a lot when I’m passionate about something so I had a ton to read and talk about. By the time I finished I could barely breathe and immediately ran to my seat. I texted my friend what happened and put it off as a joke to try and help me cope. (It’s an unhealthy coping mechanism for me to joke about my stress and anxiety to help me calm down.) She immediately went to my class without any notice and barged in to give me a mochi cookie.
She’s one of the greatest friends I’ve ever had and I’m so glad to have her.
But, if a friend ever talks to you about being anxious or anything of the sort, if you’re able to get to them quickly and talk to them or even give them something to try and help them calm down, then try it. Even if it’s something small like a cookie or a small drawing/note, it helps a lot.
Oh! I forgot to say, on the second day when I was presenting, the teacher started yelling and lecturing the class which raised my anxiety even more… I barely had any time to calm down from that scare before I had to present so it made everything 100x worse…
I literally cant breathe literallyyyyy literallyyyyy what is the cure, it is a sickness do I just have to hide myself
I do actually have social anxiety and I often do feel and actually get sick before presentations
My English teacher last year didn’t believe me and told me to just stop complaining and do my presentation every time we had to do one. I always asked if I could do it just for her at the end instead of in front of the whole class and she said no and was always quite rude to me. Every time we had to give a presentation or speech, I’d say I needed to go to the bathroom and leave the classroom for about 5 minutes.
One of these times, I asked her about the presentation, she shouted at me again, I left for the bathroom and she followed me, and walked in as I was leaning forward throwing up and she absolutely freaked out. When I stood up and saw her I panicked and started crying expecting her to start being rude again, but instead she hugged me and apologised for how she’d treated me
Exactly! Not even as an expression but *physically* i feel sick
May God give u strength ♥️
Dude you cant complain about doing presentations, its a part of school and most of the students feel stressed before presenting too.
@@hyejulko everyone has but not as bad as the one who's suffering from it!
@@hyejulko Yes. Nobody likes presentations. But some people worry about it so much that they lose sleep over it, have no appetite, are physically sick (like above) and have panic attacks. It is a genuine fear that some people have. Find some empathy for others.
how tf is social anxiety treatable I can’t damn talk to anyone
Only cure stay out of your home even if it burns you to stay outside in a public place for starters try a cafe
Maybe u should visit a therapist instead, might help =)
@@sleepyhungryboi well but you still need to talk to a therapist you know?
@@Nezuko-chaaan well.. that's what I said
@@sleepyhungryboi I meant that they have to talk but they have social anxiety sooo it's not gonna be easy
In school I literally carry a book around everywhere as a sort of defense so I can just hold it up when someone approaches to avoid conversation. Also after I’ll have a conversation with my friend I’ll go over everything I said multiple times like analyzing a chess game, looking for places where I said the wrong thing and criticizing myself for it. Another thing in my math class every week we have to present about one of the homework questions and each time I feel like I’m going to puke before I go up there because I’m not only afraid of embarrassing myself, but letting down my partner who is working with me. One time during a presentation this kid literally made fun of me for being short and embarrassed me in front of the entire class. Events like that haunt me to this day.
It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with social anxiety. 😅
If you have a " Freind" your SA is mild. Or you don't have SA at all. PLEASE STOP SLEF DIAGNOSING! It's disrespectful to people like me who's live's have been ruined by this sh%t
@@comradespiderman29 they might have gotten a friend BEFORE a they had social anxiety, I’m not an expert on social anxiety but I’m pretty sure if they got a friend before they had it they’re not just gonna ditch their friend
Me feeling sick when the teacher lectures me infront of everyone for being late.
As a person with social anxiety, i barely answer questions and im sometimes scared of doing a presentation and never talk to someone but now im recovering and i get to talk with my friends and cousins and im getting confidence over time. if you have social anxiety here's my advice:
talk to someone and gain confidence.
my anxiety is getting worse every day i can't walk into public without wanting to evaporate
I feel sick every day before I go to school and I’m constantly telling my mom that I have so many of the signs of social anxiety but she doesn’t believe me 😢
Thank you for addressing this my friends think social anxiety is cringe it’s to sad.
If you have have "Freinds". You probably don't have SAD(social anxiety disorder) you probably feel socially anxious, which everyone goes through
this is so relatable pls
The obsessing over something you said is the most relatable thing ever
Worst part no one even recognises that there is something called social anxiety 🥺😭
Me: “I have social anxiety”
Friend: “Stop it we know you want attention”
Friend: *Gets Will Smithed*
If your friend actually said that you need some new friends. They should be supportive if you tell them your problems, not invalidate them
That’s not a friend. That’s someone that is insecure and wants to bring down their friends because it makes them feel better. You need friends that will bring you up and help and support you no matter what. That’s what a real friend is... I’ve had my fair share of friends like that and trust me life is so much better without them.
Yeah my group of friends tell me that everyone experiences social anxiety and that I’m just seeking attention.
@@i0073 same here, but i hope thing get better for you !
@@Animorix11 thank you, I wish the same for you.
I dealt with all that. You have to fight thru it or go with it. I am 40 and still learning to get thru it. I prayed for help... and God sent me the right people to push those boundaries. I fought and ran into the conflict to resolve what I was going thru even though fear panic and anxiety were gripping me and breathing was hard. The more I did it the more I realized I could do it.
Don’t forget being too scared to ask questions. You just try and figure it out alone, but don’t get anywhere…
My stomach did backflips just when someone could see me when I was doing volleyball
Started going to therapy for my social anxiety this year. I know not everyone can afford it but it definitely helps and I recommend other people with severe social anxiety to try it out!
It helped me when going to therapy, but I got out of therapy so fast,,, so my social anxiety is not gone
But yeah therapy does help
Is there any medication
@@niksniks5307 they will prescribe you with medication if needed
My problem isn't affording it. I can't ask for help. I just can't do it
"Social anxiety"
Remembering komi can't communicate
Yeah but her classmates clearly love her, it's harder to know if they like you or not in real life :(
School gave me that because I felt like every one around me was toxic and disgusting as I have been back talked before and bullied a few times made me feel super anxious to talk to anyone because I could already feel the judgement and looks they might give me so I can’t even talk to classmates or anyone without being worried of what they think all the time I hate it. I’m now in a less big class thankfully so I don’t deal with these worried overthinking thoughts as much anymore but still. I’m going back to school now ugh let’s just hope I can get through one more year and perhaps start fresh in college afterwards👍
Same
Literally how I am during achool ive been told "oh your just faking" or "oh your being dramatic" it sucks I've even had a therapist tell me I was faking my adhd, anxiety, and panic attacks just for attention
Then there’s me:
Hiding my social anxiety and m anxiety in general, just so nobody would suspect anything
Yeah if i tell my mom she will just take away my phone and tell me just get over it
@@user-yv7ei1gj6f frfr
My mom nearly caught me having an anxiety attack-
I sad I was cold since I was shivering
Do you know the worst thing is I never relized that I have Social anxiety until I saw this video and related to every single thing...... And now i am sad🥲🥲
I do have social anxiety in school. I rethink everything I say, analize how others react in their heads and don't say something loud so not everybody will know what I said. Rarely start a conversation mostly try to join 2 people talking.
For me social anxiety starts when the teachers make me stand up and starts asking questions....and if I say wrong the day would be turned into a bad day