A minute into this I suddenly imagined myself walking up to a woman and saying 'hello I think you're attractive, here is my CV, I hope to hear from you in two weeks'. And now I'm thinking that's actually a good chat up line, okay now I'll stop thinking.
This is truly brilliant. I love the the 'greatest professional achievement' section but the whole of your example Job Interview Date made me giggle. I'm super into this euphemism-filled flirting and almost meta-style communication - so nerdy and so much fun. I also think that whether a person you're on a date with is up for doing a slightly ridiculous exercise like this with you is probably a good measure of compatibility in itself!
"Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?" Seems like an obvious one, but also one that couples should talk about even outside of the job interview game. Shared life goals is one of the most important things.
Hey Hannah, I have an idea for a future topic; For quite a while now, I've been thinking how myopic our views of non-platonic relationships are. We seem to be fixated on finding a life-partner - or if not, we are fixated on ultra-casual non-commitment - basically sleeping around and "having fun". I think there ought to be a space in our imaginations for something in the middle - relationships that are real and meaningful and that we expect to last some significant period of time, but not necessarily forever. I think we would open ourselves up to greater possibilities for happiness (or avoiding misery, if you will), if we entered the dating world feeling like this middle option was more legitimate.
If only job interviews didn't give me crazy anxiety! Still a great idea though. Even if I may not actually go through with the "interview process" I think it's beneficial to think about a job description for a potential mate. Helps me figure out wtf I actually want and what I can offer!
yeah absolutely don't have to do it if it's not your thing or if it gives you anxiety but you're right it can still be a good way to frame figuring out what you want!
I respect the idea, love the enthusiasm, as someone who gets super anxiety going to job interviews everything you described sounds like a nightmare to me 😅😬
@@hannahwitton Likewise! Dating is supposed to be fun, so if roleplaying like you’re applying for a job sounds fun and is a good way to learn about somebody, then go👏🏻get👏🏻it! 😎😜 Been watching you for a couple years now, love your sex-positive content and the work that you do!
I think there’s the same potential problems with this as with any job interview; there’s the potential for people to lie and misrepresent themselves (either intentionally or unintentionally). Dating’s more like a probation period for them to /show/ you who they are, rather than them telling you who they want you to think they are. I guess the moral of the story is to always check references 😂
I need to figure out how to right a job description for “eh, I’m looking for someone short term but am also open to making it long term...even business partners.”
This is a short term role but subject to performance we would consider extending your contract and there could an opportunity to become business partners
So you're looking for a Physical Bliss Engineer, and offering a potential future promotion to Co-Manager of Non-Public Relations? Yeah, don't know. Can think of the job titles, but not of the description. 😂
Will definetly pitch this to EVERYBODY omg this sounds soooo fun!! Also thank you for making explicit examples I had a hard time grasping those concepts and the little skit at the end helped a lot. 🥰
My boyfriend and I did the 36 questions on our first date. Really helped to break the ice especially as it was a Tinder date so we didnt know each other. Here we are 5 years later! Love the interview idea, but the beeping at the end was a bit too loud for my ears! Really hurt.
I love this idea! Definitely made me think of creating a job description for my partner to help me work out what’s important to me when finding a new employee!
In business it's called making sure the employee is a "good fit" (no joking) or are you, the employee, a "good team player" - that eliminates narcissists.
omg yesss!! the assessment centre is when you invite them to a party or to hang out with a group of your friends in a social situation and see how they do 😂😂😂 it really is the analogy that keeps on giving.
What a fun idea! I do something similar to this at the beginning of new potential relationships but without the euphemisms. I've found it really helpful to check if we're compatible/get on the same page about what we can give each other BEFORE we really get going with dating. One time this resulted in me and the person I was having the conversation with decide that we were not compatible to date, which was sad at the time but would have hurt way more if we'd been dating for a while before we realised that!
Another suggestion, though I'm far from an experienced datesman: Pose silly made up internet quizzes for each other, but then go real deep into the answers. My current partner and I learned and connected a lot from just discussing our low-pressure answers to 'which type of pet would you be?', 'what role on a star trek ship?', or 'which fictional character or actor would you ship yourself with?'
I love this idea, but it might be uncomfortable to bring up with my partner right now. He has been unemployed and he’ll probably think this is me nagging him to get a job. Which he should. It’s a delicate situation.
A fun idea! It reminds me of what Shan Boodram put in her book about a job interview kind of thing when finding a partner, but this puts a more lighthearted spin on it
I'm personally a bit uncomfortable with the term hiring as that, in my ears, establishes an implied hierarcy that I don't think belongs in any relationship. With the exception of pre-negotiated defined duration domination kink play sessions with safewords etc. I'd prefer to define it as seeking to recruit new members to a small, cooperative treaty organisation.
"Where do you see yourself in five years?" so far none of my applicants have passed this question, they either refuse to answer it or claim that it's not necessary to make such plans. for me, that does not give the best first impression - I need someone who has at least some ambitions or goals of their own and knows at least what general directiob they would like to be heading in life.
Hahah I just watched this video but I actually did this with a partner a while ago when we were about 3-4 months into our relationship. Even had a resume. One of my references was that partner themselves and one of my skills were being happy to “pimp out” my partners if they wish etc. The whole thing was quite fun and light.
I did a similar thing at the beginning of my current relationship. We didn't purposely try to interview each other but we were very honest with one another taking turns to ask questions to find out what we wanted out of the relationship.
I heard Shannon Boodram saying that you should think of your relationship as a career, and I found myself 100% agreeing with the idea. So I gues this is no surprise as well!
If people want more examples of this there's a section in Shan Boody's The Game of Desire where she talks about using the job description metaphor in dating and has a list of characteristics you can rank to see who 'qualifies'. I've found it super useful :)
Yesss!! It could totally be fun for established relationships too! Dan & I do “reviews” and “check ins” so they Qs are more about how it’s going/what we’d like to improve or change etc.
@@hannahwitton that's interesting! We definitely need to do that as we're new parents now and the dynamic has obviously changed drastically. Good shout
Yeah! Exactly. My first date with my now spouse was like this. Like a job interview. The best part is that we were both into it. Being so open and honest made the relationship go fast too, not that it is a good thing... But I moved in with him after 2 months! Here we are, 6 years later :)
How far along would you recommend this? Ex from a year ago made contact at the beginning of January and we’ve had 3 virtual dates, don’t want to pressure myself into anything and see how things go ☺️☺️
go with your gut! there's no hard and fast rule (after x number of dates) but just when you want to!! Dan & I were long distance at the beginning and would see each other every weekend so every week we spent a solid 2 days together and we definitely did this in the first couple months of dating.
Don't mean to sound patronising but didn't you ever get to know your "ex" in the slightest way the first time you were together..?? 🤣 Really don't get people these days
@@BryJovi17 your comment would've been fine without the "don't get people these days" and "don't mean to sound patronising, but" and I believe you know how much of an as*hole you sound like, but if you didn't here's your message.
It's really important to make sure that you both want the same things in life. For example, I want children. I wouldn't date someone who doesn't want children because there's a fundamental clash there. You can't have half a kid and it wouldn't be fair to fall for someone only to have that clash down the line. I wouldn't want to try and change someone's mind. However, despite the fact that I am personally religious and go to church every Sunday, I would be happy to date people of any religion. I just wouldn't date someone who was of the militant atheist type, because my religion is an important part of who I am. There would be a fundamental clash. It's not to say that person is a bad person, just not right for me.
The prolonged censored part made me laugh so hard 😂 I love this idea because I am very into communication and setting boundaries and being honest and straightforward early on in relationships!
Hi Hannah, have heard you talk about this before but did not really click. Loved the roll play as well, really helpful to position the idea. This is such a great idea, and something that does not need to stop once you have got the job 😉 as I approach my 25 year long term service award 😆 this could still be used for the annual appraisal or re interviewing for the position and would be a great way of discussing things that perhaps you have been previously nervous about broaching (such as sexual fetishes or a loss of connection with a long term partner). Thanks
Millions of Muslim couples use this exercise/method while dating/courting before marriage! It really puts your true intentions out in the open and helps you get down to the important points of the relationship and your goals and desires. Ask your questions and get your answers!
I have found out that the reverse is also true : dating improved vastly my performance in job interviews, in the sense that I can break the ice easily, try to show my aspirations and be interactive rather than expect the interviewer to do all the asking, and be better at communication. To single friends who are looking for a job I usually say "try tinder for a while, it will help!"
Note: this is a good idea but there's a con. After going through two abusive / toxic relationships with narcissist partners, the number one advice experts give you is: SHUT THE F... UP about what you want or look for in a relationship, you're giving them the blueprints to lure you in. I'm really unsure how to approch dating, now, or if I can be honest at all
Lol this is funny because I tell people they should treat job interviews like a date, people are worried about impressing a job and forget that its a 2 way thing. I think most job interviews are done badly for jobs, let alone dating. Honestly feel like way more fun easier ways to communicate on dates then a job interview.
This is brillant Hannah! Love it! I would add, where do you see yourself in 5 years , 10 years? What can you bring to the company? Why us? What get you ouf of bed? (... in the morning?) Describe your expected typical day?
I have never so completely given up thinking about my own wants and needs in favor of what the other person might want to hear as when job hunting. Generally my livelihood has not depended on finding a date so that's actually a much lower stakes situation. No shade, love you Hannah, but I guess it's different when you're a CZcamsr... But glad it worked for you!
Bold of you to assume I actually know what I'm looking for or what I really want. Jokes aside, I prefer to know people before going on dates (that's why I end up mostly dating coworkers) and if a date happens, changes are that I'm already head over heels for that person. My brain just shortcuts, all my energies are spent towards NOT hyperventilating and NOT looking like a shy idiot
This sounds absolutey delightful. I am the type that loves to ask questions and answer questions and sometimes I find conversations one-sided (me asking shit), and this would be great. When I was dating my now-ex, I only saw him on weekends so I would compile a list of questions I had for him through the week and then interrogate him on the weekends (don’t worry, I made it enjoyable for him).
We played "the question game" for a few days via chat first. We just asked questions back and forth. Questions were about anything! No questions were off limits but we were allowed a "skip" if needed
Love this video and how it’s made. This could be a fun game to start opening about stuff that’s a bit harder to talk about. But also not everyone will get the gist of it and it depends on your sense of humour
Love the video! I recommend an easier way to do kinda the same thing, which is to send each other screenshots of the AskReddit thread where ppl answer questions about relationships and then ask your partner for their opinion, not awkward at all 🙂🙂
I love this idea! I wish I could've tried this with my first partner. I think it would've made things a lot easier, especially since I was such an awkward bean😂 it would really helped me communicate with them, and maybe take any pressure off that they would've felt. But now I know I have this as an idea for any future relationships.
I'm going to be honest. No matter how "fun" such a practice might seem, if someone treated me like a commodity to be weighed and measured from the outset, I would have been out the door and gone before ever saying, hello. I'm all for learning about one another...organically. Otherwise, it creates a power dynamic in which your entire existence is subverted into an exercise in pleasing a partner who is convinced that they're worth more than you are.
I believe a person's first mistake is to call it a "date". The word in itself creates unrealistic expectations, apprehension, and could be detrimental to actually finding someone. And to think of it as an interview is worse. I am more than just a box on a list waiting to be checked off. Instead, I'd rather think of the experience as just two people enjoying each other's company. No expectations...no pretenses. If a woman doesn't like me for me, she can get lost. Lol
This sounds hilarious! Would not know how to describe,"(aroace here) plantionic friendships comfortable with kisses/snuggles", though. Closest i get is freelancer, which i feel would be understood as 'friends with benefits', which is not what mean at all xD
Married almost 17 years and still not sure if I have the job. My wife is still interviewing me. Both joking and serious.
Keeping you on your toes.
ongoing preformance reviews ;)
Hehe cute
oh crap, "My previous manager hired someone to do my job without informing me". that killed me.
a tragedy
Brilliant!
😂 It sounds so much better than “He/she cheated on me”
I DIED, omg
Hi!
your inability to refer to dan as your husband without doing a voice makes me giggle
YOU CAN'T MAKE ME SAY IT SINCERLY!
when she says it, it sounds almost exactly the way that dan savage says it referring to his husband.
@@xgothikatx I thought so too!
@@hannahwitton 😆
I love the nerdiness of this. Like, all of this. This is next level Role-Playing.
Omg yes!
A minute into this I suddenly imagined myself walking up to a woman and saying 'hello I think you're attractive, here is my CV, I hope to hear from you in two weeks'. And now I'm thinking that's actually a good chat up line, okay now I'll stop thinking.
hahhaa loooove 😂
This is truly brilliant. I love the the 'greatest professional achievement' section but the whole of your example Job Interview Date made me giggle. I'm super into this euphemism-filled flirting and almost meta-style communication - so nerdy and so much fun. I also think that whether a person you're on a date with is up for doing a slightly ridiculous exercise like this with you is probably a good measure of compatibility in itself!
yeah very true!!
"Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?" Seems like an obvious one, but also one that couples should talk about even outside of the job interview game. Shared life goals is one of the most important things.
Hey Hannah, I have an idea for a future topic;
For quite a while now, I've been thinking how myopic our views of non-platonic relationships are. We seem to be fixated on finding a life-partner - or if not, we are fixated on ultra-casual non-commitment - basically sleeping around and "having fun". I think there ought to be a space in our imaginations for something in the middle - relationships that are real and meaningful and that we expect to last some significant period of time, but not necessarily forever. I think we would open ourselves up to greater possibilities for happiness (or avoiding misery, if you will), if we entered the dating world feeling like this middle option was more legitimate.
If only job interviews didn't give me crazy anxiety! Still a great idea though. Even if I may not actually go through with the "interview process" I think it's beneficial to think about a job description for a potential mate. Helps me figure out wtf I actually want and what I can offer!
yeah absolutely don't have to do it if it's not your thing or if it gives you anxiety but you're right it can still be a good way to frame figuring out what you want!
I feel like that would freak me out. I'd be so scared of understanding their metaphor wrong
I respect the idea, love the enthusiasm, as someone who gets super anxiety going to job interviews everything you described sounds like a nightmare to me 😅😬
it's not for everyone I can appreciate that :)
@@hannahwitton Likewise! Dating is supposed to be fun, so if roleplaying like you’re applying for a job sounds fun and is a good way to learn about somebody, then go👏🏻get👏🏻it! 😎😜
Been watching you for a couple years now, love your sex-positive content and the work that you do!
same. love the idea, but it's not for me lol
You could also ask “what’s your ideal working environment?” 🤓
I think there’s the same potential problems with this as with any job interview; there’s the potential for people to lie and misrepresent themselves (either intentionally or unintentionally). Dating’s more like a probation period for them to /show/ you who they are, rather than them telling you who they want you to think they are.
I guess the moral of the story is to always check references 😂
I need to figure out how to right a job description for “eh, I’m looking for someone short term but am also open to making it long term...even business partners.”
that's a start!
This is a short term role but subject to performance we would consider extending your contract and there could an opportunity to become business partners
@@penny3308 Okay, I'm starting to get how this can be sexy...that was smooth!
So you're looking for a Physical Bliss Engineer, and offering a potential future promotion to Co-Manager of Non-Public Relations? Yeah, don't know. Can think of the job titles, but not of the description. 😂
It's a temp-to-hire position!
Will definetly pitch this to EVERYBODY omg this sounds soooo fun!! Also thank you for making explicit examples I had a hard time grasping those concepts and the little skit at the end helped a lot. 🥰
Yay I’m glad!!
My boyfriend and I did the 36 questions on our first date. Really helped to break the ice especially as it was a Tinder date so we didnt know each other. Here we are 5 years later!
Love the interview idea, but the beeping at the end was a bit too loud for my ears! Really hurt.
I had to frantically turn my volume down at that point. Haha.
I never knew how great a Hannah witton skit would be 😂❤️
First you have to have a date...
True story! Lol.
I was expecting the conversation with the bleeps to end up with "...and we woke up in jail"!
I love this idea! Definitely made me think of creating a job description for my partner to help me work out what’s important to me when finding a new employee!
In business it's called making sure the employee is a "good fit" (no joking) or are you, the employee, a "good team player" - that eliminates narcissists.
The bleeping description of your best achievement really sent me 😂
Hahaha love this! :D Me and my husband were constantly playing Q&A while drinking beer. It was so fun and also highly beneficial for our relationship.
I love this idea! Maybe you could move through to an assessment centre phase once you've got past the interview...
omg yesss!! the assessment centre is when you invite them to a party or to hang out with a group of your friends in a social situation and see how they do 😂😂😂 it really is the analogy that keeps on giving.
@@hannahwitton Continuing to end of year evaluations, raise negotiations, changing job titles...
This will also be great for weeding out people who aren’t goofy/nerdy enough for me 😂
What a fun idea! I do something similar to this at the beginning of new potential relationships but without the euphemisms. I've found it really helpful to check if we're compatible/get on the same page about what we can give each other BEFORE we really get going with dating. One time this resulted in me and the person I was having the conversation with decide that we were not compatible to date, which was sad at the time but would have hurt way more if we'd been dating for a while before we realised that!
Amazing you're able to just do that without the euphamisms! Bold!
i thought this was gonna be metaphorical not literally role playing a job interview lmao
Love this idea! Seems like such a nice way to talk about things that might be awkward or maybe too intense for first dates :)
Loved this video! I’ve also heard it said a lot that dating should be fun/casual and not treated like an interview haha, not that I know much about it
haha it's a balancing act
@@hannahwitton Haha very true!
Another suggestion, though I'm far from an experienced datesman: Pose silly made up internet quizzes for each other, but then go real deep into the answers. My current partner and I learned and connected a lot from just discussing our low-pressure answers to 'which type of pet would you be?', 'what role on a star trek ship?', or 'which fictional character or actor would you ship yourself with?'
I love this idea, but it might be uncomfortable to bring up with my partner right now. He has been unemployed and he’ll probably think this is me nagging him to get a job. Which he should. It’s a delicate situation.
A fun idea! It reminds me of what Shan Boodram put in her book about a job interview kind of thing when finding a partner, but this puts a more lighthearted spin on it
I'm personally a bit uncomfortable with the term hiring as that, in my ears, establishes an implied hierarcy that I don't think belongs in any relationship. With the exception of pre-negotiated defined duration domination kink play sessions with safewords etc.
I'd prefer to define it as seeking to recruit new members to a small, cooperative treaty organisation.
If you're going that far, then I suggest you also do an annual performance review... after all those goals can change/evolve differently over time.
"Where do you see yourself in five years?"
so far none of my applicants have passed this question, they either refuse to answer it or claim that it's not necessary to make such plans. for me, that does not give the best first impression - I need someone who has at least some ambitions or goals of their own and knows at least what general directiob they would like to be heading in life.
Hahah I just watched this video but I actually did this with a partner a while ago when we were about 3-4 months into our relationship. Even had a resume. One of my references was that partner themselves and one of my skills were being happy to “pimp out” my partners if they wish etc. The whole thing was quite fun and light.
I did a similar thing at the beginning of my current relationship. We didn't purposely try to interview each other but we were very honest with one another taking turns to ask questions to find out what we wanted out of the relationship.
I heard Shannon Boodram saying that you should think of your relationship as a career, and I found myself 100% agreeing with the idea. So I gues this is no surprise as well!
As someone who works in HR, this sounds like it has the chance to be pretty funny.
If people want more examples of this there's a section in Shan Boody's The Game of Desire where she talks about using the job description metaphor in dating and has a list of characteristics you can rank to see who 'qualifies'. I've found it super useful :)
This is hilarious 😂 I kind of want to try it with my husband...
Yesss!! It could totally be fun for established relationships too! Dan & I do “reviews” and “check ins” so they Qs are more about how it’s going/what we’d like to improve or change etc.
@@hannahwitton that's interesting! We definitely need to do that as we're new parents now and the dynamic has obviously changed drastically. Good shout
"Where do you see yourself in, say, three hours?"
Yeah! Exactly. My first date with my now spouse was like this. Like a job interview. The best part is that we were both into it.
Being so open and honest made the relationship go fast too, not that it is a good thing... But I moved in with him after 2 months!
Here we are, 6 years later :)
How far along would you recommend this? Ex from a year ago made contact at the beginning of January and we’ve had 3 virtual dates, don’t want to pressure myself into anything and see how things go ☺️☺️
go with your gut! there's no hard and fast rule (after x number of dates) but just when you want to!! Dan & I were long distance at the beginning and would see each other every weekend so every week we spent a solid 2 days together and we definitely did this in the first couple months of dating.
Don't mean to sound patronising but didn't you ever get to know your "ex" in the slightest way the first time you were together..?? 🤣 Really don't get people these days
@@BryJovi17 your comment would've been fine without the "don't get people these days" and "don't mean to sound patronising, but" and I believe you know how much of an as*hole you sound like, but if you didn't here's your message.
It's really important to make sure that you both want the same things in life. For example, I want children. I wouldn't date someone who doesn't want children because there's a fundamental clash there. You can't have half a kid and it wouldn't be fair to fall for someone only to have that clash down the line. I wouldn't want to try and change someone's mind.
However, despite the fact that I am personally religious and go to church every Sunday, I would be happy to date people of any religion. I just wouldn't date someone who was of the militant atheist type, because my religion is an important part of who I am. There would be a fundamental clash. It's not to say that person is a bad person, just not right for me.
I like this idea......I may need to implement it when interviewing new friends
Yea but do you get annual bonus,leave,and do you get lay ins.
All VERY important questions!
The prolonged censored part made me laugh so hard 😂 I love this idea because I am very into communication and setting boundaries and being honest and straightforward early on in relationships!
Hi Hannah, have heard you talk about this before but did not really click. Loved the roll play as well, really helpful to position the idea. This is such a great idea, and something that does not need to stop once you have got the job 😉 as I approach my 25 year long term service award 😆 this could still be used for the annual appraisal or re interviewing for the position and would be a great way of discussing things that perhaps you have been previously nervous about broaching (such as sexual fetishes or a loss of connection with a long term partner). Thanks
Millions of Muslim couples use this exercise/method while dating/courting before marriage! It really puts your true intentions out in the open and helps you get down to the important points of the relationship and your goals and desires. Ask your questions and get your answers!
I have found out that the reverse is also true : dating improved vastly my performance in job interviews, in the sense that I can break the ice easily, try to show my aspirations and be interactive rather than expect the interviewer to do all the asking, and be better at communication.
To single friends who are looking for a job I usually say "try tinder for a while, it will help!"
Note: this is a good idea but there's a con. After going through two abusive / toxic relationships with narcissist partners, the number one advice experts give you is: SHUT THE F... UP about what you want or look for in a relationship, you're giving them the blueprints to lure you in.
I'm really unsure how to approch dating, now, or if I can be honest at all
Lol this is funny because I tell people they should treat job interviews like a date, people are worried about impressing a job and forget that its a 2 way thing. I think most job interviews are done badly for jobs, let alone dating. Honestly feel like way more fun easier ways to communicate on dates then a job interview.
Hahaha, so many innuendos will see the light of the day with this!
I like the idea :P
That was great! All the hand gestures etc during the beepy part had me in stitches!
I love that idea so much :D especially you acting out the interview haha, brilliant!!! Thank you for sharing!
This is brillant Hannah! Love it!
I would add, where do you see yourself in 5 years , 10 years?
What can you bring to the company?
Why us?
What get you ouf of bed? (... in the morning?)
Describe your expected typical day?
Read about this idea and was unconvinced. After watching this video (and laughing a lot) I’m thinking about giving this a try! Thank you Hannah ❤️
I have never so completely given up thinking about my own wants and needs in favor of what the other person might want to hear as when job hunting. Generally my livelihood has not depended on finding a date so that's actually a much lower stakes situation. No shade, love you Hannah, but I guess it's different when you're a CZcamsr...
But glad it worked for you!
Now I have so many ideas for my tinder bio! That‘s such a good conversation starter!
Well, if I'll ever do a tinder or dating app profile, this gave some interesting ideas.
You make the internet fresh.
I think this is a fun, sexy way of talking about it. Thank you for giving me an idea.
thank you! i look forward to trying this with a future partner!
Bold of you to assume I actually know what I'm looking for or what I really want.
Jokes aside, I prefer to know people before going on dates (that's why I end up mostly dating coworkers) and if a date happens, changes are that I'm already head over heels for that person. My brain just shortcuts, all my energies are spent towards NOT hyperventilating and NOT looking like a shy idiot
hannah including polyam representation makes me so fuckin happy omg
This sounds absolutey delightful. I am the type that loves to ask questions and answer questions and sometimes I find conversations one-sided (me asking shit), and this would be great.
When I was dating my now-ex, I only saw him on weekends so I would compile a list of questions I had for him through the week and then interrogate him on the weekends (don’t worry, I made it enjoyable for him).
Ahhh omg! Imma see if the person I’m dating wants to do this! I’m sure she’d be up for it! I’m excited now!!!
We played "the question game" for a few days via chat first. We just asked questions back and forth. Questions were about anything!
No questions were off limits but we were allowed a "skip" if needed
Love this video and how it’s made. This could be a fun game to start opening about stuff that’s a bit harder to talk about. But also not everyone will get the gist of it and it depends on your sense of humour
That was hilarious AND informative ! Making a note with checkboxes immediately ;)
Love the video! I recommend an easier way to do kinda the same thing, which is to send each other screenshots of the AskReddit thread where ppl answer questions about relationships and then ask your partner for their opinion, not awkward at all 🙂🙂
This sounds so fun! I might suggest this!
The questions and answers are great! Defo want to try this haha
I love this idea! I wish I could've tried this with my first partner. I think it would've made things a lot easier, especially since I was such an awkward bean😂 it would really helped me communicate with them, and maybe take any pressure off that they would've felt. But now I know I have this as an idea for any future relationships.
I'm going to be honest. No matter how "fun" such a practice might seem, if someone treated me like a commodity to be weighed and measured from the outset, I would have been out the door and gone before ever saying, hello. I'm all for learning about one another...organically. Otherwise, it creates a power dynamic in which your entire existence is subverted into an exercise in pleasing a partner who is convinced that they're worth more than you are.
This is in fact the approach I took when I met my wife 23 years ago. It worked.
This sounds really fun! I might try it, I like the full time employee analogy
I would love to see people who work in the same industry do some version of this that uses euphemisms from their shared specialised knowledge!
I haven't tried it yet with my partners but both of them have said "oh my god thats so nerdy I love it" 😂😂
This is a cute idea- if I remember it next time I am dating, I'll try it
The video started with and ad for LinkedIn hahaha
This is actually a really great analogy to use!
Such a fun thing to do, I am going to try this!
This makes me super intrigued to try this out with someone!
Historically and traditionally, men do the heavy lifting in dating and starting a relationship
this was TOO good Hannah
This sounds very cool! How did you and Dan meet? It feels like you've just been together forever haha
So interesting, I'd never thought of it that way!
Hahaha amazing example at the end. Loved it 😍
My friend who’s a guy recommended you! I subscribed!
definitely some useful aspects to this.
I will bring this up on my next date. I'll share the results!
Sounds great, only gotta find someone who's actually willing to do such a thing as most that I've met definitely are not.
I believe a person's first mistake is to call it a "date". The word in itself creates unrealistic expectations, apprehension, and could be detrimental to actually finding someone. And to think of it as an interview is worse. I am more than just a box on a list waiting to be checked off. Instead, I'd rather think of the experience as just two people enjoying each other's company. No expectations...no pretenses. If a woman doesn't like me for me, she can get lost. Lol
Brilliant idea Hannah 🖖
“I’m *really* good with my hands” You’re hypothetically hired!
This is such a good idea!
This sounds hilarious!
Would not know how to describe,"(aroace here) plantionic friendships comfortable with kisses/snuggles", though. Closest i get is freelancer, which i feel would be understood as 'friends with benefits', which is not what mean at all xD
Oh this sounds like such a fun idea! Definitely want to try it :)