I am sorry for your loss. We went through the same struggles but my husband decided that he wanted me more than a child so we stopped invito. Your wife was right, he left me for a younger girl in my 50s citing that he wanted his own kids. Either way, she got what she wanted and it’s sad that she can’t be there to enjoy life with her son.
For realz. She either part way from him by death due or he find a fertile woman down the road. It’s typically. Even those guys who aren’t fertile leave for single mothers so 🤷🏻♀️
@@ThePrincessWorrior true… we always lose. Sometimes it’s not even the ladies fault. They only find out after she had kids with a new man and he couldn’t with a new wife. Sad, we the women is always being stepped on. If it’s the guys fault, they say txoj hmoo. If it’s the girl, they say new wife.
Sorry for your loss. Why didn't you two try surrogacy? The baby would be 100% your and your wife's DNA. Why didn't one of her sisters offer to be the surrogate if they all have healthy wombs? What a sad story.
In hindsight, that would've been a better way to go. However, this pregnancy happened naturally. It's tragic that this sister lost her life after finally becoming a mother. 😢
@@tseemciasiablauj4072 For the surrogacy, I was talking about early on when they were first trying to get pregnant, not the one that occurred naturally later in life for them. Early in their marriage when they knew the issue was her womb's inability to retain the pregnancy, if only they had considered surrogacy, then they would most likely have had a few children safely carried to term by a woman with a strong womb. I can only hope that couples out there struggling with the same issue will be willing to look into surrogacy in order to keep the woman with a weak womb from risking her pregnancy as well as her life.
Kuv lub neej los yeej tsis muaj minyuam ib yam thiab kuv tab sis tswv ntuj pub tau ib tug rau kuv thiab xav tias tau tus me tub los yuav los tuav lub neej kom ruaj tab sis lub neej sib nrauj sib tso lawm txom nyem siab ntsws kawg yeej yog li koj hais hmoov tsis txog txhob ntshaw vim yam ntawd haj yam tu siab os nrog koj tu siab koj tus niam tso neb tseg os
Tus txiv tsev aw peb tsi muaj menyuam ces ib tug hais xwb sawv daws yeej mus tib txoj kev xwb mog..Txhob tu siab thiab os..Kuv mloog lus heev vim kuv tus txiv twb yuav ib zaug tshuaj rau kuv haus es yuav luag tuag ces mus ntsib DR. Ces DR hais tias kuv lub siab tsi nyiam cov tshuaj ntsuab es yog kuv tseem haus tshuaj ntsuab ntxiv ces kawg tuag xwb no ces yeej tsi kov kiag li lawm os hmoob aw.
Its not that they trained the nurses to keep their mouth shut. Its the fact that they are nurses. Nurse have no right to diagnose a patient only the doctor does. I am sorry for your loss. With her being a diabetic, its harder for surgeries on a diabetic person.
Thank you for sharing your story with all of us. I’m glad you were able to visit a Buddha and get some closure. Stay strong for your son and live your best life for your wife.
I was in a similar situation. They had to emergency C/S my wife and she had to be K/O. So they didn't let me be back there. They brought my baby back to me and i was told they're waiting for her to wake up. It was the longest 1hr waiting for her to get up. Everything bad situation running through my head, though my baby was healthy.
So sorry for your loss one, she have a child in her age that could trigger her health problems she already have. Don’t blame her, she been longing for a child, she sacrificed her life a lot.
If i saw and been with my sister struggle I would've have offer to help. Carry for her or give her one of my own. I myself offer my Nyab and brother to either carry or give them one of mines......😢
Some case, like this one, it’s not just about having the child. It’s about the wife’s feeling fulfillment of being fertile/ productive; feeling worthy of being born a woman. She knew either way, she would get dumped by husband down the road so either trade her life to be a mother or trade her marriage to live alone at old age watching the husband go live happily with another woman with kids.
I know a few people that took baby aspirin and it worked to help thicken their uterine lining so that baby would stick. Just a thought. Idk if it’ll work for you but worth a try if you haven’t tried it.
Tsis muaj menyuam los yog ib zoo thiab ov vim thaum menyuam me mas ntxim hlub kawg tiamsim thaum loj mas yog tsis mloog lus tseem nrog yus sib ceg ua yus tus yeej ncuab loj. Yus tsis Care los nim yog yus yug. Yus care los zoo li yus ni txhawb kom nws ua qhov phem... Txhob ni mus vwm vwm rau muaj menyuam. Hlub yus tus kheej ces yog qhov yog
What's a sad story .thaum peb poj niam yug tau 1 tug menyuam ces muab siav ciaj pauv siav tuag xwb hos .qee leej txiv mas poj niam yug menyuam twb g kam mus saib .hlub neb 2 me txiv tub os mog
I understand the desire to be a mother and get pregnant. When we were trying and couldn't get pregnant I was heart broken too. But sorry for your loss. Have you guys ever thought about adoption. Maybe you guys should have adopted a kid and then usually that child will bring luck to you.
How in the world did they not catch her high blood pressure and high blood sugars? It's something they should be checking at every doctors visit for the baby.
Good morning and on the lighter side, yes - The Things you can't Have, Don't Envy. 🙂. Somethings are not meant to be, like I will never be miss USA or Loas or India, lol..., can't even qualify... Seriously, we must be very humble creatures. We are but a small product of our environment and are very limited in our capabilities. Life's engine is designed to be volatile, to be different, and to be more successful. However, sometime, rapid changes can cause abnormal effects, and that is condition for great potential losses. Accept what we can get, accept what we may get, accept what we should get, and accept what may come. If we really look at it, no matter what may come, good is good and is always worth having. Brother, I'm so very sorry for the lost of you wife. It is incredibly hard to loose someone so close, so loved, and so very early in life. Feel blessed for your son, and it is not a trade off but a whole different love. Love and Cherish each other because it's all we have right now.
To hmoob peeps, that’s still not 100% their blood. Because it didn’t cost any of their sweat 😂 Wifey want to be 100% her blood sweat and tears to feel like she’s a worthy woman on earth and to be able to stop husband from dumping her down the road
Tus txiv ntxawm cas lub neej zoo li kv thiab! zoo siab tias KJ hlub KJ tus niam tsev kawg li. Kv lub neej twb zoo li koj thiab. ntshaw me nyuam pheem2 muaj los tsi zoo li xa kv tus me nyuam xiam lawm. Dr cawm tau kv rov los tab kv lub tsev me nyuam raug tsem muaj tsi Tau mu nyuam ntxiv rau kv tus txiv lawm. Tos kj poj niam hais li los peb poj niam tsi muaj me nyuam rau nej peb swb txhua yam. Thaum kv tus txiv paub Tias kv muaj tsi tau nws twb mu yuav niam yau lawm. Nws tsi xa Tias yog txoj hmoo li KJ Hais, nws xa tias Tim kv xwb. Tos kv Hais li nws twb muaj ib tug lub neej dhau los tsi tau yuav thiaj sib nrauj mam yuav kv.
That was why she had to spend the money to seek all possibilities. If not, them money will just end up being split and husband enjoy happily with new woman with kids, while she be dumped and alone at old age.
So sorry for your loss. I wonder if the "medicine" from overseas, that your wife drank for almost a year, had a part in her health issues. It's dangerous to put things into our bodies that we know nothing about.
Ua li tej laus ib txwm piv lus hais uas nws mus thawj us neb tus tub lawm. Twb yog nyob teb chaw no es muaj doctors pab nws thiaj li tsis tuag thaum give birth. Nyob li tim ub ces nws twb tuag right after she gave birth. But very sorry for your loss
Vaj tsev txob lu yeej qhia Hai tia siab rau yam yu muaj kj tu poj niam caj tawg daug thiab thaum muaj tu me nyuam rau hau plab neb g ua neeb faib thiab nev kj tu poj niam twb hai cov lu phe us ntej lawm nev ce nw thisj tau li nw cov lu Hai
Txoj kev tsis muaj tub kis ces yeeh tutu siab ntshaw ntshaw 22222 me nyuam ua txhua yam yam li tus me niam tsev no li os ..lawv....kuv twb nyob lub neej li no los lawm thiab..
Nrog koj khuv xim koj tus me tab zag tshaj li os, sab ntsuj plig ces yog li hauj sam hais tab sis kuv txoj kev xav mas tej zaum hmoob cov tshuaj ntawd muaj side effects ov haus ces ua tau nws lub cev sov muaj taus me nyuam tus me nyuam yuav tsis poob tab sis cov tshuaj ntawd twb tua koj tus poj niam lub raum ces lub raum twb tsis lim tau ntshav zoo pes tsawg lawm ces thiaj muaj ntshav siab siab ntshav qab qab zib heev nawv ces lub plawv txhaws hos cov hlab ntsha los txhaws tas lawm.
A sad story...for many couples like this one for example...A 35-45 years old woman is not a good idea to have a child. considered apoting..is one option. Diabete is one problem for a woman to have a baby when she is over age. when operated, bleeding is the main problem....scary!!...muaj ib tug menyuam yog muab siav ciaj pauv siav tuag xwb kuv hlub kuv pojniam heev thaum kuv tuav nws txhais tes es nws ntsub tus menyuam..kuv g paub xyov nws xav licas lub sijhawm ntawm tiamsis kuv ces hlub nws heev..nws muab menyuam rau kuv, uneej nyob kuv tus pojniam kuv yeej g cem nws g ntaus mus tawm rooj kuv nqa qhov nyav cia nws nqa qhov sib xwb.kuv g paub nej hlub nej tus hlub zoo licas...Amen!!!!
@@lunayang7612 You are wrong. Gestational diabetes is deadly (both for the mom AND the baby) if left unchecked, and that's why doctors monitor those pregnant women closely. If they didn't do a C-section when they did, it would have put the baby at risk for death as well. It's unfortunate that this mom didn't make it, but it was due to her various, VERY SERIOUS health problems that caused complications which led to her death. Despite modern medicine and medical high tech, even doctors can lose a patient when circumstances are out of their control. If the doctors were wrong in their assessments, this guy would be able to sue the doctors and the hospital, but he didn't, and I highly doubt he would win since it sounds like the doctors did everything they could to save her, but she still didn't make it.
What a sad story.😢
For those of you that ib sij mus kaus ib tug menyuam na, ya just don’t know how fortunate y’all are.
What a sad story. I understand the desire to become a mother and the desire to have children. So sorry for your loss. Such a loss.
I am sorry for your loss. We went through the same struggles but my husband decided that he wanted me more than a child so we stopped invito. Your wife was right, he left me for a younger girl in my 50s citing that he wanted his own kids. Either way, she got what she wanted and it’s sad that she can’t be there to enjoy life with her son.
For realz.
She either part way from him by death due or he find a fertile woman down the road. It’s typically. Even those guys who aren’t fertile leave for single mothers so 🤷🏻♀️
@@ThePrincessWorrior true… we always lose. Sometimes it’s not even the ladies fault. They only find out after she had kids with a new man and he couldn’t with a new wife. Sad, we the women is always being stepped on. If it’s the guys fault, they say txoj hmoo. If it’s the girl, they say new wife.
Sorry for your loss. Why didn't you two try surrogacy? The baby would be 100% your and your wife's DNA. Why didn't one of her sisters offer to be the surrogate if they all have healthy wombs? What a sad story.
Yog kawg. Tseem tos Tom kog Meka ua Kom tau plab yug Kom tau baby.
In hindsight, that would've been a better way to go. However, this pregnancy happened naturally. It's tragic that this sister lost her life after finally becoming a mother. 😢
@@tseemciasiablauj4072 For the surrogacy, I was talking about early on when they were first trying to get pregnant, not the one that occurred naturally later in life for them. Early in their marriage when they knew the issue was her womb's inability to retain the pregnancy, if only they had considered surrogacy, then they would most likely have had a few children safely carried to term by a woman with a strong womb. I can only hope that couples out there struggling with the same issue will be willing to look into surrogacy in order to keep the woman with a weak womb from risking her pregnancy as well as her life.
Remember sometimes if something isn't meant to be just let it be. You just have to accept faith.
Most of us who have no problem with fertility have taken it for granted.
Kuv lub neej los yeej tsis muaj minyuam ib yam thiab kuv tab sis tswv ntuj pub tau ib tug rau kuv thiab xav tias tau tus me tub los yuav los tuav lub neej kom ruaj tab sis lub neej sib nrauj sib tso lawm txom nyem siab ntsws kawg yeej yog li koj hais hmoov tsis txog txhob ntshaw vim yam ntawd haj yam tu siab os nrog koj tu siab koj tus niam tso neb tseg os
Tus txiv tsev aw peb tsi muaj menyuam ces ib tug hais xwb sawv daws yeej mus tib txoj kev xwb mog..Txhob tu siab thiab os..Kuv mloog lus heev vim kuv tus txiv twb yuav ib zaug tshuaj rau kuv haus es yuav luag tuag ces mus ntsib DR. Ces DR hais tias kuv lub siab tsi nyiam cov tshuaj ntsuab es yog kuv tseem haus tshuaj ntsuab ntxiv ces kawg tuag xwb no ces yeej tsi kov kiag li lawm os hmoob aw.
Its not that they trained the nurses to keep their mouth shut. Its the fact that they are nurses. Nurse have no right to diagnose a patient only the doctor does. I am sorry for your loss. With her being a diabetic, its harder for surgeries on a diabetic person.
Thank you for sharing your story with all of us. I’m glad you were able to visit a Buddha and get some closure. Stay strong for your son and live your best life for your wife.
ntuj aw pab tus niam tsev no tu siab kawg li os tsis muaj los puam chawj los mas tu siab tshaj li kuv pab hlub neb ob txiv tub os mog
I was in a similar situation. They had to emergency C/S my wife and she had to be
K/O. So they didn't let me be back there. They brought my baby back to me and i was told they're waiting for her to wake up. It was the longest 1hr waiting for her to get up. Everything bad situation running through my head, though my baby was healthy.
So sorry for your loss one, she have a child in her age that could trigger her health problems she already have. Don’t blame her, she been longing for a child, she sacrificed her life a lot.
I believe the Buddha said is correct and truth.
Nurses cannot diagnose or say anything. Only the Dr can speak.
Praying for peace and d comfort for you and your son.
If i saw and been with my sister struggle I would've have offer to help. Carry for her or give her one of my own. I myself offer my Nyab and brother to either carry or give them one of mines......😢
Some case, like this one, it’s not just about having the child. It’s about the wife’s feeling fulfillment of being fertile/ productive; feeling worthy of being born a woman.
She knew either way, she would get dumped by husband down the road so either trade her life to be a mother or trade her marriage to live alone at old age watching the husband go live happily with another woman with kids.
niam tuag lawm los tshuav txiv es txiv hlub hlub mi tub nawb txhob cia niam tshiab los tsim mi tub nawb txiv tsev hlub koj os
Such a sad heart breaking story. Sorry heev to everyone involved. Sad heev.
I know a few people that took baby aspirin and it worked to help thicken their uterine lining so that baby would stick. Just a thought. Idk if it’ll work for you but worth a try if you haven’t tried it.
Tsis muaj menyuam los yog ib zoo thiab ov vim thaum menyuam me mas ntxim hlub kawg tiamsim thaum loj mas yog tsis mloog lus tseem nrog yus sib ceg ua yus tus yeej ncuab loj. Yus tsis Care los nim yog yus yug. Yus care los zoo li yus ni txhawb kom nws ua qhov phem... Txhob ni mus vwm vwm rau muaj menyuam. Hlub yus tus kheej ces yog qhov yog
What's a sad story .thaum peb poj niam yug tau 1 tug menyuam ces muab siav ciaj pauv siav tuag xwb hos .qee leej txiv mas poj niam yug menyuam twb g kam mus saib .hlub neb 2 me txiv tub os mog
So sorry for your loss. But I agree with you in translating the Buddha’s words that sometime we don’t get what we want for a reason.
I understand the desire to be a mother and get pregnant. When we were trying and couldn't get pregnant I was heart broken too.
But sorry for your loss. Have you guys ever thought about adoption. Maybe you guys should have adopted a kid and then usually that child will bring luck to you.
How in the world did they not catch her high blood pressure and high blood sugars? It's something they should be checking at every doctors visit for the baby.
Good morning and on the lighter side, yes - The Things you can't Have, Don't Envy. 🙂. Somethings are not meant to be, like I will never be miss USA or Loas or India, lol..., can't even qualify... Seriously, we must be very humble creatures. We are but a small product of our environment and are very limited in our capabilities. Life's engine is designed to be volatile, to be different, and to be more successful. However, sometime, rapid changes can cause abnormal effects, and that is condition for great potential losses. Accept what we can get, accept what we may get, accept what we should get, and accept what may come. If we really look at it, no matter what may come, good is good and is always worth having.
Brother, I'm so very sorry for the lost of you wife. It is incredibly hard to loose someone so close, so loved, and so very early in life. Feel blessed for your son, and it is not a trade off but a whole different love. Love and Cherish each other because it's all we have right now.
So sorry for your loss brother!❤
So.. sorry for your loss.
Menyuam yog koob hmoov tiag, kuv kuj tau ntshaw2 Menyuam ib yam nws thiab.
Yes, that's why I didn't care much if I couldn't get pregnant. If it is meant to be, it will be.
What a sad story. Sorry for the loss of your wife 😢
So sorry for your loss. Koj tus poj niam muab siav pauv ib tug me nyuam. Nrog nws tu siab tias nws tsis tau pom thiab tu nws tus me nyuam.
Nrog koj tu siab thiab khuv xim os..
Awe txaus tu siab thiab txaus hlub ua luaj os.
Txaus tu siab ua luaj
Surrogacy siv koj tus Kab thiab koj tus poj niam lub qe.
To hmoob peeps, that’s still not 100% their blood. Because it didn’t cost any of their sweat 😂
Wifey want to be 100% her blood sweat and tears to feel like she’s a worthy woman on earth and to be able to stop husband from dumping her down the road
Paj koj poj niam tu siab kawg li os
Tus mi sister aw… cas yuav hlub koj ua luaj li os
Sorry for your lost brother❤
Yog kev thawj thiab lawm. Nws tus plig rov los thawj rau nws lub cev lawm xwb
Koj poj niam ntshaw me nyuam dhau lawm ces ho muab ntshai tsam poob dhau lawm pw xwb ces thiaj poob lawm na !!! Nrog koj khuv xim koj poj niam heev yog lam txhob plais plawv tej zaum yuav zoo lawm .
Kaum yam muaj luag ntxhwb ntxhi, ib yam tsis muaj quaj dwb dhi ces yog li no los mas.
Tus txiv ntxawm cas lub neej zoo li kv thiab! zoo siab tias KJ hlub KJ tus niam tsev kawg li. Kv lub neej twb zoo li koj thiab. ntshaw me nyuam pheem2 muaj los tsi zoo li xa kv tus me nyuam xiam lawm. Dr cawm tau kv rov los tab kv lub tsev me nyuam raug tsem muaj tsi Tau mu nyuam ntxiv rau kv tus txiv lawm. Tos kj poj niam hais li los peb poj niam tsi muaj me nyuam rau nej peb swb txhua yam. Thaum kv tus txiv paub Tias kv muaj tsi tau nws twb mu yuav niam yau lawm. Nws tsi xa Tias yog txoj hmoo li KJ Hais, nws xa tias Tim kv xwb. Tos kv Hais li nws twb muaj ib tug lub neej dhau los tsi tau yuav thiaj sib nrauj mam yuav kv.
Wow what a rich couple..........
That was why she had to spend the money to seek all possibilities. If not, them money will just end up being split and husband enjoy happily with new woman with kids, while she be dumped and alone at old age.
So sorry for your loss. I wonder if the "medicine" from overseas, that your wife drank for almost a year, had a part in her health issues. It's dangerous to put things into our bodies that we know nothing about.
Sad that she sacrificed her life for her child. Sorry for your loss. ❤
😢😢😢😢tu siab kawg
Wow what a sad story 😢
Ua li tej laus ib txwm piv lus hais uas nws mus thawj us neb tus tub lawm. Twb yog nyob teb chaw no es muaj doctors pab nws thiaj li tsis tuag thaum give birth. Nyob li tim ub ces nws twb tuag right after she gave birth. But very sorry for your loss
Tiam tshiab no peb cov ntxhais muaj me nyuam dhau kuv cov nyab mas yuav tsum muaj me nyuam ua ntej mam yuav nawb tiam tshiab lawm
Vaj tsev txob lu yeej qhia Hai tia siab rau yam yu muaj kj tu poj niam caj tawg daug thiab thaum muaj tu me nyuam rau hau plab neb g ua neeb faib thiab nev kj tu poj niam twb hai cov lu phe us ntej lawm nev ce nw thisj tau li nw cov lu Hai
Txoj kev tsis muaj tub kis ces yeeh tutu siab ntshaw ntshaw 22222 me nyuam ua txhua yam yam li tus me niam tsev no li os ..lawv....kuv twb nyob lub neej li no los lawm thiab..
peb teb chaws nyab laj kuj muaj ib tus niam tias hmoob txawj muab tsuaj kaws lis thiab mam,kuv tus nyab tus nus yaus kuv kian sib yauv tuas kaum xyoog tsis muaj mus muab twb muaj lawm ne. nkaws tus me tub twb muaj ib xyoog lawm,hos tus nus npaws nkaws twb sib yuav 20tawm xyoog tsis muaj me nyuam nkaws twb mus muab twb muaj lawm thiab nkaws tus yos me ntxai twb muaj yim cuaj hlis lawm thiab la
Nrog koj khuv xim koj tus me tab zag tshaj li os, sab ntsuj plig ces yog li hauj sam hais tab sis kuv txoj kev xav mas tej zaum hmoob cov tshuaj ntawd muaj side effects ov haus ces ua tau nws lub cev sov muaj taus me nyuam tus me nyuam yuav tsis poob tab sis cov tshuaj ntawd twb tua koj tus poj niam lub raum ces lub raum twb tsis lim tau ntshav zoo pes tsawg lawm ces thiaj muaj ntshav siab siab ntshav qab qab zib heev nawv ces lub plawv txhaws hos cov hlab ntsha los txhaws tas lawm.
Vim nws muaj hnub nyug lawm nes
A sad story...for many couples like this one for example...A 35-45 years old woman is not a good idea to have a child. considered apoting..is one option. Diabete is one problem for a woman to have a baby when she is over age. when operated, bleeding is the main problem....scary!!...muaj ib tug menyuam yog muab siav ciaj pauv siav tuag xwb kuv hlub kuv pojniam heev thaum kuv tuav nws txhais tes es nws ntsub tus menyuam..kuv g paub xyov nws xav licas lub sijhawm ntawm tiamsis kuv ces hlub nws heev..nws muab menyuam rau kuv, uneej nyob kuv tus pojniam kuv yeej g cem nws g ntaus mus tawm rooj kuv nqa qhov nyav cia nws nqa qhov sib xwb.kuv g paub nej hlub nej tus hlub zoo licas...Amen!!!!
Xob tu Diab o tu kwv nw twb Hai tia nw rau siab muab nw txoj sia pau no kuj tau li nw hai luag hair tia pho sia yuav ce yoge kj tu poj niam
Yog tsi phais nw yeej tsi tusg
@@lunayang7612 You are wrong. Gestational diabetes is deadly (both for the mom AND the baby) if left unchecked, and that's why doctors monitor those pregnant women closely. If they didn't do a C-section when they did, it would have put the baby at risk for death as well. It's unfortunate that this mom didn't make it, but it was due to her various, VERY SERIOUS health problems that caused complications which led to her death. Despite modern medicine and medical high tech, even doctors can lose a patient when circumstances are out of their control. If the doctors were wrong in their assessments, this guy would be able to sue the doctors and the hospital, but he didn't, and I highly doubt he would win since it sounds like the doctors did everything they could to save her, but she still didn't make it.
Awww so sorry for your loss 😢
Neb us txhua yam ta tab si neb g yuav me nyuam lo tsoo nev yuav in tu me nyuam lo tu ce neb muaj lawm
Lawv aw,peb ua 1 tug poj niam ces ntshe yuav xav 1 yam nkaus xwb os, txaus tusiab tshaj plaws li, yeem muab yus txoj sia pauv kom tau yus tus txiv txoj kev hlub xwb tiag.😢😢😢
Vim koj tus mi pój niam hais tias tsuav nws muaj mi nyuam xwb nws yeej txaus siab tuag no ces nws kuj tuag xwb