Talking About Sexual Abuse | His Grace
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2019
- It can be really hard to talk about being sexually abused. But it’s something that needs to be discussed. It’s more detrimental when it’s kept inside.
Ally shares how her spirit broke when her closest, most trusted friend molested her. She couldn’t bring herself to tell anyone-mostly because she didn’t want to believe it happened.
Feeling scared and ashamed, Ally left her journal open in her room, hoping her mom would read it and know she needed help. Fortunately, a month later, a nurse talked to Ally about her emotional health and referred her to a therapist.
During therapy, Ally realized being sexually abused wasn’t her fault, and she was encouraged to share what happened. As she talked with family and friends, she felt a burst of hope and healing. And she felt God’s unending love for her.
Everyone has trials in life. And it’s OK if we feel a little bit broken, because we have one another. And most importantly, we have Jesus Christ-His love never ends.
If you’ve been sexually abused, what has helped you the most? Where have you found support?
In addition, you can find help lines and other information on abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org
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I was sexually abused by a family memeber growing up. It’s been so hard to heal. This video helped and I’m so thankful the church is wanting to help.
Hi Maddy, thanks for your comment. We're glad this video was helpful. For you or others seeking help and healing from the pains of abuse, please visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org.
I'm very sorry to hear that maddy. God bless you. I'll pray for you.
Maddy worthington .love
Me too but God saved me and I am healed
@@thesetapartone6960 yes alhamdulillah
It's hard to be a victim of sexual/physical abuse, trauma & to not get angry with our Heavenly Father or even with ourselves. I was a victim of both kinds of abuse as a kid & have also traumatically lost both my parents. But I learned, we can use these darkest of times to become closer with God. It may feel it sometimes, but He will NEVER turn His back on us & truly can help us heal. I can testify this to be true. Stay faithful! :)
Carol Lynette what a beautiful testimony! Thank you for sharing!
Carol Lynette thank you for your wonderful beautiful words Amen 🙏🏾 blessings always 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🤸🏽♂️🤸🏽♂️
Same here. I’ve experienced that anger. But I’m still standing and have a deeper love for god
Amen sister. Thank you for sharing your story. God bless.
I really want to talk to someone about the bad experience i had with a guy, i cant forget it, it just runs in my mind, i dont know whom to talk to
Hey Ally, I wanted to thank you for sharing your story. I grew up in a home where abuse and neglect occurred and it led to me being in foster homes. I also found healing through counseling and relying upon the Savior.
Abuse, sexual or otherwise, can be extremely traumatic. Therapy can make a big difference, and so can a trusted friend. But who can find one? God has been there for me every time when people weren't.
She sounds like she is saying that the abuse made her flawed. That feeling of shame is so overpowering and this is so typical of most abuse victims but the abuse does not make abuse victims flawed. Healing is a long journey and always ongoing as new situations bring up old memories. One moment feeling you feel like you've got it all conquered, and the next day something else is thrown at you, maybe a news story, or a even a song, a meal, a renewed contact with someone from the past will bring up memories. The abuse becomes a part of the survivor's identity because there are actually permanent changes to the brain because of it. The need for the Savior's unconditional love and acceptance is constant. Talking about it helps so much, and discovering how much the Savior aches over what has happened to you helps immensely. Imagining myself as a baby lamb and the Shepherd is bottle feeding me because he wants me for His own helps me more than anything.
I noticed that as well. (Your first sentence.) Also I don't mean to cause pain or confusion, however, President Russell M. Nelson gave a talk clarifying that God's love isn't unconditional ("Divine Love" 2003 Ensign). However, he also indicated that the Savior still loves us if we are disobedient, just not as much.
Please talk to me, i am suffering from depression and wished to talk to someone over an abusive past with a guy
Maybe damages you is better wording.
@@mariafernandes1880 I'm sorry that happened with you
Thanks for reminding me that Jesus can heal us, I needed that today!
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad the church makes time to make these videos. Because somewhere out there, there is a person that is being impacted by these videos positively. Thank you !! God is with you, ALWAYS !!
If you had to be perfect to receive Christ's love, what need would there be for a Savior? I'm grateful to hear someone else say these things, to intimate that it's ok if you're not ok. in the Church too often others give the impression that our lives should be sunshine and roses 24/7 or we're doing something wrong. In reality, the actual difficulty of our circumstances helps us appreciate the sunshine and the roses and more importantly the willingness of Jesus Christ to bleed, suffer, die, and rise above it all so that He could lift us each time we fall.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm not sure if you'll see this, but I hope you do. I've never been sexually abused, but I still watched this because it's important. You shared a very personal part of your story to help others. ❤
It breaks my heart to know people feel they have to be perfect to receive God's love and all the blessings promised to them. God never intended for us to be perfect..... Only do what we can. Bless this sweet girl! I went through that a lot in my youth as well. No easy thing to deal with
This is far more common than most realize.
Dios es nuestro Sanador nuestro Amparo y fortaleza para seguir adelante ,Nuestro Padre Celestial tiene Angeles para enseñarnos y mas Nos tiene a un profeta viviente y revelador que nos guia a toda la verdad y a toda justicia por que la misericordia no puede pasar a la justicia , podemos perdonar al agresor (a) pero tambien tienen que reparar el daño causado y eso es a traves de esta misma justicia y cuando no la hay Dios es nuestro aliado a traves de su hijo jesucristo que es nuestro mejor abogado que hace justicia y que perdona al mas vil pecador que se a arrepentido de todo corazon de sus trangresiones, en el Nombre de Nuestro Salvador y bien hechor Jesucristo Amen .los quiero mucho 😘🙋♀️
Thank you for the courage to speak out. It will help victims to come forward and the more they do the less power abusers have.
Thank you for sharing this testimony. There is darkness in this world, but this testimony surely brings light. Just as this church brings light to me.❤
Spiranga Studios amen, thank you for sharing❤️
Thank you Ally for sharing your story. I had been abused most of my life and struggled to get past, well...my past, and the way I was maid to feel for so long. At times I still struggle with it. But it is good to be reminded that Heavenly Father still loves me and does not not give up on me dispite my past, my mistakes and my circumstances. Thank you again for your testimony.
Thanks for sharing your encouragement and testimony of God's love, Bella. Take care!
May God bless you beautiful.Never give up Jesus will always be you and love you💕🙏
I love seeing these videos from members who have endured. It's inspiring to many.
It's wonderful that the Savior heals us. I wish mortals would approach this the same way with each gender. Having been sexually assaulted 4 times in my life equally by men and women, the lack of compassion from humans is stark. There is a definite support system for women and girls who experience this trauma. I pray we find the same love and support for men and boys who go through this. We have a generation of alienated, broken men who only know they should just get over it because that's all anyone everyone says. I have been mocked and chided for expressing my fears and pain. So who, other than the Savior, cares enough to listen and support me as I work through the years and layers of pain? I'm grateful the Lord sent Jesus Christ for us. His perfect experience allows him to understand our pain and comfort us.
I hear your voice & agree 110 percent. Thank you for using your voice even when not supported. I hope your voice brings a change. Many blessings
I know that I am a month late brother, but anytime you need to talk to someone I'll listen. I may not have the perfect words, but I'll listen. God is good and he blesses us all. I have love for you man.
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable story! I really was uplifted by the testimony given on the Atonement.
Even through my hards times I feel the Savior's love and I love going to church because it helps me with all my problems.
I just went to church today and MAN! It was amazing! The energy in there even though it was almost all older folks, was just overflowing with energy, and love and the Holy Spirit! It was the first time I had been to a Church, and actually listened to what was preached as an adult and after I was saved! It was truly amazing.
Your bravery and sharing has helped hundreds and will continue to help others. Great strength is received through your expression of faith and understanding in the testimony you have given.
Thank you!:-)
Thank you. Just...thank you.
THANK YOU. NEVER LET THAT PAIN GO INWARD TO CAUSE YOU ANY MORE SUFFERING.
Jesus Christ loves you to the end since He is faithful!!
God bless you Ally. Thanks for your testimony
Well done you. For talking about this subject. It takes guts to do this. God minister unto you. 🇦🇺🇦🇺👍👍
These works of darkness need to be brought into the light and the sooner the better. Don't let the abuser win the war just because they got the edge on you in a particular battle or more. You are just as correct to hold them accountable and seek treatment that you need to heal, as if they intentionally wrecked their car into yours and hurt you that way instead. It is not your fault if they wrecked into you or if they molested you and you shouldn't feel at fault either way. 100% of the shame is theirs, not yours.
Great topic and it's a thing that needs to be talked about more. I applaud this young woman for her courage to talk about it. The stance of the church is that victims of sexual assault are clean before God and do not need repentance for what happened. I think that this video could have been a bit clearer on that.
I belong to the church i live in Guadalajara Jalisco México i would like protect you against that monster what a cower
If this happens to you you need to reach out to people and get help
I'm so sorry that happened to you. You're a strong woman, your story matters, I hear you! Some days will be crap, keep going, seek help! You're going to make it!
I love this! As my own memories of sexual abuse have recently come to life again, I've been searching for talks, videos, and articles about this and I feel my prayers have been answered by this video and other recent talks from conference. The Savior loves each of us!
Hi Sarah, thanks for your comment. We're glad this video and others have helped you feel the Savior's love. For you or others seeking help and healing from the pains of abuse, please visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for helpful information on the topic.
“I’m not perfect but, that’s okay” God Loves us no matter what we can turn to Him even when we think it’s impossible to be saved He sent His Loving Son OUR SAVIOR LORD JESUS CHRIST FOR OUR SALVATION!!!
I hope the Church will continue to make more videos like these. Thank You. They are very helpful.
IM TRULY SORRY FOR ALL OF YOU THAT HAVE EXPERIENCED THESE THINGS.
Incredibly brave of you to share your story, Ally. Thank you. 🙏
Wow. Thank you for sharing this.
Difficult situations like these are what made me more human then I could have ever known. =)
It's so tragic to hear this. The person who did this needs to be held accountable.
This is long awaited! Thank you!
Thank you for this video. This needs to be talked about more in church and even in school.
Lord bless you and strengthen you
Although my experience with sexual abuse occurred later in my life. I have also found hope through the atonement of Jesus Christ. With counseling and prayer I have learned to forgive those perpetrators. God bless you dear sister!!
Thanks for sharing the hope and healing you found from the Atonement of Jesus Christ. For others seeking help and healing from the pains of abuse, please visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org.
You've forgiven ur abuser! Can't be more true if you had been abused
I feel sympathy for you,..I hope you getting stronger and well. You not alone in THIS issues. I believe JESUS CHRIST bless you in your journey. Shalom FROM christian north Borneo Malaysia.
What a great and important video. Also, because the message was so important, thanks for using CZcams so the tech didn't interfere with the message. Mormon channel is the best!
I was sexually abused ..and unfortunately by my father, who was a priesthood holder. And my grandfather. I wanted to give up on the church. I absolutely hated it. If any of you have been abused by a church member I promise not all of us are like that. I'm only 21 and I'm trying not to give up on the church. This video doesn't express exactly what I was looking for but it's very well put. Christ didn't die just got our sins. Don't let anyone ruin the image of the church for you. I love you all and I'm praying. 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Hi @MAGA, thanks for tuning in to the video, taking the time to comment and especially for sharing your testimony of the Church even after everything you have been through. We are very sorry!
Every person is a child of God with infinite and eternal worth. Abuse or other mistreatment cannot diminish or take away a person's worth.
We believe hope and healing is possible with the help of our Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ it’s not easy to talk or reveal your inner pain. God bless you.
Hi! Thanks for sharing this video. Thanks for making the music low enough in the background so that I could hear her speak. : )
Just listening to you I can feel the Savior loves for you. Thank you for being strong to share this experience.
I'm so proud that my church is (albeit indirectly) letting its members know that it is Absolutely OK and Good to go and talk to / meet with a therapist! Ecclesiastical leaders can help to improve a person's spiritual health, but it takes trained professionals who know what they're doing to help improve mental and medical health :)
Thanks for your comment, Kyle. The Church strongly recommends victims of abuse seek help and support. Help can come in various forms, including protection by civil authorities, guidance from professional counselors, or support from others. For you or others interested, see the link below for more information about seeking help. www.churchofjesuschrist.org/get-help/abuse/?lang=eng
Thank you for sharing. This is a hard topic to broach. It takes courage appreciate all the other comments on here
Thank you for your voice
My mother was my abuser - throughout my entire childhood. Use of foreign objects till age five, then touching and mental rape till age 23. She was not a Latter-day Saint; she was anti actually. I was baptized in college, and began learning about the Atonement and healing then. But healing is a process; for me it took years. But God gives such an abundance of help - from both sides of the veil.
Im going through with this pain from last 2 years...
And I dnt know how this pain and depression ends..
I want to live my happy life again like before..
Please pray for me
Please
Praying for you and hoping you find hope and joy again. Depression is a very difficult challenge to face and I think a lot more of us experience it than we realize. Depression makes you feel completely alone, but that's false. There are lots of people who want to help and understand at some level. And even when people fall short, Heavenly Father is always there. Even if we have a hard time feeling His presence, He's there. Keep praying. Keep trying. Keep asking for help. 💙
Depression can take a long, long time to overcome sometimes. Do seek help from your local bishop in the Church and do seek counseling. Even just having someone to talk to who can understand your pain is helpful. You have much to hope for, so don't lose hope.
Just know ur not alone on this journey
Ally, thank you for showing me that I am not alone. I hope that you have a bright future.
Hi Alicia. you are not alone! We know hope and healing can be found through the Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
Thanks for sharing and taking the courage to share your amazing story 👍
Wow! Powerful! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you ❤
I can relate to her situation
My former wife was sexually abusive. Make sure to speak up about these things.
Everyone is not perfect! We will to mistakes!
I was sexually abused not once, twice but three times as a child and then i've been nearly sexually abused a few times as an adult, just don't know how to protect myself enough to stop stuff it seems. I am sooooooo broken. I don't know how to be unbroken. Counselling and so much more in my life and it doesn't seem to work or people don't do the right thing to help me. Only the Lord can seem to do the best thing but I don't know how to really play the role of the Savior who can save me. I have even tried to use the forgiveness card a few times, but it seems that as soon as i play it then i get the whole thing thrown in my face by being a lady. Mentally I'm had it with life and just don't know how to fix it all and so i try but it just doesn't work the best.
I can understand how you feel. There is so much going on but I’m putting my faith in Christ not church or others think.
God is a forever help; you gotta take therapy. But can you please take help from police or court through a good lawyer. There is a chance you will find some justice and compensation.
Thanks for sharing your story. It helps you and others.
This is also my story. I can feel everything she said- but there was Jesus.❤️
God bless you....!
I was abused by my family member my whole childhood and was sexually harassed for 8 years and was molested at every school I have ever gone to, therefore got PTSD, Anxiety, Eating disorder, depression, and 4 suicidal attempts
I know that forgiving is not forgetting, but the Lord can heal me.
The Lord has changed me in ways that I can not describe.
I don't think I could say anything that would help you understand how much the Lord has helped me.
The Lord is the best therapist and He will turn my little seed and turn it into a beautiful Apple tree.
Hi Megan, thanks for your comment. We're glad this video has helped you feel the Savior's love. For you or others seeking help and healing from the pains of abuse, please visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for helpful information on the topic.
If anyone gets Abused or Sexually Abused with INSEST, then go to therapy the therapist will encourage you to tell people because this is how you get stronger and the more you tell people you Sexually Abused with INSEST or tryed to, the stronger you will get. You will never forget it, but you will be stronger if you talk about it to everyone you know. Doesn't matter if they don't believe you. Or understand. You are strong 💪 and that is great news praise God bless his holy name Amen.
If we are a little bit broken, that's okay, there is healing.❤
Who and why would anyone dislike this lesson? Molestors?
Thank you
I just love Sunday cause I get to watch church videos I just love god 😊he’s so amazing he has died for us and he suffered sins and because he lives we too shall live all of us all of us
Thanks for your comment, @Awesome Man, and for sharing your testimony of Jesus Christ. We're glad you're enjoying the videos!
I could relate so much with you 😥
Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with us ❤
Where can I find this video in Spanish?
Amen. The Atonement is the only way to heal.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ashley Burton .love
Psalm 34:14,18-19, 35:10-12
Of David
Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it.. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all.. You rescue the poor from those too strong for them, the poor and needy from those who rob them.. They repay me evil for good and leave me like one bereaved.
Psalm 37
Of David
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong.. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him;.. do not fret - it leads only to evil. For those who are evil will be destroyed.. A little while, and the wicked will be no more.. But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace and prosperity.
Psalm 25:16-17, 27:10, 28:7
Of David
Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. Relieve the troubles of my heart.. Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.. The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
I wish God wouldve sat me down and told me "hey this is what's gonna happen " but its gonna happen for a reason ok. Dont give up. I'm still gonna be here. Theres a reason, I haven't forgotten you. You just have to wait, I wont forget about you, I'll come get ya. I would have said ok. I'll wait
@Jon Tom, we're sorry for the hurt you experienced. No one should have to endure abuse. If you haven't already, visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to find protection, help and healing.
Thanks for YOUR personal testimony!!!!!!!!! The LOVE of Christ is there for everbody!!!!!!!!! We just have to know and how TO find IT!!!!!!! I thank GOD every day that i found the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints when i needed it the most!!!!!!!!!!!
Awesomeness
So brave god bless u
💖
I am very sorry that you suffered this abuse as a child.
I was abused as a child in the church by church members.
I stayed a Christian for decades until I researched the claims.
I no longer believe in the supernatural.
We have similar starts and you believe and I do not.
That makes you wonder if there is a god then what gives?
I am no longer a christian and if asked will tell people that I am simply unconvinced by the claims being made.
I have no good reasons to think the supernatural is anything more than people making stuff up.
Once again sorry that you suffered as a child and that you were indoctrinated (just as I was) as a child into a religion.
I am now looking at '''why''' people are convinced to then believe.
Thanks Gray
They are not trials. People choose to harm others because of their emotional injury. God never gives us those ''trials''.
Nicely good times always moving with it's sercamsetant there for bad days not choose not mean you not live no life perfect how then if God's creation's En ds what then my dia cheeup thanks happy life ❤👭❤🤗🤗
Why does God let him walk a free man. There's no justice. Revenge is a fools game and it would put me in jail to get revenge. But why does God let him get away with it.
Cuando aparece en español?
Fascinating how this video came out a month after the Vice documentary...
With all due respect, why would being sexually abused cause her to feel less than perfect and unworthy of the Savior's love? That's not something you need to repent from. Perhaps I misunderstood what she was saying.
Hi @dentonet2, thanks for tuning in to the video and taking the time to comment. Abuse can create confusion in your heart and mind, causing you to question your worth or worthiness. However, abuse does not diminish or take away your worth because your worth never changes. Every person is a child of God with infinite and eternal worth. Victims of sexual abuse are innocent and not guilty of sin. To learn more, visit www.churchofjesuschrist.org/get-help/abuse/am-i-still-of-worth?lang=eng
Is this the Latter Day Saints??
You should contact the campus police right away !!
I hope your perpetrator is in prison and that The Church did something to punish that person.
Pray about your problems
God Bless you always and forever in Jesus name..
hello
Hello
Denes here I witnessing if you need me text me God bless be safe
Are we saved by Grace or good works?
By grace, provided that we have true faith in Jesus Christ and His Atonement. In 2 Nephi 25:23 we read: "...it is by grace that we are saved, after all we can do." A number of other passages refer to being saved by His grace. Granted, as we read in James 2:20 (or 2:26), "faith without works is dead", so we need to demonstrate that faith in our daily lives, but it is His grace that saves us.
If god exists why do so many children die at birth ?
Thanks for your question. It can be difficult to understand why God allows bad things to happen, or how he can allow people to hurt and harm others. We don’t have all the answers, but we know that using God-given agency, we chose to come to earth for the opportunity to experience mortality and ultimately become more like our Heavenly Father, knowing and accepting it would involve pain and difficulty. God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to save us from our sins and help us find meaning and happiness despite life’s trials. You can learn more about God’s plan for His children and the role of Jesus Christ here: www.mormon.org/site/purpose-of-life/what-is-the-purpose-of-life
Thank you